#microlabels

[theaceofarrows]

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Shout out to all the ace micro labels! today is your day, too!!

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#asexual #asexuality #ace #microlabels #you guys matter!! #international asexuality day #international asexuality day 2024

[antikosm]

Aro/Ace Terms Masterlist

Please let me know if I forgot anything

NOTE: There is a distinct difference between someone's personal orientation versus how they feel about sexuality/romanticism as a whole. Someone who's sex/romance repulsed may be in favour of open sexual/romantic expression or even vice versa (shoutout to @sowearecleariamhere for informing me of this!)

Types of attraction

Sexual - I wanna have sex with that

Romantic - I want to date that

Sensual - I want to hug that

Platonic - I want to be friends with that

Platonic crushes do exist. They are called “squishes”. You go through the same process of having a romantic or sexual crush but instead of landing them in bed, you’re on the floor at 2am with pizza rolls, Shrek in the background, talking about eldritch monstrosities (or whatever your shared interest is)

Aesthetic - that looks so heckin’ cool/pretty I love it

Intellectual - the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, i.e. having a conversation, picking their brain, and finding out how they think

Terms describing degree of attraction

Aromantic - lack of romantic attraction

Asexual - lack of sexual attraction

Aplatonic - lack of platonic attraction

Aroace - lack of both sexual and romantic attraction

Demi - attraction only forms once a strong emotional bond has been formed

Grey/gray - rarely/seldom experiences attraction

Allosexual - someone who experiences sexual attraction

I think I’ve also heard/seen it referred to as ‘arosexual’ but that’s honestly a bit confusing

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction

I personally shorten both of those to “allo” (pronounced ‘aloe’)

Apothiosexual - sex-repulsed

Apothioromantic - romance-repulsed

Apothiaroace - often shortened to just ‘apothi’. In addition to being aroace, apothis are repulsed by romantic/sexual scenes, items, displays, etc. to varying degrees

Sex-neutral and sex-positive/favourable aces exist as well

Not all of us have the same level of comfort with sexual and romantic activities so please check. I mean that applies to everyone anyway, but please check and don’t assume that just because someone is aro/ace, that doesn’t mean they are sex/romance repulsed

Queerplatonic - Queerplatonic typically refers to a relationship that bends the lines between a romantic relationship and a non-romantic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) often goes beyond what is socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but does not fit the typical notion of a romantic relationship.

Alterous attraction - a type of emotional attraction to someone that isn’t entirely romantic or platonic.

Chastity - actively refraining from sexual activities. This is NOT part of the ace/aro spectrum, though it is a common assumption when someone says they are ace/aro. Thankfully we’re getting a bit more representation in media now so it’s not as common of an assumption as it used to be, but it’s still there, especially in those communities.

An absolute FANTASTIC addition by @heyftinally in case anyone doesn't see the repost

Gonna expand on sex favorable/neutral/repulsed, since this is a masterlist after all: - Sex favorable - regardless of your sexual orientation, you personally want to engage in sexual activity with someone (significant other, one night stand, friends with benefits, etc) - Sex neutral - if you're with someone who wants to engage in sexual activities then you may or may not, depending on a variety of factors, but you have no strong inclinations for or against engaging in sex itself as an activity. Basically it's "alright" Sex repulsed/averse - the idea of personally engaging in sexual activities makes you want to hurl/cry/claw your skin off/spontaneously combust. If someone suggested doing sexual activities together, you would probably vehemently say "No!" before they even finished the question. You would rather do anything else - Sex positive - refers to your attitudes about sex in general. Regardless of where you fall in the above three terms, you recognize that other people want to, and should have the freedom and right to, engage in consensual sexual activities, even if you personally don't like or want those activities. Essentially shorthand for "I respect the right of other adults to have gay sex, have gender-weird sex, have sex with multiple people in and out of monogamous relationships/marriages, and have weird, wild, freaky kinky sex, so long as all participants and consenting adults". You can still personally want zero sex for yourself or think a particular kink is weird/ick, but you can, in tumblr speak, be normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult stuff - Sex negative - conservative purity culture, basically. You think nobody should have sex ever, or at least not until marriage, and when they do it should only be the "right" or "good" kind, as arbitrarily decided by you/society/some collective. You think badly of, look down on, and may even treat badly anyone who doesn't have the "right" kind of sex in your opinion. You are not normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult activities (even though they don't involve you in any way)

A wonderful addition from @overlord-of-chaos Sex aversion is not the same thing as sex repulsed.

If you are sex adverse, you personally have no desire to partake in any of those actions but seeing or knowing other people partake in that doesn't bother you.

Sex repulsion is when you can't stand doing it yourself, seeing/hearing about/knowing that others partake in it, or even just the idea of it.

Microlabels/Terms describing flavour of attraction

Note: -sexual is used for many of these so we don't have to deal with duplicates confusing things. All of these prefixes can be used with -romantic, -sexual, -platonic, and I imagine -alterous as well

Abrosexual - orientation fluctuates between a variety of orientations

Aceflux - similar to abrosexual, but orientation is contained to asexual spectrum

Acespike - someone who is asexual but may experience intense, brief, and random bouts of sexual attraction

Aegosexual - disconnect between oneself and the target of arousal

Amicusromantic/sexual - only experiences romantic attraction to those who they have formed a platonic relationship with (subset of demi)

Angled aroace - the same as oriented, but for those who are demi, grey, flux, etc.

Anthrosexual - someone who is attracted to humans and alterhumans regardless of gender identity/expression

Bellussexual - has interest in the aesthetic/aspects/certain sexual actions, but does not experience sexual attraction or want a sexual relationship

Caedsexual - previously allo, but now ace due to past trauma

Cupiosexual - wanting a sexual relationship but not experiencing sexual attraction

Finsexual/gynesexual - attraction to femininity

Fraysexual - opposite of demi. Attraction dissipates once an emotional connection has been formed

Linsexual - attraction to androgyny

Lithosexual - experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated

Loveless Romantic/Lovelessromantic - those who cannot feel love or feel disconnected from love but can feel romantic attraction/don't feel disconnected from the concept of romance

Minsexual/androsexual - attraction to masculinity

Orchid - the opposite of cupio; experiences ____ attraction but has no desire for a relationship of that type

Placiosexual - not wanting to be on the receiving end of sexual activities but wishing to perform them on others

Quiosexual - unable to distinguish between sexual attraction and other forms of attraction

Qui(r)oromantic - inability to distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction

Reciprosexual - not experiencing sexual attraction towards someone until you discover they experience sexual attraction towards you

Requiessexual - similar to caedsexual, but rather than trauma, ace identity originates from a state of emotional exhaustion, usually from a past sexual experience

Oriented aroace -  an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. (i.e. gay aroace, bi aroace)

Angled aroace - someone who is on the aroace spectrum (grey, demi, fray, etc) who experiences a type of attraction significant enough to stand alongside their aroace orientation

Examples of mixed orientations

Heteroromantic asexual biplatonic

Poly greyromantic pansexual

Apothi abroplatonic

Placiosexual aromantic finplatonic

Aroace cupioplatonic

Pan lithioromantic

Fraysexual biromantic aplatonic

You can get WAY more specific than what these cover, but just to give a general idea

Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (2011).

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #microlabels #apothi #litho #cupio #demi #recipro #aego #autochorissexual #greyromantic #greysexual #platonic intimacy #platonic crush #squish #alterous attraction #amatonormativity #anthrosexual #ace spectrum #aro spectrum #acespec #arospec

[mommyschiz]

Why do people find the need to invalidate aro/ace characters' identities just because they want to ship or simp for that character

As someone on the aroace spectrum, I've only ever seen allos mention the spectrum and microlabels to use as loopholes to ship. They also dont use queerplatonic relationships right. I am not against these bc i identify with aro and ace microlabels and i like to see microlabels and queerplatonic relationships getting recognized properly but not as loopholes

Its like me shipping a gay and lesbian character and calling it queerplatonic as an excuse

Its aphobic and arophobic. Especially when the character shows no interest, and even disgust, at romance and sex

Why do we, the aromantic and/or asexual community, excuse nsfw/ship drawings/fics? It wouldn't fly if you made ship art or fic of a gay and female character, so why does it fly to make an aroace character allo or sexualize them? We deserve respect

Idc what your headcanons are. It still upsets me as someone on this spectrum who uses microlabels

I just had to get my thoughts out

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aphobia #shipping alastor is weird #microlabels #aroace-spec #misrepresentation #alastor

[aroacesse]

i’ve seen a lot of aro, ace and aroace people not sure if they should or not use microlabels and my simple answer is: do what feels best for you. you’re valid anyway.

general labels might look black and white, and sometimes people who fall into grey areas may feel the need to explain better their experiences, even people who do fall into black/white may like it.

being aro/ace/aroace is a huge part of us because it determines how we see ourselves, the world, how the world sees us and how we interact with the world. if you wanna label yourself only as aromantic/asexual/aromantic asexual, awesome! if you wanna use microlabels, let’s go! if you don’t wanna label yourself at all, it’s totally fine!

that’s totally up to you and how you wanna view and experience your aromantism/asexuality.

#aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aromantic asexual #aroace #aromantism #asexuality #asexual pride #aromantic pride #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity #microlabels #ace pride #aroace pride #aroace positivity #aspec #aspec stuff #aroacespec

[bizarreaizen]

i love you mspec lesbians !! i love you "cringe" bunny hat alt fashion queers !! i love you she/her gays !! i love you trans people who don't fit into gender norms or stereotypes !! i love you drag queens and drag kings !! i love you neopronouns and xenopronouns users !! i love you people who use microlabels !! i love you unlabeled people !! i love you disabled poc queers !! i love you muslim queers !! i love you non-human queers !! i love you xenogenders users !! . . ♡

#mspec lesbian #she/her gay #transgender #trans community #trans #drag queen #drag king #neopronouns #xenopronouns #microlabels #unlabeled #disabled #disability #muslim #non human #xenogender #xenogenders #pride #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ community #lgbt community #lgbt pride #lgbtqiap #lgbtq rights #lgbt #lgbt positivity #lgbt representation #lgbt stuff

[mysidaesm]

Me to cishets: yeah I'm nonbinary. You can call me a he, she, or they idc.

Me to queer ppl: I'm a bigender enby with heavily fluctuating gender experiences

Me to other microlabel mfers: I am fingender, mingender, agender, genderfae, genderfaun, autogender, egogender, and nonbinary girlboything

#lgbt #queer #trans #transgender #lgbtqia #lgbtq #transmasc #queer memes #mogai #microlabels #xenogender #xenogenders #neogender #neogenders

[crowdsourcedgender]

[Image ID: The human non conforming flag. The first image is the flag with symbol, then the flag with text meanings and no symbol, then the flag with no symbol, then just the symbol. The flag has five even stripes going light orange, light lime green, light green, bright lightish blue, and very dark grey. The symbol is a standard human symbol, the same dark grey, upside down with a square head. The flag with stripe meanings says this, from top to bottom: Humans with nonhuman elements, Nonhuman aesthetics/appearances, Alterhuman, Authenticity and expression, Disconnect from humanity. /End ID.]

Name: Human non-conforming (HNC)

Human non-conforming (HNC, similar to gender non-conforming) is an umbrella label encompassing all identities and subcultures that somehow incorporate nonhuman elements in any way. This includes (note that identities in brackets are not by default under this umbrella, and are not an exhaustive list):

- People who dress or appear in nonhuman ways (cosplayers, furries, body modders)

- People who reclaim or relate to nonhumanity (voidpunk, otherhearted, copinglink)

- People who are not human or partially not human (in any form) (alterhuman, overhuman)

- People who use certain genders or neopronouns (aliengender, xenopronouns)

- People who don't identify as any of these things but still are somehow linked to nonhumanity

This label is self identified. It should not be used on others to dehumanise them.

The symbol is meant to represent twisting and changing humanity, people who are innately not human, inner nonhuman aspects and generally all HNC people.

#human non conforming #human nonconforming #HNC #suggest a label #microlabels #alterhuman #alterhuman label #human non-conforming #voidpunk

[your-rutherfurr]

"You can't identify as an angel hybrid and be agender and at the same time identify with 178 xenogenders and use xeno/neopronouns and have all these little microlabels thats so chronically online!!😡"

Me:

#otherkin #therian #otherkin community #alterhuman #mogai pride #nonhuman #angelkin #otherkin safe #xenogenders are valid #xenoidentity #xenic pride #xenopronouns #neopronouns #microlabels

[anotherqueersnailowner]

yo do any of my fellow micro label folks on here just get like. fucking giddy when you see get just any form of representation? cuz I'm genderfaun and omnisexual and anytime I see that either of my identities included I am just OVERJOYED. using lesser-known labels, I've grown accustomed to not having anyone mention my identities or know what they mean. when I see anything targeted towards the larger lgbt+ community really don't expect to see my identities included, and that honestly doesn't bother me anymore. but when I DO see them OHOHHOO BOY!!!! I'm bouncing I'm giggling I'm flapping my hands I'm smiling it is just a wonderful experience and I honestly love it so much <3 <3 <3

#microlabels #omnisexual #polysexual #neptunic #uranic #genderfaun #genderfae #genderflux #boyflux #girlflux #neutrois #androgyne #voidgender #catgender #xenogender #Queer

[sophieakatz]

Thursday Thoughts: Microlabels

Almost ten years ago, when I first told someone who loved me that I was demisexual, he replied, “Do we really need all these labels?”

I don’t remember what I said back then, but my answer now is, “Well, I don’t know about we, but I need this one.”

Labels are the words we use to describe the world around us and our experience within it. Language is full of labels. Our earliest language-learning activities include sorting things into categories. This is the red block; this is the yellow block. Elephants and giraffes are zoo animals; horses and cows are farm animals; cats and dogs are pets. Toothbrushes and toothpaste are bathroom objects; forks and knives are kitchen objects.

Some of these distinctions are more important than others. It doesn’t really matter if you build a tower of red blocks or yellow blocks. However, leaving a knife in the bathroom is a bad idea, and so is attempting to keep an elephant in your house (not that I haven’t been tempted to try). You’ll also find that not all categories are universal. Is octopus an edible animal? Depends where you go in the world and who you ask!

The point is, it’s natural to use labels to define our place in the world and how we interact with it. I call myself a writer because I am someone who writes; this is important to me. Calling myself a writer explains something about who I am. It makes it easier for me to apply for writing jobs. When I hear other people call themselves writers, I know that we have something in common that we can connect over. I know that these are people I might be able to talk with or who might be interested in having write-ins or book clubs with me. In this way, labels help us find and create community.

Now, “writer” is a pretty broad category, so our experiences won’t be exactly the same. However, I can use a more specific label. I can call myself a fantasy fiction writer, a poetry writer, or a themed entertainment show writer, which helps me find people who identify with those more specific labels and have even more in common with me.

People who are not writers and are not interested in finding other writers don’t need the word “writer.” It doesn’t help them as much as it helps me. It’s not their label.

Demisexual is an asexual spectrum microlabel. Asexual describes someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction. It’s a broad label that covers a variety of experiences. Demisexual describes someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards someone after forming an emotional bond with them.

Before I read the word “demisexual” about ten years ago, I didn’t know that there were other people like me. I thought that there was something wrong with how I experienced attraction towards others. Knowing that there was a label not only made it possible for me to understand that there were other people like me, but also made it possible for me to find them and find community with them. Having words like ace and demi in my vocabulary make it easier for me to explain my experience to other people. People who aren’t demisexual don’t necessarily need this word. But I do.

When you hear a microlabel for the first time, especially if it’s one you do not identify with, it’s easy to dismiss it. It’s easy to think, “That’s not really a thing,” or, “Do we really need a word for that?”

The answer is, “Maybe you don’t need that word, since it doesn’t describe your experience, and that’s okay. But clearly someone needs it. We all have the right to put our experiences into words. We all deserve the chance to know that we are not broken and to find other people who are like us.”

#thursday thoughts #writing #writer #writblr #asexual #asexuality #acespec #demisexual #ace #demi #microlabels #queer #lgbtqiaplus #2slgbtqia+

[etherealspacejelly]

life's too short to be a hater

my life has gotten so much better and easier since i realised that like. the human experience is so vast and varied and all-encompassing that i will never fully comprehend it so i might as well just vibe

you're a witch and your deities talk to you?? sick tell them i said hi!

you're a system?? cool, i've had system friends before. you can tell me about some of your alters if you like! i look forward to getting to know you all!

you're a therian? nice! i've seen some pretty cool videos on tiktok of therians running around and like. jumping?? on all fours?? thats so cool and looks like fun

as long as you're not harming anyone else and you're literally just Existing and Having A Good Time im not gonna judge anyone. cringe culture is dead baybee you're all welcome on my blog

#system #alters #witchcraft #therian #otherkin #xenogender #neopronouns #microlabels

[fixing-bad-posts]

[ID: a tumblr text post edited blackout poetry style. It reads "your newly coined label for a sexuality makes sense and is different/special/valid enough". End ID.]

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your newly coined label for a sexuality makes sense and is different special valid enough

Submitted by @awnowimsad

#awnowimsad‚ this one is such art ♡ #awnowimsad #fbp submission #self identity #self identification #micro labels #queer #fringe labels #labels #mogai #mogai pride #mogai positivity #microlabels

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Microlabels aren't just a placeholder for more "socially acceptable" terms to replace them in the future. They aren't meant to be some phase that someone will eventually grow out of.

There are people who are and will be grown adults who use microlabels, who are xenogender or kenochoric or who have four, five, ten, or twenty specific genders. There are those who use unconventional alignment systems, who use the split attraction model and have a dozen labels for their orientation, who are transitioning in ways outside of feminine, masculine, and neutral, who call themselves nonbinary in the same way we call a constellation a group of stars, whose genders change in the same way that the seasons change. There are people who are kingender, systemfluid, and autiflux all at once because their alterhumanity and neurotypes affect how they view their genders.

All of these examples are people who have their own unique experiences - just like those who use much broader labels or no labels at all - and they are just as valid for existing in our spaces as any other queer person. When we start to pick and choose who is a more "acceptable" and "palatable" queer, we start to lose focus on why this community exists in the first place.

Microlabels get a lot of hate, but they're not going anywhere. - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

#bbb.txt #microlabels #your bigender big brother

[ballsalsda]

💗~Hyperxenogender~💜

[PT: Hyperxenogender /end PT]

Hyperxenogender is like xenogender, but more complicated. It's when your gender is so complicated, deep, infinite, unique, indescribable, alien, xeno if you will, that you need an essay just to explain what it is. It's like a xenogender, if the xenogender was it's own complicated, fleshed out universe. If the xenogender needed worldbuilding to explain. Hyperxenogenders usually have multi-paragraph definitions that are usually much more complicated and long than normal xenogenders.

Flag made by me but i think the flag looks like SHIT so feel free to make a new one

Possible suffixes for hyperxenogenders might be -hyperic, -hypergender, -hyperid, -hyperxenogender, -hyperxeno, -hypercharic, -hypercoric, -hyperkin, -hyperstimmic, -hyperspinnic, -hypersongic, etc.

I already coined a hyperxeno: KEINhypergender, or kenohyperchoric

This is an umbrella term for any hyperxenogender that is kenochoric in nature (KEIN).

#mogai coining #liom coining #gender coining #coining post #xeno coining #xenos #xenogender #gender labels #gender identity #gender #mogai #mogai term #mogai flag #mogai gender #imoga #liom term #liomogai #liom safe #liom #queer labels #microlabels #micro label #kenochoric #keingender #transgender #non binary #enby #non binary gender

[bizarreaizen]

me trying to act normal around my hyper masculine allocishet conservatively religious "friends" while knowing damn well i'm a cringe kid on the internet who has a billion xenogenders, identifies with too many microlabels, is alterhuman, is a furry, writes cringy fanfics, has weird interests, most likely has adhd and bpd, has a million xenopronouns and neopronouns, an overly complicated gender, and sexuality: (´º∀º｀)

#transgender #xenogenders #xenogender #xenopronouns #neopronouns #alterhuman #nonhuman #genderfaun #gendersatyr #gendersatyret #genderfaunet #aroace #polysexual #otherkin #uranic #microlabels #trans #lgbtqia+ #therian #furry #adhd #bpd #fanfic #gender identity #genders #gender expression #genderfluid #gender fluid #gay #queer

[thebluekid-underyourbed]

Little reminder that if you don't like microlabels because they feel like they're "made up" or "mocking the community", they're not fuckin for you. They're for the people who understand that labels aren't important and that anyone can have as many or as little as they want. So yes, I'll keep my 50 different microlabels that are all just different flavors of aromantic or toric or non-binary, and if you have a problem with that, it fuckin sucks to be you, doesn't it <2

#microlabels #lgbtq+ #queer #aromantic #nonbinary #romantic orientation #genderqueer