#authonomy

[bexmontgomery]

Author Interview: Tony Bayliss Talks Past Continuous

We caught up with Author Tony Bayliss, and chatted with him about Orwell, dreams of playing football for England, and the personal journey of writing his newest book. Your latest book, Past Continuous was recently published by Sparkling Books. Congratulations. Can you tell us a little about it? Past Continuous starts with the death of the hero, an unpromising start to any story, but then takes…

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#Authonomy #author interviews #George Orwell #new books #on your bookshelf #Past Continuous #Publishing #sparkling books #suicide #Tony Bayliss #writing

[thal-ent]

Mfs on Tiktok be having the worst reading comprehension in the world

#thal talk #'it's not because Vash helped a few plants that he cares' DID WE WATCH THE SAME SHOW ??? #the point of Stampede is that knives takes away Vash's and the plant's authonomy and choices and that without humans plants are as doomed #as humans are without them. but everything must die and you can't stop that from happening indefinetely #i swear to god tiktok knives stans make my blood boil #'oh knives was right vash is an idiot' VASH ACTIVELY CHOOSING TO LOVE AND BREAK THE CYCLE IS NOT BEING AN IDIOT I BEG OF YOU THINK !!!!

[csueno]

I'VE ALWAYS THOUGHT ABOUT THIS :( of course the actual lore is ambiguous but i adore immensely the prospect of c!dnf growing up together.. knowing each other when they were kids and c!dream was just so happy, wide smiles with a missing tooth, his tiny hands smudged with dirt uprooting flowers.. and he loved the world and he loved george

To Me it IS rather implied that the trust they have due to their long relationship translates to their characters having a rich story, which migth as well be them growing up together ohfhghgh And it truly just exemplifies how fast everything changed. this passionate, deeply caring man that walked into a tramp and kept going down down down until nothing recognizable could be found. and the world hurt him so much AND UET HESTILL LOVED GEORGE. HE JUST COULDNT SHOW IT ANYMORE.

#FOREVER thinking about cgeorge's name being the only one correctly written in the prision. is the only one he cared to remember #or maybe the only one he could Remember. he was coming back for him btw it was always part of the plan it makes me sickckckkk #i just also find very interesting how like the good and caring actions in cdream's character have been turned vile by the end of the story #like i just think mayeb it isnt that he was always a Bad Bad Guy as many people seem to think when they look back #to his actions but rather that the natural development of those characteristics with less than good means #would surely make them look bad. Like caring a lot isnt bad until there's a point where you arent respecting #other people's authonomies but that wasnt cdream at the beginning YOU GET ME? #ask

[antiendovents]

i'm so pissed off. today, i've seen endos post, where they appealed to their AVERAGE AGE as an argument that they are right and "endogenic systems" exist. it was just like. how to sign in the absence of at least some scientific arguments not saying it directly.

to context: the post stated that most anti-endos are 23 yo or less, and most pro-endos are about 30 yo or so on (at least, that most pro-endos are elder than most anti-endos). and this VERY QUESTIONABLE point was used as an argument that we (anti-endos) should listen to them (pro-endos). and also, they literally said that our cognitive functions aren't mature enough and are still forming and even appealed to TRAUMA IMPACT ON COGNITIVE FUNCTIONS.

like, at first, where they found that mysterious statistics about average age. please show me WHERE you've found this data and how you have checked it.

at second, okay, let's take as a fact that anti-endos are younger than pro-endos (i really don't think that it's true, but let's just imagine). AND WHAT DOES IT PROVE? how average age of community impacts the idea? spoiler: it doesn't. idea may be proved or disproved by studies, not by characteristics of its supporters.

at third, when you start using rhetoric "you're too young to think for yourself and have argumented opinions", you step in the same ground with "kids can't be trans/be queer/have politic views/have rights/have bodily authonomy" and same shit. and this ground is really gross.

at fourth, if you appeal to our TRAUMA, to our DISORDER to infantilize us, you act extremely ableist. does trauma impact cognitive functions? yes. should it be used to shut us up? NO, NEVER. "presume competence" exists for a reason. you couldn't take our right to make decisions and form opinions away because "oh my cognitive functions is better, so just believe me." it's extremely ableist to ALL neurodivergents, not only to systems. neurodivergent community fight against infantilization for DECADES, and they are just here to say this shit. YOU CAN'T APPEAL TO SOMEONE'S NEURODIVERSITY AS AN ARGUMENT AGAINST THEIR POINT.

i'm so outraged. their ableism worsens every day.

yes, endos are so ableist. To everyone.

Even if this fact was true (it's probably not) I'd be concerned, considering the amount of endos / pro-endos that harass us, I mean I literally just got an ask comparing being anti-endo to being transphobic and saying something about "jerking off" to people misery or whatever the fuck. Like if that community is older than 30 I would be extremely concerned based on how they act. Plus the amount that they harass people younger than them? I hope they realise that this "statistic" literally only makes them look worse

Also if they were that old they should be smart enough to know you can't form a trauma disorder without trauma.

#actually did #anti endo #did #did system #plural #alters #endos dni #Endos fuck off #Endos are harmful #You can't change my mind

[ariel-seagull-wings]

Otp questions

What are their parenting styles?

Janine x Egon

@bixiebeet @spengnitzed @professorlehnsherr-almashy @inevitablemoment @janeb984 @slimerspengler @hawthorne-spengler-stantz @oreopata

Very based on honesty: when their child has questions, they answer it with the truth, in a matter of fact way. If neither of them know the answer at that moment, they make sure to research to answer the question later.

While nurturing and responsable, Janine still favours giving more freedom, space and authonomy for the child to learn with their trials and mistakes, while Egon is more overprotective and favours setting rules and keeping a watchfull eye.

Janine is more playfull, specially when their child is a baby, while Egon talks to them in a more formal and serious vocabulary to help in their cognitive development.

#tumblr mutuals #ghostbusters #amalthea9 #egon spengler #janine melnitz #the real ghostbusters #janegon

[mercifullymad]

Oh my good thank you for the post about ocd

Honestly I feel like it’s one of the diagnoses where all the discourse I see is incredibly medicalized and focused on acting as if ERP is literally the only way to treat it and anything else is A Lie and basically immoral to recommend to someone with ocd, lol

When, in my own experience, erp techniques have helped me break out of a few obsessive cicles, but other therapy approaches have helped me a lot more, honestly

Like. I would love to have a conversation about this, if you want to, because I have a lot to say on the subject, and would love to hear more about your perspective, lol. But yeah, the “fighter” approach is so tiresome. And I really hate that erp culture has people promoting attitudes like communally refusing to provide reassurance to someone with ocd because it’s agreed to be universally Bad For Us, without considering specific circumstances, harm reduction or personal authonomy, to give just one example.

Thank you; I’m glad you liked that post and could relate!

I differ a bit in that I don’t think OCD is not particularly unique in being medicalized; the discourse around nearly every mental illness diagnosis is these days. Nor do I think it’s particularly unique in framing recovering from OCD as a “fight,” either — as I mentioned in the tags of that post, the idea of “[X disorder] fighter” is also very popular in eating disorder circles. 

What the framing around OCD does seem fairly unique in is the insistence that there is only one technique for effectively treating it: ERP. With other diagnoses, such as depression and eating disorders, it’s more accepted that a range of techniques, treatments, and/or approaches might help (talk therapy, medication, exercise, etc). But with OCD, any approach other than ERP is framed not only as ineffective, but actively harmful, and this is where we arrive at the conclusion you mentioned, that reassuring someone with OCD is harmful — or even immoral — and shouldn’t be done under any circumstances. Interestingly, this element of the “morality” around (not) reassuring people with OCD is somewhat less (or differently?) moralized than diagnoses where one specific type of medication is framed as The Only Right Treatment, since reassurance is interpersonal and relational. 

To be transparent, I have not done a ton of structured ERP therapy — I've only done a couple months' worth, and it was over Zoom, so very different than doing it in person, at least if I wanted to "more effectively" address my obsessions and compulsions. I was also wary and critical of the ERP framework going in, which definitely contributed to my decision to end treatment "prematurely" (before being "cured," essentially). However, in my limited experience, I have had a similar experience as you around what ERP has and hasn’t helped. In some areas, repeatedly exposing myself to anxiety-inducing situations helped bring my anxiety down over time. In other cases, it did nothing but perpetually raise my anxiety for the length of the exposure treatment. 

My real gripe with ERP is that it removes even the option of attaching meaning to your anxiety, thoughts, and/or experiences. I understand that framing your thoughts/compulsions as “invaders” to your brain or as “just OCD” as opposed to part of “you” can be relieving. It’s easy to see why, and I have also found this framing relieving at times and in certain situations. But in cases where exposure therapy hasn’t worked, I’ve found the most relief and freedom from exploring what meaning might be found in my experiences (and sometimes this relief and freedom comes from simply reframing/shifting/re-relating how I view and think about my experiences). 

I very much agree with your last comments that believing it is Universally Bad to provide reassurance without considering harm reduction, personal autonomy, and individual circumstances is a harmful (and calloused and depersonalized!) approach. And I would love to hear what else you have to say on this topic!

#ocd

[socoolinmypajamas]

[SPOILERS] D4DJ side;nova stories

I know a lot of people didn't like the whole thing about Lumina's secret, but hear me out: it also opens the door for a very creepy yet very interesting theory about her:

After Neo's mother died when she was a child, her dad tried to train her into becoming a singer just as good as her. Eventually, he abandoned Neo after she couldn't reach her dad's impossible standards. Assuming he never gave up with this idea of training someone who could sing just as well or even better than his late wife, imagine if he just... gave up on FINDING someone he could train.

What if he CREATED a girl for this very specific goal.

There are a few things that support this theory:

1) There's a bit in the first side;nova chapter where Neo mentions that Lumina's voice seems "familiar".

2) It is implied that Lumina can't remember who created her. It is also implied that there are things (like blackouts due to electrical storms) that can seemingly affect her memory banks.

3) Lumina has a surprising level of authonomy. Why is this important? Because she may not be just an AI but a ROGUE AI. It is possible that Neo's dad created Lumina, lost control of her, and then decided to monitor her progress from afar, after she turned out to be quite capable on her own. (She did become viral and got a massive ammount of followers in a short period of time after all).

If this theory turns out to be correct, that would mean that Neo's father was indirectly responsable for UniChord, while Michiru's grandpa (Mitsuhashi Sho, former member of LMO and father of Mitsuhashi Ku, Michiru's uncle and the guy who revived D4DJ in Japan after an 8 years hiatus) is directly responsable for Abyssmare, as he was the one who recruited Neo as a child and then became the current manager of the group.

What do you guys think?

[EDIT: KJJJJ I always confuse Haruki Kaibara and Ku, so the last thing is more like a half-ass thought that came up in the middle of the brainstorm. Still, is interesting how both bands have conections with LMO. I can't wait to see how that plays a part in their stories]

#d4dj #d4dj groovy mix #unichord #michiru kaibara #neo #elsie #sophia #weronika #abyssmare #kokoa shinomiya #hayate tendou #lumina ichihoshi #side;nova #dig delight direct drive dj #bushiroad

[ilhoonftw]

there's a shitstorm on pólish twitter re: govt plans of making plan b type pill an over the counter medication available to anyone over 15... 'omg they made buying energy drinks illegal if you're not 18 but a 15 will be able to kill a baby!'. age of consent is 15. if a teenager is recognized by law as being able to consent then why can't they use contraception??? if that bothers you then raise the age of consent then? all this mess is proving is that inadequate sex ed ruins lives. i fucking hate when men who have no idea how pregnancy and all that works open their mouths and worse, are being listened to over people whose bodily authonomy is getting discussed.

[set-wingedwarrior]

Every day I read bad news for trans people and my heart breaks a little bit.

I just don't get people, I just don't get all that hate. Why spend so much time and energy to make people's lives harder when you could use it to improve one of the 3948574365247 other problems in the world? Why is stricting freedom so fucking important?

I mean, I know why. I know, I just... I just can't picture it, being there and doing my absolute best to destroy other people.

You disagree with how someone is presenting themselves? Okay, just don't do the same! You can dress the way you want, you can teach your children whatever you want if only you spend some time with them, and you can respect other people's bodly authonomy.

Every time I hear someone disagree with something my general response is just "then don't do that". As simple as that. What you are or aren't comfortable with shouldn't stop other people's freedom to do so if they want to, and that applies for litterally anything that isn't actually destructive to other people. Do you really think I'm 100% on board with EVERYTHING that I see people do? Absolutely not.

There are things I'd NEVER want to no, nor that I understand. Whole bunches of identities and sexualities and stuff that I really cannott comprehend. Sometimes even I can think that something sounds like bulshit if I have to be honest, but guess what? I'm not stopping any of them from being themselves in any way they want. Pronouns, lifestyle, whatever, I just respect that stuff because it's harmless and makes them happy. That I can understand or not is irrelevant.

I'm not sure why I felt the need to rant like this. I don't even know if I'm allowed to write all of this, being cis and all. It's just, so many bad news all around, so much hate, and I'm just tired.

#rant #may delete later

[olderthannetfic]

On the subject of age differences in relationships i do feel that a lot of people approach the question somewhat hypocritically: on one hand they advocate for authonomy and agency of young people (e.g. the agency of teens and pre-teens to take decisions about transitioning, for example) and on the other hand they very readily deny the same authonomy and capacity for decision-making when it comes to relationships. It is a complex subject and for me it just cannot be put into the easy box of "age difference of X years is ok but only if the parties are over Y years old". How do you determine X and Y? People mature at vastly different paces in different societies/life conditions and there's no guarantee that they cannot be influenced or taken advantage of even if they are older than Y years; or that they are absolutely, surely, 100% of the cases too immature to decide about their own relationships if they are younger than Y. This blanket infantilization of young people and vilification of older folks just doesn't sit right with me. Of course people should be cautions when considering to engage with a person or enter into a relationship where some kind of power imbalance is possible, but ultimately it's up to the particular individual to decide about their particular situation, and i believe they should be able to do so without being judged by random internet folks.

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[albino-whumpee]

extremely in my bullshit, so, anyways.

Tartaglia and Zhongli AU where Childe is a punk having to do community service or something idk, the point is he gotta go take care of this dude who has lots of money but apparently has some weird illness that is slowly taking his authonomy, so he needs and will need lots of help until time comes. 

Childe is not a fan and thinks he´s gonna take care of an stinky, angry old man, but instead finds our gentleman Zhongli who´s so out of society due his illness that makes him such an excentric man, that catches the punk´s attention. Fuck romance on this, just give me a punk Childe teaching grandpa Zhongli how to make a TikTok dance and get better at fighting because Zhongli was a badass before his illness got too bad.

AND YOU THINK HE´S GOING TO DIE, DONT YOU? No. What if Zhongli has gotten used to the punk ginger coming to his home to assist him and even tho this days he has been truly bad, he feels slightly better and asks Childe to take him to one of his favorite places. Just for the sake of spending time outside with him, but he waits and waits and doesn´t come and doesn´t answer his phone and it´s late and he gives up when it´s past midnight, thinking maybe it was too busy of a day. So he keeps on waiting, but after two days, he´s too worried and calls his family. Who tell him he got into another fight so he´s in jail right now.

Zhongli is like “I gotta go help him” but the person who substitutes Childe isn´t as nice to let him go when he´s barely able to stand up nowadays. Time goes by and Zhongli isn´t getting any better but he´s not getting worse either, he´s just kind of secluded again. Until one day he decides he can´t just stay there and wait, so he does everything to get to Childe, who´s not at jail anymore. 

He´s so confused and out of breath, his caregiver is called. But he escapes once again and goes back to his house, seeing his supositions were correct when the ginger opens the door and finds a shaking Zhongli on his doorstep who taps on his ankle bracelet like “ah, this damn thing is gonna be a nuisanse”.

So of course Childe carries a passing out Zhongli to his living room and is like “wtf man” while Zhongli is like “I´ve not felt this alive in ages”. 

When his caregiver comes to berrate Childe and accusses him of kidnapping him Zhongli has to just very kindly tell them to fuck off. They´re not oblivious to the fact they kept stealing from him and that they kept giving him more meds than necessary to keep him docile. If it wasn´t because he faked taking them, who knows what would´ve happened.

Childe tells him after the fiasco that he still has some time before the bracelet comes off so, he won´t be able to help him anymore. He didn´t have to keep being around him or anything. But ah, Zhongli didn´t really want his help anymore, he just wanted company and Childe´s house is so lively, he would spend a time there with them then. Paying for a qualified caregiver to be around to not be a nuisance of course. To which Childe reacts not so positively, being like “there´s no need for that,”. So they fall back into their routine and by the time Childe´s free, Zhongli and his family are enchanted with each other. 

So they all get worried when Zhongli gets worse and worse and there´s just nothing to do about it. He has to go back home because of the medical equipment he requires is there, but he often has the family staying over anyways, so it´s not like much has changed right? Until he just doesn´t wake up. He´s alive, but he´s critical and he has made it clear he doesn´t want to be kept like that. 

So Childe has to take the decision, but he´s not doing it until giving him some time. Maybe, he gets better? Maybe there´s a new thing they could try? Anything to keep him alive a little longer.

So what if in one of those, getting better before getting even worse, Zhongli wakes up to find Childe sleeping by him and starts whispering all the things he wants to say before passing, that he´s a little dissapointed they couldn´t dance together again or how he was dying for some of his mother´s cousine, but if it´s time then he will let himself go and he´s sure he will, even if Childe wakes up to tell him he´s wrong. But of course he´s not wrong, his Zhongli is smart like that. Annoyingly predicting outcomes before Childe can try kick his way into a conclusion.

He lasts until sunrise and goes with a sigh when he falls asleep. Leaving the much younger Childe dealing with a grief he had never felt.

#they live in my mind rent free #you´re free to give them a happy ending #but i adore fics when one of them dies #it´s usually childe #as zhongli´s immortal #sooo #lil spin¡ #fanfic #?? #zhongchi #genshin impact #modern au #tw death #tw illness #oops i made another post about my hyperfixation #forgive me

[hellyeahheroes]

stop denying women their authonomy by oliSUNvia

#thought provoking #thought provoking summer bummer #feminism #feminist discourse #choice feminism #situational feminism #white feminism #intersectional feminis #classicism

[just-an-enby-lemon]

My complex and dark headcannon of why Harley ended up with the Joker:

▫️One of the questions that I always find in the Batman fandom is how exactally was Harleen placed as the Joker therapist.

▫️The Animated Series answers it with the very unfortunate explanation that Harley's destiny was her fault.

Now don't get me wrong I love TAS implication that Harley would became a villan with or without the Joker, she needs this type of authonomy, to be the one who jumped in the acid and not the one who was pushed into it. My problem is with the implication that Harley only got to her position (best student in the course, a high paying job in Arkham and a famous pacient of her choice) by sex favors. It undermines my girl capacity and inteligence and honestly she could've sleept around and being great.

▫️This problem seems to be acknowledged in modern depictions of Harley. Now days instead of portraying her as a bad professional who got everything by favoritism, the more common portray of Dr. Quinzel is as someone competent but inexperienced. She just got out med school and while she is super smart she does not have the experience to see through Joker.

▫️While I personally like this second incarnation of Dr. Quinzel it oppens the question: why was she dealong with Joker to begin with?

▫️For some reason both this portrays seem working with Joker as some kind of merit, disputed by all doctors in Arkham, - instead of the most likely outcome of the dificult patient no one really wants - the ambitions of being the one to correctly diagnose and cure the Joker surpassing any self-preservation (or medical knowledge as they all talk about a cure and not the most likely outcome in a normal situation of long term treatment). In this sense portray one seems more realistic Harley had to do something drastic to earn such a important patient. Being the better in class just isn't enough anymore.

▫️Here I ofter my headcanon in option C:

- Harley was the best on her class and that plus some recomendation letters from former professors and from Gotham General - where she did her intership/residence - got her the dream job in Arkham.

- She wanted to work with the patients of the Asylum not specifically with Joker. And on the first days she got easier cases like Condiment King, quickly reciving more dangerous patients but who weren't difficult in therapy like Poison Ivvy (who just didn't talked to people), Riddler (who talked too much but never about the topic in question) and Mr.Freeze (who loved to talk about Nora).

- The problem was: Arkham is based on Bedlam. Not only that but Gotham is notably corrupt. So it didn't took long to Harleen to start to notice the misdtreatment of patients and how the funds they recieve didn't add up. She opposed it.

- Afraid she would denounce them to the media (the cops already knew and didn't care and she knew it) and cause them to lose their jobs or worse discover about the humam experimentation (yeah Arkhan sucks this much, no news here) the director of Arkham at the time decided to give her a case that would purposifuly mess her up. Way more experienced doctors had to leave Joker's case because it was inducing violent or suicidal comportaments in them. To an inexperienced doctor with an already secret violent dark side that would be devastating.

- Of course the director just wanted to make Harley quit. He was not expecting what came next.

- Harleen Quinzel became Harley Quinn and the rest is history.

- The worst of it all: Arkham stayed the same. All the progress she did with patients and all the notes and evidence she had to denunce the place were lost. The true villans of Gotham won. One more to the looney bin.

#harley quinn #dr harleen quinzel #a twist in Harley's Backstory #mad love #but from a different perspective #Arkham is the worst #Arkham is a guide of what not do in a mental institution #Arkham #batman #corrupt system #Arkham makes it's patients worse.

[cannellaeluce]

was thinking of Bluebeard, as one is wont to do, and came by the thought that, fascinating psychoanalytic interpretations aside, it is but the telling of the horror any woman was likely to encounter upon getting married -

Back when a young girl would get married to a man she scarcely knew, and when getting married meant essentially becoming his possession, with no authonomy whatsoever, while frequently entering a total disconnection from any loving relation she might have had before the marriage (this imagining the husband didn't live close by her childhood home). Any marriage would then be a horror story, but for the kindness, the mercy of the man; for he would be legally and socially free to do with her anything that he pleased, and thus even talking of love seems like an awful stretch - can you really call love something built on such an abysmal power imbalance?

And then I thought what a monstrous thing motherhood would naturally be in such a setting - when bearing a child would be the only source of pride a woman could claim for herself; even more, when that child, once born, would be the only thing she could claim for herself, the only earthly possession she could call her own, at least until they came of age - and what a conniving, jealous, controlling creature could a mother become then, and understandably so, given that to have that child take her side whenever they came of age would amount to the only source of power she could wield without having to plead with her husband

anyways this is what happens when you find me reading the beginning of Rebecca, how is your day?

#motherhood #gender roles #weddings #tradional het weddings that is #and also #rebecca #daphne du maurier #and #bluebeard #me

[bebopsisyphus]

All my simpathy to people in the US witnessing their rights and authonomy being revoked, truly. It sucks and seeing y'all protesting in the streets is inspiring. But jesus christ, there are too many non-american people who are talking about this as if it was the end of the world for them. Babes? Never seen you this angry about political developments happening in your own countries. What's up with that?

#it's starting to annoy me to see us news get so much repercussion #from people in the global south #the us is not more important than the rest of america wake up babe let's talk about us for a min #a 10 year old girl was prevented from aborting by a federal judge even though she'd been raped #here in brazil #if you didn't care about that but you care about roe v. wade being revoked take a look at your life and please realize you're not american

[notcommercialx]

Healing is...

I am starting to understand that I don't have to he indispensable

I am taking distance to observe and watch myself from afar

I am waking up from a never ending dream conditioned just for me

I am realizing I don't need attachments

To be free is imperative to have fly light

I'm starting to understand what it means not to be needed

That time and distance can give you authonomy to make your own decisions

I am ceasing to intervene in other's people actions

I am ceasing to be where I am not wanted

I am letting go of carrying someone else

I am practicing silence and slow breathing

Being kind does not prevent me from being crystal clear and letting myself feel

To feel the emotions that are blossoming inside of me

I am letting go of other people's expectations in order to rebuild myself from my own instincts

I am letting my nature come out of the depths of my soul.

I am healing myself and this is teaching me to listen to myself, prioritize myself, and allow myself to be myself.

There's still a long way to go, and the process may be interrupted by my inner saboteur but I'm willing to try once again.

-notcommercialx

#love poem #self love #poem #feelings #likeback #mental health #short story #relationships #amateur poetry #people #spilled poetry #new poets society #like4like #poets on tumblr