#being queer is a beautiful thing :)

[beaulesbian]

- [Nimona]:You should be questioning everything right now. The will of Gloreth, the Institute, the wall. What's it all really for? - [Ballister]: For protecting the realm. - [Nimona]: Oh, you mean from villains like you? Or monsters like me?

#something something we win!! #and something something all the parallels that make me crazy #nimona #nimonaedit #nimona movie #nimona netflix #ballister blackheart #ballister boldheart #ambrosius goldenloin #netflixedit #mine #gif:nimona #gif:movies #all allegories and queerness its just beautiful!! #lgbt #lgbtedit #nimona spoilers #i still have too many thoughts about the whole story #especially nimona's sad realization about the kid being afraid of her bc the society taught her to be afraid of different things #ballister's journey is what makes it all even more visible bc he doesnt trust her at first #and has to unlearn a lot of things but he starts to see her as a person and sees her!! because theyre so similar! theyre the same in a way #and gloreth's journey is similar - where she was told what to think but she didnt question it and immediately turned against nimona #and then the way the director enforces the gloreth's will of keeping them all in something like a cage (wall) without questioning anything #and whover steps out is seen as a threat... yeah just overall really amazing movie.. i have a lot of thoughts

[nikothebookdragon]

hey btw. being platonically in love is so real btw. having a silly text convo with your friend and thinking "I love you" with every message. studying together in silence and feeling the most comfortable you've been in years. having a huge cheesy grin on your face after you spend time together, or even just text for a bit. your worries becoming a little easier to bear when they hug you. worrying about them, wishing you could magically give them all the happiness in the world.

being platonically in love is one of my favourite feelings in the world, and you know what? I'm so grateful that being aspec let me experience this in full. I fucking love being on the aromantic spectrum <3

#i just. man. i love my friends so much its almost overwhelming sometimes #platonic love is amazing; being platonically *in* love? a whole new level #not a romantic feeling in sight and i am SO happy about that. genuinely. #being queer is a beautiful thing :) #aromantic #aro #aspec #arospec #platonic love

[thatadhdfeel]

i love you neurodivergent people whose orientations are influenced by their neurodivergence i love you alternative experiences of gender and sexuality i love you neurogenders i love you inventing new phrases for your identity i love you people who aren’t sure of what their identity is because of their neurodivergence i love you people who love differently

#lgbt #adhd #actuallyadhd #neurodivergent #queer #feel free to add on as long as it’s positive ❤️ #being you is a beautiful thing no matter what anyone else tries to tell you

[resident-gay-bitch]

little rich boy sirius who gets disowned and can barely survive without his expensive brands and the basic human need to eat at least once a day meeting the entirely too generous james potter who just falls for the vanity and sincerity of the reformed rich boy and decides that once sirius stops caring about brands and status and rich boy things and just cares about what matters in life he decides to spoil his boyfriend to pieces because he’s secretly sitting on a fucking fortune

#idk i just think it’s funny #like james would find sirius when he’s struggling with money because he’s so bad at saving and prioritising his spendings because he’s never #had too before and so james would teach him how to do all that stuff and emotionally support sirius through it all and sirius just falls in #love with this beautiful guy who’s just so generous and who teaches him so many things and finds value in kindness and sincerity and #compassion and all that jazz and james falls in love with sirius helplessly because he might be stuck up and vein and kind of selfish and #is stuck up and cares all too much about status but he’s trying so hard to be better and he finds empathy because sirius got kicked out for #the worst reasons because he’s always been the black sheep of his highly cultist christian family or whatver and he’s also outwardly queer #and james decides that he wants to give sirius everything and loves the way he looks in expensive makeup and designer faux fur coats and #heels and divine jewellery and all that jazz but makes sirius sell it all and learn what it means to be human and not rely on money and #status and brands and stuff and sirius learns what it’s like to be decent and in touch with humanity and only then does james take sirius on #a surprise luxury holiday for his birthday or something and then just buys him thousands of dollars worth of all these glamorous looking #things and sirius is like omg what the fuck jamie and then he just becomes sirius’ sugar daddy because he can’t help himself but they’re #also in love and much better people because of it and when sirius buys things now it’s not because of brands or because they have big price #tags like he used too. he now buys things with james’ credit card he keeps in his own wallet because he thinks he’ll feel pretty in them or #because he thinks james will loose it if he sees sirius walking around in it or if he sees a really cute toaster that sends him into a #frenzy that has him spending all way too much on an impromptu kitchen renovation but james doesn’t care because as long as his boyfriend is #happy and actually paying attention to the price of things and calculating the best value and taking james’ opinion as well and just being #happy and safe and accepted in his new home and family here with his jamie #please i think they’d be so cute ugh!!! #prongsfoot #bambibelle #drabble #fic idea #marauders #james potter #sirius black #jay talks

[wen-kexing-apologist]

Bengiyo's Queer Cinema Syllabus

For those who are not aware, I have decided to run the gauntlet of @bengiyo’s Queer Cinema Syllabus and have officially started Unit 2: Race, Disability, and Class. The films in Unit 2 are: The Way He Looks (2014), Being 17 (2016), Naz and Maalik (2015), The Obituary of Tunde Johnson (2019), Margarita With a Straw (2014), My Beautiful Laundrette (1985), Brother to Brother (2004), and Beautiful Thing (1996)

Today I will be writing about

Naz and Maalik (2015) dir. Jay Dockendorf

[Available on Amazon, Run Time- 1:24, Language: English]

Summary: Two closeted Muslim teens hawk goods across Brooklyn and struggle to come clean about their sexuality, as their secretive behavior leads them unknowingly into the cross-hairs of the War on Terror.

Cast: Kerwin Johnson Jr. as Naz Curtiss Cook Jr. as Maalik

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Another great film down, and plenty more to go. I very deeply appreciate the authenticity of this film in the way it highlights religion and the shittiness of cops. 

I like that there is a kind of war against the older ways and the newer ways between Naz and Maaling. Naz appears to be much more religious than Maalik, he wears a kufi, he gives alms, he tries to pray five times a day. Not to say that Maalik isn’t religious, but he isn’t as hung up on what is and is not haram, he’s more comfortable in his sexuality, more willing to engage in PDA, but he’s less idealistic about the world. 

I love the hustle and grind we see from these boys, but even more so I love when they spend time alone together. I love how much time we get to see them goofing off, touching shoulders, flirting, racing, just having fun. I love how much time this film dedicates to showing how Naz and Maalik’s relationship works. How it could work. I love that in New York City they have so many shots dedicated to just the two of them, to the peace and quiet and light that follows them when they are together.

I love even more that they fight, that they are messy and complicated, and how much of that is driven not by themselves, but everyone else around them. This film takes place post 9/11, during the War on Terror. For those who are not aware, the War on Terror is/was a global counterterrorism military campaign following 9/11. And like I said, this film does some pretty decent realism, especially when it comes to the portrayal of the FBI agents that spend all day tailing Naz and Maalik because they have been #profiled. 

One of the main conflicts kicks off when an undercover cop tries to sell Naz and Maalik a gun. Maalik, trying to be funny, haggles for the weapon but does not end up buying it. But engaging in a joke like that is enough for this FBI agent to decide they should be followed. At which point, these two FBI agents essentially end up acting as voyeurs to Naz and Maalik’s secret love life. 

The FBI waits until each boy is alone and isolated to question them, and Maalik is completely honest while Naz, scared about his parents finding out about his sexuality, lies about where he had been the night before. Once again, I loved the portrayal of this, of two eighteen-year olds trying to navigate the system that was built to punish them. Not because I’m thrilled they are being harassed, but because I am appreciative of not being subject to propaganda about law enforcement and how “good” they are. 

I liked seeing the dichotomy between Naz and Maalik’s handling of the FBI agent, versus an older Black man handling questioning. How he’s trying his best not to give her any information, how he cites his right to not say anything to her without an attorney present. And in response he is treated with suspicion, the FBI agent tries pressing and pushing for more information, because that’s what cops do. 

And I remain unsurprised when the FBI agent pulls a gun on Naz when he reaches in to his bag. I think there are statements being made when the FBI agent is pissed at Naz and Maalik for “wasting her time” and that the boys are compelled to apologize for the inconvenience, despite the fact they were literally just existing as Black muslims and the FBI agent decided that not buying a gun was enough of a reason to tail them all day.

But it is those outside pressures, the concern that they will be outed, that they will be disowned, that they will lose everything that starts driving a wedge between Naz and Maalik. That Naz’s sister finds out and Naz is scared she’ll tell their parents. Those all start when the FBI starts questioning them, though there are multiple other forces at play.

Now. I think I wrote up a post after I watched Love of Siam, and how fucking furious I was that they ended that film on a separation. But that does not mean I hate separation narratives in queer cinema (I hated the one in LoS because I felt tricked). But Naz and Maalik separating at the end makes sense given their circumstances. There is no winning here. Naz is too kind to slaughter a chicken, Maalik feels compelled to show that he can do it, and Maalik ends up wounded and the chicken ends up dead without either of them laying a hand on it. There are repercussions here, a car accident, an injured person that could have been spared by just killing the chicken. I like that despite the fact that Naz and Maalik do have multiple fights in the film, it is not a fight that breaks them up. 

They both knew this was an inevitability, there aren’t hard feelings about it. It’s sad for both of them, but it happens almost casually. TI did find the ending of the movie very interesting. Because they chose to end it before Naz arrives home. Naz gets on the subway, sad about his separation with Maalik, scared about what is waiting for him at home, and he is stopped by the very same cop that tried to sell him a gun the other day. He is ticketed for riding his bike in the subway, and one of the last lines Naz has in the movie is something like “don’t I know you from somewhere?” 

Because no matter what, he’ll just never catch a fucking break. 

As an aside, I love how frequently homeless people are included in this film and how they are never regarded as scary or terrifying. One guy is mostly quiet and he either stares or sleeps. Another man is loud, rambunctious, and fucking funny. Naz and Maalik talk to a homeless woman, talk to some boys begging for money for medical treatment. I just love when homeless people are humanized, and I am glad that Naz and Maalik spends time focusing their lens on the people society often refuses to look at.

By/For/About Queers

Naz and Maalik is loosely based on an interview director Jay Dockendorf did with a closeted Muslim man that he sublet a room from. Dockendorf used this man’s life story as a jumping off point for his film. And it certainly feels like a film that is made for queer people, the way that it is structured. So ultimately, I think this is a gay trifecta.

Favorite Moment

My favorite moment is near the end of the film. Naz and Maalik have just made out and Naz has rejected the offer to take things further. Naz and Maalik lay in bed together, in just their boxers, and they read each other these shitty little poems that are attached to beanie babies that Naz acquired earlier in the film. I just love gay boys and their plushies, I’m a simple person. And once again considering that Ben created this syllabus to be a wind up to BLs, I think the plushie moment is worth noting because boys and their plushies is a recurring theme in a number of BLs. Teh and Oh have matching monster plushies in I Told Sunset About You. Bai Lang’s entire apartment is covered in plushies in My Tooth Your Love. Chinzilla keeps a plushie of a chinchilla on an alter in the music room in My School President. etc. etc. 

And I love plushies every time because I love seeing moments of softness portrayed on screen.

Favorite Line

“Barack Obama*. It’s crazy. It makes white men smell like black men, so white women will like black men more.”

*fake name of a scented oil

I mean…come on. It’s perfect.

Score

8.5/10

I think the story was pretty good, and there are these incredible bright spots of powerful acting. But the director allowed space for a lot of improv, which in some capacities I think is good. However, it does often result in awkward line deliveries, that tend to take me out of the story because the acting fluctuates so much between brilliant and smooth, to conscious and stilted.

#bengiyo queer cinema syllabus #queer cinema syllabus #naz and maalik #naz & maalik #jay dockendorf #the way he looks #being 17 #the obituary of tunde johnson #margarita with a straw #my beautiful laundrette #brother to brother #beautiful thing

[whynotimtired]

Mike being gay wouldn't cheapen his relationship with El. He wasn't actively using her, he was confused. It's HARD. Figuring out your sexuality is HARD. Especially when everyone you know is pushing you into being in a relationship with a girl and telling you what you should be feeling. And the end of it all you can look at all of their "big moments" and see that they aren't inherently romantic. He loves her, he does. Just not like that.

You'll list the reasons that mike being gay would make him an asshole and then turn around and say that other gay men who dated women before coming out are completely valid when you clearly don't believe that. The 80's were really hard for queer people. A good amount didn't even realize until their 40's after they were married and had kids. Cause they were finally in a safe environment where they could think and self reflect. That doesn't mean they didnt love their spouse. That doesn't mean they were using them.

The same goes for mike. He loves her. Just not like that.

#yes bi ppl exist. but so does comp het. and comp het was extremely prevalent in the 80's and still happens to a fair amount of queer ppl #mike being gay is beautiful representation of that and it doesnt ruin his relationship with el. #they were ruining their relationship by forcing it to be romantic. #mike wheeler #stranger things #byler #byeler #el hopper #mike wheeler is gay #elmike #and i wouldnt be surprised if we see a jump in elmike moments the second they break up #because they were. they were stunting their relationship trying to force it to be something its not #and once they can finally stop pretending they can repair it #i swear elmike break up scene is gonna parallel robin coming out scene

[hazzzyrider]

something something being exposed to other trans people when you're nonbinary is magical because you start to see how beautiful and appreciated your masc details are something something validation, appreciation and unconditional love

#me #queer #enby #just thinking things #like how i generally hate growing hair on my chin and chest and being masc because i want to stride this ideal middle line of girl and guy #and something else as enby #but it took just meeting my first trans friend who talked about how much they wanted to have those exact things and look like me #for me to realize: oh! i don't hate how i look. i just want to add and modify sure. but i don't need to hate where i am #i can love the journey and the checkpoints i crossed and for some the place i want to move on can be the perfect home for others #and that just makes the whole world into a beautiful place instead of rocks and hard places and soft meadows and perfect vacations

[poppytuft]

bothers me very much when people use Ted getting upset telling the denver broncos story as like evidence that he could be queer instead of thinking about an old friend drowning in loneliness and saying to himself “i should’ve been there i should’ve supported him” is him reflecting on his traumas, as if this is not a man who heard his dad kill himself at age 16 and carries that guilt wherever he goes. he tells EVERYONE he loves that he supports them no matter what the struggle is and colin’s struggle was internal and invisible, WHICH SCARES HIM. he’s terrified by invisible struggle and he always has been BECAUSE of that childhood trauma. so TO ME…… it reads very media illiterate to take it that way, because Ted didn’t have some tender gay experience with his denver broncos friend in the 90s, he’s haunted by knowing there was someone he loved who went through something alone (even if it was silly and minor like watching the Super Bowl alone) and doesn’t want anyone to ever feel like that again, (especially if it’s something as big as being one of two gay men in a room in an industry that hates them) let alone one of his players on the team that he has worked so hard to turn into a family!!!!!!!!!! damn!!!!!

#ted lasso #YES YOU GUYS ARE ALLOWED TO HAVE FUN AND SPECULATE #BUT ITS JUST……… DAMN!!! UR PISSING ME OFF!!! #minimizing the trauma of this man #not that that scene was ABOUT Ted at fucking all #but moreso taking that story out of context and deciding that he’s gay instead of examining how aCrazy of an actor Jason sudeikis #IS FOR DOINNG THIS MUCH WITH TEDS CHARACTER THIS SUBTLELY #CHRIST!!! #I’m just prickly whatever #HE COULD BE QUEER BUT THERES OTHER SCENES YOU COULD USE FOR THAT #INSTEAD OF THIS ONE THAT SHOWS HIS CRAZY ABILITY TO TAKE ON GUILT THAT ISNT HIS #BECAUSE OF HIS DAMN TRAUMA #eenposting #tw suicide #suicide ment #Ted Lasso spoilers #km not actually that heated about this FOR THE RECORD #also someone else wrote a much more beautiful analysis post about how that story of teds is supposed to represent well meaning Allie’s #who will never truly get it and will fuck up and say the wrong thing when they’re trying to relate to you #but that doesn’t mean that they intrinsically are bad or don’t love you. and Colin being like girl did you just compare being a broncos fan #to being GAY? #and ted immediately apologizing and remedying that fault ks like. objectively the most important take away from that scene #but I digress

[transexualizeyourself]

Just drove my girlfriend to pick up her estrogen, one hand on the steering wheel one hand on her thigh. By far the most trans thing I’ve ever done

#transexuality is a beautiful thing #I fucking love being t4t #queer #trans #ftm #transsexual #nonbinary #transgender #t4t #mtf #trans femme

[aha-my-villainous-thoughts]

ASH! There is no one like you. Your art is so BOLD and creative and genuinely awe-inspiring. I admire all the slutty, slutty things you make Ed and Stede get up to, while also making them look so pretty and colorful. So glad we have you in this fandom. 💕

I seriously don't have words 😭😭😭😭 have some memes instead 😭😭😭💖🧡💚💙💜💖

Thank you so much marianne!!! 😭💖💜💙💚💛🧡❤️💖😭

#honestly this ask might have broken me a little #i have an unhealthy amount of imposer syndrome #and a general anxiety of shyness around my mutuals and any kind of audience #I'm desperate to make things and share them and i love more than anything hearing people love the things i make as much as i do #I've been in fandom spaces for a really long time #(bitch is old) #and ive never been uplifted like i have by the ofmd fandom 💜💜💜 #I've had my work stolen or traced in previous fandoms #bullied or harassed or made to feel pathetic #and more often than that I've been kinda on my own in a little corner making stuff and easy to ignore/forget #i have a lot of fear about being unwanted or discarded or upsetting people #i just love to draw and get my little rainbow brainworms out into my art #and i love sharing them #and for so long that really was enough #it truly was #but after OFMD? after this crew? after this space of warmth and excitement and growth and queer joy?? #finding connections and making friends and clowning with you and drawing prompts and making memes and being in big bangs and zines?! #getting to illustrate fics and have my art inspire fics?? making friends with my mutuals who write and draw and make beautiful gifs?! #this has been the most fun ive ever had on the internet #and im so grateful #and overwhelmed #and thankful #and just everything altogether all at once #thank you so much

[moregraceful]

@patrichornkissed THANK you for this WONDERFUL THOUGHT JOURNEY!!! under a cut

who came out first -- matty came out to brady first but brady came out to their parents + young sister first. matty came out to their extended family first but brady came out to all their shared friends first. it absolutely was the most headass competition after that initial fear when brady came out to matty, a couple months after matty came out to her.

not to eldest-daughter code matty but sometimes u set an example for your younger siblings and the things that brady had been wrestling with that felt too big and too much suddenly felt accessible and manageable. once she reconciled that with herself, she came out to matty, and the two of them engaged in the world's stupidest game of one-up-womanship. this caused so many problems in their personal life and they loved every minute of the chaos.

did quinn and brady get married immediately -- SORT OF. they get married when quinn graduates college. childhood sweethearts, broke up in college when quinn went to umich and brady went to a state school. and yk how it goes with teenagers going to college they're like, this CANNOT work bc now we are ADULTS in COLLEGE, we need to SEE OTHER PEOPLE because young love ISN'T REAL, and then brady makes it through one year of college and goes this SUCKS!!! academically and emotionally, drops out after one year. spends a year bouncing around trying to make her life work without quinn and having an low-stakes but meaningless fling with timmy from her beer league team. and her life DOES NOT MAKE SENSE without quinn. so in quinn's junior year she comes back to quinn and is like hello. you are the love of my life. i want to be with you forever. and quinn has been in a strange little polycule with various swedes and americans and he's like ...yeah. no. i miss you too. this is great but it's not right.

and then they're together for the rest of their lives, hanging out and doing whatever. getting married literally like two months after quinn graduates. they spent about five minutes trying to plan a wedding and get bored and annoyed and then handed it off to brady's mom, who has a blast bc she has realized that matty is at least twenty to thirty years off of being functional enough to get married and brady is going to be way less fussy.

important wedding notes because i am an incurable romantic when it comes to parties:

takes place at some random lake in michigan, no one really cares about the ceremony except parents and grandparents, the reception is in a big banquet hall but the afterparty is in a barn, matty and timmy hook up in a random shed, it's magical, everyone has a GREAT time, including matty, up until she hooks up with timmy

elias and brock and thatcher are there, deeply involved in day of wedding prep and making sure everything goes according to plan and they're so helpful and so competent, and no cishet family member realizes they're quinn's ex-polycule for a solid six hours, like until WELL into reception, at which point it's too late for anyone to say anything

the tkachuk sisters are brady's bridesmaids, the hughes bros are quinn's best men. obvi. the hughes bros are the ones crying during brady's deeply stupid vows though

quinn wears a suit and he looks so handsome. brady wears a dress but the hemline is literally mid-thigh and it has no sleeves. she is a bombshell ofc

brady and quinn's first dance is to "suga suga" by baby bash. the closing song in the afterparty (post-reception) is "moment's silence (common tongue)" by hozier which brady picked and quinn didn't look at the lyrics beforehand. and is thankfully too drunk to notice, but luke and taryn do and they're both so stressed out by their older siblings having oral sex that they leave immediately with matty beniers, and josh norris to go sober up in a denny's at like 2am lol.

sorry i know you are anti-marriage, but i love to think about queer weddings bc the only lesbian wedding i've been to was so clean and heterosexual that it makes me actively sad to think about lmao. brady and quinn's wedding is like...bro queer

does matty ever get her shit together -- like. a dozen years in the future after her final trainwreck relationship with leon. it takes a lot of therapy bc while she came out first to brady, she never really felt safe or comfortable as herself around anyone BUT brady. and obvi brady cannot be there every moment of her life. and part of the reason every relationship she's in ends up being kind of a wreck because she hates herself so much but covers it up with so much bravado and big energy and zero honesty or emotional intimacy. like u cannot be inauthentic in a relationship and expect it to work out yk?? but then she meets sasha (i changed my mind, they use any pronouns) who is like ok. i am willing to try this. i am very attracted to you and i could fall in love with you easily. but you NEED to figure your shit out if you want this to work in the long term.

and no one has ever made that kind commitment to matty, so she tries her hardest to reconcile the parts of herself that are ugly and cruel to herself, and turn it into love. and it takes like. over a decade. because she's also a corporate lawyer. but she finally gets there in the end 😭

sasha is quite happy to live in sin for several years lol he grows heirloom vegetables and works on a farm doing most of their farmstand and farmer's market stuff bc they are gentle and kind, but she's also like yeah now that i'm dating someone in corporate law, i do not have to worry that much. so he waits for matty to get right with herself, and she raises some heirloom chickens that matty does his therapy homework with. a fun (???) digression

thank you for asking!!!!! i love them 😭😭😭

#butch transfem brady #to your other point abt when all your children are queer. i think often abt how i came out as queer before my literal gay parents did #and i think that colored a lot of the way i see the world and interact with queerness and queer identity #among other things lol like never being able to trust myself to read people as queer or straight accurately. my gaydar is nonexistent #but like sometimes all your kids are queer! don't worry about it! and the hughes parents and tkachuk parents discussed it together #landed on: how our dumbass beautiful children identify is simply none of our business and we don't understand and that's ok #and now just watch them go through trainwreck relationships or get on prep or get married to their childhood sweetheart and they're like #👍 are ya winning kids? #unfortunate birdcage fanfictions #rpf for ts

[caffeine-in-an-iv]

Hi. Official Fandom Old ™ here. I’ve been on this damn site longer than I care to admit and I’m here to tell you sweet little apparent newbies to fandom that multishipping within fandom is okay. It’s also okay to have an OTP and a NOTP. What we’re not gonna do is attack the people who are super excited about one ship within the show/book/media just because *your* ship isn’t going canon. Neither of you are wrong. Y’all just riding in different boats.

Hike your own hike. So what if one half of their ship is new to the show? Or has only been in one episode? Or not morally perfect? Take your beef up with the writers, hang out in the anti-tag, write ship-affirming fanfic. Do not take it out on a person who is sharing their excitement for seeing something that makes them happy.

And for the love of god, if your ship is on a show, DO NOT TAKE IT OUT ON THE ACTORS.

Have the day you deserve❤️

#yes this is targeted #leave the bucktommy girlies alone #friendly reminder it was almost eddietommy but that “fell through according to the Hollywood reporter #you can ship bucktommy and buddie I promise you’re not a fake fan #let’s let Buck experience queer joy #buck not being with Eddie this instance does not make his coming out journey any less compelling or valid or beautiful #buck is still a person outside of his romantic relationships #ship your own ship #but by god don’t harass the likely 15 year old teen excitedly posting about a ship they like #also the morally superior thing? have you SEEN some of the ships on here?? #people are shipping Snow from THG with Sejanus. aka sejanus w his murderer #so let’s calm down #people can grow and change #if we don’t give them a chance to improve they never will #rant over

[tavtime]

headcanoning monogamous characters as polyamorous is free, fun, and easy to do! additionally, it is always both cool and sexy 😎

#why am i posting this to my bg3 blog you ask? well. it is because. i am tired. #tag rant here we go: #when people hc straight characters as gay or bi there (mostly) isn't nearly this much pushback #because people understand that bias in storytelling means there just were never going to be as many queer characters in canon #so making your own is understood as creating your own stake in a heteronormative narrative #but when you do the same thing with polyam characters suddenly it's Disrespecting The Character bc 'that's not how they're written' #like no shit? polyamory as an identity is no more respected in mainstream storytelling than being queer is #so yeah. yeah. your canon monogamous boy is part of my polycule now. he's engaging with the beauty of commitment to multiple people at once #i helped your girl work through her possessive and jealous instincts with patience and care. she's our girl now. #anyway! no matter how much this fanfom clearly doesn't want me to be here doing this i remain #saltposting #baldur's gate 3

[violexides]

every day i am so grateful to live in a world with so many beautiful people, beautiful queer people. i love you fat hairy men & fat hairy women & girls w dicks & guys w tits & high butches & stone femmes. i love you no-op and post-op and surgeries of all kinds, i love you kink i love you untraditional sex i love you sex-positive aces and people w sexual dysfunction and i love you sex-repulsed people and i love you non-sexual intimacy. i love you body hair and scars and crooked teeth and cellulite i love you i love you i love you i love you i love you. i love you queer people. i love you queer love.

i want to live forever to see all the beautiful people in the world but for now i will just live as long as i can, watch my friends' eyes crinkle when they laugh, kiss my girlfriend slow as summer. and love myself the way that the world loves me.

and the world loves me by letting me see this, trees lit by the sunshine and cats that curl into your touch and people who love you because you are you and hold you on their kitchen floor until you feel safe for the first time in seventeen years. i am learning to love myself by allowing myself to have this.

#ides.txt #ides.fave #it's been so long. it's been so fucking long since i thought like this but. #life is still so incredible to me. how do we live in this world? #how are we so used to it? how am i supposed to just... do mundane things? #without tearing up at how beautiful these things are? #i eat nectarines. my heels hurt from walking. i listen to a song not many people know. #isn't this all love? isn't it? #and being queer too is like... an extra layer.

[devilfruitdyke]

the she/theys vs he/theys and wlw vs mlm posts are symptoms of a larger problem within the queer community 👍

#1. lack of consciousness of beauty standards 2. no grasp of intersectionality 3. focus on online discourse and not queer theory #'discourse' used very literally there. this is not a sick dunk on Minors These Days #anyway we as lgbtq people are very focused on ourselves as oppressed that we dont realize how we are perpetuating/internalizing... #... oppressive beliefs #see how all 'g ender envy' is almost exclusively skinny *white* conventionally attractive cis people #i saw someone say something like 'dont tag as gender envy be yr own person' the other day #and that really opened my eyes ? #we can be so caught up in the politics of being trans (usually as yr only minority group) #that it basically turns into 'skinny white cis men are the ideal of manhood dont ask me why though idk' #its deeply internalized #same goes with the 2 posts i mentioned #ps. i KNOW gender envy is what you personally find enviable and you shouldnt forced to change yr attraction for political reasons #but its the same shit that cishet beauty standards have been for centuries #very similar to how the only models in magazines are skinny white cis women #they dont say that fat people/trans women/woc arent worth their pages. its implied. #we just need to think about what we're implying every day as a community. #also i have a personal thing against gender envy culture because you guys forced me to see FUCKING V OMITBOYX EVERY DAY IN LIKE 2020 #/JOKE I SWAER. unless i get told one more time that im not really trans because i dont want short hair over my eyes. then i snap #<3

[bajablastflavoredsaxreed]

What does lesbian mean/genq

im answering this in good faith because im assuming that you’re asking it in good faith but if this is an attempt at some terf shit you can get off of my blog :)

a lesbian is generally defined as a nonman who is romantically or sexually attracted to nonmen. (usually exclusively, but sexuality as a social label is always changing and many people who are mostly attracted to nonmen with some attraction to men also ID themselves as lesbians and that’s a-okay)

as a queer label, lesbianism isn’t really set in stone and can be defined by a lot of different things. lesbians often have complex relationships with gender and can present and identify in a whole myriad of ways without sacrificing their lesbianism. butch lesbians are a subculture of lesbians who exhibit masculine characteristics and present in a stereotypically masculine fashion, for example, and there are a lot of us in the lesbian community

while the typical view of lesbianism is women loving women, things aren’t usually as dry-cut. Non-binary lesbians, trans lesbians, bi lesbians, oriented aroace lesbians, (as well as many other identities) may experience things differently and sexuality is deeply personal

for example, i am a butch lesbian. i present masculinely and am often mistaken as a man when i got out and about. this doesn’t really bother me as i identify as genderqueer and use all pronouns. despite not being a woman per-se, it is undeniable that i am a lesbian

sorry for the long ramble, tldr lesbians make the world go round!

#baja’s blasting #lesbian #let’s go lesbians #if someone claims to be a lesbian they are a lesbian is the general rule #but traditionally it’s wlw #also I DONT SPEAK FOR EVERYONE EVERYONE EXPERIENCES GENDER AND LOVE DIFFERENTLY #AND THATS BEAUTIFUL!! LESBIANS ARE A LOT OF THINGS #and if anon was being genuine (difficult for me to tell but we assume good intentions here) #then i would encourage them to talk to local queer people #especially queer and gnc women and see how they experience it #sexuality isn’t real BUT like most things that aren’t real it’s an important part of life that you should be aware of #asks #queer