#especially masc and butch lesbians

[ellsss]

AFAB ENBY LESBIANS ARE VALID NO MATTER YOUR PRONOUNS. PERIOD.

#like what is so hard to understand? #AFAB ENBY LESBIANS AREN'T MEN #if you think that you're a transphobe #and a terf #part of being enby is having pronouns that suit how you feel #it's not about what sex you want to be #enby may be under the trans umbrella but its different #to say that lesbians need to have she in their pronouns just excludes a whole bunch of people #especially masc and butch lesbians #people who identify and want their sex to be male CANNOT be lesbians #we all know that #and we all need to call it out when we see it #but enby AFAB lesbians using they/them and he/him pronouns are NOT that #STOP SAYING THEY ARE #and stop listening to terf rhetoric #also not everyone needs to be femme presenting to be lesbians #and if you are saying they/them and he/him lesbians are invalid you're essentially saying that they HAVE to be femme #thats fucked up.

[celebrate-lesbianism]

When I dressed feminine, I got teased for my height, but it was never mean spirited. Since finding myself and embracing the masculine style I've always wanted, I get made fun of for being short. People say things to me or people like me with the intention of putting us down and making us feel bad about ourselves.

Stop acting like butch and masc women under 5'10 are weird and ugly! The average height for women is literally 5'4, and it's perfectly normal to be shorter than that. We look good af.

#I can't take it anymore ya'll a 5'4 woman is not a short king she is AVERAGE #stop comparing lesbians to men challenge #rant #lesbian #butch lesbian #masc lesbian #lesbian problems #mine #I see this on Tik Tok every damn day and I hope you realize how damaging this is especially to younger lesbians developing a sense of self #Seeing this come from other lesbians is also whack #It feels like the most socially acceptable way to bully gender non-conforming lesbians #it's already hard enough to feel good about yourself as a gnc lesbian in this world

[wild-neko]

just because someone presents masc doesn't mean they're a top, aggressor or like taking the lead. thanks for coming to my ted talk

#masc #dyke #im tired and want to be taken care of #this is especially true for some later in life lesbians when they've had decades of cishet dynamics shoved down their throats #some mascs were fem-presenting in past lives shocking i know #lesbian #femme #butch #nb lesbian #bottom and sub mascs exist

[rebellum]

"We should respect trans mascs and butches because they protect us at pride"

So I get what you're doing with trying to argue against the anti-masculinity crowd and trying to say that trans mascs and butches are an important part of pride as a way to emphasize our place in the community

But...

Why us?

Why are we disposable? Why are we not worthy of protection?

When are you going to protect us, too?

#'mascs do the protecting but i prommie its because im woke and not bc i love to reinforce gender norms that posit men as the protectors of #femininity'. #also i wanna say something similar about how ppl sometimes treat trans poc like this #like we are valuable not as people but as battering rams as bodies for white protection #but my thoughts are too messy rn to form the post well #goddd and how ppl treat butches is so fucked up. #i understand that butch lesbians roles are traditionally understood as being protectors but like #when are you going to protect butches? when are you going to get in someones face to protect them? how do you think disabled butches feel? #just... i feel like. ppl forget that feminity can also be weaponised in a good way #(not that you HAVE to weaponise femin. in order to protect mascs for any reason) #but like. im a 5'3 small femme. i very easily pass as an upper middle class woman. #i may be black/mixed but i have a mediumish skin tone and i live in canada #i absolutely have the power to step in front of someone and raise my voice in feminine indignation #what are you gonna do? hit me? youre gonna hit a tiny 5'3 'woman' in a skirt that has kitties on it? #the idea of feminine people as weak can cone in handy! because esp large men know they WILL face social consequences for hurting ppl #like me. #especially if i start crying. #itd be more effective if a white person did it but i have that power too

[lesjasmine]

I'm the same anon from before. Here are the links if you wanna read them:

https://www.tumblr.com/vvitchscvm-deactivated20230666/746155119052275712/drop-the-article?source=share

https://www.tumblr.com/vvitchscvm-deactivated20230666/746154698922491904/controversial-take-but-im-agreeing-with-anon-i?source=share

https://www.tumblr.com/vvitchscvm-deactivated20230666/746144709653708800/while-others-want-men-to-like-themso-adopt?source=share

"Butches are their own sex" "Talk about sex being a spectrum" HELP

oooo came with the receipts 👏

#why do bis always co-opt the term butch #leave lesbians alone omfg especially butch/masc/gnc lesbians

[aardvaark]

i need a new name. the name "wren" is nice and all, but it’s from a very different period in my life, and it doesn’t really represent who i am anymore or what i now know about my own identity. it’s also something that i chose at a pretty young age and more for internet privacy than because i’m nonbinary. besides. imagine if you had to name your children the name you said you would give them when you were like 12. that’s kinda the same deal here lol.

#wren speaks #idk #i’m considering unisex names that aren’t like 90% used for girls (eg eden or peyton or taylor nowadays) #(nothing wrong with names like that but id prefer a more specifically unisex or slightly more masc name) #(especially because i present quite feminine. due to being VERY closeted) #(also because i LOVE how butch lesbians have often used very masc nicknames for themselves. it’s so gender and it’s so very lesbian) #my gender is basically lesbian lol.

[homiro]

In a weird mood. Here are some selfies. I can be both lol

(He/him pronouns only)

[Please be nice to me]

#queer #lgbtqia+ #butch #femme #lesbian pride #in my shirt #it's tie dye lol i did it myself #homiro said aome shit #butch4femme #femme4butch #transgender #bisexual #prefer women #not thst it matters #im not harming anyone #im just masc aligned but present femme sometimes especially when i feel weird #gpoy

[mogai-sunflowers]

femme lesbians who use he/him pronouns are literally so fucking cool like. people always try to explain he/him lesbians by saying “well it’s like butches cuz they’re masculine” and don’t get me wrong: he/him butch lesbians have my heart but he/him femme lesbians are literally just as real and valid and if you truly want to learn to believe that pronouns truly do not equal gender, then you’re going to have to stop thinking that “he/him lesbian = butch lesbian” because then you’re just trying to say that lesbians can use he/him if they’re masc enough but im here to tell you: literally any lesbian can use he/him pronouns. you can be the femmest of femmes and still use exclusively he/him pronouns and literally none of that invalidates anything about you.

so long story short: he/him femmes, especially femmes who exclusively use he/him, are literally to die for. i fucking love you <333

#🌌when the stars align ; reigns rambles🌌 #cw swearing #swearing cw #lesbian positivity #femme #he him lesbian #hesbian

[melesmelesmeles]

this might be mean of me but i do believe that if you're a lesbian who constantly fall for straight girls that's a sign you don't love and accept yourself (as much as you should)

#especially so if you're butch or otherwise masc/gnc lesbian #badgertalk

[3027960]

laswell is a mean, stone top, butch lesbian who loves high femme, pillow princess lesbians

laswell thinks the idea of 'gold star' lesbians is stupid, especially after years of lived experience as a lesbian

laswell who had relationships with men in high school before realizing she was a lesbian in college

laswell who actually has a good relationship with her family and her parents love her wife

laswell who looks up to other masc butch lesbians like leslie fienberg and judith butler

laswell who loves iconic lesbian music like tracy chapman, melissa etheridge, ma rainey, and brandi carlisle (her younger wife likes modern lesbian/queer singers like janelle monae and boy genius which she tries to get laswell into but never works)

laswell who doesn't believe in exclusively dating other cis lesbians, she's married ofc but she's dated bi women, trans girls, etc.

#kate laswell #laswell #cod #call of duty

[shaylogic]

Queer Experience Watching Barbie - AFAB Masculinity

I started to go into this in tags on another post but I wanted to type this up separately and try to develop my thoughts a little more. . .

Ryan!Ken’s arc in Barbie (2023) has been buzzing in my head for days.

I got fixated on it for a couple of major reasons:

1) We rarely have seen a feminist movie take time to address men with compassion in how patriarchy harms them too.

2) As a trans masc person, I think it hits a specific part of my identity that I don’t consciously let myself think about for too long. Something about being raised in a female world with sisterhood and community. Then being isolated in adult manhood without the tools to prepare you for that. Conscientious of respecting women and being unbothered by feminimity around you, but not knowing your place in the world.

How do I put it?

I know it’s not the direct intention of the film itself, but I’ve seen other trans folks (especially transmasc), reacting similarly to the feeling we get from it.

Ken’s arc feels pretty reminicent of the struggle afab lgbt folks go through when considering masculinity in their identity (butch lesbians, afab nbs, trans men, etc.)

How to make peace with masculine aspects of yourself without losing the women in your life? (One can argue Kate McKinnon’s Weird Barbie has aspects of this as well.)

Of course, then Ken goes off on the adopting patriarchy ride, which IS the point of the movie, and may skew a bit from the transmasc read on it--though I have known a trans guy here and there who avoids being misgendered so hard that they can become somewhat sexist. To which I say: “You don’t need to have a dick to be a man, and you don’t need to BE a dick to be a man.” But I digress.

Something about Ken being comfortable in a woman’s world but not understanding why he’s being shut out from socially bonding with them (in any sense! Romantic, Familial, Platonic Friendship. . .)

The overall theme of the movie for both Barbie and Ken--in an allegory of heavy gender roles harming all--leading them each to have to figure out who they are in themselves, regardless of others. . . 

Trans masc folx can relate to both Barbie and Ken’s arcs.

I don’t want to detract from Barbie’s arc being the main point of the movie.

I think the reason why we get hung up on Ryan!Ken’s character is because. . . we’ve related to the Barbie plot in other movies and shows before, thinking back to our “girlhoods” as children.

I have never seen the arc Ken has in this in any other story!!!!

There are some Man Movies that have attempted to discuss the struggle of Being a Man--but they often come off as too dismissive of feminine experiences, and are therefore as offputting to transmasc people as women.

Because of the nature of the two worlds exhibited in this movie, and Ken’s backround in his setting, personality, and purpose in relation to the Barbies, he’s a Man living with Female Socialization, in a Woman’s World; he’s a male character that inherently admires and respects women in his nature (until the real world influence distorts it).

This isn’t a perfect example of a transmasc experience either, but it’s a lot closer than most of us generally get to see! That’s why so many of us are getting caught up in this.

Please, other trans folx (transfems, too!), I really need us to have a discussion about this. What were your experiences and thoughts around this movie?

P.S. Yeah, we kinda get that nonbinary allegory from Allan (not a Ken, not a Barbie, siding with Feminism in the Gender War), but he wasn’t in significant focus of the plot the way Ryan!Ken was. If I try to read into Allan, I don’t have much to work with.

#barbie #barbie movie #barbie 2023 #ryan gosling ken #ken #queer #ftm #afab #transmasc #transgender #trans man #agender #nonbinary #enby #nb #gender #gender roles #text post #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #gender studies

[biibini]

okay so not many people explore this often but i think so hard about the softer side of mizu like when she was married to m*kio (🤢). Yes, we get a lot of the butch lesbian mizu content where shes the tough gf and all, but what about with a gf just calling mizu pretty!!! calling her beautiful and holding her face!!! telling her that shes the most gorgeous woman!!! MIZU DESERVES SOME SOFT COMPLIMENTS TOO ABOUT HER BEAUTY BC SHE IS GORGEOUS ! ! ! 😭❤️

fluff modern!mizu x reader headcannons

tags: fluff, mizu x reader, modern au, cute moments, pretty mizu, compliments, kissing, kisses on the cheek, gifting, flower bouquets, safe relationship, mizu deserves this :(

a/n: FUCK M*K*O !! she is my gorgeous beautiful girl!! ok school isn’t that bad but i do have a weekend trip so i'll be lowk MIA :(

modern!mizu tries to put up a tough front

but with you, the barrier breaks down and she feels comfortable exploring new aspects of herself

she's never felt that kind of safety

she barely felt it with m*k*o after learning his true nature

as time passes by with u, she begins to bring her guard down

compliment modern!mizu and she immediately doesn't know what to do or what to believe

earlier on in ur relationship, u helped her get dressed for a sports-day after party held by the school

in celebration of a well balanced and eventful day, there was a formal event for athletes and their plus ones

and mizu didn't know how to present herself

yeah she had the clothes

but she had trouble styling it

u came over to fix her clothes in ur beautiful blue dress that totally didn't compliment her eyes

mizu showered u with compliments, saying how her "pretty girl was so dressed up beautifully"

or calling u a "beautiful sight"

without thinking, u called her "my beautiful girl" as u fixed her hair

she immediately went quiet

"Mizu?", you questioned. She had gone silent after your compliment. "Did I say something wrong? I'm so sorry, I'll just-"

You look up to find her, her mouth agape. Not out of disgust. Instead, Mizu whiplashed by your words, her face flaring red. Only three words and she's suddenly out of commission.

yeah, mizu would def short circuit

and she did for a brief moment

until she snapped and kissed u

and totally not ruin ur makeup

modern!mizu loves it when u cup her face while y'all kissing or make out

mizu mainly is the one talking and touching during heated moments but even the soft feeling of her significant other’s touch makes her stomach fill with butterflies

or if ur just chilling in bed and u start tracing her face

externally, she’s relaxing

internally, she’s mesmerized by ur touch

when u trace around her eyes and lips and play w her hair, she has never felt such softness and safety

or even if u cup her face to give her a kiss on the cheek before u leave for work or class

it makes her feel secure and happy

modern!mizu loves being called pretty

she still likes dressing more masc but that doesnt mean she isnt pretty

especially if u compliment her eyes

or her strangely healthy hair

the fact that its long and still shiny

sometimes u pray u had her hair genes bc wtf this isnt fair

“Your hair is so pretty, it’s not fair.”, you say as you play with Mizu’s hair. It was late at night and while she was busy figuring out calculations for a project, you were busy relaxing.

She hummed in acknowledgement. With her back still turned, you ran your hair through her scalp, feeling the silky texture of her raven hair.

Normally, Mizu would just tie her hair up to focus late at night. Tonight would be a little different since you were still up.

As your hands sectioned continued to run through her hair, Mizu relaxed. In a calm state, she solved the equations with ease, listening to the faint lofi studying music guide her thoughts into the night.

Time passed yet Mizu never felt it until she realized your hands had slowed down. She turned back to see you, eyes heavy and ready to doze off.

She looked back at her nearly completed homework. One problem couldn’t hurt in the morning.

Mizu shut off the desk lamp and silently collected her things in a neat pile. She rests your head on your pillows and pull the covers on top of you. With one foot into dreamland, Mizu gives you a kiss on your forehead.

modern!mizu’s favorite places to get kissed are her cheeks

she loves any kisses from u tbh

whenever u would give a goodbye kiss, she always forgets ab the “final” kiss

it’s so simple yet so endearing

when u guys first started dating, u were a little hesitant on ending the first few dates with a kiss

so u choose a simple peck on her cheek instead

u could see blush form on her cheeks afterwards

and they still flush to this day

after mizu went back to her place after the date, she would not stop smiling

it lowkey threw off ringo for a while

modern!mizu enjoys fresh flowers

it seems small but it’s a pretty reminder of ur love

she never got flowers as a gift in her previous relationship so she wasn’t use to these gifts

(yeah fuck u m*k*o)

it makes her heart warm every time she sees the vase on her desk

preferably, she likes peonies bc of how fluffy and full they bloom

but if u bring a new bouquet, she’ll gladly clean and take care of it

u insist that u will do it

but once u saw her carefully pluck and cut the bouquet, u let mizu have her way

she just looks so joyful getting new flowers to take care of

when the flowers start to fully bloom, mizu likes to check and make sure they have enough water

basically she gives them the love and care they need

(im crying sobbing while writing this)

#mizu bes #mizu x reader #bes mizu #mizu blue eye samurai #mizu headcanons #blue eye samurai #mizu x y/n #mizu x you #blue eye samurai mizu #blue eye samurai x reader #mizu #modern mizu #blue eye samurai modern #modern au #mizu come home the kids miss you #i love love #fluff mizu #fluff blue eye samurai #mizu x reader fluff #fluff mizu x reader #fluff mizu x y/n

[genderkoolaid]

Wait to the previous anon- havent gay men used the term "butch" since forever as well? I remember Clark Henley's The Butch Manual being all about gay men being masc in a queer way. From that it would seem like since the start the term has meant being masc in a gnc/queer way regardless of the person's gender/sexuality.

You're exactly right.

Unfortunately, the crypto-radfeminism that's pervasive in (especially online) queer spaces encourages the belief that "butch" and "femme" are terms which can only exist in the context of woman (who are non-men) who exclusively date other women (who are non-men), and anyone else who uses these terms is Stealing From Lesbians.

in general there's a lot of "lesbians are The Most Oppressed in the queer community because everyone is constantly Stealing From Us, and all our terms are the mostest specialest BECAUSE we are Women who reject all associations with Men, which both makes us Special and also makes everyone steal from us and invade our community." but don't worry, they have "terfs DNI" in their bio so clearly this had NOTHING to do with radical feminism or political lesbianism.

#m. #ask box

[gothcoffins]

I love butches so much, the safety, the warmth the loveliness of butches is something people outside of the (lesbian, especially within butch/femme spaces) community will never appreciate in the same ways a lot of us do. I just have so much love and respect for them and I can't even put it into words, I love the history, I love the gentleness in butchness, I love the strength. the warm feeling I get as a femme when I see them is something I don't even know if I can articulate properly. It isn't necessarily just a lustful gaze I see them in either, even just platonically from afar there's this deep feeling within my soul that reaches out to them. Their friendship, their love, their care, their stories, their future, I want to protect all of it. If you have the privilege of being in community with them, tell them how much you appreciate them. Don't be scared of using terms like butch, it's a beautiful term wrapped up in so much history and should not be looked down upon both within the lesbian community and outside of it. I've seen a rise in people trying to replace butch with masc when there's a huge difference between the two, please respect butches. Butch is a beautiful term let's stop trying to erase it from our vocabularies.

#I LOVE BUTCHES #femme4butch #femme lesbian #i love being lesbian!

[farmerlesbian]

A question for lesbians out there (especially butch/masc/studs but everyone also): have we solved the purse problem yet. My pockets can hold a lot but sometimes that just ain't gonna cut it. Am I just doomed to carry a backpack with me everywhere forever is there a solution I'm blind to here?

There Are Other Types of Bags

(lol hold on we answered a similar question a couple years back, i’ll go find it)

#ask farmer lesbian #moonlitarktoi #mod alfalfa