#i dont like sexuality label for me but here. i have a message for you. your eyes only.

[ghostofbambifanfiction]

how do you feel about minors reading your fics or fics which might contain more explicit topics (be it substance abuse, heavy topics like eating disorders etc, and of course sexual topics). there has been conversation in other fandoms I am in on these and a lot of "adults" (I say adults bcs some of them are 23-25 which from my perspective is like oh you sweet summer child) are saying minors should not interact with their content, should not comment/bookmark/reblog, should not send them asks (anon or not) on their stuff with some of them saying they are ready to block individual suspects (aka minors who interact) in order to prevent them. and idk my perspective is that I wouldn't want to alienate anyone from the fandom, but would much rather focus on curating a good fandom experience and making sure young people dont take away too much from these fanfics because it is all fiction after all.

the reason i ask is because you are (i think) 7 years older than me but have been an integral part of my experience in the jily/marauders fandom since i was like quite young?

I think it's not up to me to check on what age my readers are or gatekeep my writing from anyone, and the same goes for any other writer. I write what I want to write, I stick the appropriate age label on AO3 and once it's out there in the world it's the reader/reader's parents' responsibility to seek out suitable material. When it comes to my writing specifically, if there are underage kids reading my fics, I'm not worried about that because my content is comparatively quite wholesome and the message I always try to instill is that an aspirational romantic relationship is one where kindness and respect, and not toxic, controlling behaviours, are key. I don't think there's any detriment to reading content like that, in fact I wish it was a more popular aspect of romance fiction in general (which is part of a wider conversation about what kind of behaviour is romanticised in fiction, but ultimately any writer is free to write whatever the hell they want). On a wider scale, when it comes to fandom in general, it's up to parents and guardians to talk to their kids about what they're read and what messages they're taking away from any media they consume. I'm a parent and I would never ever consider it a creator's responsibility to monitor what my child is doing, because it isn't their responsibility, it's mine, and I'm not here to be anyone else's mommy. If I get an ask from a 15 year old who tells me they love my fics, I'm happy that I've written something that brings them happiness, and I'm not going to alienate them, scold them, or talk down to them simply for being young.

[sqwdkllr]

dude your art is so amazing..i fucking love how you do anatomy, and linework, its just so perfect and also your qsmp designs??!? so fucking cool. your deathduo especially is so so dear to me<3 and your bluebird au(/aus?) amd your bluebird art in general its just so <33333…and your qsmp entities like cucu and eye creature and especially baribel, MAN those are singlehandedly my favorite qnpc designs theyre so great like. how the eye guy just has Teeth that come out of his head wherever?? and all your little headcanons about the bears??? THEYRE SO COOL MAN. and your philza with the patches on his pants n the baby zombie scar on his leg (also whats the scar on his nose from?)(also also i love your phils hair, like the short with the little braid its so neat:DD), and pommes hijab braids, and the zippers on th back of cucu and ositos heads (i have yet to figure out what those are for but ehatever theyre cool anyway) n just like. the thought and detail that goes into them, im rambling but aa<333 theyre all amazing:) OU AND YOUR COMICS,, i love love love how you structure n format them because theyre so dynamic and interesting while still being super readable and the ART IVE SAID IT ALREADY BUT I NEED TO SAY IT AGAIN I LOVE YOUR STYLE SO MUCH. its just so nice. like how you use general shapes and like i dont know how to explain it but its cool:)) your art lives in this little spot in my brain rent free…made me subconsciously kind of incorporated stuff you do into my own art process like sketching shit in blue LOL

anyway sorry for the wall of text i just needed to rant a tiny bit because youre one of my fsvorite artists n you inspire me so much ssob,,anyway have a good day mate

This ask makes my heart explode oh my goddd. I'm so happy you enjoy the stuff I put out augghh that so sweet THIS ENTIRE MESSAGE IS SO SWEET WTF. I hope you are ready for a ramble about hc/theory/design choices. Seriously its long-

I have so many head canons I like showing. Some lean towards theory territory and others I legitimately do not believe in myself BUT I like drawing it out because WHY NOT !!?? I like the whimsy of it all

THE BLUEBIRD AU is purely me having fun. Its such an angst filled au that is coated with a mask of nuclear family and hurt/comfort. In reality its like being hit with a sauce pan repeatedly. I'm more of a scientist Jaiden believer personally. DON’T GET ME STARTED ON DEATHDUO- Man I want to go back to drawing self-indulgent stuff for that. Fuck this ask is making my brain engine go insane AUGHH-

Like stuff about Osito just being a huge flirt because of their exposure to Roier from the beginning or Baribal being a pot head, yeah those sort of head cannons I'm sure people are dying to hear from me (sarcasm). Or more serious ones like the relationship, more like lack of, between Cucurucho and Baribal being one of miscommunication that snowballed into hate but never enough to kill each other. Literally the trope of "twins separated where one is raised within evil and other is forced to take them down" but it's very dark grey from both sides. YESSIR

Or other theory territory like federation not knowing that Cucurucho and Osito are not the same person because it’s a secret- BUT THAT’S VERY FANON/THEORY TERRITORY AND TOO CONVOLUTED FOR HERE-

Oh and of course more tame head cannons like sexualities and stuff. Cucurucho is aromantic to me. All of them are transgender. The entire fed staff. Fuck even the purgatory island goobers. No real concept of what gender is and sort of adopted what the islanders do or what the federation refers to them as. It's just not a thing, same with labels on sexuality. If you like someone then you just like them and that’s how it rolls !!

THE WATCHER. MAN DO I HAVE THOUGHTS ON THIS GUY. Like actual constant threat and you are left scrambling trying to figure out the rules of not pushing the wrong buttons so you stay alive. I know his concept art had like him as a human at some point, but I like fungus goop watcher more. Little goober who just so happen to survive the longest, learn the most, and as a result evolve to what he is now. Eventually became strong enough to overthrow the previous leader (and consume them-) and is now king of the purgatory island in privacy. Until the new islanders were sent there ofc. So yeah, bro is very old, its why Cucurucho has no clue who this dude is when he does get to put a face to the name.

PHILZA. This guy is the kinda guy to put survival above all. So I like to imagine that not only would he be covered in scars because he tanks most of the hits and is generally a very selfless person- SOME SCARS HAVE A REASON ! The zombie scar being one of course, semi infected bc I like to think that he did not die in his hc world but rather came close to it. And his buildings is what caught the attention of the goddess of death and allowed for her to give him immortality and be her eyes in the mortal realm as her angel of death. So the poison is still in his foot, just unmoving. Stuck in time just like his body unable to age. As for the scar on his cheek? Nightmare Stalker grabbing him by the face and throwing him in the ocean the second time he tried to get up to save Tallulah. The only evidence left of that night happening. YES SHORT HAIR PHILZA AND POMME WITH A HIJAB YESSS

The zippers are supposed to show that their "head" is not actually what they look like. It’s a helmet/mask. I don't draw their real faces out of fear of making them look too "human" but rather I enjoy the implication that they COULD LOOK LIKE any other islander. Isn’t the thought that this horrible twisted shell of a being could look just as human as you so much more eerie? I dunno I was watching horror analysis videos of the unknown while building the fanon side of them- Now why their masks can emote?,,, its cartoon logic !! And it's cute I have so many thoughts on these guys can you tell? OH MY GODD THANK YOU THO. Augh this is the sweetest message ive ever read pls.im so so very glad these little guys can make you happy. That’s such an honor fr !!

#posts that have a high change of me rbing or linking this later with art #i talk a lot and you all will suffer with it #ask #anon #anon you have no clue how much of a motivation boost this was #I NEED.... A PEN.. NOWWW...

[fatsmyname]

ive been wanting to say thank you for being so open about the complexities and questioning of your own gender and sexuality cause it's helped me tons. for a few years i did id as a lesbian but ive kinda flipped into iding more with gay men communities. thank you for providing a safe space where i could explore butchness and transmasculinity for myself. even though i dont id as a lesbian anymore, i still enjoy following your blog cause your art is great and i have high hopes for your artistic endeavors.

NO WAYYY ur so nice to me anon… i truly just try to be transparent and honest like im such an open book and hell my own gender is confusing even to me but i just do my best to live authentically and comfortably!!!! it means a lot to hear that it resonantes w other folks on here i really don’t consider the positive impact of what i say/post on here but messages like these remind me to keep doing whatever i do lol. brother for however long you found a home in lesbianism and butchness know i love you forever and that love continues as you evolve and grow and take on other labels. may ur life be full of joy and care and softness

#anon #ty again for ur sweet message anon #and thanks for sticking around for my art that’s very nice of you :3 #giving you tons of kisses and pats on the back

[maaaxx]

rant

(i havent overshared on here in a while and i think its about time i do that)

tw/ homophobia and transphobia

being queer in a rural area / area where theres not a lot out other gay people is really weird and really isolating.

yeah its the homophobes and terfs and people telling me about *how the gays are going to hell* and talking about us like we're subhuman without realizing im gay.

but its also the other gay people i've met.

theres this guy that ive been friends with for going on 11 years now (on and off) and he came out to me a year ago just by going "hey did you ever think that i might be gay" and i answered and that was that

months later i came out to him by telling him nonchalantly about my first girlfriend when i was like 13. he tells me about this girlfriend he had a few years prior. he then proceeds to go on this rant about how he's still "completely gay" thought since "she wasn't a real girl". and he goes on about how he thinks that if you date a trans person it automatically makes you pansexual since they "have the parts of a boy/girl even if they aren't one" (talking about how straight men cant date trans girls and still be straight and vise versa and how lesbians "cant" date trans girls and still call them lesbians)

last time i talked to him he was going on about "how women are nowadays" and calling them sluts and being really degrading.

There was a gay bi gender kid who rode my bus who constantly talked about the same stuff.

The first person I've ever came out to irl is one of my best friends recently told me she just "doesnt understand aromanticism" and doesnt think it's a real thing.

I came out to her as asexual about two years ago now and explained to her that i find a lot of aspects of my sexuality confusing but i still really wanted a label and she's the one who suggested i use the label 'queer'

but when i messaged her and told her that i also think im on the aromantic spectrum a few days ago she asked me to explain why and i sent her a whole essay explaining my experiences with romantic attraction for her to tell me she doesnt understand it and doesnt think that that makes me gay.

(like she's fine with asexuality but draws the line at aromanticism)

I also have this cousin whose a lesbian and only shows up like once every five years because of our family. but when she was home for christmas she and her sister went on a tirade about how being gay is fine but trans people are 'imposing on the community'.

i wasnt planning on coming out to her (i dont think ill ever come out to anyone in my family) but i was still sort of excited to see her because i havent talked to her since i came to terms with my sexuality and it just felt nice not being the only gay person in my family (even if i am closeted)

and its really isolating because this is my community. these are the people i have access to that have the most simular experiences and not one is fully accepting of other peoples identities.

every single gay friend i have that isnt aropohobic or transphobic or a misogynist (how tf are you going to be gay and sexist??? make it make sense) is online and my actual community is completely parasocial. i dont think thats healthy.

#tw homophobia #tw transphobia #arophobia #i have this one friend who doesnt know shit about the lgbt community #she doesnt understand sexuality #and shes like this with me being autistic too #like she doesnt understand it in the least bit but she does accept everything with it. #i have never talked to her about the specifics of my sexuality but i have made a backhanded comment about me being confused by it before #and she didnt address it for a while she just kind of dismissed it #but it got brought up really casually in conversation like a month later #idk how to explain it but thats just like what happened #i think she had an 'expirimenting phase' when we were like 12 #but nothing came of it #anywho #i think its really disappointing that the only person i can rely on to not invalidate my sexuality or anyone elses for that matter #doesnt know anything about sexuality #like you would think that the people who go through the same type of unacceptance would be more willing to understand and accept people #but apparently not #if i mentioned anything about asexuality or aromanticism to this one friend she would stare at me like a dear and headlights #i know for a fact shes never heard those terms before #but if id explain them to her she would just be like 'oh okay' and not think more about it

[straight-to-the-pain]

I do know several explicit self identified kink blogs that only have text. Thats quite common now especially since the Great Tumblr Purge. Ive seen some whump posts floating around there. Ive also seen some kink posts floating around whump tumblr. Especially with posts like “wow I just want to see a cute boy get beaten up” or whatever, there can be so much overlap.

Idk what the ~solution~ for minor issues are. I dont think there is going to be a way to make sure youth who are on the internet looking for Hurt People Content will NEVER stumble across something sexual tbh. But I guess the best we can do is try to make it clear what isnt for them on our own blogs (aka label up front things that will have noncon or whatever, maybe tag “hey minors dont go thru OPs blog” if we’re concerned) but if they decide to go click on everyone who reblogs a post… thats out of our control. The internet is, for better or for worse, full of all kinds of people who will reblog whatever they please, and some of them might be horny about it.

And our staff are already trying to make this website have as few nsfw images as possible with varying success so… 🤷🏻

I think whats more important than wringing our hands about whether or not someone of some age has a sexual though is being kind and helpful to the people who are in our community. As a minor wading through all kinds of nasty shit online back in the day™️, I could have benefited a lot from a community like this. Open conversations about consent and ethics and sexuality would have done much more for me than trying to keep anything remotely sadomasochistic as far from me as possible.

-(New anon, just didnt want shit about this but came to soapbox on your blog. I think youre making great points and Im glad youre facilitating these discussions)

I think those are some great points, thank you! I want to say that I think it makes complete sense to say, state that you have to be 18 or over to interact with your blog, or asking people with nsfw blogs not to interact because you’re a minor, but you also have to remember that not everyone is going to check this or realise this.

While people should be able to message others and ask them to not reblog from them or comment on their posts, I also think that blocking is honestly fine and good and people shouldn’t be afraid to block simply for personal comfort. It doesn’t have to be a punishment. It’s just a way of curating your own experience.

I definitely think that it’s futile and harmful even to pretend that teens and young people don’t know anything about kink or sex. I am well aware that minors are going to have personal interests and fantasies and may well be trying things with each other, and honestly I just hope that they’re having open and honest discussions about this with their friends and with trusted adults in their lives.

I’m not responsible for online minors who follow me and I don’t want to know about your sex lives and interests, but at the same time if you don’t have someone you trust who will talk to you about this at home or at school or at a youth group, I would rather people came to me so I could give them age appropriate resources and guide them towards a more appropriate and safe source of information.

I would absolutely rather that young people have informed safe sex rather than being told that they should never think about it until they turn 18 and doing it secretly and getting hurt or hurting someone else in their ignorance. And I am well aware that teens are going to read sexual content, and probably read things that aren’t meant for them too, and I think there’s a difference between exploring and figuring things out in your own mind and actively seeking out adults to interact with them about that content. And it’s on the adults here to draw those boundaries and at the end of the day, block minors who are interacting with them inappropriately.

#asks answered #whump community #whump meta #I think it is important that young people see those sorts of conversations about consent and safety and ethics #because teens are always gonna be doing stuff and I would really rather they at least had the knowledge to do it safely

[gonancray]

you, i thought i could trust.

why did you lie. i just keep going back to those moments - when i looked you in the eye and asked if it was okay to be there - if we were intruding - the reality of our decision finally settling, the haze of adrenaline fading - and you looked at me and assured me that no, i wasn’t. no, we could stay.

why.

i asked you twice more during our stay, and again you responded the same way.

what hurts the most is the 180 you did the next day. if that had been a lie, if it had all been a facade, if you’d been able to go upstairs and text behind our backs and return with a straight face - as if we were some frightening “other” you needed protection from - if you had let me bawl into your shoulder, held ▇▇▇’s shaking fingers in your own so gently, with such softness in your eyes - then what the FUCK HAD BEEN REAL. 

I FELT SAFE. YOU FUCKING MADE ME FEEL SAFE AND OKAY AND LIKE I COULD FINALLY BREATHE SINCE THAT HORRIBLE GSA MEETING WHERE I GAVE ▇▇▇ THEIR GIFT AND LEFT IN TEARS BC I WAS SO OVERWHELMED AND ANXIOUS THE MEETING WHERE YOU LEFT ▇▇▇’s BDAY GROUPCHAT W NO EXPLANATON. 

WHAT I HATE SM IS THAT I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT IS TRUTH AND LIE ANYMORE. I GLIMPSED you in the library today and your face was so untouched. i didnt expect to feel so suddenly hollow. i didn’t expect those two seconds of eye-contact to engrave itself in my mind for the rest of the day - for me to be here, 10 hrs later, frantically scribbling in a notebook, dodging the wet stains on paper. im crying and i feel nauseous and i cant even eat

what was real? what of our friendship was real?

i cant help but remember that day when i spilled my heart to you on your bed, and you let me rest my chin on your shoulder and you held me the tightest you’ve ever held me and you rubbed circles into my back and ▇▇▇ was beside me and i thought maybe we could stay there forever

i bared my fucking soul to you. 

i’d shown you my self-harm scars and explained them. i’d shown you the rawest parts of myself. i’d told you things i’d never told anyone. i shared my grade 7 poetry with you. i spoke about my relationship to religion and the hijab and my sexuality and how i felt about labels. and i thought you bared your soul to me in turn. i thought you’d never be afraid to tell me anything. i thought you’d always tell me the truth.

now i dont even know who you are.

what does it mean that you were able to throw it all away in one night. what did it mean about the nature of our interactions so far, if the entirety of our visits to your house had been a lie.

i am heartbroken by you. 

i cannot be friends with someone i cant trust.

i just fucking wish you had told me. everything wouldve been fine if you had told me.

one of the first lines in that message you sent me was “fucking take accountability for your actions”

i remember staring in numbed shock, on a hard bench in the cafeteria, the voice of the guest-speaker turning to a low buzz in my ears

▇. you hadn’t told me i had crossed a line. you hadnt informed me of any boundary being crossed.

i had asked you and YOU HAD LIED TO MY FACE - through your words, your countenance, your actions, the stupid warm smile on your face.

what the fuck ▇.

how dare you take this out on me. how dare you reveal to me how little i know you at all. 

i fucking hate you

i want nothing bad to happen to you, but i hate you. i wish the best for you but i hate you

how to reconcile this newfound hatred with the old, lasting love. 

i hate that you will never see this. i hate that i let you have the last word, i hate that you will never know how much i am hurting, i hate how you will never know i can no longer stomach breakfast without feeling the urge to throw up. i hate how its been a week and here i still am, crying over what we used to be - and what i did to us out of necessity

most of all i hate how to u i am still the villain. to you, i was the one who did the hurting. i was the one who didnt give a shit abt you

so here: in the privacy of my notebook: i am sorry. i’m sorry for not thinking. i’m sorry for ambushing you, i’m sorry for getting you in trouble, i’m sorry for the hurt i caused, i’m sorry for the inconsideration i displayed.

i would have given you an ocean-full of apologies - if only you had let me. if only you had given me a chance before leaping to your insulting conclusions

but its too late now

cutting you out was like severing my right hand. every time i reach for something i mourn its loss

you were a constant in my life and now youre gone

now all thats left is to deliver the eulogy, shuck off my funeral clothes and walk on

#oct 25 #. #reposting this properly

[emthetheatrekid]

𝕀𝕟𝕥𝕣𝕠𝕕𝕦𝕔𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕄𝕖:

Hey there! My name’s Em, and I'm a writer. Welcome to my page, or even just this post! 

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☆Facts about me!

Pronouns:I use she/they pronouns!

Ethnicity/Nationality: I’m white british, so most of my writing will have hints of british throughout it, using words specifically for brits, but i will try to adapt it for american settings when appropriate

Sexuality: I’m a bisexual aromantic, i finally found an umbrella term to label my romantic attraction after questioning for so long :D

I’m a writer, obviously, who leans towards writing angst a lot, its something I pride myself on being able to write.

This blog will contain both fan-fictions and pieces of writing I have made myself.

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☆Fandoms I write for:

Harry Potter

Dream SMP

Marvel Cinematic Universe

High School Musical; The Musical; The Series

Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children

Sam and Colby (XPLR)

Scream (TV series)

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☆Random facts:

I’ve been reading since a very young age, and it is often something people will see me do.

I enjoy acting and all aspects of theatre in my spare time (it is my aspiration to be an actress one day)

I really love musicals; Be More Chill, Beetlejuice and Six are very high on the list of my favourites!

I am in an on-going project with two of my closest irl friends in which we are rewriting the Harry Potter series to be more inclusive and welcoming and including a Marauder’s story into the mix! (update: its just me working on this project now, for personal reasons i ask that you dont pry for information.)

Writing in general is the top thing i take pride in, i’ve always enjoyed it, and making the words twist into a beautiful collage of emotions is the best feeling in the world for me.

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𝕃𝕖𝕥𝕤 𝕥𝕒𝕝𝕜 𝕒𝕓𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝔹𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕𝕒𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕤!

Growing up, I discovered how important it is to establish boundaries with people, so here i am.

My number one boundary is probably common sense; don't go looking for any personal information about me. I will share what i am willing to share directly.

Secondly, any negativity towards the people i write about in fan-fiction is discouraged heavily. I only write about people i personally like, and while i respect people having their own opinion, it is quite hurtful seeing someone dismiss characters i enjoy.

Next on the list for me, is criticism. I enjoy getting constructive criticism, which will help me improve my writing, but anything that is just blatantly rude such as "this is rubbish" is quite hurtful, so please respect this boundary!

Don't spread hate around my blog of me, or any of the fandoms i am in. Discovering these fandoms has helped me a lot with mental health issues, and again it is really hurtful towards me to see hate towards them. In situations such as real-life casts, like the Dream SMP fandom, i enjoy writing for them and watching their content, but I will hold them accountable when necessary and help them educate themselves if needed.

Messages are completely okay and appreciated, like i said earlier, i am british, so i will reply within my timezone hours of being awake, so please be patient if you dont recieve a reply instantly.

And last of all, with fandoms such as Harry Potter, i would like to personally say that I do not support JKR's transphobic views at all. Everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community is welcome, and accepted here.

love ya, you beautiful people :)

#harry potter #dream smp #mphfpc #hsmtmts #marvel mcu #sam and colby #scream tv series #writers on tumblr #fanfic writers #creative writing

[daisys-reality]

URGENT ⚠️⚠️uhhh hi do you like um take things 2 ask ur spirit guides because umm i need a question but its p existential and IDK where to find it but jfc why do trans people exist ? why would any god or diety subject their people to hate their bodies and genes and chromosomes every second they live in em and regret the happenstances of being damn born despite having a relatively moderate self esteem ?? I need the answer to this because i cant accept it if im gonna spend the entire rest of my life suffering through all this for damn nothing while barely anybody else has to please help ?? Is it possible for you to just ask what i did to deserve this pls + thank yoi SORRY if this is considered trauma dumping i dont know what that is lol im 13

TRANSGENDER/LGBTQ+ vs religious beliefs/spirituality/law of assumption

1. "hi do you (...) ask your spirit guides because (...) it's pretty existential and idk where to find it (an answer)?"

Hey anon💛, yes I do and can ask my spirit guides certain things. And it's quite common to use tarot and stuff like that to find answers to things where there seems to be no answer in this reality we're living in. However, when doing a tarot reading there should always be a disclaimer. The message my spirit guides give might be 'true' but I can never 100% guarantee that I read the message the right way. So, don't expect too much from me and don't take my tarot readings too seriously. You should believe what you want to believe.

But for your question I don't think doing a reading on it is the right way and I honestly wouldn't feel comfortable doing it either, I don't think I'm capable enough to interpret the answer correctly to such a difficult question.

2. "Why do trans people exist? Why would any god and deity subject their people to hate their bodies and (...) ?"

Ok, this is really a "heavy" and sensitive topic and I don't think I can keep my answer short. I feel the need to explain my situation first so that you see where I'm coming from and for you to judge if I'm the right person to give you an appropriate answer. Ofc you can just skip this but I would feel more comfortable if you'd read it.... I don't want you to misunderstand me :/

First of all, I want to say that I'm not really that knowledgeable about all that lgbtq+ stuff, so I'm not really the best person probably to talk about this. It's not that I don't take the lgbtq topic seriously (I do!) but more so that I personally never felt the need to identify or label myself as "something" regarding gender or sexuality. I've always been a freedom loving person and putting labels on me always felt like putting myself in a cage that slowly suffocates me. I used to hate myself too and always used to ask myself 'who am I? why am I even here? Why do other people think so differently?' Iwas confused and I felt like I had no identity at least not like others seemed to have. I felt like a "fluid being" lol... I was just there and existed.

But everyone around me would "build up their identity" more and more and openly say what they like and dislike and it stressed me out - even questions like "what is your favourite colour?". As a child I already was like 'why does that even matter? why would someone even think about this??' but everyone around me seemed to be doing it so I started lying about it. I remember researching what common likes and dislikes were and started remembering them to have a prepared answer to those stupid questions😭💀 Everyone made it such an important topic and it overwhelmed me. I hated discussions about (for me) useless things and I just wanted to be left alone, experience the world on my own and enjoy life without any strict perspective. But people want things to have labels and to put them into boxes to judge them more easily.

While growing up I came to accept that my way of being just doesn't fit into societies way of thinking and I learned to be ok with it. I don't care anymore! All these struggles.. for what?

I personally don't need labels, I just want to experience life freely without any restrictions! If I start liking a girl tomorrow and date her, fine. If I'm a boy in one of my desired realities and come to like another boy, fine. I don't care! In my opinion I would just make important and precious experiences and memories. I love learning and I love having the freedom to learn without being judged. (So for me, reality shifting and law of assumption saved me and I'm so grateful that I got to know about it.) Anyways, I hope you get where I'm coming from (even if its a little bit).

But being transgender is a whole other topic. (pls correct me if I'm wrong) You were born as one of the biological genders but you (your essence/soul/mind) identify as the opposite or just another gender.

Now you're asking why anyone would even get someone into this tricky/confusing situation. But the thing is that this whole "gender" topic is HUMAN MADE and not god/deity made - if you know what I mean.

Over the years people have made up the assumption/rules that 'being male is like this' and 'being female is like this' and linked it to the biological gender! (honestly they probably didn't know better) Ofc some things are influenced by genetics but it's less than we think.

No god said that if you're the biological gender A you have to like dresses or like hunting whatsoever. No god ever judged you for who you are or for what you're doing!!! The humans did it !! Society did !! Maybe even yourself started doing it unconsciously too. But no other being did that. Other beings like gods/deities also just see your essence, they just see you as "a being".

Now, you used the expression "why would any god/deity subject their people to..." - I assume you're religious or grew up religious. I don't want to disregard your or any other religion but from my point of view we are not anyone's people. Ofc certain beings protect us but at the end of the day we decided to be on this earth ourselves (at least that's what I think). And honestly, from a god point of view this whole gender discussion of our society seems probably really stupid and unreasonable. We human beings are probably the only beings that limit themselves so much because we're so "intelligent" and "evolved" - like come on pls. We created these labels and now we start arguing about them and judge other people for them. Like what the hell even ...

I'd also like to go a step further and add a bit of Law of assumption (LOA) into this discussion.

As I already said in previous posts, getting into LOA and making use of it is like stepping into your innate power and acknowledging that you are an eternal, omnipotent, conscious, and intelligent being. You learn to release "human" limits and find freedom. And in my view, gender is kinda one of the "human limits" too. You are the creator of your reality. If you choose to end this suffering, then you will do it because you can.

3. "I can't accept it if I'm gonna spend the rest of my life suffering through all this for damn nothing while barely anybody else has to."

I understand your mindset right now and I can only imagine what you've been through. The suffering must have been pretty hard. I know that society or rather human beings in general can be extremely ruthless, reckless and really hurtful without even realising it and ofc willingly.

I want to tell you that you don't need to accept this suffering and you don't need to suffer like this through all of your life !! I want you to know that you're not powerless, okay? It doesn't matter what other people have told you! You're still pretty young so you have the best conditions to learn about yourself and about your power to manifest what you want and what you deserve!

It's not like I want to influence you into doing something... It just breaks my heart seeing other people suffer and as LOA (law of assumption) has helped me tremendously, I want to recommend it to you too.

4. "Is it possible to ask what I did to deserve this?"

This question itself is heartbreaking as well😭 I'm not gonna do a reading on this. Don't even think you deserved this pls. It happened, yes but don't dwell on it or try to find an answer! Instead maybe work on manifesting the world you would like to live in. I'm sorry that I can't give you a better or more advice on your struggles. :(

Just know that you can identify as whatever you want. You can like whatever you want. You can be whatever you want and you can do whatever you want. You CAN because you have the freedom and power to do so. You don't need anyone's approval or allowance. This is your life.

5. "Sorry if this is considered trauma dumping (...)"

I don't consider it trauma dumping, so it's ok, don't worry. I don't really know what the real definition of it is either, we don't have that in my native language so yeah😂 I guess its kinda just talking to someone about your trauma and I'm pretty ok with that🥸

Anon, I don't know how helpful this answer will be to you but I want you to know that I wish you the best in life and send you lots of love. You are enough. You matter and you only deserve the best!! I believe in your ability to manifest the life you deserve! (Yes I took the time to color it😂)

The same goes for my other followers.

I'm no expert but you can always ask for help or for advice or just share you're struggles with me. I will try to help you as best as I can.

- daisy🌼

#🌼 talking #anon ask #t.asks #t.advice #t.personal #t.tarot #t.loa

[sickknotdoom]

I'd love to hear what you have to say on that Carlsly baiting topic you mentioned. I feel similar and would enjoy your opinion on it.

i dont really want to make this a long post since the longer it is the more likely it is that i misphrase something and come across the wrong way, so thisll be a few paragraphs at most. its important to note that i myself am gay (i like men) so yes, i feel like representation of my sexuality is something i can talk on.

one time is a coincidence, an understandable mistake, miscommunication. in regards to the topic of unis tfem identity, i feel less like it was intentional mlm baiting and moreso clumsily executed foreshadowing that didnt quite get the message across, probably because kit felt like revealing it would be "spoilers" and decided to make it as subtle as possible, like the vaguely trans flag-colored scarf. the gradual shifting of sexuality did sorta rub me the wrong way, like. first they were introduced as a gay guy, then revealed to be tfem/transhet (barruni being t4t), now theyre something along the lines of "queer in general with a slight masculine preference". i know people switch labels like that in real time as well, but to me it feels like unis original writing of being exclusively attracted to men is gradually disappearing, which feels messed up regardless of their gender identity. its probably whatever though.

two times is a pattern. the exact same thing happened with sly, except way more abruptly. sly was first introduced as a cis guy in a gay relationship with carl, and was later revealed to be tfem too, but this time there was absolutely zero foreshadowing. the only things i can think of that hinted at it were the strawberry nightgown art & maybe that "bathroom panel" ive been hearing about (but havent actually seen), which was brought up on here as relating more to ocd/intrusive thoughts than gender dysphoria. i might be overthinking this but i feel like that mightve been done to fuck with me specifically? because as a gay guy myself, having the same event of "popular mlm ship suddenly has one of the characters revealed as tfem" is reasonably frustrating as it can & will come off as erasure if not handled with enough care. and since ive spoken up about this in the past, which ended up landing me in a discord gc with An Actual Sparkleteam Member Trying To Convince Me Otherwise, it feels quite fishy to me. but if you think im wrong, cool, no hard feelings as long as youre not gonna flat out my opinion.

im prolly just tripping though. i have nothing against characters gradually realizing their identities but i feel like it should be handled with more care and that the proof of their journeys shouldnt be erased. especially when being written by someone who has no clue what that journey is like.

#.txt

[seranavolkihars]

go ahead. open the elder scroll. fruit

#happy pride #i dont like sexuality label for me but here. i have a message for you. your eyes only. #skyrim #the elder scrolls #tes

[bees--on--toast]

_-* About Me *-_

Hi! Welcome to my MOGAI blog :) (although sometimes i do reblog funny/interesting things)

My name is Percy, I’m 20 years old, nonbinary transmasc + a lot of xenogenders, bisexual and aspec (and more labels lol). Here’s my super disorganised google drive of flags I use!: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1fOTYUHFl8WyNCBDLjIrnQCE7Cc-HNcf1

My pronouns are they/them always, and I will edit this post regularly with what neopronouns I’m currently using :)

Current neos:  

bat/bat/bats/bats/batself

bite/bite/bites/bites/biteself

bone/bone/bones/bones/boneself

cor/corpse/corpses/corpses/corpseself

dead/dead/deads/deads/deadself

ghost/ghost/ghosts/ghosts/ghostself

knife/knife/knifes/knifes/knifeself

mor/morgue/morgues/morgues/morgueself

mu/mur/murs/murs/murself

rat/rat/rats/rats/ratself

rot/rot/rots/rots/rotself

san/sang/sangui/sanguis/sanguiself

te/teeth/teeths/teeths/teethself

vam/vamp/vamps/vamps/vampself

I am autistic, persodivergent and am physically disabled with fibromyalgia. I also have depression and anxiety.

I am white, british, plural (unintegrated whole) and a non-religious pagan.

DNI, boundaries, request rules and taglist below the cut!

DNI:

Basic DNI criteria

Anti MOGAI/xenogender/neopronouns etc

Discourse blog (or unrelated blog that posts a lot of discourse)

Anti self-dx

Sysmed/anti-endo

Stigmatises mental health issues (i.e uses the term ‘narcissistic abuse’, thinks all psychotic people are violent, etc)

Have the same name as me (Percy) in your URL (i just dont like to see people with my name in my notifs. please still feel free to like, reblog, use my terms etc!)

My Boundaries:

Please do not remake my flags or terms!

Please dont make tons of british jokes at me. Ive heard them all a million times and I am just sick of it at this point. It won’t get a rise, I’ll just block you/delete asks :)

Please do not flirt at all.

Please use tone tags!

Please do not ask super personal questions unless we know each other moderately well :)

Please do not try to talk to me about discourse/syscourse or tell me about callout posts etc. It makes me so anxious and I just want one website where I can completely avoid stressful situations.

Please don’t tag me in posts that have nothing to do with me.

Please do not send me tons of text/messages in my DMs. Just don’t. If I’ve reblogged a post from a bad OP or gotten something wrong you can just say that. It makes me so incredibly anxious.

Request rules:

Please be respectful!

I will not make terms related to communities I am not part of (eg. poc specific terms, religion specific terms, disabilities or mental disorders that I do not have, etc)

I can and probably will deny requests I do not feel I can complete! I have massive executive dysfunction :)

I will not make sexual/kink terms!

Creepy/gory/horror related terms are fine!

I will make flags for genders, orientations, pronouns, etc.

I will not help find labels, names etc. I am just not good at it :)

I will try to help with finding pronouns!

Taglist:

#percy speaks - just talking!

#percy's coins - My coins!

#percy's flags - My flags!

#not mogai - Anything that isn't mogai related.

#requests - My requests, both for asks and posted terms/flags.

#anon - Replying to anons specifically

#replies - replying to asks

#(someone's username) - anything related to a specific person! Like non-anon requests.

#coining event - terms related to a coining event I'm participating in!

I hope you enjoy your time here!

#pinned post #about me #dni #boundaries

[satanfemme]

Hi! May I ask why you dont identify with the term queer? I'm just kinda confused, sorry

why is this like the second ask I've gotten mentioning this subject within the past 24 hours. it's been months (at least) since the last time I've actually mentioned not id'ing with that word. like genuinely is there a callout about me getting passed around lgbt discourse tumblr rn, hello? I'm not intending this response to be standoffish towards you btw, just confused why people I don't even know are suddenly so interested in this personal detail about me, a real life gaytrans person, who you don't know? also maybe it's the paranoia speaking but I get the sense this is a bait ask. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt rn, and assuming you've just genuinely never heard of anyone disliking the word before, but please understand why I don't really feel comfortable getting asked this by a complete stranger unprompted.

and to be frank it's no one's business why an lgbt person might prefer one word or dislike another. no one needs a moral reason to not identify as a label? you might as well start going up to binary trans people asking them why they don't id as agender. like, cause they aren't. lol. and I'm not queer.

but to answer your question, here's a quick history: "queer" was a word that historically (and still in the present!!!) means "weird", "strange", "eccentric", etc. basically "not quit right; a little off-putting". at one point (in the ~late 1800s) cishet people began using the word to describe feminine and gay men (who are, to them, very weird and wrong). it was used especially with reference to gay men's "sexual deviance", and alongside other 'fun' pejorative words like "fairy" and "faggot". it became a slur invented by cishet people, and used by cishet people, to describe gay people as something other, different, strange, not-like-us. as fucking WEIRD. said in the same breath as calling us faggots. and said in conjugation with homophobic harassment, oppression, hate crimes. over time, lgbt people began to reclaim and adapt it into our own slang, just like we have with similar words like fairy and faggot and etc. and in the ~1980s there was a notable movement of people reclaiming the word en masse -- because lgbt people needed power and there's a power to slur reclamation! "you think I'm fucked up and disgusting? ok, watch me!!!" is a political message with bite to it. "not gay as in happy, but queer as in FUCK YOU" was subversive and radical as hell. instead of assimilating to what pop culture wants from you, stand your ground and turn whatever terrible thing they see you as into something you're proud to be! when fighting oppressive institutions for rights and respect, why beg those oppressors to see you as a respectable "keep it in the bedroom, blend into normal crowds, never ever mention your perverse homosexuality in front of any impressionable children" kind of gay person, when you could instead DEMAND the respect you deserve not "in spite" of who you are but BECAUSE OF IT.

however the point of slur reclamation, such as described above, imho is that the slur has teeth to it. and despite modern liberal movements attempting to file down and smooth out and commercialize "queer", it was picked out for it's teeth and those teeth are still there. even if they've been shoved away under the rug for a lot of people. the slur never left cishet people's pejorative lexicons. so I get that in some areas, in lucky contexts, it genuinely does just mean "lgbt" in the most neutral sense possible. but outside these hyper-specific settings, it's still a slur. for a lot of people, it's still a slur they get called by homophobes/transphobes/etc. it's still used by cishet people, for irl harassment and irl hate crimes. and its history is still embedded into the word itself (you can't separate the word from "weird and strange" when dictionaries still define it as "weird and strange"!)

I'm not explaining to you why I, personally, as a real life femme homosexual with a job and bills to pay don't want to get called a queer by anyone.

but if you use your critical thinking skills, I'm sure you could take a fucking guess????! :)

also, on an ending note: "why don't you id with the word queer?" why would I. I have no reason to reclaim a slur that so many people want to ignore the history of, both past and present. there's hardly anything revolutionary about a word Target™'s trying to sell us on fast fashion t-shirts. if I'm gonna stab myself to prove a point, I'm not doing it while goddamn corporations cheer me on.

at least when I call myself a FAGGOT cishet people WINCE! but if I call myself a queer... they just nod their head and agree.

#mountain-fingers #q slur #f slur #ok to rb if anyone wants idc. this is a stupid ''discourse'' but here's my irl gay experiences or whatever.

[aro-culture-is]

im questioning bc idk whether my lack of desire for romance is bc of aromanticism or from a fear of intimacy, which also makes sense bc of my past. also, i thought ive had crushes on some male friends, but recently i found out that what i consider crush was probably just feeling uncomfortable bc everyone assumes we have feelings for e/o. now im lost on what a crush actually means and think i probably have never had crushes in my life. i want to identify as aro, but im scared that if i turn out to be a het who just have a severe fear of intimacy, it would feel like im infiltrating aro spaces for attention and i dont wanna be that kind of disrespectful person

hi!

i really want to emphasize something here: the aro community welcomes with open arms anyone who thinks they may be aro, even if they later change that identity. Personally, I find it silly to think that somehow, every single person must be completely sure that they are a specific identity and that it will never change.

i'm genderfluid. i don't use sexual orientation labels because no label has felt right, things change, and I don't really care. Fluidity, change, and uncertainty are inherent in my very identity. While it is useful in many ways for the public facing queer community to say 'our identity isn't changeable, stop trying to change us', that isn't a good internal message.

Our identity is the label that helps us most - bringing us comfort, community, understanding, or, even a resting place when our identity is hard to understand. It may not represent all of those at once.

Even if you are not sure that you are aro, you are allowed to use this label. You are allowed to be a questioning aro. You are allowed to be in this space. Talk of 'infiltrating' communities is reserved for an intentional attempt to harm a community and not someone learning about their identity or trying a label out.

If it helps you to see other questioning aros questions and my responses, plus those of the community members following me, my 'am i aro' tag is full of that. I hope this helps!

- mod kee

#not aro culture #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #am i aro #advice

[boyfriem-moved]

unpopular opinion but the gay culture on this website is so strong and suffocating that it’s making bi and pan kids feel like it’s bad or wrong for them to like people of the opposite gender and it’s kinda toxic and y’all need to calm down

#ive had this thought for awhile but i felt like i shouldnt say it because people would get mad #but uh fuck it #yall need to hear this #because you think with your violently gay culture you're helping young queer kids but you're really not #i struggled with my sexuality for years because I felt so pressured to Be Gay when the message should have just been to be myself #and a lot of that i can blame on my friends at the time but plenty of the blame goes to this website as well #i was very young (still am really) when i was first figuring out my sexuality and when i first got a tumblr #and i was young enough that i didnt understand that concept of sexuality being fluid or using gay as an umbrella term or anything like that #i dont want to say this because it's what all the old christian women say and i know that but honestly on tumblr being gay is cool #and thats what i saw and thats what my friends were like #and i mean all of my middle school friends and i are legitimately queer kids #we were when we were thirteen and we are now #but with the exception of maybe one or two people i don't think any of us has stuck with the labels we were using back in middle school #but anyways that alls a rant post for after i post this one #my point is that the way yall act on here ingrained biphobic and panphobic behaviors in me #and even though im older now and i know better #i still have to remind myself not to judge the bi girl in my history class for talking about boys #and i still have to remind myself that there's nothing wrong with enjoying a heterosexual romance in a book #and i still have to remind myself that it's not bad for me to like girls because theres nothing wrong with that it's just who i am #which is literally what gay kids who have grown up in heteronormative families have to teach themselves by the way so #yall think you're being progressive and you're having the opposite effect #calm yourselves #aight im gonna stop typing because this is getting ridiculous #goodnight

[gilears]

shoutout to you for that ace riz ask answer. even as a non aspec person, im so fucking tired of people projecting onto riz to make him more palatable to their sexuality or idea of what asexuality should be. i’m tired of ppl saying that he’s doomed to sadness and loneliness if he’s not partnered. and i’m mostly tired of the blatant aphobia in people saying it’s completely ok to rearrange his identity to ship him (romantically or sexually) when they know damn well they wouldn’t do that for a lesbian like kristen. or rearrange a gender identity like garthy’s. people are just so hateful and uncomfortable w the idea of an aroace person just happily existing. i hope ppl aren’t mean to you like they’ve been to me and a few moots for it.

anon u sweetie!!!!

thank u for the solidarity jsfhlglfjdsjg i can say as an aspec person i am also so fucking tired!!! its like. idk i dont wanna sound mean but i dont understand the cognitive dissonance that has to occur for someone to have watched fhsy and think riz could possibly be anything other than aroace. like hello did we watch the same show?

but god yeah!! like the asexual experience is SO beautifully varied and broad and every person has their own unique connection to the label and what it means To Them but like!!!!!!!! riz so clearly and explicitly is not attracted to anyone in any way including romantically lol. and YEAH its such!!!!!! a normalized thing for ppl to ignore that part of him for shpping purposes and it IS very marked as opposed to how people treat kristen or garthy etc. youre so right bestie your brain is so huge. is it not enough for him to just love and be loved by his friends? you can REALLY tell who thinks aro/ace identities arent queer "enough" bc they dont see riz as queer unless theyre able to ship him with someone... mmmmm the aphobia of it all💗

anyway! you are so lovely! thank u for this message and ur big brained takes. so far i have not received any sort of unkindness about all of this which is very nice!! i am sorry u and ur moots have had to deal with that 💔 i am ALWAYS here for aroace chats on or off anon if you so wish to seek out that connection!!! i am lucky to have a darling handful of friends both on here and irl who love and support me/aroace communities so i promise you the fellow aroace riz truthers are out there, friend 😌

#anonymous #ask #riz #fh

[crownquill]

Disclaimer: Don't read this post if you are a terf/exclusionist/aphobe/biphobe/panphobe

dont even touch it or I will block you on sight you little pissbitch

also if you start discourse I will punch you.

dont add shit to this post unless you are adding on/being supportive

just saw some exclusionist say "OmNI iSNt a REaLL lABel I bET iT wAs MADe UP LaST wEEk tO hurT BiSEXUAls"

and like

first of all buckeroo. other lgbt+ people arent the enemy. get your head on straight. dont try to fit people into neat little boxes lol

and second of all this made me so fuckin angry I went on a deep dive of omni history. unlike pansexuals and bisexuals, omni [and also ply people] dont really get that much recognition

so here's some omni stuff!/history

The word omnisexuality appears as early at the 1959 beat poet Lawrence Lipton's The Holy Barbarians,[1] but the first time it was described in the context of the current definition was in a 1984 text titled simply Sexual Choices: An Introduction to Human Sexuality.[2] This text described omnisexuality as "a state of attraction to all sexes", stating that some researchers believe that every individual is born omnisexual before developing their sexual attraction into the labels of homosexual, heterosexual, or other orientations.

The term spread even further in the early 1990s as M. Jimmie Killingsworth undertook an analysis of the poet Walt Whitman.[3] In Killingsworth's study, he found that Whitman had a general omnisexual character throughout his work The Leaves of Grass. In the 2010s, The Atlantic noted that his poetry expresses sexuality towards all genders, sometimes even the sea or the Earth.

Omnisexual was a common message board term in the 2000s. The media made several non-monosexual terms known in the mainstream as that took place. Many popular articles discussed omnisexuality alongside these celebrities' pansexuality.

Some fictional characters, such as Jack Harkness from Doctor Who, and Kevin Crawford from Paradise P.D. have been canonically confirmed as omnisexual.

The omnisexual flag was designed by Pastelmemer on or before July 4, 2015.[4][5] It is unknow if the colors have any meaning, but a purposed meaning is as follows: The light pink and light blue represents the gender spectrum. Pink represents attraction to femininity and women. Blue color represents attraction to masculinityand men. The deep purple (sometimes depicted as black) represents attraction to people whose gender identity falls outside of the named categories.

There is no one way for identifying as omnisexual to look. “Identifying as such looks like feeling great about yourself and standing strong in your identity,” says D’Allaird. “No one can really tell you who you are, if you find this word and it really connects for you, then look in the mirror.” [sidenote: I hate fucking cosmopolitan but this quote slaps]

Dino nuggies, Scythe, scarves and bandanas, Bang by AJR and basically every song by AJR, Hydra, Grim reapers, anything of Ben ten because of his Omnitrix, ins-OMNI-a, and maybe eating peanut butter/Nutella straight out of jar (we are debating on that one) and .... jazz hands

[on what omni culture might be/is]

“We come to a corner where there are a few people protesting the festivities. I don't understand this at all. It's like protesting the fact that some people are red-haired. In my experience, desire is desire, love is love. I have never fallen in love with a gender. I have fallen for individuals. I know this is hard for people to do, but I don't understand why it's so hard, when it's so obvious.” ― David Levithan, Every Day

a t-shirt!

just some art :DD

^^every letter is an art piece

Idk which omni person needs to hear this tonight/today but there are people who support you out there! You're awesome and valid and have just as much a place in the lgbt+ community as anyone else!

#omni #omnisexual #omni pride #yeet yeet #lgbt #lgbt+ #yall are valid #there are people that support you!!