#internalised ableism

[jodjuya]

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#actually adhd #invisible disability #adult adhd #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurospicy #neurodivergencies #its the neurodivergency #ableism #internalised ableism #disabilties #autistic spectrum #blogging

[notabled-noodle]

yes, internalised ableism is a real thing that many disabled people grapple with. but I’ve seen a few people use the term incorrectly, so I’m just going to make something clear

if someone with POTS makes a diabetes joke, that’s not internalised ableism. that’s ableism.

if someone with ADHD steals someone’s mobility aid, that’s not internalised ableism. that’s ableism.

having one disability and being insecure about that is not an excuse to act like a dick towards other disabled people. internalised ableism explains the pressures you put on yourself. it doesn’t explain ableist behaviour that is completely unrelated to your own struggles

#ableism #internalised ableism #disability #disabled

[cosmiccripple]

stood up in the shower today because i thought "you know what?? maybe i am faking this". nope nope nopity nope whoopsies that was a bad decision, restart body, error: stupid arse decision *siren wailing in distance*

#actually disabled #disability #physical disability #invisible disability #crip punk #chronically ill #physically disabled #cpunk #chronic illness #chronic disability #c punk #cripplepunk #cripple punk #disabled #disabilities #ableism #internalised ableism #impostor syndrome

[audhd-space]

heartbreaking when you’re openly disabled being friends with people you know have disabilities but have internalised ableism is that—

they enjoy being around you when you empathize and accommodate their struggles but when it comes to you needing the same from them, they will hold you to that internalised ableist standard

aka

“if I can do this, why can’t you?”

#friendship fallout #internalised ableism #disabled people can also be ableist #spoonie #invisible illness #adhd #audhd #disability #neurodivergent #autism #dynamic disability #chronic illness #chronic pain #actually autistic

[disagigglebilities]

Anyway, a big go fuck yourself to the disabled people who sit on a pedestal and throw rocks at their disabled peers for things like "being lazy", "wallowing", "not trying", "being a complainer", "being vague about their disability"

#istg if this person said this shit to me irl id be throwing hands #like dont be ableist maybe? #fucking asshole #internalised ableism #internalized ableism #ableism

[flowercrowncrip]

I consider myself to have a pretty good relationship with my disability, but I’ve started noticing how much I apologise for the space my wheelchair takes up. My town has quite narrow pavements and lots of tourists in the summer which means people often have to duck into shop doorways or step into the road to pass me they’re going the opposite way. And I’m in the habit of apologising to them when it happens.

But wheelchair users are allowed to take up space! I’m allowed to take up space! I didn’t decide that the pavements should be narrow, so why should I apologise?

It’s a hard habit to break but I think I’ll feel a lot better when I do.

#internalised ableism #cripplepunk

[gentleward]

Hey! Just because you:

- have more expensive mobility aids

- are listened to by your doctors and have formal diagnoses

- think you have a “bigger” or “worse” diagnosis than someone else

- have insurance that covers things for you

- go inpatient often

- have a care team

- are on disability income

etc

None of that makes your disability “more important” than anybody else’s. That’s called ableism and you are not immune to it!

#ableism #internalised ableism #actually disabled #chronic illness #cripple punk #patient log #disability blogging #disability activism

[etherealspacejelly]

it still feels a little uncomfortable to call myself disabled. im trying to work through it but. idk i still feel like im Not Disabled Enough. perhaps because i do well at school, or because i have a disabled older brother who struggles a lot more than me, or maybe its just the internalised ableism.

at this point, i basically have a diagnosis. i just have to wait to see an actual psychiatrist. the university says there is enough evidence to provide me with additional support. on my learning support plan it says "Robin is diagnosed with ADHD and Autism". and yet it still doesnt feel real

im so used to saying "i think i might have ADHD and autism, im not sure tho!" to placate the anti-self-diagnosis crowd that now having official documents that confirm it feels. wrong.

i have autism, i have ADHD, i am disabled. i have got to get used to saying that. because it is true.

#autism #audhd #adhd #disability #impostor syndrome #internalised ableism

[mirrorofliterature]

alejandro is - alejandro burromuerto is - he is

alejandro is broken. he has known that since he was three years old.

the sun rises and sets, the birds flock south and alejandro. alejandro is a failure.

a mess, abnormal, not quite right -

not quite loved -

never the winner, always second place. at best.

it takes years for alejandro to learn that's not true.

that the way he thinks isn't - that the way he loves isn't - that the way he lives and breathes isn't -

isn't wrong.

there are words for people like him.

he is autistic. his brain wired differently. he wasn't being difficult, he just had different needs.

he is gay, in an unconventional way. he rarely feels attraction, but when he does -

it burns bright.

there are other things. things that make him unique.

but not broken, no.

never broken.

#td alejandro #internalised ableism #my writing #quick little ficlet #total drama #angst #autistic alejandro burromuerto

[petrichoremojis]

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Two for 'internalised ableism' for a request on Discord

#Emojis #Custom emojis #petrichoremojis #Disability emojis #phrases #nouns #internalised ableism #Idiosyncrasy's tag #Requests

[defectivegembrain]

trapped between the rock of thinking I must be exaggerating my difficulties and the hard place of thinking I'm an eternal child play acting at grown up shit

#internalised ableism

[stillfuckingtired]

I’ve learned to be okay with how little I can do physically (well, mostly). I try to do this, and it hurts, I try to do that, and I’m dizzy, I try to do too much, and I’m barely keeping my eyes open and I need to lie down. So I guess I’ve learned to listen to my body.

But what I’m not so good with is how little I can do on a cognitive, and even emotional level. I’ve gotten so fucking fragile—or maybe I’ve always been that way, idk, but I feel like it’s gotten worse, like I’m able to do less and less without falling apart.

And I know it’s probably because I’m so exhausted all the time, and who isn’t fragile when tired? And also because I’m dealing with a handful of issues at any given moment—different kinds of pains, at different parts of my body, at different levels of pain/discomfort, holding my body the right way so I don’t make it worse, monitoring the different medicines and treatments I’ve taken that day and when I can take more…..I could go on and on. And so I just don’t have the fucking…the bandwidth to process much else, whether that be a problem to solve that takes a lot of focus, or an emotional issue that taxes me in another way.

So I get it. And I try really hard to be okay with it, and to give myself some grace. But also….god, do I wish I could do more. I hate that the reality of what I’m capable of doesn’t always match up to the idea of myself I have in my mind.

#chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #internalised ableism #emotional #fibromyalgia #ouchies #disabled #young and disabled #disability #cognitive issues

[notabled-noodle]

you’re not “cheating the system” if you get assistance that helps you. if you get given allowances, it’s because you need them, and there’s no shame in using them

#disabled #ableism #internalised ableism

[majaurukalo]

Disabled people who shit talk their disability (and other disabilities) and think less of themselves if they don’t overcome their disability and are so full of self-hate and even go to social media or television to spread that kind of thought always raise in me some mix feelings.

The first reaction is anger. I’m angry at them for spreading such an abysmal view on disability and other disabled people and basically downgrading all the amazing work real disabled activists do everyday to make us see as humans and for having such horrible thoughts of a community they belong to.

They also trigger a very sensitive spot inside of me and I think they shouldn’t be given a platform to talk in such a way.

But then I try to calm down and rationalise and remind myself that I was in their shoes once.

That is basically internalised ableism which I, as many other disabled people, suffered from for a very long time.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I would shiver at the idea of ending up in a wheelchair, I prayed that I would be healed and “fixed”, I would cry myself to sleep just to be normal. I hated myself.

I didn’t know any better. My parents didn’t teach me a better view because they didn’t know any better either.

You know what helped me accept and love myself? The disabled community.

All the amazing disabled creators, who talk about this topic in a healthy, empowering way.

So what I think is… disabled people who still suffer from internalised ableism are not our enemies. They are just people who haven’t found this community, who are still processing this difficult reality (and maybe they are newly disabled so that’s even more understandable). They are traumatised, they are suffering from the toxic views the able-bodied society puts on us. They probably don’t have a healthy support system, maybe just family and friends who are pushing them to get fixed, who are telling them to not give up to that kind of life. They think they are unlovable.

So let’s not shit on them. Let’s not insult them because that’s not how they will feel welcome into the community.

Instead, let’s encourage them to change view. Give them positive and empowering disability resources and examples.

#cripple punk #cpunk #disability #cripple #crip revolution #crip punk #disability justice #disability rights #disability pride #ableism #internalised ableism #disabled blogger #this may be related to a recent disabled person who went to an English program I think #and spread around lots and lots of ableism #it saddens me that there are still so many horrible stories about disability being spread on tv #but I don’t want to shit talk this person either #they might regret it in the future #I hope they find acceptance and self love

[noddytheornithopod]

I'm aware of this sudden spike of discourse around The Good Doctor, and while I have never seen the show and I think many Autistic people are right to feel uncomfortable about how it portrays them, the way people are treating it with memes and stuff to criticise it bothers me?

Like I'm seeing even Autistic people instead of engaging in thoughtful critique just share memes and mock the character in it. And like, you can say it's "bad acting" or an "inaccurate portrayal", but I still think there's something uncomfortably ableist in how people are acting?

Like, the way people are acting is like when people act like bullying "weird" people or people who don't have friends is fine, but suddenly you find out they're Autistic and then you find out it's all bad to do that now but only because they have that formal label.

That's what this whole Good Doctor thing reminds me of. Thing is, even if it might not be true to you... I know other Autistic people who watch the show and even relate to the character. It might be problematic or not fully authentic, and you have every right to feel that way, but the thing is, not every Autistic person is the same. Some of us DO respond in ways many of us would write off as stereotypical. Some of us DO act in ways that might make us uncomfortable, and are not what we want to think of ourselves as.

Like, it feels a lot like there's a lot of respectability politics going on, deciding what the "right" way to show us is like, which is ironic given we're trying to fight a lot of stereotypes in the first place, which TGD sounds like it does fall into.

I might even go as far as calling it purity politics, in that we're so concerned with how people see us that anything uncomfortable is making people react poorly and lashing out as a result.

I will reiterate, I have not seen the show. I've heard mixed opinions from the friends I've spoken to, their relationship with it is complex. It doesn't sound like something I'd care for, especially with the neurotypical lens it's created through.

But my ultimate point is... no one of us is the same. We're not a monolith. Even if the show does suck hard, some of us might still relate, and they're not bad people because of it. Deciding who is and isn't a "good" Autistic is gatekeeping bullshit we don't need.

So yeah, you don't have to like The Good Doctor. You can hate it. But the way people are mocking it instead of having serious nuanced, empathetic discussions feels just like one step away from giving Allistics permission to mock us.

You can go "oh it's from us so it's fine!" but people still can internalise bigoted beliefs about themselves. Look at the purity politics in queer communities, for example. To act like your actions have no consequences is pure arrogance.

Also, think of how it looks out of context. I know I just whined about respectability politics but seriously... random person making fun of an Autistic character? Even if you make excuses, it still looks shitty, even if your reasons ARE valid.

I'm not defending this show. I do not have interest in doing so. What I'm concerned is that Autistic people have given in to internet toxicity and the need to appear perfect to the point we're willing to throw anyone who doesn't fit the "good" narrative under the bus.

And lastly, if you see me not uncritically mocking the show in a way that would be identical to a neurotypical bully at work or school and think that makes me your enemy, you're exactly who I'm talking about. Take a breath, step back, shut up, and reflect on yourself. You're really going to give into petty infighting over a show that some people have more complex feelings about than just pure hate when there's groups like "Aspie Supremacists" and the "Autistic Dark Web" out there?

You're not making our lives better by putting people who have diverging opinions about a questionable show on twitter or whatever. If you genuinely want better, more nuanced representation (I do too!), start by not putting each other down in the first place.

#discourse #actually autistic #the good doctor #ableism #internalised ableism #respectability politics

[hydeingpurples]

Coming to realise how much internalised ableism you have against yourself is... a lot :(

#disability #disabled #neurodiverse #neurodivergent #tourette syndrome #tics #tourettes #awareness #actually tourettic #tourette syndrome awareness #joint pain #muscle pain #fatigue #internalised ableism