#learning and unlearning

[writethestory365]

Our desire for God to accelerate things is more of a culture demand than a spiritual inspiration.

- Dr. Anita Phillips

#love #heart posture #poetry #open heart #relationships quotes #healingjourney #yahweh #love is #bible #healing #christianity #lust #cultural lust #culture #scripture #present context #theology #learning and unlearning #more humanity #pride of life #western culture #books and libraries #books and reading

[doccywhomst]

#i’ve been thinking abt that cringe post #i think the latent feelings behind ‘cringe’ are shame and sometimes envy/bitterness #same vibes as when six year olds say ‘those toys are for babies’ if they’ve been shamed for their age by older kids #anyway. i think part of the healing process is realizing that shame puts you at war with yourself bc part of yourself is a social being! #and that part of you wants community and acceptance (maybe love). shame is the absence of acceptance #unlearning shame means learning self-love and gaining the confidence to find your people #jerma #cw jerma #(someone asked me to tag lol)

[talaricula]

Things I've seen tumblr memeing about James Somerton doing à la "How did no one see how bigoted he was!" as if those things haven't been a significant part of tumblr culture for over a decade :

Presenting untrue and bordering on conspiratorial versions of (queer or otherwise marginalised) history without any sources

Completely disregarding and disrespecting any expertise on socio-cultural topics/humanities and distrusting academics and historians (incl. acting as if no academics or historians could be queer or marginalised)

Downplaying the role misogyny played in the historical oppression of queer women and concluding that queer men must have been more oppressed than queer women

Bi women are, at best, not as queer as "real" queer ppl, and at worst, simply equivalent to straight women

Despite nominal trans inclusivity, transmasculine ppl are functionally women when convenient (combined with the above, bi transmascs are functionally straight women)

Despite nominal trans inclusivity (bis), shamelessly attacking, threatening and actively endangering any trans woman who questions them or smth they find important (often by unfairly presenting her as violent or as a threat)

Having absolutely fucking wild and reductive takes about ace ppl, the oppression they face and their place in the queer community

Stating that marriage equality is an assimilationist fight while completely ignoring its direct roots in the horrifying consequences of the AIDS crisis for partners of ppl who died of AIDS

Praising western media creators from the past for queer coding even under censure and in the same breath condemning current non western media creators for being homophobic bc their representation isn't explicit enough

Blaming China for all existing homophobic censoring in western media

Assuming all queer media would be better told by western creators and by western standards

Only out queer ppl get to tell queer stories

Heavily criticising almost all queer media created by women or ppl they see as such (see above points about trans ppl) or involving/starring a significant amount of women for any perceived or real amount of "problematicness", but fawning over and praising and negating criticism of queer media created by and starring mostly or even functionally exclusively men (even when it could be argued that, you know, not involving/seriously sidelining women is a pretty clear example of misogyny which should probably be considered "problematic")

And I'm probably forgetting stuff or there's stuff I have internalised myself and don't recognise as an issue

Like idk but I feel like the takeaway from Hbomberguy and Toddintheshadow's videos should maybe be "be aware of such patterns in your communities bc they definitely exist" and not "this guy is uniquely awful" and I feel like a lot of the discussion I've seen surrounding this has been severely failing at that. Most ppl who've spent any significant amount of time on tumblr prob either have internalised at least one of those thought patterns, have had to de-internalise them, or have had to be extremely vigilant to not internalise them (which is done by, you know, seeking out other sources, which also seemed like an important takeaway from the videos)

#Also I'm saying this as someone who actually watched quite a few of Somerton's videos #And noticed those patterns and stopped watching bc I recognised them from here #and had already learned to unlearn them after being so exposed to them here #And tbh I think anyone who hasn't had the luck or made the conscious choice to seek out ppl who pushed against those narratives #Would absolutely have fallen for this man's bullshit. Like let's not kid ourselves we see takes like this every day on this hellsite #2014 me would have. For sure. #This is next to the plagiarism issue which as Harris points out is an Internet wide issue and this includes tumblr #James Somerton #hbomberguy #todd in the shadows #This brought to you by a conversation with my wife yesterday #So many ppl on here don't deserve to meme or be this self absolvingly critical of this man #The call is coming from inside the house #The man has a tumblr it would legit not surprise me if some of the things he supposedly made up himself he did actually get from somewhere #And that somewhere was a tumblr post

[daftpatience]

this post reminded me of this ~scenario~ that happens to me and other fat folks quite often! thin folks that are our friends, support fat folks, but haven’t quite had the time or chance or willingness to unlearn fatphobic ideas in relation to themselves. we know you still think of fatness as inherently unhealthy and unattractive, work on it ♥

#any weirdos are getting blocked asap #and uhh if you come asking for advice or how to unlearn it idk man follow fat creators #listen to fat people talk about their experiences #follow fat instagram models and allow yourself to find them attractive #its fun i promise #youll grow i promise #finding beauty in a wider range of body types has only ever done my brain good #you learn to love yourself through loving others #cw weight #cw fatphobia

[bossbabyofficial]

#actually sokkas plotline if unlearning his misoginy isn't important and it's only in a few episodes and it really is problematic if you #think about it and we can't have characters with flaws now can we. also a plotline of a teenage boy learning to not be misoginystic isn't #still relevant today. #<- i have used a clever tool named sarcasm which you can learn all about through media literacy. #avatar the last airbender #jessie.pdf

[semisolidmind]

Random person getting mulled to death by Dogday: GET YO FUCKN DOG BITCH

Y/n: He don’t bite.

Random person bleeding out: YES HE DO-

i mean, if said random person hadn't gotten so close to his house, the dog wouldn't be mauling them, sooooo...

and as an aside; i imagine y/n doesn't know that dogday will occasionally attack people in the woods surrounding their home when they aren't there. y/n knows him to be against violence unless it's necessary (unlike their time in the factory, where he didn't have a choice), and the closest town doesn't really deliver newspapers out in the woods. so unless they pay attention to gossip when they go to work, there's no way for y/n to figure out that the supposed "monster" in the woods mauling people is their friend and housemate. there are cougars out there, it's probably just one of those.

and they know that dogday likes to hunt deer occasionally (and he sometimes eats them all by himself), so they don't suspect anything when he comes home covered in blood. he's just a little messy, that's all. they clean him off and welcome him back in, none the wiser.

#as much as i wanna see dogday as thos sweet innocent fella who would never hurt a fly #hes a monster just like the rest of the toys and came from the same environment #that kind of learned violence and survival instincts would be hard to unlearn #and he can justify it by sayin he was protecting y/n and the others from being discovered #protection was likely the reason for his first kill outside the factory and it was probably a snap decision #he didnt want y/ns little safe haven to be discovered and destroyed just because he happened to be seen #so he did what he felt he had to

[darth-does-stuff]

ok everybody saying dan fucks is conrad’s dad you do you but for ME personally the fix will always be conrad’s dad because dan gives cool uncle vibes 1000000% percent more than the fix ever will. but we will both live our truth and we will both be happy 🤝

#because let’s be honest the fix is NOT gonna let conrad live in an alley guys #in my heart the fix adopted conrad and conrad is one of those kids going ‘did you know’ because he learned it from the fix!!!!! #and once again dan fucks is conrad’s dad truthers good for you #but i really don’t think dan would make a great dad LMAO he berates conrad a little too much even if it’s affectionate #i simply cannot hear the fix going ‘i think it’s time to unlearn that lesson’ and saying he’s just conrad’s UNCLE #i do wish alex got to say what conrad got to do though :( #but yeah for me the fix adopted conrad and he went from being a tiny miserable kid living on the streets #to being in a loving family with siblings and a support system <3 #and justin of course!!!!!!!! #dimension 20 #mentopolis #mentopolis spoilers #conrad schintz #the fix #dan fucks #d20 mentopolis #man i love all of these characters #this season was PEAK

[sandinmybed]

can i be fr for a minute?? sending abuse to people online for holding different views than you is not activism and in fact actively hurts your cause. most people are not extreme in their viewpoints, you can give them a new perspective if you're willing to spend some time explaining shit. if someone is saying something you disagree with and you rush in there to condescend to them and call them disgusting and subhuman and dont even TRY to explain calmly why their views are harmful, they're going to shut you out instantly and double down on their views.

most people are simply genuinely ignorant to the issues they're talking about - they just pick their views up from the news and the world around them and express opinions because that's what every person does. if you run in there and tell them they're scum for it, what then? if someone does that to you, are you going to think "maybe i should do some research" or are you going to think "this person is an asshole, im blocking them." a lot of you think you're activists and then refuse to do any kind of actual WORK to support your cause.

#this is not about the isr*el thing even tho thats obviously a huge issue rn #its just a pattern ive observed online #im not saying you have to be kind to people who oppress you dont twist my words #but if youre trying to support any cause and you think calling people names is going to help #youre a fucking idiot lol #people call themelves activists and pro-X cause because they called their opposition dirty c*nts online #how the hell is that meant to help anyone? theyre just going to retreat into their propaganda chambers because you proved what the leaders #of those spaces have been telling them #you can obvs block people if you dont want to deal w them but thats a neutral action. sending abuse harms ur cause. #text #like educating ignorant people is hard work! yeah! its also the entire fucking point of activisim #and if you think its too much effort then just stop pretending you give a shit tbh #like my parents managed to change our neighbour's very xenophobic stance on migrants with a calm conversation #some people will listen and some wont and shes not exactly going out to protests for migrants rights but shes not hostile anymore #and a lot of yall think that isnt good enough but let me tell you it IS good because these things take time! #unlearning things is MUCH harder than learning them in the first place and a lot of people grew up in environments that taught them #very discriminatory and conservative views and its actually not their fault. and its hard to educate yourself differently on something you #have no idea is not true. where do you start w that?

[despazito]

"going to therapy makes you a worse person because you learn the words and therapy incantations to be more evil and manipulative" ok I guess we should all just kill ourselves

#im hating this new wave of therapy slander #ill give you a secret people with great interpersonal skills aren't usually the ones seeking therapists #im guessing most of these posts are made with cluster B individuals in mind but these patterns of behavior take a LOT of hard work to mend #I'm sure people misuese what they learn in the early stages and some may never unlearn harmful ways of being or have a bad therapist #but going 'therapy makes you worse' is fucking insane as a blanket statement

[mochayoubi]

i was very surprised at how difficult it was to find (good) resources for learners that accurately describe how 部首 (in English we translate this to be the "radical") work in 漢字 (kanji). i pulled these from a very comprehensive guide of kanji from おじゃちゃん, a native speaker who is also a language teacher and if youre interested in learning more, you should check out her full overview here.

to a beginner this might not be as useful - but when you get deep enough into japanese i think it's worth it to understand how kanji is actually used by native speakers. understanding how the radical works can also help you guess at meanings and recognize common patterns that may make memorizing kanji easier

#mocha speaks #japanese langblr #learning japanese #japanese kanji #typically most english-speaker-centric guides describe the radical as 'building blocks' of kanji #which makes sense as a memorization tool #however if you ever went far enough in your studies you might need to unlearn all of that - the radical is actually a classification system #i'll stop there at the risk of going on a tangent in the tags #but yeah being aware of what it is at least could be helpful down the road #especially if you want to start using native resources. bc they use the radical much more differently than a learner might be used to

[prussianbluevelvet]

As a leftist, having ‘good intentions’ is not enough.

You need to be fucking educated.

Your intentions mean NOTHING, without accurate knowledge and education abt minorities, you’re just doomed to repeat harmful propaganda without A) being able to spot it and B) more prone to justifying your bigotry and biases via ‘I’m trying to be morally correct so I’ll just believe whatever makes me feel good 🥺🥺🥺’ which just results in you confirming and perpetrating you own biases.

Like… I have a migraine now. I just spent 2 HOURS explaining the history of antisemitism in europe to my mum and educating her about jewish stereotypes and the history/cultural context behind it cause she’s a typical well-meaning-but uneducated leftist who thinks that spewing antisemitic rhetoric is somehow ‘helping Palestine’ i think the fuck not! bitch ur literally european how the fuck are you NOT familiar with the BS myths and legends behind antisemitism… thought it was common knowledge but I suppose people are generally less educated than i thought????? ugh.

Being a leftist doesn’t automatically make you a good person, or ‘correct’ or even morally correct.

You gotta actually fucking learn about history, and various cultures, and the context behind different types of bigotry if you want to avoid repeating it.

Everybody thinks they’re ‘morally correct’. Nazis think their actions are morally justifiable.

Being a leftist isn’t about being ‘morally correct’.

#antisemitism #i/p conflict #leftist antisemitism #if ur leftism doesnt involve questioning ur biases than its useless #u gotta actually put in fucking effort to learn and unlearn and relearn again in an endless cycle #and always be on the lookout for potential propaganda because ur not fucking immune #intelligence wont save you from accidentally becoming a bigot #having good intentions wont either #cause intelligence and wisdom are two very different things! having the former doesn’t guarantee the latter #israel #palestine

[your-local-granny]

❤️i am people. i am good.❤️

#ace attorney #franziska von karma #miles edgeworth #Phoenix Wright #Ace attorney is a game about love!! #Literally it’s about unlearning your inherent evil through loving others and believing in their goodness #it’s learning that the world you’ve known that’s punished you for being kind also rewards you #And it’s about teaching others that they can be kind through your own kindness but more importantly through your belief in their inherent- #goodness #Raaarrggahgghagghraarr!!!! #portal art 💕🌸🌤

[serenityquest]

#learning #unlearning #behavior modification

[the-final-sif]

I'll be honest, having seen a lot of the boil over, I think the thing that keeps catching a particular subgroup up about the finale is that the finale unequivocally says two things:

c!Dream was not always this way, he was at one point, just a 20 something year old running around in fields with his friends.

c!Dream was, and still is, unmistakably and indisputably human.

I feel like these two facts, being presented in such a way that there's no way for it to be misunderstood, are sticking points for that group because it forces an understanding that they have been actively been working against.

c!Dream did horrible things, but he was still human. He was human the entire time. He wasn't born evil, he wasn't a one-dimensional purely malicious villain that existed only to fill a role. He was human. He was human, and he did horrible things, and those horrible things did not negate his humanity. c!Dream was a human, and he was hurt, and he handled that hurt poorly, and he hurt people as a result. He wasn't always this way, he ended up this way because of how he was hurt and the poor choices he made to handle that hurt.

It's vicious towards people who've been stuck on this idea that c!Dream is inhuman, that's he's a monster, that he was always selfish, evil, "the problem". Because they need that simplicity in a narrative and can't handle the implication that anyone can end up being horrible. That there isn't a neat little line between good people and bad people, and that anyone can both be hurt and hurt others.

c!Dream is an ugly, vicious reflection of what someone can become when they believe their goal is worthwhile and they don't care if what they're doing is wrong. He is though, above all else, a human. Just a person. Who was hurt, and made bad choices. Nothing more, nothing less. Familiar and terrifying.

I feel like there's a certain group out there that absolutely cannot stand this idea that anyone can do horrible, irreparable damage, for much the same reason that some people don't like mirrors.

#c!dream #dreblr #dsmp #c!tommy finale #dream smp #sif speaks #I'm just thinking about the deep irony of a group known for sending death/gore/rape etc threats #to another group for liking a fictional character #would hate a finale that points out that even someone who does horrible monstrous things is still human #and by extension any human is capable of doing horrible and monstrous things #an abuser is not another species you are incapable of becoming #its a human making cruel choices #a human that could be you if you don't put in active effort towards being kind and unlearning toxic things you may've learned #anyways my blocking system has been incredibly effective so far but this post will be a test of it

[aloeverawrites]

If you want to learn math, no amount of good intentions and warm feelings alone is going to help you understand math.

If you want to learn science you can’t just sympathise with a biology textbook without reading it.

If you want to learn another language you can’t just smile at the text until you understand it.

So if you want to learn how to be an effective ally, you have to learn about the people you’re trying to help and the bigotry you’re trying to fight.

It’s a nice attempt but you can’t purely affection your way out of the bigoted teaching that the dominant culture taught you.

You’re going to have to do some studying.

#you know how well intended disability allies will say “your disability is so inspiring it’s good you don’t let it define you #or how white allies will say “wow you’re so arcticulate! black people can speak properly. #about aave #if you don’t unlearn the bigotry you’re just going to keep spreading it but with good intentions and in a nice way #which is sometimes more frustrating #so you have to learn #human rights #disability #anti racist #antisemitism #trans rights #lgbt rights #intersectional feminism #today I was reading a post and poitingoit to myself the antisemitic state said by someone with good intentions #and then I read a Jewish poster explaining how it was antisemitic #the guy had good intentions but you have to study. me and him were both taught the same things and we have to unlearn it #and I have a lot of unlearning to do #you don’t have to study in a way that’s difficult if you mostly read posts follow people in a minority group that educate about bigotry #and get more resources from them #google if you’re confused #you can do it

[gorrus]

#growth #mistakes #anxitey #confidence #accountability #self forgiveness #learning #unlearning