#lgbt rel

[talisidekick]

If a transgender person asks you to deadname and misgender them in front of certain people. Misgender them and deadname them in front of those people. It doesn't matter how icky or gross it may feel, it doesn't matter you'd rather be honest. It doesn't matter if there's more of you there. Certain people aren't safe, and honesty IS NOT the best policy when honesty could put them at serious risk. It doesn't matter if there's a crowd, because when there isn't shit goes down.

Be an ally, do what they ask. Understand that the trans person knows more about their situation than you do, and this includes who's safe and who's not. Some one can be "trans friendly" to other people, but not to people they know or specific people. Do as the trans person asks, yes it's uncomfortable, but it's 10 times worse if the person we don't trust finds out. 100 times worse if they have access to us when you're not around.

Respect trans peoples safety. Misgender and deadname when asked.

#trans #transgender #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #2slgbtqia+ #lgbt #transfem #transmasc #transneutral #there is a post about this on my blog but it reminded me of my own situation #my whole family knows I'm out and I didn't want them to #my entire extremely christian catholic and mormon extended family knows because I let my sister tell my parents because we weren't talking #now I live in constant damn fear I'm going to get a message forwarded from family to the point I blocked my own parents #these are dangerous people who will stop at nothing to ruin my life if they find me so I'm going to ask I get deadnamed and misgendered #in front of them #i'm going to lie that it's a joke so I can live my life in relative peace.

[autistic-katara]

are u even queer if u havent pounced on an opportunity to get beat up by ur crush?

#no joke at my friend’s bar mitzvah one of our mutual friends/someone i lowkey had a massive crush on #was kinda like play-fighting ppl in our group on our friend’s trampoline #and i volunteered to go w/ her #knowing full well she was relatively physically strong #and given my physical disability relating to energy + the fact that i basically never rlly exercise i’m physically weak asf #so yeah she easily beat me #what can i say its a queer’s mating ritual #anyways while this was mostly abt me i thought abt a few ships while writing it so just gonna tag them #korrasami #rangshi #lumity #catradora #huntlow #zukka #soukoku #ranpoe #shin soukoku #queer #lgbt #bisexual #gay #lesbian

[aroacehanzawa]

it's crazy how mxtx books are like mainstream now

#not really but like. relatively #i was in the comment section of a youtube video where the demographic was generic booktok YA fantasy readership #and someone was recommending mdzs and tgcf and others were like omg yas i heard they're lgbt 😍😍😍 #they don't even know what danmei is..... they don't know the lore they don't know the yaoi #they don't know what it was like back when you had to dig for fantranslations from the local epub dealer in the alleyway

[thetimelordbatgirl]

Okay no joke, when talking about Marvel deciding the straights need rep in Marvel Pride 2024 with a friend on Discord, I straight up joked: "god imagine its a straight x-men next to a gay x-men just, "see??? they allies!"" And low and behold...that's what Marvel's straight allies covers actually are: straight character paired up with lgbt+ character. They literally were so desperate to represent the straight characters, they didn't even think of how to do the damn covers themselves. Hell, remove the 'MARVEL VOICES PRIDE' writing from both and would you even know this was for pride??? You literally wouldn't, because there's nothing to show that, not even a flag at least.

#marvel #anti marvel #marvel critical #though i joked two x-men characters #these covers are just random characters combined together #like i am very behind on comics but uh i dont think daredevil and rachel summers know each other #and i dont know if northstar and spidey are on daily speaking terms #like its funny cause people said on twitter if they really wanted to do this it should have been the allies with you know #lgbt+ friends or relatives or kids even #showing their support for them and such #but...no #its this #also i see they trying to insist peter parker is straight still #sorry we claimed him as bisexual a while back

[prolibytherium]

Absolutely death gripped clenched trying not to comment on reductive posts on ancient greek homosexual relationships

#It is neither wholly '0mg two gay guys in love!!' and 'I am humiliating and debasing a lower man by making a woman out of him' #There's heavy elements of that in how they conceptualized penetrator vs penetrated but the erastes (lover/protector) and eromenos (beloved) #relationship was significantly more complex than that #Like it is conceptualized as sort of a mentor/mentee relationship and a positive element for an adolescent's development #It was the subject of romantic plays and you get things like people in antiquity in heated debates over who is the #erastes and who is the eromenos between Achilles and Patroclus (to better depict them in plays) #The bottom line is more 'the socially accepted m/m relationships were (what we would now consider) an adult and a child #(or young man) with the age difference being a fundamental element to the dynamic.' #And more broadly being penetrated in sex assigned a 'lower' or 'womanly' role and it would not be conventionally accepted #for an older/more socially powerful man to recieve penetration (which certainly DID happen though) #So absolutely a moment in the history of male homosexuality and not something to just go 'ew ew bad evil ewwie' about but also #not something you want to project modern conceptions of LGBT identity upon #Also we know relatively little about relationships between women in ancient Greece due to lack of sources due to being a #highly patriarchal culture but we can't actually know that they did not involve similar power dynamic #Certainly not to the same extent or in such a well socially defined way (bc they conceptualize sex almost entirely through a lens of #penetration) but I think you should be treating relations between ancient Greek women with the same degree of #historical distance from our lives and identities today. #Ok death grip failed I just typed an entire rant. Fiuck it

[phooka-animation]

Hey guys, I finally got around to editing the final draft of the novel I wrote for NaNoWriMo 2021!

If you want to check it out, it's available as an ebook for £1.99 here :3

There's a blurb/summary for you to read on the page, but just for the hook: if you like cozy/low stakes summer fun, mermaids, selkies, sea monsters, confused bi girls, and fantasy that's kinda sorta set in the 'real' world then you might like Seaglass!

#self publishing #lgbt+ characters #mermay #mermay 2023 #young adult fiction #nanowrimo #phookawritestuff #happy early mermay! #it was a lot of work for a relatively short book but here it is! #ebook

[mushed-kid]

today i was talking to someone in my class about who we thought was the hottest man and my nb friend jokingly said me, and the girl we were talking to said something about that being rude kinda cause they said im a man, and my friend kept joking like ‘oh you know mush is trans right?’ and it was jokingly (and maybe a bit true) i’m not out, not even to my friends, but it’s as if they just know, i think they all just picked up on it yk. and the girl asked if i was and i wanted to say yes but i couldn’t so i said no while laughing and it passed, but i sat back down in my seat and regretted it. i just wish i was out but i can’t even admit it to someone that practically knows

#trans #😭 #💔 #ftm #coming out #lgbt #idk how #i just wish i was born a guy #or that i was 100% sure #i don’t trust myself enough to come out because im scared i’ll regret it #and itso scary telling people #id have to tell my relatives

[alinahdee]

"Identity is an evolving, shifting conversation with ourselves with who we are and who we were and who we want to be, with the lies we were forced to internalize and the lies we had to tell to survive."

-@aranock

#aranock #queer relativity #quotes #i loved this #going to repeat this like a mantra #identity #lgbt #Youtube

[uncanny-tranny]

Finally listened to Dylan Mulvaney's song and?? I don't get the negative hype about it, it was frankly a cute song. Also the "playin' catch-up 'cause we missed the pre-game" made me laugh, it was a good line. Dylan, you've done it again!

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #it just sounds like... a normal pop song. the only problem is the auto tune. i'm not against auto tune but whoever mixed it... #...did not make it seamless. i'm bad at recognizing auto tune but i could hear it #the thing that sucks is auto tune is now like... industry standard but nobody who is responsible for doing it seems to do it right #to me it's justa cute song about learning to appreciate and admire life and the women who helped. like it's pretty normal #i don't even follow dylan i just think she's. a relatively normal person as far as being a former theater kid can get you #if you were in theater or band your normal rating goes down at *least* a tier level. often more than one. ask me how i know. #anyway. listen to the song i think it's cute as hell. i'm always a sucker for songs about appreciation and gratitude

[yeet-me-out-tonight]

— F. Scott Fitzgerald

#a relatively simple edit for y'all #i hope u like it :)))) #blackbonnet #ed teach x stede bonnet #stede bonnet x blackbeard #ed teach #stede bonnet #ofmd #our flag means death #ofmdedit #ofmd art #lgbt

[deathshallbenomore]

giannamaria guarda che se vuoi criticare la cultura occidentale però non c’è bisogno di rinnegarla così tanto quasi al punto da fare marcia indietro pure sulla parità di genere. ché quella non fa così schifo, dai

#no in realtà il ragionamento che fa è necessariamente più complesso e condivisibile #e cioè ragiona sul modo in cui le politiche di integrazione dei paesi proposti siano in realtà discriminatorie #e basate su presupposti razzisti e neo-coloniali relativi alla superiorità della cultura occidentale #e pertanto all’imposizione a chi arriva di rinunciare alla cultura di provenienza per integrarsi del tutto #in tutto ciò figura anche una promozione dei diritti delle donne + lgbt etc che si rivela solo strumentale #poiché alle destre nazionaliste non gliene frega una mazza ma è pur sempre un ottimo espediente retorico per rafforzare la propria posizione #contro ‘l’Altro’ #e fin qui sono super d’accordo con quello che dice l’autrice. ci mancherebbe #solo che in alcuni passaggi mi pare abbondare eccessivamente nelle critiche alla cultura occidentale che certo. ha INFINITI problemi al suo #interno e figuriamoci poi nei rapporti con le altre culture #anche qui sono d’accordo con lei #MA non è che allora dobbiamo buttare via tutto. le conquiste relative ai diritti sono qualcosa su cui arroccarsi con le unghie e con i denti #è disgustoso razzista e ipocrita dire che x valori ci contraddistinguono e noi li incarniamo perfettamente mentre ‘Loro’ devono acquisirli? #assolutamente sì. proprio perché v. supra la cultura occidentale ha problemi anche con questo #detto ciò è auspicabile che una cultura dei diritti - anche quelli di matrice occidentale. elaborati certo grazie a un benessere di cui #abbiamo goduto anche a discapito di altri (e di ciò bisogna esserne consapevoli) #dicevo è auspicabile che una ampia e plurale cultura dei diritti si sviluppi e coinvolga tutti. secondo tempi modi e misure adeguati ma con #l’obiettivo di beneficiare tutti? io dico di sì in fin dei conti #non per tirare fuori il dibattito relativismo vs universalismo e non per fare la democristiana ma forse la via di mezzo tra un assoluto #relativismo e un aggressivo universalismo ha senso #boh è tutto molto interessante ci devo riflettere

[sophiegoose]

Anyway, free Palestine

#goosechatter #just in case it wasn't obvious #we don't support genocide around here #also plz preemptively fuck off if you want to call me antisemitic for this #my jewish ancestors and relatives are looking on in disgust #and before anyone says anything about Palestinians being “anti-LGBT” or whatever... #...first off not all of them are and there are in fact LGBT Palestinians getting slaughtered rn #...and idk if you know this but- #-I'd still save someone from getti g slaughtered even if they hated me #no one deserves what they're going through #anyway free palestine

[merinelsa]

Currently watching elkdtal and when sweety said she can't let her dad be the laughing stock of moga , I felt it . This is the truth , this movie gets it . Because you have these amazing parents who love you and sacrifice everything in their life for you to get the best life and best education and the most reputable career , who have given up their happiness and luxuries for you , and you just can't bring yourself to live the life you want , the life that could bring shame to your family . You're just so scared about what the society will think about your family and the values they taught you when you live an out and proud life . Like , I know our parents won't be a 100% accepting of us , but at times more than what they think the thing that keeps us , or at least me , from coming out is how my parents and their parenting will be perceived by my extended family and the times they'd have to bow their heads when talking about me and my life choices .

#you go anywhere and your whole life will be questioned by your relatives #and the moment you turn 20 you'll be pestered about plans for your future which translates to when you'll be married off #and that truly scares me the knowledge that I have less than 5 yrs to figure stuff out figure my life out #and seeing sweaty go through the same really hits close to home and just I love this movie #ek ladki ko dekha toh aisa laga #desi lgbt #incoherent ramblings

[theygender]

Did anyone else know that Demi Lovato came out as nonbinary?? They use they/them pronouns in english and elle in spanish

#nonbinary #demi lovato #trying to see if i can use my preferred pronoun elle in my college's spanish class #its an in person class and its conducted in spanish and like #of course id appreciate it if my professor and the other students would use the correct pronouns for me #but my main concern is since in spanish you have to conjugate nouns and adjectives to match the gender of the subject #i dont want to have to misgender myself for a grade... #anyways i was looking up articles from spanish lgbt orgs about nonbinary pronouns #bc i figured it might help if i can show the prof that elle is a relatively well established neopronoun in spanish #and one of them had a tweet from demi lovato coming out as nonbinary #im happy for them #y tambien estoy feliz porque probablemente ahora haya mas gente que esta familiarizada con el pronombre elle #anyways. i think ill reach out to the host of my colleges pride club to see if theyve had this come up in the past and if they can help me #they help people talk to their professors about using the correct pronouns in their english speaking classes so hopefully they can #i reached out in the pride clubs discord to see if anyone else is in a similar situation but no one has responded #even if no one has run into this issue before then at least i guess i can make it easier for the next person #rambling

[digitaldollsworld]

How do I go about the whole dating apps thing when you’re trans

#make no mistake I still wanna gnaw off my arm thinking about getting on apps again #but how do I go about it? I genuinely don’t think my brothers would care #but my bio sister? absolutely would. and I think my mom would #what if a relative sees my profile? #like I want to put Roman on my profile bc. that’s my Name. but I don’t wanna out myself #grrr…. anybody know some good lgbt apps. #rjb.net