#obviously everyone is different

[naofaun]

It's normal to feel jealous. In friendships, relationships, whatever. Jealousy is a very normal, very human emotion and most likely, it's telling you that a need of yours isn't being met. But sometimes jealousy just shows up randomly and makes itself known for no reason. Maybe you have the happiest relationship possible and you still get jealous. Maybe all of your needs, and more, are being met. That's okay.

Never be ashamed of jealousy. Never be ashamed of anger or sadness or fear. These emotions are not “bad”, there is no such thing as bad emotions. You cannot be completely free of them, and they do not inherently mean you or the other person(s) is abusive.

Listen to what your mind is telling you. If you're jealous every single time your friend hangs out with someone that's not you; why? Are you scared of your friend liking the person more than you? Are you scared that you're not worthy of your friend's time and energy? Are you scared that maybe the other person secretly hates you and plans to turn your friend against you?

Whatever it is, its okay. Don't listen to people telling you that “non-abusers don't get jealous”. Because they do. It's just about how they handle the jealousy. If you listen to your body and figure out the underlying fear or insecurity, you're already doing way more than most.

Sometimes you can talk to your friend about that fear. Sometimes you can explain to them that you feel afraid when they hang out with other people because you're insecure. Do not ever make it out to be their problem, like something they should fix. They can understand and do their best to help you, but do not ever demand or even let them drop these friends for you. Unless the friends are genuinely awful people (which you should then have an entirely different conversation about), it is your friend's right to keep them as friends.

But maybe you can come to a compromise. Maybe when your friend is done hanging out with someone, they can tell you about what they did. Maybe instead of an obligation, its like a “oh my god I had so much fun and I want to tell someone about it” thing. They get to talk about how much fun they had to someone that cares, and you get to know that these other people didn't try to turn your friend against you, or whatever your fear may have been.

Anyway, my overall point is; jealousy is okay and normal. It usually covers some sort of insecurity or fear, like how anger can cover sadness or hurt. It doesn't matter how often you feel jealous - I'm a very very jealous person but I have coping mechanisms and ways to help me when I get jealous so that I don't hurt the person I'm jealous of. I will always suggest mental health assistance like therapy or medication if it's available, but sometimes, its more about the way you treat your feelings and the communication you have with your friends.

#obviously everyone is different #journaling my feelings and telling myself that my friends are so awesome that they deserve other friends #will not help every single person that gets jealous #but as a polyamorous person who has bpd and forms fps on my partners most often #ive learned how to cope with my jealousy without becoming overbearing and mean #it took me nearly my entire teenage life and im still nowhere near perfection #this isnt an instant process and im never going to stop feeling jealous #but i can recognize when im jealous and why and i can work on feeling better about it #{ ♡ } nao : misc . . . #jealousy #jealous #relationships #relationship troubles #bpd #borderline personality disorder #npd #narcassistic personality disorder #i dont know how common jealousy is in npd but it sure affects me a lot so #umm #mental illness #mental health #mental health advice #mental health support #bpd help #bpd support

[front-facing-pokemon]

#sobble #now THIS was the starter that i chose in my actual playthrough of swsh. this little fucker was Basically my reintroduction to pokémon #bc as i've talked abt many times i had a long reprieve from pokémon during my teenage years and only got back into it #with the release of swsh. and this thing was the starter i chose at that time #subconsciously i think the reason i chose them is because i wanted to be subversive. right #i do this sometimes. for some reason. where i know there's an obvious option i wanna pick but i don't do it because i don't wanna be #“obvious” and choose the “obvious” choice that everyone knows i would pick so i pick a different‚ more obscure option for some reason #i did this with sobble over scorbunny. more recently i did it in every playthrough of bg3 i've ever done #where i've never played a dragonborn despite OBVIOUSLY KNOWING i would choose a dragonborn #because i don't wanna be too “obvious”. i dunno i should just play a dragonborn already. and i should just admit to liking cinderace

[unganseylike]

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“Love Like Ghosts" // The Raven Cycle

When your true love is destined to die, is already dead, or will always be leaving. And other moments of ghostliness. 

#finally this post that has been in the working for so long is up. Not perfect but its up #yes we have now escalated to full songs #a song about ghosts for which i have used no quotes about the canon ghosts #overall goal here was a section for each relationship #which made me realize blue has had a canonical thing with everyone but ronan lol #ignore the fact that i could only get good angsty pynch quotes from greywaren i was struggling to find what i wanted in trc #last part is intentional repetition of different versions of blue kiss me like we have the vision of the first hurt me baby and the actual #obviously huge bias here toward bluesey but thats bc. Well. its all for them <3 #overall happy with this because i feel like it actually encapsulates song and vice versa in terms of the love and ghost metaphor #anyway bluesey car scene said absent presence #lordhuroncycle #perhaps my last lordhuroncycle unless they release new song or i get inspired lol #long post #web weaving

[evelyn-art-05]

I really do hope that someday parents stop thinking their kids should learn English first, or really any local language, instead of their native tongue when living somewhere

My abuelito didn't learn Spanish first when he was young because his parents didn't want him to grow up "troubled", and so he never fully learned Spanish. And when they died, he ended up forgetting how to speak it at all! He couldn't teach it to my mom, and so my mom couldn't teach it to me, and so much of the culture that we would've had is gone because of that

It's so, SO incredibly important to have sole sort of connection to your family's culture, even just through language, especially when you live in an area where it's extremely lacking!! That entire side of my family has been feeling that disconnect for so long, and my mom has been trying to make up for it by learning every traditional dish she can because learning an entire language is so difficult for her at her age

Please don't think that your kids, or that you yourself, should learn the local most spoken language because it will be "easier." It's just going to make you grieve that connection you could've had

#obviously everyone's experiences can be different #i just know what mine is #visiting CA and seeing the HUGE amounts of mexican culture was INSANE for me #it was my first time ever seeing an advertisement fully in spanish #it was wild #ive learned a lot of spanish now and im going to join my mom in learning traditional dishes #but it still sucks knowing i didnt have it from the start and that i never really will u know #languages #culture #english

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

had a human au thought of Barnaby and Wally. idk doing their taxes or going through bills together since they share a house & Barnaby going "hey we could get married for tax benefits and health insurance. wait no what if i want to marry Howdy someday? it's illegal to be married to two people." Wally goes "we could get divorced" and Barnaby gets legitimately sad like:

#wally: uhhhhhh. um. i think i left the oven running #barnaby: YOU DONT BAKE- GET BACK HERE AND ANSWER THE QUESTION #in human au barnaby's ideal world he can marry both his platonic life-partner And the love of his life #but the american government says No smh #my heart goes out to polyams everywhere #fuckkkkk getting unwell about this aus barnaby and wally again everyone #like i have so many different little plot lines and mini aus for the au #like what if there was a covid arc? #in my mind lockdown happens while wally is Elsewhere #so he cant exactly get back home! and obviously no one is happy about that but wally is dealing well enough #but barnaby's like 🥺 my lil buddys out there all on his own and im alone here so im gonna call him every day #(also i like to think that howdy spends lockdown w/ barn or vice-versa but this aint about that) #wally: vibing #barnaby: a bit of a wreck #absolutely unprompted #wh modern human au #but then also Angsty Thoughts of yo when they all get old uhhh who dies first #and In My Mind! they both die within a few days of each other #maybe barnaby goes first and wally just. pines away. broken heart syndrome babey! #also having soft thoughts of them when they first became friends #barnaby taking him to the farm and introducing him to the animals <3 #wally trying to help out with morning chores after a sleepover <3 #ms. beagle absolutely adoring wally and always having his favorite snacks In Stock for whenever he comes by <3 #that one time barnaby broke somebody's jaw for going a little too far w/ insulting wally & almost got expelled <3 #mannn they're so! honestly goals #oh and later on when they have their own place wally having his own lil art studio #and barnaby continuing to be his go-to muse <3 #wally probably has so much fuckign art of barnaby lmao #OHHHHH AND THE CAR CRASH ARCCCCC DONT EVEN GET ME FUCKIGN STARTED #EMOTIONS CENTRAL THAT IS

[cuepickle]

Stranger Things x Breakfast Club AU (part ?)

#hopper is Vernon in this AU because damn them kids #billy is obviously Bender cause I mean #duh #Steve is Claire cause he’s princess s1 Steve who’s constantly trying to fit in and impress everyone #and then we get to the others #and we’re changing it up #cause we know the breakfast club explores the different challenges teens face #and tries to stereotype them etc #just hear me out cause I haven’t fully fleshed it out #but Jonathan is the weirdo quiet kid who billy mostly leaves alone because he isn’t pretending to be someone else #and Jonathan’s at home problems are his daddy issues and the (sometimes extreme) overprotectiveness of joyce #Robin is here #she’s GAY GAY GAY #I’m still trying to figure out her problems at home #something that causes her to make fun of people/push them away as a defence mechanism #and then there’s Nancy #who’s so afraid of becoming her mother #who everyone thinks is in a happy nuclear family #but she knows it’s all bullshit #and she’s so worried she’s gonna end up like that too #anyway #those are my rough hcs for this AU #my art #doodle of the day #stranger things #billy hargrove #traditional art #Jonathan byers #Jim hopper #breakfast club au

[deoidesign]

if i may ask, is it difficult at all to re-edit/organize the comic pages from the webtoon format to fit the graphic novel format?

on another note, I'm so happy that your kickstarter was funded!!! I love time and time again, im so excited to see this all happen <3

I'll just turn this ask into something of a guide for the process! Because yes, it is difficult, but there are also many ways I have been preparing from the beginning for this very situation to make things easier for me!

I've worked in both print and scroll in the past, and have done this transition once before for a short story, so I already had familiarity both with my goals for print, and struggles with the transition!

How I prepared from the beginning for this transition:

1: My panels are 2500 pixels wide, so they can span my page (which is 8.3x5.8 inches) at 350 DPI (which is print quality)

2: My layers are organized: Text, FX, Foreground, Characters, Background

3: I draw one very large (twice as big as any panel would be, minimum) background for my major locations, as well as drawing furniture assets in isolation. This not only saves me time when making my actual episodes, but it also offers me INCREDIBLE flexibility when making this transition to print.

These 3 things let me pull the character art to the page by itself, scale it up or down to fit my panel, and then fill in the background behind the character.

So, I read the scroll version, decide how many and which panels I want on the page for the pacing (I also keep page spreads and page turns in mind while I am doing this), and then I pull those panels over from the scroll version to the page.

Then, I make the panel borders/page layout that I want, fit the character art into it, paste in the backgrounds, do any art editing that I need, add FX, and then re-do the text!

Sometimes I do need to draw parts that are missing (shoulders or elbows getting cut off is an extremely common one) and sometimes I need to adjust facial expressions, cut panels, or rearrange panels to make things read more clearly. Since it's my comic already, I know how to do these things while maintaining the original intent, but if I were working with someone else's comic I would need to work closely with them to know what can and can't be cut.

(original panel vs an expanded version)

Another common issue is that VERY tall panels will inevitably lose a lot of information when they’re turned to pages. Identify the purpose of the panel (pacing, showing a lot of detail, etc) and then replicate that with your page layout.

examples (in order) are: scene transition, being overwhelmed, suspense, and establishing shot. All of these were a single panel in the scroll version!

Another issue when converting pages is that panel order is a lot less straightforward than when starting from print format. Conversational back and forth that's fine in scroll often messes up the flow of reading in a page (characters facing out, not looking at eachother from panel to panel, etc) and so some creative solutions are necessary to keeping the reading order.

For the first page I had to delete and rearrange some panels, and in the second the dialogue bubbles guide us to read this page in a circle. (dialogue guides through a lot of my pages lol)

And the last really common issue that pops up is that height differences can be really difficult. Usually in print this is solved with clever angles, but I’ve already drawn everything. So, I’ll either resort to vertical shaped panels, panel pop-outs, or editing a character up or down to fit into the panel.

(examples in order)

So, yes, it is difficult! But I have a lot of experience with both formats, and having prepared for this from the beginning I've been able to make the transition a LOT more smoothly than I otherwise could have.

I hope this helps!

And, thank you about the kickstarter! I'm extremely excited I'll be able to print these, the proofs I've received so far look just absolutely stunning and I'm so so so excited to get to send them to people!!!

Obligatory self promo, if you want to see the kickstarter page and get these four books for yourself, then you can check it out here ^^ It's been funded, so at this point we're just reaching stretch goals and placing orders!

#asks #anon #art tips #comic tips #web comics #comic books #comic advice #also this is just my own experience obviously everyone works differently and I cant promise this will work for you too #but doing things this way I've been able to finish about an episode (15 pages or so) every day #so it's been extremely swift (though also of course a ton of work) #thank you past me for making this so easy!!! #it'd easily take 5x as long without the prep I did!!!

[mousy-nona]

I truly believe that Alastor is scarier than Lucifer? Like ofc Lucifer is stronger and all that power scaling-wise, considering he's literally the Biggest Bad Of All Time, but this version of Lucifer has expressed how disappointed he is in humans because they're bad. I don't think he's the type to kill or go all Machiavelli on someone unless he really, really needs to. He's shown as an optimistic, kind, generally good-hearted and goofy guy.

But on the other hand you have Alastor, who kinda makes up his own rules as he goes. Like you've seen him be super nice when he wants to, but that's not his default setting. He likes to eat people?? He's LITERALLY a serial killer?? He has no limits other than the ones he puts on himself, and that's an actual villain.

So yeah yeah Lucifer is strong enough to like cause a nuclear winter but it doesn't really matter because he'll never use it!!

Anyway what I'm saying is that if Alastor were ever to get into a radioapple-style thing with Lucifer I'm pretty sure he could play the king of hell like a fiddle and destroy all of hell if he wanted to. And that's terrifying, and that's why he's scarier than Lucifer.

okay rant over!!!

#and that's kinda hot ngl #radioapple #sorry rant over #late(ish) night rambles #just my opinion!! obviously everyone has different ideas! #but putting thoughts down on paper helps sometimes #hazbin hotel #now back to your regularly scheduled fanfic programming

[findejournee]

i have so many thoughts abt the watcher thing but so many more about ppl comparing it to what dropout did and i need time to write an entire essay on how these are completely different circumstances and explain why ppl welcomed dropout with open arms while being very put off with watcher's announcement

#erismblings #dropout #watcher #the main difference is that dropout is collegehumor #and collegehumor has been around since 1999 #they had YEARS to establish themselves in the mainstream #and when it was announced that it'd be closing ppl were obviously upset #they werent just wanting to have full control of their content and money #dropout was literally the only way sam could save everyone's jobs

[abushelandablog]

Christian Horner with “Mercedes”

Christian Horner with “Ferrari”

#its all about leclerc #hes one of us fr #christian horner #obviously he is a flawed man but hes lestappie no.1 so #altho like obviously he wants max to win bc thats his team but its still funny #the difference in how he treats them #and fred vs toto #like hmmm #f1 #charles leclerc #max verstappen #max x charles #lestappen #he knows #every one is a Ferrari fan? #no everyone is a charles fan #and lestappie #the fact seven time world champion lew got distracted #and george #the entire grid is just as captivated as we are dhjk #otp: just an incident

[daylighteclipsed]

Sora’s stupid but well-meaning cartoon brothers/dads/uncles: don’t be sad :) always stay positive

Sora young and impressionable: I will never let you see me sad again or talk about it with you ever, heroes are always cheerful and you don’t wanna hang out with me if I’m not, my sadness is an inconvenience to everyone, got it, I am internalizing this forever

#i go from having no new drafts to like 14 in a day #kingdom hearts #sora #donald #goofy #as much as i do wanna smack the cartoon duck and dog for this i enjoy that they are flawed #they don’t mean for their words to come across this way #they don’t realize sora’s getting a different message than just ‘cheer up’ #they don’t mean any harm by it but i definitely believe they are a big reason why sora becomes a stepford smiler #why he’s unwilling to talk about his feelings especially with them #why he forces cheer and silliness #that kh2 potc scene is so… hurjthrhdhs like ohh my god. it could not be more obvious #and donald and goofy don’t press him about it when they Should #they drop it every time #or sometimes they just straight up don’t ask if sora’s okay #when he is obviously not #coupled with as the series progresses how everyone else also expects sora to always be cheery #you’ve got a real mess haha… it’s such a mess #it sure is interesting revisiting kh1 and seeing how different sora is

[keithle]

that meme about red dead redemption 2 where it's like "how women dress arthur vs how men dress arthur" is a good example of the female and male gaze i think

#like i find it so fascinating?? #as a woman i love my men vulnerable and gentle #like arthur gently picking up flowers? yes #bathing regularly #dressing nicely #and greeting people #like obviously it doesn't apply to everyone #and there are lots of players #and different ways to enjoy the game! #but i think it's a good example #red dead redemption 2 #arthur morgan #female gaze #male gaze #rdr2

[onehopefuldreamer]

All Stray Gods Romance Endings

Persephone

Freddie

Pan

Apollo

#stray gods #stray gods: the roleplaying musical #stray gods grace #stray gods persephone #stray gods freddie #stray gods pan #stray gods apollo #grace x whoever you prefer #these are done in the order i went for them obviously #but i genuinely love all of these images #so i wanted to have them all in one place #i love that they're all different #but at the same time each has one image where they're lovingly gazing in each other's eyes #and i positively adore all the handholding #the kisses are all wonderful too #to sum up no regrets i did everyone's route once #persephone will stay my personal fave forever but i think it's great there is a romance option for pretty much everyone in this game #also grace is a short queen and we love her for it

[konfizry]

She is so

#tales of the abyss #friend has been streaming undub abyss and boy what a game #all the stuff i forgot about + the nuances and whimsy brought about by the jp voice acting is such a treat #could this be the funniest tales of game??? #like really all the pre-akzeriuth stuff. it never stops. they're constantly being silly. #you can tell the writers were (justifiably) scared you'd drop the game because of all the exposition and fon-babble #but it works??? honestly?? and the jokes also tell you a lot about the characters obviously #everyone has their own way of dealing with the human disaster that is Luke and it's such a joy to witness #uuuhhh anyway whens the remake coming out (theres no remake coming out) #also big shout out to the uuhh character animations?? it's very lively and unapologetically cartoonish #and then theres the. the everything. the theeeeeeemes. so many theeeeemes. how did they fit all these different themes

[stellarspecter]

okay i don't know if the hyperfixation will hold long enough for me to actually write this but au where everything is the same but the waylon house is just a bit more structurally sound. max doesn't die and is like 'thanks for this guys, is that the whole party or?' and everyone just sort of looks at each other like. well we don't want to anger him so what can we say but yes. and so the nerds and max end up hanging out for a night in the waylon house and the worst thing that happens is grace chastity is tempted to have a beer for the first time (she doesn't though. but with max offering it's very hard for her to refuse. or focus lol) max keeps giving them weird backhanded compliments like 'wow you guys are way cooler than you look, how'd that happen' which is not the best but it's way better than being beat up for daring to be in his line of sight, so they'll take it.

so they all hang out for the night, max is like weirdly chill and friendly, eventually he leaves and they're left standing outside the waylon house like. ?? what the fuck??? did we just befriend max jagerman???? the nerds are still apprehensive considering pete still has a black eye, grace is still boiling with religious zeal and repressed lust, and steph still doesn't really like him, but they can't help but remember how he said that trying to prank him was the nicest thing someone's ever done for him. and that just can't be true, considering he's literally the star quarterback and the main character of hatchetfield high, but.... the fact that he felt like it enough says a lot, doesn't it?

so they decide to leave the prank footage to gather dust and figure this was probably the best outcome they could have hoped for. who knows what they'll walk into at school tomorrow? maybe max will become a friend.

#and he does :) #nerdy prudes must die #npmd spoilers #npmd #i just. the brainworms. they're in me #if anything it would just be a oneshot i'm not trying to rewrite the show or anything #but like yeah max joins the friend group :) #do you ever think about how genuinely touched he was that they basically made him his own haunted house? #that shit was exposure therapy and they didn't even know it #and like dear god 'this is the nicest thing anyone's ever done for me'??? lines to go crazy about forever!!!! #bc like he's popular he's a star everyone knows him but no one's nice to him? do we know anything about his family? #and like obviously he's an asshole so like yeah why would people be nice to him if he's such a dick #but like.... consider this: babygirl #he was really endearing in that minute between being pranked and dying ok? #he was like a totally different person the minute the social pressure was gone #ok ok enough tag rambling. if enough people want this i will actually write it #*speaks

[fluffydice]

Shoutout to that one panel where Kuboyasu is like “I’ve never looked twice at a woman before.” Like okay, homoie

Also even funnier because he’s like “Don’t give into your urges!!” When he sees Teruhashi. Like, it’s okay dude you think she’s pretty. Even Saiki does. It’s fine bro.

#kuboyasu is very tense around girls because he doesn’t ever interact w them and wants to be a gentleman me thinks #but like also. there is a very big difference between how everyone else thinks ab her (gross. objectifying. ew) #and how he does (kind of sweet-ish. very obviously nervous ab it) #goes hand in hand w the headcanon of ‘kuboyasu is terrified of gorgeous people’ #I used to think of him as bi but honestly I’m leaning more toward #gay now I think #he does experience attraction to teruhashi though…might be an asthetic thing with her though #think they could kiss and he’d relatively enjoy it but only in the way someone enjoys physical contact with a close friend #saiki k #fluffy cooks a headcanon