#something about trans joy

[rubarb69]

Theres something so special about cutting your own hair; maybe it is uneven and choppy, and maybe it does frame your face poorly. But its still uniquely yours. Self actualization or something

#poetry #something about trans joy #maybe #idk #only you have to wake up with yourself every day #be happy with who that person is #plus. the choppy at-home look is in.... right? #and like if you say you slay and serve then you will. even if your hair is a botched mess #infact it might add to it #its a silly goofy element #ive spent my whole life being considerate #being palatable #and even still #people are disgusted by me #so why try #why not be myself 100% of the time #if people are gonna call me a freak i might as well put on a show

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

#this quote always moves me almost to tears when i remember it #i'm not a trans woman and i don't share the author's specific experiences with transition #but it really moves me that she frame transition as joyfully giving yourself permission to approach your body #not as something that has to be disciplined and deprived and made small in all these various ways #but as a means for experiencing pleasure and joy and delight and for insisting that our feelings and desires are worth #valuing and exploring and treasuring #i always used to think of prioritizing those things for myself as selfish and irresponsible #but who does it harm to want to experience pleasure in your own body? #it's such a beautifully simple and powerful switch to have flip in your head #and equally why are we forced to deny our own pleasure in transition and anything else related to our bodies in the name of moral rectitude #this is why i get so confused and pissed off when other trans people are fatphobic for example #like why are you so invested in politics of shame and disgust that never had any purpose other than #violently disciplining people as if they've violated moral codes by existing in a body #to say nothing of white people being racist in gay and trans communities #like again this system of violence is foundational to homophobia and transphobia #so why are you acting like it has nothing to do with you #even if you are unmoved by the urgency of other people's suffering which btw you should be moved by #what do you hope to gain by acting a collaborator and handmaiden to those systems #Casey Plett #she really is one of my favorite authors i wish more non-canadians read her #this quote is from a series of columns she did ont transition and every single one is a banger #i love when she talks about the people-pleasing elements of dysphoria and transition denial #she's so sharp about noting how many of us deny our own dysphoria on the grounds that others like and validate our bodies #that's how i always felt during my cis conventionally feminine era #it pleased other people so much and also that reception felt so hollow and joyless to me because i hated it #i get less of that positive feedback but that feels so unimportant next to the joy and pleasure i get to experience #said with the understanding that i'm very privileged in being able to prioritize those things without fear. but it was a switch flip #personal nonsense

[beastwhimsy]

dress up!!

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#bluey #mackenzie bluey #mackenzie border collie #you can interpret this through any lens you wish!! #bluey fanart #mackenzie bluey fanart #something something wish I had experienced trans joy as a kid #this was inspired by how everyone thought he was a girl because of his name #so I went. what if she WAS a girl #transphobes if you even touch this post I am exploding you ok? #’he’s a child’ yeah. so was every trans person on earth #’kids are too young to be exposed to-‘ no!! if I had known about queerness as a child things would’ve made a lot more sense

[spaceytrash]

Alex and Greg using they/them pronouns for Mae without problem, like the non issue it really always should be. As if I couldn't love Takmaster even more. This show is genuinely the best thing that has ever happened to television in my opinion

#taskmaster #taskmaster series 15 #alex horne #greg davies #mae martin #like it's funny how such a small act of something that should be normal tbh and a whole non issue still fills me with joy #especially with the currwnt climate about anything trans related and all #I just love it #and yes it's sad that the bare minimum of human decency is not always a given and that you have genuine happy moment when they are

[gaypiratebrainrot]

so so honestly genuinely i love being trans. i have absolutely zero desire to be cis, because being trans is such an insane joy. like, the idea that being trans involves wishing you were cis is alien to my personal experience atm because i love being trans so much and no part of my trans experience rn is wishing i was cis of any kind. i fucking love being transexual, i love transitioning, i love being on testosterone, i love that every day i gain greater understanding of my gender and gender itself and take delight in my body, both how it is and how it's changing. while i wish the whole "legislate us out of existence" thing was not such a thing, i actually give zero fucks if anyone understands my trans-ness and my gender, because i get it and it fills me with the most gorgeous affirmation of life and human-ness and the mysterious unfathomably complex strangeness of the universe, and i don't need anyone else to understand it for me to just be it, and i get to be it every day, and i fuckin love it

#trans #trans joy #i've been chewing on a whole thing about how my gender is transexual #but articulating it is still wobbly #but something like #i wish i had a dick but i don't actually wish i had a dick #my gender is wishing i had a dick #the dick yearning is part of the gender itself #and my transexual body is the one that gives me euphoria #not a cis male body that i do not have and do not want #except in the ways i do want it #but those are part of the gender

[halothanic]

some little fanarts for @wispstalk since his work "idle in their thrones" has absolutely captured me. i'll be so sad when i finish reading, it's been a daily treat for me for the past week or so. i love tanis so much lol, but i just had to draw coradri too!

my bestie @ieillorien got me into TES by osmosis last year and i just haven't been able to get oblivion (OR MARTIN) off my mind, especially their interpretation of it, along with their oc. it's been a true treat swapping gay star-crossed high fantasy love stories (whew, what a mouthful) and i'm so glad they pointed me in the direction of this work. i'm convinced having summits on this stuff is one of the finer things in life and i never take it for granted

#the elder scrolls #tes oblivion #tes oc #wispstalk #my art #the elder scrolls oblivion #dunmer #bosmer #erm.. i'm out of my depth here with tagging again i have just learned all the terms from the fic and my friend LOLLLL #i honestly love getting into something without playing it it's so fun. no amount of playing would ever bring me as much joy as #hearing about my friends' experiences and fun and ideas #just my onion #and the fic is just so fucking good.. mind on another level truly.. thank u for the trans guy characters i was losing it at that #i could rave forever about it but i need to stop writing tags nowwww

[glownery]

wishing everyone who celebrates a happy easter and an even happier transgender day of visibility 🐣🪩🫶🪽

#went to church with my mom for the first time in years just because we thought it could be fun (it was!) and im thinking about. themes #resurrection and rebirth belongs to trans and nonbinary people and if i was going to pray i would thank god for making me queer !!! #the middle picture is from a disco themed university party we had on (holy) thursday where i had So much fun #(the crucifix earring was Mostly ironic and for the aesthetic) #been experiencing a lot of queer joy lately. as well as some new and complicated but Good feelings about gender. and maybe religion as well #anyway. #easter #religion #gender #tdov #trans day of visibility #lgbtq #queer #mine #💛 #religion mention #christianity mention #<- just in case people dont want to see anything to do with religion in the trans tags today (or ever) !! <3 sorry if i missed something #edit: i originally also had a quote from julian k. jarboe here about humanity partaking in the act of creation #but i didnt realize the quote was from a jewish person regarding judaism so i removed it from the association with easter and christianity #the quote itself slaps​ and idk to what degree different religions and discussions or art about them should be kept separated !! #but im not the authority on that and ofc dont want to make anyone uncomfortable !!

[cryptidfuckery]

Actually my favorite thing about being a queer hairdresser and having been queer for like over a decade is that I've gotten to have so many convos with so many different people with different journeys through queerness and getting to be a conduit to share them

Notably today I was talking with a client about their hesitation to go on t, and one of their main worries is about being able to have children later on. And I got to tell them about another client I have, a 40-some-odd trans nonbinary person who, within their t4t relationship, was the one to bear children years after having been on t. I got to explain what that could look like, but their best bet is that if they ever do decide to pursue it, it's something they should bring up with their doctor/endocrinologist or seek our trans forums etc

And the joy I get from it is from getting someone to realize that it isn't some stupid set in stone trajectory, the whole process is supposed to be about what you, you specifically, need from your body. No one else!

#i love!! imparting trans joy on people #is something i stress so much when i get a freshly cracked egg in my chair bc they always are so nervous #and usually p deep in their dysphoria #and i get to remind them that the whole process isn't about feeling awful about yourself and hearing yourself. it's about getting in tune #with who you really are #and what you want out of life #and its about finding real true joy in yourself and finding love in yourself and learning how to use it on yourself #its about community and love and life and i love being trans a lot!! #the world is your very own choose your own adventure and that includes your body

[maeshelix]

Am I really so vain that I'll seriously consider getting into a fighting game just because they have a transfem character in it now?

#guilty gear #gg #bridget #bridget guilty gear #in all seriousness i dont know why her arcade mode dialogue hit me so hard but it legit did #something about the way she says 'because... i'm a girl' just brings me so much joy #something about the way this is handled in the arcade mode with so much support and thought #i dont even know. the way they handle this is so fucking good!!! how the two other characters verbally support her and encourage her #i cant put these thoughts into words i just #if i wasnt already sure i was trans the dialogue for bridgets arcade mode would have crakced my egg wide open thats all ill say #shit punched through my mental armor like an anti-tank round through balsa wood

[jamisonwritestf2trash]

Trans people are eternal, and to see so many people talk about it brings me joy.

#today was a good day for trans joy in the tf2 community regardless of how it started #in my opinion #sorry if its annoying that i keep posting but #something about this makes me happy.

[teplejtrouba]

i have managed to actually do a hobby for the first time in months. yippee

#executive dysfunction and depression are kicking my ass #like severely. i am apathetic about everything and so so tired. things that brought me the most joy are no longer available to me #like. i love you so much you are so important to me but i no longer have the ability to care or do anything about it #things i love the most are behind a glass door that i can't unlock. or break. #sewing and embroidery especially are like. things i very much love and aspire to do but they are SO time and energy consuming #i don't have the patience #i stayed up till 4 am listening to lenka králová's interviews with trans people and it made me a little hopeful #currently transition doesn't really feel possible and i kind of just want to die so. hearing from others who made it was important #i also appreciated the comments #because a lot of them are from cis people. who didn't really know things about trans people but are learning thanks to lenkas channel #and after hearing a bit about our lifes their reaction is usually to applaud the strength we have. to be ourselves #and it's heartwarming to read. that there are people who learn. and can empathise in some way. that not everyone hates us #'you only have one life and no one else is going to live it for you. so you better be yourself' or something along that was in one of them #most of the comments under every video are just people saying how beautiful Lenka looks and yeah. true #i love her

[shitpostingkats]

I know it's probably been pointed out already, but the fact that music only plays in Nimona when she's transformed/comfortable. All the chase scenes. Her cooking at the lair. The dance party.

The soundtrack is the sound of Nimona being alive.

#we all know the story of the painful agony of the trans #what about the discomfort of the trans? #the little mundane feeling of not quite right #you know that moment right before you sneeze? It's like that #also the fact that the flashback has gloriana's song #not Nimona's usual genre but something soft and sweet #and then that song still playing when. #yeah. #Because Nimona has taken the sound of her being alive and decided the only way to take control is to end it #the trans GRIEF and the trans JOY in this movie #nimona #nimona movie #nimona film #nimona netflix

[thornhawthorne]

Would you consider this look tradgoth, or...?

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#pre-FFS #trad goth #goth clowns only #my face #trans #transgender #I look at my older work and I definitely had something going but also I was completely out of my mind #that's so sexy of me tbh #trans pride #trans joy #eugh I'm gonna tag this as trans girl even though I'm nonbinary pls be normal about it #trans girl #I may have already posted this one too lol but ummMMMMMMMM #my photos

[tricoufamily]

once again thinking about how easy it would be for me to be in a relationship if i was cis

#cis woman cis man either way #dude in the neighborhood has a crush on me telling me i'm beautiful like 'thanks! i will go home and cry now' #i fucking hate being trans i wish i wasn't lol #and sometimes i feel like i can't talk about this anywhere bc in a lot of trans spaces it's like. taboo? to express anything but positivity #as if me being honest about how i feel about myself is somehow how i feel about every single trans person jesus christ but whatever whateve #like listen peace and love but i need you to do me a favor and promise me you will not come at me with any 'transness should be about joy' #i know you mean well i know you're right. but transness for me /is/ pain and sorrow. that's all it's ever caused me my entire life #you have to remember that i'm from rural appalachian tennessee with a transphobic family #some of the most deeply rooted self hating repression for years just for. more honest self hatred #i've never admitted this before but i've considered detransitioning and repressing because of transphobia many times #i'm not brave i'm not strong i'm not trying to make some grand statement or be the voice of a generation. i just want to Be. you know #i just got really really unlucky #but i can't repress. i know that would be even more miserable so i'm just. trapped. forever #who i want to be forever out of reach like tantalus or something i don't know #i want to be loved #or maybe i should just watch the batman again

[gothwizardmagic]

i had a really convoluted super vivid dream last night and in part of it abigail philosophytube burned down my house as part of making a video and like. ms. tube im so honoured you had me as a guest in your video but i did actually need that to live in

#she did also build a swimming pool in my backyard so thanks for that one #it wasnt even an arsonist character bit or anythign she just burned down my house like :) yayyyyy <3 #i think it was a video about trans joy or something and she was like. ill pay for your top surgery!!!!! #thanks girl i did need that quite badly but i also needed like. the house

[beetrans]

not to Disk Horse re CT @normal-horoscopes' post yesterday but they remain completely right -- I don't think terfs can even imagine that when I wake up, walk my dog, go to work, etc., ppl largely just. Don't care?

Like my body is clearly one you get only by transing your gender in a very queer way, and that's not a problem! Trans folks aren't terrifying. No one faints at the sight of me. I use the least busy washroom and no one's harmed! Kids on the street just wanna pet my dog! If someone misgenders me, they're corrected and move on! Most people -- myself included -- aren't constantly assessing gender.

TERFs/radfems/""gender criticals"" and fascists (and tbh, where's the line) are the only ones so passionately obsessed with policing gender and stamping out diversity. Most people -- even ignorant people, who've never (knowingly) met a trans person before -- are normal about it.

Transphobes are losing, and they will lose, because trans people will always exist. We'll always find ourselves, build community, live our lives, and people around us will be fine.

You ideologues will keep cataloguing skull measurements and q ratios and joylessly hyperanalyzing each other's bodies.

We'll keep living.

#terfblr #radfem #TERFs #gender essentialism #txt #sorry bout the Disc Horse but I'm just #Wow they really are Like That huh #incredibly deranged behaviour #and hey fellow trans folks: we're fine #go have fun with your genders #respectability isn't something to worry about #find joy first then deal with your worksona #and don't bother w transphobes till you have a thicker skin #T