#tw parental neglect

[a-really-big-cat]

I feel as though I see this sentiment more, with a lot of ambiguity about whether people are taking it seriously or not, and I should urge fellow autists against it:

We are not really fae folk.

We are not really changelings.

We are not aliens either.

Like, I get it, it's a fun metaphor and thought exercise, and a fascinating look into past neurodivergent culture. I too find the idea intriguing (to an extent). But I legit get concerned that many people are taking it too far and actually trying to seriously identify as "non-human". Maybe this is (ironically enough) me being autistic and taking online jokes as being unironic statements, but it is legit concerning.

This is a dangerous narrative to lean into for autistic culture. Do you know how many eugenicists and ableists there are in the present day who would love to take advantage of a narrative that we don't count as human? Do you know how many charismatic ideologues might realize that the whole esoteric "faery child/supernatural being" aesthetic is ripe ground for starting their own abusive cults, recruiting disadvantaged and neglected autistic people who want to have a supportive community and think they're "too smart" to fall for manipulation tactics like that because they're "independent free spirits"? Do you know how many neglectful parents would love to blame supernatural entities for their child's behaviour so that they don't have to get their child a proper diagnosis and the actual help they need, or that would deflect by saying "my child doesn't need help, he/she's just a special ✨faery child✨"? We already went through the indigo children and vaccine junk, we really don't need yet another supernaturalization/pseudosciencing of autism to set us back further.

We are rational human beings like everyone else, just with unique experiences of life's various stimuli, unique ways of communicating, and unique neural anatomy, all of which means that we sometimes need some support and understanding. And that's how we ought to be treated.

#new age bullshit is bad for autistics and for everyone #it destroys critical thinking and rationality #and leads people to believe in some seriously damaging things that have knock-on effects on those who are dependent like children #actually autistic #autistic adult #autistic community #neurodivergent #tw ableism #tw cults #tw parental neglect #fae #changeling #autism

[ravenwitch45]

Can you make a part two to your m&m parent headcannon where they meet their parents and the parents what their kid back and the reader has a panic attack

Oh god well this is some drama for sure, AND a panic attack, full disclosure I've never written a panic attack before, but I'll try my best cause I like this idea. Sorry for the delay on answering.

M&M Meeting Reader's Parents who want "their kid" back and cause Reader to have a panic attack.

It was just a day at the office, Blitz and Loona were out doing something so it was just the three of you, chatting while doing menial stuff as a family would when the door bursts open, a very done up woman strutting in angrilly, followed by a much more messily dressed man, who seems very grumpy being here compared to the woman.

"Y/N! So this is where you've skulked off to, without telling us may I remind you!"The Woman rants crossing her arms, your eyes going wide at their presence "M-Mom? Dad?! What are y-"

"Mother and Father Dear, Be respectful, least you can do after this stunt..."The Snooty woman interjects bitterly, making you frown, looking away, unable to get a word in.

"Y/N here was being respectful, now what are you doing here? This is a buisness establishment, you can't just barge in."Moxxie points, crossing his arms, glaring at the woman

"I'm here for my child, and this is a family matter, so butt out"She replies with a sneer, looking back to you, only for Millie to get up and stand between you too.

"Well you haven't seemed interested in them at all for literal months, you can't walk in like you own them all of a sudden"The wrath Imp notes, her tail flicking aggresively, your birth mother tensing up in annoyance before her husband put a hand on her shoulder

"Look theres no need for this. Y/N... Your mother wants you to come back, she has a position at her firm she thinks you can fill, you should do what she wants."He states tiredly, his wife nodding

"Yes, should be easy enough so that even you can manage dear~"She says passive aggresively, making both Imps glare at her further before you explode

"B-But... No! I don't want to work with you, you can't just ignore me in favor of arguing with eachother and then come back just cause you think I can make you more money to spend on yourselves! I left you guys for a reason!"You state angrilly, finally having the courage to say that with your actual loving parents at your side. Your mother's eyes twitching.

"Oh no..."Your father whispers, looking at his wife in fear

"You BASTARD PARASITE! I give up so much for you and you throw it all back in my face, now you are going to come with us, and EARN some goddamn worth, cause as usual you prove you have none! I should have thrown you away like the trash you act like!"The woman rants loudly, almost loud enough to hurt as tears prick at your eyes and you start shaking, putting your hands on your head to block out the echoing screams, breathing heavily

"Y/N...?"Moxxie says, looking to you and putting his hands on your shoulders in concern, as Millie bares her teeth at your abusers

"Crybaby, come along al-"Your mother states snobilly, reaching for you before Millie slaps it away, hard

"There not going anywhere with you! You toxic bitch! You are going to leave and if you any smarts in that pretty head of yours, you won't come back for OUR CHILD!"Millie yells angrilly, pulling out her knife, just making the woman scoff as her husband tried to tell her to leave, but was swiftly ignored

"They are-"She begins before a bullet wizs past her face, cutting a hole in her finely done hair and she's stunned silent as she looks at Moxxie, holding his kid close with one arm and the other holding a smoking gun as he glares at her

"They aren't your child , you don't deserve the gift they are if your going to treat them like this, and you wonder why they left you..."The Weapons expert says with aged bitterness, readying another shot before the woman screams and storms out, her husband quickly following after another growl from Millie.

The two immediately shifting gears to trying to calm you down while trying not to crowd you, just wanting to assure you, you are safe and loved and safe from them. In the back of their heads there considering figuring out a restraining order or whatever to make sure they don't disturb you ever again. Holding you close and softly.

Okay there it is! I am SO sorry this took so long, I was just having trouble figuring this one out as well as some other stuff going on that delayed me getting to this. I jut hope you enjoy it XP

#ask reply #helluva boss #helluva boss x reader #platonic x reader #gn reader #tw parental issues #tw parental abuse #tw parental neglect #helluva moxxie x reader x helluva millie #helluva moxxie x reader #helluva millie x reader #tw panic attack #I really hope I did that one okay

[inkdemon-whore]

Audrey gives Bendy #1 Dad mug? I crave dilf ink demon and baby child Audrey.

mmm.... mask slip moment.... :)

#batim #batdr #ink demon #audrey drew #favorite!audrey #daddy ink demon au #comic #art #dec2022 #2022 #:) -hurts you hurts you hurts you- #Lore #ink trauma #ink verbal abuse #tw parental neglect

[traumatizedjaguar]

IM NOT A BAD DOG BAD DOG BAD DOG BAD DOG

#traumacore #my trauma edits #ventcore #angercore #ragecore #hatecore #traumatizedjaguar #trauma dog #traumajaguar #tw parental abuse #tw parental neglect

[miramelo]

How about today, you let me be the papa !

Sleeping makes the pain go away!

#melo's art #periwinkle au #rottmnt #rottmnt leo #rottmnt leonardo #Rottmnt rat Jitsu #lou jitsu #rottmnt splinter #tw child neglect #tw depression #tw parental neglect #[hits leo with the parentification beam] #You thought that him being the youngest in this au would save him?! WRONG ! #rottmnt au

[dipstar1489]

Red Reference

Pose reference came from wiki: https://animatorvsanimation.fandom.com/wiki/Red

Basic Headcanons:

Age: 19

Race: Black

Gender: Demi-boy, he/they

Sexuality: Homosexual, Aromatic

Neurodivergent: ADHD, Autistic, PTSD

Disability: Partial Blind, Poliosis, Limb Difference (born without his lower left arm)

Family: I feel like he would be raised by their grandparents or an uncle, but Red’s parents are either dead or absent throughout their life.

#Avm red #ava red #animator vs animation red #Animation vs Minecraft red #animator vs animation #Animation vs minecraft #ava #avm #headcanons #DipStar1489 #Yes #I realized the head was in the wrong direction after outlining. #Tw parental absence #Tw parental neglect #Headcanon #Red

[video-game-kids-tournament]

MEET YOUR CONTESTANTS! #2

TW: Manslaughter, parental neglect + suicide mention

(oh, and Omori spoilers)

Name: Basil

Age: "12 (in dream land) 16 (in real world)"

Gender + Pronouns: Cis man, he/him

Video Game: Omori

Backstory: “Oops! Omori, their best friend, just accidentally killed their sister and they helped disguise it to appear to be suicide. Now omori doesn't leave the house or talk and to be frank Basil hardly does. And in the dream world they're being forgotten. Wait... Who is this about, again?(/j)”

• “(massive spoilers for omori) He helped cover up Mari's death that Sunny caused due to major fear he'll get in trouble. His parents aren't home much and he has a caretaker that grows considerably more concerned about his wellbeing by each day. He is stuck in a downward spiral since the incident.”

• “(Spoilers) okay so his best friend accidentally killed someone, and basil made it look like a suicide so the best friend wouldn't get in trouble. Then he became pretty isolated from the world.”

• “Really lonely until he was brought into his current friend group. Was present at the scene of the murder of his best friend's older sister and helped frame her death. Later, he was accused of ruining his photo album by the same person who dragged him into his friend group and started being viciously bullied by her and her new friends. He's incredibly lonely and depressed as of late :(“

Why should they win the tournament?: “Basil is the saddest little guy. He deserves to win. It would be the first good thing to ever happen to him”

• “he's so cool and fucked up,,, he's the kid ever it's totally normal 12 year old behaviour to help your best friend cover up an accidental manslaughter of his sister”

• “He's a boss fight, and he might look nice, but he can literally take out your eye.”

• “Because he is my ultimate blorbo and is holding my brain hostage, not that I mind. Also, it will give him the chance to prove himself!”

#video game kids tournament #contestant info #omori basil #basil #omori #omori spoilers #tw death #tw neglect #tw parental neglect #suicide mention

[writingquestionsanswered]

hmmmf do you have any advice on writing a character with neglectful parents? one of my newest ocs grew up with a neglecting father due to his line of work. it made her dedicate her whole life to perfecting her skill set in this one field in hopes to get closer and spend more time with him. i want to develop and improve what kind of effect it inflicted on her besides issues with her own identity (as she has gaslit herself to believe *this* is what she wants to do and be, when only with time and the right people she will realise that it's nothing but an excuse to spend more time with her father). any advice?

Character Affected by Parental Neglect in Childhood

The only way to develop and improve this portrayal is to do research and learn what kind of effects parental neglect typically have on children as they grow up, as well as how those effects linger into adulthood. Luckily there are tons of resources online that tackle the issue of parental neglect and the effects on those who have experienced and survived it. You will then need to take what you learn and consider how to best apply it to your story depending on your character and situation.

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#tw parental neglect #tw gaslighting

[snarlingteeth]

I was raised with the love language of food

I was raised with the knowledge that each bite can be an act of love, of care, of compassion

No wonder I was such a skinny child.

#vent #tw neglect #tw weight #tw abuse #tw parental neglect #snarlwhines #snarlingwords #snarl whines #ventblog #bpd #cptsd

[inkdemon-whore]

bit of a continuation of this post, this art, and maybe also this art, bendy, having made hundreds, if not thousands of different versions of audrey to try and appease joey and set itself free, grew attached to a select few over the time he's made and re-made her.

the one drawn in the bendy basically being a dad image, is his most favorite. he doesn't name her, or any of the others, so anytime he talks about her, he just says "My Favorite." and thanks to some of my own ideas, and this lovely lil comment uwu

his "favorite" might have given him, at least a bit of a change of heart, just for a while at least.

(this is a bit long and slightly fan-fic-y, so i'll put it under keep reading)

(also look at the tags they got tw's, that's kinda important)

when ripping parts of himself to make audrey, he digs out pieces of himself. pieces that seem insignificant to him now, but when isolated, might act out in ways he couldn't expect. there may have been versions of audrey that where horrible monsters, killing things just like him, or little ones full of rage, envy, sorrow, or loneliness.

with him having so much of those emotions to go around, having those parts of him torn off, he isn't too surprised, and it doesn't really phase him.

but at some point, he dug a little deeper, just in the right spot, to pull out something that all those negative emotions buried.

now, i also hc that at this point, the ink demon was/is mostly an abusive parent. being rather neglectful, and only starting to care a little, at least for the audrey's appearance, in the hopes that so long as she looked human, he could be freed. he would call all of them names, and say "you'll likely die" whenever it was time for them to meet joey, and he was always right, so he never bothered. he'd push his own creations away, because of his own trauma.

but this one. this one he calls his "favorite". at some point started to realize that, despite the ink demon saying mean things to her, he was rather kind, and didn't hurt her. despite him killing and eating people, around her, he was rather protective, maybe a little too protective. even if he would threaten her life, or get close to eating her, she wouldn't seem scared. (it could also be that she just freezes, or dissociates due to abuse)

he could call her a hideous, ugly wretch, that no one would ever truly love, while still having cleaned her, and tried to make her look pretty, and she would pick up on that. "you don't rrreeeaaallly think i'm ugly, do you? you spend all this time fixing my dress and my hair. if you really think i'm ugly, maybe it's because you're not very good at making pretty things."

a majority of the time, the ink demon would be straight up with her, saying "i eat people, because i enjoy tormenting them. ripping them apart limb from limb, and hearing them scream, and cry, and beg." and anytime he even seemed like he was lying, mostly in contradictions between his words and actions, she'd ask him about it, and he wouldn't really have an answer for her. and not having an answer made him feel vulnerable.

sooner or later, he slowly becomes more kind to her, taking her to heavenly toys, or bendy land, just spending time with her, if at a distance and seeming detached or aloof. still insulting her and being a bit abusive, but not physically hurting her all that much. he even brings her supplies to draw, and watches her on occasion. he starts extending his time with her, enjoying her company, occasionally wondering if he should play "the end" reel on himself, simply to spend even more time with her.

but her time is coming to and end, and joey is getting impatient. once it's time for her to go, he's finally nicer with his words, if not still blunt and distant. she ask him if joey will like her, and he coldly says no. she ask if he can come with her, and once again he says no. she ask if all those horrible things he said about joey where true, he says yes. she's squeezing a bendy doll he gave her, holding back tears, "is he... really going to kill me if i'm not perfect?"

... something in him finally clicks, and for once, he honestly, genuinely tries to reassure her. that she doesn't have to be "perfect". she doesn't have to be "born right" to be beautiful, or deserving of love. that what imperfections she has means something to him, and make her who she is. and for a moment, he doesn't want her to go.

but she goes...

and she's gone...

she's dead...

like the rest of them...

and he regrets not being kinder to her...

and he hates himself for not having more time with her...

and he eats her, like he'd done the rest, dug around, hoping to get that little piece of him back once more, to see it just for a moment, but could never find it, and could never rebuild it again...

just more sad, angry, or detached audrey's, that sure, began to look more human, began to be more human, but slowly became more and more of a blank slate. more of a marry sue even, but it took a lot out of him (pun intended) to just get that.

audrey may be perfect... but she is not his Favorite.

#batim #batdr #audrey drew #ink demon #tw verbal abuse #tw parental abuse #tw parental neglect #detached parenting #stockholm syndrome #or at the very least sorta kinda those vibes #bro accidentally pulled the good outta himself #had it call him out on his bs #made him feel a little less like a monster #and was like 'please don't leave' #and then it DIED #og henry and his favorite are the only things #keeping him from loosing his mind entirely #and he's already p close #angst #daddy ink demon au #favorite!audrey

[traumatizedjaguar]

Advice: I do recommend if you're being stalked or live with abusers, change your passwords every month or so and always use backups or authentication apps on everything, and make sure to find an impossible hiding space which means that even if you think a hiding space is so discreet it might not be. Think outside the box, really ponder on it for awhile before deciding where to hide stuff. And obviously don't hide anything in front of a camera where they could check it.

#my text #actually traumatized #actually cptsd #actually abused #actuallyabused #actually bullied #actually traumatised #tw parental abuse #tw sibling abuse #tw stalking #tw harassment #tw abuser mention #parental abuse #tw parental neglect #tw parental issues

[idle-bug]

It's crazy how abusers switch up when they realize their victim is about to escape. My parents used to call me a pathetic waste of space about once a week all throughout high-school and took every chance they could to pretend I didn't exist but now that I'm in college and will (hopefully) soon be completely independent and able to cut them off, they force themselves into my life at least three times a week and cry and hug me and tell me they miss me like we haven't seen eachother in years.

#tw abuse #tw parental abuse #tw parental neglect #actually abused #🐊 #owiw8...

[prettydead]

Casually thinking about how sometimes Steve Harrington comes home beat to shit, and we never get and inkling that his parents care or have concern for what's going on with their child. And I'm sad.

#finger lickin' good . | steve harrington #tw parental neglect

[riding-palominos-every-day]

NOOOOOO ELMER🥺😭😭😭

Is it that there's no room they can't feed him or don't want him?

A mix of all of those things, I think.

Elmer's mother never really wanted a ninth child. She hadn't even planned eight, it was just her luck two of her pregnancies resulted in twins and then triplets. Elmer's eldest sister always told him he was a "happy surprise", because there was no way she was letting their mother tell him the truth.

Their apartment in America was horribly cramped. A ten person family can't comfortably fit in an apartment with only two bedrooms. Elmer's oldest brother wasn't yet 21, but he found a wife quickly and went to live with her to free up some space in the boys room. His oldest sister marries and moves out too.

Eventually, their mother's patience wears thin. With the oldest children gone, Elmer's extra support falls to her. She's already got enough to do without having to help an eleven year old manage basic tasks (my HC is Elmer is (undiagnosed ofc) dyspraxic and autistic, and he needs some extra support).

So one night she packs up his few belongings, takes him over to the local boys lodging house, and pays for him to stay the night. And then she's gone.

The newsies take a shine to him immediately and welcome him in, but Elmer's siblings were pissed when they found out. Elmer doesn't want to leave the lodging house but his siblings visit him regularly. They don't discuss their mother.

#all children deserve parents not all parents deserve children #thank you for the ask anon #newsies #newsies headcanons #elmer newsies #tw abandonment #tw parental neglect #lemme know if this needs tagging with anything else #anon #asks

[rainbow-beanie]

Sans’s vision swam again as he was bombarded with a sudden memory, this one hazy with time instead of timelines. Three or four days after their parents had left. Sans had suspected it all that time, but had been holding onto…not hope, really, but some vaguely scientific need to rule out confirmation bias. Three or four days with not even a phone call, and it had felt like time to tell Papyrus what he had known all along.

“I don’t think they’re coming home, bro.”

Papyrus had denied it. He’d had so much faith in them, faith they had never earned.

“They’ll come home! They’re just on vacation! They went on vacation and forgot to tell us!”

Sans had let him believe it, and keep on believing it as the food began to run out and the power stopped working.

Vacation. It had become like a code word. Maybe that was when it had all started, when they had started talking around things, never calling things what they were, holding to an unspoken agreement to never face the bad stuff. It had grown and grown until it encompassed everything, every inch of their lives.

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Snippet from how to SAVE the world, by talkingsoup, chapter seven: better off.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NOT THE NEGLECTFUL PARENTS TROPE, NOT SANS AND PAPYRUS- NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

it does make an awful lot of sense as to why san’s communication skills are shit. If his parents were so bad as to talk behind his back instead of sitting him down and explaining what was going on, then perhaps things would’ve been easier. and he wouldn’t have to feel like he has to hide things from papyrus.

#MAN… #undertale #undertale fanfic #how to SAVE the world fanfic #sans the skeleton #papyrus the skeleton #tw parental neglect

[ashfordmellie]

full name: melodie lynn parks nicknames: mel, mellie gender: cis woman age: 31 birthday: november 30 zodiac sign: sagittarius hometown: atlanta, ga time in ashford: 2 years occupation: aesthetician @ salon lux relationship status: divorced romantic & sexual orientation: panromantic & pansexual positive traits (+): organized, ambitious, friendly negative traits (-): moody, perfectionistic, sarcastic

headcanons: tw: abuse, dv, parental neglect, pregnancy

melodie was born november 30 to single mother lorraine parks. lorraine's pregnancy was totally unplanned and came as a complete surprise, and not a happy one. for her entire life, lorraine had sworn she would never have children- until the day she met melodie's father, richard. lorraine fell immediately, and a whirlwind romance began. when she came up pregnant, lorraine believed richard would ask her to marry him. instead, he did the opposite- by the morning after she'd dropped the news, he had packed his things and disappeared, leaving a crisp $50 bill and nothing else. lorraine hasn't seen or heard from him since, and melodie has never met her father.

the way in which richard left shattered lorraine's heart, a fact that she slowly began to take out on melodie, especially as she grew older. since she was approximately 6-years-old, melodie has raised herself. lorraine having made it crystal clear that she had no intention of being anything close to the definition of a mom or a mother, mel learned early-on to survive for herself. as she grew, the responsibility of taking care of herself shifted into taking care of both herself and lorraine, who had thrown all caution to the wind. she was rarely home, and when she was she was either passed out or screaming.

knowing things weren't sustainable as they were, mellie got a job at the age of 15 and began saving her money, socking bits away as frequently as possible. she had dreams, dreams that didn't include atlanta, or lorraine, or anything similar to her life. following high school graduation, she went immediately into the top esthetician's school in the state, moving quickly through the program and graduating top of her class.

telling herself she simply needed to work and save money for a few months to get away from her mom, mel put her head down and did her best to make sure she wouldn't have to reside with lorraine for any longer than necessary. her out came quicker than she believed when she met marcus. he was charming, handsome, and interested in mel, and for what felt like the first time in her life she found herself falling. after eight months of dating marcus proposed, melodie accepted, and the two began planning their lives together.

it didn't take long for trouble in paradise to begin, and shortly after that things only continued on their downward trajectory. verbal threats turned physical, then became more than threats, leaving mel to grieve the future she'd dreamed of as it slipped away. the two were married when mel was 23. by 28, she knew she had to go. after saving as much as she possibly could, she packed one night while marcus was away on business, and left, taking half of their healthy bank account with her. wanting to get as far away from her ex as possible, mellie made her way across the country, landing and settling in ashford.

#mellie ft. intro #ashford.intro #melodie parks #tw dv #tw pregnancy #tw parental neglect #tw abuse