#why are you mad

[theroyalmisfitmess]

Why is The Bear subreddit so hostile? Literally just wanted to ask people when Syd got her nickname and people are downvoting and misinterpreting at me 💀

#why are you MAD #i just wanted to ASK #also the mention of sydcarmy #i feel like that’s what made them mad #the bear #the bear meta #sydcarmy

[talkfastcal]

Me sitting here waiting for my carrots to grow vs Donald in the background

#disney dreamlight valley #why are you mad

[percentstardust]

can you chill with the scream posts or ??? Don’t you have other fandoms and muses to focus on?

no ❤️

#anon hate cw #MY MAIN MUSE IS A SCREAM MUSE WHT IS THIS #WHY ARE YOU MAD #sjjsjsjsjsjsjsjsksjsjsksk #this is my blog wtf mate

[7furhr8]

Can I ask y'all a question?

The f*ck is he pissed about?

#harry styles #You good bro? #he mad #he kinda cute tho #Why are you mad #you're HARRY STYLES

[dankovskaya]

I accidentally asked if we were fucking again and then said nevermind actually maybe another time and now she’s saying shit like this to me

#Why are you mad #bald

[drunkwalkhomecore]

Kinda homophobic that the teachers in desi schools want the benches to be straight not gay

#/lh /lh #shitpost #desi tag #desiblr #desi things #desi #how they get so annoyed when the benches are not in a line like girl #why #why are you mad

[hawkebuckley]

hey Andrew garfield is not gay so shut up . He's straight and he's amazing

k.

#all jokes #why are you mad #he’s still amazing ur right #andrew garfield #spiderman #tick tick boom #peter parker #andrew effect #joseph quinn #the amazing spider man

[blonkk]

women confuse me so much because they’ll agree with you about all the reasons being straight and trying to find someone who’s not a piece of shit is a never ending quest/it’s a lot of energy in the streets to expend when people will lie, cheat, ghost etc/all the relationships i’ve witnessed leave a lot to be desired and i constantly see my female friends losing sleep and being treated like garbage and so on and so forth but then they’re soooo confused when you say you don’t date. like literally just had this convo with yet another friend, we were talking ab how we’ve had experiences of being taken advantage of by guys including friends we’d known for years, exchanging our own stories & those of girls we know. a girl she knew woke up to her guy friend jerking off on her and a girl i know woke up to a childhood friend putting his dick in her mouth and forcing her to blow him. anyways after ALL THIS plus previous convos she’s like..so you seeing anyone? and i was like no lol. and she was like are you trying…? i said no. and she was like …. really lost LOL. she asked me if i’m asexual and i just laughed, like haven’t heard that before! i’ve also been asked if i’m a lesbian.

like i don’t get it. i’ve had convos like this with all girls in my life. all my straight girl friends date and have relationships and casual sex etc and i NEVER question it even if it makes no sense, because they’re regularly getting abused/treated like shit yet they continue to do that shit. why does me trying to save myself a little bit of sanity and protect myself from this confuse y’all so much then??? you agree with my reasoning, you deeply identify with my experiences, and i’m generally pretty fucking lucky because i’ve never experienced a lot of the worse things and most girls i know have. more than once. but still they’re like “aw you’ll find someone” “well you can’t just give up!” “why not?? omg how can you be alone??” “are you…ya know..”

like i’ll always support my friends and i don’t disparage them for opting to be with men even though they’re rarely fucking fulfilled but don’t ask me if i’m touched in the head lol for trying to be happy and minimize pain in my life 😂 or gay. bro i don’t gotta be gay to resist male abuse what a weird thing to think

fr so many people are so scared to be alone. they look at older (25+) (😂😂😂) women and feel pity and fear that they can’t explain or understand. they really think we’re all completely miserable and would give everything up for a crumb of male love and acceptance. i’m not saying it’s not hard, like i’m an adult woman, of course it’s hard sometimes but imo it looks harder trying to constantly be loveable to a man. like these men don’t respect you, they knowingly hurt your feelings, if they do it unknowingly they rarely care or try to change, they rarely leave you sexually gratified and they don’t often care about anything other than busting their own nut, they don’t even pretend to be gentlemen anymore! they don’t even put up the pretence of asking for dates, buying flowers, picking you up, being nice….they literally say “we fucking or what” and if you don’t respond with that same energy they think you’re crazy/frigid/high maintenance. like girls are literally going crazy waiting for replies from dudes who saw the text, read it, didn’t care about responding, forgot about it, fucked another girl and then gets horny at 3am and says “wyd”. and y’all feel bad for ME?! please like i’m not trying to be mean but like honestly get up. if you’re gonna live like that i won’t judge you. i know why, i get it. but don’t come for me and pity me because i don’t do that shit because you will hear some truths you won’t like

#i’m rly tired #like men say this to me a lot and i just let it go because of they generally don’t see the problems with the way they treat women #they think any woman would be lucky to be mistreated by them #and because i choose not to be it’s actually because no one wants to fuck my bitchy/fat/ugly etc ass anyways #but the women who say this make my head spin #girl you know why. #why are you mad #genuinely my sister got MAD at me a few weeks ago to the point she was yelling at me in tears #because i calmly tried to explain that i’m not setting the goal of meeting someone getting married and having kids #she was so angry it was fucked up #she just said i’m scared/selfish/insecure #…um #why are you yelling. #i didn’t yell at you when you decided to get married to your piece of dogshit bf at age 24 #although i probably should have #it’s not just her. it’s all my female friends #acquaintances #they think i’m so sad and broken #it makes me so mad!!! leave me alone fr #why does it bother you? be with all the men you please #do what you want and i’ll do what i want!! #anyways #just girly things

[softbobamilktae]

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#I hate moods #very bad #don’t like #seriously there’s literally no reason to be angry #why are you mad #softbobamilktae txt

[beaft]

i went to get my t-shot yesterday and it took me an hour and a half to get to the clinic and as soon as i got on the bed the nurse dropped my t-shot and it broke and now they're trying to make me pay for the replacement. i think the fuck not lmao

#why should i have to pay money because SOMEONE ELSE dropped my medication!!! make it make sense #also they kept referring to 'the medicine that got broken' please drop that youtuber apology line and lose the passive voice #it did not 'get broken' YOU BROKE IT #madness. utter madness.

[averygayplant]

I simply don't understand how there's a controversy on whether or not Katara is a mom?? Like no obviously not, she's literally a child and so is everyone else she travels with? People aren't saying she has children, we're saying she's canonically parentified as fuck and took over taking care of Sokka because she felt it was her job to step up, how is that a problematic thing

#I can't understand how this even became an issue #I don't even SEE the issue #why are you mad #what is there to be mad about #parentification of children ig? #it's bad but that's why we have to talk about it #so many 'mom friends' are like that because they've been parentified #or otherwise been weighed down by tons of responsibility at way too young an age #like this is such a nonissue I thought?

[aquarri]

The need that you all have to assign these "rad" labels to people who just ... live in reality. Wild.

it’s rad, ik

#why are you mad #when you could be GLAAD

[anna-scribbles]

last one i promise(<—lie)

#let’s as a society think more about why adrien wanted to go to school #and what. perhaps. he thought school was #i think the way chloe describes it she really is just a beautiful rich girl with too much time on her hands #and no one at school is treating her accordingly. #abby got so mad at me today because she thinks it’s too cringe that i keep taking about adrien liking ohshc #which is like. how are you gonna know me my whole life and then be disappointed when i’m cringe. #i’ve never hidden who i am. it’s cringe all the way down #anyway #ml #my art #miraculous ladybug #adrien agreste #chloe bourgeois #ohshc #wait i am gonna tag this thirteen actually. just go with me #thirteen

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[cannibal-stag]

“i don’t get hannibal lecter” it’s about being the worst person in the world and yet someone still loves you despite it and it’s about convincing yourself you’re fine living your life alone and never truly connecting with anyone until someone comes along and you realize you could never live without them now and it’s about caring about someone so deeply that all you want now is for them to truly see you and it’s about how your devotion is so crushing and deep that you’d go to lengths of even self-destruction just to keep them around so you can keep loving them. “but he’s a cannibal” lol yeah

#‘what do you do in your free time’ project on that old man #i mean this in the most casual chill unserious half-joking way possible. why is he kinda lowkey me #fable’s stuff #txt #hannibal #hannigram #hannibal lecter #will graham #hugh dancy #mads mikkelsen #nbc hannibal #hannibal nbc

[insomniac-arrest]

Depression is such an effective tranquilizer that it creates a great opportunity for plot twists in your real life. I have a pretty consistent opinion of myself which is "low" and "never ending guilt and shame for reasons I don't understand."

Recently received feedback from two different editing clients that started with "Please pass along to your editor that she is phenomenal at her job" and "I was blown away by the evaluation I received."

You always hear about how depression (and anxiety) lies to you and distorts reality, but there is logically knowing that and then there is like, physical proof of it and you are suddenly Neo in the Matrix jumping out of the fucked up little tube machine.

#damn ego is a helluva drug #regular plot twists where I Am Good #you ever wonder why you are constantly mad at yourself despite like the world burning down #I could have better things to be mad about #but brain has priorities known as Must Be Hard On Self #IA talks #bipolar stuff