#worst of both worlds

[alpacacare-archive]

(tags by @ourselvers​ on this post)

you'd think right? but the truth of the matter is that this man operates like this

#gaster #shitpost #worst of both worlds #someone once captioned a skelefam post with 'self care is something that has been ignored in the aster household for decades' #i hope this does them proud #the number 1 dad mug has bee shattered and he will cry about it for years (or until they get him a new one) #always love seeing gaster inhabit dad-typical behaviors #falling asleep instantly in random ass positions #that is when a dad becomes a father #now he just needs the Hawaiian shirt cargo shorts and socks with sanda- #huh? #he already has them? #hes saving them to wear at sans and papyrus's college graduations? #huh

[itsbansheebitch]

Since this is becoming a relevant conversation again...

People are wondering why the ratio between mlm and wlw is so dramatic. This is reasonable question to ask, however, people's first explanation is misogyny. This is (mostly) incorrect.

if you watch Contrapoint's latest video (Twilight) she actually gets into the psychology of women reading mlm.

However, i think that she says it better than i do and you can watch her video to see her analysis. I'm hear to share my own experience.

I'm afab and I read more mlm than wlw. In fact, i barely read any wlw at all. That, to someone who's ready to scream "misogyny" wouldn't make sense to to ME liking women.

Here's the truth on why I read mlm more: I relate to male characters more. Now, you might suggest that this is because the male characters i read are better written, however, I disagree. I relate to male characters more because I was RAISED as a "boy." My father WAS misogynistic and was expecting a son. He got two daughters. Instead of changing his parenting style, I got raised with "men's issues."

Men's issues meaning, an expectation to not just be good, but be The Best(TM). An expectation to never share or show emotion. An expectation to treat ever hobby like it will be a job, contraetc

HOWEVER! I was also raised as a "girl" because of his misogyny. This made me have "women's issues."

Women's issues meaning, an expectation to settle for the bare minimum, an expectation to stay quiet & not speak up & not advocate for myself, an expectation to be a housewife and to focus on my looks above my self worth. etc

This means that when female characters complain about how "men don't know how to communicate, yadda yadda UUGGGHH MEN" I always cringe because I AM that person. I can't communicate like other girls (literally). I wasn't taught to communicate. I was taught to hide my feelings and bottle my emotions up. All I hear is characters berating each other for not communicating when the writers don't realize that it is NOT THAT EASY. Any communication skills I've learned is from reading & writing essays for school.

I just can't relate to girls that complain about that sort of thing because I have the issues they complain about. As someone who's afab, raised with the worst of both worlds, take it from me:

The Amount of Emotional Repression that Men Experience on a Daily Basis is Cruel and Inhumane.

If you won't listen to them tell you that, then you will listen to me.

Because of this, I find myself relating more to male characters. So yes, I will continue to read mlm more than wlw. Until people actually talk about men's issues in a kinder manner and write character accordingly, I will continue to read mlm. That's not misogyny. That's me looking for characters with similar life experience to me. I'm sure SOMEONE reads more mlm because of misogyny, but they are the MINORITY.

Put away your pitchforks and Mind. Your. Business.

#lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #queer #worst of both worlds #contrapoints #youtube #fandom #fandom culture #fandom problems #fandom shit #ao3 #ao3 fanfic #ao3 writer #fanfic #fanfiction #ao3 stuff #wattpad #ff.net #fanfiction.net #ffnet #politics #us politics #world politics #feminism #men's rights #mens issues #mlm #wlw

[ivan-fyodorovich-k]

I notice that all the climate panic is mainly aimed at not putting more carbon into the atmosphere

is it just utterly unfeasible to think about drawing carbon out of the atmosphere?

i.e. someone please plant a shitload of trees

#I feel like #climate change is real #but also #people who think it's just made up are partly correct in that the panic is purely performative and nothing is actually going to be done #worst of both worlds #as per usual #'we just have to stop using fossil fuels' #well that's obviously not going to happen so are you going to come up with other ideas #or are you just going to keep playing that one sad song on your violin while the ship sinks

[aingeal98]

I've moved beyond anger to just finding it hilarious whenever people depict the batfam as just the "core four" Robins. They're always drawn with exactly the same features, pale skin, same face shape and hair colour, just different heights, and they're all allowed one personality trait each. Nightwing is the blue one Damian is the short one Jason wears a jacket and Tim has floppy hair. And fanboys and fangirls alike will go absolutely nuts over it acting as if its the best and only version of the batfam. It's like a parody of fandom better than even the most cynical and satirical critic could write except its real and they all lack self awareness. If you told me they all had a onceler phase back in the day it would be the least surprising fact ever.

#dc rambles #the fanboys who never read a comic and speak exclusively in power scaling terms #vs the fangirls who would rather die than acknowledge a female character exists #Worst of both worlds

[j4r-of-flies]

Fuck cutting and bulking I’m in some weird purgatory middle zone where I’m doing both at once

#worst of both worlds #gym posting

[looselipssinkships-x]

Growing up too young to be aware of early 2000s pop punk in its heyday but growing up so rural to have to deal with the homophobia/transphobia of decades before SUCKS

#would have loved to go to an early 2000s fob tour #or warper tour! #but no #i was in elementary school #but still didn't feel safe coming out to my parents until i was completely independent of them #and living almost a thousand miles away #like damn #worst of both worlds #fob #mcr #pop punk

[static-radio-ao3]

helloooo mil my love<33

9, 14, 19 for the end of the year asks!

hello kay my beloved! i answered 19 here

9. Best month for you this year?

ngl had to do a deepdive into my camera roll to jog my memory, but i think probably april! that's also when i was traveling with my sister and we just had lots of good food and saw lots of cool places and she's one of my favorite people in the world so i always love spending time with her <33

14. Favorite book you read this year?

ok so it's a series not a single book bc i am indecisive so i think probably all for the game (i read all three within a week and i've been itching to re-read them, as you know)

end of the year asks

#not only am i a chronic re-watcher #i am also a chronic re-reader #worst of both worlds #kay tag <3 #ask game

[astral-from-afar]

if I don’t get Izana in this 20 pull I might just cry

#Astra writes #Now that I can play the tr game #I can be annoying and show my bad luck in gacha games #Worst of both worlds

[lycheesodas]

WHATS IT GONNA TAKE FOR THESE FUCKIN MOSQUITOS TO LEAVE ME ALONE

#I FUCKIN HATE LIVING IN THE TROPICAL URBANS #WORST OF BOTH WORLDS #ALL THE PROBLEMS ASSOCIATED WITH BOTH SETTINGS AND EXACTLY NONE OF THE CHARM

[thisbibliomaniac]

I basically am just an orange cat with responsibilities

#worst of both worlds

[hellotherepaul]

Nothing like being aware of how pathetic you are while messaging your boyfriend

#overall we are single i mean anton #yeah... idk feeling like shit i have baggage it's fine #just i dont know how to talk to him when like this without being pitiful #and i fucking hate pity #despise it #and every time i get bad he gets sad and i cant do that to him #i stayed up till 6:30 am drunk and venting at a camera feeling like absolute dog shit #tried to pass out #and only slept an hour and a half and now we're here #im actively hurting the entire head by being back on my bullshit but that doesn't exactly help my bullshit now does it #if im fucking manic (which i mean im high energy and not sleeping) then why am i also fucking depressed fuck off #worst of both worlds #hey um like if you fuckinnnn read dear god #i am probably going to delete this in a few hours but jfjfjrjgjrjfjdkdkskskekrjufudhsnfkmskdjfbdjdjd #should note that this is rene no fuckin shit but #i need a tag

[arcticdementor]

You always hear about how smart it is to steer a course between two extremes. "Moderation in all things" and all that. But I kind of wonder if we're falling into the opposite trap. The post below about Negy getting unpersoned for dating a coworker made me think of it with the quote:

Nor did the lawyers care for the happy hours and whiskey tastings that Sabatini sometimes hosted in his office, which betrayed his “apparent ‘friendliness’ and general propensity to have ‘fun.’”

People accuse the wokes of being Puritans. But they aren't really. They have the (stereotypical) flaws of the Puritans: nosy, judgmental, rigid. But they don't have the moral uprightness, the strong community or the work ethic. They also don't have joi de vivre of the libertine. They've steered a middle course where they get all of the negatives of both sides without any redeeming characteristics at all.

I've been reading a lot of Heinlein lately. My two favorite of his books are The Moon is a Harsh Mistress and Starship Troopers. TMIAHM is about an anarcho-libertarian society on the moon where you get health insurance (if you want it ) from a bookie and the justice system is when a mob grabs a trouble maker and throw him out the nearest airlock. Starship Troopers is a more rigid, militaristic society where to be a citizen you have to submit yourself to an extremely harsh and strict term of military service. They're very different societies but both of them (thanks to Heinlein being a fantastic writer) feel very appealing to live in. I kind of wonder if that's not where we're at.

Either Libertopia or homogenous fascism land could be nice to live in, but we steered a course where the worst of the worse get left alone while decent people are hounded and attacked relentlessly. If we lived in the old west where there were no police you could round up a posse with the neighbors to deal with trouble makers. If we lived in Starship Troopers the local police would catch them in no time and give them fifty lashes. But we don't. we picked a middle way where the police pretend to deal with the problem but really most criminals either don't get caught or get released right away to keep terrorizing people. But if you try to deal with the problem yourself like Rittenhouse or the McMichaels the police will put you away for life.

And it's not just crime. I could deal with a world where the government didn't "help" you with healthcare and if you couldn't pay a doctor you died in the street. I could also deal with a world where you give them x% of your salary and they handle everything competently and efficiently. Instead you have a Frankenstein system where you pay for lavish government healthcare for other people through medicare and medicaid but if you ever get sick yourself you still get fucked with massive bills.

I'd really rather live in a world of unhinged extremists.

#reddit #culture war roundup #robert a heinlein #the moon is a harsh mistress #starship troopers #anarcho-tyranny #worst of both worlds

[girinma]

shaking and crying because i just had to program a math function

#worst of both worlds

[lexicled]

usually i like fireworks but now i have a headache :[

#theyre all really loud and i cant even see pretty lights #worst of both worlds #lex says stuff

[lastoneout]

the whole guilt-tripping language in posts about important topics paired with how I'm still getting bitches in my notes talking about why it's actually good to tell "bad" people to kill themselves continues to prove to me that a lot of people have absolutely no concept of social justice or activism outside of assuming the worst of and then viciously attacking strangers on the internet

#the worst part too is this is just the logical conclusion of the hyper-individualistic society #that thrives on isolating us from each other and our communities #anyway pls get out and go volunteer to clean up litter or at the soup kitchen or something #y'all need to see that your actions can have both good and bad real world consequences #and also interact with people who share your values but come from different walks of life #and also how to organize with people you don't always 100% agree with #so yeah hang out at the farmer's market or smthn y'all really need to connect with your communities

[thesmokinpossum]

Damn it to piss, that kind and well-meaning but inexperienced and not specifically competent girl is still the one teaching the initiation to latin class

#i hate having prof that are not able to teach me shits correctly but that are to nice for me to straight up hate them #worst of both worlds #seriously tho i'm not sure if i want to resign myself to the fact that she's probably the only one giving this class and try to get it done #or wait another semester in hope that it's not always her #i need to think about it for a while #maybe i can ask my prof buddy if he knows if anyone teach this class like ever #not sure if he'll even know but eh it's not like i have anything to lose