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relationshipstoremember · 2 years

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How I felt after my divorce. Some people will never understand what they did was wrong. The best thing you can do at that point is leave and hope they learn it eventually but not at your expense.

#stupid #stupid people #divorce #relationship advice #relationship #abusive relationships #hope #love #you deserve better #cards against humanity

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relationshipstoremember · 3 years

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Boy will be boys is bullshit. Don’t put up with this. Don’t let your brothers, don’t teach your sons, and shut down anyone with this kind of mentality.

Step one is understanding, the more knowledge you have the more powerful you are, explain why this is wrong. Further the “joke” to see what malice it really precedes.

Credit: @shego

#future husband #future son #mysogny #toxic masculinity #culture #relationship advice #feminist

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relationshipstoremember · 3 years

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Ladies and gentlemen you can hint ask you , but do not blame your partner for their lack of telepathy. Some times, just ask. Communicate. I don’t care how embarrassing it is or how much you think the other person should just “ know” good to treat you. Say it out loud, your communication will help you both grow so much.

And also a little warning, if you’re asking for things, events, or serious questions; give your partner time. They may need to save up for what you asked for, they need time to plan an event, and they need time to answer you and know that answer is well with their heart.

For those being asked (the givers) don’t be angry when something is asked of you. Try to understand first. Maybe they need one thing but only know how to express it in a way you felt to be rude. If it’s too much for you, explain why and offer a compromise or even just a “I’d love to for you, but I can’t”. Again, the more you talk things over the more you will understand, grow close, and being to learn each other’s language.

P.S. Men can ask for things too. Men can be treated and cared for too, and deserve to be. Relationships should have equal members. If one can ask then the other can too. Same with you both being givers.

#relationship advice #relationship #just asking #give #equality #serve #communication #love #friendships #relationships #dating #marriage

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relationshipstoremember · 3 years

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There is life after abuse. After break ups. After break downs. There is life even in mental illness. And you will have this moment. It’s nothing like you’ve felt before. Live just one more day, day after day. Believing in this moment when you know, you’re not a sad story. You’re alive. And it’s worth living.

You can make it to that point. I know you can. Because I didn’t think I could, and I did. And someday I’ll forget and have to work towards this again, but it’s okay. You are alive. You’re living and growing. And I’m proud of you for making it this far.

Side note, if you have not seen the movie “ The Perks of Being a Wallflower” please read about its story /movie first and consider it’s possible triggers. I myself and only able to watch it every so often.