#LINES ARE DONE!!!!!

[time-woods]

that same old spark

#adventure time #fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #simon petrikov #betty grof #drawing all the squigly lines in the bg was so fun #i havent done that in a while so it was rlly fun 2 jus mess round with it

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[zelzahdarkcloak]

#had to adapt the last line to fit the format better #im sure someone has done this already #polls #zelzah speaks #i am indeed filled with woe

[swannsways]

favorite Angus Tully's quotes, The Holdovers (2023) dir. Alexander Payne

#the holdovers #angus tully #dominic sessa #filmgifs #dailyflicks #moviegifs #films watched #my gifs #his line delivering is truly impressive for someone who had never done film acting before #so natural and added so much to the character #face muscles/tone/rhythm he ate everything and left no crumbs #now where are the awards and casting news guys I NEED ANSWERS #i need my client on his way real quick to end all the nepo babies in this mf industry

[beebundt]

thinking a little too much abt durge/orin sibling relationship rn. 🩸ft. my durge (briar, they/them)

#not me referencing an arcane quote ‼️ #i love that line from arcane i think abt it all the time. couldn't help but draw some similarities to orin here. im unwell #I HAVEN'T DONE THE ORIN FIGHT YET !!!!!!!!!! but im being emotional abt it even though i HEARD it was lackluster #im rlly enjoying these mspaint doodles lately they're actually so so fun. very nice vacation from csp rn it's so therapeutic #my art #art #illustration #drawing #artists on tumblr #digital art #my ocs #oc #ocs #original character #bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #blood cw #blood tw #orin #orin the red #durge #the dark urge #briar

[jackklinemybeloved]

[…]

Percy’s warning to fellow half-bloods in the audience, across different mediums.

The Lightning Thief by Rick Riordan (2005) The Lighting Thief: The Percy Jackson Musical (2017) Percy Jackson and the Olympians Series Teaser (2023)

#I have been thinking about making this for SO long #but this semester sucked #anyway I love it when adaptations play to their strengths and make changes to fit the medium #and these little differences tingle my brain a little bit #I didn’t want to check if the movies had something similar because I am Tired and the show and movie version would be pretty similar #anyway #the musical line always gets me #‘better get headed to the exits now’ is such a good adaptation of the ‘close this book idea’ #and I know I could’ve just done one of the excerpts from the book but I like both #and I didn’t want to have the paragraph in between to make it just like. a block of text. #percy jackson #pjo #pjo disney+ #pjo Disney #walker scobell #pjo show #percy jackon and the olympians #web weaving #riordanverse

[multongsisig]

She asks that I tell you to remember her. You won't.

#slay the princess #stp #the long quiet #the thorn #my art #every time shifting mound says that line I always get KO #i didnt expect the vulnerability in thorn route like #UWHUAAAGAHGHH #if this redraw has been done before... dont come for me #cw blood

[hollytree33]

Knowledge begets a hunger for more

Drink from the Well of Sorrows, Inquisitor.

#my art #shivana lavellan #dragon age inquisition #dragon age #dai #lavellan #dragon age fanart #art #stole that line from Morrigan #it’s finally done!! #I’m going to be making so much well of sorrows art I’m obsessed with it #I wanted the blood running down her hands to kinda mimic the lines on the other hands

[glo-shroom]

yes & no by Natalie Wee | Trigun Ultimate Overhaul

#THIS HAS BEEN COOKING. FOR TWO MONTHS #trigun #vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d. wolfwood #vash #wolfwood #trigun maximum #mine #edit #trimax #trigun edit #tw suicide mention #for that one line #and #tw blood #hopefully there's nothing else I'm forgetting #long post #i guess #pls feel free to critique me on the alt texts I've never done it before and would love to know what I can do better #but uhhh yeah otherwise. enjoy my baby. I'm very proud of this #I do however need to not look at it for a while now #so aside from the IDs if there are mistakes. no there aren't <3 #AND THANKS TO MY QPP EEE FOR LISTENING TO ME ENDLESSLY WORK ON THIS AND OFFERING ME INPUT AND CRITIGUE!!! <3333 #god. it's finally done #edit: btw I could write so much on my choices in this and what I'm going for and little details. but I leave it to the masses to interpret

[dragon-spaghetti]

I'm feelin soft 🥲

(Please click for better quality!!)

#drag's art #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel angel dust #hazbin hotel husk #huskerdust #been a minute since I did a cute doodle of these two so ✨✨ #I've done several neatly lined/coloured things in the past couple days #and it's putting me back in the 'everything Must Be Perfect' mode #so I'm forcing my hand into messier doodles again lmao 😭 #w the compromise of letting myself colour. cause that's my fave part and I get sad if I can't render things for a while 💀

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Laios's three Boy Best Friends. And yes, they hate him.

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #toshiro nakamoto #chilchuck tims #kabru #BF in this context could be boyfriend or best friend. The line is so blurry. #Chilchuck less so but whatever is going on between Shuro and Laios & Kabru and Laios is giving strong: #“dude if you were a girl I'd date the hell out of you”. And from the genderswap extra's that sentiment is canon for BOTH. #This was made prior to the translation of the Laios & Kabru & Shuro restaurant date comic and honestly I am just feeling vindicated. #I don't even know what to call this dynamic other than a situationship. There is so much going on between all of them. #Even on a purely platonic reading - the miscommunication and male yearning for friendship hurt so bad. #When we got the Big Hug scene in the epilogue arc I was whooping and hollering! Pure catharsis moment! #I also don't like hugs very much so I really felt it went Shuro ('hates being touched') went in for the bear hug. #Do not get me started on the agony of 'always lying' Kabru telling the truth (I just wanted to be friends) #and 'always believes' Laios thinking it's another lie and brushing him off. #I am once again supporting dungeon meshi day by posting art. Please watch dungeon meshi. #obligatory edit because I’m tired: YES. Chilchuck cares for Laios and him admitting it was a huge part of his arc #YES he is more just fed up with him that actually hating him. #I needed a third guy to be canonically done with his ass for the THREE WEED SMOKING GIRLFRIENDS reference

[polarsirens]

Would you have fallen in love with her?

#dimension 20 #dimension 20 spoilers #d20 neverafter #neverafter #ylfa snorgelsson #prince gerard of greenleigh #elody of greenleigh #fanart #my art #am i done thinking about this entire conversation? no #god. this moment for no reason got me crying #and that line too. ylfa's so so pure #she loved you for more than you could hop? and #and gerard's little chuckle and yes #stomp on my heart why don't you

[shokujin-art]

IT'S FINALLY DONE — !! I know there's a lot of mistakes but heck my mind is too tired at this point

#dol #degrees of lewdity #sydney the faithful #whitney the bully #dol sydney #dol whitney #myart #myanimation #I'M GLAD I AT LEAST MANAGE TO DELIVER IT DONE UNLESS LOT OF PROJECTS #it was based on the bee pickup line and just wanted to do the difference between sydney and whitney qlsdkjlfj #one day I'll try to do an animation in the good way #like separating lines color shadow and stuff so I can properly edit it cuz it was HELL #qlsdkjj video ending up weighting 6go and my pc is coughing

[scootsaboot]

sorry

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #astarion #the dark urge #bg3 tav #ummmmmmm this has probably been done before but i needed to do it #so silly to be that as a tiefling you can read infernal But Not That Infernal #only raphael can read between the lines of loss.jpeg and surmise the meaning #anyway

[yrsonpurpose]

Thinking about history makes me wonder how I’ll fit into it one day, I guess. And you too. I kinda wish people still wrote like that. History, huh? Bet we could make some.

#rwrb #rwrbedit #red white and royal blue #alex x henry #firstprince #userninz #userveronika #chrissiewatts #usersteen #usernuria #userclara #usermegsb #mine* #thanks for the request anon :) #thought this had been done but mayyhaps not #they really did change lives at that wedding but not in the way henry expected akfjfkf #the last one is such power couple vibes and they Know It #this made me kind of emo thinking of how tentative the start of their relationship was #like towing that very fine line

[pyralart]

Second part of my little comic! There's no way he didn't realize the world he knew was gone when he got to the Human Realm... The denial is strong in this one

#Pyralart #the owl house spoilers #the owl house #toh #philip wittebane #toh spoilers #emperor belos #toh watching and dreaming #watching and dreaming #toh finale #toh fanart #toh comic #the owl house fanart #the owl house belos #he's so dumb sometimes (“the dog??” line still makes me laugh) #jesus christ I spent way too long on this #but it's done!! it's done #I hope you enjoy it