#THE MOST AROMANTIC MAN

[skullvins]

not to hazbin on main but alastor was so fucking aro in dad beat dad holy shit

#THE MOST AROMANTIC MAN #LIKE #IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW BUT LIKE #every fucking #interaction idk how to describe it its just #the 'um actually im her FRIEND' energy #HIS LIL NOISE WHEN HE HUGS MIMZY #is it mimsy or mimzy idk #anyway #hes such a fucking weirdo but like. im here for it obsessed with him #everyone knows an aro like this #illusion.txt #hazbin hotel

[hopeworth]

romance dawn trio are dating except

nami is a lesbian

luffy is aroace

zoro is aromantic and swordsexual

#*anime villain voice* you think romance is a word fit enough to describe the breadth and depth of their relationship. heh. YOU FOOLS. #you fools will never understand the intricacies and transcendence of an aromantic polycule #*end anime villain voice* #by swordsexual i mean people who are really good at wielding swords aka law okiku and to an extent killer #tashigi looks too much like kuina that zoro’s never going to be attracted to her #romance dawn trio #where’s the romance in romance dawn trio? up your ass probably #aromantic people will make up the most nonsensical insane dynamics known to man. it’s me i’m aromantic people. #one piece #zoro #luffy #nami #op.txt #zoluna #zolu #lunami #zonami #strawhats

[superiorkenshi]

Need to know wich member of ajr write the turning out song so I can introduce him to the aroace community

#they are the most aroace songs I have ever heard #turning out pt iii #aroace #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #ajr #the maybe man

[pokimoko]

Hey if you’re up for it, could you maybe do a trans coloured creature with an aroace sunset flag? No worries if not :)

I think this lil' guy counts as a creature. Enjoy!

#ask #art #art request #my art #namib sand gecko #namib web footed gecko #gecko #lizard #aroace #aro ace #aromantic asexual #aroace pride #trans #transgender #queer art #animal art #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #critter series #i tried the find most Creature-looking trans coloured animal i could find and i think this gecko definitely came close to the brief #apparently they're translucent enough for you to see some of their organs. and they're biofluorescent in the moonlight #like man...that sure is a critter #queue

[sonwabile-reads]

Being (aro)ace, for me, is aggressively saying the most vile sexual things about a character and actively dodging anyone that tries to flirt with me because ew, don't do that

#I am sex repulsed #But I will aggressively say “sit on my face” as if that's something I'd ever want to happen #the most vile and heinous things coming out the mouth of a person that doesn't even want to be touched #coz I'm sex repulsed AND touched aversed 🙃 #aroace #aromantic #asexuality #asexual #ace #aro #ace pride #arospec #living my best life though #“xyz can obliterate my uterus” I say as I smack a man for trying to touch me

[vulpinesaint]

i will say one thing. being aromantic really made me have to confront my desire to be the most important person in someone's life. and it fucking sucked to work through the pipeline of like. amatonormativity means that for most people, romance makes you the most important person to someone else —> i will never have romance —> i will never be the most important person to someone else —> i have to learn to survive as a person on my own rights —> my relationships are significant whether or not i am someone's first priority —> relationships can be awesome and all-consuming in other ways —> the expectation that there should be one sole important person is amatonormative and fucked up to begin with —> it's not healthy or reasonable to expect to be someone's One and Only. and going through that it was terrible it hurt so much. but at the end of it... i am so much more secure as an individual and as someone building relationships with other human beings. deconstructing amatonormativity will do so much for you in all areas of your life i promisssseeeeeee

#don't get me wrong i am still so desperate to be important to people but i'm SO much more normal than i could have been #specifically the idea of being the Most Important Person. i think i've broken that down pretty thoroughly. #can you fucking imagine if i operated on the belief that i wasn't going to be complete until i had a romantic partner #and until i was the One and Only most important person to that partner. i would be insane #aromanticism is like 'hey man. i need you to take a second look at all of this. now go out and be normal' #valentine notes #aromanticism #aromantic

[dolls-self-ships]

the awkward moment when you’re in the middle of an x reader fic and start crying out of nowhere bc you want someone to treat you/desire you that way irl but every time you try and be with someone the aromantic feelings TM start happening again and you have to go through the slow painful realization that you only like these scenarios in fiction so you will forever be consumed by this eternal feeling of heart wrenching longing and desire for something that disgusts and churns your stomach in reality.

#sorry guys #aromantic #aromantism #like… I keep trying and trying and I can’t seem to fall in love with anyone #like first it’s my ocd and intrusive thoughts getting in the way of me exploring physical intimacy. then oh its platonic feelings I mistook #for romantic ones. oh then I’m too ‘wild’ and ‘opinionated’ for this one guy. oh wait #maybe try girls except I don’t want to #am I really aromantic or is it trauma? Is it both? #I’m tired of trying I just want a man to manifest out of nowhere and look at me and say ‘you are the most stunning woman I’ve ever seen let #me take you’ #bc I am just… I’m tired. and I’m sad #everyone in my life has a partner or someone that is their ‘person’ and I’m just.. not as important as that #I feel so alone #vent tw

[time-is-restored]

btw this might be me swinging a bat at a hornets nest but like. absolutely none of my disappointment from the tl finale comes from ship baiting or any relationships that didn’t happen (though to be clear, i think the tedbecca fake outs were meanspirited and served no narrative purpose - in noted contrast to the season's earlier jamiekeeley fakeouts, for example, which were explicitly there to demonstrate jamie's growth + maturity)

tedpendant is a really fun concept for me, and i LOVE the characterisation + thematic potential there!

but as someone who personally resonated with a lot of ted’s struggles, the idea that ted could leave richmond so… seamlessly, for lack of a better word, really doesn’t sit right with me. the thesis of the shows entire first season - assuming it can be said to have only one - was about how everyone needs the love and support of a community, whether that comes in the flavour of someone who hypes u tf up or someone who will relentlessly call u on ur shit (or, as happened quite frequently, both!).

rebecca, roy, jamie are the clearest examples as the characters with the most screentime: they were all deeply isolated and disconnected from the people around them, and that was making them miserable. the connections they made with the team, the vulnerability they finally allowed themselves to express (the ghost banishing ceremony comes to mind!), and them going on to want *more* out of their life are what made their arcs about *progression* rather than *regression*. without that clear theme of compassion + community inspiring positive growth in everyone who encounters it, there is, frankly, no season one.

my personal favourite scene from season one comes right after michelle walks away from ted, when they’ve agreed to get divorced. ted sits down on the bench looking gutted, and a little shell shocked - and beard sits down with him. hands him the drink, and they sit there together. silent, but together. to me, that scene is an implicit promise from the episode, to the audience: ‘it’ll be okay. it’s going to be hard, but ted isn’t alone, and his friends won’t leave him behind.’

it also makes it clear to the audience that ted isn’t the saintly-giver-of-grace who needs nothing in return, as one might assume on first brush, but rather that he’s Also struggling with his own shit (as is everyone, always, in real life!) and he has something he needs from the people around him too.

and looking at the text of s3, and the conclusion to his arc in the finale, i just don’t believe that he got it. he wasn’t just sad that he was leaving (which would be understandable!), he was completely closed off. unresponsive to the people around him reaching out, borderline confused as to why they were trying so hard!

(side note, while i completely respect the read of ted and trents last interaction being rather rude + ooc on ted’s part, i personally read a different motive into it. for me, it was more like… he didn’t understand where trents enthusiasm was coming from? like, he read that as trent being too invested in what other people think of him, and responded in a way that he hoped would emphasise that ted doesn’t *need* to laugh at everything trent wrote, bc trent Already Knows that he’s done something really cool and kickass, and he shouldn’t value anyone else’s reactions above that. basically, based on his demeanour in the episode, i genuinely don’t think it would’ve even occurred to him that trent was more invested in HIS reaction than he would’ve been with anyone else.)

again, looking purely at the text, the show had already established that ted has really strong depressive + avoidant tendencies, as well as panic attacks (largely triggered by his fear of not being ‘good enough’ in various roles, ie: a father). we saw one area he was able to calm HIMSELF abt these fears (worry for henry, which is a Hell of a choice considering the ending…), but in literally every other heightened moment, he had to rely on his support system to help him make the choices that he WANTED to make, rather than ones inspired by avoidance and fear (ie: confronting michelle abt jake, talking to his mum abt why she was visiting + his dads death).

and to be clear, this is a GOOD THING! we’re not supposed to go through life alone, no matter how bad OR well we’re doing. rebecca and keeleys friendship isn’t worth less for all the scenes where they’re both in good places. if anything, the opposite is true - it’s lovely that they both have someone who want to celebrate the achievements in their life!

and fuck it, we’re sure as hell not supposed to go through life with exactly one (1) person whom we expect to fulfill ALL of our emotional needs at all times either! like, im sure i don’t need to labour my point here, but tying everything to one (1) person in ur life doesn’t make u any less isolated than if u were going it completely alone, whether it’s a family member, a friend, or a partner. i won’t pretend to know the first thing abt what it’s like to be a parent, but i don’t think it’s unreasonable to say that no parent would be at their best if they had absolutely no support/camaraderie/general love provided to them from Anyone other than their child.

so when ted is SPECIFICALLY shown to be in a bad place, over and over again (did he come to terms w his fear to be close to henry overnight???????), and then removed from his community? of COURSE the audience is left feeling unsettled, and like the rug has been pulled out from under them. there was no time in this finale dedicated to how ted would still be in contact with anyone from richmond. no promises of visits, or phone calls - fuck, nothing about emails!! according to the text, we might as well assume this is a clean break (and the maybe-dream-sequence does Fuck All to assure us otherwise. if ted doesn’t go to beards wedding, what WOULD he go to????). and since the show has ALSO completely failed to give us even an IMPLICATION of who/what ted’s support system would be in kansas, there’s… a reasonable argument to be made that this is It for ted. that, after two seasons doing NOTHING but attesting otherwise, the audience is supposed to suddenly believe that ted can (and SHOULD!) pull himself up by his bootstraps, and cope entirely on his own.

that, to me, is a betrayal of the show’s premise. we were promised a show about how, no matter how dark things may get, none of the characters would be left to struggle alone. and then they ended the show with ted alone.

i don’t know. i guess if i had to give this post a tldr; if anyone has any gen fic/meta/Literally Anything in the pipeline, i would absolutely love to be tagged/directed towards it. i’ll be endeavouring to write something myself, as well, but it might take a while before i can return to my WIP, lol.

#this is the most measured version of this post i was capable of fghjskdjhgfdgjhsfd #the least measured one is just the aromantic flag with the ‘we are going to beat u to death’ meme overlaid #look ik this is hardly impartial wrt very small + insular communities like nuclear families #but its fucking impossible to go into media analysis and not bring Anything from ur real life in there w u #so im trying to forgive myself for being a little hashtag Vulnerable + Opinionated on main #in the spirit of what this show could’ve been lol #if not here then where etc etc #Ted lasso spoilers #Ted lasso meta #Ted lasso critical #also just to be clear here im being dead serious abt that last point #im spiritually doing the jamie run to demonstrate to u all how badly i want gen shit #please. p l e a s e . #okay wait last ramble here but. this is also why the lack of information we got on trent was so crushing to me #like ur telling me this man went through the incredibly painful + harrowing process of breaking out of his (comfortable! safe) shell + #cynical journalist persona. came out to someone VERY important in his life. and has done nothing but face the music wrt acknowleding #his past mistakes + endeavouring to be better and kinder. and we never get to know if he has ANY support through all that? at all? #is he dating? what's his family situation like? does he have full custody? any friends from work? any friends period????? #like i can should must and will die on the beard + roy + higgins + colins are trents best friends hill but #its like the premise of the show stopped mattering just in time for him to be left in a legitimately depressing limbo #like 'yes everyone needs love + support bc life is rlly hard. but we're tired of making a show abt that so This Is All Ur Getting #+ screw anyone's personal life that u didn't already see in s1. You Know Enough.' #anyway i love u all this is a very silly show and im gonna go play t.o.t.k for a few hours o/ <3

[splashtailstar]

(this includes nonbinary and multigender individuals who consider themselves to be attracted to an "opposite" gender)

(yes, the idea of an "opposite gender" is binarist, but vi can't really come up with a better way to word this)

(aromantic and asexual are being used as umbrella terms here)

also if you want to, say in the tags if you are trans, nonbinary, or genderqueer!

#vi am a genderfluid trans man with woman being part of vy gender sometimes and vi currently lean heavily towards men #even if vi were 100% a cis woman vi still wouldn't consider vyself straight or adjacent #one reason being that vi was a lesbian for most of vy life #but also bc not experiencing romantic attraction to men like vi am “supposed to” means vi will never fit in with straightness #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aspec #alloaro #aroallo #aceallo #alloace #aroace #arospec #acespec #non sam aro #non sam ace #actually aromantic #actually aro #actually arospec #polls #harbor's posts

[depressed-alone]

if they actually push a romantic interest onto Din I might actually die of cringe... leave the man alone!!!! he does not need a woman to kiss o(-( nor a man!! (its disney so obv thats not even an option tbf) like leave him out of that romance bullshit!!!!!

#im gonna be so disappointed actually if it happens #like especially if its w like bo-katan or smth #that lady is the most lesbian lesbian ever #she would not let a man touch her #like leave both of them alone they do not need to have a romantic line!!!!! #its so fucking out of character for Both of them #star wars #the mandalorian #mandalorian #din djarin #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace din djarin <3

[queeranese]

lord help me my mum just asked if i was gay and i almost replied "none of your business"

#su talks #i DIDNT thank god but it was on the tip of my tongue #i think out of all my parents she would be the most “chill” #i use quotations bc she's still not the most accepting i suppose #but man. there's too much going we dont have the time to get into this lady!! #so i simply said no <3 #ended up kind of saying i was aromantic without using the word tho??? much to think about

[torchstelechos]

My hottest take for SQQ/SY is that hes suuuper AroAce and doesnt realize that because he thinks being asexual is not thinking nor participating in sex at all. So he can’t be ace when he wants to have sex sooo badly, and he reads het smut so obviously!! Hes a straight man!! Even though he not once ever actually feels attracted to any of the CANONICAL MOST BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE IN THE WORLD. He talks about people like they’re paintings and hes the critic about to ruin a career. At one point he actively censors tits because he labeled all women in the world off limits from himself because they’re LBHs future wives, even though thats not how sexual attraction works. I think at one point in the Skinner scene he actively apologizes to his disciples for showing skin in his head and compares it to seeing your math teacher half naked, ignoring the fact that hes in one of those fan service scenes from an anime. HE. FUCKING. NEVER. ONCE. NOTICED. BINGHES. FEELINGS. UNTIL. THE. KISS. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! MY MANS IS FUCKING AROACE OF SOME SORT, LOOK AT HIM. LOOK!!!!!!!

#SVSSS #scum villian self saving system #Shen yuan #shen qingqiu #I apologize for the yelling I just get excited #but also the hottest part of this take isnt the Ace part but the Aro part #I straight up dont think our man is even aware Aromantic exists #Also I fully think he was in denial about liking Binghe not because of internalized homophobia but because he was never sexually attracted #to men and thus assumed he was straight #But alos internalized homophobia I just think the not attracted to anyone played a big factor into it #Demiromantic or demisexual maybe but our lad is on the spectrum and hes going ham #The one scene that stood out the most to me is when he meets shang hualing for the first time and goes ''...does her feet hurt?'' #instead of literally any other fucking comment about her clothes #he calls LQG a pretty boy but lets be honest he never ONCE thought harder than that #It took a kiss so shitty that SQQ went HUH into before realizing OH OH HE LIKES MEN???? #Like baby boy I promise you your future husband likes men I promise you

[waambles]

Aromantic Johnny Silverhand

#you agree reblog #aromantic #cp77 #cp2077 #cyberpunk 2077 #Johnny silverhand #he’s the most aromantic man I’ve ever seen #I am him and hims is me #aro #headcannon

[goosessideblog]

tgweaver comes THROUGH for aro awareness week!!

#cipherspeaks #dq #OHHHH MY GOD. MY GOD. THIS MAKES ME FUCKING INSANE #AUAHABAHAHH. AS SOMEONE WHO IS AROMANTIC. HOW DID YOU DO THIS SO WELL WEAVER ITS SO GOOD #THIS IS INSANE THIS IS INSANE I LVOE HIM!! WORLDS MOST AROALLO MAN AND THE GOD OF LOVE HIMSELF SAYS ITS VALID #WEAVER. HUGGING YOU. HUGGING YOU. HUGGING YOU. YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH THIS MEANS #wauuuuugh. sobbing. positively i’m so so so happy

[jumpscaregoose]

sitting around a lunch table with my interests like they're the ragtag gang of misfits in a 90s coming of age movie

#if there's one thing to know about me it is that I WILL have the most incoherent set of interests known to man #we have: #cult classic early 00s shonen manga #angsty pretty boy musician... thing #the Legos™ #beautiful rendition of grief and personal connection through excellent fantasy worldbuilding #goofy aromantic science education #funny and vague way to say bungo stray dogs #tag yourself lmao

[icewindandboringhorror]

I still very loathe the Media Trope of ‘’cold genius man doesn’t feel emotions and never has relationships... UNTIL.. one random relatively bland Preddy Woman comes along and warps his entire personality and ability to think, his heart has grown and his seeming asexuality has evaporated, he is now Normal :)” or whatever like... AS a walking generic hermit archetype myself.. we would NOT act like that .... just let people be detached weirdos in peace, you cowards .. OR, don’t bother to write one in the first place if you find us too boring to exist realistically in our natural state lol.. pathetic 

#the only exception to this is its okay if he develops some pesudo-romantic psychologial fixation on one of his long suffering male sidekicks #or assistants or whatever (since this character acrhetype ALWAYS has some sort of like Straight Man Every Man helper to follow #him around and be an audience stand in. sometimes multiple like a whole team of assistants. sometimes just one etc.) #like a strange not-entirely-romance-but-mutualy-unhealthy-comedic-codependence w someone you worked w 25+ yrs COULD be in character. sure. #ASIDE from that one exception though..... just keep them aromantic and asexual.. why would someone who has been that way for their #entire fucking life suddenly be like ''well I've known this woman three weeks but she's really hot! whoops!'' #''guess I'm going to act completely out of character! sometimes booba so booby it fundametally alters the dna of me personality. you know ho #w it is'' .. like shut up.. explode #It's not that I project personally onto these characters (writers are bad at writing them and they're generally annoying as shit) BUT just #like... coming FROM the perspective OF a cold detached ''robot'' seeming hermit freak.. like textbook scholar wizard man locked #away in a tower somewhere type personality... You just watch shows sometimes and you can SEE that the writers are trying to write #the Character Archetype that is your actual realworld personality and you're just like 'we do NOT fucking act like that!!!' lol #you know ? like .. i don't actually care about the characters themselves but more just.. the principle of the thing. staying true to what #has been set up. You can't be like ''oh yeah this is your typical cold detached hermit weirdo with zero interest in human relationships for #the most part blah blah blah'' and then 5 minutes later be like ''WAIT GUYS!! LOOK! they're still NORMAL! look they love booba #too!!! haha hashtag Relatable!!'' .. what have you done to him.. you've massacred the archtype.. cowardly fool #Also I'm referencing them as male because this character archtetype is usually male but the same thing can apply for other gendered versions #of the archetype. it's ALWAYS annoying. no matter what it is lol. GOD AND IT'S even worse when they're supposed to be like hundreds or thous #ands of years old like.. some sort of supernatural being who's ''above it all'' because they've seen the world's cycles for so long #and blah blah and then it's like ''omg.. suddenly into romance.. for some reason all 900 years of my life nobody has ever been good #enough but YOU.. random ass person who I met 30 minutes ago and are completely average in every way or maybe you have like one #special power or are smart or something but apparently somehow I've lived 900 years without ever meeting a single other smart person #or whatever but WOW.. you... instant soulamtes.. I am no longer aromantic and asexual. I am also no longer smart.'' #at least if it's a human with a normal lifespan you can be like 'well they were only 30. maybe they genuinely did just have their first #sexul awakening' or something but.. you're telling me like.. 900 years??? 1000 years?? and NOW they're like 'whooa!!' lol #Which obviously all aroace people are different.. all people with autism or schizoid pd or any other mental illnesses that can sometimes #lend people towards that type of 'weird hermit' archetype are all different. plenty of these people WILL have relationships and sex and desi #re those things. but it's like.. if you are OBVIOUSLY setting out to write that one VERY specific archetype within the broader archetype #then GO ALL THE WAY!! you cant have someone be like HALF-detached partial-hemrit sometimes-maybe-genuis or whatever #or I guess you can but like. it should be that way from the beginning. it's the random sudden shift in personality thats jarring