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cardentist · 5 months

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hallo, hi...sorry for probably asking something small. but i see you explain things very well and if its okay i wanna have a person explain this to me.

what's a transfem and transmac? i don't quite understand what those terms are. i think i see people use them in context different from just "trans man" or "trans woman"...and looking online i still don't really understand it.

if i am being a bother, please let me know!

@re-ikrmso

well ! the first thing to understand is that these terms will ultimately mean different things for different people !

labels are for people, people aren't meant to conform to labels. so ultimately people will have their own ideas about what different labels mean to them on a personal level.

it's kind of like how there really Isn't one firm definition that separates bisexual from pansexual, the distinction is largely personal and highly dependent on the context of an individual's life. their experiences, what communities they grew up and/or found themselves in, etc !

which ultimately makes it very difficult to give a definitive definition of labels like this that won't risk alienating people, or that other people won't simply disagree with.

THAT SAID.

to my understanding, "trans masc" as a term simply means anyone who is trans in a masculine way, while "trans fem" as a term means anyone who is trans in a feminine way.

for example:

someone who is a Trans Man is most likely someone who was assigned female at birth who then identified as a man (if you'll excuse the outdated terminology for convenience).

but trans Masc may include a variety of other trans identities !

a nonbinary person who transitions or presents in a masculine way may consider themselves trans masc, or at least consider them relevant in discussions about trans masc people, because they have similar experiences (such at with testosterone, bottom/top surgery, how they're treated because of their presentation, etc).

and this Can be true whether this nonbinary person considers themselves Aligned (meaning they are nonbinary in a masc direction) or Unaligned (meaning agender or completely separated from the gender binary). it's ultimately up to personal preference.

or an intersex person may be assigned male at birth And Be Trans Masc, may still transition (medically or socially) into a masc presentation.

they're also convenient terms for people who play further with gender. genderqueer people, genderfluid people, bigender people, etc.

because ! for instance. I am a trans masc person. I was assigned female at birth and I have identified myself masculinely. I would like to take testosterone and go through the social transition into a masculine person.

I also consider myself a trans fem person ! I would like to present femininely as well as masculinely, and importantly I wish to continue doing so after I HAVE medically and socially transitioned. after I've had my name changed, after I've had my legal sex changed, after my body and voice has changed.

there will be times where I will be visibly identifiable as a trans body presenting femininely, And I Like That. I won't just be presenting femininely as a man, I want to be both a feminine and masculine person.

and what this means for me is that I will share experiences with both trans masc And trans fem people, especially socially (and especially where I live, in the deep south).

but there very much so Does need to be a distinction between me (an afab person who is trans in both a masculine and feminine way) and a trans woman (an amab person who is a woman) (again, apologies for the outdated terminology).

and in that sense ! trans fem is a good way to get across the fact that I share Experiences with trans women, but am not one. in much the same way that amab nonbinary people can say the same.

so in other words ! trans fem and trans masc are umbrella terms that loosely connect multiple different sorts of people with similar lived experiences and needs. which is a convenient way of speaking About said needs and issues that may affect all sorts of these people in as efficient a way as possible.

instead of Specifying trans women and a list of other identities that may share things in common with them (a list that will never encompass every kind of person who may), you can shorten it to one more generalized term.

the Drawback of this is that not everybody sees the term that way. some people see trans fem and trans masc as identities in and of themselves that trans women and trans men aren't a part of. some people are people who Do share lived experiences with either trans men or trans women but don't consider themselves either trans fem or trans masc.

and that's like. Okay Actually. it's just expected that for any term that exists in queer spaces there will be people who don't like it or don't personally identify with it or just have a different experience with it.

but ultimately I do find it convenient to use and I choose to do so.

#discourse #not really but that's my tag for talking about things like this fjklsajklafds #queer unity #trans unity #trans fem #trans masc

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fanby-fckry · 2 months

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Random Facts About UH3 Alastor:

His father was an on-again-off-again feature in his and his mother’s lives until Alastor was 12, and is a big part of why Alastor has BPD traits and gets along better with women than men.

(If you’re new to this AU, or missed my other Cluster B Alastor posts, hi! Author has BPD and accidentally projected onto Alastor. Now I write him as intentionally having multiple Cluster B traits that I do, as well as the ones implied by canon.)

His parents weren’t married – to each other; Alastor has a stepmother he’s never met and doesn’t want to meet.

He claims that drinking was more fun during Prohibition because it was illegal.

He has rose-colored glasses regarding the previous fact; Prohibition-era Alastor absolutely complained about how much harder it was to get alcohol after the ban went through.

He doesn’t view nudity as inherently sexual.

He’s still more comfortable with others’ nudity than his own because he equates it to vulnerability.

He’s panaesthetic and bisensual. He doesn’t know those terms even exist, but picking microlabels helps my writing stay more consistent.

His aesthetic attraction isn’t based at all on gender, but he tends to feel more comfortable with physical affection from women than from men, which skews the sensual attraction a bit.

He can be sensually attracted to men and is sensually attracted to Lucifer, but 1.) it’s rarer and/or takes longer for Alastor to develop sensual attraction to a man, and 2.) Lucifer isn’t a man in the human gender binary sense of the word.

Lucifer is the only nonbinary person Alastor has ever felt any kind of attraction to, but that has more to do with lack of exposure to nonbinary people than anything regarding Alastor’s tertiary orientations.

Alastor may or may not have some gender fuckery of his own going on, but I doubt I’ll ever be exploring that in the main series.

I would describe Alastor’s gender as “man by default.” He doesn’t think about it very often. He’s not exactly an egg; it’s not that he’s in denial or unaware that being something besides a man is an option, it’s that he doesn’t care enough to pick a different label. He’s not dysphoric about being a man, but he’s not supper attached to the idea, either.

I think if he was born into Gen Z, he might identify as agender or cassgender, but as it stands, he inhabits the liminal space between, “I don’t feel strongly about my gender, which means I’m cis,” and “I don’t feel strongly about my gender, which means I’m not cis.” (Both valid experiences, btw.)

He’s 100% the type of person to tell a traumatic story from his childhood as if it’s a funny one and not understand why everyone’s looking at him like that.

He legitimately thinks that these stories are funny, because he’s twisted them around in his mind as an attempt to cope, but they retain enough of the original detail that on the rare occasion he decides to joke about them out loud, people go, “that’s kinda fucked up, actually.”

He has low empathy, but not no empathy. Every now and again, he does actually get some empathy, and every time he does it feels like a slap in the face – surprising and very unpleasant. If he could turn it off entirely, he probably would.

Remorse is a similar ordeal, rare but not unheard of, and he actively denies feeling it.

I started to write more about Alastor’s relationship with the concept of remorse, and remorse vs regret, but honestly, it needs its own post.

I projected a lot of my ace experience onto him, including the idea that kissing is boring 9 times out of 10. Not necessarily unpleasant, just… Boring. If there’s blood or biting or some form of D/s element, then it can be exciting, but otherwise we don’t get it.

#fanby’s fuckery #fanby: uhverse #fanby: uh3 #uh: alastor #uh: lucifer #hazbin hotel #alastor #lore dump #osha violation

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themaveriqueagenda · 10 months

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i refuse to believe that the maverique experience* - gender disconnected from manhood, womanhood, genderlessness and neutrality - is really as uncommon as it seems. there's no way there's so few of us.

i feel like it's more likely that people who have the same or a similar gendered experience as us just use different labels: maybe they're pera or aliagender or ilyagender, maybe they're aporagender or outherine, maybe they use slightly broader labels like aphorian or abinary, maybe they use labels that "technically don't apply". i know of at least one neutrois person who has said that technically maverique describes them better but they have used neutrous for so long because it's all there was when they came out and it feels more comfortable, and i personally identified as agender before finding the label maverique. with maveriques having so little visibility, i wouldn't be surprised if other people existed who either decide to use a label that's a bit more well-known or who simply don't know maverique exists, despite having a similar gendered experience.

but even adding all the people who use the above labels together (except for agender because it's a very common label), there's still barely any of us. i regularly search through aphorian, abinary, maverique, neutrous, ilyagender, aliagender, outherine, aporagender etc. tags on various social media and there's barely any of us.

but i'm pretty sure there are people with genders same or similar to ours who just use really broad terms, like genderqueer, nonbinary or trans.

i'm very sure that many people who use those very broad labels actually do have genders at least somewhat like ours, but don't like specific labels, don't like the words people have come up with or simply don't know they exist.

and these are all valid reasons to identify as anything other than maverique. but at the same time, it makes it really hard for maveriques (or apora-umbrella people in general) to find community, to find people like us in the sea of men, women, mascs and fems.

i KNOW there are more like us, but i can't connect. this is why maveriques and other aporagender people need visibility, so we can connect to each other and so that more people might find that one of these terms describes their gender.

*i'm aware there are some labels that are very similar or almost synonymous to maverique and that the same experience could be called a pera experience or an outherine experience or an ilyagender experience, but this is a maverique blog.

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neopronouns · 8 months

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flag id: a flag with 5 stripes. in order, they are dark faded green, very dark silver, near-black, copper brown, and orange. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

an alternate anonbinary flag for anon!

the top two stripes are very adjusted versions of the opposites of yellow and purple (colors from the nonbinary flag) and the bottom two stripes are colors not often associated with a binary gender, brown and orange. the black stripe in the middle is mostly for visual flow, but can also represent genderless/agender/adjacent anonbinary folks.

anon also mentioned wanting an alternate term for anonbinary, similar to how abinary has the alternate term aphorian. i came up with etceterian [pt: etceterian], inspired by the term etcegender, with both coming from the word 'etcetera'!

dni link

#anonbinary #etceterian #flag redesign #my flags #new flag #mogai flag #mogai term #mogai

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nerves-nebula · 6 months

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hi there, i want to ask about your usage of it/its pronouns, sorry if this might make you uncomfortable or if its weird or confusing

are your it/its pronouns any different from it/its pronouns for an object? I don't know how to word it sorry, I'm just trying to understand more about other types of pronouns

It’s fine. They aren’t different from an objects it/its to me, because objects & animals & concepts aren’t inherently inferior to humans, so I wouldn’t really mind being in the same group as them conceptually.

It’s a mindset I haven’t fully gotten into but I’m trying to rework the way I see the world, inspired partially by the things I’ve heard native Americans say. Like, I am not better than the food I eat because I’m human. A bear isn’t better than me because they can eat me & kill me. Humans are a part of the earth and would do best to work inside of it and with it than to try to control it or put ourselves on a higher level than it’s other creatures.

I mean clearly we can’t be all that much smarter & more important, what with what we’ve got going on.

But anyway, my pronoun change was at first honestly just the most logical conclusion.

Here’s my train of thought: I didn’t like he or she, Im not a man or a woman. and they/them don’t tell you anything about my gender. If you hear someone call me they/them you aren’t even gonna know I have a weird gender!

Similar to how man and woman are genders, but Non-binary isn’t. Non-binary just describes what you aren’t, its an umbrella term not (inherently) a specific gender. it’s very broad and most nonbinary people I’ve seen & met still identify in parts with man and woman. They/them is so vague that no one would bat an eye if you slipped in a they while describing a cis person who clearly reads as their assigned gender.

And I’m too forgetful & lazy to use neopronouns so, it/it’s was the natural choice. It’s easier to integrate because people already use it/it’s for stuff all the time.

And see, here’s the thing: I have a gender, I’m not vague or in between or a mix. And it’s much closer to like, the idea of a Third Gender. This was something that frustrated me a lot in high school because I would go looking for labels and most of them were about proximity to manhood & womanhood. Or about being agender or neutral. Or about concepts I fully did not relate to. I am not one of those things.

Another issue I had was that a lot of these gender labels had “-gender” at the end which doesn’t make sense to me at all. It’s not mangender and womangender so I didn’t vibe with this naming scheme.

I was also hesitant to use a label a white person made because I’d noticed that white people kind of have a different experience with nonbinary gender than people like me.

Luckily I found the perfect label! Maverique! It had no weird -gender suffix and it was made by a black person who created it online after realizing neutral/agender didn’t fit right.

And yea so it/its is a signifier of me as a third thing. not male, not female, not neutral or in between or lacking gender- just a different kind of person.

And this isn’t even getting into all the ways that I related to monsters in media, which were frequently called by it/it’s pronouns. Or how being abused factors into seeing myself as a non human THING and how embracing that makes me feel much more alive & like a person.

So yea, that’s the run down :)

#nnstuff #ask #it pronouns #trans #nonbinary #transgender #queer

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tjmystic · 4 months

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Before I say anything else, let me be clear that I support trans, nonbinary, and otherwise queer people. I support and want to validate the ways that they choose to present themselves and the things they need to make themselves feel like humans instead of weird dolls that someone slapped a gender onto arbitrarily. This is not a TERF post, I'm not interested in anything TERFs have to say.

Now, with that out of the way, I'm going to do a "woe is me, poor little privileged person" thing, and I'm well aware that it's going to sound dumb, but this blog is basically a virtual diary at this point, and, if you followed me, you signed up to sneak into my room with little flashlights and creep through the pages.

It is SO difficult to hold so-called "normal" or mainstream identities when, in large part, you don't want to have a community with any of the people who also hold such identities. And not just because of them. It's also because of people who are deemed transversive or abnormal. I recognize that this is a purely online problem and that most people who don't match the norm have to hide themselves away in fear lest they be attacked, but I'm not really interested in meeting or doing things with anyone in person, so virtual interaction is what I do. And because I reject everything fascist, white supremacist, evangelical, and misogynistic, most of my curated online experience is very queer. Usually, that's great. I'm not queer myself, but I usually feel like I have more in common with queer people than I do with other cis straights.

But not always.

Here's an example. I get that a lot of people hate the gender binary and find it oppressive. I completely agree that arbitrary gender roles are stupid. I also understand that gender isn't completely binary because, otherwise, nonbinary and agender people wouldn't exist. But people lose me when they say they want to abolish gender entirely. I am a woman and I like being a woman and I have always identified as either a girl or a woman. (Discounting one day when I was 4 and tried drawing hair on my chest with my mom's mascara because I COMPLETELY missed the point of Mulan and thought it meant you couldn't do cool stuff if you were or looked like a girl. My mom clarified things for me.) Taking that away from me would be taking away a big part of who I am and how I define myself. I don't even like the idea of anyone ever asking me about my pronouns, because the idea that someone couldn't be able to tell at first glance that I'm a woman makes me feel gross. Not because being anything besides a woman is gross, but because me being seen as anything other than what I am is. I already feel unsexy and ugly and unattractive on a daily basis, being mistaken for anything but a woman would just make that even worse.

On a similar note, I'm a monogamous person. I like the idea that other people have so much love to give that they don't want to be confined to a single romantic pairing. Sometimes. But, most of the time, hearing people openly describe their relationship goals with terms like, "I don't want to limit myself to one person" and, "It's stupid to think that one person can fulfill all of your emotional needs" is deeply depressing for me. It plants that seed of reminder that even people I think I have a kinship with would never think I'm enough in a relationship, that they would eventually get bored of me and want more because I just can't do it for them on my own. That is devastating to me.

Final example: I'm Christian. Literally no one needs me to explain why Christians are pretty much always the bad guys. Even I have a tendency to cringe away from or otherwise dismiss anyone who calls themselves Christian or talks about Jesus because I know the behaviors and attitudes associated with my religion. But it's still my religion. And seeing people call all religions cults, say we should do away with religion entirely, or claim that religion is the main source of people wanting to murder each other makes me want to bash my head against a wall.

But it doesn't feel like there's an alternative. I'm not talking to people who want to oppress or even murder trans and other queer people. I'm not participating in anything with people who think that enforced monogamy is a good thing. I don't actually see any kinship between myself and predominantly white nationalists who use Jesus as an excuse to do whatever the fuck they want. But it sometimes feels like the only alternative to that is being stuck in a weird "other" box.

I'm not expecting a reward for doing the bare minimum of rejecting the stupid and cruel parts of society. I'm not comparing my "struggle" or whatever to the genuine fear of assault and death that queer people have to deal with on a daily basis. It would just be nice if there was any kind of community that doesn't want to kill or hurt people but is also cool with liking some of the societal constructs we've been born with.

#no idea how to tag this #queer #queer community #anti terf

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your-bigender-big-brother · 2 months

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Are there any gender loving gender terms for atrinary/outheric genders? I'm making a chart but I can't find any specifically for Atrinary/outheric genders:(

I'm sorry for the swearing but holy shit, I SCOURED for attractional labels for atrinarity and so many orientation terms are either specific to the gender trinary or they use the very broad nonbinary label. Man-loving-gender, woman-loving-gender, nonbinary-loving-gender, agender-loving-gender, and NOTHING outside of that.

The only thing I found was "mavrixian", a term for maverique-loving-maverique whose wiki page is a candidate for deletion because it has no external sources listed. Not even a page for aporagender-loving-gender, which is also a maverine experience.

The entire juvelic system is focused on men, women, and nonbinary people with nothing else included. "Nonbinary" can technically include atrinary identities but people deserve labels that are more specific to their experiences. A handful of juvelic terms also include neutral-aligned identities and even xenogender, which aren't atrinary either!

Too many identities get shoved under the nonbinary label but we have so many incredibly specific words for being men and women: Terms for being in-between, being both at once, being both but it changes, being partially both, being either of them and aligned with certain genders, being either of them and attracted to specific genders, etc. But then anything that isn't a man or a woman just get called nonbinary and that's the end of it. You're either mlm, mlw, wlw, wlm, or some kind of similar nonbinary-loving-gender. It's frustrating.

Where is all the love for atrinary-focused orientations? Does anyone know of any terms?

Also, can I get some help from @our-outherly-experience with this ask? (If you don't mind the ping.) - 💙💚

#bbb.ask #anon #glg #orientation #atrinary #outherine #your bigender big brother #I'm foaming at the mouth right now.

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void-galaxy-shenanigans · 2 months

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We’ve never made (& never planned to make) a pinned post of frequently asked questions (FAQs) or important info but...here we are. After an influx of new people, I think it might be time to make a proper introductory post.

Heads up that this will be long because I don’t want multiple parts. I’ll drop a read-more line after the basic info so you can choose whether to read the rest.

¡Hi! We are the Void Galaxy (that’s a D.I.D. system name). We are a traumagenic system with D.I.D. Welcome to our blog.

We’ll start with basics, go over a lil history, & then have terms, tags, side blogs, rules, & FAQs (in that order).

So here is a masterpost for all of the info that y’all may need on our page.

Note that I’ll elaborate on in rules/boundaries: We don’t mind “spamming” likes & reblogs. It’s completely okay to do so on this blog or our side blogs 💜.

~Nico

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Basics:

Profile Picture (PFP): ¡We didn’t make the art in our PFP! We got it from @nightcatssketchbook 💜

Body’s age: 24 years

Pronouns: he/they collectively, but headmates vary & we’ll attempt to remember to include pronouns with names when someone new posts.

We’re also all for being thrown a curveball (unexpected) pronoun, as long as it’s not she/her (very much doesn’t fit us) or it/its (doesn’t fit us). We may not like every one people use, but as long as it’s used in good faith, we probably won’t mind. Unless it’s a headmate who requests otherwise, or it’s Serenity (who uses they/she, making her the only headmate who still uses she/her at all; they’re open to curveball pronouns except for he/it), most pronouns are fair game. So...¿surprise us?

Gender Identity: We usually say nonbinary-ish man. Our lover offered boyflux / manflux and that’s the best specific label we have.

(We tend to explain our gender day to day very differently. Sometimes queer man, sometimes wizard/sorcerer, sometimes abstract concept, or something genderless/agender. It doesn’t stay still. The only thing we are not (even including Serenity, who is feminine-ish nonbinary)) is a girl.)

¿AGAB?: The biological sex we were accused of at birth is none of your business. We were convicted as a nonbinary-ish man as an adult and that’s what matters.

¿Number of Headmates?: We are polyfragmented and honestly I’ve lost track at this point 😭

¿When did we discover we had D.I.D.?: The journey began with undeniable evidence in early 2019. We were first medically confirmed in June of 2020.

¿Who is fronting for / writing this post?: My name is Nicolás Carriedo, but everyone calls me Nico and I usually tag myself as Nico on this blog. You can usually identify me from español being slipped in to posts, purple emoji hearts 💜, & sometimes ¿? ¡! and other tone tags (others use those sometimes).

I’m an age slider (my age varies from stress), but I’m usually 18 to the body’s age. (Sometimes I’ll be 5 or 7 or 9 or otherwise a little for a bit. (Similar to age regression, except my body in headspace slides to match and I forget everything that happened after that age, and it’s a D.I.D. experience & because I also age regress sometimes.)) As far as roles, I’m a frequent fronter right now, but I’m also a protector and trauma holder.

(Please do nOT call me Nick, I hate it and that’s not my name, & I won’t respond to it. My name is español / de España. I also have two dads and an older brother in system with me.)

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History / where & when this blog began:

This blog began as a reblogging and sneaky backdoor-into-the-internet blog back in 2011 (was not supposed to have Internet or computers, so we used school computer labs and libraries), and became a fandom and shenanigans page back in 2013. In 2019 to 2020, it also became a bit of a healing journey & mental health page as we ended up with undeniable evidence that we were plural and needed a place to vent those feelings and discoveries that our biological (bio) family, and especially our bio parents, would not find.

Now it is becoming a mix of shenanigans and reblogs, and actual advice and knowledge and theories and discoveries, and sometimes a place where we mention or discuss witchcraft and polytheism. (I don’t know when it officially became a blog that people followed for the reassurance and theories and advice, but here we are.)

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Terms:

• Plurality / Multiplicity (noun / adjective): refers to the fact that one brain & body has multiple people in it, whether they have OSDD-1 or D.I.D.

• System(s) (noun): the collective people sharing a brain & body, or identifying as a unit. This can be two people or many. A system is a single group; systems refers to multiple bodies who experience plurality. Some systems also have subsystems, groups within the same body/mind that identify as or are considered somehow separate from the main system.

• Headmates, Headmages, Mindmages, Mindmates, etc. (noun): these refer to the people in a plural system. Each individual person is a headmate, mindmate, etc., including the host(s) &/or gatekeeper(s). The term in the DSM is “alters” but that refers to ‘alternate personalities’, which treats us as facets of a whole, like some monstrous Frankenstein’s monster, that doesn’t actually exist. Headmates/mindmates is akin to calling them roommates (we live together and share a space; we can be friends or family, but can also be strangers who never meet or strictly business partners or acquaintances or etc. & don’t automatically get along, so roommates encompasses all possibilities for us). As for mindmages/headmages, my keyboard auto-corrected to this once and I stared at it and laughed, and started actually using it because I loved the idea of magic & fantasy being interwoven with our existence. The most common term you’ll see us (& some other systems) use is headmates.

• Fronting/Fronted (verb - to front): the act of controlling the body & interacting with the outside world. This can be the person writing/typing, speaking, doing chores, taking care of the body, etc.. For some systems, this is like puppeteering from a distance, and others it’s like a computer or video game console, and there are likely other ways this is represented (all systems are unique).

• Front (noun): the physical/mental place from which we front (verb). This can be a blank space for some systems, or a house, or something more complicated. Our fronting space is currently a room that has computer screens to see outside (3 screens; peripheral vision (2) + central vision), and we control the body via PS3 remote controls like a video game. Sometimes there will be multiple people stealing one remote or passing it around, and sometimes there will be multiple remotes as we share control of the body & voice. There's a city around the building and all the buildings are made of a reddish brown brick. (I have a very vivid imagination so we have a vivid headspace that I built to make the space more comfortable.)

• Co-conscious (co-con) (verb / noun (place)): when a mindmage is conscious of the outside world, near enough to the fronting space to observe what the others are doing, but not in control of the body.

• Co-front(ing) (verb): when two or more headmates front together. There might be a primary fronter with others co-front, close enough to control the body &/or speak, or there may be 2 or more headmates splitting the controls.

• Mindscape, Headspace, Mind Palace, etc. (nouns): the physical place inside our mind where we go when we dissociate. If we dissociate a little we see the fronting space, but if we switch out or dissociate to co-con we can see different parts of it. Some people have a blank space or no visuals, and some have vivid &/or complex headspaces. Our mindscape is complex and vivid.

• Roles: these are the jobs that headmates may be assigned. They describe the tasks that person usually does. This can be a person remembering trauma the other(s) can’t handle (trauma holder), the person protecting the system or a headmate from further trauma (protector, persecutor), the person taking care of the physical body or helping the body cope through heavy emotions or flashbacks (caretaker, caregiver), or more.

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Tags:

• # ~Nico, # ~Jack, or other # ~name tags — these are fronting tags. We may forget sometimes but are trying to consistently tag whoever wrote or reblogged a post in the post &/or the tags.

• # original art, # original photography, # original character, etc. - these are photos, art pieces, & characters we designed. They may be reblogs from our other side blogs, but they are ours. Unless marked, any photography or characters we reblog don’t belong to us. However, other people’s art with be marked with # not my art or # not our art

• # Liliana, # Liliana 🐱, # Lili, # Lili 🐱, # our kitty, # my kitty - We have a calico kitty named Liliana (nickname Lili). Sometimes we talk about her or share photos 💜. These tags mark when a post is about her.

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Side Blogs:

@void-galaxy-art-stuffs - ¡art we’ve made! Some of this may contain triggering content / topics though, so scroll at your own discretion.

@void-galaxys-photos - photos we’ve taken. These are all taken on cell phones (most recently (past 3 years), Samsung Galaxy S8, Samsung Galaxy S21, & Moto One 5G Ace (Motorola)). We often take pictures of nature, especially clouds.

@note-to-self1119 - these are notes we need, directed at our younger self, but they may be helpful for others

@teaquotes48 - these are quotes I’ve found on tea bags when we drink cold/flu tea. Some of those quotes were just worth sharing 🤷‍♂️☺.

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FAQs:

Q: ¿What does “medically confirmed” mean?

A: We have not been told if we have a professional diagnosis on paper yet. But we have been openly acknowledged by 3 different licensed medical professionals and repeatedly told to seek a D.I.D. specialist for a professional diagnosis.

Q: ¿How did you get medically confirmed 3 times?

A: After a year of therapy (first time around; ended June 2020), our therapist said she “[had] met 26 of [us]” and that she highly recommended we got to a D.I.D. specialist. (We did not know how to find, or have money for, a specialist at the time.) That means a professional confirmed our existence. This happened again with our new therapist (began August 2023), who has already distinctly met 3 of us (me, Lucca, & Serenity). We know because we’re getting more comfortable openly presenting as plural; I usually wear blue (shirt + button up / flannel) with the body’s natural hair, but Lucca wore a wig that looks like his hair in headspace and a green outfit (shirt + flannel) and Serenity (they/she) wore a wig and a dress with a coat over it that covered up our chest (we agreed to let her not bind in the therapy room as long as they wore a coat to hide our chest elsewhere). Our therapist has also encountered (co-conscuious, has spoken aloud but wasn’t fronting) Jack several times, and this week she encountered Wolfe and Sylver for the first time. So that’s two therapists. And lastly, our psychiatrist asked about what the intake person had only noted as “hears voices” (I explicitly called it D.I.D. so that was rude), & I was honest. By the second check-in on meds, she explicitly asked us “who’s fronting today?” (she met me, Nico, before that but I was alone, & that time there were 3 others with me, no clue how she knew) & especially after that session (we were switchy and talking to eachother aloud) she agreed that she saw signs of D.I.D. and that we should seek a specialist when we can. Between all of those, that makes us triple medically confirmed. (Technically our current therapist has an intern shadowing her who has also seen and acknowledged our D.I.D./plurality, but she's not licensed yet.)

Q: ¿Do you believe that D.I.D./OSDD-1 has to be professionally diagnosed to be valid?

A: Absolutely not. Access to professional diagnosis is limited and often expensive. It can take up to 15 years (and sometimes several medications) to get the correct diagnosis, and the minimum is usually 3 to 5 years. I do think that self diagnosis should be careful and involve official research papers (using Google Scholar if needed, but preferably using scientific journals if you can access them), because (a) confirmation bias (believing you have something & ignoring any evidence to the contrary) & (b) there are similar disorders that may fit better. There has also been some stigma and misinformation spread on social media (and in movies) to be wary of. But I do believe that most self diagnosed D.I.D./OSDD systems are correct about their own experience and are completely valid.

Q: ¿Are there movies or TV shows where I can learn more about D.I.D. or see it represented? ¿Are there ones I should avoid?

A: Yes, if you take them with a grain of salt because they are still dramatized and may contain misinformation or stigma or other biases. Most systems believe Moonknight (a TV show on Netflix) is the current most accurate representation. But as far as avoiding representation, or being cautious to do high levels of misrepresentation or only representing dangerous & negative stories around plurality, please avoid or be careful with The Crowded Room, & Split & Glass.

Q: ¿Did you shatter/break as a child? / ¿How did you become plural?

A: (No.) The current most supported theory (supported by evidence with replicable results, but psychology is a newer science and not a hard science so not 100% proven) says that everyone is born with identity fragments. These fragments integrate with a single identity and memory at 9 to 12 years old, in healthy childhood. This creates a multifaceted personality, or the phenomenon of people being a different person with their family vs coworkers vs lovers. When a child forms plurality (D.I.D./OSDD-1), repeated trauma (mixed with severe trauma, or smaller trauma compounding) prevents these fragments from fully integrating their identity, memory, or both. These fragments get separated by amnesia walls (they forget about one another, forget about memories or separate identities or both, & can't access or integrate with one another), which then forces each individual fragment to form its own multifaceted identity. The difference between 1a, 1b, & D.I.D. is the degree of identity separation / distinctly different people and the degree of amnesia (forgetting trauma, day to day events, &/or switches). The identity & memory separation cannot be from religious or cultural experiences (e.g. shamanic practices or religious trances) and has to be persistent (the minimum observation time prior to professional diagnosis is one year). It's usually a covert disorder, but if someone discovers their plurality it can start to reveal itself in more obvious ways.

(Spirit (one of our headmates) actually wants to combine these into one label, something along the lines of ‘traumatic amnesia with plurality’, & (similar to autism) have what is now separate diagnoses be scales under a single label (degrees of identity & memory separation), but unless that happens they are considered three separate and related disorders.)

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eldorr · 1 year

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Otherkin Combo Flags

Row 1: Agender (left) || Transfem (middle) || Transmasc (right)

Row 2: Nonbinary (left) || Aroace (right)

Row 3: Mspec (left) || Gay Man (middle) || Lesbian (right)

Row 4: Gay/LGBTQ+ (left) || Queer (right)

These combo flags were originally posted February 27th, 2022.

[ID] Ten flags, all with the otherkin/elven star on them. They are the Agender flag, 4-striped Transfem and Transmasc flags, the Nonbinary flag, the Aroace flag, the 6-striped Mspec flag, the 5-striped blue and green Gay Man flag and sunset Lesbian flag, the 6-striped rainbow/Gay flag, and the 9-striped Queer flag. If you need an ID of an individual flag, it's under the alt text image option. [/End ID]

[ID] A DNI (do not interact) banner with a very faded galaxy background. On the left of the banner there’s a flag as with a rounded side, the circle inside it showing an image of a cone tornado at the end of a road, the flag being the (General) Neurodivergent flag. The rest of the image is filled with white text that reads: “DNI (Do Not Interact). Against Good Faith Self Identification Or “Contradictory” Identities, Transmed, Sysmed, Group Arospec under Acespec, Anti-Educated Self-Dx, Call Mspec identities “Bispec”, Anti-Alterhuman, Anti-Otherkin, Anti-Chronosian, Against the term Transandromisia (or similar terms), Anti Aldernic, Anti-Altersex, Pro-Contact harmful paras, TransID, Anti-Anti, Proship, “Consang”, Anti-SFW Agere, Demonize Cluster B disorders, Anti-BLM, Anti-ACAB” [/End ID]

#coining #mogai #liom #combo flags #lgbtq+#imoga #otherkin #kin #agender #transfem #transmasc #nonbinary #aroace #mspec #gay man #lesbian #gay #queer #bright colors #eye strain

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transenbyconfessions · 10 months

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My gender is a whole buncha wibbly wobbly who-knows-what, and I've been trying to figure it out. If anything, I consider myself very neutral with either an androgynous or a neumasc presentation (since I have both masc and fem sides to my nature, a neutral "core" of sorts, and am transitioning to a more neutral and masc kinda way of being via taking T, gradual social changes, and a future top surgery / hysterectomy). Like I use nonbinary and genderqueer, but it doesn't quite feel like those labels are specific enough to really say, "Yes, this is who I am 100 percent!" I've used transmasc, transneutral, and transandrogynous too, but those don't totally fit as standalone things. Agender, genderfluid, multigender? None of those are perfect fits either, although agender (as a term similar to neutrois, not agender as in genderless) seems to be closer than anything else. I consider myself a person first and foremost and am uncomfortable being put into the Man Box and especially uncomfortable being put into the Woman Box - I wish I could smoosh those boxes flat and sit on top of them like some kinda stubborn cat lmao. I wish there was a word for people like me, but nothing I've tried to use has worked out, which is honestly a huge bummer

Submitted June 15, 2023

#transgender #trans #enby #nb #nonbinary #non-binary #non binary #agender

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Regarding your experience with being agender, was it like...realizing you were asexual and realizing your were agender were two different parts of the same journey, with one realization sort of leading into the other? Or was it more like two entirely separate realizations? I feel like gender and sexuality can be either very separate or very intertwined for different people, but I'm curious to hear your experience if you're comfortable sharing.

Also (and sorry for my cluelessness!) how would you define agender vs nonbinary?

In reverse order:

Agender is a subset of nonbinary. Nonbinary is just...anything that isn't strictly/solely/perfectly aligned with "man" or "woman." Anything outside those two camps, even if it's part-time outside those camps. Agender is "No gender" or just fucking off the map entirely in no camps.

Anyway, for me personally, they were very different paths. Asexual was one of those things where I just saw the word with the explanation of what it was and went "That's what that is???????"

So really, it was honestly already "knowing" and not knowing what to call it. It was a lightning bolt moment, I suppose.

I feel like aromantic was on a similar vein, but took longer, actually. I flopped around for a while assuming I was heteroromantic because wanting relationships with other-binary-gender-assigned-at-birth was just expected of me, to eventually realizing I didn't actually have any desire to be in a relationship with anyone regardless of gender, to learning the words "lithromantic" and "akoiromantic" and thinking, "Yeah, okay, that fits, I guess, and it's an aro-spec thing?"

And the longer identified comfortably as aro-spec, the more I kind of came to terms with the fact that I really probably wasn't attracted to them romantically at all and it was a messy combination of friendship and societal expectations and being needy for attention, and etc.

Agender was...well, actually, the first time I remember trying to come out as agender was around the same time I came out to my friends as aro. I'd seen some stuff talking online about how physical dysphoria wasn't actually a necessity for being trans and went, "Oh, wait, maybe this sort of fits then...?"

A binary trans friend shut me down pretty hard and I managed to mentally recloset myself for several more years and pinging back and forth about whether maybe I was nonbinary or not.

What eventually pushed the gender thing over the edge for me was realizing that I while sometimes I don't mind being called "he" or "she," sometimes I really in fact do mind those both equally, and it was more "me being okay with being assumed a gender that's wrong" and less "well, it's fine if people gender me the way everyone always has because it doesn't bother me"—I felt the same way about the other binary gender, too!

And then once I embraced that and started leaning into it more and degendering parts of my presentation and expression and mixing in both genders more and more, I realized that actually, I really probably had dysphoria this whole time and didn't recognize it, because, like: agender. The dysphoria often doesn't look like wanting to be in a prototypically other binary gender body because that's not the gender I am, either.

And now I'm just sort of vibing here, I guess?

Also, part if it was probably, "This gender thing is fucking confusing and I can't figure it out and I am opting entirely out of this entire fucking process. Good day."

#agender #queer #nonbinary #trans

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lilyginnyblackv2 · 2 years

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Tiger & Bunny: Nathan Seymour - Gender Identity & Sexual Orientation

In this post I will be taking a deep dive into Nathan's gender identity. The Hero TV Vol. 2 scans are from @certainenthusiastfan and @isleofair. I also have a screenshot with the Japanese CC from a scene in The Rising (I'm sure you all know which scene this is, lol).

Along with this, I got my definitions of X-gender from Mishima Kitan's Ko-fi write up on how they would explain Bigender and Agender in Japanese. Mishima Kitan (they/them) is a nonbinary and Japanese, and they have a great Twitter (@MishimaKitan). Definitely recommend giving them a follow, I'll link to their website below in the comments as well, so you can follow their work through other means if Twitter isn't your jam.

Any and all other sources that I use will also be linked in the comments below.

Okay, now that all the sourcing is out of the way, let's dive into this!

First up, we have the Hero TV Vol. 2 information. Before we jump into what is actually said in the contents, let's talk about when this was released. The release date was in November 2011. Tiger & Bunny S1 ran from April to September of 2011. So, this book released about two months after the first season finished.

Translation:

Entrust the hearts of both men and women to me ♪

Since Nathan is genderfree and belongs to both genders, they have a complete and clear understanding of the hearts of both men and women. Truly a specialist on love and relationships.

Something to note is that, in Japan, "genderfree" specifically applies to the idea of "gender equality" and is viewed as a feminist term and a form of feminism in Japan (so Nathan has been a feminist long before Ryan - no surprise there, lol). A quick Google search of something like "genderfree Japan" will give you lots of articles (in English) talking about this. If you want to check out some Japanese articles on this movement, you can just search ジェンダーフリー, and get a lot of articles (Wikipedia as well) defining what this is and so on.

Getting back to the translation above though, the interesting thing brought up here in regards to Nathan's gender identity is "belongs to both genders." The Japanese is very clear here, with 属する (zoku suru) meaning "to belong to, be associated with, to come under" and 男女どちら側 (otokoonna dochira gawa) meaning, on a very broken down level, "both genders, both sides".

For a long time the assumption was that this Hero TV volume was stating that Nathan was agender, but now we know that the better terminology is likely "bigender" or even "X gender." "X gender" is a specific Japanese queer term and identity which is a bit of an umbrella term, since it can mean both "agender" and "bigender." Here is some more specific information on this from Mishima Kitan's write up on this:

On the Wikipedia article, both bigender and agender are categorized underneath "X gender" - a term similar to "nonbinary" that was developed and is in use in Japan.

On the Wikipedia article, bigender is described as "X ジェンダー (両性)" meaning, "X gender (both genders)" and the text that follows is 「自分（じぶん）のことを男（おとこ）でも女（おんな）でもあると認識（にんしき）する人（ひと）の性自認（せいじにん）のこと」 which says "A gender identity of a person who regards oneself as both male and female."

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On the other hand, agender is described as "X ジェンダー (無性) ” which means "X gender (no gender)" and the text that follows is, 「自分（じぶん）のことを男（おとこ）とも女（おんな）とも男（おとこ）と女（おんな）の中間（ちゅうかん）とも男（おとこ）と女（おんな）の両方（りょうほう）ともある特定の2つの性（せい）の間（あいだ）で自認（じにん）する性（せい）が揺（ゆ）れ動（う��）くとも認識（にんしき）しない人（ひと）の性自認（せいじにん）のこと」 which translates to, "A gender identity of a person who does not identify as neither man or woman, nor being between male or female, nor being both male and female, nor have their identity fluidly move between the two particular genders."

Of course, now you must be saying, "Okay, that's it then! Nathan is bigender or X gender. What else more could there be to discuss on this?" But...well, it's not quite that clear-cut. Because, we now need to look at the terminology that the creators actually use for Nathan and what Nathan uses for herself.

(The rest is going under a Read More due to images and length).

For this next image from Hero TV Vol. 2, I'm just going to focus on the second sentence (which I have underlined). Since that is the only one there that really deals with Nathan's gender identity.

"A so-called “onee-kei” character who has a male body but is a female inside."

With this bit of information we get how the creators are defining Nathan's gender identity - "onee-kei." So now, I want to talk some more about "onee-kei." What is it? Let's first look at this article that was written over on WordPress in Spring of 2013. It is titled "Homosexuality in Japanese Media ｜Queer Studies at SFC" and is written by Taiki Yamamoto. Here is how they define "onee-kei" :

In Japanese TV shows, these “onee-kei” celebrities who are men acting like females or those who have actually changed their sex are popular. Their character ranges from stereotypical flamboyant to ones who have sharp tongues like Matsuko.

Another definition provided in a write up on the website "Japanese With Anime" is:

"onee" wa honrai, "onee-kotoba" nado {gei no kochou shita} josei-kotoba ya {shina wo tsukutta} furumai wo sashite tsukawarete-ita hazu. ima wa {{jinshu ya zokusei no} you ni} atsukaware, {onee-kotoba wo tsukatte-inai} gei ya {josei toshite ikite-iru} hito ni made tsukawarete-iru.

『オネエ』は本来、『オネエ言葉』などゲイの誇張した女性言葉やしなを作った振る舞いを指して使われていたはず。今は人種や属性のように扱われ、オネエ言葉を使っていないゲイや女性として生きている人にまで使われている。

Originally, "onee" was used to refer to "onee-kotoba," female language {exaggerated by gays} and [their] {coquettish} mannerisms. Now, [it] is treated {like {a type of person or attribute}}, being used toward gays [that] {don't use onee-kotoba} and even people {living as women}.

So, as we can see, this term can be used to describe a form of presentation (men behaving in stereotypical feminine ways), gay men who are more effeminate and use female language, or by trans women who have transitioned or by trans or nonbinary individuals who live as women.

That...covers quite a wide range of very different kinds of queer identities, at least, from an English speaking and American perspective of mine.

I want to go back to that first article that was written on WordPress in 2013, a year before The Rising came out in 2014. It has this to say about how "onee-kei" characters are often depicted in media:

In many TV dramas, they put these onee-kei characters in the story as a comical character. However some drama make the gay/lesbian character have a serious role.

Nathan does seem to fit into this. In S1, the series treated Nathan much more like a comical character, though they did provide Nathan with some serious moments as well. I think The Rising is pretty unique in how it approaches Nathan's sexual orientation and role as an "onee-kei" character. But, I'll talk about that some more in a second, since we are now on the scene from The Rising. Yes, this one:

Here we have Nathan not using the term "onee" or "onee-kei," but "okama" (オカマ). This is Nathan self-identifying, but this, then, becomes a bit tricky. I'm sure many who are familiar with anime and manga have come across this term before. But for those who haven't, some general points about this term is: 1. it is offensive and 2. it was a term that was largely used by others to talk about effeminate gay men or crossdressers (men crossdressing as women).

In more recent years, it has become public knowledge that this term is discriminatory, and the only ones that really use it in public (like on TV) are talents who self-ID as "okama" as a form of reclaimant.That being said, there are still people who likely use this term in a derogatory manner in private, especially older people. That’s basically what the old man in The Rising movie is meant to represent. Anyway, getting back to the definition itself. Here are some English definitions of okama:

From “Tofugu” :

Okama is still widely used today, both as a self-referential identity term, and as a slur. As you can imagine, calling someone okama can be a total insult, as it reduces someone's entire identity down to a sex act. However, the term is also thrown about to refer to effeminate (usually gay) men, drag queens, and trans women, and not necessarily in derogatory ways. Within the queer community, many people consider it reclaimed and use it jokingly amongst other queer friends, similarly to how some gay English speakers might call their friends "queens." There are also some within the queer community, mostly in older generations, who prefer the term okama over Western alternatives.

A thing to note here is how the word okama and often the characters are related to being sexual or sexual acts, etc. We certainly see that with Nathan in S1, but The Rising and S2 really toss all of that away and allow Nathan to be far more than that. Especially in S2, where we see Nathan liking and desiring the domestic and soft nature of Keith and wanting to be apart of Keith’s daily life – a vast contrast to Nathan’s dynamic that existed with Rock Bison in S1 – and which seemed to play much more directly into okama stereotypes.

From “Basic LGBT Terminology in Japan” :

The word “okama” generally refers to homosexual men, trans women or heterosexual men who are considered feminine or flamboyant.

From GaijinPots “The ABC’s of LGBT in Japan” :

A feminine gay man, crossdresser, or trans woman.

All of these English definitions include trans women. However, when you search (in Japanese) for the differences between various queer terminology, all of the answers will usually differentiate “okama” from “transgender.” In other words, in Japan and to the general Japanese public (from what I could find) the perspective of an okama is still largely a gay man, crossdresser, and/or a heterosexual man that is flamboyant or feminine in some way. Transgender individuals are viewed separately.

Here is an example of what I am talking about:

From “Yahoo Japan” (on a question about the difference between “transgender, okama, and gay” – I left out the bit talking about gay, since it isn’t really relevant here) :

トランスジェンダーは体の性別と自分自身が体感、認識する性別である性自認の性別が一致しない人のこと。オカマは体の性別が男性で何か女性的な部分がある人、言葉遣いが女性的な言葉な人、女装している人などもしくは男性の同性愛者をさしていう言葉で蔑称として使われることが多いので自虐的に本人がいう場合があるものの差別的な言葉として他の人は使うのは避ける方がいい言葉。

The above Japanese basically outlines what I talked about above, with okama, by native Japanese individuals, not necessarily being perceived (on a general level) as being transgender.

Okay…So, does that mean Nathan is just an effeminate/flamboyant gay man then? The way The Rising approaches Nathan’s issues not only with liking boys, but also with gender presentation and perception: trying on pretty rings that were too small for her fingers.

Trying to present as feminine as possible: long hair, make-up, pretty, slim, and flowy dress – all of this speaks to experiencing some form of gender dysmorphia.

The Rising makes it very clear that, rather than Nathan and others (more importantly) having an issue with Nathan liking boys, the issue was more so about gender presentation (though, that is also not to say that Nathan didn’t experience any form of homophobia, she absolutely did and we see it with the boy she had a crush on, but her true struggle was figuring out and learning to navigate her gender identity and presentation).

We can see that being the focal point of Nathan’s internal issues and struggles through the old man villain and how he focuses specifically on Nathan’s gender presentation, and how Pao-lin counters back.

At this point, when I was doing my research, I got a little confused on understanding how Nathan’s gender identity and sexual orientation was being handled. Which is fine, because Nathan is a queer character, and queerness isn’t something black and white and super easy to understand – usually it exists in the areas of grey and can be quite confusing and messy.

As far as Nathan’s labels and identity go, we have “onee-kei” (given by the creators) and “okama” (also given by the creators in a sense, but also specifically used by Nathan in series, so this id is one Nathan personally self-IDs with). How can these two different, though somewhat similar, queer labels exist with each other? I found the answer for that in a Japanese article entitled: 「ゲイ」と「ホモ」の違い。「オネエ」と「オカマ」の違い。(The Difference Between “Gay” and “Homo”. The Difference Between “Onee” and “Okama.”) It was on a site called “Stock LGBTQ+” :

LGBTQ+を理解するにあたりとても重要な考え方があります。ココロの「性」と恋愛対象「性」、２つの「性」を別もの、という考え方です。〇ココロの性　　：ジェンダーアイデンティティ　　性同一性（性自認）〇恋愛対象の性　：セクシャルオリエンテーション

The above is talking about the difference between the “gender” of one’s heart and the “gender” of the sex you are attracted to (one’s sexual orientation). I’m cis, but I’m also aroace (aromantic asexual) so I understand romantic and sexual attraction as two different forms of attraction that can have overlap, but don’t always, and don’t need to. So I can understand this from that kind of perspective.

Some examples were also given, specifically of some real life “onee-kei” talents in Japan.

For example:

見た目は男性的で心が女性なクリス松村さんの場合ジェンダーアイデンティティ：女性セクシャルオリエンテーション：ゲイ

Translation:

In the case of Chris Matsumura, who is masculine in appearance, but a woman at heart:

Gender Identity: Female

Sexual Orientation: Gay

It should be noted that in Japan, gay (ゲイ) doesn’t have the same sort of umbrella definition like it can have in many English speaking countries. For example, in America you can often use gay to refer to homosexual and homoromantic attractions regardless if the person is gay or lesbian, but in Japan that pretty much is never the case, and gay (ゲイ) and lesbian/bian (レズビアン・ビアン) are used strictly and exclusively. So, Chris Matsumura is female, but is also gay and likes men.

Now, I think a lot of you reading this have probably figured out where I am going with this in regards to Nathan, right? Nathan does present a bit more feminine than Chris does:

(Here are two images of Chris)

But Chris still doesn’t present super masculine either. Nathan just has a bit more makeup and earrings. And, Nathan’s super hero costume, as Fire Emblem, is *very* masculine in presentation. Something which Nathan doesn’t seem to have *any* issues with at all.

So, I think Nathan likely has a very similar gender identity and sexual orientation as Chris Matsumoto.

In Japanese, her ids are that of a woman (a woman at heart), onee-kei, and gay, okama.

Of course, the way the creators have Nathan talk about understanding both genders and being apart of both genders makes me think that the most accurate way to describe Nathan’s gender and sexual identity in English would be:

Gender Identity: Nonbinary - Bigender – Femme/Female Leaning

Sexual Orientation: Gay – Attracted to Men

Please keep in mind that all of this is just based off of my understanding of the research and materials I’ve read, along with my understanding of the themes, narratives, and characterizations surrounding Nathan’s character. If anyone has anything that they noticed I got wrong or if they have anything else they would like to add, please feel free to comment about it, and I will amend and/or add it into this text. And, as noted earlier in this write up, I will be linking all the sources I used in the comments below!

Thank you to everyone (anyone? lol) who actually got this far and read this whole thing! It’s greatly appreciated, and I hope you enjoyed the read and maybe even learned some new things too. Take care! ☆彡

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The super friends come to Nia about their gender identity!!

Brainy: he comes to Nia pretty early on. Like once they're friends and either when they start dating or before they start dating. He talks about how his culture didnt really have gender. Just.... Conquest. So when he joined the legion and stuff and they used he, he just went along. But he doesn't really know what it means. And well. He kinda wants to try she. And they. And Xe. Xe is very nice Xe thinks. And Nia is so supportive and helps xem research different identities to try and understand the language more. Xe appreciates the research. Agender sticks out to xem a lot. It just. No gender. Yeah. That fits. So Nia uses Xe/Xem for Brainy and also they make pronoun bracelets together! So if brainy wants to use a different pronoun that day, Nia will know!

Kara: it isn't until she's been friends with Nia for years, hell probably a decade that she talks to Nia about this. Nia helped her with her sexuality crisis a while ago. And now that her and Lena are engaged, Kara is really freaking out over if she identifies with the term "wife". She tells Nia that when Cat first named her Suoergirl, she had outrage over being "girl" when Kal-el was Superman. She accepted Cat's explanation. But it still felt... Wrong. Girl of Steel. Maiden of Might. It just didnt feel.... Right. She thinks back to krypton. About how she had conflicting thoughts even back then. But when she arrived on earth, her whole mission was to blend in. So being queer... Let alone gender nonconforming, was out of the question. So now that she is finally free to be herself. She can't help but dislike being girl. It's not that she doesn't feel girl. It's more like. She's more than that. There's girl and boy and everything in between. She's kara zor-el. Girl doesn't encompass all of that. Nia talks about being nonbinary and gender fluid. Kara likes those, but they don't feel quite right. Then Nia says genderqueer and a comforting warmth explodes in Kara's heart. They talk a bit more about pronouns, and Kara leans more towards they/them. But they do like he/him and occasionally she/her? Cause it's a part of them. Just not all of them. Brainy joins them in helping make pronoun bracelets, happy to share Xer experience with 'gender' and how similar Xe feel. Kara is very happy to have bracelets and to finally get it off their chest. They brainstorm possible new hero names and costumes. Kara isn't sure if they'll go through with a change, but it is really fun to think of new ideas. Maybe they'll give Winn a buzz. Or ask Cat for name suggestions.

Alex: she calls Nia while drunk one night having a breakdown over wanting to be esme's dad. But also being a mom. And it's so confusing because she always wanted to be a mom. So why does she now want to be a dad? Why is now when she likes the idea of growing facial hair. She's already been dressing masculine. But lesbians can be masc. But how can she be a lesbian if she wants to be called sir and he him and Dada. Isn't that a bad lesbian??? Nia comforts her over the phone, and is very tempted to come over to the house and hug her. She explains he/him lesbians exists and are so very valid. And that it's okay to want this. That she's not bad. She asks about if transmasc fits what Alex is thinking, and after a solid fifteen minutes of broken sobs, Alex quietly says "maybe????". Nia reassures them and tells them it's okay. She keeps the conversation light for now, but promises that they can talk about it again when Alex is sober. And they do. And Alex doesn't commit to an identity at first, but does admit that they want to use he/they. Nia congratulates him and Alex is very happy. And then a minute later has a breakdown over if Kelly will still want them. Cause she's a lesbian and don't lesbians not like men? That way at least. Nia reassures him and encourages them to talk to Kelly. Alex has a lot of panic. So they compromise and Nia sits with them while they talk to Kelly over the phone. Kelly is ecstatic to hear Alex' truth and reassures them a thousand times over that she still loves him and no gender identity will ever change that. Hell. She falls in love a little bit more seeing Alex embrace their full self. And seeing them with stubble and hearing esme call him "Dada" warms her heart (and maybe something else too). She loves her spouse and supports him 1000%.

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