#bullying issue

[iwatcheditbegin]

I miss when liking Taylor meant you were a loser with no friends. That was our brand

#I don’t know know how I feel about all the cool kids liking her #literally so many mean girls who bullied me for liking her are all going to shows #I don’t have an issue with new fans bc some folks legit weren’t born yet #but no one was going to look cool a few years ago #the red era esp omg #1k #Taylor swift

[reasonsforhope]

do you have any good queer news? I'm a queer person and hearing all the shit thats happening across the world is making me bummed out

I do! All of this is from LGBTQ Nation's excellent good news tag

^Article date: July 6, 2023

"Only two months after its formation, the “No SB 180” initiative had succeeded at making the city of Lawrence, Kansas a sanctuary city for LGBTQ+ people. Last week, in a unanimous vote, Lawrence became the first city in the state to declare itself as such.

Ordinance 9999 bans the city and all of its employees from collecting or releasing information on a person’s “biological sex, either male or female, at birth” and from helping with any investigation, detention, arrest, or surveillance “conducted by a jurisdiction with the authority to enforce Senate Bill 180, as enacted.”"

^Article date: July 28, 2023

"A federal judge has told a group of anti-trans parents to mind their own business after the group filed a lawsuit challenging an Ohio school district’s bathroom policy.

The attempts to meddle do not “pass legal muster,” he wrote in his ruling, saying that the group has no reason to sue.

“Not every contentious debate concerning matters of public importance presents a cognizable federal lawsuit,” Judge Michael Newman wrote, denying their petition to stop the Bethel Local School District’s policy that allows a single transgender middle school student to use the restroom that aligns with her gender identity."

^Article date: August 8, 2023

"The U.S. Agency for International Development (USAID), the independent federal agency responsible for administering civilian foreign aid and development assistance, has released its first-ever “LGBTQI+-inclusive” policy since its founding in 1961.

The four-point policy is meant to serve as a blueprint for USAID staff and partners around the world to champion LGBTQ+ and intersex development and the human rights of all queer people through the agency’s work, said Jay Gilliam, USAID’s senior LGBTQI+ coordinator, in a video explaining the policy...

In simpler terms, the U.S. will try to improve diplomatic relationships with other countries by investing in locally-led LGBTQ+-inclusive programs that are shown to positively impact communities in need."

^Article date: August 3, 2023

The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit has ruled in favor of three transgender students who were forbidden by their schools from using bathrooms matching their gender identities. The circuit court upheld a lower court’s preliminary injunction that said the schools have to let trans students use facilities associated with their genders...

The case involves three trans boys in Martinsville, Indiana and Terre Haute, Indiana, who need access to the boys’ room at their middle and high schools...

The court took into account the fact that Title IX bans discrimination on the basis of sex in schools that receive federal money, which is most of them. Citing the 2020 Supreme Court decision in Bostock v. Clayton Co. that found that job discrimination against LGBTQ+ people necessarily takes sex into account and is therefore prohibited under Title VII, the appeals court ruled that the trans boys are likely to succeed in their case and that preventing them from using the correct bathroom while the case works its way through the court system could cause irreparable harm.

^Article date: August 2, 2023

^Article date: June 21, 2023

"A federal judge has ruled on the side of trans rights after a conservative group tried to overturn an Ohio school district’s anti-bullying policy.

The national conservative group Parents Defending Education (PDE) tried to get a preliminary injunction passed on the Olentangy Local School District’s prohibition on misgendering trans students. The policy includes students, teachers, and parents and it applies to out-of-school hours and social media as well."

^Article date: August 2, 2023

There's literally a bunch more I wanted to include, by the way! Tumblr just stopped being able to load them. Going back to add a few more in the reblogs now.

I know it feels like everything is against us right now. But I promise you: that is not true. The bigots and bastards may usually be the ones moving faster (in large part because they suck and don't care about democracy or due process at all),

But in the end, we are going to win. I promise.

#bitch-what-in-the-ass #ask #transgender #trans issues #trans rights #lgbtq issues #lgbtq rights #gender affirming care #bullying #united states #us politics #arkansas #indiana #ohio #michigan #kansas #lawrence kansas #gretchen whitmer #sanctuary city #homophobia #transphobia #misgendering #good news #hope

[hussyknee]

DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

An abuser denies the abuse ever took place, attacks the person that was abused (often the victim) for attempting to hold the abuser accountable for their actions, and claims that they are actually the victim in the situation, thus reversing what may be a reality of victim and offender. It often involves not just "playing the victim" but also victim blaming.

TL;Dr: Stop pathologizing neurodivergent people and individualizing abuse, and start treating abusers and bullies as a social failing that are products of privilege.

Unless you want to insist that every bitchass who's ever plagued marginalized people has NPD.

#ableism #npd #bpd #aspd #cluster b #abuse #abuse dynamics #bullying #anti bullying #interpersonal relationships #systemic issues #social justice #capitalism #pop psychology #white people #capitalist individualism is a disease #twitter #elongated muskrat #knee of huss

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autistic Meltdown Iceberg

Neurodivergent_lou

#autism #actually autistic #autism awareness month #autism acceptence month #autistic meltdowns #sensory overload #isolation #physical pain/illness #bullying #temperature regulation issues #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #neurodivergent_lou (Facebook)

[transbot-brian]

My headcanon for Marius is that he is a bad psychologist normally but very rarely he will pull out this god tier analysis of someone from not even five minutes of talking. He can tell you about things youve completely blocked out from memory and when you ask him about it he'll say some shit like "The way you blinked" with no other explanation

#(meets someone for the first time ever) yeah they have deep seated issues with self esteem because an older second cousin bullied them #heavily for about 7 and a half years when families met up. it happened a lot when they were playing mario kart. #i know this because they breathe by pushing out the left lung more“ #though most of the time hes trying to interrogate why a stool would attack him (he stubbed his toe) #marius von raum #the mechanisms

[constellation-skirmishes]

the sillies

a: sooooooo... you and skyguy....

r: i have no idea what you're insinuating, commander

a: i literally just saw you walk out of his room without your armor, you freak

r: proof?

#ahsoka tano #captain rex #ct 7567 #star wars fanart #rexwalker #tcw #ahsoka definitely bullies rex and anakin about their relationship #lovingly. #but bullying all the same #she doesnt get paid enough to put up with their stupidity #she doesnt get paid at all. she's 14 and has to deal with TWO VERY emotionally challenged almost-adults #and one EXTREMELY SUPER emotionally ignorant one that needs to work out the issues between him and one of the almost-adults #before she explodes and just leaves them to their own bullshittery #lukka's workshop

[ilostyou]

it's just ... so interesting to me that of ALL people, taylor swift's team is choosing to go with the "it's just a joke and he just likes eliciting reactions" angle given how taylor and her team know exactly how damaging something like that can be

#i mean she was all but bullied and chased out of the spotlight at one point and yeah she made it back but #she has made some pretty damning statements about how godawful she was doing at the time #so it's ......... a very weird angle theyre choosing to take here given her history specifically with stuff like this #it's not fun to be the butt of any joke and she knows that #and this isnt even beginning to touch on Who he's using as the butt of his jokes that's a whole separate very other issue #ts discourse #😐 #taylor swift

[baselicoc]

i know that atsv and spiderverse in general is probably not including Gabe for various reasons and therefore when Mig took his alt selfs place he wasnt actually leaving anyone behind. he said something along the lines of “i found a universe where i was happy” which kinda screams that something was fucked up with his home one, i’d like to think more than usual because the other explanation is that he just left like all his family behind. Which is extremely messed up but also on the other hand a little funny

like imagine being gabe here. Imagine your older brother fucks off to another universe because of his depression and comes back with even worse depression ranting some shit about canon events. You have to be told where he went by his AI because god knows your brother has all the communication skills of a rusty spoon. Have to be told he fucking left with no intention of coming back

#spiderman #sm2099 #miguel o'hara #gabriel o’ hara #miguel #like i never expect gabe to be in anything honestly hes my little guy but sm2099 adaptations hate him sometimes #not even going to start talking about the other sm2099 supporting characters but #the idea of gabe just. having his brother fuck off but then also come back with more issues. drives me insane #and you fuckin KNOW this guy would barely communicate a thing gabe would have to bully half of it out of mig and get the other half from lyl #but also. since i mentioned supporting cast. if kasey and hobie ever met its fuckin over for everyone #sm2099 brainworms hitting me so bad since atsv #in atsv they would be even more dysfunctional than their worst comic moments #atsv #silly little textposts #please feel free to ignore this im just obsessed with messed up sibling relationships #Mig comes back to “welcome home cheater” on every wall of his apartment #atsv spoilers #<- SORRY I FORGOR

[shopwitchvamp]

me the absolute first split second people are acting up in the shop

#yes unfortunately we have to have a blacklist at this point of people not allowed to order anymore #this was actually *more* of an issue back in the day when i was selling handmade crocheted plushies lol #but like explain to me why this has happened with more than one person at this point: #they buy something #then a week or two later they email us/post/leave a review saying how much they hate it and we suck and that they want to return it #then they never send the thing back #continue to go on about how mad they are about it #still never send it back #then they TRY TO BUY ANOTHER THING???? #what is that about #was it just wanting the first thing for free? like trying to bully us into letting you keep it for free??? i don't get it #if you hate it so much why would you order again ???????? #anyway #do this and your order will 100% be canceled #pls never return #thankfully this only applies to like 3 people currently haha #vs the dozen person long etsy blacklist i had for plushies #lots of people wanted them for free or at least i suspect that was what was going on.... it was the wild west out there #exhausting

[alexysmugg]

"... i think i need a cigarette."

#degrees of lewdity #whitney the bully #. art #feeling inspired to make whit angst today srry </3 #this was inspired by a concept of him looking like one of his parent and having family issues #also pls ignore anatomy+sink #i barely spend 10 minutes on this lol

[bipunkharrington]

There's something that infuriates me so much about people mocking characters that fall into the "not like other girls" trap, because the reasons girls take on that stance is because they exist in a society that tries to put womanhood and femininity in a restrictive box that tells them who and how they should be.

They're generally mocked and derided for not wishing to conform to stereotypical femininity, but when they lash out in entirely predictable but ultimately unhelpful ways (by being dismissive and rude about other women and femininity in general) instead of understanding that it's a product of growing up in a society that's restricting them and punishing them for not conforming (either by choice or inability) so many people who claim to be feminists choose to mock them or make them out to be the cause of the problem rather than a symptom. Whether its being mocked in real life, or watching people deride the fictional characters they relate to, this behaviour just alienates those girls even further into thinking that the issue is other women, and confirms their belief that women who are typically feminine will only ever be derisive toward them and that they're somehow fundamentally different from other women.

If you know someone who thinks along those "I'm not like other girls" lines instead of mocking them try directing them towards resources that can help them understand where that harmful rhetoric comes from, and when you're critiquing characters that fit that mold try to consider why they behave that way, and what girls who see themselves in those characters take from your commentary.

#idk this became a word salad #something something consider how many not like other girls girls are queer and/or neurodivergent #im not telling people to not be critical of that outlook but also helping people understand why its wrong is so much more powerful #than just mocking girls that are responding with (most often) age-appropriate immaturity to a society that's telling them they dont fit #eloise bridgerton #arya stark #there's so many other characters but my mind is just gripping onto these two #btw this ramble comes from a trans neurodivergent person who is a former “im not like other girls” non-girl #i came to the realisation that that outlook came from a misogynistic place in my own time #but watching any female character i related to growing up getting mocked for the same reasons i was bullied #read: not being feminine enough and/or not being neurotypical enough #slowed that process down a lot #it was difficult to understand that society was the issue and not other women #when so many women were mocking me

[miku-meeku]

whitney mlem mlems your palm cuz one time i read someone's post with this idea but i dont remember where so-

#dol #dol whitney #whitney the bully #degrees of lewdity #meeks museum #whitney has licking(?) issues #suddenly remembering those amount of q&as where he would just bite your hand #is this why hes into oral.....

[jonsastarks]

my toxic trait is that I have never once thought that sansa bullied arya lol. two sided teasing and fighting ≠ one sided bulling. Sorry!

#it was one nickname… #if arya has serious issues with her sense of belonging and self worth then it goes WAY deeper than bickering and name calling with her sis #sister #once again what did Sansa DO #that was any worse than what arya did right back #(neither was that bad) #Ofc no one ever accuses arya of bullying Sansa and hurting her self esteem or existing to purely create discord in Sansa’s life

[bougiebutchbinch]

Any time I see the words 'canyon' being used derogatorily, I am forcibly reminded that many people wilfully choose to ignore that the 'canyon' started because of the massive block walls fans who dared even so much as voice appreciation for Izzy as a character had to put up so they weren't relentlessly harassed or doxxed and could enjoy the tags without being told they were evil for liking a morally grey character who dared (the horror!!!!) get in the way of the fan favorite ship.

If anyone who hates on Izzy Appreciators complains about canyon attitudes and how they seclude themselves from the main fandom, you have to ask yourself...... well, and whose fault is that? why were they forced to do that in the first place? hmm? :)

#izzy hands #ofmd izzy #the izcourse #dizzy izzy #izzy the spewer #a load of fans: bully a massive group of fans out of the main fandom #those fans: WHY ARE THOSE FANS COMING UP WITH THEIR OWN THEORIES AND HAVING FUN IN ISOLATION #WHAT DO THEY HAVE AGAINST THE MAIN FANDOM #besties you are the ones who started this. #I literally changed from Ed Guy to Izzy Guy because I saw the way you were all treating Izzy fans and it was gross. #why are you so determined to hate on people who literally just. like a character you don't like. is life not too short? #are there not. bigger issues. in this world omg

[lovesickeros]

☆ sickly sweet poison

{☆} characters tsaritsa, harbingers [ mentioned ] {☆} notes cult au, imposter au, drabble, gender neutral reader {☆} warnings isolation, starvation {☆} word count 0.6k

You lose track of time so easily in the suffocating walls of your room. You can only guess, generally, how long has passed by how the logs burn in the grand centerpiece of a fireplace, drowning the entire room in vibrant hues of orange at all times. Servants come every few hours to stoke the flames and add more, should it be needed, but they do not listen to your pleas, hurriedly scurrying out of your room as if they had never been there at all.

It was..surprisingly lonely, despite how often the Harbingers visited.

You did not even know what the hall outside your door looked like, beyond the brief glances you managed to steal when it was opened. They showered you in affection and gift, your closet bursting at the seams with new clothes and the bowl of imported fruit sitting untouched - they claimed to love you, to adore you, to worship the very ground you walked upon..so why, then, did you feel more like a bird, trapped within a cage of it's own making?

You should have never trusted them to protect you from the other Acolytes. Death, you think, would have been sweeter then the poison they feed you with every pretty lie they tell you.

We're just protecting you, Most Divine.

The others cannot be trusted. They have failed you once already, what's to say they shall not do so again?

You are safe with us, Divine One.

You no longer believed a word of it. Not since they locked you in the palace, in the room you once viewed as a safe haven from the cruelties of the world. You were blind to their own cruelty, as they made it your prison.

"Divine One?"

Heels clicked against the floorboards, the door shutting softly behind her, as the cold that followed her like her own shadow swept over you. Even beneath the heavy blankets and despite the freshly stoked fire burning every so brightly, you could not help but shiver. You felt sick, dread clawing at your throat as the bed dipped, calloused, gentle hands brushing your hair away from your eyes.

You wish she would at least pretend, just like the rest, that your isolation was for the greater good. It was so very easy to hate them. But she would not hide her intentions behind falsities - she was simply selfish.

"My Harbingers tell me you refuse to eat," Her voice is uncharacteristically soft, but you sense the dull threat offered beneath her honeyed words, "Must I remind you, Divine One, that I am not above forcing you, if I have to?" Her tone turns bitter, fangs peaking from beneath plump lips as you tearfully meet her eyes, shivering beneath her cold hands and even colder eyes, dissecting you and pulling apart your defenses until you become pliant.

"It truly pains me to do so, Divine one, so let us not make this any harder then it has to be for either of us." You tense, freezing like a deer in headlights as her hand slips to the back of your neck, nails digging into your throat enough to make a point, the bed dipping even further as she leans down, "I hope I will not have to ask you again."

"..Okay."

You barely hear your own voice over your heartbeat, your hands still trembling as she takes them in her own, "There we are. I knew you'd see reason." As if waiting for your eventual compliance, the door opens again, the overwhelming smell of food filling your room as multiple servants shift in and out, lining the table in the far corner of your room with more food you would eat even on a good day.

You are sure she senses your uneasiness, but she peels the layers of your bedding away all the same, hands shifting beneath your knees as she lifts you away from your last remaining comforts, cradling you against her chest.

Had you known love could be so cruel, you never would have stepped foot into the wolves den - death was a mercy, now.

#sagau #self aware genshin #self aware genshin impact #genshin sagau #tsaritsa #sagau tsaritsa #fic tag #aka the tsaritsa bullies u into self care for issues that she created (girlboss) #the self care is not dying #we support evil villainous women in this household #if she tells me to sit down im sat #luring in normal ppl w the zl fic so i can throw this fic at them like a brick. enjoy ur fucked up women!! #oh right #imposter au #implied but its there

[fromtheseventhhell]

"It's normal for siblings to fight" Okay well it's not normal to be extremely classist and look down on your sister for being non-conforming. Or to go to the woman who ordered the death of your pet to tell her about your father's plans, when he specifically warned you against doing so, because you want to marry the boy you saw attack your sister and her friend (contributing partially to said father's death and your sister being unable to escape on the ship he chartered). Or to think of your sibling as unsatisfactory in comparison to another when you believe her to be dead. I notice that none of the "Sansa and Arya are going to reunite and instantly have no issues" crowd ever acknowledge any of this, which makes it seem like they don't actually believe what they say about their relationship being normal and easily reconciled. People wanting them to have no issues simply because they're siblings is another example of how fandom likes to flatten complex characters and relationships. They get reduced to being bickering siblings when their conflict runs deeper than that. If the author is telling you that they have "deep issues" to work out [X], I don't understand being so adamant about ignoring said issues. I also get the sense it's about ignoring the capacity for a certain character to be flawed, but that isn't going to change the fact that her "slip of the tongue" is very likely to be revealed and a source of further conflict 🤷🏾‍♀️

#arya stark #sansa stark #house stark #asoiaf #also if it's so normal for siblings to fight then why are you guys losing your minds over us theorizing they won't get along?? #the amount of condescending /that's just how siblings act/ takes I see 🙄 #sorry I guess? that we read the book and don't just delete parts of the story because we find it convenient? #it's not even like takes about them being enemies is widespread the most I see is that they aren't instantly bffs when they reunite 😭 #some people theorize they'll never be close but guess what? that's a completely fair and valid assumption based on their relationship! #personally I think they'll have a sweet reunion before the issues they have inevitably surface again because while they've been through #a lot they haven't fundamentally changed as people or the values they hold #and I think that's going to be very interesting to read about! #I can't figure out why people always take the most boring bland route for how things will play out #mostly because people seem to be unable to swallow the concept that Sansa is a flawed character who isn't perfectly sweet all the time #and the fact that their conflict is instigated by Sansa's classism #which is funny cause in the grand scheme of things her being mean to Arya is such a mild thing that opens the door to a ton of growth #never seen anybody but stansas equating her being a bully to her sister to her being evil/a villain #all we do is point out that it exists in the story...people in this fandom have no concept of nuance I stg 😭 #anyways they're both complex characters and their conflict is interesting and I hope we get to see how it plays out #cause it's definitely going to be better then that trash d&d came up with 🙏🏾