#cutting out toxic people

[skeletonpandas]

One of these is terrible and dark, just a TW

#dank memes #memes #just witchy things #goth #livingmybestlife #we are the weirdos mister #craY #mothman #cryptids #supernatural creatures #american mythology #angels #sleep #funny #cutting out toxic people #self care #self love #wellness #star trek #scifi #fandom #dark humor

[dont-read-this-im-dead]

If you surround yourself with people who say, "I don't want to hear it" when faced with situations they don't like, you'll spend the rest of your life being a doormat.

Cut them out.

Burn the bridges.

Block them.

Because healing is painful, but only temporarily.

#therapy #cutting out toxic people #healing #mental wellbeing #mental health

[mymitochondriaforpresident]

Simon Eriksson is a beautiful character and deserves all the good things in this world plus more.

#i don’t need to say any more #and i don’t need to make a long post justifying what i said #(i said what i said) #his character speaks for itself #and if all good things includes cutting out the toxic people in his life #then so be it #young royals #simon eriksson #simon young royals #wilmon

[wyfy-meltdown]

My favourite part of Nagisa's sidestory is when Nagisa, Yuu, and Inui had a lovely tea party with Nagisa's homemade cheesecake and emotional support for Inui to break up with her shitty boyfriend and emotional support for Nagisa dealing with her shitty mom's death and nothing bad happened!

#puella magi madoka magica #mahou shoujo madoka magica #madoka magica #pmmm #wyfy's meltdowns #magical girl #nagisa madoka magica #nagisa pmmm #nagisa momoe #yuusa magia record #yuu magia record #yuusa yumeno #inui itsumi #magia record #and they formed a lovely magical girl team and worked through their issues and everything was great!!! #nagisa is teaching yuu and inui about cheeses #inui is teaching yuu and nagisa about fashion #and yuu is teaching nagisa and inui that the people who truly love you wouldn't make you stress or hate yourself and- #-it's ok to cut off toxic and abusive people! #I'm happy we finally found out Nagisa's full story but at what cost? #I love pmmm and magia record but by god it makes me miserable (positive)

[bonefall]

I know you're keeping Clear Sky as an antagonist (and he's very compelling as one in your rewrite), but I'm curious: if you absolutely had to give him a redemption arc, how would you go about it? (Besides not fridging his sister and wives, of course.)

If I was forced to give Clear Sky a redemption arc I'd slip a femur right out of my legmeat and beat someone to death with it

I'd never write a redemption arc for him, ever. It would be a completely different character.

Clear Sky's redemption arc is not even an idea worth considering; This an extremely consistent abusive family member who drives the entire plot, a predator who will leverage the love people have for him, whose defining characteristic is that he dresses up his megalomania as "Just Trying to Protect Everyone"

And I'd give that up?! for what?

I'd rewrite the whole plot, JUST like how the writers did with TWO born evil foreigner villains so their story wouldn't get boring, so I could prove the he could be a good boy if he wanted to? WHY?

It's doing the same thing the Erins do, totally uninterested in the story of his victims to write yet another plot centered around the pain of an abusive man.

Elder Bones is disappointed in you if you even think about it, actually. I am holding the femurbone in my hand as we speak. I'm gonna GETCHA

#Bone Babble #Clear Sky can be redeemed in my wine cellar. if he'd like to come down to take a look #And I am sorry but like. I've never seen it done well. ever #When other people attempt it #I have never enjoyed an AU or an analysis post exploring some possibility for an alternate redemption arc #And I have seen a *LOT* of them #Every single one has played into legitimizing his Oh So Sincere Pain And Regret #HELL no!!! #NO he fucking doesn't!! EVERYTHING revolves around power to this character! #Any moments of sincere reflection or remorse get shoved down in the pursuit of more power and respect #He is incapable of sitting with his shame and that's INTERESTING #How he's a complete weasel who will find a way to twist the words of authority telling him to Cut It Out into something that benefits him #How the emotions people feel when interacting with him is either Guilt or Fanatic Affection #He's a horrible and toxic person!! The kind of person you're VERY lucky to get away from #So I've never actually seen anyone do it in a way that works. #And I'm not entirely convinced it exists. Anything is possible but no. Not in my house

[isaksbestpillow]

had to explain fanfiction to my pain psychologist today 😎

#also she said it's useless to confront your parents about their hurtful behaviours because they won't change #finally some reasonable advice in this era where a girlboss should cut out all toxic people and negative energies

[bpdohwhatajoy]

People when they’re hurting you and being shitty to you:

People when you call them out for being shitty to you:

#fucked up people #PLEASE THEY DO NOT FUCKING CARE LMFOAKSDJDU #they just don’t like being held accountable and that’s the tea #toxic people #I would say keep calling them out but they don’t wanna listen #so honestly just fucking cut them off

[yooniesim]

I know its 4 am and no ones gonna see this but man I'm having a great night. Getting that off my chest the other night really helped me i think, and everyone's kind responses really made me feel really loved, validated, and secure. As time goes on I learn more and more how to care for myself mentally and I feel like I'm getting better with doing that in online spaces lately too. Figuring out how to curate my online space and how to be more calm and measured with my emotions & how/when I speak to people here has helped me so much, and having awesome supportive friends really did too. To the people on here and in Sutopia, that always leave me nice comments and asks and kind messages, I can't thank you enough. Especially considering where my mental health has been lately. You guys are simply amazing and help revive my love of simblr and this game. Every bit of love I see here wipes away the more vile & toxic words like they're nothing. It makes me wanna post more and create more cc to share with you guys and hopefully make you happy too. I can't promise I won't have bad days still of course but it really just warms my heart. Thank you 💜

#ceci speaks #nonsims #text #gif warning #ill reblog this tomorrow since i know everyone is prob asleep #at least my american buddies #sorry e*ropeans #man i feel like i have been learning and healing every day #its a good feeling #cutting out all the toxic people really did wonders and i highly recommend the block button to everyone #a beautiful tool that is

[cinnamon-phrog]

A mutual reblogged a pr*ship post and their dni is now neutral. Unfallowed. Bolcked.

#see if i joke i don't CHOKE. on my tears. because this just keeps happening #i'm so scared to interact with mutuals for this exact reason #most i've made have either left me. became toxic over minor differences or become a degenerate. #which is sad because i really enjoyed this friend and all those friends before they or i cut ties #but this kind of shit is unforgivable to me. i've had bad experiences with a friend turning out to be a pr*shipper #everyone flocked to me to fix their traumas but i had talked to that person often. it hurt a lot. they harassed people who harassed them #i was only 15. and i was threatened but what the hell is a sheltered kid SUPPOSED to do back. i wasn't taught shit #people in their fucking 20's were trauma dumping to me in dms and sadly still go to me when they catch wind of this person- #'i need support' you need to get offline. please. just block and ignore. i'm tired. #i should not have had to be babysitting adults and older teens when i didn't know what half those words were at the time. #months ago i did something stupid when i was at my limit and mirrored the pettiness i saw. i was told i would drive someone to suicide. #over saying the person was a bit mean and bringing up some posts i thought they made #i did apologise when i got it wrong. but got threatened with the person possibly killing themselves in my inbox. #this person and the pr*ship person were famously at eachothers' throats #i do not stand by the pr*ship persons' actions. their opinions on the other person were honestly right though. the only thing i agree with. #once again i complain about proshits and gatekeeps. the two are almost as bad as eachother to me #or at least two awful sides that have affected me and my ability to make friends online. #so that's what this remined me of.

[caimitos]

saw a post about projecting your ethnicity onto a character and started missing vespa ilkay. so so bad

#pov u grow up in a 3rd world country(/planet) where healthcare workers are exported by the thousands like cheap produce to richer countries #it's your ticket out of poverty as long as you can deal with the loneliness the separation from everyone you know the discrimination etc #ive never talked about my hc that vespas mother was one of them sending money every month visiting every couple of years until it just stop #like why return to the swamps when youre doing fine working on a richer planet w much better living conditions #cost of living rises every year. sending home a % of your salary used to be enough to support your husband and daughter and then it isnt #you know how it goes #vespa is also dead set on this path until ranga realizes that hemorrhaging healthcare workers leaves them with little to none of their own #students on scholarships or in community/state universities are bound by return service agreements and are forbidden to leave the country #until theyve rendered a few years of work on ranga to pay back their tuition + as a really shitty solution to the brain drain problem #this is real in my country btw but my professors say a lot of ppl do break their rsa's and fucked off to work in other countries LOL #our state unis can barely afford decent facilities they do nottt have the budget to chase down their own alumni in other countries! #but the mental image is a bit funny #vespa ilkays first crime: tinakasan ang rsa #i do also think it lines up with her having a network of med friends everywhere in the galaxy (heart of it all) you kind of go into pre/med #expecting most of your classmates to leave to work in other countries eventually. mine are aiming for the usa / uae / europe / japan etc #anyway whether vespa breaks her rsa or not she leaves ranga asap decides to switch careers and the rest is history #i also deeply love the fact that she's superstitious i'm very sad it wasn't highlighted more (i've only heard s1-3) #as someone who did grow up in a rural area and went to more albularyos/folk healers than doctors in my childhood. (they never failed me) #lots of folk illnesses (ex. balis; pasma) local medical superstitions (dont eat noodles in hospital; youll have a really toxic shift) etcc #theres also a lot of potential in tying her past as a rangian + med student + assassin to me idk how to word this properly #being raised on cautionary tales of not to touch/disturb anything in the swamps then being given free reign to poke & prod at things in her #lab classes (now with the proper ppe)....she was having so much fun with the curemother prime too lmao #years of walking hanging bridges docks boathouses in ranga etc gave her great balance & stealth #cracking open alien shellfish in the swamps to cutting open bodies for studying then for assassination.... #I MISS HER SO MUCH BALIK KN SAKEN 😭😭😭😭😭😭 #i get why most people + the canon focuses on her being an assassin bc people find that cooler i guess #but vespa being a swamp girl > 3rd world med student > assassin is so personal To Me. the whole pipeline. eugh. #skl.txt

[astral-catastrophe]

Ik I can’t do much and my words don’t mean much but ily and ur an amazing person and friendship issues suck but I still love you <3

Ghost ily/p<3

#My little sister says I should cut out toxic people for the new year #Meaning that girl I’ve ranted about? Snip snip bitch #May I ask the opinion of the council (aka anyone who sees this) on cutting her out- #GHOST<3

[crayonurchin]

I am such a good employee and this company is better off with me in it and I am giving my employer absolutely 0% of my free time and emotional labour. I go to bookings, I get good reviews, I go home and I don't do shit beyond that

#fuck yeah baby me check us out- being all firm and confident and shit #no guys this is legit awesome and I'm proud #my entire life has been people pleasing #my boss keeps trying to get me to chat with him friendly style #NOPE NOT SORRY DUDE #YOU CAN TALK ABOUT YOUR TOXIC MARRAIGE TO SOMEONE ELSE I'M JUST HERE TO BE ELSA AND CUT BIRTHDAY CAKES #context- he keeps dropping how hard he's working to get jobs amidst a divorce and I keep not taking the bait #I am fantastic :)

[earths-way-of-laughing]

Becoming the spookiest version of myself this year

#and cutting out toxic people #and personal toxic habits #self improvement #bean

[feelslikegold]

why is there so much guilt in trying to work on yourself

#yes isolation is really toxic especially if your brain cuts everyone out #and the crushing guilt of doing that….. ???? girl I will spiral more #but also . protecting myself :’) #bc once I get even a slight wind of wow maybe I cannot trust people I completely shut down #so I don’t actually know why I feel so guilty #besides the face that I haven’t had one coherent thought in two weeks #fact* #I know my birthday is cursed 😭 something goes wrong every year 😭 #and not having rational thoughts/overreacting out of paranoia…….. I don’t wish that on anyone ??? #diary hours <3 #this is when I like having anon on bc I like people sharing their experiences of being insane with me bc then I am not alone #but after this morning’s anon LMAO

[theokusgallery]

#if you had any hope nick could ever be redeemable here's your sign that that's just not gonna happen

Bold of you to assume we don't want to make him worse

LMAO that's the spirit

#ask #anon #arsenic #me too anon. me too #my unethical boy... #he hasn't killed anyone or anything in the storyline i have planned out which is a fucking miracle #...in all fairness it's just because i want him to have as much plausable deniability as possible #and yknow. murder makes him undeniably a. murderer #anything he does to sunny is something sunny technically agreed to. i want to keep that a theme #i don't know how to say this in a way that isn't horrible but- #i want people to be able to victim blame sunny in a way that sounds so reasonable they don't realize it's victim blaming. #toying with the idea that sunny is not /at all/ a perfect victim. i like it when you can question the morality of his actions #(instead of having it clear-cut that Nick Is Bad And Sunny Is The Poor Unwilling Victim™) #the perfect victim doesn't exist and i'm kind of tired of seeing that type of abusive relationship be so... black-and-white #most of what i've seen is so over the top and neatly separated into good and bad boxes it doesn't feel real. #in the real world no one's perfect. sunny sure as hell isn't. but while that would make him toxic to anyone who isn't Nick- #-it doesn't mean he's not a victim #(also we all know what happens to domestic abuse victims when they have a cluster b pd. the fuckin. victime-blaming festivals i've seen) #tw victim blaming #i talk so much in tags i have to add trigger warnings about them. i should really stop rambling #rant

[coulsonlives]

I just had to share this video because holy shit, it hits the nail right on the head! So well spoken. This stuff needs to be circulated more, esp with the growing number of people thinking they have this because of misinformation, or just outright faking it.

#it's painful because i knew someone who personally faked this stuff (or has convinced herself she has it i can't even tell) #she had spent all her time on tiktok and i know for 100% sure that's where she got the idea. it's TRAGIC how fast things went downhill #i'm legit horrified at how many people (esp young kids of 13-14) think they have this too. or are just pretending #i've been neck deep in hardcore research (and i'm talking pubmed sciencedirect etc only) for months #and those kids definitely don't have did.. if they have trauma and are dissociating it's going to be something else like dpdr etc #the number of stupid 'you have did' answers i see for totally basic questions like 'i got dizzy what's wrong w me' is insane too #it's like googling 'muscle twitch' and then thinking you have some rare 1/billion familial cancer thing despite other obvious explanations #but worse.. in these cases the information is being fed to them. they don't have an opportunity to explore other possibilities #and the worst part is they don't even know to CHECK THE VALIDITY OF WHAT THESE PEOPLE ARE SAYING. they don't have info literacy #like i'll say this once: did is so rare that it's STILL contentious about whether it even exists #and it only happens in the most unimaginably traumatic experiences. think of the worst possible things you could do to a child #where even just thinking about it makes you uncomfortable. THAT'S the kind of trauma that leads to did. the truly evil stuff. #i'm not even gonna start on the BITE model shenanigans that are happening in the 'did' communities either #or how the people who used to be in them (and got out) always equate them to self-harming cults that celebrated not finding real answers #they got told they were 'perfect the way they were' despite having OBVIOUS psychological issues they needed help for #(it just wasn't did) #they were assured their 'did was valid no matter what'. toxic positivity ig? it just delayed their real diagnosis and ability to get help #but now you have gluts of people like in the video 'talking to themselves' and people on tumblr posting one-liners of 'alters' talking #one after the other within seconds. and i want to fcking cry because it's the same exact shit my friend did before she cut ties #the did/tourettes/ftlb stuff has literally been called a 'mass sociogenic illness' in multiple academic studies #but like qanon believers they seem to immediately discredit anyone who mentions this with 'you're just ableist' so anything you say is poo #aka you're part of the problem you're an 'ableist' so your legit info even though legit isn't valid/acceptable/real/whatever. i'm tired fam #did #dissociative identity disorder #osdd #ddnos #munchausen syndrome #mass psychogenic illness #ableism