#friends with bdays

[sugareey-makes-stuff]

Drawn for @snapecelebration's Week 2 prompt, "The Professor- Potions Master," but also I made this with @danpuff-ao3 in mind since she just celebrated her birthday! 🐝Happiest (belated) birthday, Danni! I hope it was an amazing one!💐 Thanks for all your sunshine, enthusiasm, for being such a great friend, and for you being you. Your contributions to fandom are recognized and much appreciated and loved, from modding fests to giving us some amazing Snarry stories we haven't seen before. It's clear how passionate you are about those two, especially our dearest Severus, what you write about, and that's what makes you a rock star. Your writing is gorgeous, and you're one of a kind. ❤️ I had a couple of ideas in mind for gifts, but something told me that it was time to break out the inks and paper to draw some Severus. So that's what I did. A little different from my usual style, using just 2 ink pens and white gel pen, and it was just really nice to keep things simpler and looser. I hope you like him (and his hair, bc that was a definitely a blast to draw). I definitely need to draw More Severus in the future, because uhh, his nose is actually kinda awesome to draw too? :P You can also view Speak Softly on AO3.

#danpuff-ao3 #happy birthday #severus snape #slytherin #hp fanart #self rec #art rec #my art #sugareey #friends with bdays #do not repost #fandom friends

[pechebo]

they had a great time

#painted something small and silly for my friend’s bday #tag yourself #i think i’m the kitty with the tucked in napkin #art #painting #illustration #traditional art

[beaxmice]

my biggest fear is making a whole rant post about my favorite character or show and then completely fucking it up

like what if what i say about my blorbo isn't right. what if i missed the point. what if i took the symbolism a little too literally or didn't even catch it at all. i'd lose my shit

#its like when your friend asks you if you know when their bday is and youre like uhhhh #the 17th #and itd actually on the 4th #this is a shit comparasion but basically its like #FUCK I MISSED IT BY THIS MUCH kinda thing #save spot #WHY DOES THIS HAVE 5K NOTES WHAT HAPPENED HERE

[cookinguptales]

You know... I had an experience about two months ago that I didn't talk about publicly, but I've been turning it over and over in my mind lately and I guess I'm finally able to put my unease into words.

So there's a podcast I'd been enjoying and right after I got caught up, they announced that they were planning on doing a live show. It's gonna be near me and on the day before my birthday and I thought -- hey, it's fate.

But... as many of you know, I'm disabled. For me, getting to a show like that has a lot of steps. One of those steps involved emailing the podcasters to ask about accessibility for the venue.

The response I got back was very quick and very brief. Essentially, it told me to contact the venue because they had no idea if it was accessible or not.

It was a bucket of cold water, and I had a hard time articulating at the time quite why it was so disheartening, but... I think I get it a little more now.

This is a podcast that has loudly spoken about inclusivity and diversity and all that jazz, but... I mean, it's easy to say that, isn't it? But just talking the talk without walking the walk isn't enough. That's like saying "sure, we will happily welcome you in our house -- if you can figure out how to unlock the door."

And friends, my lock-picking set is pretty good by this point. I've been scouting out locations for decades. I've had to research every goddamn classroom, field trip, and assigned bookstore that I've ever had in an academic setting. I've had to research every movie theater, theme park, and menu for every outing with friends or dates. I spend a long time painstakingly charting out accessible public transportation and potential places to sit down every time I leave the house.

Because when I was in college, my professors never made sure their lesson plans were accessible. (And I often had to argue with them to get the subpar accommodations I got.) Because my friends don't always know to get movie tickets for the accessible rows. Because my dates sometimes leave me on fucking read when I ask if we can go to a restaurant that doesn't keep its restrooms down a flight of stairs.

I had one professor who ever did research to see if I could do all the coursework she had planned, and who came up with alternate plans when she realized that I could not. Only one. It was a medical history and ethics class, and my professor sounded bewildered as she realized how difficult it is to plan your life when you're disabled.

This woman was straight-up one of the most thoughtful, philosophical, and ethical professors I've ever had, one who was incredibly devoted to diversity and inclusion -- and she'd never thought about it before, that the hospital archives she wanted us to visit were up a flight of stairs. That the medical museum full of disabled bodies she wanted us to visit only had a code-locked back entrance and an old freight elevator for their disabled guests who were still breathing.

And that's the crux of it, isn't it? It's easy to theoretically accept the existence of people who aren't like you. It's a lot harder to actively create a space in which they can exist by your side.

Because here's what I did before I contacted the podcasters. I googled the venue. I researched the neighborhood and contacted a friend who lives in the area to help me figure out if there were any accessible public transportation routes near there. (There aren't.) I planned for over an hour to figure out how close I could get before I had to shell out for an uber for the last leg of the trip.

Then I read through the venue's website. I looked through their main pages, through their FAQs to see if there was any mention of accessibility. No dice. I download their packet for clients and find out that, while the base building is accessible, the way that chairs/tables are set up for individual functions can make it inaccessible. So it's really up to who's hosting the show there.

So then and only then I contacted the podcasters. I asked if the floor plan was accessible. I asked if all the seats were accessible, or only some, and whether it was open seating or not. Would I need to show up early to get an accessible seat, or maybe make a reservation?

And... well, I got the one-sentence reply back that I described above. And that... god, it was really disheartening. I realized that they never even asked if their venues were accessible when they were booking the shows. I realized that they were unwilling to put in the work to learn the answers to questions that disabled attendees might have. I realized that they didn't care to find out if the building was accessible.

They didn't know and they didn't care. That, I think, is what took the wind out of my sails when they emailed me back. It's what made me decide that... yeah, I didn't really want to go through the trouble of finding an accessible route to the venue. I didn't want to have to pay an arm and a leg to hire a car to take me the last part of the journey. I didn't want to make myself frantic trying to figure out if I could do all that and still make the last train home.

If they didn't care, I guess I didn't either.

If they'd apologized and said that the only venue they could get was inaccessible, I actually would have understood. I know that small shows don't always get their pick of venues. I get it. I even would have understood if they'd been like "oh dang, I actually don't know -- but I'll find out."

But to be told that they didn't know and didn't intend to find out... oof. That one stung.

Because.... this is the thing. This is the thing. I may be good at it by now, but I'm so tired of picking locks. I'm tired of doing all the legwork because no one ever thinks to help me. I'm tired of feeling like an afterthought at best, or at worst utterly unwelcome.

If you truly want to be inclusive, you need to stop telling people that you're happy to have them -- if they can manage to unlock the door. You need to fucking open it yourself and welcome them in.

What brought all this back to me now, you may be asking? Well... I guess it's just what I was thinking to myself as I was tidying up my phone.

Today I'm deleting podcasts.

#I guess it did save me a lot of money #I'll still probably go up to nyc to visit with friends for my bday but I won't go all the way out to brooklyn for the show #and I probably won't need to get the hotel room #and I DEFINITELY won't be supporting their patreon like I was planning lmao #I'll buy myself a new tarot deck for my birthday instead #cw: #disability #ableism

[temeyes]

Slip-Up

#i put way too much effort than intended hhh #I LOVE DRAWING BDAY ART... ITS A SHAME NONE OF THE BOYS HAVE A CANON BIRTH DATE #but yeah this is how i imagine how Soap and Gaz would learn bout Ghost's bday cuz bitch nEVER SHARES #also ngl... this is also based on real life exp HSAHSHASH MY SHS FRIENDS FORGOT MY BIRTHDAY CUZ WE WERE SO STRESSED ABOUT MIDTERMS #they bought me a small cupcake with a candle and this sort of blueberry cheesecake and it was so good!! #my art #2023 #call of duty #call of duty: modern warfare #call of duty: modern warfare ii #call of duty: modern warfare iii #cod #codmw #codmwii #codmwiii #modern warfare #mw2 #mw3 #ghost #soap #gaz #simon ghost riley #johnny soap mactavish #kyle gaz garrick #task force 141 #tf141 #141 #art #fanart #digital art

[vinnybox]

My humble bday offering for @oriiduckko & @shandzii 🙏(◕u◕)

#ocean idiots #oc #original character #friends character #oriiduckko #shandzii #khora #larus #art #birthday gift #bday #gift art #HAPPY BIRTHDAYY #EXPLODES EVERYOEN!!!! #C:

[kittarts]

#Quick Bibbles for my friends bday #Barbie #my art

[dmsr-art]

gideon holding a lamb like jesus

(available as a print here)

#the locked tomb #gideon nav #gideon the ninth #my art #i drew this as an early bday gift for my friend :3

[evgar]

she WOULD wear this.

#inspired by a tshirt my friends got me for my bday which is now my favorite piece of clothing <3 #need to draw more modern day abi and sadie they make me very happy #sadie adler #rdr2 #red dead redemption 2 #red dead redemption 2 fanart #rdr2 fanart #my art #evgarart #art #wlw art #lesbian art #western art

[zipsunz]

you just keep letting them down

#omori #omori hero #omori mari #omori aubrey #omori kel #omori sunny #omori basil #omori heromari #heromari #my art #a bday gift for a friend : 3 #cw suicide #omori spoilers

[sugajimin]

some yoongi gifs until he comes back home (2/?)

happy birthday @namchyoon!!

#yoongi #min yoongi #btsgif #btsedit #myedit #mygifs #anna's bday were last month but i forgot to post it lakkdsjd GO TELL HER HAPPY BIRTHDAY #jp and anna b*llied to cb here #yeah good friends there #till spring day comes again

[sugareey-makes-stuff]

Technically, it's the 17th right now (at least where I am, and definitely where @crazybutgood is). So, I'm wishing her a very happy birthday! CBG, you're a person who makes my day so much better because that's the absolute truth. Waking up to your DMs about any or all fandom stuff, checking in with each other to see what's up, or screaming about chaotic things has been so awesome and greatly appreciated. You're creative and enthusiastic, you're taking the reigns in modding some awesome fests this year, and of course co-modding with you for Microfic May again was such a pleasure. Your also origami creations never fail to bring a smile to my face. And gosh, the squeeing we've done about Good Omens...it's super nice to know there's someone who is as passionate as I am about Heaven, Hell, idiotic Mortals (and everything else that comes along with whatever chaos Aziraphale and Crowley get up to). While we wait for the Big Day to arrive next month, I made some Ineffable tiny art as a tribute (which can also be viewed on AO3 for a closer look). I guess this is a look-at-all the-things snapshot that links back to Crowley and Aziraphale. So much love for these two (and hey, this is also my first Good Omens art piece)! :D Thanks for being part of my fam, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

#crazybutgood #good omens #aziraphale #crowley #ineffable husbands #good omens fanart #angel #demon #happy birthday #art rec #self rec #my art #sugareey #do not repost #friends with bdays #fandom friends

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

i think that in small tightknit communities, all residents should receive a coupon book on their bday that allows them to commit [x] number of nonviolent crimes per year

#'tsk tsk the Johnson boy is breaking into the cemetery to perform Midnight Rituals again' #'oh leave the boy alone he just had a birthday' #'but MOM why can i go with my friends to break into the old haunted saw mill?' #'well jason you should have thought of that before you before you graffitied ACAB on the side of the police station' #'but MOM it was an act of political protest' #'i know sweetie and i respect your freedom of expression #but the fact remains you used your last coupon. no trespassing in abandoned factories until you turn 17' #'but MOOOOOMMMM' 'sweetheart ur bday is in 7 weeks pls chill ur ass'

[stuckinapril]

I love people who’re just safe. People who will always be there for you even if ur an imperfect human being. People who acknowledge the fact that ur trying. When you’re a person w anxious attachment/who’s had their fair share of people who poorly communicate or do not care enough to or would rather just walk out, that is literally so healing. I love my safe people

#Thinking of my one friend whom im never anxious w even if she takes a minute to respond bc ik that when all is said and done she #Will always be there #and will communicate #and that’s such an antithesis to a lot of people I’ve encountered in my life #I’m preparing a bday package for her rn bc she does not just deserve a present #but a PACKAGE

[ymkse]

#bday gift for best friend :) #shadow the hedgehog #klavier gavin #crossover

[muneonim]

Happy birthday Yuji~ 🥺

#itafushi #jujutsu kaisen #yuji itadori #megumi fushiguro #fluffy itafushi #🥺🥺🥺🥺 #yuji would let megumi try whatever he’s having bc he just wants to share the joy #it’s so sad yuji never got to celebrate his bday with his friends in canon #hugeeeee art block so new doodle