#idk i need to go to therapy

[lets-go-hurt-someone]

Am I the only one who actually prefers the Araj confession from Astarion? I see so many people wax poetic about the “nice, simple plan” scene and how much better it is that I want to wax poetic a little about my favourite.

The first time I played BG3, I didn’t know anything about Astarion’s background and I thought he was a jerk. When I first ran into Araj at Moonrise, I was surprised that he wasn’t interested in biting her, but he gave his reasons and I was like, damn, okay, that sucks but I’m not gonna force him to do anything. He said no, so it’s a no. Then I moved on, and genuinely thought nothing of it.

When he hit me with the Araj confession at camp, when he explained how he felt in front of her and how easy it would have been to just grin and bear it and do as he was told, I started crying. Sometimes I struggle to even put into words the emotions it brought up — not the smallest of which was the realisation that I had had more respect for this video game character that I didn’t even like at the time than a lot of people had ever had for me, a real fucking human being.

So I love absolutely everything about that scene, from the writing to the performance to all the different ways it can play out. I know the other confession is more cute and sweet and romantic, but the Araj one held up a mirror to me and genuinely made me confront myself and change how I approach intimacy. Which is kind of an embarrassing thing to say about a video game romance scene but here I am saying it.

Because if this fucking rude ass pixel boy (affectionate) can learn to be honest about his needs and limits and have them respected, then so can I, goddamnit. And that will always be so much more profound to me than a nice, simple plan that fell apart.

#maybe I just prefer ugly crying to the cute scene idk #I’ve talked about this before but it just hits me in waves sometimes #the way this game has made me feel so seen and valid for trauma I had written off as character development is wild #it’s so much cheaper than therapy but I probably need to go back to therapy lolol #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #baldurs gate 3 #astarion #astarion ancunin #tw: sa

[spaceistheplaceart]

Every lawyer in Japanifornia gets a bizarro version like Furio Tigre, okay? It's law.

her name is Dionna Spikes and her sole mission is to harm empaths

Apollo's Counterpart Here

Bonus no text of Ms. Spikes under the cut:

#btw all the fishnets on her are just weavers webs. ahahaaa lol #aa #ace attorney #athena cykes #dionna spikes #athena GIVES therapy dionna is why people NEED IT #i chose diona spikes because it sort of sounds like 'die on a spike' or something. but honestly MOSTLY because Cykes and Spikes works so go #good* #aa5 #aa6 #op art #aadd #spiders tw #idk if i should tag for the kys meme #trucy is next

[birchlogz]

#hosea matthews #arthur morgan #rdr2 #red dead redemption 2 #i could go into an unhinged rant abt this actuallt i will. fuck u #this started as like a jokey post but like #idk it lead down this whole rabbithole of arthur's emotional maturity #we know john clearly loved hosea but we only ever see arthurs side #and we see how much hoseas mentorship and wit and love influenced arthur #and although he had a similar influence on john and guided his moral compass i think john is much less mature about processing #and understanding his emotions... like he wouldnt have ran away if he had those skills. #and this idea of arthur figuring out that he thinks of dutch and hosea as parents. that its ok to have parental figures #that arent your biological ones and them being there in your life doesnt replace the connection he had with his mother #i just think john would struggle internally with that concept a lot #he wouldnt want to accept that. he is afraid of having a new family. #this boy needs therapy #anyways #my artz #someonewhos smarter than me should write a fic abt that noneed to credit me i just need to see that in the world #if it exists link it to me now i NEED to cry over it

[scentednuttragedy]

Tumblr is like my safe space where i can share anything without judgement.... I had a massive breakdown after seeing Leon X Ada posts 💀💀💀 I might actually be going insane but these emotions are so intense my god idk how to deal with them... I might actually need a therapist. Has this happened with anyone before? Like just not with this ship, other characters too.

(Please don't judge me)

#resident evil x reader #fanfiction #idk what im doing #leon kennedy #leon kennedy x reader #leon x reader #loner life #re x reader #re2 #re2 leon #i need therapy #send help #help #im going insane #im going crazy #leon kennedy x you #leonardo #re4make #re4 leon #re4 remake #resident evil

[im-getting-help]

AND THE THING ABOUT OLIVER AND BOUNDARIES!

Is so obvious to me that his parents were party at fault for his lack of boundaries. Not because they we're malicious and intentional about it, but because they loved him so much they tend to cross his limits.

(Kinda like what Oliver did with Felix, but less obsessive).

From my experience it's something relatively normal about the relationship between parents and their children. The first time we really understand boundaries is when we enforce them to separate ourselves from our parents expectations. It seems to me that Oliver never learned how to do that. He's constantly molding himself to appease and appeal, and when it becomes to much, he flees.

Let's go back to the little things Paula and Jeff share with us in that brief birthday scene.

"He always wanted to be an only child, always beetling off by himself"

"He was so clever, that's why he found it hard to make friends, they were jealous".

"It's been hard not seeing him. But it must be a lot of pressure being the top scholar and being in the rowing team, and the union, and the plays..."

Let's start with the lies.

How long ago Oliver started lying to his parents to make space for himself?

Cause the lies don't necessarily feel like something he used to impress them. It seems to me like the Quicks already thought Oliver was exceptionally smart "he was always so clever" and he's just keeping appearances.

But the amount of things he said he did. The plays, the rowing team, the union, the work of studying to maintain the "top scholar position" like reading, doing work and essays and projects, assisting to classes, lectures and tutorials, it's a lot!.

"It's been hard not seeing him". How many times Paula called just to be ignored or quickly dismissed? with an excuse like "sorry i have an essay due tomorrow" or "im going to practice for the play". And why Oliver wanted to separate himself so much from his family?

"He always wanted to be an only child, always beetling off by himself" why would Oliver wanted to separate himself not only from his parents but his siblings too?

The Quicks said that "We go to to Mykonos every year. Well, not anymore. Not now that the kids are all grown up". That makes me think that Oliver sisters are older than him. Oliver doesn't seem to have a close relationship with them either. Was it because of the age gap? How much older were her sisters? Maybe they had to babysit and that created a second-mother kind of dynamic?

It sounds like he was being smothered by them. And again, i'm not saying it was intentional, but maybe Oliver needed much more space that what the Quicks were able or willing to give. And he didn't know how to ask.

And maybe (only maybe cause i don't really have good foundation for this) Oliver learned that the best way to get space from them was saying he was occupied, specifically studying. So maybe it started at school, him saying that he had to finish homework or read a book or do project, and maybe these were the only times he'll be left alone. Maybe that was the perfect excuse to explain why he didn't have many friends too.

(and i wonder why a kid with no sense of boundaries would have a hard time making friends 👀)

And why Oliver keeps lying?

After moving to Oxford, he could've just draw back and create that space without making an excuse. But he didn't, because he cares, he likes that his family thinks he's intelligent and capable. But he doesn't care for spending time with them.

I don't think he said all those lies to look especially intresting or important, but he did choose to "be occupied" by being a good student. Not in a "i won an award for best performance" but a "I'm too busy to talk, i have tutorial"

And look at the way the Quicks react to Oliver saying he has to go, is very interesting.

Paula just gives up instantly. She offers a compromise, and when rejected she's obviously frustrated but she just lets it go. On the other hand Jeff tries to reason with his son a little "your mother spent all morning doing lunch" but they seem very accustomed to this situation. It's not the first time Oliver escapes a conversation.

So, to me, is obvious that Oliver's parents knowingly or unknowingly contributed to Oliver's lack of healthy boundaries.

He never really draw the line with them, he just made excuses to avoid and elude and ultimately flee when the situation got out of hand. And they never picked up on it, they kept repeating the same scenarios multiple times without having a conversation about it.

I feel like his parents never really confronted him about anything. Maybe because they didn't sense anything was wrong, maybe because, same as the Cattons, they didn't know how to approach the situation or maybe because they know Oliver gets really fcking upset whenever they tried to have a conversation about it, who knows.

So at the end we have a 20yo dude who never learned how to enforce a boundary or why is healthy to have them and has absolutely no idea how to perceive and not cross others limits.

#Idk #Oliver's parents fascinate me #his whole family actually #why is Oliver the way he is? #if his family is so normal #(is the undiagnosed bpd) #the magical thing about families is that they don't need to be hostile towards eachother to develop unhealthy dynamics #sometimes the simple fact that their ways of communicating don't match is enough to create trauma and hurtful cycles #Oliver go to therapy i beg you please im on my knees go to therapy ily please #oliver quick #saltburn #felix catton

[mrinvenotit]

imagine fishing up some wet rodent from another world before getting a mending book

that seems like an average sunday on the hermitcraft server actually

#rain world #rain world downpour #rain world art #rw rivulet #hermitcraft #hermitcraft s10 #grian #goodtimeswithscar #i lob them.... #i think grian and the ocean need to go to couples therapy #idk tho

[risetherivermoon]

literally how is normal going to recover from any of this- bro is suffering so hard, how tf is he gonna like...be a person in society after all of this

honestly how are any of the teens supposed to become functioning adults

#i want to see him go batshit crazy next episode or smth idk hes suffering too much too many L's he deserves smth #they all need sm therapy #dndads #dndads s2 #dndaddies #dungeons and daddies #dungeons & daddies #normally oak swallows garcia #normal oak #normal oak swallows garcia #autumn rambles #🍁

[justwatchmebloom]

x

#cowboy bebop #ein the dog #radical edward #jet black #faye valentine #spike spiegel #everyone needs therapy and nobody would go #if they did we wouldn't have a show lmao #i do accept criticism because i'm not 100% sure about ed's placement #idk i should be sleeping

[the-exiled-comic]

Hi! I really love your comic, but I've got a question. Earlier in the series, Firespots says to Fishwhisker (Fishpaw at the time) about how he has some sort of beef with Starclan and doesn't think they're trustworthy. But later, he turns evil because "god told him to" or something. What made him change his mind?

he doesn't trust starclan to do the right thing, and he still doesn't. his logic is a bit hypocritical

at his core firespots is someone who struggles to commit to making decisions, he really does not want to have to go back to oceanclan and "finish the rebellion's job" but he's got an inescapable nagging feeling that he has to. it comes from his survivor's guilt, that his friends all died in vain otherwise his distaste for starclan is (consciously or not) used a scapegoat, that they are the one's forcing him back. after seeing Fishwhisker continue to suffer under oceanclan's cycle of violence, he takes that as starclan sending her to him as a sign/omen of what will happen to her if he doesn't do anything.

tried to answer this the least spoilery that i can :D

#asks #he needs to go to therapy #the isolation from other cats also does him in #poor little meow meow #anyway sorry i never answer asks theres like 100 in the inbox bc yeah idk

[artemx746]

Okay obviously Vivian is an ass but you do have to wonder about the rest of the Arcadia six. Do you think some of them feel bad for what they did/are doing. Do you think some of them miss Emily Garland, their friend, who helped them escape, not Vivian Walton. Do they mourn her even though she’s not dead, just so unrecognisable from the person they knew. Do you think seeing what was presumably the most traumatic event of their lives being recreated over and over again was their last straw to leave Walton Media. Do you think some of them sought out Trevor and Angela just to try and find some solace in their pain. Do you think they tried to help them create Solano Hills and make the documentary not for some sort of revenge but just as a way of trying to get closure.

Or do you think some of them tried a similar approach to Vivian, pretend, get a new identity, stay with Walton Media even if they’ve hurt you so much because that’s where your friends are. Do you think some of them have become so caught up in a fantasy like Vivian is and have told so many lies to the point where they’ve started believing them.

#Idk guys do you ever just think #american arcadia #vivian walton #emily garland #trevor hills #angela solano #God am I thinking about them #Vivian may be an asshole but her and the rest of the six’s story is so tragic #Assuming Vivian isn’t lying about the fact they all went back to Walton that means the only support network they had was eachother #If the only support you have is people who were there with you to experience the trauma you’re not going to turn out okay #Everyone in this story needs therapy

[pistachi0art]

The drawings I did for the Joshua segment for @hlvrai-twh ^^ nothing bad happens I swear

#late night posting #Gordo’s going through it #not just in the game lol #they need family counseling/ therapy #hlvrai twh #the witch's house au #oc x canon #sad selfie lmao- idk don’t think about it too much #hlvrai gordos feetman #hlvrai gordon #hlvrai joshua #spoilers ig?? #I don’t think I have to tag Kell idk #that’s the other dudes name btw #kell castillo

[buddiesmutslut]

OKAY OKAY OKAY YOU GUYS BUT WHAT IF!!

What if, in the last few minutes of 7x10, we cut to Frank in his office. The camera is focused on him so we don’t know who’s on the couch across from him.

He’s mentioning the last time the person was there, that they were talking about intimacy & their partner and worries about the future (throwback to Athena on the first episode & Bobby in the cruise ship arc), and Frank asks the person how it’s going…

AND THEN IT PANS TO EDDIE IN THE ROOM LOOKING UNCOMFORTABLE AND UPSET AND KIND OF A MESS AND HE SAYS SOMETHING ALONG THE LINES OF: “I realized I couldn’t commit to Ana or Marisol in the way I thought I should because they’re not what I wanted. I don’t think I like women.” A pause. A breath. “And I think that’s because I’m in love with my best friend.”

END SEASON ROLL CREDITS YOU’LL HAVE TO COME BACK IN S8 TO SEE HOW IT PLAYS OUT.

#911 abc #evan buckley #eddie diaz #buddie #oliver stark #ryan guzman #tim minear #Tim if you use this I will love you FOREVER #I think it would be so funny to start & end the season in Frank’s office #with characters trying to get to the nitty gritty of why they’re feeling things & what they’re ACTUALLY struggling with #idk what would lead to Eddie’s revelation in the last episode maybe another NDE #I’ve always thought that Chris was going to be the one to get them together so maybe something happens to him/he gets hurt #& whether Buck’s with Tommy or not he still comes when Chris needs him because he’s a PARENT & a PARTNER #and he already has a family and Eddie realizes then that he doesn’t need a mother figure for Chris when they already have a Buck #goddamn it i think i just had another fic idea #911 #911 s7 #911 s7 e10 spec #they haven’t even written it yet so it coULD TOTALLY HAPPEN #bisexual evan buckley #also GIVE ME EDDIE LEARNING WHAT DEMISEXUALITY IS IN THERAPY #demisexual eddie diaz #gay eddie diaz #they are in love #& I need them to realize it #the buckley diaz family #I saw someone say that Buck needed to understand his sexuality to realize his feelings for Eddie #and Eddie needed to realize his feelings for Buck to understand his sexuality & that feels VERY true to me

[vibingforjudaism]

I need a therapist who I can argue with and who will give me jewish advice ....a rabbi. I need a rabbi

#afakelj #seriously though #i thought my last therapist was good! #and then i tried to change some stuff and do some arguing #and the reaction was... mrrrgh #also idk. i feel like.... i don't want to have to update the therapist about what is happening in my life #which is stupid! of course i should they've got many patients #but i feel like what i just sit there talking about my week? i do that to my friends already #i'd like a situation where they knew me enough to already have a general idea of what was going on #so i could meet with them less frequently. say once a month #and then we could work on a specific problem i'm having and i could get advice on that and see how that's working out #i really think of therapy as brain and emotions doctor and where i'm at now i want...more jewish methods of dealing with life? #does this make any sense #.....a bubbe would also work in a different but similar way. i need one of them too T.T #but you see i pay the rabbi by dues to the synagogue. so i just have to find a synagogue i like (lmao just) #i have to marry someone and start raising grandchildren to pay the bubbe

[francy-sketches]

Nothing lamer than a fictional character going to therapy and working through their issues in a healthy way. Bitch go kill someone

#.txt #I remember people used to get really mad when books didn't end with all the characters going to therapy lol #maybe they still do idk #and it was always with kids media 💀 'why didn't percy jackson end with everyone horribly traumatized and in need of extensive therapy' #not saying a kids book can't talk about trauma but. you're against it having an happy ending??? girl. #thank god asoiaf is in the fantasy middle ages so nobody can complain about that #medieval therapy is just like. ah you must rid yourself of these foul humours! not to worry my friend! a good leeching will surely help :) #with some asoiaf characters I would want them to get help if they were in the modern world but. depends on how funny their mental issues ar #I would never in a milion years want to fix whatever the fuck is wrong with joffrey. he's perfect just the way he is 🥰

[oddly-casual]

Mutant Mayhem Spoilers

(Donnie appreciation post, he’s a little instigator)

Okay I’m being a little Dramatic abt the instigator thing, but I think I’m mostly right.

Before MM was released and all we had were trailers I heard a lot of people talking about the potential dynamics of all the brothers, mainly that Raph was going to be the Rebel older brother that Donnie and Mikey follow with Leo being a wet blanket.

And while they were right about Leo being a wet blanket sometimes (it’s the anxiety), I think Donnie takes the mantle for a lot of the rule breaking and planning in this movie.

In the very beginning when Raph suggests staying out longer, Donnie instantly pulled out his phone and put the idea of the Movie in everyone’s heads. Didn’t even wait for Leo to response before he was off and Raph and Mikey followed. Almost like he already had it locked and loaded.

Donnie is the first one to come up with the plan to gain acceptance through catching Superfly, which all his brothers are immediately on board.

In almost every scene when Donnie is driving he’s always pulling some NASCAR, Mario cart, movie logical racing that gets them out of all pinches, and-

Donnie was the one who snapped out of it the quickest when Superfly was threatening to grind them into powder- able to divert attention and make the whole ‘we don’t like this plan’ seem like a joke and even offering to drive by himself so they could be closer to the machine piece.

He’s also the first one who yells at Cynthia when they’re put in the milking machine, which requires some guts ngl-

Almost every plan or outspoken moment or even quick save is done by Donnie. (With Raph coming in second for those quick saves)

I’m just super happy that Donnie got a ton to do in this movie and we can really see his potential.

And Donnie is still the smartest! He wasn’t the smartest because he was a tech master, he was the smartest because he could drive and he’s straight up the biggest opportunist in the film, with his smarts being more subtle then outright. It’s a different take on Donnie’s intelligence and I’m really glad they did it.

#mutant mayhem #tmnt mutant mayhem #tmnt #mutant mayhem donatello #tmnt mm #mm donatello #mm donnie #Like- my boy is smart!!! and not just ‘i read tons of books and can build rockets’ smart!! #he’s also still a huge nerd!! homeboy likes Anime and has probably read the entirety of one piece like twice #he also needs therapy #like they joke abt Raph needing therapy the most but Donnie needs it too #Idk if it’s his anxiety outbursts or what but I can just tell Donnie is one canceled BTS concert away from throwing things #but at the same time he’s a sweet little Angel- you see my dilemma here???? #I know in the TV show or more in the sequel theyre going to make Donnie a tech genius like fr #but it means so much more that we can SEE his potential not just as a tech guy but a strategist before he gets his big boy weapons

[moeblob]

Deacon loves two things: Ymber and digging himself a grave.

Fulj hates one thing: Deacon.

#my characters #waiting on some info on the next commission so i indulged in ocs today bc i doubt i will have as much time for lil comics for a bit #deacon is so devoted hes like yeah i would kill for a deity that could easily kill anything himself but yknow teehee #and fulj just did you tell him you needed therapy also does he even know youd murder in his name #deacon caught red handed haha no of course i havent told him it should be obvious enough haha.... and its in his defense not his name :c #man really does have some issues but i love him so much and hes so devoted but like. unhealthily after a while #he does in fact need a chill pill and therapy but to be fair #ymber has needed therapy for centuries and yet he just bottles it all up and suffers so #its pretty unhealthy until they yell at each other one (1) time bc they are so insecure about things and get mad over very valid reasons #but then theyre like you know what that was necessary and i still want to stay by your side if you let me #and then fulj is like dude hey sorry you seem really happy did you fu- and ymber is like no please stop there we have not #fulj just squinting cause have not is very different than will not but whatever she doesnt wanna think about that with deacon involved ew #and eventually fulj is like hey ymber im sorry to say but i really do hate deacon and i dont even know why but he makes me uncomfortable #while deacon is just. in the room. hearing this and thinking how he knows she thinks hes weird but wow that wording hurts #and ymber doesnt wanna fill in memories better forgotten by fulj which she had forcefully removed #so he just says oh well his hair and clothing are black and you had someone in the past that you might see in him and its not a pleasant en #so you know maybe its that idk #and fulj is then WHATST i was rude to him for someone i cant even remember? lame im gonna try SO HARD to be nice to him now #and deacon just still sitting there with some food like this is v awkward and i wish i could not be here for it #and later he asks ymber about who he resembled and as ymber is descibing her it clicks in deacons head and he gets really sad #that he might somehow remind fulj of the woman she loved before she was punished for loving a mortal #and he feels kinda bad pestering her so much with his curiosities about deities and he kinda gets it #the fact hes close to ymber might remind her at the core that she was once that close with a mortal if not closer #anyway story time in the tags again #im so obsessed with these peeps and i have made them suffer so much but they do all end on a happy note #its still funny and nice to me that while fulj is creeped out by deacon and doesnt like talking to him #he still expresses the most emotions to her - he tries hard to remain serious around ymber and collected and obedient at all times #and when out and about with ymber he has to be intimidating and refuses smiling but fulj?? all sunshine and smiles and emotions easy to rea #and she is just that is so weird go away i hate you