#queer in general let’s be real

[sapphic-sprite]

god gives his hardest fights [talking to my mom about how she keeps misgendering me] to his weakest soldier [me]

#is this relatable #trans #transgender #genderqueer #queer #queer in general let’s be real #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt pride #lgbtq pride #butch lesbian #butch #butch pride #trans pride #transgender pride #genderqueer pride #queer pride #butch post #trans post #transgender post #genderqueer post #trans meme #queer meme #genderqueer meme #butch meme #butch lesbian pride #butch lesbian meme #transmasc #transmasculine #transmasc meme

[an-actual-floof]

watching the tng episode “Data’s Day” and I’m having the TIME OF MY LIFE, this guy could NOT be more silly

#WHY IS HE STANDING LIKE THAT #data pretend smiling cuz it’s what he’s ‘supposed to do’ while dancing he’s so real #also they mentioned that data had thought about getting married and he only referred to his future partner as ‘mate’ with no pronouns #LETS GOOOO #they didn’t imply comphet this is all the proof i need #queer little android #star trek #star trek tng #star trek the next generation #data soong #data star trek #lt commander data #data’s day

[s0fter-sin]

sometimes i think about how wild a mw2 movie would be if they just dropped soapghost right in the middle with no warning or marketing. like imagine it being beat for beat the exact same, it’s your typical military action movie, promoted as just another military action movie then after they get to the safe house, ghost has to patch up soap and he’s still out of it, overwhelmed by the betrayal and everything he’s seen and ghost needs to ground him and keep him in the present, to remind him that he’s alive and safe so he kisses him and they have sex. the tantrums and the rants and the “ReAl sOLdiErS aRen’t liKe ThAt”, god i can taste it and it’s delicious

#theres never any talk of a relationship or sexuality crisis its just this moment of humanity and comfort to bring soap back to himself #real any time you need me by thirteenbullets vibes #theyre not the type of men to have something as normal as a relationship #theyre just everything to each other they know that and its enough #ghost can be such a complex character if you let him #this guy whos rejected his humanity has buried himself and become a ghost #willingly digging himself out of the grave to stop soap from digging his own #like how are there not more explicitly homoerotic military movies that actually pull the trigger (heh) on the homo part of the eroticism #you know how if movies have even a hint of queerness they wring it out for every drop of respresentation they can get #theres a hundred articles and its mentioned in every interview and it all journalists ask those actors #imagine it being a complete secret and everyone expects just a typical action movie #then boom battle buddy gay sex #like if it were a male and fenale character you would see that scene coming a mile away so why cant it happen with two guys #just doing it is the only way of normalising it #i still see men saying they act like brothers which is denial so strong even egypt is impressed #but imagine the general public expecting this manly man military movie then getting hit with the alone mission flirting and denying it #then getting smacked in the face with tender wound care and grounding love making initiated by the edgelord they were using as a self inser #coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt #soapghost #ghostsoap #ghoap #john soap mactavish #soap cod #simon ghost riley #ghost cod #cod mw2 #we’re a team. ghost team

[bajablastflavoredsaxreed]

What does lesbian mean/genq

im answering this in good faith because im assuming that you’re asking it in good faith but if this is an attempt at some terf shit you can get off of my blog :)

a lesbian is generally defined as a nonman who is romantically or sexually attracted to nonmen. (usually exclusively, but sexuality as a social label is always changing and many people who are mostly attracted to nonmen with some attraction to men also ID themselves as lesbians and that’s a-okay)

as a queer label, lesbianism isn’t really set in stone and can be defined by a lot of different things. lesbians often have complex relationships with gender and can present and identify in a whole myriad of ways without sacrificing their lesbianism. butch lesbians are a subculture of lesbians who exhibit masculine characteristics and present in a stereotypically masculine fashion, for example, and there are a lot of us in the lesbian community

while the typical view of lesbianism is women loving women, things aren’t usually as dry-cut. Non-binary lesbians, trans lesbians, bi lesbians, oriented aroace lesbians, (as well as many other identities) may experience things differently and sexuality is deeply personal

for example, i am a butch lesbian. i present masculinely and am often mistaken as a man when i got out and about. this doesn’t really bother me as i identify as genderqueer and use all pronouns. despite not being a woman per-se, it is undeniable that i am a lesbian

sorry for the long ramble, tldr lesbians make the world go round!

#baja’s blasting #lesbian #let’s go lesbians #if someone claims to be a lesbian they are a lesbian is the general rule #but traditionally it’s wlw #also I DONT SPEAK FOR EVERYONE EVERYONE EXPERIENCES GENDER AND LOVE DIFFERENTLY #AND THATS BEAUTIFUL!! LESBIANS ARE A LOT OF THINGS #and if anon was being genuine (difficult for me to tell but we assume good intentions here) #then i would encourage them to talk to local queer people #especially queer and gnc women and see how they experience it #sexuality isn’t real BUT like most things that aren’t real it’s an important part of life that you should be aware of #asks #queer

[asagi-red-wolf]

ok but you KNOW Monster High did something SEVERELY right when I spent last year worried about all the changes they’d make to g3 because I love g1 so much but now all I can do is worry about all the changes they’ll make to g4 (because you know it’ll happen eventually) because I love g3 so much

#monster high #obviously g3 isn't perfect but let's be real #g1 wasn't either #I could cherry pick changes from BOTH of them #but what I AM saying is that you'll have to tear the canonical queer content and soft tone away from my FRIGID DEAD HANDS #canon clankie #nb frankie #boys promoting things like therapy and cheerleading #so much diversity!! #AUTISTIC TWYLA #mattel better pray that they can outdo themselves in several years when g4 eventually rears it's head #because if they can't #oh boy #i feel like there'll be even more protectiveness over the g3 charectors than there were over g1 #g1 has nostalgia and that's always going to play with people's hearts yes #but g3 is already creating SO MUCH nostalgia for coming generations of queer kids #AND is doing representation /so well/ when oftentimes companies like Mattel just.... don't..... #so you have adults like me who are clinging to it for dear life as well #what I'm saying is they have quite a storm of dedicated fans falling into place and I'd really hate to be the executive who announces #literally anything about g4 years out into the future because Yikes For Them

[magentagalaxies]

i really want to start making a table collecting statistics on the audience demographics i'll perform my aubrey material for (like what generation most of the audience is, whether i'm performing in a predominantly queer space, etc.) and how well the jokes land bc like. i need to collect more data points before i can properly present my findings but the results so far have been fascinating

#again i do not have enough performance experiences to make any definitive claims about who ''aubery's audience'' is #but i find it funny that any time i show my aubrey material one-on-one to a queer gen z person #they're always like ''i love it but straight people will definitely hate it or not get it'' #and i get the inclination to be like. ''i like this thing so people like me will like this thing'' #and cishet society seems so polarized w/r/t queer topics it's like. the assumption makes sense #however. whenever i've done an aubrey performance in front of an audience that's predominantly queer and gen z #i've actually received a primarily negative response!! and somehow straight people have never given me shit for my aubrey material #(''well straight allys don't count'' i told some of my aubrey jokes to a joe rogan dudebro and he enjoyed them) #(which yeah maybe could be a mark against my comedy but i like to think i opened his mind a bit at the very least) #i really want to test my aubrey monologues in front of a primarily gen x/boomer audience #bc so far i only have actual performance experience in front of gen z or millennials #and the older people i've told jokes to individually or shown videos of my stuff have really liked it #luckily paul has said a goal for when i'm in town this summer is to get me to perform my aubrey stuff in as many different places as possib #for both queer audiences and non-queer audiences so i can gauge reactions since i don't want to be confined to one demographic #so i'll get a lot of data points this summer #@ paul get me a performing slot at senior citizen pride lmao these are my people #(shoutout to paul going ''jess stop collecting the old homos!'' last time i was in town) #(and when i imitated him and was like ''old gay men are not your pokemon!'' bellini was like ''ok but they may be your audience'') #also one data point i really want to see the variation on is how my one specific joke plays in these different demographics #bc i have a joke that like. it's literally not even about AIDS and doesn't punch down at all #i literally say ''if you're gay and over the age of 50 you could violate the geneva convention and i'd still be like support our troops'' #like obviously being like ''you have been through hell so i will let you get away with literal war crimes you deserve ultimate immunity'' #BUT. in the line right before the quote i use the phrase ''AIDS generation'' not as a derogatory term but being like. #this horrible thing impacted the entire generation y'know? and bellini and scott and their friends call themselves that it's just the term #but when i said the phrase ''AIDS generation'' in front of my gen z audience i heard gasps and felt like they all hated me #and when i did the same line in front of millennials it wasn't quite as striking but their eyes did widen #like i was suddenly an ''edgy comedian''. but like this is a part of our history and it does inform the story i'm telling #the story i'm telling is comedic but it's grounded in this real world context #and i'm like. @ the audience who was offended: when was the last time any of y'all spoke to a gay man over the age of 50 #bc bellini loves that section of the monologue and was offended that people would even take offense to that phrase

[grimmbunniee]

Me @ Male Ellie simps. Especially ones who write Ellie x male reader/oc

Y’all reek of incel and can’t write for shit.

#ellie williams #the last of us #ellie tlou #she’s a lesbian #she don’t want you 😭 #“she’s fictional ” so what it’s so disgusting and invalidating to one sexuality no matter if their real or fictional #she’s for the sapphics #like did we not see the whole her whole relationship with Riley #also throughout the whole game series she has shown no interest in men. only women #like we had that whole coming out scene with Joel #also remember how she got called the d-slur in the second game 💀 #like let us have this one thing y’all so many other female characters within the game to write stories and simp for #actually in general for female video games characters 💀 #tlou part 2 #tlou #lesbian #bisexual #gay #lgbt #queer characters #ellie williams x reader

[tyrannuspitch]

HOWEVER. if THOR were queer odin would do so much conversion therapy on him. :/

#space viking tag #i don't have any real opinion on what thor's identity actually is #but i do think he's. a little bit fucked up about it regardless #i think he might literally be thinking well! loki's queer but that's okay Because I'm Normal. #(okay as in morally acceptable? okay as in safe? okay as in let's stop thinking about this? Yes.) #(codependent almost-twins of the millennium. :/) #also um. fate. divine missions. odin pushing for thor to marry. the allfather's bloodline holding back the apocalypse. :/ #even if thor is straight i think (pre-ragnarok) he has not and cannot let himself consider any other possibility. #and he might be a little bit fucked up about like. the importance of his own comfort/consent in general. :/ #meta #ch: odin #ch: thor #r: odin + thor #r: loki + thor #th: gender + sexuality #th: ergi #th: saint thor

[celestialmaison]

i’ve lived through so much social media discourse that it’s aged me years beyond 21 and the primary thing those experiences taught me was to care less about nonsense. and when it comes to serious issues that are taking up space in your mind that you need to discuss, be mindful of how you speak. also: curate your online experiences.

i think the worst thing we can do to ourselves is let what happens in the virtual corrupt our joy in the real. your life is yours, your stories are yours and your joy is yours. yes, engage critically with information, say what you need to say and share your pov. we need to hear your voice. and sometimes it is just as important to walk away for a little while. sometimes silence is peace. every yard has weeds and you’ll only hurt yourself trying to kill them all.

#blue talks too much #also online discourse can only go so far #and yes i am aware the virtual sometimes bleeds into the real and we lose some of our happy tokens #the point: taking steps to prevent that benefits everyone #generally i feel if it’s outside of your personal bubble you should let it stay out there unless it’s meaningful to you #cause everything that goes on outside the bubble does not need admission to your mind #this is for queer neuro divergent chronically ill poc IN PARTICULAR #it’s unhealthy for us to constantly be consuming things that steal our joy or drain our energy #i’m rambling again but my points remain.

[neonvqmpire]

i rarely get mad on here but i just have to get this out, sorry:

stop sending neil asks about the plot, stop accusing him of queerbaiting and just accept that we have to wait a bit.

#be thankful that he even answers your questions #seriously why do you want to know the plot before anyway??!?? #it would ruin my whole experience #you dont know whether it's queer baiting or not until the thing has come out #and let's be real if he'd just straight up say they are romantically involved would someone not also accuse him of queerbaiting??? #stop using this word in general until you have seen the season #sigh #good omens #negativity #sage posting

[ahsterism-aa]

update update it is now 2am and that robin podcast made me tear up multiple times so first of all how dare they, second of all fuck i have brain worms

#who let them DO THAT #i am glad i read the book first bc there was a lot of needed context i’m . MAN #shoutout to the writers here for acknowledging the bond between gay people and english teachers actually so true SJKSDH #i am so happy they had a queer author do this both for obvious reasons and the fact that the characterization feels so REAL i love it… #i have illnesses of the brain god damnit #ooc. / general

[oswinian]

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#major rant warning do not proceed if you don't want to hear it #tech week is still going on #which. is stressful but not the most stressful anymore #bc apparently asking to live in queer housing with my theater friends outed me to my family somehow #and they keep using words like statement and conversation #and idk what they want me to say #I was trying so hard to just let them live in plausible deniability #bc like. older generation and catholic #idk what my queer identity is I just know I'm dating a woman who used to be nb who used to be a cis man #and I had feelings for her the whole time #idc abt labels i just want to live but my parents only understand it through labels so they want to know and I don't want to answer #I want to exist ambiguously queer be happy with my gf and have my parents not stare at me like I'm a freak #which. they aren't that homophobic at all esp considering the Catholicism. but the fear is there #this will be deleted later for real I am so sorry for anyone who read this #kata.txt

[kowabungadoodles]

How to spot a (heart wrenching sad cat) Charity Scam

So I've been get a lot of requests for money in my askbox lately, from users I have never seen before! Usually sad cats, sometimes gender affirming medical bills, a queer person being made homeless etc etc... and guess what? None of them are real! It's scammers who have learned how to work tumblr's userbase and prey on our general sense of community and charity.

Here it is, so sad! So tragic! But let's note a few things:

It's generic. They don't know me, I don't know them. it's addressed to 'friend', no use of nicknames or usernames.

Even the cat and the problem are generic 'little kitty' who has 'urgent needs'. This is not how real people talk, this is because this scam is being used over and over with different accounts a different 'cats'.

Praying (uh huh.)

Asking you to reply privately- This is so people don't spot the scam and point it out the mark and because if too many people posted replies to the same message it would beome really obvious that this is a scam. If they're looking for 'boosts' so badly, then why do they need you to reply privately?

Now that I'm suspicious, let's investigate.

Sent me an ask and then followed me! Sounds like they're just hitting up anyone and everyone, but even more likely they have a list they're working from.

(I get so many, I'm probably on a mail-out list a mile long, just being hit up for cash. Likely I fell for one of these once and got my name added to every scam list for miles, but oh well.)

So let's see if they're a bot or a real person!

The blog looks genuine enough, they've got a bio, a fandom etc. And it says they're an artist!

And of course there's that sad cat post, pinned right to the top, so I don't have to look any further through the blog for verification... Looks super legit, pics of the cat, pics of the bill... of course anyone can print out a bill and take a picture of it...

As I do scroll futher, it's full of reblogs making this look like an active user. So how can I tell it's not genuine?

Well, if they're an artist they probably post right? Doodles? Pictures? Let's have a look at their origional posts.

The fastest way to do this is by using an outside tool like Original Post Finder.

just type in the suspicious username and go...

Voila! As suspected, the only post this bot account has ever made is Sad Cat Post.

Confirmed: Scam. Do not give your money to these guys, it looks so real but they're just here to make you feel like a bad person for not handing over everything you can. Charity is wonderful, supporting friends is wonderful, but tbh save it for people you actually know irl/ mutuals you have an actual relationship with. Don't believe any rando who comes knocking!

Love and kisses, stay safe out there.

#scam #tumblr scam #I'm putting this in all the same tags the scam post uses #kitty mom #emergency #catblr #kitty help

[magentagalaxies]

also on that note i could genuinely write an entire fucking essay on the intimate circumstances kids in the hall sketch and how relevant it is to queer discourse all these years later. i'll probably wait until i'm in my kids in the hall video essay project to actually write it but my point is i can talk about this stuff for hours

#specifically thinking about the ending of the sketch where the hollywood representation of the gay kiss is completely offscreen #then we cut back to the three characters: schmitty who wanted so badly for this movie to be good #riley who fell asleep and never had his hopes up (and made fun of the movie the whole time) #and last butch who is literally hooking up with someone in the back of the theatre and says the movie was great #bc he wasn't paying attention #my hot take is that this actually relates a lot to how modern queer youth interact with queer media bc we expect so much from it #and are so often let down by hollywood trying to be as generally appealing as possible #so very often we take on the roles of schmidty and riley online #but really the ideal place to be is in butch's position bc he has accepted the movie isn't for him #and is instead out making real world connections #and since he isn't looking at hollywood to encapsulate his queer experience and is instead just content as himself #he's able to enjoy the movie for what it was and focus instead on what actually matters #rip to riley's pepsi tho lmao

[gaogaigoatgrrl]

i hope that in the wake of predstrogen/predesterone's back-to-back deletion we don't forget about the ongoing building wave of seemingly organic transmisogyny from the userbase leading up to it, some of which may or may not have been the result of terf psyops but all of which certainly wouldn't have been possible without the eager participation of a significant proportion of users, including but probably not limited to:

the entire concept of transandrophobia (if this offends you, think long and hard about why you want so badly for it to be real)

the ongoing backlash against the terms tme and tma (if they offend you, think long and hard about why they might have practical value to trans women and people with similar social positionality)

the ongoing trend of trans women's blogs getting flagged on the flimsiest of pretenses and generally receiving far more scrutiny for "adult content" than anyone else's

the seeming unironic revival of "baeddel" as a slur for outspoken trans women, on the basis of a long-dead clique that, ironically enough, self-applied the long-dead (and tbf, etymologically questionable) slur from the middle ages to reclaim it

the entire "trans women should be fucking trans men instead of complaining about transmisogyny" genre of post

the backlash when tgirls finally started calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the copypasted anons sent to several trans women (many of whom were lesbians) sexually harassing them and threatening corrective rape for calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the backlash when tgirls called the aforementioned bullshit sexual harassment

the expansion of flexible queer label use (which to be clear, i am generally all for) to include "afab trans women", muddying the waters and making transmisogyny harder to articulate

the backlash when tgirls started calling out the aforementioned bullshit

the aita incident in which a trans woman described a cis woman claiming to be a trans woman in a group chat and giving other trans women terrible medical advice based on no actual qualifications or experience, and got a huge backlash for warning them about the aforementioned bullshit despite the stakes of, you know, following terrible medical advice

everything from the sixth point onward happened within the past... week? two weeks? my sense of time is a bit fuzzy. who knows what the rest of this week has in store?

people on this website are so incredibly hostile to trans women even being able to name our own oppression, let alone resist it in any concrete way. and i know it's not just this website. don't you get tired of the crab bucket bullshit? holy fucking shit.

like, i've been lucky, i've overwhelmingly managed to dodge it (probably on account of frankly being a pretty boring and inconsistent poster). this time last year, i was actually bored that i didn't have anons in my inbox to argue with. but i've seen it happen to so many other women now, it's absurd. even if it never hits you personally, you can never shake the awareness that it's happening to so many of the cool girls on here, people you like and whose posts you laugh at and who you look up to. they just kinda seem to drop like flies over time. don't you get tired?

[skitterjitter]

I think my biggest problem with ronance is the fact that there's so much that includes steddie. I'm just here for the cute girls being happy and Steve doing his best to keep track of the kids, I just don't care

#Ryn rambles #also before anyone gets mad I practice 'ship and let ship' #you can ship what you want I don't care #it's just frustrating to go to find fan content and have a ship I don't care about constantly pushed on me #also the insistence on calling them 'fruity' makes me deeply uncomfortable #just call them gay or queer. as an aroace lesbian it feels patronizing #(this is admittedly a general dislike of the term 'fruity') #and I guess I'm just rambling about stuff at this point so: #I wish Hopper had stayed dead. he is probably my least favorite character #the fact he's a cop doesn't do him any favors #but the real problem is his temper. god it gives me anxiety every time he gets angry