#they were dating for a month

[inkskinned]

the problem is that being single is seen as the consolidation prize, and not the natural neutral state of being-a-person. at the end of the movie or the book or the poetry, there is a person waiting for you at the altar, and they love you. if the play is a comedy, everyone gets married. the metaphor is about how you are not-whole. the metaphor is about how everyone is going to be happily-ever-after. the metaphor is that romantic love is the most important resource on the planet, not just all-love. all-love is not a thing, that is a disappointment. the treasure is not the friends we made along the way. the treasure is the girl you landed.

the metaphor is that you cannot be alone, that means you are broken. are you getting over someone? that is acceptable, you can be getting over someone, but not for long. you must be single because you would rather not be single. you must be single and looking to not-be-single. you must want to date, eventually.

friendship and community are never seen as being equal-to or even-better than romantic connection. that person is your one! you need to find them. you need to hunt through the sand particles until you can shift out some kind of gem. this is regardless to your own experience of the beach and the sun. you need to be somewhere with someone.

if you are taking this time alone to heal, that is so sad. everyone gives you this little pitying look. the understanding is that you are not actually happier than you were before you were single. it is seen as a sort of pity - oh, you are choosing yourself, making yourself the priority? - that isn't quite right. you must mean that you are making yourself ready for the right person. you are just laying the bed better this time. open up your heart. you'll find them, we promise!

what do you mean you're really-truly genuinely-very happy? you are probably misremembering what it was like to be in a relationship. and besides, once you meet your person, that time will look grey and bland and wasted. your person is the only way for you to see in color. so what if you have taken this time - for the first time in your entire life - to actually-for-real do the fucking work. you can be proud of yourself, sure. but the way we need to know that you got better is that you get a partner. you're healed enough for the next bad part!

people don't choose to be single, they just say they're choosing to be single - they actually mean "nobody wants to date me." it doesn't matter how many people you have gently rejected or how many times you've talked it over carefully in therapy. what matters is that you are single, and by all accounts - that means you are something worth our pity. your successes and life all seem pale in the sunlight. sure, you have done amazing things and finally found your way in life. what matters is that there wasn't a person in the room with you while you did it.

you want to tell them - that's the whole thing. i didn't know how to be alone in the room. i didn't know how to handle the silence. every moment was so sharp, and i kept choosing the wrong way to close the door. i have spent my entire life in the empty well, living in the ricochet of someone else's cruelty. for once i have built myself a ladder. for once everything i taste is all mine, every bite of sunshine and laughter. i have learned how to sleep out in the open with my memories. recently, they have started to purr.

your father rolls his eyes. listen. this isn't about you. i just want a grandchild in my future.

#writeblr #i actually didn't want a girlfriend before nat #and my dad recently said to me - raquel. i don't approve of the promiscuity #1. i am 30. #2. i had casually dated about 4 people over 18 months. #3. i do believe he was just mad that i get more girls than he ever did #i had to look this 60 yr old deacon in the eye and say. okay so i have a girlfriend first of all im just not tellin yall about her #and secondly. #OKAY???? OLD MAN I DONT EVEN LIVE HERE WHAT ARE U GONNA DO ABOUT IT #briefly considered asking nat if i could pretend we were a one night stand kind of a thing

[artiststarme]

In a surprising turn of events, it was Will that got Steve and Eddie together. He’d noticed their blushing gazes, stilted flirting, and lingering touches. He knew they must’ve been dating in secret from their friends, perhaps because they weren’t comfortable enough to tell anyone. So, he pulled them aside at one of Steve’s pool days and gave them some advice.

“Hey guys, I um. Look, I know you’re dating each other.” They looked at each other in panic but Will continued. “It’s fine, I didn’t tell anyone. But you can tell us when you’re comfortable. The whole Party will be supportive and it’s really inspiring to see the love you two have for each other. So uh, thanks. I’m happy for you guys.”

Will ignored their shocked pallor and pulled them each into a quick hug. He gave them one last smile and darted back outside to the pool party feeling good that he was able to congratulate his friends for something so important. 

Unknowingly to him, he left Steve and Eddie inside to deal with impromptu coming-outs, small crises, and plans for first dates. Because before that conversation, neither Steve nor Eddie realized the other was interested. 

So Will got them together and he was proud when he found out about it… until they did the same thing to him and Mike. Then his joy about the situation became horror (although the method did work once again).

#Will legitimately thought they were dating he didn't mean to cause them to panic #he feels a lot less bad after they embarrass him in front of Mike #Although it does score him a date so he can't be too mad #Jonathan just finds the entire situation hilarious and randomly bursts into laughter whenever he thinks about it for months after the fact #When Hopper finds out that Steve and Eddie helped get Will and Mike together he gives them the silent treatment for weeks #he never forgives them and he mentions his grudge frequently #stranger things #steddie #headcanon #steve harrington #eddie munson #byler #will byers #mike wheeler

[joonsbubu]

[4/06/08]

#my art #jujutsu kaisen #gojo #geto #stsg #satosugu #i feel like ive declined in art skills its making me sad #i cant draw as clean no more 😭 #this is stsg if things were better #ive been gone for awhile. sowwy i got pneumonia and everything #date is april 6 2008 bc theres 4 letters in their first name (month) and their last name has 6 letters (day) #2008 bc they survived 2007 together in my heart #i have a bunch of these cinematic type of stsgs

[on-this-day-mcr]

On this day, November 18

In 2022: My Chemical Romance performed their 61st show of the 2022-2023 Swarm tour (the last of the North America leg) at the Corona Capital festival in Mexico City, Mexico. At this show, Gerard Way wore a Joan of Arc inspired chain mail outfit, with a long red cape and a streak of fake blood painted on his chin and neck. "Muy feugo" [sic] was written on the drums. (🖤)

Watch the show here!

Lulu Urdapiletta

#the performance of sleep from this show. mindblowingly brilliant it plays on loop in my head to this day it was incredible #and the official good quality stream after months of 6 pixel IG lives. it was so much #i remember seeing the chainmail 2 lines into foundations and being hit with the realisation that they were joan #November 18 #2022 #tour date #MCR Mexico City #ID in alt #swarm era

[stealingpotatoes]

I suppose the Obi Wan Kenobi and Jocasta Nu Discuss Count Dooku Deleted Scene?

She said his face was powerful, and he was one of the most brilliant Jedi she had the privilege of knowing. (I found it on YouTube)

yeah i watched that too!! but in an interview the actor said there was an actual romance implied and like... if i heard a monk say that abt their coworker i wouldn't assume they were up to no good

#if she said 'oh he had powerful hands' i'd be like WOAH WOAH WAOH GIRL-- #that being said i didn't realise my friends were dating for like 3 months despite her sitting on his lap daily #im not the person to ask #thanks for the ask!

[vellichorom]

god do i love men who SUCK

#uwu art #Hatoful Boyfriend #Hatoful Boyfriend: Holiday Star #Hatoful Boyfriend spoilers #Kazuaki Kun #Hitori Uzune #Shuu Iwamine #with some kun / hitori practice as well as a callback to when we did the shrine dating section & all of us were crying #as we were forced to bear witness to a twink partridge doctor #ALSO I FINISHED HOLIDAY STAR /COMPLETELY(?)/ A WEEK OR SO BACK it only took 3 MONTHS #i finished it before but i just got done with ALL the extra goodies #insane. i love this franchise

[lollytea]

Huntlow situationship gives me such intense brain termites you don't get it

#no i dont think its because Hunter needs time to heal first #i think if it was up to Hunter they would plunge into a committed romantic relationship immediately after the events of the finale #he would propose to her in like. 3 months probably #i know that sounds intense but i think this is what ''i literally died and came back to life'' mania does to a guy #he is so carpe diem minded hes become a little insane. he wants everything #no more waiting around. no more hesitating. he cant afford to do that anymore #would it have been the wise decision to enter a romantic relationship immediately #who's to say. but Hunter would have done it without thinking about it #its Willow that makes the decision to slow down and wait a while before they make any committments theyre not ready for #i dont think she's entirely learned her lesson about letting herself be emotionally reliant every once in a while #shes made progress but the events of ftf were such heat of the moment responses #once things are semi-stable she still needs to adapt to acknowledging that her feelings for Hunter are like. serious. and scarily intense #so like. yea Willow is slamming her pedals on the breaks for both their sakes. shes thinking about how this would effect Hunter too #but also. she scawwed. #when Willow tells him she wants to talk and she's like ''i think we should just be friends'' oh the face he makes is DEVASTATED #he didnt expect it was going in this direction at all. but like. once Willow explains how this is the most reasonable decision for now #he DOES agree. he understands what shes saying and he agrees that it's the best decision to take a breather before they jump into a romance #anyway even when theyre not officially dating the flirting continues insistently. they are very obsessed with each other and cant stop #Willow keeps trying to insist to herself that its just messing around. nothing serious. they find each other hot. its fine to kiss a little #but Hunter makes it very hard when he looks at her with big brown labrador eyes. looks at her like shes the entire world #i think if it was up to Willow they would have been trapped in that uncertain limbo forever. shes too scared to take the plunge #even if she wants to. she badly wants to #but Hunter just wont let that happen. every so often he says ''im ready whenever you are'' #he makes his intentions very known. he is not the shy boy from Camila's house anymore #Willow cant just playfully flirt with him without worrying that hes gonna reciprocate. he talks now. he expresses himself #shes a little afraid of that. but she adores it too. he makes her feel safe but also he wont let her stay in this comfort zone #hes giving her the push she needs to pursue this relationship. gives her to push to feel like she can go after what she wants #because god knows HE knows what he wants #they make me so insane

[unganseylike]

Ok i’d like us to revisit the full context for this discussion.

Primarily, I’d like to point out that adam says “Ronan kissed me” then adds “I also kissed him.” So i kinda read the subsequent jesus, gansey said. christ. to be an almost subconscious parallel of adam’s own tone and sentence structure.

Also, the text suggests adam cannot discern whether gansey is surprised or not, which i think has implications for his tone.

Just wanted to add these points to our discussion.

#i was gonna make another poll asking whether u read the jesus and christ to be the same tone #but i think its more interesting to consider he was paralleling adam here #also on a completely oher note #what tf is gansey talking about he had been dating blue for month #no the fuck he had not?????? #they legitimately had not been dating. and even if they were it wld #only be bllb/trk which was only like two months MAX.

[bnunybusiness]

in the process of answering all the asks, I found my stock of christmas buns so pls accept this out of season christmas bun

#bunny #happy late holidays #where were these last month when I needed them #I just realized the date and now I am this bun

[theosconfessions]

if youd like to read the stephens from the beginning you can over here:)

if youd like to read the stephens continued you can over here:)

@ohsosims

blake- no fucking way..my boyfriend coming over to my APARTMENT. and me not going over to his house for his sisters to interrupt us anytime we wanna make out?

river- [scoffs] hey bla....[looks him over] whoa! am i interrupting something?missing a lot of clothes,dude.

blake- what? dude no. i was just working out.

river- oh

blake- i see we still have some trust shit to work on hmm?

river- little bit

blake- well ill work on that hen. getting you to trust me is important. youre important

river- [smirks] its kinda sickening how sweet you are.

blake- its kinda sickening how easy you make it to be sweet. you good? you have worried river face on right now. mr kline okay?i know he had a big appointment the other day? is there..

river- my dads okay,yeah. i mean in the moment hes alright. hes not why im here.

blake- then whats going on riv? your silence is making me nervous man. just tell me whatever it is you gotta tell me.

river- right.sorry. i didnt really plan this out i just came over because you were the first person i thought of when i got this in the mail

blake- this is some COLLEGE ACCEPTANCE SWAG! riv!thats amazing. c'mere. im so goddamn proud of you! and you did it yourself. you didnt need to rely on football or anything other than yourself

river- you always sell yourself short. you got your scholarship because youre talented blake.

blake- but not smart. but my baby here...IS. goddamn. hey come inside! fair warning i have nellie . shes asleep but...

river-ill be quiet

#by the time this happens theyve been dating for longer than the month they were previously #theyre kinda settled in #however its still a whirlwind #this is also the first time rivs been at his apt #and college years. yikes #the stephens continued #river stephens #blake donovan #the sims 4 #ts4 #the sims #ts4 gameplay #sims 4 #simblr #ts4 simblr #ts4 story #ts4 stories #the sims community #sims community

[bumblingbabooshka]

Two people on a small bipartisan science station gently fall in love.

#S'veyk #Ehergha #S'veyk is half Vulcan half Klingon & Ehergha is full Klingon #beas ocs #both S'veyk and Ehergha bond over loving their home planets but wanting them to change their views on certain things #S'veyk wishes Vulcan were more accepting of others and Ehergha wishes there was more emphasis placed on honor in #things outside of war - though (and this is important) they both feel very proud of where they come from #Like a month after the above convo they're getting married btw #neither Vulcans nor Klingons seem to have a dating period as the cultural norm it's mostly just rituals and marriage <3 #skipping right to good stuff /j #Cute fact!: Ehergha and S'veyk attempt to nuzzle their heads together but his ridges are uncomfortable on her skin #(hers are more like raised bumps while his feel more like bone) #so they have to do it sooo carefully and gently but S'veyk insists on doing it!! #She also throws a vase at him after the above comic in an attempt to return his affections (she read about it) #and he's like 'you don't have to force it' (sorry) 'just - if it feels right you can throw something then.' #bea art tag #star trek oc #they are NOT in Starfleet

[kafka-ohdear]

The fact that the actual Ronald Speirs and Carwood Lipton were born in the same year which was 1920; both Matthew Settle and Donnie Wahlberg were born in 1969 and their birthdays are even exact one month apart from the other's (Matthew's was September 17 1969 and Donnie's was August 17 1969) has been racing all over my mind for two days already.

#band of brothers #ronald speirs #carwood lipton #help #matthew settle #donnie wahlberg #i live for them #like ??? the actual speirs and lipton were born in the same year #and the actors share the same birth-date and it's exactly 1 month apart #okay #they are made for each other #i guess #hmm mmm #speirton

[moongothic]

Crocodile and dragon meeting because Ivankov introduces them is a cute au idea….you go to the queer pope for magic HRT and through whatever compulsive small talk they decide that you would be *perfect* for their less powerful token cis bestfriend

Describing Iva-chan as the Queer Pope is so fucking funny though oh my god

Part of me feels like it'd be funnier if Ivankov assumed both Croc and Dragon were straight, so they were introducing the two so they could literally be Just Friends (esp because you'd assume they aren't each other's type to begin with)

So when Iva-chan then accidentally walks in on the two smooching they just

#Moon posting #OP Meta #Asks #Dragodile #Accidental Wingmate Comrade Emporio Ivankov #I may be biased because even in canon Iva can't have known the two were dating which is funny as fucking hell #And I desperately need to retain that speck of comedy even if it was an AU #We're not gonna talk about the fact that this ask has been buried in my inbox for literally a month #My inbox is well-fed and even if I decide I can't think of something to say in response to an ask I find it hard to delete them #And appearently I missed an ask or two because of this #Me big stupid

[tontalunar]

Rick doodles based on that headcanon where he went to culinary school I posted about a while ago/fic ideas

My 24 to 25 year old beloved

Yeah he looks exactly the same except slightly skinnier and no stache, we all know bro wouldnt change up his style

#spooky month #spooky month fanart #spooky month rick #rick hedony #spooky month rick hedony #rick culinary student headcanon #I like to think Rick dated an asshole with those ugly frosted tips that were popular in the 90’s #that’s why it’s next to depression #tontalunar’s art

[xysidhe]

Sirius, careening into the common room: IT HAS HAPPENED

Lily: It has?!

Remus: What's going on?

Sirius: It's official! I saw them holding hands outside the Potions classroom!

Lily: Finally!

Remus: What is going on?!

Sirius: James and Reggie! They're dating!

Remus, who has known for 1 month: And you're....happy?

Sirius: Happy?!

Lily: Happy? We're ecstatic!

Sirius: We've been trying to get them together for 2 years now!

Lily: We almost lost hope

Sirius: But now it's official! The plan worked!

Remus: You.... you planned this?

Sirius: Lily we need to throw a party!

#Regulus and James have been dating for 6 months by now #they were so scared Sirius would be mad but he's been trying to set them up for ages #Lily helped so James would stop hitting on her #Remus was sworn to secrecy by James because they both thought Sirius would go nuclear #we need more over supportive Sirius #James and Regulus try to sneak into the common room only to get greeted by a huge banner congragulating them both #and a ton of confetti raining down on them #theyre both confused and waiting for the trap #but no trap just a very excited Sirius who is already planning their wedding #dead gay wizards #hp marauders #regulus arcturus black #regulus deserved better #jegulus #starchaser #james deserved better #james x regulus #regulus x james #harry potter marauders #black brothers #sirius black #remus lupin #lily evans

[dagmartoons]

Okay this actually looks awesome

#lupin iii #lupin the third #lupin the 3rd #jigen movie #new trailer baybeeeee #was wondering when we were gonna get more news on this #release date's just over a month away #Youtube