#asexual x allo

[duckyfann9871]

The asexual x allo dating dynamic is so wack because you guys will have sex like once a month and they’ll be really needy for you but you’re like “?? We literally JUST had sex!” And they’ll be like “no we didn’t, it’s been like 2 weeks” and you have to remember how some people literally do this like every other day HOW

#lol but Fr tho #like my partner will be like pleaseeeee duckyfan let’s make love #and I’m like #but we literally just did that #and they’re like no it’s been three ENTIRE DAYS #and I’m like yes exactly #it’s literally not even been a week #just ace things #like I have to actively remember that some people actually crave this more than once a year unlike me #I wonder how much of this is actually my asexuality and how much of it is the internalized sex repulsion pushed my purity culture #i guess we’ll never know #anyways #Demi #asexual #sex neutral #sex positive #idek #sex neutral asexual #asexual x allo #asexual christian #ik most Christianity is averse to anything queer adjacent #but ​I’m still a Christian #and I happen to be asexual/ Demi. the terms really resonated with me #you know what I mean #? #anyways gonna go watch ER and go to bed before I meet the Dean tmmrw about my grades :’) #sorry for the novel in the tags #if you made it this far #you deserve a lil treat go get one

[ze-writing-qprs]

Alastor x GN!Reader - 2

Headcanons [🩷QPR]

PART I

Alastor and Reader are aroace

Queer-platonic Relationship (do NOT read as romantic)

Fluffy n cute

Nothing is meant to sound or be s*xual (I am aroace and some stuff I say comes off that when I don't mean for it too)

Considering making a part 3

TW: Mention of cannibalism

PART 2

Alastor cooks for you

He listens to the radio while he does (I mean he is the radio demon-)

Has offered to let you try venison (raw) and demon (also raw)

You both give each other song recommendations (I like to think he enjoys most genres of music)

Dancing in the evenings as sunset peeks through the windows

He taught you a lot of dances (If you know how to dance, you taught him some as well)

Will sing to the songs he knows while you dance together

If you ask he might sing you to sleep

Has asked before if he could take a bite of your flesh (Again, he is a cannibal. But he respects you)

You take walks together

You try to find decent cafès or hole-in-the-wall restaurants to go to, this is usually difficult and most of the time you end up taking him to somewhere in cannibal town

He loves when you discuss music with him

You bash on Susan together

Alastor hates when you mention the “box faced man” that “seems to have a homoerotic crush on him” (your words, not his)

He gets all quiet and won’t look you in the eye when he is mad

He tries to distance himself and you take that as a sign to give him space to cool down

If he is just annoyed he will roll his eyes

But for you though, he doesn't seem to take the hint when you get annoyed or mad

This may cause you to give him the silent treatment (He understands at that point)

It’s a little unhealthy

You’ll learn to communicate better (he just might be a little.. difficult at times)

Like a true gentleman he will give your hand a kiss as a greeting

You both give each other forehead kisses

I like to think that he will just hold your hands randomly and play with your fingers

It’s cute

If you make him flustered he will lay his ears against his head

If you want to and play your cards right, he might let you cuddle together

You guys are cute.

#alastor hazbin hotel x reader #alastor hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel #x reader #alastor x reader #alastor x gn!reader #gn!reader #gn reader #hazbin #aro #ace #aroace #asexual #aromantic #aromantic writer #asexual writer #aroace writer #aroace writing #queer platonic relationship #qpr #qpr alastor #alastor x reader qpr #suffer allos #please do not the cat (alastor) #writing #alastor fics #fanfiction #headcanons #alastor headcanons #alastor hazbin hotel headcanons

[eclaire-went-bam]

although i think it's important to acknowledge the complexities of aro & ace identities, & to be welcoming of aroace identities that may be sex/romance favourable/hypersexual & seek those relationships, i think it's still important to acknowledge that completely romance/sex repulsed aroaces are still a minority in the ace community despite being the stereotype. & we should still listen to those voices,

#i don't have like. Aro Ace Spectrum Demographics but i definitely notice the grand majority of users i (Personally) see are acespec #but a very Few amount of people are the stereotypical romance-repulsed sex-repulsed aroace #& although it's a good thing that those on other parts of the spectrum are recognising their identity & learning more abt themselves #we should still recognise that's a majority in the ace community & should still strive to make apothi aroace ppl feel welcome in spaces #maybe it's just been my experience with the h4zbin h0tel fandom (censoring bcs i don't want drama) but #i Definitely see a lotta people taking apothi aroace ppl expressing discomfort w/ al4stor being shown in ship art (by allos) #& turning it into “you guys know there are OTHER ace identities right 🙄🙄” or “that's just how the internet is !” #which yes i think almost all of us are Well aware of other ace identities. espec if we're active in ace communities #& no the internet doesn't Have to be that way. just like how the internet is a whole lot less homophobic than how it used to be #instead of actually ??? listening to our points ? a lot of people only seem to listen to us when we absolutely hamfist the whole “it's ok to #be x y or z too!“ into every single message #just so people don't immediately antagonise us for raining on their fictional ship or sumn #this make sense ? #aromantic #asexual #aroace #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #lgbtqia #idk if this comes off as whiney since it's from said apothi aroace individual. “listen to me NOW !!!” but uhhm if so ? idgaf whatever

[givemebishies]

I was just reminiscing abt the time I told my mom that I’m acespec and I accidentally also told her that she’s apparently acespec too

#I remember explaining to her like #yeah I’m ace apparently cuz allo people think x way and I think y way #and she was like #wait hold on I thought everyone felt y way? #and i was like #apparently not??? #and she was like huuuhhh???? #chatterbun #also I got diagnosed w adhd and the more I learn abt my symptoms I realize that they’re ALSO her symptoms too lololol #I love me mom :> #ace #asexual #asexuality #ace memes

[dustandshadows8]

Why I think Wednesday is demiromantic or greyromantic 

(None of this fan art is mine I found it on Pinterest so credits to the og artists your talent is incredible.)

First, of all for all you beautiful people who have forgotten or didn't know these two definitions, let's take a look:

A grey romantic person:

is a person with a romantic orientation that is somewhere between aromantic and romantic.

For example, a gray-romantic may:  -Experience romantic attraction but not very often.  -Experience romantic attraction, but not desire romantic relationships.  -Desire relationships which are not quite platonic and not quite romantic.

A demiromantic person:

is a person who cannot feel a romantic attraction to someone until a strong emotional connection is established. The emotional connection can be any number of things from a prolonged talking stage to a sexual relationship turning to more. It depends on the case and all people are different on how they feel emotional connections with others.

At the beginning of the show Wednesday says that she does not have any interest in being like her Mother and falling in love and getting married. (Just like to say the proud aroacespec positivity I got form hearing those words...)

First of all this indicates that Wednesday does not consider herself a allo person, she has romantic feelings and has decided to never act on them or she has never experienced romantic attraction before (demiromantic/greyromatic?).

However as the show progresses we can see her form what can be interpreted as romantic bonds with two people.

(And will be by a wider straight/cis/allo audience who might not understand the aroacespec coding in the show.)

But, more importantly, she also forms a possibly stronger platonic bond with Enid.

Wednesday's relationship with Enid progresses in a healthy way. They get to know each other. At the beginning of their relationship they have a tape across the floor which nether of them cross, even at the end when Enid thinks he's saying goodbye for ever she does not hug Wednesday because she knows she doesn't like it. They respect each others boundaries.

Across the show we see their friendship deepen and Wednesday begin to more openly return Enid's affections.

One of the most important things to take from this is the speed of, said, progression.

It takes the whole show for Wednesday to be comfortable enough to hug Enid, which shows he level of trust she has gained for her new friend. She doesn't even accept affection from her family.

And, just as importantly, there is still room for a lot of growth in their relationship.

How does this tie into the grey/demiromantic theory?

Well, as Enid and Eugene are the only two people who Wednesday willingly calls her friends (correct me if I'm wrong my memory is shit) and Enid is the (potential?) romantic interest in the situation, she has obviously formed an emotional connection with her and only after she has formed an emotional connection will she allow Enid to hug her.

It ties pretty perfectly into the Demi category.

Now we have to address something else.

The boys.

First of all, especially as an ace (maybe grey or Demiromatic?) person myself, the relationships with both of them seem very rushed and forced.

It seems to me, that she only uses them to find information about the case. The whole show, everything, even the kiss all looked like a ploy for information.

After she suspects Xaviour she turns on him pretty quick. Would she do that if she really cares about him? And she has no problems with being against Tyler in the final.

All through the show her interactions with them are abrupt and harsh, she often forgets about them to continue her investigations, she frequently appears to have no regard to their feelings.

Why would she treat them so badly if she cared about them?

And why would her reserved personality allow her to progress two relationships so fast?

So how does the grey/demiromanticism link into these situations?

It's her extreme awkward and unusual reactions and treatment of both guys that leads me to think that a) she doesn't romantically like ether of them and b) she truly doesn't know how to interact with someone she has a crush on.

Sometime, when your feelings have deepened from some previous emotional connection, it is a lot easier to ignore them.

And Wednesday has never formed such a connection before Enid.

How would she know how to act and show romantic affection?

The stuff you see on T.V looks stupid. People meet each other, go on cute dates, have an mis-communication, get back together, kiss in the rain.

Where is the realism in that? Where is the emotional bonding the inability to understand emotions? The questioning of feelings?

Is this just how allo relationships are portrayed in the media or do people really just know if they like someone, that easily?

I genuinely don't know if some people just know if they like someone without months of questioning.

And Wednesday probably wouldn't ether.

Which is why she tries to make her relationship so like that, quick and easy, even though the emotions (that I'm assuming allos manage to feel after like two weeks or something) aren't there. Instead it's just the words and actions without any feelings.

So, it's the build up of her and Enid's relationship, her reactions to the boys advances especially in the cliche development of their relationships that feels so forced that and doesn't suit her personality at all that leads me to think that Wednesday is ether grey or demiromantic.

As for the ace part in both.

Maybe I'm just self projecting. But does that girl really appear allo to you?

Really?

#wednesday show #wednesday netflix #wednesday addams #aroace wednesday #wenclair #wednesday and enid #wednesday x enid #xavier thorpe #tyler galpin #wednesday thoughts #asexual #demiromantic #greyromatic #the allos are at it again #are the allos ok #straight people do not get this show #one of my friends legit told me she shipped Wednesday with Tyler #how????

[redysetdare]

I'm sorry but it's wild to me that repulsed ppl constantly have to add disclaimers to their posts Abt being frustrated Abt how they are treated all because some ppl will take it as a personal attack against favorable ppl.

#text #this isnt an attack against favorable ppl tbh i see allo 'allies' acting like this too #a repulsed person qill say 'i dont like the focus on x in society it alienates me' #and droves of ppl come out as call us puritans andpro censorship and how dare we demonize the existence of ppl who do x #and stop spreading harmful stereotypes and actually repulsed ppl r the problem and whatelse #its frustrating to constantly be told im the one being catered to while also being told that nothing has to cater to me #while in a society that hates i exist #aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #aspec #sex repulsed #romance repulsed

[that-girl-glader]

When I said I wanted a Michael Holden, I did not predict crying over a red-headed probably blue eyed guy a day after my bday movie night that was 2 days before my actual birthday. And like the feelings are like probs unrequited, but who knows....

#so like this has been a fun way to find out I'm greyromantic #asexual #idk how allos deal with this #greyromantic #tori spring #michael holden #tori x michael #sprolden #heartstopper #heartstopper s2 #I can't wait for the solitaire movie (I'm delusional) #ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #also highschool sucks and I'm done #also failing #at life and my grades #but I did watch spiderverse and the barbie movie so

[cupid-quinn]

ranting on the blog cos i fucking can!!!! saw a post talking shit about a fic that involved an asexual character and im just annoyed!!!!

i hate reading a fic and seeing the comments and one of them is like “hey this piece of work is shit cos u represented this asexual character wrong >:(“ when the work represented the asexual character PERFECTLY FINE but theyre not sex repulsed.

the character could be shown making sex jokes or even just casually talking about sex and somehow its an issue? lord FORBID theyre in the bedroom too (no matter if they’re participating or not)

funny enough asexual people arent all sex repulsed, idk how many times this needs to be said? not all asexual folk are the silly weird “sometimes i forget sex exist!” character thats become to prevalent in media now. and im not saying being sex repulsed is bad/being stereotypical, being sex repulsed is fine! ok! amazing! but what im saying is it isnt the only way to be asexual.

honestly any representation of asexuality is good representation cos its a (sparkle effect) SPECTRUM (sparkle effect) some are sex repulsed, some are sex indifferent, some are sex favourable, some are sex weird and some just really wanna touch some ass. You literally cannot misrepresent asexuality unless you purposely write a canon ace character as allo. you cannot misrepresent asexuality cos people are weird and odd and different.

im sorry if your uncomfy with an asexual character being written/shown as being sex indifferent/sex favourable but please just block the tags, dont read the work, dont interact and fucking dont comment. youre acting like an ass and making someone feel bad for no reason. its fine to be uncomfortable cos funny enough you have the right to but dont put others down cos you’re uncomfortable.

it happens so often no matter if its fanfiction, artwork, whatever-the-fuck, anytime an asexual character is shown in a sex related situation theres a problem. unless if the character has been specified to be sex repulsed, shut up and let people have fun.

it gets tiring thats all?

(not using any specific tags, only cos i dont wanna get harassed but if you somehow found this congrats ig)

#ignore me im just sick of people #oh my god you can also tell when its some ignorant allo person too #“im an ally and your sexualizing asexuals!!!” when in the notes the author literally says theyre ace💀 #ill delete this later im just annoyed #oh my god how people get upset if an asexual character dates an allo character #ace4ace relationships are awesome!!! but so are ace4allo relationships!!!!!!! #if ur wondering what fic im talking abt btw i wont specify only cos this poor dude got blasted in the comments but it was a caleb x essek c #its funny cos the people see the asexual colors and just assume theyre not into sex #do you know???? what demisexuality is???? good sir?????? #like guys cmon🥲 #omg not to be that guy but the tma fandom is bad for it too #let people self project please🙏 #unless if the creaters said the asexual character is sex repulsed stfu #cupid chaos

[charmspoint]

Me and Ker have been talking about how weird self inserts read when you are asexual and it made me realize that when i joke about my original project rn being like twilight for adults its not quite correct

It's more like a dark fantasy romance where the protagonist never existed and the the fantasy love interests fall in love with each other

#lucy blabs #romance book version of getting cucked #but yeah we've been talking about how like asexual and allo people have different approach to shipping #and how for allo people it seems to be more about imagining x character as a potential partner #hence the insert readers and teen romances with a protag who has like -5 personality traits #while us as ace creators view characters as more of barbie dolls we play with and put in sittuations #so the appeal isnt 'how this character would be as my partner' the appeal is 'how these characters would be as mutual partners' #sorta like 'im not here dont involve me but ill set up the scene n u go wild ok loves' #n thats whats happening here

[wimbledonsoot]

Okay guys

So, recently, I got together with an asexual person (recently being yesterday lmfao) and I would love to have advice on how to do that as an allosexual person myself. We’ve discussed boundaries, labels and whatever else might make him uncomfortable, and I’ve ofc I’m going to follow those bcus WERE IN AN EQUAL RELATIONSHIP AND BOUNDARIES ARE FUCKING IMPORTANT but I want extra tips? Like is there anything else I need to be aware of yk?

#ace x allo #asexual #allosexual #asexuality #asexual x allosexual #asexual relationships

[salted-caramel-tea]

this post was supposed to be a lighthearted post about aspec people by highlighting them in a joking way that still instills positivity and pride in the identity .

unfortunately too many people are too chronically online and media illiterate to realise that so let’s break down the post.

‘shout out to the people not having gay sex this pride month’

this was intentionally a worded to counter the ‘have lots of gay sex this pride month’ jokes and positivity that surround pride discussions. The wording directly associates with anti-queer activity and their frequent attempt to divert attention from queer people during the month of pride. it is worded intentionally. it is supposed to seem counter active to pride .

the humour is then seeing a pride flag. specifically the asexual flag- in which case this stands for an umbrella term across the aspec community which is more recognisable than the variety of aspec flags that i had seen whilst looking for a flag for this post . the grey line of the asexual flag stands for the spectrum between allosexual and asexual it represents the degrees of asexuality and in so, with the purple, stood for the aspec community in this post.

if the joke is still lost on you, the idea was to read a statement that counters the idea of queer pride and find it recontextualised to humorously represent an identity associated with the lack of sexual attraction; ergo no gay sex .

what this post is NOT, is a comment on varied asexual attraction. it us not a commentary on what makes a valid asexual person or whether or not you specifically will have sexual inter course this pride month . it is not saying asexuals are not allowed to have sex . this post is pushing any stereotype of asexuality . op is a sex having aspec person. i am demisexual . i have been with my partner for almost 2 years and engage in sexual activity .

what this post IS, is a joke. it’s a fucking joke i cant make it any clearer. not every single joke is going to relate to your own experiences and that’s ok. not every post about asexuality is going to relate to your own experiences that’s ok. you need to stop taking things at face value and actually engage in some media literacy to understand when something is a reductionist and stereotyping commentary which is inherently negative and when something uses a reductionist approach to convey humour because a lot of you really seem to be struggling with that one.

i fear a lot of you take yourselves too seriously and can’t find the humour in simple tumblr shitposts to the point where i’m having to actually explain what i thought was a very easy concept to grasp because it has upset a lot of people . stop taking everything so seriously .

if you are offended by the original post that is actually a you problem. that is something you have to work on where you cannot accept any form of lighthearted media that does not directly align with your own experiences . bc it’s not serious . it’s a joke x

also allo people can fuck off bc this is literally a post celebrating aspec ppl idc if your gf lives across the country or if you’re just a single loser this literally has nothing to do w u

yall make me want to kms for making me do this

#asexual #aspec #pride month #lbgtq

[herbirdglitter]

ok send help. I found this reddit post with a bunch of links to a ton of really cool articles on asexuality and resources and that kind of thing (X) but OH MY GOD. I’M DYING. One of them was a link to an article on what sexual attraction actually feels like (X) and NOOOOOO JUST NOOOOO PEOPLE ARE JUST WALKING AROUND LIKE THIS??? Y’ALL ARE CRAZY

Edit: for fucks sake, stop being so mean in the comments. I know what I said but people who experience sexual attraction are not crazy, nor are they gross. I was merely trying to illustrate how foreign these feelings are to me. Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I don’t have a sex drive and I’m sex repulsed, but try and be decent human beings PLEASE. The allos are lovely. Sex is beautiful. I’m beautiful. Which wasn’t really up for debate but it’s worth mentioning

#asexuals #asexuality #asexual #aspec #lgbtq+

[zeroducks-2]

Ok so I've seen this post way too many times on my dashboard not to get pissed so here's me saying this: Shipping is not aphobic, Soulmates AUs are not aphobic, having fun imagining your favorite little guys having sex is not aphobic.

"But one of these characters is asexual in the text!" 1: a character which doesn't have a canon relationship is not necessarily aspec, and 2: even if the character is canonically aro/ace, shipping them with someone doesn't erase the fact that they're aro/ace in the text, and in fact doesn't hurt anyone because IT'S FICTION. It's like shipping with an age gap, shipping gay characters with the opposite sex, shipping murderers and cannibals, shipping het characters with the same sex, any other "problematic" thing you can think of. It's fiction. It's not real, it doesn't hurt anyone, it's just some poor sod's past-time like it is yours and mine and everyone else's who spend their time shipping fictional people.

"Shipping hurts X category of people" is anti rhetoric and guess what, it's bullshit. You're just calling people aphobic instead of p3do, groomer or whatever other offensive nonsense antis say.

"But soulmate AU are aphobic!" Look, I hate soulmate AUs because they're cheesy and made with the cookie cutter, but that's just bullshit. No they don't hurt aspec communities, they simply do not cater to aromantic people. Something which doesn't cater to you simply existing does not in fact hurt you. And anyway you're free to create your own "Platonic Soulmate AU" if you so like, I promise no one is stopping you and a lot of folks would appreciate it.

"But it normalizes amatonormativity!" LISTEN. It's called amatonormativity FOR A REASON, and this reason is that it is the norm. Fandom spaces haven't normalized it, IT IS ALREADY NORMALIZED. Hetero, cis, allo and amatonormativity don't come from fandoms, they are not pushed by fandoms, and making it sound any different is the same kind of rhetoric antis use. Kinda on the opposite end of the spectrum of that specific brand of antis which claims incest in fanfictions normalizes it, whereas 8 seasons of GoT somehow don't. Like fucking stop treating fans like they hold the keys to make things widely spread and accepted, maybe? Because that's also what antis do in their attempt to police what other people like...?

In conclusion, this is an internalized anti behavior which won't help aspec people, won't help fandom and will only fuel shame in anyone who takes it seriously. It's just a very fancy brand of censorship. Fucking stop.

#censorship is bad in general folks #not just the censorship you personally dislike #ramblings #fandom discourse

[confused-disaster32]

Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.

Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.

Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.

Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)

Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.

Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.

ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.

Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.

Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.

Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.

Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.

Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.

But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).

So yeah, that's my piece.

#hazbin hotel #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #aroace alastor #TW: opinions #Alastor is my fav character and I need to put my opinions about him somewhere #SHIPPING IS FINE JUST DO IT RESPECTFULLY AND DON'T TRY AND ERASE SOMEONE'S SEXUALITY OR ROMANTIC ORIENTATION #alastor in qpr #put this man in a qpr #pls #I literally can find only like 1 fic of him in a qpr from like 2020 #someone make this content - I need it horribly #alastor and rosie's qpr is canon in my heart #they'd be adorable #like charlie's supportive aunt and uncle #or an extra set of parents for her idk #personally believe that alastor is sex-repulsed and not interested in romance #sex-repulsed alastor #also headcanon rosie as aroace #she's romance favourable and alastor is romance non-favourable #they're still besties tho

[queer-reader-07]

prefacing that this is more rant than analysis and also i’m asexual. so my opinions on the whole sex thing are maybe not the same as my allo counterparts. (not in anyway ever trying to say sex is bad or dirty. sex is a beautiful thing and can be an amazing way to express love, and it’s 1000% natural. nothing wrong with it. i’m just personally not into it. ok? we good? now: the actual post.)

as much as i love the idea of crowley and aziraphale both being ace, the evidence of canon definitely seems more like crowley is ace and aziraphale is. well aziraphale is something to unpack on a different day.

and i personally find the idea that they both need to be filled with unquenchable lust exhausting. i can understand the desire for them to have sex and all that stuff in theory, but for me personally it’s just not it. and look. writing smutty fic and saying they’re definitely gonna fuck in canon are two very different things. smutty fic is fine, it’s not my thing but you do you.

but them having sex in canon:

1) doesn’t really make sense with the story in my opinion

2) definitely doesn’t make sense with where they’re at emotionally (especially crowley. he’s thrown off by a hand to the chest let alone full on sex). sure maybe they’ll get there in s3, but the idea of THAT much emotional healing happening in 6 episodes seems unlikely to me.

3) what i think too many people forget is that good omens does not and has never needed such displays of physical intimacy to show love. yeah yeah “anathema and newt has sex so it’s not like it can’t happen in the show.” THAT SEX SCENE WAS NOT TO SHOW THEY WERE IN LOVE THEY BARELY KNEW EACH OTHER. the anathema x newt sex scene was 100% played for comedy. beelzebub and gabriel are far more in love than anathema and newt realistically were and their biggest show of love was singing Their Song together. crowley and aziraphale are so insanely in love and their biggest show of love was, i think, them swapping places to save the other from permanent destruction. it wasn’t the kiss.

and look! we’re back to me harping on how that kiss was not the pinnacle of “see! they’re in love!!!” that kiss was a lot of things but if it took that kiss for you to see the love that was so obviously there, you’ve lost the plot. (side bar: i know that i’m one to talk with my whole viewing them as platonic thing. but i want to make it clear that the kiss itself was not the turning point. it was the culmination of everything that happened in ep6 and also i always knew they were in love, but i digress)

personally i don’t want a sex scene in canon. i want physical affection, OBVIOUSLY. just more in the vein of hand holding and cuddles and gentle kisses. i want tenderness and domesticity.

but as always, that’s just me.

#idk dude i think i have more thoughts on this but i just can’t articulate them #like i know there’s things to be said but everytime i try it comes off terribly and makes it seem like i think sex is dirty and gross #WHICH IS NOT TRUE #ugh thoughts are hard #this post is messy at best but i’m throwing it out there anyway #good omens #aziracrow #ineffable husbands #crowley #aziraphale #good omens 2 #good omens meta

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"stop treating x group like the enemy" is such a weird way to derail conversations about privilege.

saying that binary trans people have privilege over nonbinary people, or that allo queers have privilege over ace and aro people, or that mono queers have privilege over bi+ people isn't "making people out to be the enemy". that's some bullshit to immediately shut down any real conversation.

but the problem is you all don't even hear us out most of the time when we talk about our specific experiences to know that we don't paint anyone as the enemy.

if you want to talk about "making people out to be the enemy", why don't we talk about binary trans people acting like nonbinary people are the reason why people don't take trans people seriously? or about allo queers creating an entire harassment campaign just to push aces and aros away from the queer community? or about how bi+ women are demonised for being involved with men by lesbian separatists? how bi+ lesbians are framed as dangerous by mono lesbians right now? or how transmascs and transmasculinised people are continuously painted as patriarchal, misogynistic and inherently violent, even by other trans people? or how perisex queers were threatening and harassing intersex people after the intersex progress flag was created? or how queer people consistently try to push out "the weird ones"? but you all don't want to talk about that, because in most of these cases, it means acknowledging you have privilege in some way.

you all are so fragile that you think "you have privilege over me" means "i hate you, you're my enemy and you're responsible for all the oppression i experience", when no one fucking said that. but it's all or nothing, black and white, binary thinking.

it's vital for people to acknowledge the privilege they hold even within their communities because that way we can more effectively work on dismantling the systems that oppress all of us. but by refusing to acknowledge your privilege, you uphold it, and by that you do contribute to further oppression.

i mean fuck. i don't even think nonqueer people are "the enemy". will i complain about the shit i get from nonqueers and others who have privilege over me? absolutely yes. does that mean i think they are the enemy? absolutely not. dismantling the gender binary helps binary trans & cis people. dismantling allosexism helps allos. dismantling monosexism helps monos. dismantling the patriarchy helps cis men.

we have so many allies that i hold dear to my heart, INCLUDING allo queer allies to aces and aros, mono queer allies to bi+ folk, binary trans allies to nonbinary folk. never have i considered them enemies. that's a fucking myth to silence conversations about intracommunity privilege.

i shouldn't have to say "not all binary trans/not all allos/not all monos" for you all to understand that a) yes, ALL of you do have privilege, and b) i'm not talking about you if you're not being allosexist, exorsexist or monosexist.

the enemy is allosexists, exorsexists and monosexists, no matter which identity they hold. heck, some of them are literally ace/aro/nonbinary/bi+ themselves and i'll be the first to call that shit out if you actually looked and weren't too busy being defensive. the enemy is exorsexism, monosexism, heterosexism, cissexism, allosexism, intersexism, misogyny.

no one's said otherwise except fucking radfems. so STOP acting like nonbinary/ace/aro/bi+ people are some new version of radfems for talking about privilege and our unique oppression.

i'll be a fucking nonbinary bi-asexual killjoy. fight me.

#queer #nonbinary #bi #bi+ #bisexual #asexual #ace #enby #maverique #aro