#aspec is valid

[pending-dope-username]

You can have love without sex, you can have sex without love.

#lgbt #aromantic #aromantism #aro pride #aroallo #asexual #ace #aspec #aroace #aspec is valid #aspec positivity #questioning aspec #aspec stuff

[cat-crowned-8]

Shoutout to all aspec people. Aphobia is bullshit and we are part of this community. Happy Pride y’all.

#asexual #ace #aro #aromantic #aroace #aspec #aspec is valid #pride month #exclusionists are bullshit #you disagree #you’re blocked #fuck you if you don’t care abt this #cuz I just saw a bunch of fucking ‘opinion posts’ #saying that aspec isn’t part of the community #or that we aren’t real or valid #and I wanted to punch them in the face #we exist #and we are human

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #acespec #arospec #ik i made a similar post to this recently but i feel this one better words what i wanted to say with that one #ill leave the other posted but heres a more worded version ig #basically stop theowing repulsed and non partnering ppl under the bus #dont only validate favorable and partnering experiences when fighting aphobia #we are here too

[yagikidd57]

#tw acephobia #tw aphobia #lgbtqia+ #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #ace space #lgbtqia community #queer community #queer #aroace #aromantic #asexual struggles #aspec #arospec

[why-am-i-always-hungruy]

reblog if you're aspec and FUCKING VALID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace #whatever the fuck because YOURE VALID MOTHERFUCKERS!!!!!!!!!

[zhoras-bitch]

Riz Gukgak will forever be my special little guy, because in a world where aspec characters are borderline non-existent, he was not just a cool character who happened to be aroace. He also had an incredibly compelling character arc unique to him as an aspec, and the character arc was so iconic it birthed one of the most memed moments in the entire series.

#tbc im not saying every aspec character's arc should be focused on their aspec identity #in fact it would get very annoying very fast #however aspec experience is so rarely addressed in anything ever #watching riz was so incredibly validating to me #in a way nothing else had ever been #at that time #dimension 20 #fantasy high #riz gukgak #bitch speaks

[aroacewolfic]

I hate it when people's first reaction to me saying I'm aroace is "oh but don't you wanna have a partner and kids in the future, won't you be sad without that" Like no bitch I'm gonna be happy living alone in the peace and quiet with my cats and dogs and 1000 books to keep me company and I'm gonna be just as happy and complete as every other person out there if not happier.

#rage post #aroace rage #like yes i can find people attractive #BUT THATS BECAUSE IM NOT BLIND #im probably demiromantic but at the same time romance looks boring so imma just say no #aro #aromantic #aroace #ace #arospec #asexual #acespec #aroace pride #aromantic asexual #ace pride #aro pride #aspec #everyone is valid #but aroace is better

[mirick-vn]

our teacher told us to write an essay about any topic we'd like

sir, prepare to read paragraphs upon paragraphs about asexuality and aromanticism and how platonic relationships are just as good as everything else and not everyone has to have romance and sex in their lives to be fulfilled

#i'd say i pulled an all nighter for this but i passed out somewhere around 1am and now im cramming everything 2hours before school #but still #this is for the grades #and for the world to know that we exist and we're valid #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aroace #aspec #aroace pride #asexuals are valid

[daydreamerwonderkid]

I didn't survive through the bullshit aphobia discourse of 2016 and 2018 for y'all to try and pull this shit literally 3 days before 2024.

Clown fucking behavior.

#dreamer talks #asexual #aromantic #aspec #arospec #aromantics are valid #get your clown shit out of here #i'm so fucking tired

[someoneq]

shoutout to aplatonics. you absolutely count as queer regardless of your other identities and I will defend that until the end of time

#im aroace and not apl but youre all so valid #aplatonic #aplspec #aspec

[privateolives]

This is probably because I grew up watching 24/7 animal planet, but what finally made the allo/aplatonic thing click for me were the nature's of big cats.

Lions are powerful, regal creatures who are uniquely adapted to pack life. They need these connections to live a healthy life; A lonely lion is a miserable creature indeed.

Jaguars are solitary, beautiful creatures who live happily solitary. They prowl their lush world with self-sufficient majesty. A jaguar is not lonely without a pack. In fact, forcing jaguars to share space with others they do not enjoy is just as damaging as forcing a lion to live alone.

A lion may choose to head out on it's own for the most part, but in the end must return to the pack to thrive. A jaguar can choose to trust and enjoy the company of others, but they never feel the need to form a pack.

Is a jaguar selfish for this? A psychopath, a narcissist or any other such horrid assumptions? Is it a less moral creature than a lion, who seeks others like it to thrive?

Is a lion pathetic, or needy, or selfish for wanting community? For requiring contact with others like they require water? For their inherent need to string complicated webs of relationships that may seem silly or dramatic to others?

Of course not. These are ridiculous questions to even ask.

They are simply lions and jaguars.

In fact, is a jaguar that chooses to spend time with you not as magical as a lion's love? For a creature that needs no bond to thrive to still enjoy your presence enough to share it a time? Is a lion who can prowl the night alone not impressive in its strength and resilience? Is it not awe-inspiring in its ability to conquer a life it was never wired for and reign still?

Are they not both beautiful and awe-inspiring in their own ways, without being wrong?

Alloplatonics. Aplatonics. Are we not both special and beautiful in both our bonds and self-confident happiness equal, in each our ways? Is there not unique beauty in lifelong bonded packs and magical encounters that need no perpetuity to carry life forward?

Are we not but lions and jaguars? Neither wrong, neither selfish, but just different and beautiful creatures in each our ways?

That's how I've come to see it, anyway.

#lgbt #aspec #lgbtqa+ #asexual #aromantic #aroace #loveless #aplatonic #alloplatonic #animals #I woke up at like 3 in themmorning to write this so I apologise for weird wording #I'm not awake enough to go hunting for the videos but if you want to see more about the equal majesty and difference in cats bonding #I suggest looking up Kevin Richardson's work with lions and panthers #I love animals. I hope I didn’t come off as degrading to anyone by using them as comparison #I can assure you the association only carries the deepest respect from me. #anyway all the aro discourse floating about made me think of this issue again #and how explaining allo/a-platonic needs has been a difficult task in the past #you're all valid no matter your labels or shapes or spots or manes #remember that when an orientation you don't understand comes to the lgbtable your job isn't to test them #it's to make room

[pending-dope-username]

im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid im valid-----

#aromantism #im having a moment #theres a breakdown on the horizon #lgbt #aspec is valid

[shmaroace]

i don’t need anyone’s permission to exist!!

#‘you’re so valid :)’ im valid by simply being alive i didn’t need a reminder that a lot of other people don’t see me as really human #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec #trans

[redysetdare]

I think queer stories would be better if people stopped assuming that queer representation hinges on if two characters are romantically involved at all. Like the moment you accept characters as being queer without needing romance to prove said queerness then i think we'd find ourselves with a lot more unique, nuanced, and interesting queer stories. but by limiting queerness to only romance you are stifling queer stories.

#text #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #you can't get mad at the idea of cookie cutter queer stories while also saying that it's 'queerbaiting' if two characters dont kiss. #this isn't just in reference to aspec identities or gender identities either #I think a character can still be valid gay representation without ever kissing someone to prove it #a bi person doesn't need to kiss both boys and girls to be valid bi rep #there are more ways to express and share queer identity that dont require a love plot to be tacked on to validate the queerness #don't relegate the queer experience to only love stories. they can be so much more than that. #romance mention

[yagikidd57]

#tw acephobia #tw aphobia #aroace #aromantic #aromanticism #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #lgbtqia+ #ace community #ace space #lgbtqia community #queer #queer community #tiktok #ace spec #aspec #aroace people are queer #aspec people are queer

[softandwigglybones]

This one is for all the aspecs who didn't feel like there's something wrong with them. To all those too oblivious or too indomitable to feel alienated. You're still awesome and you're still valid

#aspec #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #i pretty much constantly only see posts that talk about the ascpe experience of feeling different and being distressed by it #and those people are valid #but this one is for all my peeps that were more like “oh this label fits” and went on about their life as normal #don't derail please #gelatinous post