#bi-confused

[arabella-s-arts]

Scenes/Things in Supernatural that genuinely don't make sense to me if Dean was straight:

The confession booth scene.

Sam just rolling with the fact that Dean's siren is a guy while still thinking sirens infect people through sex.

Dean being flustered by several men: Gunner Lawless, Aaron, Doctor Sexy, etc.

All the parallels between Destiel and other couples. (A big one being "last night on Earth" bc how do you do that accidentally.)

Having all the gay jokes be on Dean instead of Sam.

Paralleling Sam meeting his childhood celebrity crush with Dean meeting Gunner Lawless.

The boner Dean got when Cas cleaned up.

Dean gulping after Cas does an impression from a Western movie.

Charlie, a lesbian, calling Castiel "dreamy."

The way Mary looks at Dean and Cas when they hug.

Dean wondering why everyone assumes he's gay, while Sam not caring.

The logic that Charlie can't flirt with guys because she's only attracted to women, but then having Dean flirt with the guy for her.

Dean seeming disappointed when learning that Aaron's flirting was fake.

The amount of time Dean and Cas spend staring at each other.

Dean canonically having an orgy with Crowley.

A woman saying that she knows when someone's pining for someone else to Dean, just for us to learn that Dean was never in love with Amara.

The set design and script choices that lead to a cross in the background while Dean said "I do." to Cas after he came back to life.

Edit: To the people who say I can't use the siren as an example because the siren is supposed to be his brother, and therefore his siren being a man doesn't work. If you reread that bullet point, then you will realize that I didn't put it down as just simply Dean's siren being a man. I recognize that the siren is supposed to be his brother. It's the fact that Sam still thinks the siren infects people through sex, not knowing that it's actually through saliva when he realizes who the siren is. So when he sees that Dean's siren is a guy, he had to assume they had sex, and he does not seem surprised by this at all.

#i'm not even trying to prove a point #I'm just genuinely confused as to what the heck these scenes were supposed to be if dean is not bi #the fact that dean was the best written bi character who struggles with internalized homophobia I have ever seen and it was an accident #insane #dean and cas had the best relationship development I have ever seen #destiel #deancas #dean winchester #dean is bi #bi dean #bi dean winchester #they did my son so dirty #he grew so much over the seasons #without his dad around to force toxic masculinity #they let him be dorky #goofy #geeky #good at cooking #but didn't let him be bi #i will be adding more to the list #the title is a bit of a hyperbole #some of these do make sense with Dean being straight #but they're honestly pushing it

[fandomsandfeminism]

😮‍💨 Went out to socialize with some coworkers yesterday. I mention that I'm bi, and then just a minute later that I have a husband.

Coworker (who is a lesbian, for the record, so what follows isnt straight ignorance) that I really do not know: oh, wait, you're married?

Me: ha, yes.

Them: And you're bi?

Me: ...yes?

Them: wow, so like, an open relationship?

Me: ....?????? No?

Them: really?.....so, you're married. In a monogamous relationship? And...you're still bi?

Me: ...................yes? I...still think women are attractive? Like my husband still thinks women are attractive? Getting married didn't change that.

Them: oh, wow, how interesting.

#in the year of the lord 2024 #why am i having to explain this #this woman couldnt have been more than 5 or 6 yeara older than me though so wtf #but my lesbian grandmother had said something similar when i told her I was bi after i was married #she was like 'still? even though youre married?' like yeah grandma. still. wtf #it wasnt like malicious or rude #but it was #...uncomfortable and confusing

[cavesalamander]

Scum Villain fic where Shen Yuan wakes up out of a coma and realizes that he just had a very, very vibrant dream about his boy and that web novel he hatereads.

When he gets back home after observation it's so... surreal. He feels so much older now. He's practically lived a lifetime in that dream, even if only a few months have passed.

His room is so... cringe is the word he wants to use, but he can't help but find his past self endearing about it all. Except that line of thought makes... no sense at all. His past self is just him from a couple months ago.

He decides to check up on the story he'd been dreaming about and finds out that, though there were a dozen more chapters, they had stopped updating completely without warning just a few weeks after his own coma.

(The comments after his coma, a few mention him, calling him out or cheering for him finally giving up on the story. Some people even speculate he might have died.)

His old comments were so embarrassing to read, but there's a part of him that... sees his love for Luo Binghe even in these.

Wait, why is he suddenly okay being gay for this protag??

He thinks he probably shouldn't be quite so chill about it.

He wonders what happened to Airplane. He stops himself from thinking too hard on the possibility it could all have been real. That was ridiculous!!

Meanwhile in the world of the system....

Luo Binghe is flipping OUT. His husband his shizun his beloved just up and went POOF. No trace of him, no clue left behind.

(Or is it worse if he dies? The original goods died that night he qi deviated and was replaced by Shen Yuan, so there's no soul there to replace him. Luo Binghe has had to deal with dead Shizun before but this time it's... different.)

Either way, after a whole lot of everyone flipping out, Shang Qinghua seems to know a little too much about... something.

The truth comes out. Luo Binghe admits he's suspected something like that for a while now, but thats not important. He needs his shizun back, so how..?

Cue dimension hopping shenanigans.

#scum villian self saving system #shen qingqiu #luo binghe #shang qinghua #shen yuan #salawriter #im not writing it i just think it would be fun if it existed #post coma shen yuan confused and disoriented and a lot gayer than he realized #trying so hard to write it all off as some vivid dream #even when SQH and LBH (and Mobei Jun) make it to his dimension #Airplane doesnt know where Cucumber lives #just that hes his biggest hater #que a chapter of airplane in bis shitty ass apartment flanked by two oh his hottest ocs while he tries to update his novel #trying to get cucumbers attention #maybe he gives luo binghe a husband for his harem jsut to bait out some comments #anyway i hope people enjoy this silly concept

[suja-janee]

I feel like these are getting out of hand but I don’t plan on stopping

#bi Han is a HUGE red flag but all sareena sees is a nice large pair of warm tiddies #for legal reasons that was a joke #probably gonna delete this later since they’re dumb doodles but we’ll see #bireena #ALSO JUST BEFORE ANYONE GETS CONFUSED #kuai is NOT flirting with sareen in that pic.. #they’re just being friendly but all bi Han knows is ‘attack’ #do demons even sleep? #I’ve been like actively avoiding drawing sareena sleeping cause I genuinely don’t know

[byers-bowlcut]

Mike’s love for El being platonic, and not romantic, and realizing it over the course of season 3 reconciles nearly every contradiction with his behaviour.

He stands like a gay scarecrow as she kisses him in front of Will’s closet. That's him realizing that when he blurted out "I love her and I can't lose her again!" he meant it platonically. But her saying "ily too” WAS CLEARLY NOT PLATONIC, so now he’s left very confused (If he was simply shocked by the fact that she overheard him, he would’ve been surprised initially, and then kissed her back, and been all emotional and happy. But he wasnt.) 

In fact he probably realized his heart fluttered when Will said “not possible” to him in the scene literally 1 minute prior, but NOT when his gf was attempting to make out with him? That’s clearly a problem! lol

This leads flawlessly into season 4.

Mike has apparently been refusing to even write the word 'love’ in his letters for 6 whole months. Why? Cause he didn't want them to look like love letters.

Meanwhile, he’s jealous of Will painting something for a girl. So he argues with Will about growing apart.

El argues with him about not saying ily. In the fight, he deflects romantic connotations with words like “care” and superhero idolization that he seems suuuper into this season.

He NODS when Will says “What if they don’t like the truth?”. That’s him thinking “Yeah, El won’t like the truth that I don't return her romantic feelings.”

In the van, he says their meeting was dumb luck and anyone could've been there for her that night. That’s hinting that he was just being a decent human. Not that it was a fated love at first sight meeting.

Then Will says, “You’re afraid of losing her”. And THAT is the true issue here.

This whole concept of ‘losing El’ (be it in relationship/daily life, or in death), is scary to Mike, because of what he went through seasons 1-2. At 12 years old, he saw another kid that he developed a bond with, die right in front of his freaking eyes. But they didn’t have a body or anything. So Mike kept getting signs and intuitive feelings that she was still alive. So he questioned his own sanity. For a WHOLE YEAR. Can you imagine how traumatic that is? And then for a kid that age?? That’s exactly why he develops an unhealthy codependency with her in Season 3. And we see it have a negative impact on the unity of the party, and on Will.

But a traumatic response doesn’t change the fact that Season 3 transitions us through the party’s puberty and growth into teenage hood. 

And because of said puberty, Mike starts to realize what actual attraction towards someone is, or in this case… isnt.

Like if we think about the first two seasons, for a 12-13 year old living in that type of society, era, and a picture perfect white suburban American family, it would’ve been really really hard to figure it out back then! Like simply becoming very close friends with the opposite gender caused everyone (cough Nancy cough Lucas) to tell him that “ooooh you must like her”. So yeah, he thinks “I really must like her”. Because he does! He just can’t separate it from actual romantic attraction at that point due to age, and strong heteronormative standards, and no role models like Jonathan telling him “it’s okay to stray from the norm bro”. So of course he acts on it? That’s the NORM. He’s like, “You’re supposed to take a girl you like to the ball”, “We're supposed like girls now”, “This is what growing up means”, “This what old people do”. Like HELLO? Mike says stuff similar to that constantly. Dustin and Lucas do not. So yeah, it can be easily be read as heteronormativity. Not romantic attraction!

And so despite wanting to spend every day in the summer with El because of copious amounts of trauma from S1-2, he can’t continue believing its romantic attraction when his hormones say otherwise. 

Like just look at their kissing scenes S3-4:

Seasons 3 starts with him pulling her hands OFF of him when kissing. He’s voluntarily kissing her instead of spending time with his friends, cause he thinks that’s what he’s supposed to do as he’s “not a kid anymore!”, yet he’s evidently not even enjoying it if he’s taking her hands off lol. Then by the end of the season he doesn’t even kiss back, and has his eyes wide open. Then six months later, when he’s way more self aware of his own feelings, this dude wears SUNGLASSES to the airport. We (and all the characters there) can’t even see his true expression when kissing her. And what’s more, he puts the bouquet of flowers between their bodies, to SEPARATE FASTER. When he could’ve very easily put that hand/arm around her, not between them (that's what he does with his other hand holding the bags).  

And all of this: all this repression, the contradictions, the unsaid things... it all culminates to the monologue. Will told Mike in the van that El really needed him. And then Will reminds him of this again when El is in the piggyback, cause Will is annoying! (jokes lol). So of course, all rationality, all of Mike's realizations or progression, goes out the window. After all, he is THE HEART. He is needed by her. He can’t go through what he went through in season 1-2 again! It doesn’t matter if it’s not totally true. He needs to tell her what she wants to hear so she won’t DIE. The stakes are extremely high. So he delivers. He even takes all his knowledge of mediocre romance stories, and blurts out that it was love at first sight. It's silly to us the audience, cause if you actually go back and watch season 1 you can see that it's not even fucking true. 

So why would he lie? Well because he doesn’t KNOW when he fell in love with El. Because he never fell in love with her. So yeah. It’s PLATONIC with a capital P.

(And to add a cherry on top, he gives his sister’s ring to her jfc) 

#mike wheeler #gay mike wheeler #bi mike wheeler #btw im not trying to say 'mike isn't attracted to women period' #i'm just saying he sees EL platonically #my post can be interpreted as gay mike ofc #but i'm not trying to discount bi mike either #sexuality is a spectrum #bi kids can also confuse feelings due to heteronormativity #byler #will byers #elmike

[infintyonhigh]

renata sorrah aka nazaré tedesco aka math lady meme came out as bisexual 🥳💖💜💙

#bifusion (bi confusion) i feel it all the time i feel so seen #renata sorrah #nazaré tedesco #br politics #pride

[stuckinapril]

OK I’ve been having bicurious thoughts and tumblr has to know first

#DONT LOOK AT ME #dint go into my inbox and ask me I’m confused too #I’m still identifying as straight bc for my 21 years of existence it’s been guys for the most part #But there’s this nice girl ik and she’s so sweet and pretty and I’ve been so done w men #AGAIN do not needle me about this im confused too OK #And don’t be mad at me if it ends up that I’m just straight I have never guessed I might be bi OK. W this girl it’s different #Like I’m actually into you???? You’re so sweet & so beautiful?? I love spending time w u????? #and ik she’s also bi so I would not have my heart crushed if she was like Umm I’m not into girls #p

[secondbeatsongs]

diversity win: this AI decided that Dipper Pines is gay!

#gravity falls #gf #dipper #dipper pines #stan pines #id in alt text #stanley pines #it got the stans confused #but that's okay #personal #also #what did stan say the other day?? #I want to know #what did he do that made dipper suddenly want to come out to him #did he come out to dipper? as what? bi? trans? #stanley pines could easily be either of those things

[can-a-tuna-fish]

Ongoing idea that the squip can’t control Jeremy while they’re sleeping, so like a week after blocking Michael they start getting dreams about like holding his hand, and they wake up like this every single time.

#this isn’t when he actually realizes hes bi either #it takes like three more months #I like to think it’s their brain being confused about the blocking #like going ‘hold on something is missing. have you noticed that something is missing?’ #and Jeremy is like ‘I think this means I’m bi.’ #early 2000s teen moment where you think having dreams about your best friend is gay I guess #I think this is honestly one of the most self-indulgent things I’ve posted on the internet and I’m very embarrassed about it please be nice #(clearly an over exaggeration if you’ve seen my main acct) #be more chill #bmc #jeremy heere #michael mell #bmc jeremy #bmc musical #boyf riends #undescribed #my art

[milomilesmib]

Nico: why is Leo clinging to you like that?

Jason: a few hours ago he heard me singing "Nobody Loves Me" and thought I genuinely felt unloved and had a mental breakdown so I offered him comfort and he's been here ever since.

Nico:

Nico: oh, honey.

#nico is the “honey” gay #leo is the clingy bi #jason is the confused pan #open for suggestions on that though #nico thinking of when he was in his clingy phase with will #also if you think nico is actually cold and scary i have to disagree #he is soft and lovely but just closed off because of his fear of losing people #but the second he gets attached he is SO clingy and sweet #percy jackson #heroes of olympus #nico di angelo #pjo #trials of apollo #hoo text post #pjo text post #toa #jason grace #toa text post #valgrace #leo valdez #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackson text post #heroes of olympus text post #trials of apollo text post #leo valdez text post #jason grace text post #jason grace x leo valdez #leo valdez x jason grace #nico di angelo text post

[lakesouperior]

🐻🐤🐰🦊 just some thoughts on the fnaf movie

🐻the attention to detail that was put into it, with all it’s little details and easter eggs. the posters in the background, (and i haven’t seen anyone bring this up), the guy who got face-mauled by the cupcake wearing a midnight motorist t-shirt. the spring lock scene. the fact that scariest of all the jumpscares (of which there weren’t a lot but it’s kind of for the younger demographic ig they can’t make it too bad) was freaking balloon boy. the highest kill count going to MVP Carl the Cupcake. this is what i mean when i say movies from established franchises should be made by fans, for fans.

AND THE MATPAT CAMEO. HIS ACTING ISNT EVEN BAD AND EVEN IF IT WAS I EOULD STILL LOEV ITTT DVDNFB

🐤 you can tell they put a lot of thought into the child actors. abby is phenomenal. the five missing children? properly creepy and sad looking.

🐰 characters were all really well written and entertaining. the karen aunt, for all that she is an antagonist and very much hateable, still manages to be funny. even background characters are hilarious, like Doug for example, and don’t even get me started on the friggin matpat cameo i nearly screamed in the movie theater.

🦊 vanessa and mike are naturally each other’s narrative foils (and stand-ins for respectively Michael Afton/Elizabeth Afton (MichaElizabeth if you will) and Charlotte Emily imo), and them saying the same line, the “that’s two jobs”, mike at the beginning, and vanessa at the end, TO THE SAME CHARACTER?? TO THE BIG FUCKIN BAD HIMSELF??? WHO THEY BOTH HAVE DEEP HISTORY WITH???? literally this is good writing. i’m not saying the movie is perfect because it isn’t, but this is good writing.

🐻 and vanessa, as much as she kind of is, doesn’t feel like a coward because her worst fear does come true. her own father, the person who she thought the world of, tries to kill her as soon as she steps out of line. her fear wasn’t unjustified. she spent her entire life under his control — has literally never known anything else, and to still rebel after so long must’ve been the hardest, most terrifying thing in the world but she still did it because she’d grown to care for mike and abby.

and this is what i mean when i quote that one post: “strong female characters ≠ characters who are female and punch good, but strong female characters = well-written female characters” like yeah, vanessa’s an antagonist, or an anti-hero i suppose, but she’s still, once again, likeable and mysterious and funny. and the “bring her here again and i’ll fucking shoot you”?? that was probably her first act of true rebellion, aside from telling mike more than she should’ve about the pizzeria.

🐤 mikes arc is a very obvious “let go of the past and learn to cherish the present” which isn’t exactly revolutionary, but i think it’s done quite well though it could be improved a bit. and as much as you think he is an absolute cabbage head for telling them they could have abby for even a second, but you still, once again, get it.

our man’s running on like two hours of sleep and also meds, finally getting to see his baby brother up-close and even touch his face for the first time in probably more than a decade of blaming himself, and then getting told he could go back and see his parents again, the grief over who he probably hasn’t been able to process since he had to take care of abby when they died (possibly even took his own life in the father’s case if he’s supposed to be a henry stand-in like i think and doesn’t that just make it fifty times worse)

and it’s set up that he wants that perfect family back, the kind that he had during his childhood, that abby never got to experience.

and maybe he feels guilty for that. maybe he thinks, in his sleep-deprived and grief-ridden mind, for only a moment, that she would be better off, since she seems to like the animatronics and their ghost children better than him and he still feels like he doesn’t know how to raise a kid.

🐰 speaking of abby, for once Child Character in the horror movie isn’t just there to do some stupid shit for Plot Reasons (cough, The Curse of La Llorona, cough cough). i mean yes, she does go with them at the climax, but she has been given no reason not to trust them and considering the fact that they are other children, it would honestly be more suspicious if she didn’t trust them (also we’ve been shown she doesn’t really have friends before the end, so they’re also her first and only friends, no wonder she’s clinging to them) plus she’s been left alone with the aunt she does not like, possibly still believing mike is abandoning her. you get it.

she’s also very entertaining in her sassiness. like “are you here to arrest my brother?” or “yeah, love you too bro, kinda don’t wanna die tho, can we leave?” literally i can’t stand kids in general, but especially so in in horror movies, but i would give my life for abby.

🦊and the drawing thing? it’s beautiful and sad and really hammers home the fact that these monsters, however scary they have been made by their brutal and cruel deaths, they were, and are, just children who didn’t deserve to die and communicate the same way children like abby do. it also makes abby herself relevant to the plot and actually useful.

🐻and about abby; i have my own Theory there. we know she wasn’t in the picture during Garrett’s disappearance, which means she’s at least twelve years younger than mike. it’s actually quite common for couples who are going through a rough patch to have kids to try to fix it, which i think is what happened here, made even more possible if they also had her as a sort of replacement for Garrett. this, as i said earlier, makes mike’s indecision all the more understandable — if abby doesn’t just look a lot like Garrett, but was actually supposed to be him and would’ve never existed if not for the tragedy.

but that’s Just A Theory. 🐻🐤🐰🦊

#fnaf #fnaf movie #mike schmidt #fnaf vanessa #vanessa afton #vanessa shelly #abby schmidt #fnaf chica #five nights at freddy's #freddy fazbear #fnaf foxy #foxy the pirate #fnaf bonnie #bonnie the bunny #chica the chicken #brain worms #abby deserves the world #mike is perpetually confused and tired #mood #breaking news bi disaster cant decide whos hotter josh hutcherson or elizabeth lail #can you tell i love talking about fiction #if you value your life don’t ask me to talk about modern classics you will die of old age before im done

[mvnsonner]

Eddie: Goddamn it, the printer broke while printing out Steve's birthday invitations.

Robin: What are they supposed to say?

Eddie: "Steve's birthday".

Robin: What do they say instead?

Eddie: "Steve’s bi".

Robin:

Robin: Works out either way.

#stranger things #stranger things incorrect quotes #i love it when steddie are both confused about steve being bi and robin has to tell it like it is #steve harrington bi agenda #m:text #m:all

[the-meme-monarch]

idk i just think shitting on lgbt identities bc you think theyre "counterintuitive" is fucking. stupid? get a hobby maybe? talk to real life queer people maybe

#like idk im pretty sure poeple have had 'confusing' genders/sexualities since Forever. i dont think this is bad is the thing #give me a reason being a bi lesbian is bad. give me a reason why being a he/him lesbian is bad. give me a reason neo pronouns are bad. #i dont think there is one. truthfully. i just think you should let people define their own experiences. poeple contain multitudes man #words from the monarch

[justafriend-ql]

zo: help something lgbt is happening to me again 😩 HIDDEN AGENDA Episode 2

#hidden agenda #hidden agenda the series #hidden agenda series #jokezo #joongdunk #joong archen #dunk natachai #melgifs #poor thing is so confused and will continue to be confused for the forseeable future #accurate to the bi experience tbh #also: it's sending me the way they keep making zo fall into joke's arms to make him look *smol* when dunk is literally 6' 1''

[stagefoureddiediaz]

I’m an ally - what if I fall on the floor cackling and crying with laughter - he’s an absolute disaster and I adore him - so relatable

#buck baby that’s not what you are any more #baby queer confusion #I am here for it #it’s so real though #911 spoilers #evan buckley #bi buck the bi disaster #911 abc

[coquelicoq]

does. does lee jihye still think yoo joonghyuk and kim dokja had a baby together. when she finds out about biyoo is she like master how do you feel about your baby daddy having a baby with someone other than you? do you want to talk about it? master? hey master where are you going?

#she was so confused at first like how can two guys have a baby? did they adopt? #but then biyoo comes along and it's like. ah maybe they hatched a baby before. it checks out #orv #omniscient reader's viewpoint #ljh #yjh #kdj #my posts #f #maybe she thinks shin yoosung is their baby. oh no wait i've got it i'm putting on my lee jihye logic goggles #shin yoosung of the 41st regression is yjh and kdj's baby. kdj is mad because yjh abandoned her/sent her on a doomed quest #she shows up as the disaster of floods and kdj saves her. then he goes to all the trouble to get her soul from the underworld #THEN he hatches her as a dokkaebi and calls her biyoo (bi after bihyung and yoo after yoo joonghyuk) #so now yjh has to coparent his and kdj's resurrected kid with bihyung. while kdj is off being died #man master's life is so hard! abandoned by his ex to raise their lovehatchling with his ex's new boytoy 😩 #i've connected the dots i've connected them