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[hurristuff]

For this Disability Pride Month, I saw a post that was shittybad and it made me angry. So have this

#that one person was right OCD is NOT fucking de-stigmatized #intrusive thoughts aren't exclusive to OCD though I'm just tagging those because that's how I got on the topic #ocd #actually ocd #intrusive thoughts #in case anyone needs to filter stuff like this -> #all caps #bold text #ask to tag

[walks-the-ages]

[ID: a link preview of a stock image coffee table with a laptop with the facebook logo on the screen with text on top that says 'anyone who used facebook in the last 16 years can now get settlement money. here's how." end ID]

-USA Residents Only-

Time Sensitive- Apply before August 25th, 2023 (8/25/23)!

Filing a claim takes less than ten minutes, and can be done HERE

Excerpt from article:

Anyone in the U.S. who used Facebook in the last 16 years can now collect a piece of a $725 million settlement by parent company Meta tied to privacy violations — as long as they fill out a claim on a website set up to pay out money to the social network's users. 

The settlement stems from multiple lawsuits that were brought against Facebook by users who claimed that the company improperly shared their data with third-party sources such as advertisers and data brokers. The litigation began after Facebook was embroiled in a privacy scandal in 2018 with Cambridge Analytica, which scraped user data from the site as part of an effort to profile voters.

Meta denied any liability or wrongdoing under the settlement, according to the recently created class-action website. However, the agreement means that U.S. residents who used Facebook between May 24, 2007, and December 22, 2022, can file a monetary claim as long as they do so before August 25, 2023. 

Please reblog to signal boost this! As many people as possible should know about this to make their claim, if you don't do anything you don't get anything. It takes less than ten minutes to file and pick your payment option including pay/pal and ven/mo .

-USA Residents Only-

This ended August 25th, 2023!

#facebook #free money #signal boost #facebook lawsuit #facebook settlement #time sensitive #bold text #large text #PLEASE REBLOG

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

In a world where daily living support for disabled people is built on the foundation of the 'nuclear family,' and where disabled adults are penalized for getting married, there is no age limit on "Orphan."

#large text #bold text #disability rights #disability pride month #losing your support system because someone died

[dirtangeldean]

“don’t do this, cas” is not “don’t confess,” it’s “don’t leave me”

#da.txt #destiel #cas #deancas #dean #dean winchester #d.constructed #dean studies #bold text #italicized text #it reads: dont leave me

[skullvis]

BARBIE SPOILERS AND THEMES DISCUSSION BELOW

I want to talk a little bit about how the Barbie Movie also showed the pain that patriarchy inflicts on men.

Because in the beginning Ken is extremely excited about it. He’s finally feeling acknowledged and respected in a way he’s never been before. It’s something that every person deserves and something that Barbie acknowledges and apologizes for at the end-that she didn’t treat Ken with real respect.

But the only way to ACTUALLY get and MAINTAIN respect in a patriarchal society is to be masculine the “right” way. You can’t cry, you have to be tough, you have to see other men as a threat in a lot of cases. This is painful. This is a terrible thing to have to maintain-just like it’s terrible to have to maintain the facade of being the “perfect” woman.

I really interpret the main point of the patriarchy as a conflict in the Barbie movie to be a depiction of how gender essentialism is incredible stressful and painful to have to conform to.

And at the end Ken admits that he really didn’t care about the patriarchy all that much and lost interest when he learned it wasn’t just about horses (also we Stan a horsegirl Ken). He hides his emotions and tears because after learning about the patriarchy he believes he HAS to in order to still earn respect.

And yes OBVIOUSLY the patriarchy hurts women (including trans women of course always-fuck off terfs) a lot more in a lot more ways, but a big part of feminism really is about acknowledging the ways that everyone suffers under patriarchy and gender essentialism.

It was actually really nice to see that acknowledged in the movie, along with the acknowledgment that these societal structures are really just made up!

Barbie movie was so good what the fuck. It deserves awards.

#barbie #Barbie movie #barbie movie 2023 #barbie spoilers #barbie movie spoilers #caps #pink #colored text #bold text #skulltalks

[agendergenderqueermasculenbyguy]

Welp, it happened.

I have posted before about how blocking content on tumblr has no stigma attached

You – yes, you, person reading this – are allowed to block whatever tags/ content you want

You don’t need to have a “reason”, you are allowed to block and filter content “just because” or “because I don’t want to see it”

Content does not need to trigger or squick you for you to be allowed to filter it

This post is officially your personal permission to filter out whatever content you would rather not see

And this includes filtering/ blocking “#current events” “#current news” “#global news”

You are allowed to exclude/ block out current world events from your tumblr experience

This does not mean you don’t care!

Yes, you are allowed to filter content “just because” or “because I don’t care”

But filtering exhausting and upsetting content does not imply you do not care!

Compassion fatigue is a real thing!

Especially if you (like me) follow several, multiple, a bunch of activist bloggers

There are global crises everywhere, I just read of 6 genocides happening which is precisely why I decided to finally block/ filter out those “current events” tags

How to filter in the tumblr app:

Go to your own blog >

click the little gear in the top corner >

General Settings >

scroll down >

just above “Color Palette” there it is >

Filtering

Type in whatever tags or words you want to not see in the future

This works for filtering out user-URLs too, if you have specific people you’d like not to see posts by

The “full text” filter will, however, 1) also look at the URL of the prev to who put it on your dash 2) ignores spaces in the post

Example 1: You follow “microplasdick” and you filtered “orange”; if the OP is called “orange-fishburne” your filter will hide that post; if the person microplasdick reblogged is “orange-cucumber” your filter will hide the post. Doesn’t matter if the word “orange” is not within the post itself

Example 2: You have filtered “orange” and a post goes “I also ran getting to my bus” – that post would get filtered because it contains “o ran ge” in that sequence

So “#tumblr is my safe space” and for that to stay true, you’re most definitely allowed to block out current events/ world news

Please take care <2

#filtering #blocking is self care #how to filter #how to tumblr #tumblr how to #tumblr filters #tumblr filter #compassion fatigue #this has been a psa #selfcare #self care #tumblr dashboard #the tumblr experience #tumblr is my safe space #long post #bold text #big text #large text #genocide mention #new to tumblr

[bread--quest]

as a tumblrologist i actually love whenever there's a sudden influx of tumblr users from another site. the response of the users is like a whalefall of information

[tip to new users: tumblr users are easily won over by references to whalefalls.]

#bold text #wow look something original!! #tumblrology #but like it is really interesting!!!! #some people will make 'here's a guide to tumblr' posts which are obviously like YES fantastic first hand information excellent #and then other people just make jokes which are also extremely revealing and culturally fascinating

[greenteacryptid]

#x files fandom #scully x mulder #mulder x scully #the x files #x files #scully and mulder #mulder and scully #agent mulder #fox mulder #dana scully #agent scully #x files meme #tumblr memes #bold text #top text #bottom text #shitpost #haha funny #shitposting #chaoscore

[cjoat-boost]

March 4, 2024 Edit of this still relevant post from February 27, 2024

For those that view any of my online presences (including my blogs)…Um, this is something for you to know.

Please save this post so it doesn’t get buried by queue.

My& Current Health Situation

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I wish to communicate this to y’all now so that…I don’t end up worrying anyone when this happens. It may have been noticeable by some folks that I’m dragging, heavily. I’m not having a good time right now with my body. With this comes with an onion of issues detailing certain aspects of what I’m going through.

I know I have a lot of obligations. Not only as a creative and content creator; but as a friend, a mentor, Guardian or even older peer, and myself. I’ve neglected myself for too long. I have been noticing my vitality decrease; and my CFS and POTS flaring up further.

Social Justice is something I’m always perceiving and sensitive to; and as such, the strain I’ve noticed too late has been worsening. Includes many emotional meltdowns and outbursts from me that I can no longer control or hold back.

Trying to figure out how to exactly sort through the mass tangles of my traumatized emotional and mental state isn’t as simple as I hoped for me. While I’m creatively burned out, I am suffering Autistic burnout. A double whammy of all things.

I’m finding myself getting “stuck,” unable to physically move for hours at a time. I’d move upstairs to eat something but end up being there for what’s normally an half hour task…for nearly 2+ hours. Even so, trying to force movement to do tasks that is considered “everyone can do these” is mentally painful and physically locking. Even if I have to desperately use the bathroom when I’m about to fall asleep, my headmates (AKA alters) have to switch to co-front or “snatch me back” in order to get my body moving. That’s with the sudden rocket spike in heart rate and blood pressure, and loss of balance (at the very least).

I’m already struggling to cope with many things due to the fact that I haven’t been able to draw much at all; or create anything and write anything. Especially trying desperately to fulfill my word on things I had the energy to do, but no longer do. So much of my struggles I can’t properly transmute. It’s so upsetting.

Thus, there’s going to be a sudden and abrupt shift in posting or messaging. I don’t know when. But it is coming.

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(Especially since I’ve been feeling mania over the weekend. All weekend, Saturday and Sunday, I manic cleaned large portions of certain areas I occupy as well as my housemate. Today I’m feeling the aching in my joints badly, with my calves swearing hell at me. I’m wearing my wrist brace too, I just…I’m rambling.)

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I wish for you to know what’s happening if you don’t see or hear from me, my headmates, or any of my online presences (as depicted here: https://cjoatbysamwise.com/cjoats-links ) No one is being forgotten. I’m not abandoning anyone. I’m not ghosting anyone. What I do know (still coming to terms with it ngl) is I need to stop, fully stop, and recover. It’s looking like my body is going to do that for me by force. It’s going to be abrupt and sudden to the inconvenience of many, including my housemate, unfortunately.

I don’t know how long this will last. But I don’t know how long I’ll be able to keep “hustling” like this. Does this sound repetitive? I wanted to communicate before suddenly I’m unable.

Does this sound repetitive? I’ll end it here. I wanted to communicate before suddenly I’m unable.

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I’ll end it here with how you can support me while I’m down, only able to and wish to (I’m aware financial situations are a big struggle at the moment, there is no pressure to.)

Provide support by these links:

Thank you for reading until the end; have an awesome week ahead. Please remember to hydrate and eat. 🫶🏽❤️‍🩹

#important psa #my health #rock bottom #it’s not good #disabled #autistic burnout #creative burnout #manic episodes #update edit #website #throne wishlist #pay it forward #current events #2024 #online presence #just fyi #proofread post #big text #big post #bold text #bullet points #links #feel free to share #reformatted post

[im-not-here-im-dead]

OLDER RELATIVES STOP TOUCHING ME AND CALLING ME PET NAMES CHALLENGE. IT’S NOT CUTE AND IT’S NOT FUCKING FUNNY. WOULD YOU DO THAT IF YOU KNEW I WAS A LEGAL ADULT? IF I WAS VISIBLY AGING? IF MY AUTISM DIDN’T MAKE ME ‘CHILDISH’? WHY DO YOU THINK IT’S OKAY TO JUST GO UP TO YOUR KID RELATIVES AND TOUCH THEM WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION? YOU DON’T DO THAT TO FELLOW ADULTS, SO WHY AM I AN EXCEPTION? STOP IT. AND WHILE YOU’RE AT IT, STOP ASSUMING THAT WE’RE AUTOMATICALLY BUDDIES JUST BECAUSE WE’RE RELATIVES. WE’VE MET TWICE WHEN I WAS LITTLE. I DON’T FUCKING KNOW YOU. AND EVEN IF I DID, THAT WOULD’NT GIVE YOU A PASS TO CALL ME ‘SWEETIE’ AND FUCKING STROKE MY HAIR WHEN I HAVE NOT TOLD YOU THAT IT WAS OKAY TO DO SO. I AM NOT YOUR FUCKING PET. STARS I HATE ADULTS SO DAMN MUCH SOMETIMES. I HATE HOW PRESUMPTUOUS THEY ARE. I HATE HOW COMFORTABLE THEY ARE WITH ENCROACHING ON MY PERSONAL SPACE. I HATE THAT THEY STILL DON’T CONSIDER ME THEIR EQUAL.

why am i still not. worthy of respect? why is respect the exception? and not the rule? why do i need to ask you to stop? can’t you just ask for my permission? how will you act if i say no?

#my relatives aren’t exceptionally terrible #but they don’t have to be #i still feel unsafe. and violated. #and. defeated. #the way adults treat young people is deplorable. #i say young people instead of children because even as a legal adult. i don’t count as a full adult. #don’t get me wrong. i get treated far better now than i used to. #but i’m still not a whole person in their eyes. #if i was. they would act like it. #not utdr #consent #adultism #ageism #ableism #tw infantilization #all caps warning #bold text #swearing cw #vent

[solarianvoidthearoace]

Oh. My. Fuck!

[I’m talking about sections of Part 38 of Malevolent in this post, so I’m putting it under the cut]

Arthur has been ignoring and deliberately going against John because he is scared John might have tricked/ betrayed him after all?!

Are you telling me Arthur Lester is in preemptive denial because of the sliver of chance that John is a bad guy after all?!

THIS is what caused their relationship issues since they made their way to New York?!

I know I have been clowning on them needing couple’s therapy but…

Although I did read two posts before finally getting to this episode (Part 38) and one post said John has been lying/ wilfully omitting things also

Like, aside from the whole deal with Kayne issue

Girlies, get a fucking grip

It’s been evident ever since the Dreamlands that Arthur and John want each other. They repeatedly chose each other. They want to be together – for better or for worse. And to a degree they need their relationship because they want to work out together and the relationship they have gives them a sense of purpose.

Before I now resume with Part 38 I also would like to say I don’t think Oscar is ““competition”” in whatever broadest-fucking-possible-sense.

Yes, John sounds a bit jealous but more than that he’s hurt. He’s hurting because even without saying, Arthur’s fear to confront John has been seeping, ringing, bleeding through.

Arthur has been keeping John at arm’s length, has been evading direct conversation and I can understand if John is vindictive enough about that to be deliberately obtuse about e.g. those car keys and the turn-off to the farm

They keep hurting each other because they don’t want to be – feel they cannot be – without each other

And I think that’s tragically beautiful, actually.

I see their codependency and desperation to stick together as that, desperate dependency. But also as an ill-fated manifestation of a platonic commitment they feel. As I said before they aren’t necessarily committed to one another – or at least don’t know yet how they are committed to each other –

but they sure as fuck are committed to sticking together. Committed to their kinship, to what they saw of themselves in each other. Both of them.

#malevolent arthur #malevolent #malevolent spoilers #malevolent podcast spoilers #malevolent john #platonic commitment #committed friendship #bold text #big text #podcast spoilers #arthur malevolent #john malevolent #arthur lester #john doe #malevolent 38 #malevolent 38 spoilers

[walks-the-ages]

OP deactivated, and some of the links were broken/marked unsafe by Firefox, so here's a new compilation post of Leslie Feinburg's (She/her, ze/hir) novels and essays on being transgender:

Stone Butch Blues official free source directly from Author's website:

Stone Butch Blues, backup on the webarchive:

Transgender Liberation: A movement whose time has come, on the web archive:

Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman, on the web archive:

Lavender and Red, PDF essay collection:

Drag King Dreams, on the web archive:

(Also, if anyone ever tells you that the protagonist of Stone Butch Blues ""ends up with a man""........ they're transmisogynistic jackass TERFs who are straight up lying)

Please also check out your local public libraries for these books and see if they carry them, to help support public libraries! If you have a library card already you can checkout Libby and Overdrive to see if your public library carries it as an ebook that you can checkout :)

EDIT: another not included on the orignal masterpost-- Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or blue !

annnnnd in light of the web archive losing it's court case, here's a backup of both PDFs and generated epubs a friend made:

5/26/2023: hello! I am adding on yet another book of queer history, this time the autobiography of Karl Baer, a Jewish, intersex trans man who was born in 1884! Please signal boost this version, and remember to check the notes whenever this crosses your dash for any new updates :)

6/24/2023: Two links to share!

Someone made an Epub version of Memoirs of a Man's Maiden Years, which you can find Here , as a more accessible version than a pdf of a scanned book if you're like me and need larger text size for reading--

And from another post I reblogged earlier today, I discovered the existence of "TransSisters: the Journal of Transsexual Feminism", which has 10 issues from 1993-1995, and includes multiple interviews with Leslie Feinburg and other queer feminists / activists of the 90s!

Here's a link to all 10 issues of TransSisters, plus a 1996 "look back at" by one of the writers after the journal ended, you can find all 10 issues on the Internet Archive Here !

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8/28/2023:

"Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out", can be found on the web archive Here, for the 25th Anniversary Edition from 2015,

and also Here, for the original 1991 version.

Each of the above can be borrowed for one hour at a time as long as a copy is available :D

This is a living post that receives sporadic updates on the original, if you are seeing this on your dash, click Here to see the latest version of the post to make sure you're reblogging the most up to date one :)

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October, 25th 2023:

"I began to dawdle over breakfast during shift changes, asking both waitresses questions. After weeks of inquiries, they invited me to a demonstration, outside Kleinhan's Music Hall, protesting the Israeli war against Egypt and Syria. I was particularly interested in that protest. The state of Israel had been declared shortly before my birth. In Hebrew school I was taught "Palestine was a land without peo-ple, for a people without a land." That phrase haunted me as a child. I pictured ears with no one in them, and movies projected on screens in empty theaters. When I checked a map of that region of the Middle East in my school geography textbook, it was labeled Palestine, not Israel. Yet when I asked my grandmother who the Palestinians were, she told me there were no such people. The puzzle had been solved for me in my adolescence. I developed a strong friendship with a Lebanese teenager, who explained to me that the Palestinian people had been driven off their land by Zionist settlers, like the Native peoples in the United States. I studied and thought a great deal about all she told me. From that point on I staunchly opposed Zionist ideology and the occupation of Palestine. So I wanted to go to the protest. However, I feared the demonstration, no matter how justified, would be tainted by anti-Semitism. But I was so angered by the actions of the Israeli government and military, that I went to the event to check it out for myself. That evening, I arrived at Kleinhan's before the protest began. Cops in uniforms and plainclothes surrounded the music hall. I waited impatiently for the protesters to arrive. Suddenly, all the media swarmed down the street. I ran after them. Coming over the hill was a long column of people moving toward Kleinhan's. The woman who led the march and spoke to reporters proudly told them she was Jewish! Others held signs and banners aloft that read: "Arab Land for Arab People!" and "Smash Anti-Semitism!" Now those were two slogans I could get behind! I wanted to know who these people were and where they had been all my life! Hours later I followed the group back to their headquarters. Orange banners tacked up on the walls expressed solidarity with the Attica prisoners and the Vietnamese. One banner particularly haunted me. It read: Stop the War Against Black America, which made me realize that it wasn't just distant wars that needed opposing. Yet although I worked with two members of this organization, I felt nervous that night. These people were communists, Marxists! Yet I found it easy to get into discussions with them. I met waitresses, factory workers, secretaries, and truck drivers. And I decided they were some of the most principled people I had ever met. For example, I was impressed that many of the men I spoke with talked to me about the importance of fighting the oppression of gays and lesbians, and of all women. Yet I knew they thought they were talking to a straight man" Transgender Warriors (1996) Leslie Feinberg

#bold text #large text #transgender #trans #nonbinary #leslie feinberg #neopronouns #activism #no id #pride #essays #Karl bae #memoirs of a man's maiden years #bi any other name

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

🔪🔪🔪No spoons left 👩‍🦼🔪🔪🔪

So. On 29 December 2022, the back of my motorized wheelchair broke completely (as in completely collapsed, flat out behind me, doubling the turning radius of my chair, and giving me zero back support). After business hours, of course. And so I couldn't call for a repair person to come out and look at it until the morning, and of course they were all backed up until after the New Year.

When the technician did come out (early January 2023), he found the frame was completely bent out of shape (I wonder if it was bent out of shape when it first broke, or if it got that way after roughly a week of bumping it into things when it was flat out, because my chair no longer fit around the corners in my house). And the whole part would need to be replaced. In the meantime, the guy rigged up some cables to hold the back up, and basically tie it into place. It's no longer adjustable, of course, but at least it gives me some support, now (I paid a whole lot of extra money for this chair for its adjustable features, like back angle, foot+leg rests, and seat tilt-in-space)

It would be expensive, but of course I gave my consent for them to order a new one.

Months go by, with no news. Finally, on 10 May 2023, I'm told the 20% deductible I have to pay, before they even put in the order. And I pay it, in installments of one half (minimum down payment), one quarter, and last quarter.

And then: Nothing. Absolute Radio Silence.

Last week, I notice that my battery is no longer holding a charge, so I schedule a technician to come out and replace it (Wheelchair batteries have a lifespan of ~ three years, and I bought the battery in March 2021, when I bought this @!#$-ing chair). While I'm making the appointment, I mention: "Hey, it's been a year since the back on this chair broke, any news on the replacement part?" The receptionist says she doesn't know, but she'll ask the guys in the repair department, and call me back.

She doesn't call back.

Today, 1 February 2024, 13 months later, after the repair guy replaced the battery, and while he was replacing screws on one of my armrests, so I don't have to hold it in place with duct tape, any more, he gave me the news:

The company that makes this chair has completely discontinued the model, and are also no longer making replacement parts.

The chance of me getting the back on my wheelchair fixed is zero.

(I think I'd have to pay more for a lawyer to get a refund on that deductible I've already paid than the price of that deductible).

Oh, and also: this chair is also a swapped out model, and not the one I actually ordered, because the company discontinued that model, too. And I didn't find out until they were driving this one into my living room.

That was 3 years ago. Medicare will only pay for a new chair ever 5 years, or longer. So I'm stuck with this chair until at least the end of 2025 (I started placing my order for a new chair -- the one I have now, in September or October 2020)

Oh, and you know what else the repair guy told me? Wheelchair companies even specially design (and Patent) every single screw and bolt that goes into their chairs, so you can't fix the chairs yourself.

🤬Capitalism!!!

#Wheelchair user #Disablism #Disability World #emoji #large text #bold text

[ask-the-lilywily-characters]

All my au's open to be spoken too

[Rules: Make sure you clarify which au characters you are talking to because I have many open to talk too]

[New: Links are provided for asks that have been answered, bold text ones are for multiple au's that are written above them]

StationaryV

V looses her ability to regenerate after a head injury in episode 4

StationaryN

N has lost his ability to regenerate during episode 3

Why doesn't he murder?

StationaryJ

After dying in the pilot, she got rebuilt in a improper way; missing some of her programs

StationaryCyn

Cyn was able to become a disassembly drone with the trio but looses her regeneration program near the end of episode 5

V and Cyn's relationship

What's a Stationary Drone?

First Workers

Khan, Nori, Lu (the teacher), Yeva, and Yuri (Doll's father) were workers for the Elliot's family and when Tessa was pretty young.

But they get sent to Copper-9 for reasons.

And also Lizzy and Uzi are siblings with intensly powerful solver powers inherited from their mom and dads.

(An alternate version version of this au has Nori and Yeva surviving whatever killed them in canon)

Doll's Role in this au

BenevolentJ

After J is killed in the pilot, she gets a temporary body that is able to make a hologram of herself while her main body gets fixed.

Does Tessa bring a J clone?

Is J the Solver?

What's the solver like in this AU?

Offbrand

Uzi made a trio of robots to help her kill humans once she found a way to get to Earth, but she stays on Copper-9 to take care of the little robots

What do the little robots look like?

Emotionally Shifting

Solver Drones and Murder Drones are built in a way where they change features of their bodies, but only from how they are feeling

What are the shifts? (This explains the au a bit more)

What's the form for angry?

Outsiders

Darren, Emily, and Sam are new students to school and they all befriend each other and Uzi. Darren does also become friends with the popular girls and dates Rebecca but not forever

Randomized Swap (I used a wheel to decide who was swapped)

Kelsey finds herself accidently befriending a mangled drone (the nickname for disassembly drones like the name murder drones) named Riley when she stepped out of her colony.

Is a Mangled Drone familiar to a Murder Drone?

Silliest au?

#murder drones #Murder drones au #Ask blog #Bold text

[skullvis]

It’s so hilarious to me in hindsight that Guillermo was so worried about his mom and that Nandor tried to threaten Guillermo by going to Sylvia b/c like….She’s a Vampire Slayer too but Nandor never learned that…Nandor was the one in real danger all along imho.

#bold text #nandermo #wwdits #wwdits spoilers #wwdits season 5 #what we do in the shadows #guillermo de la cruz #nandor the relentless

[mangedog]

this is entirely based on my own thoughts & experiences as someone who has been a fat woman and a fat man, so i may be completely wrong but:

i feel like it's acceptable to be a fat woman if it's in a sexy, lingerie makeup bedroom way, but not in any other context. and fat men can never be sexy, but they can exist in every other context as acceptable.

obviously there are caveats to this: bears (fat gay men) are exclusively talked about in a sexualised way in the queer community; fat women can be fashion models in a nonsexual context... and of course fatness is always seen as inferior and often disgusting regardless.

i don't know, it just seems like there are different standards (and what else is new lol). again this is my own words & experience but i would love to hear other people's thoughts on this!

#bold #bold text #fat #fatness #dogpost #im reminded of that one post about how as a fat man this person was seen as ok but as a fat woman they were ridiculed just for existing #fatphobia