#haven't done that in a while

[expelliarmus]

#mine #doctor who #dwedit #david tennant #made this so i could gif ten's eyebrow again #haven't done that in a while #but also wow i didn't mean to make the walls of the house look a nasty shade of green....... #and everything is super grainy......... #oh well

[devihashi]

I should be aware

#art #digital art #artists on tumblr #oc #sfw furry #furry art #anthro #angel #wings #gold #chains #black #panther #multiple arms #tail #edited #green #devihashiart #//nao #thats their name #close enough #the one thats lived in my head since i was a child #i think #anywa this actually started out as a tradition drawing (lineart) then i cleaned up and colored the rest on ibispaintx #haven't done that in a while

[aevykartandcosplay]

#over the garden wall #otgw #otgw greg #otgw wirt #otgw beatrice #art #i'm sure this has been done before but i had this idea and had to do it #calvin & hobbes #i'm also working on more art #i really enjoyed adapting their designs to my drawing style #haven't done that in a while

[odetogoogie]

you know i'd still die for you

#haven't done that in a while #stream smithereens #hope its good #joji #joji edits #joji fanart #joji aesthetic #joji lyrics #smithereens #joji smithereens #die for you #joji die for you

[tegytte]

tryina find and fix a certain style for drawings eddsworld characters so have a test tord

#he's the only drawing i think is good enough lol #which is weird cause my style came from edd's style #eddsworld #tordew #eddsworld tord #also trying to get back into drawing eddsworld #haven't done that in a while #art #artists on tumblr

[zelda7999]

@lavenoon‘s Accidentally Undercover AU has made a nest within my head and will be staying indefinitely. 

and while it was making it’s nest... haha whoopsies, my pen slipped! :0 Hoping to get most of this done tonight khsdfkjadshlfjsdkh

#my art #sketch #wip art #Moon fnaf #Accidentally Undercover #daycare attendant fnaf #cannot stop thinking about this AU #I have absolutely been DEVOURING the content #Living in my head rent free #time to do a background #haven't done that in a while

[lesbianboyfriend69]

i'm not immune to some discreet and tasteful public fingering

#mine #haven't done that in a while

[nevert-the-guy]

Late night OC drawing? Late night OC drawing.

Here's Pablo and Jolyne - my two poster children OCs - goofing off with the new Mario powerups.

#nevert's funky lines #pablo #jolyne #my ocs #original character #mario #super mario bros wonder #hand drawn #also look it's in color! #haven't done that in a while #i just felt like doing this #i have fun putting my characters into situations #also for those of you who find out about them from this #these characters are from COMPLETELY different planned projects #think of these i'm-too-obsessed-with-them drawings as like... #... #the pablo and jolyne power hour #yeah sure that's a tag now #(this is gonna get lost from how late i've posted it isn't it?) #oh wait i forgot #robot girl #not sure what to tag pablo as

[future-circuit]

found out that someone in my band worked on the scrooge film that’s coming out (already out??) on netflix. she said she did some of the rigging

#personal #now i guess i'm obligated to actually... watch a movie #haven't done that in a while

[reallyjusttrying]

Damn girl, you epilate? You must really like having your hair pulled

#minors dni #anyhow that hurt! #haven't done that in a while #thank hrt and luck my facial hair is manageable #upper lip hair was too long so i trimmed it #even tho that feela gross #but i'll deal with that later #anyhow now to try and not get hair in my bed #like the catgirl i deny myself to be #nsft joke #nsft text #nsft mtf

[eccentriccryptid]

What if I just...had a breakdown?

#haven't done that in a while #i can feel it coming though #gotta finish this assignment first then i'll cry #aren't y'all proud of my prioritizing skills?

[queer-ghosts]

trying to draw something tender and soft and warm again

#haven't done that in a while

[chipthekeeper]

haha whoops

#haven't done that in a while #not doing that tag rant again #but now no one saw it.... #anyways i'm happy with how the poll is going

[henceforthineverwillbe]

Though my love may be far, I've slept in utter peace. I wake with a spirit in my chest and life revived. I can only hope to see this light's source soon.

#time to check my emails #haven't done that in a while #perhaps fair juliet has sent me a letter :)

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[tues-dayy]

Pencils Down has already become one of my favorite Game Changer episodes and it hasn't even been out for 24 hours

#caldwell tanner #kiana mai #nathan yaffe #dropout #game changer #fanart #art #it was just a fun time #i also just really love all three of them and their work #so it's just a match made in heaven #i haven't done pixel art in a while and i really missed it