#maybe that’s just the ace experience

[acehorrorwhore]

Sometimes I’m like… “am I really aroace or am I only into monsters, demons and fictional serial killers?”

#slasher fucker #monster fucker #aroace #asexual #aegosexual #maybe that’s just the ace experience #ace related

[redysetdare]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #loveless aro #loveless #non-partnering #nonpartnering #non partnering #nonamorous #aplatonic #enough of amatonormative tropes in media!!! enough 'you're miserable without love' stories!!! #less “you're too focused on ambitions to make you happy that you dont let yourself fall in love” #more “you're too focused on finding love to make you happy that you wont let yourself live” #more “there is so much more to life than love and so much more that can bring your happiness if you just let yourself experience it.” #maybe I should write this story #and when i say love i mean all love. not just romantic love. #which is why i tagged aplatonic too #while i mostly see this trope in terms of romantic love i think there's something to be said about #telling stories where people are perfectly content alone too #it doesn't have to be sad or pathetic to not have friends by choice. they dont have to be a miserable person to not have friends #i think we need more variety in stories where it shows people just content in their lack of love or relationships in all shapes #not everyone wants a family not everyone wants friends not everyone wants a partner not everyone wants love #some of us are content without. that should be explored without the need to fix it.

[knifearo]

reminder to everyone that trauma IS a valid reason to use aspec labels. "i don't know if i'm aspec or just traumatized—" protip!!! you can be both!!!! the thing about labels is that they're not immutable states of being that you're born as. they're literally just words that we use to describe our lived experiences, and if asexual or aromantic or any related label feel relevant to the way that you experience attraction, whether it's a result of trauma or not, they're there for you to use. having trauma as a cause does not invalidate the fact that someone is experiencing lesser or no attraction. that's still the aspec experience babey. use the label if you want it's there for you <3

#kissing every traumatized aspec person on the forehead. with permission of course #obviously the labels aren't gonna be right for everyone but like... #i see a lot of discussion around this topic and it's actually SO important to me to bring up every time #that labels are just little signs you put up to tell people something about yourself. #it's not an immutable unchangeable fact. it's a little sign. it's a label just like you make with a label maker. #its purpose is to be there and communicate something about your experience to the people around you. #so if you want to communicate that you don't experience attraction in an allo way! that's literally what it's there for! #really i feel like denying people access to those labels cause they weren't born that way is like. #first. an asshole move. why don't you shut the fuck up and let other people decide what they experience #second. perpetuating the idea that if you don't experience attraction you're broken? but just in a different way? #'you can experience limited/no attraction IF you're ace and born that way. otherwise you're ACTUALLY fucked up.' #'you're straight/gay/bi you're just broken right now.' actually maybe they're experiencing something that aligns with asexuality. #ever thought about that... #intent here is NOT to speak for anyone with that experience. however i meet like seven people a year who say that they're unsure #if they're aspec or just traumatized #and it's SO important to me to say that you can be both. you can use the label. your experiences are valid #whether they're internally or environmentally caused. #kiss kiss ily everybody (/aro) #<— tone indicator that indicates that i meant it aromantically #aspec #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #arospec #aro positivity #asexual #ace pride #acespec #ace positivity #ace inclusion. turn the tables

[bitchfitch]

I have the general rule that I just, don't let myself give a shit about other people's dumbass opinions but I have one pet peeve that I just. Can Not let go of. and it's posts that go

How to write [Minority Group]!

Step 1: Make sure all your characters are exactly like me the op, or are exactly what I like to see in media.

Aside: Anything else is impossible, unrealistic, bigoted and you'll go to hell forever.

Step 2: They also have to use the exact language I do to describe themselves btw, no matter the time period or setting. See the above aside for further explanation.

Step 3: you should never ever even think about the actual mechanics of what makes a trope problematic in its impact in the real world. J ust memorize this list of things that should be banned in all fiction (for being problematic because I don't like them/someone else I agree with said they should be banned)

Step 4: Nuances in identity don't exist <3

#this is specifically about the number of how to write acearos posts that dont recognize people can have motives outside their orientation. #or that demiromantics/demisexuals exist #They are also always Really particular about how its unrealistic for aro characters to be anything other than disgusted by romance #Hi im an ace aro who fucks often and adores romance #as like a genre and form of social performance #I like sex because I like attention thats socially simple and doesn't require the upkeep of a relationship #I like romance because im a human person who doesn't think every story has to be about me to be interesting. #I like new experiences and seeing the world from other perspectives i like the pagentry of dates andnthe aesthetics of love. #Whether im loveless or not is an ongoing question because my ability to process my own emotions is zilch. #Maybe im incapable of love (the chemialcal reaction) but still chose to love (the social contract) #its not unrealistic for people tobe different from you #it just Frustrates me to no end when folk try to define anyone who shares their lable but arnt like them out of existence.

[kastillia]

my alphabetical list is complete

#persona #fire emblem #fe3h #ace attorney #god eater 3 #my art #i am not...tagging everyone #nor am i linking everyone lol sorry #just scroll if you're curious it's not like i really post anything besides art anyway #just to clarify this is an alphabetical list of characters that *i enjoy* #i am aware other characters that begin with the same letter/s exist #alright so what have we learned #that i have a few select interests that have not changed in years #maybe that will change; maybe not - we'll see #and now i'm back to not knowing what to draw... #a couple of these weren't my first choices though so maybe i'll go and revisit the ones i scrapped #thanks for joining me on this little experiment and welcome to everyone who stumbled in partway through #i appreciate y'all #happy easter

[wordsinhaled]

kind of don’t want to put this in the tag but also. kind of wanna say acespec folks can kiss! and even experience attraction! and still be on the ace spectrum ✌🏻

#sorry but the fact that crowley kissed him full of all the passion in the universe doesn’t in any way take away their capacity to be aspec #aces who aren’t sex repulsed exist #aces who enjoy physicality exist #this angel and demon can fuck nasty and still be ace #and like. idk. i’m just seeing this weird dichotomy where like if they’re still ace they have to be entirely sexless and that’s just. like #not true to life? #and on top of all that. maybe i’m just a weird flavor of ace but i’m at this point in life where. what physicality MEANS is most important #the spectrum of experience is broad and varied #no two people wear the same identity the same way #because. they can be as ace as you want. i repeat they can be as ace as you want #let’s not erase aceness from the narrative just because they both desperately wanted to kiss each other is all i’m saying #they can be gray-a all day

[tsams-confessions]

im not hiding myself, I send an ask a long time ago saying how, as someone who liked to ship, I was doing my best to keep Moon as Ace representation as best as I could (Im demi- who loves silly lovers) I speak to some Ace artist and they had guide me, I been follwing a nice blog too! that often responds to my ask, but I leave this ask now to say.. what Im doing wrong? I keep reading these ask saying "how aphobic people are when removing the sex repulsed out of NewMoon!" when.. all I do is going by how he is acting in canon and what he said- the "I dont swin any way" was to a literal monster showing his ass.. but but , im not here to get yelled at. im here to know, to ask those anons who say me and others artist are being aphobic, to please guide me, what Im doing wrong? maybe is my like to proyect into characters I like? is it because I view im as Ace-Sex favorable? is it because I just like him to be with Solar? I ask those who leave those type of ask, to please tell me, and by extent. others that will read, what is it aphobic to view NewMoon as another "type" (hope is ok to say it like that) if Ace, please because I care to know..

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#sun and moon show #the sun and moon show #tsams #sams #tsams confession #< block this if you dont want to see these #mod 1blood #im trusting people to be nice about this #i cant personally comment because i havent seen your work but #in my experience a lot of artists/writers forget the ace and/or aro part of the character's identity when making them sex/romance favorable #i dont think this is intentional and again i have no basis on your work in specific #but i would stop and think in depth about how his ace identity affects his relationship with sex #you say he's favorable! what drives him to it? enjoying the feeling? high libido in general? maybe he just finds it entertaining? #because him being ace *will* affect the motivation to do it. it doesnt necessarily mean it'll make him want it less/not at all #but id definitely put some thought into *why* he wants to. since from my understanding attraction is most often what makes allos want it #<- take that last bit with a grain of salt. im ace so thats mostly and educated guess on why allos do it #if anyone wants to add on feel free. if this is worded badly its because its late as fuck as of queuing lmao

[a-confused-teen-venting]

im still having a crisis about my sexuality because ive never worked on giving myself a label through many years. ive always been just… eh.

i know my account helps as a space to share my aromantic experience and im still sharing a lot about my lack of attraction, but at times its it’s so difficult because im still confused about who am i.

its difficult to safely pick a label for yourself when you arent so sure about what you want and what feels more comfortable.

this is all confusing…

#do yall mind if I ever become more open about my experience and get your opinions? #I barely have people to talk to and ill like to just find people that maybe are just like me #sorry for rambling #aromantic #aro #aromantism #aroace #asexual #aromanticism #ace #aspec #a spectrum

[theorahsart]

Paupers Prince 8 pt 2

Please see #paupersprince8 for previous and future updates~

Sometimes when you're in a gay relationship its easier to be in denial about it because 'just friends' seems be used as an excuse, for a pretty long time without any suspicion at all, compared to straight relationships haha

#paupersprince8 #Maybe this is just my experience lol #maybe because we're ace too I dunno #I spent a LONG time going 'maybe were just really really really good friends?? #webcomic #comic #webtoon #regencycore #comic art #comic update #webcomic update #comics #webcomics #art #lgbtq comic #lgbtq #lgbtq art #queer art #queer artist #queer artwork #lgbtq artist #lgbtq artwork #regency

[blatantlyhidden]

damn that asexuality got hands

#am i ace? i don't fucking know #do i experience a lot of ace things? FOR SURE #fucking help #also idk if i'd even feel comfortable with the ace label #but then i have moments where it's like nooo i'm for sure not ace SO WHAT AM I #ALSO maybe it's just my trauma making everything difficult

[intramoon]

a few more brutally soft makeovers 𑁋 miss penny kang starting to become the beauty queen she was suppose to be (might revert back to the white hair, but we’ll go black for now)

#TBD #I will probably make her a custom skin #maybe tomorrow #(because I am not going to class lmao) #what can i say about penny #amelia's closest friend #besties #ive need to redo here because i want to do more #stuff with just those two #i think penny's ace/bi experiences #resonate with amelia #oh and penny cannot stand wednesday #i do #on the low #ship erin and penny #but thats too much dating in the inner circle #august is probably next for a makeover #intramoon

[trans-cuchulainn]

reading queer historicals does something to me because the characters are never totally safe but they find ways to be happy anyway. they find people they're safe around. they find ways of living in the world without attracting attention. ways to be happy that will let them exist even amidst a hostile society

and it's... i guess it's encouraging, sort of, when the world feels so hostile. to remember both that there has been progress, and also that we can find ways to be happy even when the world seems determined to make that as hard as possible. that it's possible to endure, and keep existing, and find joy, even when you can never be entirely safe

but

but i want to be safe. i don't want to have to fight to find my own joy. i don't want to have to build a future before i can live in it. i just want to feel safe

#i am also suffering a surfeit of singleness at the moment which is. weird for me #look i am on the ace and aro spectrums but the trouble is that doesn't stop me wanting #it just means i don't want ANYONE and do you know how bloody inconvenient that is? #to want in the abstract but to not know a single person you'd ever want it with? #SO. INCONVENIENT. #it doesn't help that i also just... don't know people my own age #i really want to meet people and i have no idea how #27 is a weird age. everyone i meet is either 18 or 40 #where do the 27yos without a stable career or a relationship hang out #bc my old friends from school are getting married and having babies #and my uni friends are doing phds #and i'm just here #anyway. maybe if i actually met people IRL i might one day theoretically experience An Attraction #because i sure am not going to do it if i never !! meet !! anyone !! #personal

[hauntingblue]

making a collection

making another collection with a threatening aura

#davy back fightbpart 3 letsgo #HOW do the three big guns get wasted on the eating contest... horrible plan.... luffy is fine bc well... but not sanji and zoro like damn. #luffy DOESNT WANNA EAT??? CALL THE NAVY!!!! #what was i saying.... bad idea putting the three beasts there #FRANKY FRANKY FRANKY!!!! they captured the two princesses :( #one sided beef squashed between luffy and foxy. friendship ended with random ex marine guy. now luffy is my best friend #usopp and franky bonding time hell yeah. throw usopp by the head once more pelase #nami with zoros swords just like holding them looks so cool like she should get a few swords too... nami three sword style oda drawing pls #i think this man underestimates nami and luffys power together he doesnt know about shiki #luffy saying he knows its a trap and sorry for being late.... lets go on an adventure all nine of us.... usopp yes anding his lie..... omg #cant believe nami isnt there yet. she could take this guy. oh there she is!!!!! she does look cool with the swords and jumping to get luffy #zoro screaming in agony from luffy getting shot omg THIS FUCKING GUY OF COURSE!!! this looks like its so over #zoro and sanji must feel so useless rn. they didnt even get the chance to fight like damn #komei-kakka??? more like come caca. boom #luffy face down dead on the floor akdjkaa chopper have you tried looking at the wound to see if it harmed him idk #it hit the face akdjskn usopp that was coom also #was robin flirting with the other guy and zoro caught her and she told hum to shut up??? #'your friends got the best of me but you are still in my arms an-' 'HEAT EGG!! ALSO YOU'RE ON FIRE!' #flare maneauver that was so slay also luffy and nami in the same frame so twins of them. my children. birthed them one right after the othe #zoro and sanji fighting back to back. back to back to back to you i dont wanna fall right back to us maybe you should run right back to her #that is such a bop song. also post wano zosan. and post wci. see the recurrent theme #fighting in water.... being on top of the sword that was a slay... red hawk ace i will never forget you it seems #foxy liking his jolly roger omg nami fooled him ahdhsjs i think they should have pirate game event every year they yearn for contests #now since this experience foxy should make monthly multitudinary pirate games olympics hoping the strawhats join them a la gatsby #the faces at the mushroom akdhaksjs #talking tag #watching one piece #watching one piece movies #kinda loved how robin betted on franky against usopp.... i will take the crumbs

[xxxcertifiednerdxxx]

ok I see y’all with the Jedi ocs who have forbidden relationships. I see the people shipping Jedi with other characters (*cough cough* anakin x padme, codywan, aayla x bly *cough cough*) (no shade bc I ship too). I see the Jedi!reader x clone trooper fics.

But i raise you

acearo Jedi who has no interest in relationships at all

sure this Jedi still bonds with their master like a parent/child relationship; what Jedi doesn’t?

this Jedi becomes close friends with other Jedi and sees their clone squad as siblings

this Jedi might even make friends outside of the GAR and Jedi order. maybe some civilian friends

but this Jedi just. never had an inkling of attraction for everyone. They just wanna protect the galaxy and have some laughs.

maybe this Jedi is completely oblivious to any romantic or sexual relationships/attraction/tension going on around them. Maybe this Jedi just doesn’t care. Either way, i think this has a lot of comedy potential (and maybe angst potential)

instead of a Jedi with a forbidden relationship, how about this?

Yoda: the Jedi way, attachment is not. In your future, marriage and family you will not find. Always first, the good of the galaxy comes.

aroace Jedi: okie dokie :)

Yoda: … no questions you have?

aroace Jedi: nope that sounds like a plan to me. Now if you’ll excuse me, I would like to meditate in my room alone by myself before dinner.

Yoda: easiest Jedi, this is

just *aroace jedi* :D

#I know the aro experience and ace experience and aroace experience is vast and differs for everyone #but I really like this #maybe I will make an oc #aroace #aro pride #ace pride #aroace jedi #aro jedi #ace jedi #asexual #aromantic #asexual jedi #aromantic jedi #asexual aromantic jedi #aromantic asexual jedi #jedi #star wars #sw #i know Anakin and padme is canon who doesnt #but that’s just an example of a forbidden jedi romance #anakin skywalker #padme amidala #codywan #tcw cody #commander cody #obi wan kenobi #aayla secura #bly x aayla #commander bly #tcw bly

[yellowocaballero]

Talk shop Tuesday: what’s your favorite fandom to create for?

OHHH that's an interesting question. I think most multi-fandom writers have experienced how different cultures can be between fandoms. I've had works that got a ton of hits and almost no engagement for one fandom, and for another fandom the hits were modest but there was a ton of conversation in my inbox and on my blog about it - I think maybe the fandom was starved for gen longfic lol. So the level of engagement and positivity of the fandom has a lot to do with if it's fun to write for or not. Sometimes the engagement i can get a little weird, or it can be not exactly what you want...

I think my overall best experience was writing for Star Wars - despite the size of the fandom, the engagement was high and the tone was always positive and enthusiastic. Because so much of my SW stuff was just on my blog, the audience was small but very vocal and fun to interact with, and I've made long-lasting friends from that fandom.

But I've made great friends in every fandom, and I'm really lucky and haven't had awful experiences in any one fandom (for the curious - my overall worst fandom experience was definitely Detroit: Become Human. I wasn't in the fandom for that one, and I definitely made a wonderful friend or two, but the comments were just unusually noxious or annoying). Thanks for the ask, Seek!

#i recognize how unusual it is to have the best fandom experience in star wars. #but there rly is suuuuuch a difference between fandoms #and im sure some of it is attributable to the fics themselves #but its so frequently just the people and the culture of engagement #sw fandom is very collaborative and fan-built ive noticed #good times. hope i get obsessed with sw again sometime #my asks #maybe it was because the corner of the sw fandom way too obsessed with the clones are ace.

[ashmp3]

POV you are a fly on the wall while my besti and I discuss serious topics at the kafić… i was talking to my (serial monogamous) friend and we were talking abt online dating and how it’s such a bizarre concept to me. Like if i don’t see you irl - in my head ur in my phone yes i care about you but there is only so much a facetime can do. being friends is different i must say that obviously it is … don’t piss me off. anyway to me it’s way too convenient and low maintenance and just doesn’t feel like a real relationship… we have an argument and u put phone on DND and now the argument is over until further notice. I don’t know i am old school and traditional (won’t talk astro but saturn in 1h) but you couldn’t give me enough money to make any online dating profile really i would rather skin myself alive i am not cut for todays dating lifestyle i need to meet someone traditional normal way and talk to them eye to eye … maybe i am just under the impression bc i finished normal people yesterday (i get the paul mescal hype… he was actually the reason this discussion started) Anyway good seventeen comeback day are we excited i know i am…. 😁😁😁

#i mean to her i said something much more harsh but you don’t need to know all that 😌 don’t worry kittens 😁 #maybe it’s my ace aro aura 🙏 or the feeling i will never care about someone 🙏 or maybe i am just emotionally stable enough to know #what i want or don’t want 🙏 #anyway she agreed obviously also and she has much more experience than me #tt