#reflect on your own life

[mafaldaknows]

don’t you feel ashamed being an adult and analyzing every action of 2 men who don’t know you? don’t you have hobbies or a relationship to tend to??? why are you so fixated on the private lives of strangers?

Hello, Anon:

Really, now.

Why are you so fixated on mine? 😜

Adults are allowed to have interests independent of other adults’ opinions about them. Adults can also have passion for their own harmless interests without shame or embarrassment from other adults who should be grown enough to know how to mind their own business.

But if you must know, I am, indeed, exceedingly fortunate to be in a committed, long-term relationship with a wonderful grown adult who I have loved for my entire grown adult life, and who I continue to love with my entire grown adult being. I enjoy grown adult hobbies like home renovation, gardening, entertaining friends and family, and creating fashion and art, all of which I enjoy doing with my own grown adult hands. I also love to travel, and am always up for serendipitous, grown adult adventures.

I have neither the time nor inclination to fixate or analyze on anyone in the ways that you’re implying, Anon. I also have no shame in enjoying a wide variety of grown adult interests with which to occupy my limited time on this planet, including blogging and reblogging about Charmie. If you feel shame about it, that’s on you.

If you are a fully-grown adult without passion for your own life, perhaps you should reconsider the choices you’ve made for yourself and focus less on criticizing what brings joy to other people, especially the things that have no impact whatsoever on the quality of your own life.

Life is short, Anon. Choose to be happy.

Thanks for your questions. ⏳👀🐝😁😜🙃❣️

#hello anon #really anon #passion has no age limit #grown adult #mind ya business #what’s it to you #reflect on your own life #i am grateful #lucky in love #I want the same for them #find something enjoyable to do with your time #instead of fixating on the lives of total strangers #life is too short #be grateful #be happy #for yourself and others #tales from the charmiesphere

[selfhealingmoments]

#toxic people #people pleaser #healing #mental health #self improvement #present moment #mental strength #self reflection #self help #Help #therapy #self importance #be yourself #new beginnings #be your own person #be your best self #be your best you #self love #life #life lessons #mental growth #mental support #manifestation #manifesting #inspiring #inspirational quotes

[thebrainrotsreal]

EVIL MARK, EVIL MARK, EVIL MARK!!! I want to be coherent about this season but please picture me foaming at the mouth and running on the walls. S2 being what if Mark's just like his Dad? Insanity. I love this show. Anyways, AU where an Evil!Mark tries to make Our!Mark worse, and Our!Mark tries to make the other better. Something something confronting your idea of the worst version of oneself. Plus, tweaked black and yellow costume because I saw it and immediately went murder hornet lookin' ass and knew I had to draw it. Evil ass Mark. Horrible. I think he should be dragged kicking and screaming into redemption.

#mark and the fact he is fighting for this fucking life to avoid the Many Bad Endings???? im pacing. getting out the red string. #when the season is about who you are and what you could become. when trying to be good is an active choice and a struggle. #RAHHHHHHHHHHH #chewing on the bars of my enclosure...when every mark is evil OUR mark is the outlier. the exception. the OTHER. RAHHHH #dog poetry being mark poetry because how often can you kick a dog before it starts snarling before you raise your hand? #how often can you beat it before it rips into you without mercy? when it bites not at your hand but at your neck? #when does violence for survival and violence for vengeance start and end? when your opponent is down and you keep drawing blood? #circling and pacing and losing my mind over this btw if you care #anyways self vs self gets me going crazy. did you know i loved the end of atsv? because it shows. #i think o!mark would lose his fucking mind at what evil wasp looking mark has done + this mf wasp would LOATHE mark's kindness #they both see the other as the WORST version of themselves and they can't stand it. They can't shatter the mirror but they think they can-- #--change the reflection. #evil mark seeing mark and seeing what he USED to be #mark seeing what he COULD be #CAN U SEE THE VISION?????? #digital art #invincible rotating in my mind #invincible fanart #fanart #mark my beloved #mark grayson fanart #mark grayson #invincible s2 #invincible show #mark like hello this is my secret twin and he is NOTHING like me hahahaha anyways wanna debate about having mORALS and LIFE #mark grayson vs the urge not to accept every responsibility as his own #he's batman coded that way #ok im done yapping #if this happened in the comics in any way shape or form dont tell me JACK SHIT or i will PUMMEL YOU with my SHOES

[cametotheshowinsd]

THE ROARING TWENTIES (1929) | Written + Directed by Taylor Swift *ALL-TALKING PICTURE* Flapper Clara falls in love. With a Princeton sophomore. Every night they spend together feels like a dream. All the social occasions, the scent of wine she tasted on his lips, dance floor reflecting broken mirrorball lights, tossing pennies in the pool, sneaking in campus, night walks around the Nassau Hall, joking about school dorms, long dinner that seems never end and sophisticated conversations. His innocence and passion. Her wide-eyed gazes. Breathes that felt too close in the dark. Finally, one day, the kid went down on his knees and pulled that damned rock out of his pocket. Will Clara say "yes"?

#taylor swift #tswiftedit #tswiftgif #lyrics #this is inspired by #FSF's #this side of paradise #but from a female perspective #i hope it makes sense #it's basically the 1 + champagne problems #and I feel bad for using an Amsterdam scene lmao #you can see that one is LQ bc I dont have the movie saved anywhere I dl'd that clip from Youtube lol #but that's also my fav gif in this set #that Clara (the protagonist) saw the window reflecting her own mind that she got married with the boy and she didnt like the sight of it #also that it could be her seeing her own ghost #what her life could've been #Amory seeing ghost is my favorite part in TSoP so I thought I should pay a sort of homage to that :p #the 'slave of your imagination' quote Taylor herself had quoted in 1989 era so it's essential in this gifset :) #(this has nothing to do w the recent news regarding to Taylor's personal life tho I got this idea half thru my reading of TSoP) #and it was so fun to use some old pictures scenes #they are: #mr. deeds goes to town #a farewell to arms 1932 #(which is a fountain & pool scene but it was too dark and covered by the layer of Tay & Sean kissing XD) #footlight parade #children of divorce #(Clara Bow was in the scene I used...she partly inspired my female lead) #the roaring twenties #userelena #userleah

[densitywell]

there's nothing orym would ask of the other hells that he wouldn't do himself, which is sort of the problem, really

#critical role #cr spoilers #orym of the air ashari #bells hells #if you don’t have a homegrown curse you can use to your advantage (moon powers) storebought is fine (deal with a hag)! #and its not even sunk cost fallacy or feeling like he needs to make the deal worth it i think. this is just what he feels is necessary #and its his own self worth and the value he places on his own life vs the importance of this cause. reflected back on the others #how the rest of the hells have adopted this mindset but with wavering conviction and doubt - not really fitting quite right #while it fits orym like a glove. bc that's who he is. it's what he's been taught. bc this conflict is his past and his present #and as far as he's considered it. his future! #me this morning: i will not get back into orymposting. orymposting is the mind killer. #me now: #eta: i guess this could be disputed by him saying fearne would have to be the one to take imogen out pre-solstice. #but i've always seen that as a purely practical 'who would actually be capable of doing this' issue as opposed to sentimentality. #he was fully ready to cut dorian in exu. however he may feel about the act his resolve is not an issue!

[kadextra]

me when the little baby empanada who already protected her slightly younger siblings on purgatory island gets to quesadilla island full of new dangers & gets very close to her older sister pomme, who is a living breathing example of the developing mindset that “you must be a soldier always prepared for danger in order to protect the happiness of you and your family” is necessary. they relate over anxiety, pomme gives her a protection helmet for her birthday and shares tips of survival. they are children.

#the way these two are hurting me rn #something about how trauma reaches the next generations even if you don’t intend for it #qbad got hit the other day by hearing his own self sacrificing talk come out of pomme’s mouth #he doesn’t want her to sacrifice and fight but he can’t say ‘don’t do that your life is valuable’ bc he’d have to reflect on himself #pomme wants Herself to be the sole death target and her siblings to live carefree happy without worries #not BE like her #but now Em is learning #it’s just augh yknow #qsmp #qsmp pomme #qsmp empanada

[wild-at-mind]

I would honestly call the left's inability to accomodate people with morality-based OCD compulsions an accessibility issue at this point.

#coming under this: black and white morality thinking! #constant guilting about posting on social media showing your true values and personality! #shitting on people for their alarm about protest suicide! (with bonus 'how dare you insinuite mental illness was a factor!') #glorification of making yourself suffer mentally by viewing uncensored war imagery in 'solidarity' for those suffering in war! #unquestioning acceptance of all of the above as good and right! #promoting the idea that the individual self is expendable and that focusing on yourself (even to survive) is a reflection of your character #seriously this website cares so much about mental health until suddenly it doesn't- fuck the left so much for this i'm so triggered by this #not to be graphic but if i ever take my own life and claim it is for activism- this is not out of the realm of possibility #i DO NOT want anyone to justify my decision with it being activism and indirectly encourage others to do the same #i want people to instead look at the kind of rhetoric that causes people to choose this as a way out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[heartslobbf]

been watching some infinity train video essays recently and come across a common criticism of book 2 that has absolutely floored me because it demonstrates a fundamental lack of understanding about what book 2 even says about personhood and reality. i feel it’s relevant to point out that most of the people who have this criticism are also unaware or dismissive of the trans-coding of lake’s character, because like.... the critiques are a) ‘lake’s number being a reflection of jesse’s was a cop-out’ and b) ‘lake being a metal person in the real world doesn’t make any sense’. and it’s like.. you just watched an entire narrative about how arbitrary constructs of personhood designed to demean and marginalise people are Bad and Dumb and there will inevitably be people a system doesn’t accomodate for, who deserve accomodation on account of their existence, and your takeaway was ‘well they didn’t make the metal person a real person. they didn’t assimilate to the status quo in a bona fide capacity’. like what the fuck lol

to elaborate on what i mean; lake being a chrome person is an integral aspect of who they are and their journey is never a pinnochio-esque ‘i wanna be a real boy’ self-loathing misery-fest (book 2 said fuck your transmedicalism and also, hey, as a disabled person, nice). by book 2, lake is adamant that they are a person and merely wants to be treated as such. lake is treated as a second class citizen on the train because of arbitrary social structures designed to ‘maintain the balance’ between the prime and mirror world, as mace puts it. it’s a social construct presented as an innate, intrinsic truth of the world by corrupt authority figures; have i mentioned trans-coding yet? lake’s journey wouldn’t be anywhere near as impactful as it is if they constantly lamented the literal make-up of their being, if they had to relinquish a fundamental aspect of their all-important identity to ‘truly be a person’. like, lake is not Becoming a person; they are a person, and they’re escaping a system that falsely refutes that.

this is why lake’s number is actually a genius writing choice, and very definitley not a cop-out. lake’s number is created on account of their physical being, can literally only exist in the way that it does because lake is reflective. to be told ‘you are a reflection, so you can’t have a number’, and then get a number not in spite of being a reflection but because of literally being reflective..... trans-coding. and also the only way to do a meaningful narrative about personhood. any notion that lake is not already fully a person on account of.... you know, existing and stuff undermines every aspect of their character and it’s genuinely baffling to me that some people don’t get that.

like, it’s apparent that the train (an artificial construct) cannot give a denizen (social construct) a number (also a construct, but an important one in the social system). it literally starts collapsing in on itself when lake and jesse apparently invent t4t in the number car, because it has not considered how to accomodate for people who exist outside of a narrow scope or binary (haha). to have lake somehow (?? how would you even do this lol like tell me your alt ending if you’re gonna prattle this nothing criticism) Become a passenger and get their number that way undermines their incredibly powerful assertion, again and again, ‘i am a person,’ ‘i’m my own person who is getting off this train’. because that says that this fucked up social system is in some way objectively correct and lake has to assimilate to it, when it has been actively violent against them, and dehumanises every single denizen on the train. which we have been told the entirety of book 2 is innately bad.

and also, it adds so much to the jesslake dynamic that i think evidently goes over certain people’s heads. lake and jesse are both the titular ‘cracked reflection’, both attempting to establish a sense of identity independent from others, and that’s a big factor in their closeness and understanding of one another. jesse’s second number scrolls from irrational number to complex number back to irrational number (square root of two i’ll get to you) because his problem— which is in turn lake’s problem— has threatened and cracked the train’s rigid system. it cannot comprehend it. jesse and lake together essentially take a shit on the train because like yeah, lake’s number is ‘just’ a reflection, but that is literally the point. oh my god why can no one understand basic symbolism like throughout the show we see lake’s face reflected in their own hands and we go ouogfoghgou i seeeeee they don’t have a number on their hand so we see them instead, yes yes personhood and identity i see. but the second people see a reflection of a number they can’t grasp what is simple but powerful in its meaning????

lake is a person. because they are a person. number is ‘proof’ of personhood on train but the thing that we’ve always seen in lake’s hand is them, the reflection of a reflection, and that’s their personhood, and now they’re cheating the system with another reflection like hello!!!!!!!!! they’re not meant to assimilate into the system literally anyone who thinks that is stupid and shouldn’t be allowed opinions. i am so sorry but holy fuck book 2 was like ‘lake’s personhood is innate and has always been there and they do not have to assimilate into a cruel system to escape it nor do they have to relinquish who they are to obtain freedom because there is nothing objectively flawed about their personhood, only objectively flawed perceptions of them by others’ and some people were like ‘ok but. the gender binary is real obviously’ and it’s like did you miss the bit where we brutally murdered the two cops emblematic of... well, cops, and also arbitrary oppressive social structures that are peddled as fact. holy shit. book 2 sweetie im so sorry that cis people don’t understand you like i do.

just to expand on that point a little more analytically; i’ve seen some people say that they thought lake’s number was a cop-out because it was ‘cheating the system’, but you’re sort of meant to think that. the train’s system is innately flawed, this is something the show makes apparent throughout its books. lake is cheating a system they cannot legitimately win at. ‘well couldn’t any denizen just write a number on their hand and ask one-one for an exit?’ idk maybe. i hope some of them try it and succeed. the train is an arbitrary construct, it is conducted, its judgement is not objective or perfect. why the hell should lake play by the rules when the rules are literally ‘you aren’t a person lol <3′. you guys are spouting some alarmingly right-wing rhetoric if you posit arguments like these. ‘oh but one-one can’t be evil though :(’ i don’t think one-one is evil, i think he’s a mostly well-intentioned robot that doesn’t fully grasp the complexity of what he’s attempted to create a clinical system to ‘solve’.

final point: if you think lake should’ve like?? become flesh??? when they got off the train, first of all you hate comedy and second of all, read above. this is not pinnochio!!!!!!!! the only ‘problem’ with being a reflection is the artificial construct of what ‘being a reflection’ means, and lake has rejected that, and they’re made of chrome, and that’s a fact, and they consistently utiliise that aspect of their identity to further their journey to the point of their exit from the train literally being manifested via the reflective nature of their hand. they are disproving everything that everyone says about them not by rejecting that aspect of their identity but embracing it. ‘you’d just go into the prime world with your... metal skin and, what? high school? prom?’ yes motherfucker!!!!!! suck on it!!!!!!!!!!!! some of you need to work a little harder to um.... Understand what a text is saying, and Comprehend subtext. again, this is not pinnochio!!!! good god. fuck me.

#sorry for being grumpy but like....... Think #also for clarity's sake; being a reflection and being reflective r different things & the only reason being a reflection is bad is because #of how the mirror world social system dehumanises reflections and strips them of identity #like you could reflect someone as a job and then also have your own life...... mirror world communism arc when #jesse and lake reflect one another in many ways but unlike the other ways theyve been reflections in thier lives thats good #because they respect one another and see one another as fully realised people. like. hello #ok im normal now (lie) (i cant listen to people talk about book 2 because approximately 2% of people understand it) #anyway thank you owen dennis for good trans narrative it slapped v nuanced v complex saying all the things so many people often miss #how ironic audiences also missed them when theyre literally spelt out to them #infinity train #shut up daisy

[hologramhitgrrrl]

Some of you need to go birdwatch for about 30 hours minimum to undo your internet/advertising/culture/media induced brainrot

#watch a bird live it’s life and reflect upon your own challenge

[godofsmallthings]

the entitled and callous way people will joke about celebs dealing with mental illness/addiction is frankly absurd

#it just feels like it certainly reflects onto the way you treat people in your own life probably #like obvs i think there's nuance in every person's individual experience and the way in which they choose to talk about it publicly #that should inform like the level/tone of fandom discussion about it #but idkkkkkk i feel like people get wayyyyyyy too comfy making jokes #sorry can you tell i just took an unwise trip into the youtube comments section #vi is typing...

[selfhealingmoments]

You ask the universe for growth and change, and it turns your life inside out and you mistake it as punishment or some type of dark period? Relax. Growth and change comes with unfamiliarity and uncertainty, so trust what you asked for is coming, let things unfold for you.

#mental health #be yourself #self reflection #self healing #positivity #self help #letting go #new life #present moment #life #mental growth #mental strength #inspirational quotes #move on #moving forward #leaving the past behind #let go #life advice #life lessons #be your own person #put the past behind #forget the past #new living #living in the present #therapy #happiness #growing #growth #going forward #keep going

[emi98338]

Not me sitting on the bus today, reading a book, and my boyfriend hits me with “I understand that surviving is the main goal every time because the world is changing day by day but what drives you? What keeps you motivated or gives you motivation every day?” Like yeah everyone needs to ask themselves these questions sooner or later but I just want to read my book and think about painting damn it, forcing me to get all introspective.. But after an off handed comment from a friend saying if we figure it out let her know, and about the week to week goals being what gets her by sometimes, it hit me that once again, life is just like The Barbie Movie.

There were a lot of complaints that as a doll she knew what she wanted in life and in the end, she wasn’t sure what she wanted anymore, it should have ended on her finding her purpose. But it ended exactly like it needed to, because humans are indecisive as hell and we’re always changing our minds and setting new goals for ourselves with new hopes and loves on the forefront as we discover new things about the world and most importantly, ourselves. There doesn’t always have to be a big goal keeping us plugging along to the finish line, something to set us apart from everyone else.

We can just. Be.

Right now, it’s the little things that are keeping me going and keeping my head up. Knowing that I’ll see my boyfriend at the end of the day, try a new bakery, paint more of my paintings, do a new drawing, or pet a new cat! I know I’ll bake, because that makes me and others happy. Am I thrilled where I am in life at 26? Nah. But I’m content enough, and when everything’s meant to happen, it will. The beauty in the world is my motivation and I try so desperately to find it every day and not let the constant struggle and hustle get me down.

Tomorrow I’m gonna get a cupcake on my lunch and keep working at my food handlers certification so I can start making my dreams my reality. Things WILL get better 💖

#Barbie still out here improving my life #this movie was everything #can’t wait to own this #thanks barbie #Barbie #barbie movie #the barbie movie #barbie 2023 #we are all barbie #motivation #self reflection #don’t let your dreams be dreams

[samaspic31]

im so fucking mad about capitalism's devaluation of manual labor (especially financial, hi raise the fucking wages) and expectation to outsource labor, leading to dire exploitation (everyone is exploited, but manual workers especially AND don't get compensated for the toll on their body AND get looked down on unlike white collar workers, all that because making intellectual products is worth 10 times more money i fucking guess). The average person used to have so many more practicak skills and we used to know how make so much more stuff, having people cook, clean, take care of your children and sew for you was the height of luxury for a wealthy woman, depending so much on buying to substain your lifestyle was reserved to the extremely wealthy. People were expected to hold more basic skills outside of a hyperspecific field of their career like today and were allowed to spend time on broad and practical knowledge, and today schools do not even out the playing field because it's still mostly theoric regurgitation (which great, but give all the youngsters a cooking, crafting and sewing class and teach them accounting im begging) making people into highly specific tools relying on buying most of what they don't even think they can make, because disempowered. (this is linked to capitalist shaming of perceived failure and beginners and imperfection but that's a whole other can of worms)

Like for example it was just a given painters made their own paint (or started by making it for their mentor, any way they were taught how), it was considered a necessary first step, a way to understand your medium, and a way no to depend on anyone else or a corporation, and i think a lot of artists are missing that step of having to spend effort on the medium itself. I don't know how my graphic tablet works and i can't make acrylic paint and that's a shame

Like it was always normal for the already rich to leave all physical work to exploited workers but today it's everyone else's case too (at least in the economic north), making your own stuff is a counterculture thing, and even poverty or being an exploited worker eats so much of time that it makes it so buying is necessary and stuff made with exploited labor the only affordable option, fucking vicious cycle

there were deep inequalities with how the teaching of those skills were segregated, which was for which gender and social class, im not saying it was universally good, and women were expected to accumulate way more skills just to do all the managing of a household AND get that labor devalued, just, urgh, it was considered important to know at least i guess

also the birth of packaging and the rise of single use plastic+ worldwide transport of goods is heavily linked to this and a consequence of a global economic boom but it's still a fucking disaster-

anyways buy a s little new shit in as little packaging as you can and fuck corporations

#this post is not about disabed people being unable to do physical work. they need that outsourced labor. i am talking about people who can #but have straight up forgotten making it was an option (thanks advertising bombardement) #that's what i mean when i say craft and diy and zero waste communities need to be taking an anticapitalist approach #dependance to other people's labor is not inherently bad (no human can do everything anyways) but that level of dependance in every area of #life used to be something expectional and isn't realyy possible to extend to all human population without exploitation #and not the rule. nor was making things discouraged #im getting into paint and inkmaking hi #hope i make sense #anticapitalism #reflecting on the past is so interesting they got a LOT wrong but some parts were damn better #like yeah fuck that 90s when sweets are baked not bought post (hello the 90s were consumerist as fuck #but also the culture of making your own stuff being the norm ? kinda right #fuck trads and their romantization of the bigoted parts of the past return to tradition is bad but returning to more self reliance yeah goo #i don't know if i make sense

[literal-ghost]

am i really about to start plotting out a script for a video essay talking about labyrinth and its themes of overcoming childish selfishness and growing into a compassionate and responsible adult?

#it's 1am and I work tomorrow #I have never made a video essay #Labyrinth is Not That Deep I mean the script ain't super complex #but I keep thinking of how all of these characters Sarah meets are representative of different parts of herself #even the Fireys who literally lose their heads from only wanting to chill out and have a good time #I HAVE A LOT OF THOUGHTS and I want to yell at people that Jareth is more than David Bowie looking pouty and having a big bulge #he's a perfect reflection of Sarah herself and what information we get of her at the start of the film #he's not random magical sexy man he is Sarah's own sense of selfishness and the appeal of staying attached to childish whimsy #(who also plays with his balls) #(he can be both I guess) #but also it's more than the rejection of fantasy and growing up #it is growing up enough to UNDERSTAND THE MEANING of fantasy and to give it a place in your life when you need it #but not allowing it to consume you and take priority over your life and responsibilities #Sarah recites the important lines at the start of the film but she doesn't truly internalize them until the end

[strixhaven]

pacing back and forth once again thinking about iziador

#haha get exile’d and hunted eejit. infamous problem child once again becoming a Massive Fucking Problem and functionally causing a schism #within the hunters that reflects the ways in which carys is broadly trying to tear itself apart #no matter how hard you try you can never isolate yourself you will never create a world unaffected by the outside untouched by the issues #inherent to your society you will just reflect and distort them in ways you become blind to. it is a cruel world but it’s the only one #you have an it’s your duty to make it a better one for those around you. and it hurts like fucking hell!!!! #he’s just a sad and lonely little boy who grew up to be a sad and lonely man and the ultimate self-fulfilling prophecy #love a guy who is fundamentally unable to distinguish between his own mistakes and those caused by external forces because his entire life #has been taking the blame for everything terrible ever happening around him and how cruelly he treats himself as a result #which in turn further blurs his genuine mistakes and that which he cannot control and how they flow into one another #i’m ripping him apart like a chew toy. shaking him violently between my teeth. beautiful man