#stigmatic!sam

[motelnatural]

not to be crazy but trials era sam winchester deserved stigmata

#I MEAN???? COME ON #sam winchester #spn #stigmatic!sam #religious symbolism #dex.txt #if anyones already said this i can give creds :} #spn s8 #trials era sam winchester

[starlooove]

No but literally fandoms and trends are such an easy way to exemplify racial bias it’s insane

#the lalala okokok trend on tt rn #consistently making darker skinned characters the ok and lighter characters the la despite their personalities #I saw em do it to gwen and miles gumball and Darwin #and here’s the kicker #dick and kory #in what world is kory the ok to dicks la like wtf 💀 #and they say it’s bc they don’t wanna stigmatize women but they only ever do it to darkskinned women #see the don’t need no man trope only ever applying to blk women in that way #they don’t do it w/ Pepper and Tony but they’ll do it with Sam and Misty #interesting #I thought I was reaching the first time I saw it but the pattern is crazy #I aleady know yt ppl gon hop skip and jump to gaslight anyone who mentions it tho 💀 #yknow what looking back on this it depends on WHO did the dick and kory #there’s like 3 ppl who could make dick la and kory ok and it’d be fine #that tiktoker is not one of those ppl they make Duke the normal one and call Damian evil nuff said

[atlas-soupcan]

Yeah that's great that you like the Scream reboot trilogy, but can you be fucking normal about Sam Carpenter?

#The amount of people I see miss the ENTIRE POINT of her character... #'OMG SAM AS GHOSTFACE!!!' Gag me #She would never #'She's so violent and cool and hot tehe' stop you're stigmatizing her #You people fell for Quinn's propaganda and took it a step further #Dont get me wrong you can do what you want to have fun I'm not tryingto be fun police #But something about A LOT OF PEOPLE treating a canonly psychotic person like that... #It just really rubs me the wrong way #atlas speaks

[glitchdollmemoria]

actually. that post about how its important to have weird kinky queer friends. i think the same is true of really every type of ostracized person but in particular i wanna point it out wrt mentally ill people.

if you watch a movie villainizing DID or schizophrenia or something, and you think, "hey, this seems sort of like its based on what my friend has and theyre just a chill person, why are they making my friends condition seem threatening?" thats good.

if you see someone use narcissist as a synonym for abuser and you think, "what, no, im friends with someone who has NPD and i know theyre a kind person, this isnt true at all," thats good.

if you hear politicians try to frame addicts as violent criminals who should be locked up and you think "no, my buddy sam is just sick, their withdrawals are really painful and they dont have a good support system, they shouldnt be locked up for that," thats good.

being able to counter ableist rhetoric with "i know from experience thats not how these people are" is a good thing. like yeah obviously dont make friends with mentally ill people just for brownie points but also try to make the conscious effort to be open to friendship with people who have stigmatized mental health issues. and maybe even more importantly, be someone who makes it clear to others that youre safe to be open about these things with, because chances are youre ALREADY friends with mentally ill people even if you dont realize it, because a lot of us with more demonized conditions try to hide those conditions out of fear, and it helps a lot to know our friends are allies - and then we might feel safe discussing our experiences, IF we want to, and in turn that can help you better understand the realities and diversities of our situations and be less susceptible to ableist rhetoric.

#ok to rb #i dont feel like tagging though bc im not 100% confident in how i worded this #but idk how better to and i want it out there. idk

[jewishvitya]

I was having a conversation about "narcissistic abuse" with a person with NPD. We were talking about the need to call out toxic behaviors that might come with unmanaged NPD, and how it's nothing like what we see now online. We talked about how people like them, who want to treat others well and manage their disorder, deserve to have resources that help them have healthy relationships. And they thanked me for not immediately assuming the worst of them. Which. Just shows you how they're used to being treated.

They got suicide baiting from random strangers just for the fact that they have NPD.

I've seen people getting told "this is doing nothing but making me feel awful about myself" and responding with "you should feel awful about yourself, you're a narcissist!"

It's dangerous to equate abuse with narcissism. It's dangerous to see people with NPD as deserving of harm. Most people with NPD will already be victims of abuse - that's how the disorder is usually developed. If you buy into the idea that they're abusive by nature, you're harming survivors.

There's no harmless way to dehumanize an entire group of people. Especially not over a trait they can't help.

Victims and survivors of abuse should get to talk about their experiences. This doesn't require diagnosing anyone and it doesn't require using a term that's associated with a disorder that's already seen as an inherent evil. There's no kind of abuse that's inherent or exclusive to a specific disorder. I hear the term "coercive control" which sounds really good for the kind of emotional and psychological abuse that gets discussed in those conversations, without adding ableist stigma.

If your opposition to ableism doesn't include people with the most stigmatized disorders, how deeply are you truly thinking about things.

The harm caused to people with NPD through stigma is enough for this to matter. But in addition to that, it's harmful to other people too.

First of all, because you buy into having a group of people who become acceptable targets over a condition they can't help.

Second, because you teach yourself to armchair diagnose people. Which means that you get to put whoever you want into the "acceptable target" group.

When you have a group of people that you think don't deserve to be treated as people, it's easier to persuade you to put unrelated people in that category. Think of the way accusations of "child predator!" are wielded against queer people too. This is not an uncommon tactic.

And it's already a thing here. Sam Vaknin was the one who coined the term narcissistic abuse. That's a man with no credentials to talk about mental health or about abuse. He's a hateful bigoted person. The things that he considers narcissistic include homosexuality, transgender identities, and women who sleep with multiple men instead of settling down with one.

If you buy into the idea that having NPD essentially means being abusive, and then all these things are all narcissistic things. At that point we have a line drawn between queerness and abuse, using the line that was drawn between NPD and abuse.

And another point, about the harassment people with NPD get, is - we shouldn't be punishing people. Just, in general. Punishment isn't justice and it isn't accountability. Withstanding whatever harm people see fit to inflict on you because they were convinced to hate you, rightfully or not, isn't justice or accountability. Even if you convinced yourself that the harm isn't real because… it happens in the virtual space? And that makes it fake somehow?

Think of the way people online talk about narcissists. Think of how easily they armchair diagnose NPD, calling any abuser a narc, and sometimes from one sided stories. And the way people hurry to cyberbully and dogpile.

Abusers will often paint their victims as the abusive ones as a way to escape being known as abusive. And if you take the job of punishing people that you decided deserve it, you will at some point become a tool of an abuser trying to further harm their victim.

Even if you see evidence, it's easy to fake and manufacture. And it'll only become easier with voice and video AI tools. And even if it's all true, punishing people does nothing good.

Convincing you that a group of people is inherently dangerous is a way to make you willing to harm them, or stand by as harm is being done to them. People with NPD don't deserve that.

Stop looking for people that it's acceptable to harass and punish and ostracize. Most of us are susceptible to mob mentality, and having acceptable targets makes you dangerous.

#npd #riki babbles #ableism #npd stigma

[lizardsfromspace]

It's tough work being the world's greatest occult detective. Down on the street I see the jack-o'-lanterns burning and the bedsheet ghosts with their candy buckets. The only ghosts I see up here are all the people I couldn't save.

A dame walks into my office. She's agitated. Something's got her in such a tizzy she put on her formal evening Beetlejuice costume but forgot the makeup. "I think someone's after me. I found an axe in the bushes, a voodoo doll in my Apple Jacks, and a burning torch in my gasoline-soaked rags room! Somebody's out to turn my body into a vacant lot and install a Spirit Halloween made of lead!"

"First of all," I tell her, "voodoo dolls are not an actual practice of the misunderstood and stigmatized Haitian Vodou religion. Second of all...I can stop you from bein' murdered."

"Oh, thank you, Mr..."

"Hain." I light a cigarette with my Hereditary promotional lighter. "Sam Hain."

"Mr..." She blinks. "Your name is Sam Hain?"

"After the Celtic holiday where the veil betwixt life 'n' death is thin..."

"Sahwin."

"Sal won what?"

"It's pronounced Sahwin. Mr. Hain, your name...it's not a real pun. It doesn't mean anything."

I let my cigarette hang to the side and look out the window. Boy, life is hard for an occult detective. 'cause in this city, it's always Halloween, and mixed in with all your nightly candy, you just might find some secrets hiding in your McDonald's pumpkin bucket...

#text #halloween #noir #i cannot stop writing fake detective novels apparently #long post

[m0tel6mxzzy]

rue bennett, ginny miller, and lack of nuanced perception in how mental illness in black women works

i think the tragedy of euphoria (if i had to list just one) is partially the fandom’s lack of understanding of rue, leslie, and gia…cultural attitudes in the black community have a lot to do w why leslie acts the way she does. and then race is never mentioned bc sam levinson doesn’t comprehend the nuances of race and mental health in the black community.

he can comprehend addiction, but nothing like the fact rue being a black woman will have her heavily stigmatized by the black community as well as the predominantly white one she lives in as her “proving black stereotypes.”

he can comprehend addiction, but nothing like the fact rue being a black woman will have her heavily stigmatized by the black community as well as the predominantly white one she lives in as her “proving black stereotypes.”

that just hits a lot harder knowing in the beginning of s1, she has zero hope and so it feels very hollow when lexi encourages her sobriety, and again in s2 from jules when she’s going thru withdrawals. she is tired of being the scapegoat by everyone around her, even if they have valid reasons for wanting her to get clean and she is making decisions that harm others. and she feels during the s2 interaction with cassie that she is being pitied, simply cannot take it anymore, and retaliates bc she is just so tired of everyone around her being believed to be innocent and pure when they are not, and her being expected to be even in the throes of addiction and it being perceived as “not her.”

bc in a sense, rue is not her addiction. however, she’s lived with it so long that she is used to it, practically revels in the deviant label her entire schools mocks her with, and thus feels like she cannot leave. jules conflicts with this, because she cares for rue as a friend and romantically but is not going to associate with her if she continues. but even when she is sober, people like nate are shit talking her efforts to stay clean when they simply have no idea what she’s gone through, yet jules is proud of her despite rue finding it hard to stay clean. cassie only does the same as nate because she needs a defense for having gotten with him but not taking accountability for how that hurt maddy, even if she was right rue’s friendship with lexi was incredibly toxic and transactional. the issue here is everyone has valid points abt rue except for nate, but no one is seeing the nuances of her situation. it’s either “she’s good because she’s clean” or “she’s bad because she’s not” and jules seemed to be the only one blurring that line because she’s dealt with addiction in her family before.

leslie kind of reminds me of my mom in that she did help me thru mental issues, but it was a very “deviant” thing to do bc of how in most of black american society, racism is seen as something you need to be “stronger” than and thus stronger than any other obstacle. so realistically, some black ppl in rue’s extended family might actually ridicule her or attribute her addiction to personal flaws or solely her father’s death. rue is an atheist, but also her mother was this religious church girl in her youth and rue is seen in church settings during rehab. there’s a possibility leslie didn’t even tell others abt rue’s hospitalizations or if she did and word got around, she had to fabricate some sort of lie so rue would not be judged for her addiction.

and ppl perceive leslie as “overreacting” as they do gia and that’s very suspicious to me. idk like, as compared to ginny and georgia ginny has severe depression and georgia is like, praised for a lot of the manipulative shit she says to ginny when that’s a huge contribution to her mental issues not being resolved for as long as they were in the first place. i personally think a lot of the g&g fandom missed the point of the show—georgia is not perfect. loving your kids does not mean they don’t get to feel traumatized when you admit to murdering their step father. generational trauma is a thing and you cannot love someone into not acknowledging or feeling their extent of their own.

ginny and georgia somewhat makes that distinction in the therapy sessions by explaining bc georgia is white there is a lot of experiences she cant understand ginny has, so she cant just invalidate them. however the fandom is so corny and anti black that they will compare ginny’s trauma to georgia’s to undermine her. and then praise georgia for doing what she should’ve done as a parent which is support ginny and complain how ginny should be “more grateful to have her.” and say the same abt her father. that truly just paints an insidious lack of compassion for black women dealing w/ mental health issues. bc abby and marcus, dealing with their own, have quite never been given such animosity for having mental issues, they’ve actually been given much more sympathy.

#y’all. this took me 45 minutes to write #euphoria hbo #ginny and georgia #rue bennett #ginny miller #mazzy makes a giant ramble

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

"Of course, many religions produce a fair amount of needless suffering. Consider the pedophile-priest scandal in the Catholic Church, which is something I’ve written and spoken about before, I hope with sufficient outrage. One can certainly argue, as I have, that Catholic teaching is partly to blame for these crimes against children. By making contraception and abortion taboo, the Church ensured that there would be many out-of-wedlock births among its faithful; and by stigmatizing unwed mothers, it further guaranteed that many children would be abandoned to Church-run orphanages where they could be preyed upon by sexually unhealthy men. I don’t think any of this was consciously planned—it’s just a grotesque consequence of some very bad ideas. And yet the truth is that there is no direct link between Christian scripture and child rape. However, imagine if there were. Just imagine if the New Testament contained multiple passages promising heaven to any priest who raped a child. And then imagine that in the aftermath of an endless series of child rapes within the Church, more or less every journalist and politician and academic denied that they had anything whatsoever to do with the “true” teachings of Catholicism. That is the uncanny situation we find ourselves in with respect to Islam.

The problem that we have to grapple with—and by “we” I mean Muslims and non-Muslims alike—is that the doctrines that directly support jihadist violence are very easy to find in the Quran, and the hadith, and in the biography of Muhammad. For Muslims, Muhammad is the greatest person who has ever lived. Unfortunately, he did not behave like Jesus or Buddha—at all. It sort of matters that he tortured people and cut their heads off and took sex slaves, because his example is meant to inspire his followers for all time."

-- Sam Harris, "The Bright Line Between Good and Evil"

#Sam Harris #islam #jihad #islamic violence #islamic terrorism #quran #religion #religion of violence #religion of war #religion is a mental illness

[copperbadge]

Hi Sam, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing so much and so openly about your mental health journey this year. It made me wonder, and after finding a psychiatrist and taking an assessment, I have received my official diagnosis of ADHD at age 35. Started Adderall this week, woohoo! I've followed you for decades now and you've taught me many valuable things, and given me an uncountable amount of hours of entertainment both through your fanfic and through your real life posts, but this..... I don't have to feel guilty or lazy or just somehow subpar anymore for being unable to get stuff done. I can forgive myself now. You changed my life. Thank you. 💙

Hey, congratulations! I hope the Adderall is doing great for you as it is for me. :)

You know honestly, perhaps this is the neurodivergence talking or just the fact that I was brought up liberally when it comes to this stuff, but I've never really considered that I should not talk about mental health. Like yes, I struggled a lot with being the Neurotypical Sibling, and my parents weren't great about that, but they were also super supportive of my depression diagnosis, and we spoke openly about emotional struggles and such when I was a kid. 

There are clear histories of mental illness on both sides of my family, including several deaths by suicide, which directly impacted both my parents and I think made them willing to be more open about that than learning disability stuff. I had really strong messaging around mental health growing up, and I never considered it stigmatized, although I was aware it was stigmatized by culture. So for me it’s not a huge problem or something I need to move past, this idea of talking about it. I just talk about stuff and some of it lands, I guess. 

#sam has adhd

[lena-in-a-red-dress]

I'm really fond of the Lena had an abortion when she was younger headcanon. Do you think she would ever tell Kara?

You know, I've been thinking about it, and I'm not sure Lena would be all that ashamed of it. It's quite possible she'd have been perfectly pragmatic about it, and be fully accepting of the fact that it's just another decision to make, and not getting bogged down in the morality of it either way.

However, that doesn't mean she would just go telling everyone. Like, it wouldn't be a secret, but also it just wouldn't come up? So I imagine maybe Sam or Andrea mentions it at some point and they're like "oh I thought you knew", and Kara is understandably upset because most of her experience of human culture is that abortion is this big life changing decision that weighs heavily on the conscience and is heavily stigmatized.

"Why didn't you tell me?" she asks, hurt and maybe a little angry.

"Whyyy would I...?" Lena responds slowly.

"Because I'm your girlfriend?? This is a big deal! It's not a burden you should bear alone!" But then Kara softens. "It couldn't have been an easy decision to make."

Lena looks at her oddly. "Actually it was."

Kara's a little shocked at that.

"Look, Kara, I appreciate that you're trying to be supportive, but-- it's not a burden. The situation arose, and I made the best decision available to me. I don't feel guilty, and there's no part of me that wonders if I made the wrong choice."

It surprises Kara, the candid and calm way Lena talks about it. Her girlfriend is notorious for overthinking, after all, and is emotional mush to boot. And yet Lena is dry eyed and unfazed.

Lena gives her a smile that's just this side of goofy.

"It's not like you were the father, darling."

That jolts Kara back into somewhat good humor. She splutters, cracking a reflexive grin.

"That's-- I know that-- That's not what this is about, and you know it!"

"I do," Lena affirms, slinking up to stand in front of Kara and loop her arms around her girlfriend's waist. "I love that you care as much as you do, Kara. Truly. But you don't need to care about this. It happened. And it's only a blip in my story."

With that, Lena disengages to head back towards the kitchen.

"What you should be worried about is where the last of my ice cream went."

Kara freezes. She knows exactly where it went-- in her belly.

"Uhhhh..." she stammers, sweating bullets. "I'm just gonna... go to the store."

Lena lobs an uh huh over her shoulder.

"How about a little super speed while you're at it?"

Kara's teeth nearly clack she nods so hard.

"Right!" She's already in her suit. "Back in a jiff!"

#supercorp #not tagging it with the a word because i dont want randos in my inbox/notes #learned my lesson when the gun control episode aired #but yeah #this is what i think #now the question is... how would lillian have reacted? #ask me and ill answer

[pro-crastinate17]

welcome!

 (a remake of my previous intro post bc Shit Has Changed)  

you can call me maxim and / or refer to me by my kin names. my prns are it / he / they and any neos! mix it up i need enrichment in my enclosure djskfhdsjf 

i am a minor!! also im white!! 

im genderqueer + transmasc and non-sam arospec / demiromantic, and i have one queerplatonic partner and one romantic partner! 

im AuDHD and have GAD and HPD and i have psychosis, i suspect a few other things (including NPD) but those are the important ones lol 

i am physically disabled! i am not diagnosed with anything other than a knee condition, but i have chronic pain and suspect i have EDS and potentially POTS. i wear knee braces and am currently trying to get crutches or a wheelchair.

i trigger tag when i remember + have the spoons but i dont tag cursing or caps anymore so be aware of that pls!! 

i use tone tags and appreciate when they are used in interactions with me (but i dont require it) 

i have SO many interests please talk to me about them!!!! including but not limited to: the Muppets, the Librarians tv show (2014), the Descendants movies, musical theatre, Greek / Roman / Norse / Egyptian mythology (trying to expand my tastes in mythology as well so tbh talk to me about any type of it), my own stories, various bands/musicians (Will Wood, Steam Powered Giraffe, the Stupendium, Jonathan Coulton, Fall Out Boy, Everybody's Worried About Owen, Trashbag Ponchos, Pansy Division, Sycamore Smith, Noah Kahan, Jayden Wark, and more), clown taxonomy (especially my own clowns, Glitterbomb, Dismal, and Bludgeon), and more!!! 

also im otherkin + fictionkin! if that bothers you, fuck all the way off! my main kintypes are Gonzo - the Muppets (it / they / he / she), Jacob Stone - the Librarians (they / he), Monty - A Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder (he / they) , Ludo - Labyrinth (he / it), T'noy Karaxis aka Tinky - Hatchetfield (he / it) and Harley Quinn - DC (she / it + any neos). im also werewolfkin and robotkin!

i am often low on spoons and messaging is difficult for me, please feel free to talk to me but understand i may not respond right away (or potentially at all) 

im working on developing a tagging system but its Very much still in progress!!! 

dni: 

- basic dni criteria (https://dni-criteria.carrd.co/) 

- transmed and / or anti neopronouns/xenogenders 

- aro / ace exclus 

- anti otherkin / fictionkin (as stated above) 

- t erf / sw erf / radf em etc 

- conservative 

- doesnt support blm / acab / stop asian hate 

- cringe / flop blogs, discourse blogs unless i interact w you first, blogs focused mainly / only on politics, EXTREMELY pro / anti shippers (having an opinion on it is chill, but if your blog is only or mainly shipcourse, please dni)

- pro-ana / pro-mia / pro-sh 

- stigmatizes personality disorders, believes in "”narcissistic abuse”” or any other ""pd abuse"", stigmatizes psychosis  

- anti educated self dx

#introduction #reintroduction actually lmao #words from my weird little brain

[benicebefunny]

It's pretty wild how neoliberalism, particularly social media discourse and thinkpiece journalism, has turned a valuable concept like toxic masculinity into yet another racist gender binary.

Take, for example, Ted Lasso.

As a cultural norm, toxic masculinity does not always require top-down enforcement through physical violence. It's not just the guys at the top of the hierarchy who are beating toxic masculinity into people. People throughout the social hierarchy keep toxic masculinity going through subtler means, like language and organizational structure.

The Ted Lasso fandom (and many journalists covering the show) have simplified this to "toxic masculinity is when lower-status men say mean things."

And because toxic masculinity has become a binary, this means that the only "bad" masculinity resides in mean-saying, lower-status men.

Everyone else is exhibiting "good" masculinity. Even when they're enacting physical violence and call other men bitches.

At the end of the day, what this does is stigmatize characters who are less traditionally masculine--as defined by white norms. And, crucially, it grants a free pass to characters who fulfill the ideals of traditional white masculinity.

And that's how we get this bizarro world where men of color, particularly Nathan and Sam, are hyper-scrutinized for using their words and expressing their emotional needs. And where white characters like Beard and Roy are beloved for bottling up their feelings and threatening/using physical violence.

Roy headbutted Jamie so he could hug him after. If that's not toxic masculinity, I don't know what is. But the fandom doesn't have time to unpack that. It's too busy arguing that Nathan calling Colin a motel painting is somehow worse than Colin physically attacking Nathan everyday for god knows how long.

I'm not trying to reverse the binary here, making Nathan good and Roy toxic. The problem is that we are thinking about masculinity as a good/toxic binary. People--including fictional characters--relate to masculinity in ways that are far more complex than merely good or toxic. We lose so much when we reduce masculinity to just another binary.

Also, the good/toxic binary--like binaries in general--is a tool of white supremacy. So maybe let's knock that shit off.

#ted lasso #meta #toxic masculinity #thank you mutuals for tolerating another ted lasso post #how does this binary manifest in fandoms you actually care about?

[mryoyo000]

Selyse Florent: Thoughts, Questions, Reflections

I’d love a Selyse POV for numerous reasons: religious world-building, the experience of someone who converted to a faith that is quite stigmatized in her society. What do Melisandre’s ceremonies and sermons look like through her eyes? Did her relatives accept her religious conversion quickly, or were they opposed to it?

What does she think about Melessa? Especially since they’re on opposing sides of the war, although we don’t know anything about Melessa’s views and allegiances.

I’d assume she knows Sam exists, does she know that he joined the Night’s Watch?

Unless I’m forgetting something (which is quite possible), how did she feel about Alester’s fate?

I think she’s very unhappy overall, and she seems to be the kind of person who copes with misery by lashing out.

There are definitely reasons why Jon doesn’t particularly like her, but I don’t think his comment about how she kisses Shireen’s cheek that wasn’t affected by the greyscale is fair.

GRRM should do a multi-volume history book of House Florent.

They have the best sigil.

Selyse goes hard for what she believes in. She makes everyone else look like fake fans.

I don’t like the knights who work for her because of how they treat Satin.

Fashion icon?

#asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #george rr martin #grrm #selyse florent #selyse baratheon #jon snow #samwell tarly #alester florent #westeros #in defense of an unpopular character #house florent of brightwater keep #house florent of highgarden #house florent of king’s landing

[jewishvitya]

Personally, seeing people with NPD talk about the problems with the term "narcissistic abuse" was enough for me to have an issue with it. NPD is a trauma-induced disorder and I can't bring myself to treat it differently from other disorders that get stigmatized and demonized.

But seeing the origins of the term and the person who coined it, I honestly feel both horrified and validated.

The shortest summary I can give: this term was coined by a bigoted abuser named Sam Vaknin. He has no background in psychology, and he coined this term to excuse his own abusive behavior by saying he had no choice. He wanted to claim the abuse is in his nature. No accountability, no need to change. The whole concept started out to justify staying a harmful person.

This post has more information on him, listing transphobia, homophobia, rape apologia, and more from the creator of the concept.

Now this idea fills every social space a person with NPD could occupy. If someone with NPD seeks out community and resources to manage the issues caused by their disorder, instead of help all they will find is conversations about how they're inherently harmful. They'll find abusers that were never diagnosed being named narcissists, because it's now just "bad person disorder." And with how common it is to armchair diagnose hurtful people, they won't even need to look for it.

And there's this attitude, this assumption that a person with NPD can't be hurt, or if they do get hurt they inherently deserve it. I've seen their concerns dismissed with jokes, like "lol why won't anyone think of the narcissists" - because how dare they ask for consideration when their disorder is discussed. From my perspective, it's seems dehumanizing.

I've been thinking about this for a very long time because I know more than one survivor who uses this term. I see it everywhere online now, either explicitly or by implication through calling abusers narcissists. Survivors of abuse deserve to speak about their experiences and their trauma. There should be a way to name this kind of emotional and psychological abuse, without adding to the stigma of an already-stigmatized disorder, and without armchair-diagnosing abusers with disorders we don't know they actually have.

I have a problem with the urge to group every dangerous person into the same category. It's the same issue I have with the idea that people who don't experience empathy are inherently bad, like the lack of mirrored emotions means they can't be compassionate and kind. Brains are too complicated for there to be one trait, or one kind of wound, that makes someone a bad person. It's human nature to seek out something to blame, to try to make sense of these things, but I think it's good to interrogate the thought patterns that come naturally.

I'm not saying that there's no person with NPD who's an unrepentant abuser. But people are people, and in every group there will be those that don't care about the harm they cause, and those that want to be good people. Abusers fall into patterns because those are the patterns that keep their victims under their control and get them what they want. There is no "bad person disorder."

Always suspect rhetoric that encourages you to dehumanize someone. Always. If a line of thinking leads you to seeing a person or a group as monsters - it's dangerous.

#riki babbles #abuse mention #NPD #I don't know how to tag this #ableism #my thoughts

[avlillustrations]

Unnamed fantasy au part 4: Vampire Vlad

No, I'm not original shut up!(Jk)

Like Tucker, his backstory is short. I honestly have more to say about his first meeting with the trio.

Vlad had relatively decent upbringing. Hailing from a wealthy family, with a formal education from a high class boarding school. He never thought much of what was happening with the supernaturals (though he didn't quite understand Aragon's hatred of them either). He even became close friends with Jack Fenton. A man from his boarding school who famously couldn't wait to join the hunters forces. Then his life was saved by one.

From then on Vlad was determined to aid as many of them as possible. Even going so far as to volunteer as an informant in order to throw the hunters off their trail. Sadly when trying to aid a wounded vampire they caught sight of his informant badge and assumed the worst of him. In a senseless bid for self defense, they attacked him. Vlad was turned. And the Fentons, people he once considered family, did not hesitate to capture him.

Vlad is not executed immediately. Hunters have recently begun to lose public favor. Humans are questioning the persecution of supernaturals especially during a war with the neighboring kingdom of Pariah. The hunters feel a demonstration is in order.

Vampires, while human in nature, are one of the few species of supernaturals known for going absolutely feral when hungry. As long as they maintain a consistent diet of blood, human or otherwise, they are harmless. Starvation has monstrous results. Just the thing the hunters are counting on.

Inlisting the help of a traveling circus, spearheaded by the devious ringmaster Freakshow, the hunters transport Vlad to the capital. Taking absolute care that Vlad doesn't receive even a drop of blood. Vlad is terrifying, a monstrous sight to behold. Danny and his companions, who have temporarily joined the circus so as to hurry their journey along, find Vlad chained and caged in the back of the last caravan. Sam, having never been exposed to something as terrifying as a starving vampire, is reluctant to help. Danny and Tucker are resolute.

They know the ramifications of what the hunters are trying to do. It's propaganda, plain and simple. It's also cruel. After arriving in the capital, while the crowd and hunters are distracted by Freakshows performance, the trio set their plan in motion. Using their unique abilities (Danny's invisibility, Sam's magic, and Tucker's ability to turn into a normal dog outside the full moonl) they rescue Vlad just as he's revealed to the crowd in his monstrous form.

While they are successful in freeing Vlad and evading capture, the hunters plan has worked. They have regained the people's favor. Supernaturals are more stigmatized than ever.

Taking shelter from a budding rainstorm they make camp in an abandoned flour mill. Vlad feeds from Danny, as half-spectre he's able to better handle bloodloss than either Sam or Tucker. While they are happy to have freed their new friend, they all can feel the weight of their actions on their shoulders. Things are going to be much worse from now on.

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[kiraleighart]

i'm so happy i found the mr. robot tumblr community. y'all are genuinely very sweet. and i also think (i hope!) you'll like my upcoming new book. 🥴

because sure as shit was i inspired to carry sam's impossible legacy even just one small step forward, in a different way.

we need messy stories about messy people working through trauma so that we can light a path for others to follow, in health.

we need protagonists with mental illnesses that are so often demonized and stigmatized by society to shape new empathetic cultural narratives.

we need queer stories that scream, writhe and punch walls, yet are so impossibly normal, fragile, weird and lovely.

we need art media, made by artists who write from their guts. art media that doesn't just give you a tragic or utopic ending. art media that gives you something beautiful, painful and real.

i hope i can do that for you.

with my disability kicking my butt, this might be the last book i can publish for a while. i aim to make it count, if you'll let me.

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