#tw/csa

[thedearidiot]

- Hieu Minh Nguyen, Teacher's Pet.

#hieu minh nguyen #poetry #tw/csa #I see a swan dirtied by lake water #luther hughes #violence

[craycraybluejay]

You know how a pretty obvious majority of kinksters are submissives? You want to know a big part of the reason why it's hard to find a dom that's into the same hard kink you are?

Ask a hardcore masochist what they think of being whipped.

Then ask a hard sadist what they think of whipping someone.

Do you notice that the sadist/dom will often either dance around an answer or try to use soothing language/euphemism not unlike the way how in many places people are still expected to discuss sex if at all. Gentle, calculated language.

The issue is, especially with a new surge of purity culture overtaking so-called "leftist" online circles, is that fantasy becomes a moral judgement.

Sub with a noncon kink: "I want to be raped" (cnc but like. People can talk ab it how they want don't cancel me fr.)

Response from Normies: "well that's weird and kinda dark but ok"

Dom with a noncon kink: "I want to rape"

Response from Normies: "I'm calling the police and you should kys and you're also a sexual abuser and even though you haven't said anything about kids you're also also a pedophile :)"

Not only does the attitude of murderous hatred against doms/tops with hard kinks/fetishes/paraphilias make it difficult for them to practice those kinks (safely and ethically) out of fear of social backlash if it's ever found out even if both they and their partner[s] had a great time and are fine-- but, it actively puts innocent people in danger by equating thoughts and attractions of ANY KIND to the act of hurting others against their will. It equates fantasy, which can oftentimes be played out safely if in a modified way with real harmful actions.

Also, kink is still illegal in many places, so don't "its illegal" me about harder kinks. Law is not morality, none of us are free until all of us are free, etc. You get the gist.

You want to see more doms? Meet someone who can indulge your "scary badwrong" sexy feelings? Then maybe don't actively promote a culture where you put ANY kind of attraction or kink under fire. It doesn't matter if it'd be unethical to act out in real life. Some of the most common kinks worldwide are unethical as fuck to act out irl, including rape. That's why we have cnc, come on, guys.

You know what? In fact, you SHOULD actively shun people who shame others for their sexual feelings. EVEN if you think it's gross. EVEN if it wouldn't be ethical to act on irl. Let these types know that their puritan ideals are NOT accepted here. Let them know that if they want to go to church they can do that but not in your space, not forcing other (non consenting!) people to listen to their hateful and repressive ideology.

Like, hey, I'm not into ABDL, for example. But I will defend to the death other people's right to be into that. To think and feel whatever they think and feel. You think diapers are sexy? Great! I don't personally see the appeal, but you do you boo. There is no Correct Way to be sex/kink negative. Either you believe in thought crime or you don't.

And yes, this post includes "harmful" paraphilias (I put it in quotes because they're only harmful if acted on), sadomasochism, mutilation fetishism, etc etc. Every "gross" or "evil" kink, fetish, para you can possibly imagine. The stuff that makes you horny is just stuff that makes you horny, and being horny is normal. Being "weird horny" is also normal. No one deserves to experience shame, let alone public harassment or hate over feelings they most of the time don't Choose to have. Be mindful of puritan rhetoric and strike it down when you see it.

#important #psa #hard kink #nsft topic #pro para #pro kink #the 'dom shortage' #obv there are other factors but this is just a connection I'm pointing out #purity culture #purity wank #puritans #sex and sexuality #tw r@pe mention #p3d0 panic/the trend of calling everyone you don't like a p43d0phi13 despite that that's as i said before #NOT the same thing as csa or ANYTHING like that and simply an experienced attraction #attraction is not r@pe; foot fetishists r not going to randomly hump ur foot and same w ever other kink #thought crime #puritanism #the purity culture wave #discourse #except if you disagree pls block me this is a pro kink blog forever and ever #thoughts are thoughts #anti para people scare me bc if u think someone cant help but have sex with someone/something theyre attracted to... #what EXACTLY are you going to do if someone romantically rejects you???????????? #turning the argument around here. if this is your belief then i do not trust you around me and my loved ones #because if attraction is action then i am scared for the people you are attracted to #because it isn't. and the fact that you think it is says more about you than anyone you hate for their attractions

[nyancrimew]

absolutely cannot believe i need to say this, but ABSOLUTELY DO NOT email me or anyone else a list of links to CSEM on tumblr unprompted (or at all), even if your goal is just to get rid of it (which to be clear is not something i can help with whatsoever). you are putting both yourself and me at massive risks for absolutely no reason, if you stumble upon materials like that you either report them to tumblr or an actual org dedicated to dealing with stuff like this (and also only if their instructions specifically say to do so). investigating it yourself and even worse, sending it to random people, puts you (and anyone you send it to) at massive legal risks, don't do it.

#tw csem #tw csa

[corelle-vairel]

I had this idea, so here it is

#disco elysium #my art #fanart #harry du bois #dolores dei #dolores dei quotes #tw csa mention

[stackslip]

the truth is, i do not think that it is useful nor helpful to treat rape and sexual abuse of any kind as singularly evil things that will damage and destroy victims forever and leaves them unworthy of life, and whose perpetrators are also singularly evil people who were born evil and need to be erased from society in order to get rid of rape existing at all. i do not think it is helpful to anybody including victims to tell them that rape and sexual abuse has damaged them permanently and that they have less worth as a human being for having been through that specific kind of abuse/assault. i do not think it is useful to treat sexual violence as completely different from other forms of violence, something that must remain taboo and that has no link to any other form of abuse and violence that might be perpetrated. it is especially not helpful when the very existence of transgender women is treated as sexual violence and a violation to protect cisgender women and children from. it is not helpful when victims of sexual violence are treated as damaged goods, when the sexual violence they've been through is either/both so taboo it cannot be spoken out loud, or something that marks them out as a potential perpetrator of said violence bc they have been forever broken by it.

#eli talks #rape tw #csa tw

[astrateiaa]

I submitted a request for an ask game hosted by @streetlight-halo . But then I realized I wanted to do my own version too, so have song #38 on my Revolutionary Girl Utena playlist with Nanami. The song is “I Bet on Losing Dogs” by Mitski, but I think everyone knows that already lol

#fuck I forgot tags #ok wait #revolutionary girl utena #shoujo kakumei utena #nanami kiryuu #anthy himemiya #made this while watching hbomberguy’s james somerton video #fuck somerton’s utena takes actually #anthy deserves so much better #tw implied csa

[thedearidiot]

the first memory I had of being molested did not come until nine years later at first I thought it a dream I thought it a movie I thought it was my mind filling empty spaces with noise I was just sitting on a bus staring at a stranger’s hands my memory has failed me I look for her name and only see hands I look for her face and only see hands they say who they say how how how how how could you not know? how could you not remember? how could you sleep with her hair in your throat? how could you how could you how could you give us her name and we will give you back your childhood show us where and we will tell you how to heal if it’s true what they say about memory being a series of rooms then behind some locked door a wicked apothecary her fingers trapped in jars her hair growing like wild vines along the wall somewhere in that story I am still a boy I am 9 years old filing my body with cement to drown out the ghosts Im a statue of a boy Im 23 and all i do is sink all I do is look for a haunting my memory an exorcism my memory a hallway of locked doors my memory the sun bleaching away the shadows They say give us proof so I give them my body They say give us details so I give them my body which is to say if you cut me open if you dissect this trauma you wil find a pair of handprints a 9 year old boy fossilized in cement

- Hieu Minh Nguyen, Haunt Me.

#hieu minh nguyen #poetry #violence #memory #tw/csa

[howlingtothevoid]

Tired of being used? Me too, pass the bottle

#web weaving #web weave #on grief #webweaving #childhood grief #oc story: pathdog #oc webweave #loveless #csa tw #PATHDOG!Esther #also a bit of #PATHDOG!Alexis #cigarette tw #smoking tw #craving intimacy

[nerves-nebula]

i love to see people who are like "you can talk about csa but not around minors that's gross!" like idk how to tell you this but. who do you think is getting csa'd. i'll give you a hint: the first letter in csa does not stand for "adult"

#nnstuff #was browsing the tmnt competition cuz i havent paid attention to it much #and that anon made me laugh #that anon was prolly a kid too but like still. its funny. i dont blame them for thinking that #i just think its funny is all #anyway good on the mod for being very level headed about stuff #they're doing a good job and i'm proud of them even if it's not how i'd handle things- cuz i am an adult who is used to talking about CSA #and they're a kid who is clearly uncomfortable with it and definitely could've responded way worse than they did #csa tw

[euniexenoblade]

i haven't really looked at the toonimal call out thing cuz it's like 100 pages and I don't know the person at all and I just don't feel like it's worth triggering myself reading that kind of shit. But something that got pointed out by another that made me go back and check it, the people who put this 100 some odd page doc together didn't hide the names of victims being groomed or anything, so the victims are also featured quite frequently. And I'm thinking about how when I was a kid getting groomed and abused, had my abusers been "called out" this way, I would be utterly humiliated and destroyed to have my name publicly plastered next to them. This is how victims get harassed, this is how victims never get to grow up and move on, it's incredibly irresponsible and pathetic and I hope whoever made the damn thing goes back and fixes that. Cuz knowing who I was at that age, I'd have killed myself.

#Csa tw

[one-time-i-dreamt]

f*ck Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, they have so much to answer for

imagine treating your daughter, who was a victim of your disgusting abuser son, worse than said disgusting abuser son, just because she dares to call you out and has a nose ring

#not a dream #csa tw #jill duggar #jim bob duggar #19 kids and counting #tlc #jill dillard #michelle duggar

[doubleca5t]

After watching Shiny Happy People (the Amazon docuseries on the Duggars) I am once again struck by the absolute gall of conservatives to accuse gay and trans people of being "groomers" when one of the largest christian conservative organizations in the country is essentially devoted entirely to producing multiple generations of girls who will grow up to be grooming victims and boys who will grow up to be incestuous pedophiles like good fucking lord every accusation truly is a confession

#doubleca5t oc #cw csa #tw csa

[interruptedsblog]

I feel empty, I feel a hole in my chest while sadness and anguish are invading me. I don't have enough strength to get up, move, concentrate and eat.

#bpd #mental illness #actually cptsd #just cptsd things #mental health #ptsd #cptsd vent #intrusive thoughts #trauma #tw vent #depressing shit #tw depressing thoughts #tw depressing stuff #sorry for being depressing #anxienty #stress #csa vent #bpd vent #vent post #vent

[patricia-taxxon]

My final word. I was exposed to sexual intimacy at a time before I ever could have constructed a sense of boundaries to be violated. I'm unable to access the disgust you want me to feel because I was 3, it only happened once, and I wasn't physically hurt. I'm discovering what has been in my heart my entire life, and it is my choice to take the positive emotions I felt both then and now and leave behind the shame and prosecution. I'm an adult now, I am exercising sexual agency in the present because I have that right. have a nice life.

#cilantromixture #tw csa

[hel7l7]

it was his fault not mine

#vent art #csa tw #sa tw

[tired-fandom-ndn]

"I'm scared of what predators might do if we acknowledge preteen sexuality."

It is a proven fact that teaching children about their bodies and about sexuality, providing them with safe resources to explore and ask questions, and giving them the language to describe their experiences and feelings and anatomy makes them less vulnerable to abuse and more likely to ask for help when they ARE being abused, mainly because they actually know how to describe it and why it's wrong.

"Protect the children" narratives overwhelmingly hurt children instead and make them way more vulnerable to abusers. Puberty doesn't stop just because you plug your ears and pretend it's not happening, and kids without safe resources and places to ask questions will go look for that information somewhere else.

#csa tw #thank you all for coming to my tedtalk