#you were good to me

[upsidedownwithsteve]

taking my following list down from 700+ to 241 - beautiful. there were blogs on there that hadn't posted in 9 years 😭

#rip old fandoms #bye teen wolf #bye obx #bye bellarke #you were good to me #emmy rambles

[erggggggggg]

#what i’m listening to #you were good to me #jeremy zucker #Spotify

[donclairenf]

I’m used to letting go, but I don’t want to be alone.

Not.

Now, I’m closing all my doors cause I’m sick of wanting more.

#realization #life #introvert #poems on tumblr #you were good to me

[thepermanentrainpress]

Gallery: Chelsea Cutler @ Commodore Ballroom - Vancouver, BC Date: November 6th, 2022 Photographed by: Claire Thomas

#Chelsea Cutler #PRmusic #PRphoto #Commodore Ballroom #Vancouver #yvr #Live Nation #Music #live music #The Commodore Ballroom #Commodore #When I Close My Eyes Tour #Chelsea Emily Cutler #Republic Records #Universal Music #How to Be Human #When I Close My Eyes #Claire Thomas #you were good to me #Mutual Friends #Slow Down Love #Flare Guns #this is how you fall in love #Sad Tonight #Calling All Angels #Crazier Things #Stay Next to Me #concert #concert photography #concert photos

[bisexualmotif]

#halsey #so good #playlist #right person wrong time #cornelia jakobs #hold me closer #jeremy zucker #you were good to me #taylor swift #the 1 #august #cornelia street #harry styles #gracie abrams #finneas #Spotify

[daddyxineedyou]

You always gave your best for me, you fought for me, now it's my time to do the same for you

#it's too late #I'm so sorry #but I'm gonna get you your own beautiful place #it's the least I can do #i failed you #I wish I could go back in time and do it all differently #you were good to me #you mean so much to me #i love you #can't stop thinking about you #sorrow

[throughtheeyesofayla]

”You feel so close to me now, but something in the atmosphere tells me that we’re done”

- Ayla J.

#poetry #poems #thoughts #sad #spilled emotions #spilled tears #screaming crying throwing up #i wish we never met #you were good to me #spilled ink #depressing post #daily poem #shakespeare

[sleeplessdreamer14]

sometimes my heart cries, other times my heart plays you were good to me by jeremy zucker and chelsea cutler slowed

#vent #angst #feels #my stuff #jeremy zucker #you were good to me #music

[loftsounds]

Swear I'm different than before I won't hurt you anymore 'Cause you were good to me

#SoundCloud #music #jeremy zucker #soundcloud #chelsea cutler #music blog #you were good to me

[onestowatch]

Chloe Lilac Shares 10 Songs That Inspired Her New Mixtape ‘you were good to me’

Photo: Emma Marie Jenkinson

Love and betrayal exist at the heart of Chloe Lilac’s latest mixtape, you were good to me. It’s the emotional undercurrent that propels the four-track project forward from the guitar-driven controlled outburst of “lily’s backyard” to the confident embrace of “only love song.” 

"This mixtape is all about losing the people you love most. Whether that’s losing a best friend, losing a romantic partner, or losing yourself. It can be hard to let go when people come in and out of your life, you could feel betrayed, you could feel heartbreak, you could feel anger, but at the end of the day, it all comes back to love," shares Lilac. 

Taking inspiration from a wide span of indie rock cult hits and the occasional Childish Gambino track, we invited Lilac to share with us the 10 songs that scored the creation of you were good to me. 

1. Hole - “Violet”: This is one of my all time favorite songs. I love how angry she is!

2. The Breeders - “No Aloha”: The breeders are one of my favorite bands of all time. I love the breakdown.

3. Alex G - “Gretel”: Alex G is a huge inspiration of mine. The combination of acoustic and electronic instruments makes his music almost sound haunted. The writing is amazing too.

4. Pixies - “Hey”: The Pixies are my all time favorite band. This song in particular has inspired me so much throughout my life.

5. Weezer - “Undone”: This album is one of the greatest albums of all time. This and violet were the main inspirations for “lily’s backyard.”

6. Fiona Apple - “Paper Bag”: The honest lyrics of this song cut deep. Fiona Apple is a legend and inspires me so much.

7. Mitski - “Your Best American Girl”: I feel like I’m saying this a lot but Mitski is one of the greatest of all time. This song changed my life when I heard it. I dream of making a song this good one day.

8. Radiohead - “Karma Police”: The chord progression, lyrics, just oh my god. This song is amazing.

9. Childish Gambino - “What Kind of Love”: These lyrics are insane. I love how melancholy the guitar is.

10. Chloe Lilac - “how does your girlfriend feel about it”: I wrote this song!! It’s on my new mixtape that just came out! Go stream it!

#chloe lilac #you were good to me #indie #indie rock #playlist

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Must be a Sugondese joke.

#dungeon meshi #chilchuck tims #laios touden #senshi #Looks like I won't be able to post this on dungeon meshi thursday so instead I will have a fun past/future conversation #This is wednesday me who has not seen the episode yet but I have such a strong feeling that it is going to be extremely special. #*This* fight is what the first arc has been building up to and it has *so* many incredible moments. #We're going to see the chilchuck knife throw! The leg sacrifice! The bones! #Watch them ramp up the quality this episode and go wild with the frantic action of 'oh god our plan is going to shit'. #Hello. Me of the future who just watched the episode. #I knew it was going to be good but that...that blew my mind completely. My high expectations were beyond met. My god. #I'm just speechless at how well they handled everything. The leg. The tension. That ENDING. #If you have not already: PLEASE watch Dungeon Meshi.

[golyadkin]

it's because i wouldn't let you kill the bounty hunter isn't it

#he's so mean 2 me #bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #astarion #bg3 tav #these files were titled 'asstarion' on my computer #that'll show him #managed to redress my finger so i can draw #but seeing as this is my first time drawing asstarion i'm not gonna go full lineart and colour #it was fun though he's got a great face #hate drawing his hair though #sorry you don't want to fuck me astarion #sorry you don't have good taste 😤 #also i gave my tav pure black eyes and now every time he frowns it looks like he's got these big puppydog eyes i love him so much

[maddie-grove]

As someone who’s living with a middle school social studies teacher, all the posts along the lines of “why did we never learn about this historical event in school” just make me go “because your teacher was supposed to cover all of US history in one year, and they didn’t get to the Revolutionary War until Halloween because they were urged to slow down the progression of the lessons because a more senior teacher was running behind, and they didn’t get to the Civil War until Valentine’s Day because the school kept scheduling every special event during social studies because there’s no end-of-grade testing for that subject, and they didn’t get to WWI until May because they were sick for a few days and the substitute couldn’t do much more than babysit, and now they’re having to do the entire Cold War in two days, so that’s why you didn’t hear about the lesbian inventor of the circus peanut. They would have loved to tell you about the lesbian inventor of the circus peanut!”

#this is us-specific obviously #the thing about history is that no class can cover everything #and you can continue learning about it as an adult really easily #I had one shitty history teacher (bizarrely paranoid about communism and also very boring and he let jordyn l. bully me) #but the rest were good

[thepermanentrainpress]

Gallery: Jeremy Zucker @ Vogue Theatre - Vancouver, BC Date: November 24, 2023 Photographed by: Josh Papalia

#Jeremy Zucker #PRmusic #PRphoto #Vancouver #yvr #Music #live music #Josh Papalia #Vogue Theatre #mrg #mrg live #is nothing sacred? #Jeremy Scott Zucker #Love Is Not Dying #Crusher #All the Kids Are Depressed #You Were Good to Me #Comethru #this time #you were good to me #Mercury Records #Republic Records #always i'll care #Talk is Overrated #this is how you fall in love #not ur friend #concert #concert photography #concert photos #gig

[egophiliac]

IT WAS ERIC AFTER ALL!!!! I'm so glad we got to meet him (before Vil snaps him away with those Infinity Gauntlets) (can't wait to see what happens when we get the matching Infinity Tiara to go with them, there will be no survivors)

(sorry to be so slow/rough lately, just got a lot of stuff on the ol' brain at the moment! alas, if only I could spend all my time drawing incredibly stupid characters I mean I do but)

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #tapis rouge #i know these are not my best but by god i needed to draw ~daddo venue~ #he is a treat! can't wait for him to yell at us for screwing up a shoot or whatever the last-minute disaster will be #i am SO HAPPY it turned out to be about movies after all! ...i mean sort of anyway #i'll take what i can get (and i do enjoy twst trying to be all cute about snow whAHEM i mean beautiful queen) (i see you there twst) #(also to be fair it actually wasn't poisoned in historial-revisionism-twstland so i think we can trust this apple. a+ acting eric) #anyway we are still. very solidly in the 'stand around and talk about the wallpaper for three hours' part of the event. #but HEY we got to meet eric! i was not really expecting it to be him so i am VERY pleased #also god help me i did think the shopping montage as portrayed by a rhythmic where they literally SKIP down the street was hilarious #there's a lot of Choices that were made in this event and that was a good one

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop