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⌦ hello everyone !

this is my very first post <3

my blog today will be about . . .

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE ESU

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:: OO . . . . . . . . . . . disclaimer + rant.

:: O1 . . . . . . . . . . . intro to esu.

:: O2 . . . . . . . . . . . my story.

:: O3 . . . . . . . . . . . signs you might be esu.

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༄ ‧₊˚ ⌇ disclaimer + rant:: ↴ ! ❜⸼۰

before y'all start fighting in my comments section, nobody wants to fight you so hate will be deleted. you are entitled to your own opinion and i am entitled to mine and believe it or not, thinking this is valid IS an opinion. if you think otherwise, you're allowed to think that, what am i gonna do about it?? this post is really just me practicing argumentative responses, feedback or criticism would be greatly appreciated. i would love to hear your point of view as long as you're respectful !

esu, transracial, and rcta aren't the same thing so please don't say that. idek what transracial is but i assume it's the same as being rcta - rcta means "race change to another" and it is a newer term that we should NOT be using. why?

first off, race is a very broad thing, you can't just transition to a race, you have to be a specific ethnicity.

some of y'all don't know the difference between race, ethnicity and nationality so lemme just get that out of the way now :

race: race typically refers to physical characteristics such as skin color, facial features, and hair texture. it's a social construct used to categorize people based on perceived biological differences. however, there is no scientific basis for these distinctions, as genetic variation within racial groups can be greater than between them.

ethnicity: ethnicity relates to cultural factors such as language, religion, ancestry, and traditions. it's more about shared customs, beliefs, and history rather than physical traits. people from the same ethnicity may or may not share the same race.

nationality: nationality refers to the legal relationship between an individual and a sovereign state. it indicates the country of citizenship or allegiance, often determined by factors like place of birth, parentage, or legal status. nationality is about belonging to a specific political community, regardless of race or ethnicity.

now that you know that, let's continue.

the term race change TO ANOTHER implies that you were not that race before which would be untrue, it's a very hard feeling to describe but you've always been that race at heart, you're not "changing races"

this term was made by an awful person who is a groomer and pedo. they are also an asian fetishist. so by using this term, you'd be putting yourself under the same umbrella as them. im not going to talk about it but @.rctaisacult on tiktok has talked about it with screenshots and proof.

people who use ethnicity subliminals have ALWAYS been called ethnicity subliminals users, you can see that term goes back a lot of years, rcta on the other hand, very recent.

and for why you shouldn't use the term "transracial" ? there actually isn't a reason that comes to mind except for the fact that a lot of bait accounts or adults use it, there are many transracial adults out there that you can go to for help, large community! me personally, i don't really like to because i've noticed that most of the time, they have underlying mental issues that really need attention... im not trying to be like that so err i'd just not.

transracial is defined as: "Anyone whose physical makeup, emotional, racial, and/or self-expression is in conflict with current cultural racial stereotypes and racial norms, similar to transgender and sexual norms" (which it is not). it is actually the oldest term on the list, if you haven't heard of being esu, i'm sure you've heard of being transracial.

based on this definition, i feel like the difference between being esu and being transracial is one (has to) use subliminals and the other doesn't. they'll do things like cosmetic procedures instead.

i kinda wanna talk abt oli london but let's not address that

that tangent is over now and i just want to tell you that im not asking you to change your opinion, i just want you to be nice. the hate towards esu on the Internet is absolutely insane, i get it if you don't support, okay? if you don't like it, block don't report. we're just existing and it sucks that you think that's wrong of us. hate comments can be really damaging to someone's mental health, ESPECIALLY if that person is sensitive. if the hate is prolonged, it could lead to the death of someone, someone's child, cousin, uncle, aunt, mom, dad etc.

beating up someone because of their race/ethnicity or identity is absolutely insane, never ever resort to violence like that. what if that was a rumor? what if the person you just put on the brink of death was a bait account? what if they were framed? what if they lied? what if that was just a child? what if they were just minding their own business? you did that for what? for no reason at all.

i've lost many friends due to things like this happening, honestly just scroll, it's not that hard. the way that you'll just resort to violence like that is seriously disgusting, im sorry but you were not raised right. you all need to learn how to get over it, there's more to people other than if they're esu or not, it's their life, their decision, what are you really gonna do about it??

don't report, block me please

rest in peace to everyone we've lost and best wishes to everyone who has quit or left social media due to hate.

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now that that's been said, let's start !

i hope you enjoy !

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༄ ‧₊˚ ⌇intro to esu:: ↴ ! ❜⸼۰ ꒱

esu : ethnicity subliminal user(s)

what is a subliminal?

subliminals are messages that are delivered to the subconscious mind by means of music, speech or visual stimuli. these messages often contain negative or positive affirmations that are repeated repeatedly in order to reprogram or retrain the mind. subliminals are commonly used in self-improvement programs, weight loss programs and various therapy programs.

how do subliminals work?

subliminals work by bypassing the conscious mind and communicating directly to the subconscious mind. the subconscious mind receives and accepts these messages, if this goes on for a prolonged amount of time (varies), it can influence a person's beliefs, attitudes and behavior and may have a long-term effect on their thoughts, emotions and physical health. subliminal messages can be delivered through a variety of media, including music, videos, affirmations, and visual cues.

what is the law of attraction?

the law of attraction is a spiritual belief that states that positive or negative thoughts and feelings create a corresponding positive or negative energy that attracts or repels similar experiences, events, and people into our lives.

according to the law of attraction, if we focus on positive thoughts and feelings, we are more likely to attract positive experiences and people, and if we focus on negative thoughts and feelings, we are more likely to attract negative experiences and people.

what is manifestation?

manifestation is the process of bringing one's thoughts, feelings, and desires into physical reality. it involves concentrating one's thoughts, attention, and energy on a particular goal or outcome and taking action towards obtaining that outcome, believing that it is already a reality and that the desired result will manifest. manifestation involves having a clear and focused idea of what one wants, consistently holding that idea in one's mind, and taking action to bring it into physical reality.

what are ethnicity subliminals?

ethnicity subliminals are a type of subliminal messaging that uses affirmations, music, or ambient sounds to alter the physical appearance or identity of an individual. these affirmations are aimed at changing a person's ethnicity, and are often used by people who have a desire to look like a different ethnic group. while some believe that ethnicity subliminals can be used to alter one's appearance, many view this as problematic and potentially harmful.

so.. what's an ethnicity subliminal user?

ethnicity subliminal users are individuals who use ethnicity subliminals, to change one's physical appearance, ancestry or identity. these individuals may feel the need to change their appearance to conform to societal standards of beauty (invalid), to fit in with a different group (invalid), or to simply change their appearance to suit their personal preferences.

While some ethnicity subliminal users may see these messages as beneficial, others may view them as problematic and potentially harmful.

when you are esu, you're using these all of these things !

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༄ ‧₊˚ ⌇my story :: ↴ ! ❜⸼۰ ꒱

the purpose of me telling you this is so you can compare yourself to me and see if our stories align, i've noticed that most esu have similar childhood experiences.

as a young child, i was always drawn to japan, but i didn't really know why i was fascinated by everything about the country: the language, the food, the fashion, and the architecture. it all seemed to resonate with me on a deeper level, and i would spend hours researching japanese history, traditions, and customs. but i kept these feelings to myself, afraid that others would think i was weird or that they wouldn't understand. i tried to suppress my interests and conform to the expectations of those around me. however, the pull of japan was always there, and i couldn't shake the feeling that there was something about the country that i connected with on a deep level.

my connection to japan and its culture has always been a source of both fascination and confusion for me. i felt drawn to the country and its cultures from a very young age. but i didn't understand why or what it meant. i kept these feelings to myself out of fear that others would judge me or think i was wrong. as i got older, i couldn't shake the feeling that i was different from the people around me. it seemed like everyone around me was comfortable with their race and culture, while i felt like an outsider. i didn't look like my birth race, and i didn't feel like i was a part of it either. i always felt out of place, like there was something wrong with me. i wanted to be japanese, so much so that i would tell people i met that i was. but i didn't know a single word of japanese, so when people would ask me to say something in the language, i would freeze up and feel ashamed. i tried to learn japanese, but as an 8-year-old, i couldn't quite grasp it. i turned to subliminals to try and help me become more japanese, but i wasn't any good at sticking to routines and eventually gave up.

it wasn't until a bit later that i finally started to figure out what was going on. i was depressed and sad, trying on so many different gender identities and sexualities, but nothing ever felt right. i wish i could go back in time and change all of those years of confusion and sadness. but it isn't possible. my connection to japan was always more than just a passing interest; it was a deep-seated fascination that captivated me for years even when i didn't fully understand what it meant. i would daydream about living in japan, surrounded by the culture and the language, and would spend hours researching everything i could about the country, desperate to learn more. but even as i dreamed of becoming fluent in japanese, living in japan, and being part of the culture, i struggled with the guilt of feeling like i was somehow betraying my birth race and identity. i would ignore my birth race's culture, trying to pretend it didn't exist, and would become uncomfortable when others mentioned it.

as a self-proclaimed "anime hater" in 2020 i kept my distance from anything japanese for fear of being associated with the weird and awkward people who idolized the culture. but when the pandemic hit and we were quarantined at home, my curiosity began to get the best of me. with nothing but time on my hands, i started to explore japanese culture through something other than anime, and food. i started to explore the different kinds of sushi and discovered the deliciousness of onigiri, falling in love with the unique flavors and textures that were new to my palette. and even though i tried to ignore it, my obsession with japanese food slowly grew. (love it! #fat) but wasn't just my love for japanese food bun that was changing, as i struggled through the isolation of quarantine, l started to feel very sensitive and empty, like there was a part of me that was missing, even though i thought | had finally figured out my identity, something still seemed wrong.

then, again, i turned to subliminals as a way to find answers. i tried ethnicity subliminals, hoping they would help me figure out where i belonged in the world. but after a short time, i stopped listening to them, feeling like they weren't providing me with the answers i was looking for. and then, it was the summer of 2023. everyone was talking about rcta, something l knew a bit about from when i was young. lt seemed like a crazy fad, and i was one of the people making fun of t butt deep down, i knew that something was still missing. i still hadn't found that place in the world where i felt like i belonged, and i was desperate for answers. and thus began my journey down the rabbit hole of the rcta/esu community. lt started with me simply observing from the side, trying to understand what all the fuss was about. i was intrigued by the concept, but didn't want to go all in just yet.

however, as l spent more time in the community, i began to realize that i felt a strong connection to the esu identity, it was like a missing piece of the puzzle had finally been found! so, l decided to create my discord server, hoping to help others who were also struggling to find their place in the world. at first, i didn't claim to be esu, but rather acted as a supporter, helping others navigate their journeys. with over 800 members, it was like a second home to me. everyone was so supportive and caring, and i felt like i belonged for the first time in a long time. but then things took a turn. i took a short break from discord, only to come back to a complete mess. it was all my fault, apparently, and i felt like i had let everyone down. so i quit that server and started a new one, this time i started posting esu content and started "baiting" as esu japanese.

it wasn't a surprise that i got a lot of hate comments on my tiktok. people seemed to hate the idea of changing races, and they didn't hold back when it came to expressing their opinion. the comments hurt me, but i refused to admit it to

myself instead, i lashed out and doubled down on my beliefs, refusing to see the other side. my mom eventually caught wind of the hate i had been spewing, and she confronted me about it and defended myself. arguing that chänging races were racist but then she asked me a simple question: "how is it racist? they just want to be their true selves." oh, how that question hit me like a truck. i realized that i had been going against everything i had said and everything thought | had ever believed. it was as if a switch flipped inside me, and suddenly, it all made sense, i had to know more, to understand this newfound realization.

so i started researching my culture, devouring every piece of information i could find. i scoured the web for answers, for stories from people who experienced the same thing l did. and every article, every testimony, every piece of information. i felt my identity falling into place. it's been a few months since that realization, and i have never felt more connected to japan. i've learned so much about my culture, from the food to the customs, language and history. i feel a sense of belonging i never thought possible, and a newfound sense of pride in who i live, let's have been a journey, but one that i am grateful for. and know that there's still so much more to learn and discover. but for now, i'm satisfied with my new identity as an esu, and i am proud to be a part of a community that celebrates our cultures and identities.

༄ ‧₊˚ ⌇signs you might be esu:: ↴ ! ❜⸼۰ ꒱

you feel a deep affinity or connection to a culture or ethnicity that is different from your own background.

you have a genuine curiosity and enthusiasm for exploring and learning about different cultures, including their language, traditions, customs, and history.

you may feel like you don't fully belong to or identify with the cultural norms, traditions, or values of your birth culture.

you may desire to integrate elements of the culture you feel connected to into your own life, whether it's through language learning, adopting certain customs or practices, or participating in cultural events.

you have experimented with subliminals or other methods as a way to explore or express your connection to a different ethnicity or culture.

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you feel a sense of resonance or belonging when engaging with esu communities or content that explores themes of cultural identity, ethnicity, or belonging.

OR you feel jealous or almost violent when you see these communities^^

if you're feeling this way, please think about why !

https://cryptome.org/2017/05/in-defense-of-transracialism.pdf

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: : : : . . . . . .thank you for reading!

hopefully this changed some perspectives <3

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mrs-monaghan · 1 year

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Hey. How are you?

Well this is not really an ask but I just wanted to share something. If we're talking about jkk Or tkk then let's for once forget about romance and just focus on friendship.

IMO I believe that jk and tae are good friends but they are not really best friends. Meanwhile jkk are close and we all know that both jm and jk are very private, so just because they don't share it on SM doesn't mean they're not close. There were a lot of instances where if we wouldn't have got a picture then we would never know that it even happened.

Now what I wanted to share :

Okay so I have two college friends. And I have one best friend who isn't in the same college. So I am with my two college friends almost during the whole college time obviously, I hangout with them a lot too. But my best friend has been busy for the past few months but that's coz she's preparing for an entrance exam. Now I only hangout with my college friends and me and my best friend rarely hangout these days( we still talk obv)

But even though I hangout with those two friends, I still wouldn't say that they're my best friends. Everyone in our college thinks we're bsf but I know that we're not. It just doesn't feel like that, like I don't actually feel the connection with them but I still hangout with them because it's cool we don't have to be best of friends with everyone yk.

While my bsf, though we rarely hang out these days but whenever we meet it's like nothing has changed. We vibe perfectly well together. It's like she understands the real me and I understand her and the distance has done nothing to ruin our friendship. We don't meet regularly these days but when we do, it's just like old times.

And that's what I'm trying to say, let's keep the romantic ships aside for now. But we all have seen that jm and jk are very emotionally connected to each other and these types of bonds doesn't fade away that easily unless they had a huge fight which we can clearly see is not the case.

I'm not saying tkk are not close, they are. But imo their relationship is different from jkk. Like it's not even a comparison. Tkk are like those buddy friendships where they hangout, play games and all. But jkk has that deep emotional type of friendship where they can have those heart to hearts and a deeper conversation.

I think the reason why jikookers are insecure about tkk is not because they actually see something in them both but because of the way the whole fandom overhypes literally the smallest thing that tkk do. Tae and jk both have done much more things with other members but nobody even bat an eye but the moment tkk even stands next to each other everyone goes psycho like what's even the big deal?

Anyways everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I just wanted to share mine.

Btw love your blog. <333

Let's for once forget about romance and just focus on friendship.

Lets keep romantic ships aside for now.

Ngl anon... thats gonna be hard for me

Forgive me anon but I wanna use your ask to say something then I'll go back to your ask. If you're new u will notice when I talk about Jikook, it sounds like their relationship has been confirmed. I, believe Jikook is real. They are a couple. They kiss, they fuck, they do everything under the sun that couples do. I, believe this to be fact. I, will not be using words like if Jikook are real when I talk about them. I, will not be saying things like; assuming Jikook are a couple bla bla bla. Nah, fam. I, believe they are a couple and have been a couple for a long long time. I, do not have a 1% doubt left for just incase. In my eyes Jikook are together 110%. No, ifs, no maybes, no buts. In future if they come out dating other people, I will read that as them having broken up (God forbid) not that they've never been together. I'm sorry but any other alternatives don't make sense to me. Not when they do shit like this. Alright? We together? Good ☺☺☺

Back to anon. I agree with every single thing that you said. 1000%

-Just because we don't see it, doesn't mean it ain't happening. Facts.

- Tkk are definitely not closer than Jkk. True.

-Jkk didn't see each other as often as they used to when Jimin was working on his album. But when they reunited it's like they were never apart. True

-Tkk is overrated. Agreed.

Thanks for sharing Anon. I'm glad u like it here 😘

#bts ask #ask shaz #if jikook isn't real then neither am i #jikook is real #jikook #kookmin #minkook #jimin and jungkook #park jimin #jeon jungkook #bts #jimin #jungkook #Taekook is not real

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extasiswings · 1 year

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and just like that my buzz is dead. aisha live spoils that in the finale there's a scene of them in a truck and buck talking about his exciting yet somewhat boring date he went on. It never fails, right before the season starts something comes out to kill the buzz.

Okay, tough love time (for you and every other negative nervous nellie in my inbox since the end of S4): if a random, entirely out of context bts comment or line in an interview or anything else is enough to stress you out and kill your excitement/desire to watch the show? You shouldn't watch. If you need to know in advance that everything for a particular ship or storyline or whatever is going to work out the way you want it to in order to enjoy a season or a show, because it's not enjoyable for you to have to wait for context and be patient and trust that everything will make sense once the whole thing comes together? The you should wait until until the end of the season (or maybe even the show) and binge the whole thing so that you have all the answers before you start. If a show no longer sparks joy, you can say thank you for what you've gotten out of it previously and move on to something else that does. It's really that simple.

You know what my first thought was upon hearing that bit of the live? That Buck is inventing a story about a fake date because he and Eddie are together and aren't ready to share that, but the firefam knows that he's dating someone and isn't letting it go. That it's a misdirect for the other characters in the scene, but the audience will know the truth because of preceding scenes and/or episodes. (Also, at some point Buddie canon may have to deal with the fact that they very possibly might not be allowed to work together if they're dating, there are any number of reasons why even after getting together they might not want all their friends (including their boss) to know).

But let's roll with it. Do I think it's likely from what we know so far about this season that Buck actually is going on random dates with random people? No, not at all. But fine, let's say it's 100% true and take it at face value that he is. Would that change my opinion and read on the trajectory of Buck and Eddie's romantic arcs (i.e. Buddie canon)? No! Not even a little bit!

If I'm wrong at the end of the day, then I'm wrong, whatever. But right now? When so many of the beats of this season and previous ones are right out of the slow burn endgame ship playbook and heteronormativity blinders are the only thing keeping people from accepting that? I am choosing to be happy and excited and optimistic and am having a GREAT grand old time. If you have zero faith in the writers and can't trust what they're putting on screen, in canon, for you to see with your own eyes, and if that lack of trust is making you miserable, then that's your prerogative. But it certainly isn't mine.

Tldr; your misery is a choice, anon. And while it's certainly a choice you're entitled to, I would respectfully request that you keep it out of my inbox.

#chapel talks #anonymous #ask

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pebblysand · 11 months

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aren't you embarrassed to be a fan of something written by a transphobic antisemite

okay. i deleted the previous anons relating to this earlier today and didn't respond when they were outright death threats/hate accusing me of transphobia, sent to me all afternoon simply because i got called an "adult HP fan" by OP (for context, see here). truth is: i didn't want to show what "side" this hate was coming from. i think it's very detrimental to the cause, and actually harms trans people at large. this being said, i've fucking had it now, so i will respond.

first of all (and this is anecdotal, at this point), i fucking stand by what i said this afternoon about the original post. the post itself was fucking ludicrous. it meant nothing, was the epitome of someone trying to sound clever using words that held absolutely no substance in context (which is elitist and nauseating), was deeply ignorant and demeaning of an art form that has existed for centuries, and the author was incredibly hypocritical in their response to the backlash they received - not only from myself but from other creators. the fact that i've been receiving hate from their followers all afternoon and that "adult HP fan" was the only actual "argument" they could come back with actually proves my point. cleary, i have hit a nerve, lol.

obviously, as someone who has an entire podcast dedicated to the art and craft of fanfiction, the fact that these ignorant opinions "exposing" fanfiction as a "lesser" art form that "missed the boat on narrative multivalence" (whatever the fuck that means?) are still getting posted and reblogged on tumblr (of all places) is truly incredible. a friend of mine (who i'm not going to tag here because i don't want them to get hate), likened it to: going to Disney and saying all the people there are stupid and not doing their vacation right. While they themselves are at Disney. how's that for "complex figurative language," eh?

secondly (and most importantly, in my opinion), you and your idiotic friends think you're fighting the good fight, right? congratulations on your moral high ground. i have news for you: there are few things more harmful to the trans cause & community than sending death threats/hate to people on the internet. it makes you sound insane. and, you know who wants to make you sound insane? fucking transphobes.

this type of behaviour is so harmful to the trans community. it is so harmful to trans activists around the world who try and make educated, well-articulated points that support trans rights as basic human rights. (which, for the record, they are). and, as someone who does actually support the community, nothing makes me angrier than getting this sort of hate online. because, what if i didn't support the community? you think all the death threats and hate i've been receiving all afternoon would change that? you are not doing anything, here, to support the trans community. you are actually harming it by cheapening and endangering the point that countless people are trying so hard to make to our people and government. and, for what? to suit your own sense of righteousness and entitlement. it makes me sick. and, you should be embarrassed and ashamed of yourself.

this is the bloody reason trans rights aren't progressing. because for every death threat and hate comment there is a bigot at the other end who uses those to "prove" that trans people are crazy and a menace to society. i am beyond furious at this. and, here i am, deleting half the hate i got this afternoon because i don't want to harm the cause by posting it. because i tell myself that posting it will be one more "proof" for the bigots to latch on. fuck you.

this is revolting and fucking disgusting.

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vro0m · 3 days

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You don't know that George isn't doing it.

This is straight up lack of character at this point. The only one the team, the TP and the driver talk about different and extreme setups is Lewis and he's been doing that for 3 years now, let's put our heads to use, that's not new and isn't hidden.

Toto is complaining about Lewis being happy and you guys don't think that's bad, since feb he's been shady and straight up rude and yall are full of excuses of "lost in translation" or "miscommunication", the guy has been a TP for 10 years now and he doesn't know how to talk to the media? It got to a point that Lewis, that got a lot better in his communication, threw some indirects or are we going to deny that "people talking shit about my move" isn't aimed at Toto too? It's not that hard to see that things aren't good there and won't kill anyone to acknowledge it

These are all interpretations you're making though.

Because Lewis is more vocal about the setup doesn't mean George isn't also trying things. We don't even know what the parameters for that are.

Maybe Lewis is the only one trying things, even though that would make no sense strategically or practically. Or maybe they're both trying things which would make a lot more sense. Maybe they both have things to try during FPs and what they do after that is up to them and Lewis being Lewis he chooses to try even more things like him taking responsibility for last week's setup seems to hint at. Or maybe he's somehow forced by the team to keep trying more things when George isn't for some reason but that again seems unlikely. Maybe George is actually also trying more things in quali and race but he's just doing it better or not pushing it as far so it's working better for him. Maybe it's every other weekend. Maybe the setups are handed to the drivers at random.

My point is we have no idea what's actually happening in these sessions and who's doing what. We do not actually know what these "setup experiments" entail. At all.

He's also not being doing that for 3 years straight. The first year they started talking about the experiments he said, and the team said, he stopped doing it halfway through the season. And we had the same convo at the time that he was the only one trying and there already wasn't any proof of that (or even hints or comms that it wasn't the case iirc).

You also interpreted what Toto said as a complaint. You don't know that he said it as a complaint. You didn't hear him say it. He might have been laughing and joking. He might have been sullen. It changes the meaning of things. Also let me repeat he isn't wrong. Lewis has been down about the car perf since '22 and all of a sudden he's in a good mood. It is surprising. Good for him though, I'd rather he laughs it off than be depressed. But I'm also surprised. Saying it as a TP is kinda weird, yes. But it's not an insult.

From the start I've been saying that Toto's not doing his job well atm. I'm not denying that. For sure he's factually at best being clumsy. But it also doesn't mean he's being malicious. We don't know that. You also don't know that Lewis was talking about Toto, this is another interpretation you're making. Toto hasn't been the only one making comments about Lewis. The entirety of F1 media has.

Some of your interpretations might be right, some of them might not, in any case you're entitled to your ideas and you're welcome to share them. But you don't actually know for a fact that this is the truth. It's just your opinion just like what I'm saying is mine.

Nobody's denying that things aren't good in the team right now. But that doesn't mean there's a conspiracy against Lewis, doesn't mean Toto is relentlessly criticising him, and it most certainly doesn't mean George isn't also testing stuff. Those are all possibilities, hypotheses, fan theories. I'm trying to keep things in perspective here by pointing out that there are other interpretations that can be made of these things.

But if it's down to my own unverified opinion, I just don't agree with you on this, and that's OK.

#vro0m's asks

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Just a slight input of mine, as in my two cents.

I totally absolutely understand yoongi's and tae's pov about them feeling left out when hobi goes in heat and Jin gets all possessive, but towards the end we also see how yoongi also gets a little possessive about Y/N when hobi mentions having a room for Y/N ( as in yoongi wanting y/n for himself) so in that perspective shouldn't yoongi be a little more understanding of Jin? No? Just me?? ( This is what I feel) Jin could have had his own dreams and desires no?? While trying to do his best (from his perspective) for everyone in the pack...

and somewhere my heart goes out to Jin that maybe he wants to have a child with HIS HUSBAND with whom he's been married for so long and loves so much. And Jin isn't being selfish just that hobi is his husband first and then the omega of the pack??? Jin could have been trying his best under the pressure and with what all knowledge he has?? No??

My heart goes out to jin for trying to take care of everything and everyone without being able to express himself. Maybe I am wrong but this is just something I felt. And I do agree that buying an entire house without consulting with other members is wrong, anyone would be upset.

( also being a leader isn't easy, if the members do not say how is he going to understand, and even if everyone says something and share their input but in the end their points do not get selected that too leaves a sour taste(I hope you understand what I mean) and the leader, I don't know if they do, go about talking with everyone individually? That could be exhausting no?😔)

And I am so proud of Y/N for asking for help. good job MC. I love you for this, you fighter!!

Im glad you noticed that parallel with Yoongi's possessiveness! There will definitely come a time when Yoongi has to confront those possessive feelings when she's actually around AND others want to be around her. I think there's a bit of a difference in the fact that they're in a years long relationship and Jin is trying dictate how other people can be with Hoseok. Yoongi should try to understand Jin's feelings, no doubt, but it doesn't make Jin's actions to alienate everyone acceptable. It will be interesting to compare them as alphas down the line

And yeah, Hobi is his husband but if he wanted to be exclusive like that maybe he shouldnt have brought 3 other alphas into his pack. The most troubling thing about his behavior for them is that its a change. In his own heart Jin never did use to care about whose baby hobi would have, he would've just loved any baby of Hobi's as his own. But his mom put this idea in his head and the fact that he wouldn't talk about it just shows that deep down he knows its wrong.

I think all your thoughts make sense in a way bc those are very natural ways to feel, i just dont think those are the core issues, but im glad you're in Jin's corner! Pack alpha is a tough job and theres still an important issue that Yoongi raised which is that Jin sees pack alpha as a set of privileges (i get to decide where we live) instead of responsibilities (i must provide us with a safe place to live). I strongly believe that if Jin hadn't been first he wouldn't be pack alpha. Its strictly bc of his position as Hobi's husband that he has the role BUT his upbringing/family also makes him feel entitled to it (his mother would be extremely displeased with him if he wasn't pack alpha). The stress is honestly a bit too much for him and makes him close in on himself, not discussing with others and ultimately making bad decisions. At the end of the day, he should be at least discussing important decisions with his packmates even if he ultimately thinks that his choice is the right one. In my opinion thats the more effective form of leadership.

I know everyone wants her to rush back but im honestly very happy with yn for doing the best she can rn. Asking for help was huge even though she might not have asked for all the help we think she needs.

Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts.

#lone wolf thoughts #lone wolf asks #thanks anon!

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5, 12, 16 and you're not allowed to say an Inquisitor, 30

Thank you!

5. If you could change one (non-death-related) plot point in the show, what would you change?

Questions specifically designed to punish me for my deviance

Ohh shit I have reluctance to even talk about this.

Look. I understand a core tenet of Star Wars is forgiveness and when Anakin Skywalker was redeemed it proved that anyone was not past the point of no return, that it was not to late for anyone to come back to the light.

This is completely in contrast to my personal views that some things should not be forgiven.

Anyways, redemption arcs can be handled well. I think having Agent Kallus realize his wrongs and become a double agent is fine and good and all. Like not trying to condone or cover up his direct involvement in a Genocide, but attempting to make more rights than he did wrongs is a valiant effort.

For me, personally (and no hate/ill will to anyone for believing otherwise, I understand that this is an unpopular opinion of mine and you are fully entitled to your happy endings and I generally keep my mouth shut on this issue) I think allowing Kallus to go to the hidden, sacred refuge of the Lasat people as someone actively involved in decimating their race is. A bit much.

12. Which design for Sabine's hair and armor is your favorite?

Hmm. I think Season 2, the teal and blue.

16. Who is your favorite villain/antagonist? (Sans the Inquisitors)

Hhhhhuhhu

Tarkin

30. Most under-rated episode?

This is tough because I think most of the Episodes I like are generally well-regarded so I'm going to go with

S1E8: Empire Day

#thanks for asking

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(you cannot control what others do or do not)

This should go without saying, but apparently it doesn't, so...

Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Even if it's a shitty one. Yes, even then.

If my opinion is different than yours, then it doesn't mean that I hate you. To be fair, it also doesn't mean that you hate me...it depends entirely on how we react.

The question seems to be: what is the adult, rational thing to do when we disagree with someone?

If you can state your viewpoint rationally (and without throwing poo), then go for it. Reblog with your side. Ask if they knew about x information, sure. But be respectful. And realize that not everyone will come to the same conclusion as you even with the same information. And not everyone will fit inside the box that you try to put them in.

Not everything is A vs B. Sometimes there are other viewpoints that you might not have even realized existed.

If you decide to interact, you must realize that the other viewpoint has the right to equal air time. They are not ever obligated to agree with you in any shape or form. If they block you, that's also not an automatic win (or a loss). That's a boundary that you should respect.

If you start trolling, calling names, flaming, making fun of the ones who have a different opinion, leaving snide comments insinuating that their opinion is invalid and/or must be evidence of x negative emotion, or--heaven forbid--telling someone to kill themself! Then you are the one actively engaged in hate. This behavior is not in fact rational or justified. It's just not. It's rude and immature.

Please understand: nothing is ever completely black and white. They probably agree with at least some of your points (shocker, I know). Yes, you will have some opinions in common!

They might even have contradictory info and statistics. Can you be willing to modify your opinion based upon that new info? Can you agree to disagree? Can you see from multiple sides simultaneously? Can you grow?

If you need to live in an echo chamber and have zero interest in IDIC, then block the people who disagree with you. And leave it at that.

Blocking means "leave me alone." It means "I need space, so I'm setting a boundary." It can mean "your argument was stronger than mine." It can also mean "your argument was so weak." It can mean "I don't care."

Always remember that disagreement in a mature debate is not meant as a personal affront in and of itself.

Fuck, in a true debate, the two debaters don't always get to choose which side they are arguing! There may be times that you might not even agree with what you are quoting, that isn't the point. Hiding contradictory information because it disagrees with your conclusion is not a valid tactic. And it's most definitely not about emotion; it's about rhetoric and learning to adapt.

There are people in this world who say shit just to get a reaction out of you, regardless of what they personally think, because they like to watch the drama. (My father is one of these assholes lol.)

Yes, you are entitled to your opinion, and yes your hurt feelings are understandable and natural. That does not make them a license to be a dick. Those strong emotions do not mean that you're a better person or that your points are the only ones that matter. They do not equal moral superiority in any shape or form. Only rational information is truly relevant.

If rational information is making you feel a strong emotion...maybe that's something that you need to think about (calmly) and reassess.

You are allowed to change your opinion. You are allowed to not change your opinion. The same is true for the other party!

People are allowed to reblog other people's content, 100%. People are allowed to ask questions in other blog's inboxes. But again...trolling, name-calling, flaming, taunting, and death threats? Not cool. Ever. It's not "being nice." You don't have the right to "educate" others on anon. It's bullying, plain and simple.

If this is the choice you have made, you have lost the high ground and any appeal to authority because you decided to throw a tantrum.

Don't throw a tantrum. Don't demonize based on fear. Do more research. Make peace with the fact that not everyone thinks the same way. Let it go. Accept diversity. Life will go on.

#discourse #debate #ideology #anti-Anne #free speech

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I know there’s been a hell of a lot less Bellamy and Clarke than anyone expected for the final season of the 100 due to personal reasons for their actors, poor things :’( but at the same time it more or less forced the writers to give the other characters the chance to really think about how they see themselves, though not always in a good way.

My favourite examples of this are Emori and Murphy. Season 5 I remember Emori saying how being on the Ring gave her a purpose bigger than just herself, and that Murphy kind of had trouble with grasping who he was in peace. Season 6 we saw Murphy seemingly regress and Emori testing her loyalty between Murphy and her friends. Now season 7 had both of them having to pretend to be someone else: Kailee and Daniel Prime. They were revered, listened to, their actions made a difference! And then Sheidheda happened and then they were able to find a new part of who they were that they didn’t get to very often: they became protectors. They cared about other people who had no real connection to them and they protected them the best they could. They stood against Indra when she wanted to make Madi be Heda again. Murphy almost lost it when he realised that Sheidheda was after Madi and then when he found her he helped her through a panic attack and Emori backed it up by saying they’d never let anyone hurt her. The King and Queen of the cockroaches give a damn, and I can honestly say that while I don’t think they’ll want to be the official ‘leaders’ at the end, I also don’t think they’d shy away from being on a future council and even better if they’re voted in. I think it’s something they’d take pride and enjoyment in while still being sassy bastards and possible bitching about it all the time (lookin’ at you Murphy). Side Note: for some reason I see either them or Jackson/Miller adopting Rex at the end of this.

Raven is the opposite to the above. She has canonically been quick to chose her own life above others. This isn’t my opinion, it is canon. Waking up the prisoners from Cryo with Murphy even though it would be swelling the enemies army from 16 to 299. Taking off in the Elegius dropship in order to bomb everyone (including EVERY member of her family) in the gorge in order to save herself and Shaw, her love interest of the season. Waking up Diyoza then Madi and putting guns in their hands and telling them to handle the hijackers and then comforting the grieving Kiki like she had nothing to do with it. She watched Kane kill himself so they wouldn’t be able to create more Primes and then convinced Abby to use Madi to create more serum from her bone-marrow to save them from a situation ostensibly created by their own people(person really, since Gaia and Miller weren’t the ones blackmailing and belittling Ryker until he chose to side with his family again, and got Simone killed in the process which set Russell off to burn everyone, not just a person of their choosing, alive). And yet, up until this point, Raven has never actually been held accountable for any of the above. Until she sent a small group of Elegius prisoners into a radiation soaked room to weld the coolant leaking pipes that ultimately killed them, because she was too afraid to go in herself. Even going so far as to lock Murphy in with them because the others were having trouble focusing. So now we have Raven finally looking at her choices from a less self-righteous viewpoint, and then leaving so Murphy, Emori and Indra have to deal with the fallout from the prisoners she killed and she’s on an ice planet telling Clarke that ‘Clarke Griffin doesn’t break’ like she actually knows what’s she’s talking about when she barely even knows Clarke, let alone recently. And yet since Murphy took the blame for the prisoners deaths, it’s only her and a few select others who know the truth so will this self-reflection last more than what we’ve already gotten? I really hope so because they’ve made Raven a self-righteous insufferable bigot since season 5B and I miss the egotistical but a hell of a lot more badass Raven from season 1-4, even if she still was way too hard on Griffin women then too.

We saw what changed Octavia after she went into the anomaly and I’m glad we got a version of her who was much more at peace within herself and who started to see how much Bellamy did for her even when she pushed him away so frequently and harshly, and I hope it’s something she can start to instill in Hope after she lost her mother. I do hope she’s still able to channel her warriors spirit, just with more mercy. She has some way to go to fix the relationships she broke while Blodreigna, so I hope she gets that opportunity.

Echo. Anyone who’s seen pretty much ANY of my posts know I am not an Echo fan and I’d guess that it’s assumed that it’s because she’s with Bellamy and I’m a Bellarke shipper. This is not the case. Do I like Becho as a couple? Nope. But that is because since Echo was introduced, and then reintroduced and betrayed Bellamy and then became a henchman to Roan that he didn’t even trust I have never believed that Echo believed anything she was doing was wrong. “War makes everyone monsters” which I took as ‘if everyone is acting like honor-less monsters then it’s not bad or evil just the society we live in so it’s ok’ and yeah, I’m not ok with that. And if she had gone up to the Ring and not only acknowledged her past actions but actively chose differently because she’d lived with people she’d wronged in the past and wanted to do better. Instead we had Bellamy insisting to Octavia that Echo had changed, but we never got Echo actually apologizing herself to Octavia, only asking to ‘prove’ herself so she could stay with everyone instead of being banished. We had make the same choices from season 3&4 that Bellamy downright state he couldn’t trust her when she betrayed Shaw to the other prisoners in order to take down the Eye, even though he was a very valuable ally that knew the ins and outs of the prisoners and their tech and their systems. And then she went behind her leaders back and tried to do something in his name that he would NEVER be ok with (trying to kill Clarke in front of Madi to ‘avenge’ Bellamy) like she did in season 4 with Roan when she tried to kill Clarke multiple times, tried convince Roan to hand Wanheda’s head to his council to show his strength and finally cheating for him in the Conclave which got her banished. And since neither had any real consequence outside Raven being mad at her for getting her love interest beaten up, she continued the trend into both season 6 (Ryker) and season 7 (Levitt and attempted Genocide). And the season 7 actions was after she had another long period of peace where she had the opportunity to reflect on her actions and grow and actively chose not to. I have seen some good and badly done redemption arcs before (anime do them right, I’m just saying) but Echo’s only ‘growth’ is that she hesitates before taking an action that she knows will hurt someone she cares about, but she still does it. That and she went from someone who had no-one who cared about her to having most of delinquents who are left making excuses for her and trying to overlook that she’s the same Echo in season 3 but now she’s their ‘family’.

#the 100 #John Murphy #Emori #Anti Raven #Anti Echo #Octavia Blake #Good character growth #Don't like don't read #You're entitled to your opinion but it's not going to change mine

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toss-a-coin-to-your-stan-account · 2 years

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Anon from before about theoretically liking Yennefer - it's not that she doesn't have screentime. But screentime means nothing if the story is awful. She doesn't have any scenes that are interesting or well written, especially in comparison to the scenes with Jaskier and Geralt. They seem to acually like each other and Geralt acts soft around Jaskier but never with Yennefer. And outside of Geralt she has no relationships with any real meaning. She has screentime but it is all dull in comparison

...again, nope! nope nope nope.

Anon, I'll say it again. You don't have to like yennefer! You don't have to enjoy her presence in the show, and you don't have to engage in content with her! No one's stopping you for only watching for Jaskier! Or any minor character! Hell, no one's stopping you for only watching for ROACH!

But not only is it unnecessary to go to lengths this great to explain/justify not liking Yennefer, but you're also just... wrong.

"She doesn't have any scenes that are interesting or well-written, especially in comparison to Jaskier and Geralt."

It's one thing to not find her scenes interesting (even though not finding any of her scenes interesting is... something), but to say they aren't well-written is just not true. For example, the scene where she's talking to the dead infant in episode four; not everyone likes this scene, but it uses talking to that child to show her reflecting on what's happened in her own life, and what's been taken from her in that life. That's when she starts looking for fertility cures. You're entitled to not find a scene interesting, but just because you don't find them interesting doesn't mean they aren't well-written; it just means they're not written in a way you like.

[Geralt and Jaskier] actually seem to like each other

I'm genuinely wondering what version of season one you watched, because aside from a few parts (like geralt smiling at jaskier at the banquet, saving his life from the djinn, a tiny smile when he sees jaskier is okay), geralt is very cold to jaskier for much of the season and acts like he doesn't want him around. In fact, geralt's treatment of jaskier is one of the largest criticisms the show has drawn from book fans, so, even as a geraskier shipper, I don't know where you're getting that from, anon.

Geralt acts soft around Jaskier but never with yennefer

...Geralt acts soft with Jaskier...

...but never with yennefer...

...Yeah, look at all those times Geralt was never soft with Yennefer.

And outside of Geralt she has no relationships with any real meaning.

...just gonna let those speak for themselves.

(That's not even counting the fact that unless they made a major change from the books, she's going to become Ciri's mother.)

Anon, you're entitled to not like Yennefer, just like you're entitled not to like any character. I seriously disagree with the opinion that she doesn't have any interesting scenes, but your opinions are yours, as mine are mine.

But stop trying to pin the fact that you don't find her interesting on the show itself, because as flawed as this adaptation is, it gave us a very well-written Yennefer of Vengerberg. If she doesn't interest you, that falls on you and your personal preference.

In trying to explain yourself, you're digging yourself into a hole, and from one geraskier shipper to another, you're sorely mistaken in many respects, and you sound ridiculous.

#long post #'geralt is soft with Jaskier but never with yennefer' had me hyena cackling #discourse #answered

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Person who sent the lotor rant here, i feel like they always intended for him to be an antagonist without a goal of redemption. And given his current actions, the way he continued his parent’s imperialism (no matter how good his intentions started out or his backstory), he didn’t really seek one out or even worked towards it given he had about 10 thousand years to do so, imo lotor in s1-6 is not redemptive. I don’t want to use real examples bc that takes away the gravity of those situations, but if lotor had a real world analogue, I don’t think people would advocate for him much.

And yeah agree that he does get away with it bc he’s “attractive” to fans, if he was drawn any less “attractive” people wouldn’t be playing devil advocate for him. And would be more likely to condemn him for how he treated allura. The way he used her and manipulate her throws up so many red flags, that’s the kind of man people should look out for and get warned about.

I think the writers only started giving him a more sympathetic perspective in s7-8 bc of fan popularity. Which wouldn’t be the first time the writers lean more on marketing than organic story telling (shiro and toys…) to get a season out. It would explain why the portrayal came so late and people had such a mix reaction.

And I know people wanted him to be zuko but we should remember that zuko had a hard journey and actively seeked out the path for redemption that and it was long to get there. He was also a teenager who didn’t commit the kind of atrocities that grown adult Lotor had. I also get the impression the fandom doesn’t want Looe to put in the work to it and just want him to get the redemption free of charge, love and kisses all around for him. Which is basically the same as writing off his actions and excusing them. If Lotor had to have a redemption arc it would be something along the lines of Uncle Iroh. The messy kind where he is not entitled to forgiveness but he is still working to correct his mistakes and be more a man of the earth.

So there are a couple things I would like to address, here.

First and foremost, yes. You are absolutely right that it feels as though the showrunners/writers were swayed by influences that had nothing to do with the actual story/characters. I know I've addressed it in previous posts, but it still remains relevant that if there had been a solid plan from the get-go and they had stuck to that plan, the show would have been less…disjointed.

Character arcs would have made more sense. Storylines would not have been forgotten. Everything would have felt more cohesive instead of how rushed and frazzled it became in the last few seasons.

Secondly, we obviously view Lotor in a slightly different light.

I am not here to argue your opinion. Only to offer mine.

Because the most interesting thing I ever found about Lotor's character was that I think he actually did believe his feelings for Allura were genuine. Now, I do just want to be clear, here – I am not saying the way he treated her was good, or right. It was not. It was clearly manipulative, and she was 100% right in her anger towards him. But I do believe that because he had no frame of reference for a healthy relationship, he believed that his own feelings were true toward her.

Allura started out as a target for Lotor, but somewhere along the way she became more than that. Not in the sense of the power of true love won out, or she was able to change the monster or any of that BS. But she did become different.

Because on several occasions throughout the show, people said things like "you're just like your father" to Lotor – and as far as I can remember, he brushed it off every time.

Every time… except when Allura said it to him.

Allura said "You're more like Zarkon that I could have imagined" and Lotor…snapped. It was the only time he reacted to that phrase, because it was the only time it was spoken by someone who's opinion of him mattered.

Maybe that's just a reaching headcanon of mine, but I always found that moment interesting.

Thirdly, I am not gonna get too much into this because I am not having politics invade my nice little klance space here, but I have to disagree with you on one point. It has become abundantly clear that no matter what heinous acts real world people do commit, there are always others who will advocate for them.

And lastly, characters are often compared to Zuko because he had one of the most successfully portrayed redemption arcs in any show or movie.

I mentioned this in a comment on the previous Lotor post, but I'll say it here again – Zuko's redemption arc was successful because we got his backstory and his reason for acting the way he did in episode 12 of season 1.

They gave us just enough time to settle into "ok so he's the antagonist" before they flipped it on us and made us sympathize with him. And because they played Zuko's parts of that episode in almost a direct parallel to Aang's, it told us that this story wasn't just "good vs evil" black and white storytelling. It literally showcased that Zuko (the antagonist) tried to do the right thing for the good of his people and literally got burned and banished for it. While Aang (the protagonist) made a bad decision for selfish reasons and the world suffered for it. It was an excellent lesson in "everyone makes mistakes, and everyone handles things differently."

In my opinion, it's not fair to compare most characters to those of AtLA, because they were actually given the chance to grow and change, whereas many others were not.

Especially not those of VLD.

I feel as though maybe you are basing a lot of this on the members of the fandom who say "Lotor deserved better."

I do not believe those people are saying "Lotor did no wrong," but instead, it's more along the lines of "everyone deserves to be given a chance."

Did Lotor do horrible things? Yes. Does he deserve to be forgiven for doing those things? No.

But did he deserve a chance to a life where everything wasn't standing against him? Did he deserve a life where he could have learned the right thing and changed for the better?

Yes.

Everyone deserves a chance to better themselves. And it's up to them to make that chance count.

#asks #erithel's hot takes #lotor #avatar the last airbender #voltron legendary defender #series critique

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what-do-1000-swords-look-like · 2 years

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I have had this sitting in my drafts for so long and I was going to just delete it when going through the list to close things up today, but then I realized this is an important point especially when it comes to the topics of Destiel and Buddie.

Putting it all under the cut. It goes without saying, if you don't like, don't read.

This is just a personal pet peeve of mine but it absolutely irks me when I see people go out of their way to point out to others that a relationship can't happen because of one of the character's supposed sexual orientation (or both).

For example:

Not only is this person completely incorrect (see the breakdown of what is actually canon for Destiel here, plus I'll say it again, if it's brought to the characters' attention and part of the official story, it's canon) but of course Dean's purported sexuality is their default setting that they go to in order to make what they view as their successful argument. (spoiler alert: it's not) Completely missing the point that while Cas' romantic confession was confirmed by the actor as Cas' sexuality being confirmed (while this is great for representation and it's a win, technically Cas is a non-binary angel in a male presenting body), the actual moment in the episode had nothing to do with anything sexual at all. Cas loves Dean. It has nothing to do with Dean's sexual orientation, regardless of any response he might have given. It is a purely romantic moment. These idiots (above) don't seem to grasp the concept that romantic orientations and sexual orientations are two very different things and don't always go hand in hand. But I'm starting to digress, so I'll get to my main points.

First of all, visual media is a form of art and art is meant to be subjective when read/interpreted/viewed. Not everyone will see the same thing, and that is okay. So to go out of your way to invalidate someone's read of a character's sexuality or romantic orientation doesn't make you look smart, it just makes you look like an intolerant ass. So stop doing it. You're entitled to your opinion, but stop invalidating other people's viewpoints.

Secondly, wtf do sexual orientations have to do with romantic orientations or even someone's love for someone else? Yes, we have labels, but that doesn't always mean that once that box is checked that we're not allowed to make our own rules about how we live our lives, or to change our minds. Sexuality is fluid. As are romantic orientations. Remember that.

Thirdly, I think you need to ask yourselves (meaning the haters), why does this character or relationship being portrayed in this dynamic (i.e romantic) and/or orientation bother you so much that you feel the need to go out of your way to invalidate others seeing it that way? So much so that you will spend most of your free time if not all of it purposely going into the tags on this site (or on YouTube video comment sections or Twitter feeds) to look for this character's/ship's content and not only start ridiculous arguments about it but actively seek out to invalidate those people's readings/interpretation/desire for representation for themselves and others they know? So much that if an actor playing one of these characters or crew or writers or showrunner either confirms or denies anything in regards to this character/ship and this topic, that you immediately feel the need to attack full force and hurl hatred and insults at them? You really need to take a good look deep within as to why Dean possibly being bisexual or Buddie going canon or an older woman with a younger (but age appropriate) man (i.e. Caryl) bothers you so much.

Fourthly, stop. Just stop. No one needs that shit and you should just go troll somewhere else (or preferably don't troll at all). Regardless of how hard you "stan" or how rigorously you defend your viewpoint, it won't change what the show intends to do with the story (Buddie specifically). You can keep your viewpoints, share them (respectfully), but ultimately you do not decide where the story of the shows go; the writers do. So knock it off. Seriously.

And based on this conversation I had last night with my friend, I think I finally figured out why certain people go apeshit when it comes to these relationships possibly turning romantic, sexual, or both (besides blatant homophobia where that's concerned): self-inserts. Because if you think about it, most of the bullying and harassment and hatred and name-calling and all that shit comes from women. Not to say that there aren't men out there who state their opinions at times on these ships and loudly, but they really are the minority when it comes to this crap. And that's because of self-inserts. They fantasize about one of the characters or both (in certain situations). Either it's about a character they fantasize about or they place themselves within the role of the other character (i.e. Hermione, Sansa, Bella, etc.) and what they consider to be a threat (in the form of another character let's say or relationship forming), they immediately seek to invalidate, eradicate, and gatekeep that character(s).

I'll use some popular examples of ship wars to illustrate my point:

Caryl vs Donnie - who does this ship center around? Daryl.

Clexa vs Bellarke - centers around: Clarke.

Dramione vs Romione vs Harmione - centers around: Hermione.

Team Edward (Belward) vs Team Jacob (Jakella) - centers around the biggest self-insert going: Bella.

BuckTaylor vs Buddie - centers around: Buck.

BuckAbby vs Buddie - centers around: Buck.

EddieAna vs Buddie - centers around: Eddie.

Jonerys vs Jonsa - centers around: Jon.

Daensa vs Jonerys - centers around: Dany.

Destiel vs Wincest - centers around: Dean.

Sam (with literally anyone else) vs Wincest - centers around: Sam.

Can you see where I'm going with this? While some of these people may genuinely love one of these characters (or both) for themselves and feel protective of them (i.e. wanting Dean to live and be happy; wanting Eddie and Buck to both be happy; wanting Dany to live; wanting Bella to have the best of both worlds, etc.), the others take it to an extreme and that's where these bullying and invalidation tactics come in.

This isn't to nullify any conversation on any character's supposed sexual and/or romantic orientations and the kernel of homophobia that is always present (from certain sections of the audience) when it comes to queer coded relationships whether they've gone canon on screen (or in the books) or not. That all is very much still a legit point of concern (and I always say the people that are homophobic, that are indeed bothered by two men loving each other as more than friends, or two women dating, so much so that they attack and invalidate and bully and name-call need to do some serious self-reflection).

But it does make a bit more sense considering all the bullying and hatred that is spewed at Destiel fans, Buddie fans, Jonsa fans, Caryl fans, Jakella fans, Bellarke fans, etc. It's the self-insert problem.

And tbf, there's nothing wrong with self-insert itself as a practice. There are tons of well written Dean x Reader, Bucky x Reader, etc fanfics out there. It's a practice that some writers use (as we see with Stephenie Meyer as Bella in The Twilight Saga & J.K. Rowling as Hermione & Ron as her husband in Harry Potter) to create stories. But it's when it's taken to the extreme that it becomes a problem, when someone who wants to keep, say Dean or Sam, for themselves and turns that blurred line between fiction and reality into an excuse to hurl hatred and viciousness at someone who ships one of them with a different character which may or may not suggest a different sexual or romantic orientation compared to the one the character would need to have (in their minds) in order to engage with this fan this way in their fantasies.

And also tbf, there are some people out there who genuinely don't like the pairings or the characters that would be paired with their favorite/comfort characters. Some people don't genuinely like Cas. Some people genuinely don't like Eddie. Some people genuinely don't like Bellamy or Jacob or Ron or Carol. And who they feel these characters are to their faves. And that's okay. It's the bullying and invalidating if someone sees it differently than they do that is not.

So my whole long point is if you don't care for the ships and/or one or both characters of the ships, then fine. But stop going around bullying and invalidating and attempting to gaslight others who do care for them. You are incredibly wrong to do that and it certainly shows a lot about you as a person if you continue to. If you want to make a respectful and civilized point/debate about how you don't feel the writers of 9-1-1 are going to make Buddie canon for example or how you don't view Cas' confession as romantic, then by all means, express that opinion (again, respectfully). But if you're just jumping onto the ship tags to shit all over people who ship (and create content for) Destiel or Buddie or Daensa or any ships that you yourself don't consider to be canon simply because the idea of two men kissing each other (or two women) makes you uncomfortable or it somehow ruins your self-insert fantasy with one or both of those characters, then you seriously need to stop and check your repulsive vitriol at the door. Your hate is not warranted and it never will be. Just go enjoy the characters and ships you do and leave others to enjoy theirs in peace.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. ✌️

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YOU'RE THE CEO?!?!

-slams follow button-

I've been WAITING for some management around the anti c//a community

(Seriously thank you for this blog. Makes me feel less bonkers for being like.. one of the 20 ppl worldwide that can't stand c//a)...

First of all I'd like to thank you for your sweet words! ❤ I welcome you dearly on this humble, little Blog of mine. I'm still relatively new to Tumblr, so far I only silently watched the Tags from the shadows, leaving a Like every once in awhile at most.

Actually I expected to be instantly attacked when yesterday on Adora's Birthday I just had enough. But so far I got positive recognition only, including yours and while that is probably bound to change at some point in the future it is the best start I could've wished for. It is more than motivating to keep this Blog going.

Many Antis used to like Catradora and/or Catra at one point and I gotta admit I'm no different from that. Seeing the amazing Fanarts on Instagram and the comparisons to shows I loved I got really absorbed like: "Finally some good f**king food! Go lesbians, go." Hell, I thought Catra in a suit was so hot it scares me now. Now all I see is the memory of my abusive ex boyfriend from a time I did not know I'm aro yet.

I was in for a bitter surprise when out of boredom I started watching the show with a friend of mine because I very quickly started to dislike Catra. While I did not immediately notice how horrible she treats Adora even then (shoving and tackling her, making fun of her in dangerous situations, pulling her hair, guilt tripping and insulting her etc.), I still found her annoying and the second she tasered Adora I backed away from that Ship. At least I was able to figure out that was unhealthy. For a while I still was okay with it because "Hey, it still is the first/second Season" and Catra could still have lots of potential for a satisfying redemption but with Season 3 I just had enough.

Just like you described/hinted at I questioned my sanity: What if I'm in the wrong? There must be something about the Ship that so many like it, right? Surely something must be wrong with me and my perception of Catradora and Catra overall. It was horrifying, I hated it. I felt hated and alone for a long time, maybe in the future I'll share a few horror stories I lived through regarding that because there sure were some. The treatment did not contribute to my mental health. Yeah, sometimes it felt like this was going to shatter me.

Discovering people that thought like me, finding out about Tumblr was like a lifeline. It helped. It gave me hope. And I wanna do my best that other people can experience that too because despite being a minority, despite being treated like we're the "rotten" side of the fandom we're valid. We are entitled to our opinions. Dare I even say we're the ones that are right for questioning things that most people, including Noelle gloss over so easily? Abuse is not a joke. Or toxic obsessions, ableism. Nothing you should ignore for the sake of lesbian representation. And it's not like they did not have any other possible choices. We already got Spinnetossa and Scorfuma. Glimmadora would've worked, Adora with almost any other female (Huntara f. ex. or Perfuma, Mermista etc.) would've worked if that would not have been enough.

This Blog is to raise awareness to a small degree. Most Catradora stans will not listen. They're too caught up in their ignorance, they're too deep into it to ever admit they are wrong which is why 99% of the arguments they make are "fake" arguments (attacks, insults) or just generally untrue or invalid for different reasons. The Blog is also to give comfort and hope to others, to reach out. To people that are like me. Who think there might be something wrong with them. Who feel lonely or need validation that their opinion is very much justisfied. And the Blog finally is for me to rant so I can preserve a part of my sanity. Sometimes when interacting with toxic stans I can feel some of it leaving my body.

So next to lots of posts about my issues with Catra(dora) and its stand, I will also try to sneak in posts about support to Non Shippers (like reasons why shipping other Ships is valid, general support because most of us don't hear a "You are loved and valued" often enough etc.). May this account live on for a long time, I can see the Anti Catra(dora) Community is slowly growing. It's still not big, bigger than other Anti Tags though. And it does become less rare to encounter Non Shippers even outside of the regular Tumblr Tags. We might never "win" this fight and become the majority but we can try to do our best as a group. Repeat after me:

We are valid!! Our opinions, feelings and experiences matter!!

So to you and any Anti Catra(dora) person reading this: You have my love. My support. And I'll do my best to deliver some quality content to all of you for a long time to come!

And with that C.O.A.C. over and out, thank you so much for your Ask/"Question"/Message!

P.S. Oops, my hands slipped. I did not expect to slide right into a whole rant as to how I first encountered the Ship and what it did to me but here we are.

#anti c//a #anti catra #anti catradora #spop critical #response #spop salt #anti noelle stevenson #my post #support #mental health

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