I’m sure I’ve had this realization before at some point, brain fog is a fucker like that. But it just occurred to me that I use compression therapy for my POTS, namely in the form of a glorified beige spanx medical girdle but without any muscle/chest support. Corsets provide compression. Corsets, when worn properly, can also be used support chest muscles and help with back problems.
This whole time, this WHOLE TIME, I could have been living my best goth life and wearing a corset to help me not faint as much. And here I am like a chump having allergic reactions to spandex. Someone find me a corsetier stat!
@lilbitalexis asked for my top 5 david and patrick moments, which took WAY longer than i expected because how do you even decide???
needless to say, i have more than five. let’s start with the honorable mentions:
this look they share at the barbecue. patrick’s tiny eyebrow raise. david trying to hide just how happy he is. STEVIE so fucking happy for the both of them. i love it. highly underrated little moment, prob because we all know what happens right after.
they’re so cute throughout the christmas party–just constantly hanging all over each other, but i especially love this little moment where david closes his eyes and leans back to tap his head against patrick’s. it’s a quick little thing, but it’s SO sweet.
this sneaky little fuck getting down on one knee while david isn’t looking killlllls me. this is the point where i lose it every single time i watch the proposal.
domesticity! kissing! winking! pet names! what’s not to love? just two boys very happy to be engaged. i love them.
it killed me to not put the slow dancing scene in the top 5, but i just couldn’t quite manage it. i fucking love this scene though. the neck kiss takes it over the top. bless noah reid for making that A Thing.
OKAY here we go. top 5.
#5. THIS FUCKING KISS. just kill me. i’ve yelled about it plenty of other times before on this blog, but the gist of the thing is basically just AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
#4. i’m pretty sure it’s an actual crime to not have the first kiss in your top 5, right? the way you can see david contemplating it. patrick’s eyes flickering down to his lips, giving him permission to go for it. david wrapping his hand around to pull patrick that little bit more into it. GOD this is such a moment. thank god dan rewrote this scene. i’m sure patrick going for it would have been good, too, but this version is fucking iconic.
#3. the entirety of the open mic scene is incredible, and david’s face journey still destroys me every time. but it’s this particular moment here that i love best, when david finally lets himself enjoy the experience and accept it as the beautiful gesture that it is. also, that bashful little shoulder raise at the end there, gahhh, i love it and i love him.
#2. THE INTIMACY. i beg for death. honestly i would pick this entire episode if i could for the way that david shows just how much he loves and cares about patrick, but this little i love you really just seals the deal for me. david letting himself be vulnerable and affectionate in front of a whole crowd of people in order to give patrick the quiet support and reassurance that he needs in this moment… season 1 david would never. even season 4 david struggled with this kind of vulnerability. he’s come SO fucking far, and it’s so beautiful.
and finally, anyone who’s followed this blog for more than like a day should already know what’s coming in at number one…
#1. i will never stop losing my entire god damn mind over the sloppy mouth conversation. who’s just out here drinking their business partner’s juice without asking? who’s out here admitting that they think waaaaay too much about the state of their business partner’s mouth? these two idiots. this scene is pretty much the essence of their dynamic distilled down into one conversation. i love them and their flirty banter so fucking much.
One thing I’ve noticed is that quite a few Kataang fans go to port for Zukaang as at least their 2nd fave. In some serious ship battles some shippers can’t seem to deal with ships which conflict but I don’t see Kataang shippers as a general rule having this problem. (Though I’m sure they exist). Any (serious or otherwise) theories as to why this seems to be the case?
I think it’s because people who ship Kataang look at Katara, Aang, and Zuko’s characters in fundamentally different ways than Zu.tara shippers do (at least from what I’ve seen) - and in ways that tend to be more generally, objectively supported in canon. The only real ship war I’ve seen in the ATLA fandom is Kataang vs Zu.tara and if you look back at the history of it, it’s very clear to see who (*coughs* rabid zk stans *coughs*) have routinely and persistently started shit, which made it go from a “ship I don’t personally see but it’s whatever” to a notp I dislike.
But I digress.
Zuko and Katara are very similar characters particularly when it comes to their flaws, to the point of Katara in TSR acting like Book 1 Zuko in a lot of ways, which I’ve talked about before. However, these two characters are sometimes held up as the “most mature” or “mom and dad” of the gaang. Not only is the idea of anyone in the gaang being strictly speaking parent-esque to any of the others sort of ridiculous, nor is that dynamic not directly canonly chafed against in “The Runaway,” but Zuko and Katara are almost laughably immature.
I’ve talked about it before, but Katara (and Sokka) as do the rest of the Gaang in the series before they meet Aang project a false sense of maturity. For Katara, that means setting her dreams aside and being more motherly. For Sokka, that means being stoic and “a man” to be a good leader. Over time Katara makes peace with her more motherly tendencies, achieves her goals, and balances out being more of a peer. Sokka learns to express himself more clearly, lets go of sexist ideals, and does become a genuinely great leader.
But while Aang matures in some ways, he is insanely emotionally mature from the very start in a way that none of the other members of his friend group are (except like, maybe Suki, lol). He refuses to come between Katara and Sokka when both are behaving childishly in “The Avatar Returns”; he tries to communicate more openly with Katara in “The Warriors of Kyoshi” than she does with him. More than that, the only time we ever see Aang project onto other people is arguably in “Ember Island Players” and even that is to give a way out:
“On stage, when you said I was just like a ... brother to you, and you didn't have feelings for me [...] But it's true, isn't it?”
Like, when Aang is better at waterbending than Katara, because she’s wanted it her whole life, it grates on her nerves and she explodes at him. When Katara is better at a waterbending than Aang, even though he needs to be good at it to save the whole freaking world and has been struggling with it all day, this is his reaction.
When Sokka loses someone to death, he understandably struggles to cope with the loss. (Aang does too, at the Southern Air Temple.) To the point where Sokka almost misses out on a new relationship after talking about his grief. When Aang lays all his grief out in front of him, this is how he personally frames it (with guiding from Guru Pathik).
Lay all your grief out in front of you. You have indeed felt a great loss. But love is a form of energy, and it swirls all around us. The Air Nomads' love for you has not left this world. It is still inside of your heart, and is reborn in the form of new love.
[Aang is starting to cry tears of joy.]
When Zuko joins the Gaang, Katara both rightfully threatens and wrongfully projects onto him: “I think she’s connected her anger about [her mother’s death] to her anger at me.” Given that two of Katara’s real previous interactions with Zuko were him taunting and manipulating her with her mother’s necklace, and then learning how much the loss of a loved one hurt her, he then turns around and replicates that trauma by helping Azula murder Aang. Meanwhile, Aang actively doesn’t project onto either Zuko or the Fire Nation despite the harm that they’ve directly caused him.
Zuko gets jealous repeatedly based off nothing but Mai interacting with a boy he thinks is objectively attractive isn’t bad, per se. But then he throws the guy out of the way, into a vase, and completely loses his temper? Aang gets jealous... and promptly leaves the scene that’s making him upset in the first place. And although he’s upset, he never takes it out on Katara. And when Mai and Katara call the boys out for making a mistake, here’s how they respond.
Mai: Zuko, what is wrong with you?
Zuko: What's wrong with me?
Katara: I just said I was confused! I’m going inside.
Aang: I’m such an idiot!
Aang doesn’t lose his crap on Toph until she insults Appa. Toph routinely thinks she has to do things on her own, another similarity with Zuko: “You sound like my nephew, always thinking you need to do things on your own, without anyone's support.”
Aang routinely tries to de-escalate the group’s conflicts between Katara and Sokka, and Katara and Toph. He knows his friends are his greatest source of strength even if he sometimes doesn’t lean on him. Him thinking he has to do things on his own in “The Winter Solstice Part II” and especially in “The Awakening” is not his usual behaviour and the latter of which is born out of deep trauma and loss. He never says that killing Ozai is wrong, just that it’s wrong for him.
Which is more than Zuko “This isn’t Air Temple preschool, it’s the real world” and Sokka “What’s wrong with you?” (when Aang fails to kill melon-Ozai) can say.
Basically, all of this is to say that most Kataang shippers know that Aang is one of the most mature members of the Gaang, if not the most mature, with Katara and Zuko in terms of actually healthily dealing with their emotions very close to the bottom.
But Katara does mature a lot more and can both support and receive support from Aang: “I know sometimes it hurts more to hope and it hurts more to care, but you have to promise me you won’t stop caring.” Comforting her after Jet and bloodbending. Able to disagree while still giving the other the freedom to choose. Aang reflecting Katara’s friendliness and cheerful nature while also bringing out her more fun loving side. Laughing at each other’s jokes and supporting one another as benders.
Most Zukaang shippers, or at least the ones I’ve seen, ship it based on the potential the two have throughout the series, but only years after the show’s end. This is for two reasons:
1) The age gap. Four years does matter a lot in your teens and adolescence and while personalities can mesh later in life in a variety of ways, there’s no actual romance between Zuko and Aang for good reason. At least not until they’re both in their 20s.
2) Zuko has a lot more work to do on himself.
Zuko can be thoughtless when he’s stressed or impatient and some of his cruelest remarks to Aang, specifically regarding Air Nomad culture, come in the last few episodes of the show and finale. He needs to work on removing any residual Fire Nation superiority propaganda and indoctrination. He was calling Katara and Sokka peasants like six months ago. Stuff like that doesn’t go away overnight or even just over a series of months.
He chooses to attack Aang rather than just have a conversation about his training. He needs to work on more freely expressing his feelings first and foremost and creating dialogue that isn’t just about his problems (ie. Zuko’s able to open up to Katara in “Crossroads of Destiny” and about Iroh to various characters because it’s about his pain or hits a sympathetic nerve).
An episode ago he was still asking Katara things like, “Everyone else trusts me now, what is it with you?” as though he’s entitled to Katara’s forgiveness/trust just because he’s changed and everyone else has given it. Part of changing yourself to be a better person is to do so because it’s the right thing to do and to atone whether or not it gives you someone’s compassion or forgiveness. And by and large Zuko does that!
But he still stumbles and while I think Mai is a wonderful Fire Lady for him, because she understands the political world and tempers him. It’s not like Mai is perfect either, but she’s still (ironically) more healthily open with her emotions than he is. Mai also knows Zuko incredibly well because they grew up together, loving him before, during, and after his banishment and his redemption arc. But any other partner wouldn’t have that insight and it would take a lot of work, for more reasons that one.
The main one being what I said before, which is that Zuko has a lot to learn about sustaining measured, supportive, longterm relationships and friendships, particularly with peers and partners, where he gives and takes in equal measures. This is not his fault nor a fault of him; he was a deeply abused child growing up and didn’t get the proper support and love in so, so many ways. But it’s still his responsibility to learn and unlearn, particularly when it comes to Fire Nation ideals and indoctrination.
And only once Zuko has done that to the absolute best of his ability in a year long process, only once talking and opening up is closer to his first instinct, only when he is more balanced with himself within his nation than he is at the end of the show and has come to fully respect other cultures and philosophies, do I want him to be with Aang and be further challenged and inspired.
Because for most of the characters, the end of the show is their ending; their peaceful happy ever after. For Zuko, in so many ways, it is only his beginning. But that’s okay, because he’ll have help in friendship, too.
There’s also a lot of parallels between Kataang and Zukaang in their dynamic with Aang and they’re easily Aang’s two most important narrative dynamics (even if my favourite relationship in the show is him and Sokka’s friendship).
This view of Zuko’s long road ahead and of Aang’s maturity is shared by people who don’t usually ship Zu.tara, with Zukaang and Kataang the most popular subsequent ships. Kataang is cute and canon (like, so canon it can’t be sunk; they spent their entire lives together; that’s Fact, so anything else is obviously very fun fanon), Zukaang lets Aang balance his partner out in a similar way to Kataang, and in both cases, Aang is properly cherished. Everybody wins.
You know when Chris was on the "Locker room guy" sketch on Kimmel? That look, with the really thick mustache and the stubble is my favourite of his (sadly there aren't many photos of it 😭). I always wonder what's other people favourite, because I know mine isn't the most common one 😂😂😂
Are you talking about THIS look???
Because if so...I mean you do you, boo boo 😂💕 He’s cute when he talks about football, but the moustache, just....ugh. It’s a no from me.
MY favorite Chris look??? I can’t choose. There’s just so many different looks he’s had. Sebastian, it’s easy. I have a favorite look on him. But Chris?? He’s so perfect all the time. If I had to choose... the beard and slicked back hair.
Look at how soft he looks. The cardigan, the fluffy beard, I want to run my fingers through his hair.
This is PRIME snuggle material right here. He’d take you to a party, joke around with everyone and have a good time, he’d offer to be the DD and make sure you got home okay. You’d maybe drink a little, but not enough to actually get drunk. You’d sit on your couch together, he’d throw his arm over your shoulders and let you lay your head on his chest as you ran your fingers through his beard. He’d take your dog out for you and not pressure you into having sex because he cares about you as a person. I need to stop...
Not to mention he’s a fucking gentleman??? The guys who match with us on Tinder don’t have jobs and call women bitches. Chris Evans has ruined dating, and men in general, for us all by being perfect and setting our standards way too high.
Do you think azula's arc of going mad was written well and do you think ursa was a bad mother to azula and that her treating zuko as her favourite is what led to her not just resenting zuko but also growing closer with her father (not that that monster ever loved her, he just saw her as a tool to use for his own means)?
I’m gonna break this down question by question just for clarity’s sake.
Do I think Azula’s descent into madness was well written? Yes. Incredibly so. Perfectly foreshadowed from her first appearance of thinking her power was more than the tides and “perfect isn’t good enough.” Everything you need to know about her relationship with Mai and Ty Lee set up in “Return to Omashu,” through power and submission, shown by “Zuko Alone,” it’s been that way since they were kids (Azula pushing Ty Lee down when she’s better at cartwheels than her, and humiliating Mai and Zuko). Her status as a tragic antagonist established by “the Beach.” Her worldview beginning to shatter when Mai and Ty Lee stand against her for love, although we don’t know how deep those cracks are yet. Her being abandoned by Ozai and slipping into paranoia. Just… everything about the mirror scene and the fact that she persists so well, even, until she’s lost everything. It is one of the most breathtaking parts of the series to me (which is saying something).
As for Ursa, and the Fire Nation Royal Family, I don’t tend to linger on labels of good or bad. “Zuko Alone,” is an episode I love for it’s uncomfortable complexity. For example, some people like to say that Zuko was always a good person deep down because of what he was banished for: speaking up for the innocent. And it’s true, he did do that, but he also wasn’t a good person, because he was eager to participate in imperialist war meetings and laughed, alongside his uncle, sister, and mother, about burning a city to the ground. If we give labels to the Fire Nation Royal family, to any of them, then yes, they’re always going to be bad. So I’m not going to do that.
Mothers also tend to be far more harshly demonized for things fathers are not, so let’s keep that in mind too.
To actually answer your question of Ursa’s parenting skills though, I want to counter that question with the fact that there are actually two Ursas, both of which we catch only glimpses of: Ursa as she was, and the Ursa that exists in Azula’s mind (both hallucination and not).
Despite the fact that “Zuko Alone,” are flashbacks primarily composed of Zuko’s memories, a handful of them aren’t actually from his POV, like the first scene with Azula, Ty Lee, and Mai. We also hear lines (namely Ursa’s “what is wrong with that child?”) among others when Zuko is out of earshot. It is for this reason I see these flashbacks as being not biased for or against any one character, tbh.
I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the Fire Nation Royal family over the years, pondering plenty of questions. Especially because I don’t consider any part of “The Search” ATLA comics to be canon. Did Ursa and Ozai ever love each other? Yes, I think so. How did Iroh and Ozai’s unseen relationship inform Ozai’s character? What was Azulon like as a father? Etc.
But one thing I’ve never pondered is that the state of Azula and Zuko is 99% Ozai’s fault. We see he valued firebending highly, and that Azula was favoured from a young age for being a prodigy. “The golden child and scapegoat,” is a common dynamic in abusive house holds, always set up by the primary abuser, and it’s the one Zuko and Azula most clearly fit into and it sets up the rest of their dynamic for the rest of the series. Beyond the fact that Ozai would have been the one to set that up, he also enforced it even more heavily in Ursa’s absence until he outright burned and disowned Zuko at the first convenient opportunity.
I don’t think Ozai ever held much love for Zuko in his heart (I don’t think he’s capable of real, selfless love) but I don’t think he always hated the boy quite so much. When they were young, Ember Island is a place even Zuko admits that their family was happy. Ozai must have held something for Zuko in the earlier years, otherwise Azulon would have known better than to make his punishment what it did. If Ozai had always been completely uncaring towards Zuko, then Azulon wouldn’t have ordered Ozai to kill him in response for insulting Iroh after the “loss of his only beloved son.” I’m not saying Ozai loved Zuko, but there was something there. Real tolerance if not traces of affection.
I think Ozai aligned himself with Azula (who was far closer in personality to pre-Lu Ten’s death Iroh) because he saw who he thought he was in her: a second born firebending prodigy who he refused to let be overshadowed by a less talented, wimpier firstborn. Ozai resented Zuko both for being like Iroh (that somewhat compassionate streak all the same, and clearly they were close) and also for being the parts of Ozai that he hated about himself too, because he also knows he isn’t like Azula. That Iroh has always been the better firebender.
I think Ursa reacted somewhat in response to Ozai’s behaviour. Azula was getting praise that Zuko just didn’t. Azula was also developing a scary mean streak, like thinking it’d be okay if her uncle died just so their dad could be Firelord (gee, I wonder who she picked that up from, Ozai). And she’s like eight, and never shows remorse for any of it. I’d be extremely worried about my child if they were expressing those sorts of tendencies too.
Azula is also shown to have friends and Zuko is not. If you had a child who had a couple of good friends that she could play with, seemingly quite regularly, and a child who didn’t have any friends, you’d probably spend more time giving the friendless child company. Ursa encourages Zuko to hang out with Azula per Azula’s request and despite of Zuko’s refusal. When things go south and Zuko is humiliated, Ursa seems surprised. She didn’t expect Zuko to have a really bad time playing with his sister, hence why she made him do so. This is a blatant case of her taking Azula’s side over him, but it doesn’t fit with Azula’s image of her mother, so it gets forgotten.
Ursa also always calls Azula and Zuko together for family activities, like reading Iroh’s letter from the warfront. Both siblings enjoy his letter and are given gifts. She sits in the garden while Zuko and Azula play with one another before they get the letter about Lu Ten and she mourns for her nephew.
Then, Ursa supports Zuko when his firebending display goes wrong. The only reason she doesn’t support Azula in this section is because Azula doesn’t need it. Her performance goes off flawlessly. I have little doubt in my mind that if Azula had shown need of it, Ursa would have offered the same support she gave to Zuko to Azula. Azula was just better at winning her father’s favour and didn’t often need that help.
So yes, I suppose, I think Ursa was a quote unquote good mother. But she was flawed like the rest, and also had to leave to protect Zuko. (Again: I think she would’ve done what she did for her daughter, too. She loved her children, and I’ll explain more in a minute.) So for six years, Azula’s only influence was Ozai.
And now, to talk about “the Beach” quote and the mirror scene.
I could sit here and complain how our mom liked Zuko more than me, but I don’t really care. My own mother thought I was a monster. She was right, of course, but it still hurt.
Azula thinks Ursa - the Ursa in her mind - was right about her being a monster. Azula fully thinks of herself as a monster. And the reason this wounds her so much is because she did it for her father’s approval. She did it not to be treated like Zuko. She doesn’t fear her father so long as she’s perfect, so long as there’s another scapegoat, and that means she is terrified of Ozai. Then, when love is more powerful than fear with Mai and Ty Lee, Azula begins to crumble, until she gives way entirely:
A: Don’t pretend to act proud. I know what you really think of me. You think I’m a monster.U: I think you’re confused. All your life you used fear to control people, like your friends Mai and Ty Lee.A: Well what choice do I have?! Trust is for fools. Fear is the only reliable way. Even you fear me.U: No. I love you, Azula. I do.
Azula wanted to control people to keep them around and to be able to use them. Then, Mai and Ty Lee leave her. It was clearly an abusive dynamic, yet this Ursa still calls them Azula’s “friends.” Azula is confused because the worldview she built, “fear is the only reliable way,” out of Ozai’s abuse, has been proven wrong for the first time in her life. And then, Azula turns her anger more directly on her mother. Her mother has to fear her, because her mother think she’s a monster, right? And that’s why she was right to ignore every warning her mother give and listen to her father instead, right?
Azula says that Ursa liked Zuko more than her, but she didn’t say “love,” because she doesn’t think her mother could love her while also thinking of her as a monster. And I don’t think Ursa thought of her that way, but to Azula, that’s besides the point.
This confrontation breaks her because Ursa says that she loves her even if she is a monster. But Ursa is already gone, because of Zuko, and her father is gone and her worldview is literally and metaphorically shattered, and Azula can’t accept that. She can’t accept, “When is a monster not a monster? Oh, when you love it.” Because she thinks of herself as fundamentally unworthy of unconditional love due to only being aware of receiving her father’s conditional love for years.
Short answer: Azula’s downfall is tragic and perfect, Ursa was a good but flawed mother, and a turning point in Ozai’s resentment for Zuko was Ursa leaving.
Why does Rayla fall in love with Callum so soon after meeting him?
Ooh there are so many good answers to this question, anon! @raayllum has a pretty solid answer to it here (basically it’s that Callum is the first person to love her this unconditionally in her life). Many others have also given their ideas as to why Rayla quickly fell in love with him, so there are great answers to this question out there.
But here are my thoughts as to why Rayla loves Callum:
Because he makes her feel safe.
Her whole life, Rayla has never really been allowed to be vulnerable. For instance, she wouldn’t admit that she’s afraid of water because:
This whole show-no-fear mentality is a rather toxic aspect of Moonshadow culture. Basically, Rayla was never allowed to give voice to her doubts, fears, and insecurities. If she did, she would be judged, ridiculed, shamed.
And in the most extreme circumstances, punished.
We never see Runaan or even Ethari talk to Rayla about how she felt in light of her parents’ alleged betrayal. I doubt they ever did, since Rayla seemed to be more comfortable just pretending they’re dead.
For her, it seems much more natural to just bury up those feelings and feelings of worthlessness and failure, than confronting them head on. What’s interesting is that bottling up these emotions actually make Moonshadow elves less effective as warriors; because Rayla was afraid to confront her mistake in letting Marcos live, the assassins had bound themselves to killing Harrow and Ezran before they realized they were discovered, thus committing them to a suicidal mission.
But in general, Rayla doesn’t want to admit when she’s feeling vulnerable because she thinks it makes her weak in the eyes of her peers.
And all her life, she’s never felt safe to admit what she was actually feeling.
Suddenly there was this boy in her life who was always upfront about how he was feeling, even admitting that he felt he was so bad at everything the very first day they met.
Here was a kid who never hides his fears, doubts, and insecurities. And, in spite of having his own feelings of worthlessness, she saw that his vulnerability actually gave him strength of his own, pushing him to commit greater and greater feats of bravery, up to and including yeeting himself off the pinnacle in a desperate bid to save someone he loves.
Moreover, he encouraged her to share her feelings.
But most importantly of all, when she felt raw and broken, he never judged her for feeling this way.
His message was clear—she’s not weaker for feeling this way and in fact, he insists, she can be both amazing and feel this way.
In a way, he even argues that her vulnerabilities are actually what make her stronger:
Callum: “That was brave, Rayla.”
Rayla: “No, I already told you, I’m afraid of water.”
Callum: “I know, that’s why doing what you did was so heroic.”
Eventually, he finally rubs off on her, and she becomes willing to admit how hard it was for her just to be in the antechamber.
And it’s because she’s figured out that, around Callum, it’s safe for her to share this. Safe to be vulnerable, and to be herself, because he is the first person who has ever given her a space where that is possible.
Moreover, her feeling safe around him has a physical component to it as well—whenever her life is in danger, it’s Callum who saves her.
Whether it’s from natural threats—like an avalanche or river monster—or from others—such as Claudia and Soren— Callum is there for her. Even if he has to use unethical means like Dark Magic, he’ll do it if it means he can protect her. Even when he knows she’ll be angry with him for it. Even when he knows it might cost him his life.
Now, Rayla protects Callum and Ezran on their journey, but the important difference is that, as a trained warrior, Rayla probably never expects someone to jump in and save her. He’s not a fighter yet, and is still new to being a mage, but he’s willing to push the limits of what he knows when she needs his help.
So much so that, on the pinnacle, he takes this a step further and for the first time leaps to almost certain death and risks his own life to save hers against impossible odds.
When someone does all of this for you,
When someone makes you feel safe both physically and emotionally.
When someone supports and stands by you no matter how you’re feeling.
When someone will value you no matter how broken you may feel.
When someone will break through boundaries in their abilities just to protect you.
What else could you possibly want to say to them but:
just to add to your "callum is a gentleman" post xD, he was also a gentleman when 1.) he apologized for clinging to Rayla on the floating seed thing (took his hands off of her like he didn't mean to grab her like that) 2.) when he didn't assume it was ok to hold on to her on the shadowpaw (he waited for her to say it was ok first), 3.) AND when he basically confessed at the oasis but reassured her that he wasn't complimenting her just to get her to kiss him :) (ps thanks for the open anon ask)
yess anon you’re exactly right!!
s3e2 he apologized for grabbing onto rayla w/o her permission (but she was fine with it so like)
s3e5 he (very clumsily) got rayla’s consent to hold onto her when they were riding the shadowpaw
s3e4 he wanted to clarify he wasn't complimenting her just so she would kiss him
callum is also generally just very sensitive and polite around rayla especially when she’s having a hard time. he has this ‘soft voice’ he uses when hes addressing rayla with her issues.
s3e4 when they are travelling on their mounts, callum realizes something is wrong and tries to be sympathetic by saying “yesterday must've been a hard day for you...”
when callum asks what she’s thinking about on the ambler his tone is very gentle and he looks super worried
he tries to aleviate tension after nyx made fun of them with the blankets by laughing
(rayla lowkey almost knocked him over)
he is super gentle when he notices rayla crying- extending a hand to offer comfort
(i paused and this one frame is getting to me i’m cackling)
s3e8 when rayla runs out, callum asks if she’s okay
there’s probably a lot more but i can’t remember atm. anyways, my point is: rayla (most likely) has never been treated this way by anyone. not even by ethari, and ethari’s the soft one. someone caring about her and helping her in the smallest ways is probably very new but she eventually accepts it.
a gesture as simple as helping someone off the ground is something anyone can be grateful for. what’s even more important is that callum and ezran are the first people to allow rayla to feel what she feels and not shame her for it. may i call back to s1e5 when ezran flat out tells her: “why didn’t you just tell us before? it’s okay to be afraid of things.” (referencing her fear of water). this type of treatment and sympathy is new but rayla openly accepts it. it’s truly what she needed.
tldr; rayla’s character is about breaking out of unhealthy habits that she grew up with and callum’s gentleman skills are 13/10
(also no problem anon! i know some people are shy about sending asks)