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sweetstarcollector · 10 months

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I was looking up some statistics on juvenile detention centers when I came across this chart from the Department of Justice. It lists crime categories, and among other things, what percentage of those arrested for each crime category were female. It also only lists offenses committed by minors. I scrolled through, and noticed that in every category females accounted for less than 50% of arrests, except for one in which females were a whopping 69% of arrests. Which category, you ask? What was the singular category in which females are overrepresented?

Oh, just FUCKING PROSTITUTION.

I was so confused, at first I thought I made a mistake and was looking at adult arrests. Criminalizing and arresting prostituted people of any age is abhorrent, but I figured surely no one with a brain could justify arresting a child for being abused, right? Right?

Wrong. According to this data, in the US in 2019, nearly 300 minors were arrested for the "crime" of being sexually abused. 14% of those arrested were age 14 or younger. I then did some more research and discovered this information, provided by Shared Hope International:

As of the most recent SHI report, only 10 out of 50 US states have comprehensive safe harbor laws for sexually exploited prostituted minors. 28 out of 50 states have fully or partially comprehensive safe harbor laws. That means in 22 states, minors can still be criminalized for experiencing sexual abuse and trafficking. Not to mention the significant lack of states providing affirmative defense, which would help protect victims who harm or kill their abusers and traffickers. These laws and lack of protections are harmful to all victims of child trafficking, but especially target Black girls, who are incredibly vulnerable to childhood sex trafficking.

This information is honestly some of the most disgusting information I've ever learned. I did some more research into what can be done to help change this, this page from Shared Hope International seems like a good place to start. It helps you contact your governor, state legislators, and federal legislators in support of safe harbor laws, as well as other pieces of legislation meant to protect victims. Please, those of you in the US, take a moment out of your day and contact your representatives. Rights4girls also is doing some incredible work in this area, so check them out and maybe donate if you can. If anyone knows of any other charities that address this, especially ones outside of the US, please share them too. No child should EVER be arrested for being abused.

#I seriously cannot wrap my mind around this #arresting children for being sexually abused #hell world #feminism #radfem #radical feminism #radical feminists do interact #radical feminists please touch #radblr #radical feminist safe #radical feminists do touch #nordic model #nordic model now #sex trade #sex trade abolition #misogyny #misogynoir #my post

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sayruq · 2 months

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Palestinian children in the Israel military detention system face physical and emotional abuse, with four out of five (86%) of them being beaten, and 69% strip-searched, according to new research by Save the Children. Nearly half (42%) are injured at the point of arrest, including gunshot wounds and broken bones. Some report violence of a sexual nature and some are transferred to court or between detention centres in small cages, the child rights organisation said.

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femsolid · 5 months

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Male celebrities who've attacked women.

an endless list

Shia Labeouf (Actor)

Has sexually assaulted, verbally abused and harassed several women. Strangled his ex. Shot a dog to "get in character for a movie". Has cheated on every girlfriend he's ever had and knowlingly given them STDs.

Elvis Presley (Singer)

Has sexually assaulted several underage girls (as young as 14) and married one of them. A woman his own age was deemed "too old for him". He only wanted to have sex with virgin girls. When his young bride told him she didn't love him anymore and wanted separation, he became extremely violent and raped her.

Dustin Hoffman (actor)

Has sexually harassed and assaulted mutliple women including a minor.

There's always more...

Cuba Jr Gooding (actor)

Has raped multiple women and no less than 30 women have come forward accusing him of sexual asssault.

Mel Gibson (actor, director)

Beat his wife and harassed his daughter.

Jared Leto (Singer,actor)

Has sexually harassed and raped several uderage girls.

Roman Polanski (Director, actor)

Has raped multiple women and children. Has admitted to drugging and raping a 13 years old then fled to France to escape justice. People still work with him and he's still receiving awards.

Armie Hammer (Actor of "Call me by your name")

Has raped multiple women and violently assaulted them. Has an obsession with dismembering women and cannibalism. Sent a series of texts to his ex saying he was masturbating while picturing himself breaking her bones. Actor Robert Downey Jr has paid for his "rehab" and offered him to live in one of his houses.

Ben Affleck (actor, director)

Has sexually assaulted two women.

Casey Affleck (actor)

Has sexually harassed and assaulted many women.

Gerard Depardieu (Actor)

Has sexually harassed, abused or raped at least 13 women and is currently being investigated for it.

Snoop Dogg (Rapper)

Used to be a human trafficker driving around with a van full of girls he would sell to men, sometimes to a whole athlete team. He claimed he could have sex with any of the prostituted women he owned anytime he wanted. He was married at the time. He wrote multiple rap songs about beating up women to make sure we're kept under control, calling us sexist slurs. He was recently accused of sexual assault by multiple back up dancers.

Charlie Chaplin (actor)

Raped a child and got her pregnant. At the age of 48 he married a 18 years old girl.

There's always more...

David Bowie (singer)

Raped a 15 years old girl when he was 25 and committed statutory rape on a 14 years old when he was 17. He's been well known for preying on minors well into his 40s.

Jack Nicholson

After raping 2 prostituted women he refused to pay them. He beat them up and tried to kill one who ended up at the hospital.

Donald Trump (US president)

Has sexually harassed and assaulted multiple women.

Vincent Van Gogh (painter)

Has harassed and assaulted multiple women, even following them home. A petition was therefore created by the locals to have him removed from the community and put in a hospital.

Sylvester Stallone (actor)

Raped a 16 years old girl.

James Franco (actor)

Has sexually harassed and assaulted multiple women and a minor. He would use his "acting lessons" and classes to manipulate his female students into doing sexual things.

Chris Brown (singer)

Beat his partner black and blue and raped another woman.

Freud (psychoanalyst)

Has facillitated the sexual abuse and rape of his female patients, some were children, protected rapists and participated in the disfigurment of a female patient in particular. He claimed his reluctant female patients were hysterical, lesbians and witches.

Marlon Brando (actor) et Bernardo Bertolucci (director)

Both raped an actress on set.

There's always more...

Dominique Strauss-Kahn (politician, formally head of the monetary fund)

Has sexually harassed multiple women and raped a roomkeeper at the hotel he was staying in.

Johnny Depp (actor)

Has been arrested multiple times for violence. Has raped and beaten his ex wife and called her a whore (among other things), notably commenting on the "fishy" smell of her vulva and writing about how he wants to kill and rape her to death.

Emile Hirsche (actor)

Assaulted a female collegue. She was a film executive and he strangled her before throwing her on the ground.

Woody Allen (director)

Has assaulted and raped multiple women, including his adoptive daughter who was 7. People still work with him and he's still receiving awards.

Cee Lo Green (singer)

Has raped a woman and explained on twitter that it wasn't rape, because "if the woman is unconscious it implies consent".

Nicholas Cage (actor)

Beat his wife.

Terrence Howard (acteur)

Beat his wife and threatened to kill another woman.

Tupac (rapper)

Raped a woman.

Luc Besson (director)

Married a 16 years old girl and beat her. Raped another woman and sexually harassed several others. Despite this, many famous actors still work for him.

There's always more...

Ike Turner (musician)

Beat his wife.

Mike Tyson (boxer)

Beat his wife and raped a woman.

Sean Penn (actor)

Beat his wife.

Tariq Ramadan (theologist)

Has raped and sexually harassed multiple women.

Morgan Freeman (actor)

Has sexually harassed at least 15 women.

Charlie Sheen (actor)

Beat his wife.

Nelly (singer)

Has raped and sexually assaulted several women.

Steven Seagal (actor)

Beat his wife. Sexually assaulted several female collegues.

Mickey Rourke (actor)

Beat his wife.

There's always more...

Slash (musician)

Beat his wife.

Louis C.K (comedian)

Has sexually harassed multiple women.

Christian Slater (actor)

Beat his wife.

Victor Hugo (poet)

Raped prostituted women on the regular and was abusing his wife.

Quentin Tarantino (director)

Has sexually harassed multiple women and protected several rapists.

When discussing what Roman Polanski did (drugging and sodomizing a 13 years old girl) Tarantino said it wasn't rape, that the child wanted it, that the child was Polanski's girlfriend, that an actual rape is violent and that this one wasn't. When the radio hosts told him that the girl was clear about not wanting any of what happened, Tarantino responded that her interfering mother had coached her to say that.

Yanni (musician)

Beat his wife.

Michael Douglas (actor)

Sexually harassed a woman.

Josh Brolin (actor)

Beat his wife.

Cristiano Ronaldo (footballer)

Raped a woman.

There's always more...

R Kelly (singer)

Raped and tortured many, many girls.

Franck Ribéry, Karim Benzema et Sidney Govou (footballers)

Acted as pimps and sexually exploited a minor.

Joe Biden (USA president)

Has sexually harassed several women and girls.

Seal (singer)

Has sexually assaulted a woman.

Julian Assange (whistleblower)

Has raped multiple women. Assange has written about his obsession with impregnating virgin women and he has alread impregnated several women (who are now single mothers). The rapes he's accused of all involved him trying to impregnate the women without their kowing. He is a fervant anti-feminist and racist. He's still supported by most of the left and celebrated as a hero.

Michael Fassbender (actor)

Assaulted his ex multiple times. One time he threw her and dragged her alongside their car. Her injuries included a swollen ankle, a burst ovarian cyst, a broken nose, and a blown out kneecap.

Oscar Pistorius (athlete)

While his wife had taken refuge in the bathroom he shot 4 times through the door with a gun, effectively killing her. He'll be out of prison next year after spending 10 years behind bars.

Morgan Ciprès (figure skater)

Sexually harassed a 13 years old via messaging.

Joaquin Phoenix (acteur)

Has sexually harassed multiple women.

Kurt Cobain (singer)

Tried to rape a mentally disabled girl, a "retard" as he'd say, but gave up because her "vagina" smelled too bad. Later the girl's father came to find him and screamed that he had taken advantage of his daughter. Cobain was therefore nicknamed the "retard fucker" by his classmates.

There's always more...

But I'm tired.

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tocomplainfriend · 5 months

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YOU DIDN'T WRITE ANYTHING SIMILAR TO BOJACK BRO! BH has so much structure and essence, it is insane. Specially after S1, the intelligence in those BH scripts is nowhere to be found in HB. In helluva, There are these tiny good things that get murdered every other episode. Things that sound better as concept-than how you developed it. There are so many great jokes that aren't based on saying "dick dick whore fuck", so many of their animal characters work for actually smart animal jokes. Or the tongue twisters! YOU BARELY LET CHARACTER BE BAD PEOPLE. Every social issue they suddenly have a sad pass and their dad was mean and that JUSTIFIES EVERYTHING? Bojack H literally goes against that so hard is impossible you think this way if you understood Todd's speech, or Bojack's interview or the last two fucking episodes of the series. All the main cast also feels almost empty of bad qualities that aren't uwu justified by the plot and writing. Certain things stop just being explanation of characters and how they came to be. It sounds more like you gave your characters a bunch of shitty we are in hell traits + things that you didn't even recognize as problematic. AND TRIED TO SAVE THEM IN THE WRITING as just flaws- or making something else happen to the character to be like "Oh they have it so difficult! They just didn't get taught how to love right" When they are being abusive toxic fucks instead.

I legit believe all of Herb story had something so strong to say about queer issues, then Helluva. Like he literally comes out to BJ, kisses him later on and immediately dismiss it. -And then he gets arrested by the police for having gay sex -as public indecency. Many conservatives complain about it cause Herb ran the Horsing around show, saying "it is a show for children people like him shouldn't flaunt around their alternative lifestyle and ruining America"

(Read the sings LMAO) All of this in the 80s to 90s

Also, this guy's comments

"So, here I am, being your mother, which I know is giving you all sorts of mixed-up ideas about gender, while your brain is still loose and stupid. Just remember, if you become a queer later in life, this isn't my fault! Don't you sing no songs in your nightclub act called, "My Daddy was My Mommy," while gazing longingly at a tangled string of pearls... Pearls are for ladies, Bojack. Pearls are for ladies."

AND THIS GUYYYYY HELLO? They have multiple episodes, including Todd's sexuality- but not all the episodes nor his personality revolve around that! He even made a dating app for Ace people with his girlfriend!

I already have 3 "Bojack Horseman > Helluva Boss" post in this account!

#vivziepop critique #helluva boss criticism #vivziepop critical #helluva boss critique

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self-loving-vampire · 1 year

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I feel like not only are a lot of people more tolerant of abuse than you might think, so long as said abuse is portrayed as either necessary or deserved, but also that "abuse" is more narrowly defined in the average person's mind than it probably should be.

For instance, 90% of the world's children live in countries where it remains fully legal to forcefully undress and spank them as "discipline". Acceptance for the practice remains extremely high in countries that allow it.

This is an action that is very unambiguously harmful according to research as well as unacceptable based on a consistent application of the same principles you would apply to humans in general. It also happens often that parents use it as an outlet for anger.

Legally, you can be arrested for sex crimes if you did the exact same thing to an adult that many parents do to their children without a second thought and full social acceptance. Many of them brag about it openly in their social circles because they think it is a sign of being a caring parent and believe not hitting children as correction is negligent and bad for society.

It is not seen as abusive or damaging, but as a tool to keep children from becoming "spoiled".

To people like this:

Emotional abuse is generally not treated as real. In fact, a lot of authoritarian parenting is often based on deliberately breaking a child's will as if this was a desirable and necessary thing. Just something normal that you do to ensure your child will grow up right.

Physical abuse refers only to extreme and unprovoked violence, like hospitalizing your children for no reason. If it is "mild" or if there is some kind of discipline-related justification then it's acceptable even if we know from research that it still leads to long-term harm.

Sexual abuse is generally real but things like forcefully undressing your child and spanking them in what is generally considered a sexual body part doesn't count even though it would if done to an adult.

Their model of what qualifies is often as misrepresentative as people's models for sexual violence in general. They tend to imagine unlikely "horny strangers hiding in the bushes" types of situations and don't even think of examining themselves and their own actions.

A lot of these same parents are also now redefining sexual abuse to mean stuff like "queer people existing where children might notice them" or "being supportive when your child is not cishet".

Cultural norms around parenting are rotten.

#familia delenda est #abuse #child abuse #100

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intersectionalpraxis · 3 months

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hey im sorry if you already answered this and i don’t mean to antagonize you, but out of curiosity: why do you tag your Palestine posts with feminism? i don’t want to come off as rude but it did kind of confuse me at first

It's no worries at all, I have addressed this a handful of times, and another person asked me, and I answered. The anon question is deep in my page, so I'll share some posts I've spoken about why more feminists need to be talking about Gaza below, and address why not talking about this as a feminist issue is problematic.

The fight to dismantle power structures and institutions doesn't end at the patriarchy, but when there is an end to white supremacy, capitalism, and western imperialism, among other axises of oppression.

Strides and fights to liberation shouldn't be cherry-picked (we see this predominantly in white feminism -who only act when it personally effects them). And at the most technical level, women's experiences are intersectional and extend beyond just liberation from gender norms and expectations -yes, it is at the core of feminist discourse, to shatter ceilings and demand equity across the board, but that also includes the intersections -race, class status, disability, sexuality, religion, ethnicity, among many other aspects of our identities.

Women and children are also disproportionately impacted and killed by IOF terrorism. They are targeted purposely, and I addressed this in some of the posts below. An IOF official liked a post that said Palestinian women part of the 'Hamas infrastructure' and said they must be 'dealt' with via their deaths. Pregnant Palestinian women are being left without care during their trimesters, and tens of thousands of them have zero to inadequate care; and many are miscarrying. There is also a period care shortage, and many Palestinians have resorted to using cloths. Which overall the lack of access can cause health ramifications in the future.

So this is why ALL my posts are tagged with feminist and feminism. Especially when the IOF regularly uses 'don't the feminists of the world care that Hamas is raping Israeli women' in their propoganda videos and campaigns in order to spread misinformation and weaponize women's and feminist liberation movements to excuse their genocide of Palestinian people.

We should also not forget about the rampant sexual violence Palestinian women and children have and continue to experience by abusive, predatory rapists among the IOF soldiers, both past and present. Especially in the prisons' systems. I talk about this a lot on my page. So much of what I included below is only a fraction of what I have spoken about. My bottom line is if you're a feminist who talks about "women's liberation" and that doesn't include ALL women being systematically oppressed by settler/imperial/colonial forces, and you're especially not critical of your governments being complicit or funding a genocide, don't call yourself a feminist.

I hope this offers some clarity.

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toriangeli · 26 days

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How Armand's AMC background might work with the changes

TW: Mentions of physical, sexual, and religious abuse. You know, Armand stuff.

Age

First off, it’s not that big a deal for Armand to be aged up for his turning.

I’ve said it before, but being turned, especially very young, can be considered analogous to arrested development caused by trauma. In the books, getting this across is helped by repeatedly describing a teenager doing/saying these immature things. In live action media, though, it can be conveyed in a performance. A bit like how The Umbrella Academy removed Klaus’ ability to float because it was a metaphor for him being constantly high, and Robert Sheehan’s performance conveyed his state of mind so well they didn’t need the visual aid.

Armand is still developmentally frozen in places at those times some new trauma came about—pre-adolescent with the sheer hardship of his childhood, thirteenish with the monks (or equivalent in the show if they keep that bit), also thirteenish getting sex trafficked, then again whenever the Children of Darkness/Satan overturn his life. Throughout this entire time, the only time he was safe enough to have normal-ish emotional development was during his relationship with Marius, and it didn’t happen because his need for safety meant him foreclosing on whatever identity he thought Marius would want him to have, and relying on Marius to regulate his emotions instead of learning to regulate them himself. No matter how safe Marius is compared with the rest of Armand’s life, Marius isn’t a psychotherapist and is too flattered by Armand’s total dependence on him to reliably break him of it. He’s too busy cuddling him and feeding him soup instead of teaching him how to self-soothe, having the same expectations of him as he would have with an adult: that he already knows how to do the things he needs to do in order to be a person.

All this to say Armand isn’t necessarily going to be significantly more mature just because he was turned older, especially since Marius was enabling his emotional dependence on him.

The only difference I could see miiiight be if he spends significantly more time under Marius’ tutelage. Marius is the only person in his entire life who actually tries to teach him right from wrong, and it’s pretty critical to his character that it didn’t take. Marius himself notes this at one point during the “banquet” scene, seeing Armand is trying to react how he thinks his master wants him to react, not being properly horrified by people dying. If Marius has time to actually correct this (which, who knows how long that would take, Armand has been stuck permanently in this state for a long time already), that could make a difference to his characterization. But the likelihood of Marius successfully teaching him right from wrong was always pretty damn low, given how his method is “Do something heinous, get mad if Amadeo doesn’t cry.”

Origins

This is a little tricky, but it ultimately boils down to one thing: religion.

He’s Turkic, and it’s plausible for him to be Crimean Tatar, but he couldn’t have been trafficked by them the way he was in the books.

Among Turkic people in Armand’s day, an extremely common language, both speaking and in literature, was Chagatai. This was spoken among Muslims in eastern Europe, as well as central Asia, the Caucasus, and the Ottoman Empire. Today, Chagatai is a dead language, and while there are experts, it’s entirely possible your dramaturg won’t be able to contact one. If that’s the case, what modern language is the most similar? Turns out, Uyghur and Uzbek.

What language does Armand end his prayer in in Dubai? Uzbek.

If Armand is indeed Muslim (which would be the most narratively satisfying option—for him to be forcibly converted in his early life and find his own religion again later), you did have a more diverse population among Crimean Tatars back then than we have today, especially since Stalin’s genocide. You had some who came from as far south as Iran, where you can get people as dark as Assad, even if it’s uncommon. But it being uncommon (aka “exotic”) would be all the more reason he’d get targeted for sex trafficking.

Speaking of. Islamic and Christian laws forbade enslaving someone of the same faith. So whoever kidnaps him in this version of events is almost certainly Christian. The Venetians had a slave trade that was leaving the area for Africa due to the conquest of Constantinople by the Ottomans, but with a little wiggling of decades, we can imagine there were still Venetian slavers raiding the Black Sea. Since Armand ends up in Venice, this would make particular sense.

One more thing remains: the monks of the Caves. An order which, as far as I’m aware, only existed in Kiev. Why would a little Muslim boy be tempted to join an order of Christian monks? I mean, Islam definitely has its own brands of asceticism, but if we’re trying to make as few changes as possible, I’d still buy it being these monks. Speaking as someone who was raised evangelical, children are often targeted in the hopes of converting the entire family. I have no idea how likely that would be for a bunch of Eastern Orthodox monks and a Muslim family way back when, but personally, I’d buy it.

Realistically, would he still live near Kiev (which was part of Lithuania at this time) if he’s from the Crimean Khanate? Probably not. But I wouldn’t sweat it. And I can’t find whether there were any other Muslim groups who lived in/near Kiev.

Timeline

Show!Armand was turned older, so there are years that must be accounted for. I think he must have been trafficked at a similar age as in the books, because it makes the most sense—he’s very young, but old enough that he doesn’t have to be “raised” anymore. So he either spent longer in the brothel, or with Marius, or the years are split between. If it’s at the brothel, they might kick him out once he gets older, and Marius rescues him off the streets instead of from the brothel. Instead, or in conjunction, he could spend more time with Marius. My concern is, if the underage aspect of their relationship is cut, it could sanitize Marius too much. Armand isn’t meant to have any models for healthy relationships in his history, and Marius expecting a kid to meet his emotional needs the way an adult would, in addition to the power discrepancies so typical of pederastic relationships in Marius’ time, explains a lot about both characters.

On the other hand, I don’t want too many flashbacks where a younger actor is playing Armand. I want to see Assad tackle as much as possible. He is so damn good.

Then there’s also the complication mentioned above of how vital it is that Armand never learned right from wrong. And they are still bound by what the network will permit (a reason I’m not sure Claudia’s “surgery” will take place).

It’s possible they could just leave the timeline vague. Assad is babyfaced enough for it to be ambiguous how old he is at any given time. I wouldn’t want it to be too vague, though, lest the effectiveness of either possible version of events be diminished.

Conclusion

I don’t have any conclusions about what they’ve chosen to do. These are all just possibilities. I think that’s valid in its own right.

All in all, I think they have a great opportunity to flip the stereotype of the brown person becoming more “civilized” because of white people and show Armand’s problems as being caused, in significant part, by losing his own identity and culture, and in total part by the imperialist ideals of the West.

Reading up on all of this history to figure out the possibilities has given me a greater appreciation for why they would make the choice to cast Armand as non-white. Armand may be white in the books, but he’s not Western, and even though I’m sure she didn't mean to, Anne did tap into that “the West is here to civilize everyone” narrative. It’s actually something Marius is (intentionally hypocritically) big on—“civilization.” He took this wild Eastern European kid from the shitty life that came to him because of non-white slavers (who were very much a big deal at the time, but they’ve been used to justify the beliefs of white supremacists since the time of Hitler) and gave him a happy, comfortable life, albeit via a deliberately creepy relationship. Here in the US, we don’t think of Eastern Europeans as “not white enough” the way they’ve been historically seen in Europe, so I doubt Anne realized she'd accidentally written a story about the “savage” child being victimized by a tribe of "evil" Mongols and rescued by an ”enlightened” white guy (though if you haven’t read the books, keep in mind that Marius is not nearly as enlightened as he believes and doesn’t spend all that much time in the “civilization” he supposedly treasures).

Flip that, make him Islamic, and his slavers must by necessity be Western, so the people who take apart his life are all coming from that angle of “we have the right to do this because we are better.” And it does not stop after he becomes a vampire. What’s harming Armand isn’t a series of unrelated catastrophes, but an entire culture of imperialism. The Golden Horde doesn’t exist today. Actual Crimean Tatars in the 21st century are oppressed minorities. But the imperialist mindset in Western culture remains, this idea that we are more “civilized” than others. And that’s something this show can actually speak to that will resonate.

#iwtv #amc iwtv #armand #the vampire armand #iwtv speculation #stuff nobody asked for #marius de romanus #please do not treat me like an expert #i tried #this is just a blitz of ideas #partly brought on by the frustration that i will be out of the country when the season premieres #and i'm curious as fuck

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cryptotheism · 1 year

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Your follower says “wtf is that all about "normal people get busted" all the time when those of us who were victims rarely see justice? where are all these perpetrators seeing justice? the system makes it incredibly traumatic and difficult to prosecute rapists and sexual abusers.” Why would the system do that? Is it run by pedophiles?

Ahhh I see what you mean. Do you know what systemic injustice is?

A system is Systemically Unjust when even if a system was being run by 100% good people, it will still produce unjust outcomes.

Much of the American court system was designed during a time when unchecked patriarchal violence was the norm. It was designed by people for whom violence against women, children, the LGBT, the non-white, was considered just. Many of those elements have not been changed, and the people operating those systems do not have the power to change it.

It's frustrating, right? It seems like everyone agrees that Maxwell and Weinstein should go to prison. Everyone involved in their arrest and prosecution seems like they're 100% committed to sending them to prison. So why didn't they?

It's because the system favors patriarchal violence, down in it's bones. None of the people operating the train wants to run it off the cliff, but the track goes into the sea. The blueprints were designed to protect people like him, and until that system is fixed, nothing will change.

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tanadrin · 5 months

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Is it plausible that children are most often abused by people that they know (rather than strangers) because we've steadily and consistently reduced the capacity for children to interact with strangers in potentially abusive situations? I'm pretty sure that's not the case, but you've frequently discussed the topic and it seems like you'd know if there was anything to back up the idea.

I think children are most often abused and exploited by people they know because children spend most of their time around people they know, and children have a marked lack of autonomy in our society. In the past (and, sadly, too often in the present still) there has been a marked taboo around discussing these issues, a refusal to educate children in age-appropriate ways about sex (meaning they often don't even have the language to explain what has happened to them), and a reluctance to believe victims of abuse. In fact, I think the real incidence of CSA has probably gone down markedly in the last 75 years, but it's hard to get clear numbers on this bc for so long we refused to admit the problem even existed. A problem people refuse to acknowledge exists will of course seem to have a much lower rate of occurrence than one people openly acknowledge.

Stranger danger has never been the primary risk to children. The primary risk to children is parents, relatives, teachers, pastors, and other figures of authority in their lives. That's true for CSA, and for physical abuse, and for emotional abuse. And it makes sense; if you were the kind of person to abuse or terrorize or sexually exploit a child, the easiest children for you to target are children in your community, where your reputation and authority can protect you, where nobody could possibly believe such an awful thing, but you know, poor Bobby has always been troubled, etc., etc.

There is no clean solution to this problem. I think most parents, and most people who spend a lot of time around children by choice, do so because they genuinely like and want good things for them! I think the best protection against child abuse and exploitation is being open and communicative with children, educating them in age-appropriate ways, giving them the tools to defend their autonomy, and making sure that when they have problems they are heard.

And incidentally, I think a similar approach is also the best tool for online safety for kids. It's a lot harder for strangers with bad intentions (who do exist, though they are not the primary risk to children) to target kids with a stable, loving home life, who aren't ashamed to talk to their parents or to other adults in their lives about what's going on, and whose feelings and autonomy are respected by those adults. We cannot arrest and punish our way to a world that is safe for children! This is an authoritarian lie we tell ourselves, because the truth--that there is no escape from the hard work of actually caring for and about each individual child--implicates how we think about children in uncomfortable ways.

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genderqueerdykes · 11 months

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I'll preface this with saying that if you don't feel like dealing with this topic then feel free to delete the ask.

So I have a question regarding the "kink at Pride" debate. Isn't the most viable solution just having two events; i.e. one venue hosts an "all-ages" type and another separate one where everything is allowed?

I ask this because I recognize the contributions that people with kinks have made and I don't agree with the exclusionist mindset, but I'm one of those people who does have trauma surrounding kink. I hate feeling excluded because of that (after all, I'm queer and I've struggled just as much as the next queer person) and I want people like me to be able to participate just as much as those who helped make history. There are those who are able to reconcile their trauma, but many of us can't.

I'm sorry if this is a stupid question. People on both sides tend to be very hostile regarding this subject... and that said I genuinely do understand the anger felt on the side of people with kinks since the talking point "kink doesn't belong at Pride at all" is an ahistorical and TERF based mindset. I just wished that the discussion around this topic was less toxic because I don't want to be exclusive to others nor be excluded myself, and unless I'm missing something it seems like the solution that would be beneficial for everyone is having those two spaces that accommodate both camps (if it is a common thing then that's good, but I've been to several areas and every event was only ever the mixed bag for lack of a better term).

hello there, i think my best answer for this question is this

it's totally okay to want to have all ages events and sections and aspects to pride parades and pride events- in my city pride lasts for an entire week and there are events specifically for kids, and elderly queer folks as well. often times during pride month there will be all kinds of celebrations and i think it's a good idea to have multiple kinds of celebrations

however, you really cannot remove the adult aspects from pride parades and other big main event pride festivals- there is free AIDS testing at a lot of pride fests, free condoms and dental dams, sexual education, other sex harm reduction education and resources, sex toy shops, info on safe gay/trans sex, information on safe kink practices, etc. removing those aspects of pride could be downright dangerous for some who rely on this type of harm reduction

i understand that you have trauma and that you want to express boundaries, that is good- if witnessing kink upsets or triggers you, it's okay to want to avoid it, but pride is going to have displays like that because it is in fact a protest. it is not family friendly, it never has been and it never will be- it spawned in response to police brutality that was happening within queer bars. it is designed to shock you and make you think.

pride is an event that has historically been kinky and included a lot of people proudly displaying that they live alternative lifestyles because they are heavily important to a lot of queers. the san fransisco pride parade is lead by the lesbian leather motorcycle club, Dykes on Bikes, and has been since the late 1970's.

i think it's very odd to focus on kink in specific when there are other traumatizing things that come up at pride- people discuss abortion, abuse, being arrested, beaten by the police, being denied rights adoptive rights and healthcare, and so much more. pride will always have something that will make people uncomfortable, because it is a protest in the street to talk about the brutal reality of our lives

again, as i stated, i am fine with children's, all ages, etc. pride themed events being held but main pride parades, festivals, etc. are in fact designed to be protests, meaning provocative and brutally real. they're not just for waving rainbow flags and saying "yay we love being gay!" it's okay to know your own limits and boundaries but i think that if you know that that's upsetting to you, you may just not be suited for an inherently political event, and that's okay. hope that helps, take care, stay safe

#asks #answers #pride month #pride

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a-room-of-my-own · 10 months

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Stacie M. Laughton, 39, of Derry, New Hampshire is being charged with three counts of distribution of child pornography and child sexual abuse images.

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Here is « Stacie », he’s a former state representative in the US, who made headlines in 2022 after being arrested for stalking a woman and being forced to resign

And here is « Lindsay » who took advantage of the fact he was working at a daycare to take nude pictures of the children so he could send them to « Stacie »

Of course all articles refer to them as women because it’s very important to avoid misgendering pedophiles.

#gender critical #politics #transgender #tw csa #tw pedophila mention #radfem please interact #radfem

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feminismisstillahatemovement · 8 months

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So overall you think men have things worse off than women? You don’t think that DV statistics, rape statistics, the wage gap, harassment statistics, lack of power/representation etc might run contrary to your claim?

The internalized model you've taken on from feminism/Marxism/identity politics is what is underpinning your faulty assumptions about reality here: I don't think of men and women as warring nations, but rather the human family: it's not a "who's the biggest victim" competition: If your father and brother are suffering, it's not a triumph for you; If a man's mother and sister are being abused, they're not going to applaud or celebrate.

Feminism itself created "the gender war", and this model of thinking about ourselves has been incalculably corrosive and destructive to all human relationships.

So it is not my intent to replace the narrative of perpetual female victimhood with one of male victimhood. The only reason i argue against feminist claims is because they are harmful lies, and because feminism itself is the most sexist movement that has ever existed in the history of the human race, whereas I support equal rights, opportunities, care and concern for all.

The "wage gap" has been disproved endlessly:

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but feminism relies upon this narrative of injustice and oppression, even when it's not there: it's been illegal to pay women less than men for the same hours at the same job doing the same task for over 50 years everywhere in the western world. Women on average work fewer hours, and gravitate towards careers that pay less than work that is harder, more stressful or dangerous. They also take years out of their working lives through maternity leave, and after giving birth often come back part time: women work the majority of part-time jobs, which pay less because of how much easier and comparably free from responsibility they are.

All these things on average add up to a lower total of lifetime earnings than the male column, even though there is no month-by-month "wage gap" at all, and in fact childless women in their twenties have been out-earning men of the same age for a couple of decades now. It should also be obvious that the older men who are working longer hours in unpleasant conditions to increase their paycheck are usually doing so because they have a wife and children to support, so the money they make is going to, and being spent by, women (women make 80% of all purchasing decisions in America and presumably most of the rest of the world).

Once again, everything is interconnected: human beings are not nations at war against each other but families and friends helping and relying upon each other. The "class war" lens through which the feminists and others look at the human race is evil and only destructive.

As for domestic violence and rape and harassment, etc., it's been gone into here and elsewhere in great depth, but in all cases, men are not counted or treated equally to women in the eyes of the law (or by society) in any of them, and there have been many instances where a man has been assaulted in his own home by a crazy women, and when he called the police, they arrested him instead of her. Feminists pushed for this sexist "primary aggressor" law, which urged police to arrest men rather than women, even though any woman can pick up a knife or a gun or a frying pan and kill someone they're with just as easily as a man, and only someone who sees all women as innocent children incapable of any violent thoughts whatsoever would maintain otherwise.

Women coercing a man into sexual activity against his will is in most countries not counted as "rape" at all, but rather one of a variety of lesser charges with names like "forced envelopment" or somesuch, so it's hardly likely that the rape statistics reflect such a great disparity when one half of the population cannot be charged with the crime. Right?

Now, I personally think quite a lot more men rape women than women rape men, but then on the other hand, I've seen with my own eyes far more women hit men than men hit women. Intimate partner violence is about equal between the sexes, although interestingly enough, the highest rate of domestic violence reported is by lesbians, with straight couples in the middle and homosexual males coming in last.

The fundamental truth is that people pheromonally bound to one another are sometimes terrible to one another. I wish they weren't, but they always have been, and it's idiotic to try lay the blame at the feet of one half of the human race and not the other.

But what political hold would feminism still have in the world without asserting otherwise?

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sizzlingcandyjellyfishhh · 2 months

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The Case of Sophie Lionnet

Sophie Lionnet was a 21 year old woman born in 1996, in France. She was described by those who knew her as quiet, and she enjoyed working with children and animals. Sophie was close to her family and had never been outside of France, having lived a somewhat sheltered life. In 2016 she moved to London to work as a nanny or au pair for a couple with two children.

Their names were Sabrina Kouider and Ossuiem Medouni, the latter going by the name Sam. Kouider was a skilled manipulator and wielded a certain amount of control over Meduoni, who was said to be in love with her. He did not care that she was unfaithful and always took her back after, including when she had a baby with another man.

They were both successful in their respective lines of work, and decided to hire an au pair.

At first it seemed to work out. The children liked Lionnet, and she made friends with other au pairs in the area.

Unfortunately, Kouider was very paranoid about various things, including that her ex, a founding member of Irish boy band “Boyzone”, was spying on her and a whole host of other accusations, including that he had used black magic on her and sexually abused her cat. Kouider did not have a cat. Her suspicions began to turn to their new au pair.

The ex, Mark Walton, in reality had no interest in Kouider at this point and had never met Lionnet.

Kouider began to suspect that Lionnet been sent by Walton to spy on them, even accusing her of drugging them and their children and letting Walton into the apartment so he could sexually assault the couple. Obviously, none of these accusations were true.

Kouider confided in her thoughts to Meduoni, who unsurprisingly went along with them, as he generally did. Eventually, Meduoni genuinely shared Kouider’s delusions.

They stopped paying Lionnet and stopped giving her food. Kouider began to interrogate Lionnet at all hours of the day, threatening that she would never be allowed to return home to France unless she confessed to working with Kouider’s ex. She was confined to a small desk, forced to write pages and pages of confessions. She was told she would be arrested if she didn’t.

Since Lionnet was not being paid by this point, she didn’t have the money to buy a ticket home. In addition, her phone and ID were taken. In several WhatsApp messages, Lionnet describes wanting to leave. During some of these interrogations, she was hit with an electrical cable and hit with an unidentified object so hard 5 of her ribs were broken, all while being starved. In others, they dunked her head into a bathtub and repeatedly revived her.

Meduoni has begun to take an active role by now, holding Lionnet down and assisting in the beatings. This went on for over a month, with the couple continually telling Lionnet she could go home once she gave them more information.

Of course, they never planned to let her leave. Eventually, Lionnet finally gave in and gave a false confession in the hopes of making the torture stop. Kouider taped this confession, and then shortly after Lionnet was drowned in the bathtub.

Kouider recounted that her and Meduoni had sex next to the body. After that, they disposed of it in a bonfire, cooking some chicken in a feeble and unsuccessful attempt to hide the smell. A neighbor called the police, who immediately noticed a mangled pair of glasses and a human nose in the fire pit.

Kouider and Meduoni were arrested, and promptly turned on each other. Despite that, they were both found to be responsible, and each were sentenced to 30 years in prison. Lionnet’s parents have both expressed regretting encouraging her to work abroad.

PICTURED: Sabrina Kouider and Ossuiem Meduoni, Lionnet’s glasses found in the fire pit, said chicken the couple were grilling, Lionnet prior to taking the au pair position, a picture of Lionnet taken within days of her murder

#tcc #tccblr #true crime

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isn't the piece where glip beheads marl and eevee done because they both cheated on them with exty? I have to wonder if eevee knew about the stuff from Apollo around then. obviously there's no way to know for sure, but that specific connection has lingered in my head for a while after exty mentioned marl showing the beastiality videos. like, what's the timeline?

The timeline can be gathered well from this old post of Glips reflecting on the cheating that was posted in either January 2014 or December 2013. Glips retelling here also helps.

I am going to make this a general time line of Glip's (And other Floraverse community leaders like Eevee) informed complicity in Marl's sex crimes against animals and children.

Sometime before 2013 - Marl convinced Glip they where low on money if Glip would have sex with a dog on camera for him to distribute. Glip agreed to do this. Marl would also get Glip to have sex with a second dog at a different unknown time under unknown circumstances.

November 8th - 10th 2013 - Glip goes to Australia for Supanova Brisbane. They are ran booth 186, labeled as Papaya Arts. Exty and Marl have sex while Glip is in Australia. Marl had Exty watch stuff with the family dog, Apollo, at the time. This was not the first time Marl had an affair.

November 25th, 2013 - Glip uploads a phone wallpaper of Alice (Glip), Lexy (Eevee), Callahan (Marl) and Exty's OC. Indicating that Glip is not aware of the affair that happened between Exty and Marl.

Sometime between November 25th to December 3rd 2013 - Exty or Marl (Glip flip flops between who told them) informs Glip of the affair. Marl asks for permission to sleep with Exty even though the affair already occurred.

Glip, during the confrontation, supposedly makes an ultimatum. If Marl did anything with dogs again, they would divorce him. ( This does not happen when Glip later learns Marl did stuff with dogs again in a year. )

Right after this confrontation, Eevee, apparently tried to have sex with Exty immediately after Glip left the room upset. (Girl. What.)

December 3rd, 2013 - Glip uploads "Let's Play - Lovely Kitten Surgeon" to deviantart. Showing Alice (Glip) decapitating Callahan (Marl) and Lexy (Eevee) to vent about the entire affair. This shows that Glip is now aware that Marl was abusing Apollo.

March, 2014 - Marl starts to DM a 13 year old girl named Lain / SpaggleDagger photos of dog genitalia. He wasted no time after getting that ultimatum.

October 7th, 2014 - Pengo puts out his massive call out post on Glip / Marl. The only thing that's important here is the fact Marl's zoo interest came out at this time, but Pengo made an effort to keep it on the down low under threat of retaliation.

October 18th, 2014 - Lain, a 14 year old girl at the time, posts to tumblr about how Marl privately messaged her sexually explicit content on Eevee's IRC in March of that year. Including how Marl admitted to enjoying beastiality, how he watched a woman fuck a dog, how Marl sent her photos of dog balls, and how Marl wants to have sex with this 13 year old girl in a hotel room described in vivid detail. This post generally got ignored due to the Pengo Call out.

August 10th, 2015 - Lain makes a second post about what Marl did to her. In this post Lain goes into more detail about the specifics of what Marl has told her, and describes the typically camera shy Marl accurately. Including mentioning his acne scars.

August 11th, 2015 - Glip, ignoring the fact their ultimatum to Marl was violated, makes a twitter thread complaining about a call out post from a child who "they have logs where she admits to sending nudes to someone and wanted to get them arrested for child porn"

Eevee would also write a post platforming the words of other adults who sexually abused Lain and further slandering her that would be posted on Glips blog about this. Despite Eevee being the admin of the IRC the interactions occurred on, Eevee would, curiously, not share the DM's between Lain and Marl. (Glip. You said you would divorce Marl if he did anything with dogs again. Why are you attacking a 15 year old.)

Marl would also make a post about this, claiming Lain, the 15 year old child, was harassing him.

August 15th, 2015 - Glip would again, make another post slandering the 15 year old child by platforming other abusers of hers and would use logs of Lain realizing she was sexually abused and wondering what to do about it as """""proof""""" that this child is a seductress looking to entrap men in a child porn charge.

April 5th, 2018 - Lain would leak direct messages between Big Fluff and Marl that showed Marl doing the same exact thing to Big Fluff when she was 16. They also, notably, involve Marl trying to produce Zoophilic Child porn of Big Fluff with intent to distribute.

April 6th, 2018 - Someone would post the Big Fluff / Marl logs in the Floraverse discord server. Gabby, a current-day-Floraverse-Moderator would approach the user to talk about them, and would act as a telephone between the user and Marl.

Marl would admit that these logs where he tried to convince a 16 year old to commit beastiality on camera for him to distribute were real to Gabby.

Gabby, the-current-day-floraverse-moderator would, also on behalf of Marl, ask the user to take a bribe, not realizing that these logs were already public.

When the user said no, Marl - with Gabby's assistance, would immediately change his story from "I know who this is, and I'm sorry" to "this is soooooooooo totally fake."

Glip would then claim to leave the internet because of "lies and bullshit".

April 7th, 2018 - Eevee claims the logs are edited. But, for some reason, does not have the "original unedited logs". She also tells the victims of Marl that she'll see them in hell.

May 7th, 2018 - It is discovered that Eevee / Marl and Glip are selling their home.

June 18th, 2018 - Eevee gets her name legally changed.

June 21st, 2018 - Glip gets their name legally changed.

July 22nd, 2018 - Glip FINALLY announces that they are divorcing Marl. Following up on their ultimatum against Marl, four years after Lain revealed that Marl violated that ultimatum!

Great. So, by this point, Glip divorced Marl. Additionally, Marl has admitted that chat logs of him trying to convince a 16 year old to produce zoo porn are real. There's no reason to continue this post, surely Glip won't continue to torment his other victims and cover for him by calling them liars, right?

July 23rd, 2018 - Glip posts a letter claiming that it was written by Marl. In this letter, the author insists that Glip never had any idea that Marl was into zoo. This is despite the fact Marl supposedly made Glip rape two separate dogs, and despite the fact Glip was aware that their pet dog Apollo was abused by Marl for years at this point. The author also insists that the logs between Big Fluff and Marl are edited, despite being unable to provide the "authentic" logs.

July 24th, 2018 - Marl gets his name legally changed.

August 2nd, 2018 - Glip mocks people who are suspicious of them not believing Lain, and continues to call her a 'fucking liar', and also how they're Marl's biggest victim and that that they have the chat logs (This is true.) but "nothing was there" (This is impossible to be true. They are continuing to lie to cover for Marl and themselves for their failure to act earlier.)

September 27th, 2018 - Glip would attempt to coordinate serious retaliation against Lain, who started to speak up about Marls abuse of her again.

Glip also created a twitter thread about Lain, platforming the testimonies from other men like Marl who sexually abused her, and calling her a "fucking parasite".

This is despite the fact it is know a known fact that Marl is a pedophile and a zoophile, and that Lain was one of the first victims of him to speak out.

February 27th, 2019 - Glip makes another twitter thread about Lain. Calling her a serial liar and how that traumatized them.

June 14th, 2019 - Glip claims that they thought Marl only had a fetish and that he was not acting on. This is despite the fact Glip was informed of the creation of sexual abuse footage of their pet dog in 2013.

June 30th, 2020 - Glip finally posts an apology document to both Lain and Big Fluff. They also post a document about how Marl abused them.

It is notable that, in the 41 page apology document to Lain and Big Fluff, Glip doesn't mention how both them and Eevee claimed earlier that they had no chat logs of Marl sexually abusing Lain.

The document of Glip recounting their abuse at the hands of Marl is threads through their life history as a way to prove how ill and abused they were is all accumulating to the ultimate implied conclusion that Glip couldn’t possibly have been at fault for what they did to these kids because they were being abused when they did it.

Glip was abused, and they had made horrible choices of their own volition throughout this. Both of these are true at the same time.

You think Glip is done slandering these now young adults because they apologized?

March 28th, 2023 - Glip goes on a rant in their discord server about how hurt they where by Big Fluff remembering how Glip exposed their naked body to the then child accidentally while Marl was grooming them.

September 27th, 2023 - When called out on their treatment towards Lain while knowing Marl was a zoophile, Glip bites back about how there needs to be a focus on how THEY WHERE HURT BY THE THEN CHILD. HOW THERE NEEDS TO BE A DISCUSSION ABOUT HOW THEYRE A VICTIM OF THE SAME CHILD THEY SLANDERED FOR YEARS.

There is no way to neatly tie up this post in a bow. Glip was aware that Marl was sexually abusing people, and even their family dog and lied and protected him at every chance they had until they couldn't anymore. When the opportunity arose, pillar members of the Floraverse community like Gabby decided to knowingly protect the pedophile. When Eevee was sitting on evidence of her roommate being a pedophile, she decided to lie about it, protect the pedophile, and slander the child. Glip to this day insists that they where, some sort of victim of these two children who where sexually abused by Marl, these two children that Glip themselves abused by using their platform to slander and gaslight them for years.

These people are terrible. Floraverse is terrible. They always have been, and they always will be.

#floraverse #glitchedpuppet #forbidden flora #forbiddenflora #pengosolvent #fox flux #forbiddenflor #purplekecleon

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[“Thanks in large part to the Violence Against Women Act—supposedly the definitive federal law to address sexual and domestic violence, passed in 1994—cops have been tasked and culturally entrusted with the role of protecting women and abuse victims. The damage of this to victims, particularly poor, non-white, queer, or non-citizen victims, is immeasurable.

In January 2021 a Louisiana woman working with local police entered a drug house wearing a hidden microphone and camera to help police gather information about the dealer. Once inside, the Associated Press reported that the woman’s police handlers essentially abandoned her, allowing the dealer to rape her twice as he threatened to put her “in the hospital.” Police were able to use the intel gathered by the woman to arrest the drug dealer on charges of second-degree rape, false imprisonment, and distribution of meth. But weeks after the sting, they arrested the woman who had been their informant and charged her with possession of drug paraphernalia—after she had been raped while successfully helping them build a case against a drug dealer. In defense of the incident, an officer who helped lead the operation told the AP: “We’ve always done it this way. She was an addict and we just used her as an informant like we’ve done a million times before.” One local official who saw footage of the assaults described it as “one of the worst depictions of sexual abuse I have ever seen.”

The operation itself is a jarring display of incompetence that resulted in a woman being raped, while officers’ flippant language shrugs the woman off as “an addict,” her trauma a minor mistake they can “learn from” to “do better next time.” Her subsequent arrest is a stark reminder, too, that criminalized and incarcerated people are often survivors of sexual assault, further harmed by law enforcement agencies that—as in this Louisiana woman’s case—do nothing to protect them.

If galling stories like this surprise you or challenge any of your preconceived notions about law enforcement, then pro-cop propaganda, or copaganda, might just be to blame. It exists all around us, with tremendous implications for how the public understands (or rather, misunderstands) gender-based violence and all violence. Copaganda starts early—think children’s shows like Paw Patrol. Growing up on dramas like Law and Order: SVU and Castle, even iconic comedies like Brooklyn Nine-Nine, I’m one of many Americans who was socialized to see law enforcement and the court system as being decisively, nobly on our side, the be-all and end-all for justice and community safety.”]

kylie cheung, from survivor injustice: state-sanctioned abuse, domestic violence, and the fight for bodily autonomy, 2023

#kylie cheung #cw rape #cw abuse #currently reading #history stuff

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🆘🏠 WE NEED SAFE HOUSING.

We moved across Canada last year to escape severe medical abuse, but our living situation rapidly degraded. Our next door neighbour is a violent racist homophobe who has dedicated the last year of my life to harrassing us. More details will be under the cut. After months of searching we finally found a new apartment an hour away, and can have it any time in the next two weeks as long as we have the money. We do not have that much money. We can cover moving costs, the remainder of rent on our current place, and all our normal medical/etc bills. We've asked family for help and gotten a resounding "bootstraps" from them. Mutual aid is my only hope.

Our triad is LGBT (what, all at once? yes!), severely mentally ill, two of us are disabled, and one of us is latina. I'm currently still trapped waiting on a reply from immigration, legally can't work yet, and I don't feel safe doing sex work here when an arrest could mean deportation.

🌈 ♿ £0/2000

total cost: deposit (600), rent (1200), eating this month (200)

Here’s what we’ve been trying to get away from for a year. TW for racism, homophobia, slurs, child abuse, assault, graphic violent/sexual threats, sexual harrassment, fatphobia, the police having to get involved, and anything else that I can add if you need. I’m going to list these in the order they happened.

• Tried to break into our house during a four hour long extended breakdown. Hammered on the door til it dented. Threatened all of our lives multiple times. This went on until 2am. First police report.

• Spent a week hammering on our door or window and screaming “WAKE UP” at any time between 4-6am if she heard us using the kitchen the night before.

• Followed me up and down the road when I ran errands calling me a disgusting pig, the d slur, and a pedophile. Followed all of us down the road more than once screaming at us for being worthless [d slur]s while she was a mother.

• Told her children I was a pedophile, and that I might kidnap them one day. Loudly. In front of their friends. Described in graphic detail what she assumed I would do to them if I did.

• Waited on our doorstep for me and pulled out a fistful of my hair when I tried to push past her to get inside. I have not left the house alone since. Second police report.

• Multiple months of her waiting until after midnight to begin blasting religious sermons or the same fucking eminem song six times through our conjoining walls.

• Began weighing our fire escape grates down while screaming at us that she’d burn us alive to ready us for hell.

• Waited until I was home alone and then came up to the door and began calmly telling me that she’d, quote, “cut my clit off” before offering to bring her guy friends over to rape me straight.

• Taped naked photos of herself to our bedroom window.

• Brought a fucking ant infestation into the basement apartments we split and tried to punch me in the face when I told the inspector we’d been putting down traps and all of the bugs came from her side of the building.

• Chased my husband down the side of our house, spat on his face, and tried (almost succeeded before we both tackled it shut) to kick the door open. Third police report that they actually bothered to come out for, and the first one where the officer who arrived took the genuine threats and physical assault seriously.

It’s going on trial tomorrow. Our landlord has had months to evict her for the assults, or not paying rent, or the harrassment, or the way she keeps threatening to shoot his family and calling them the N word. He has told her instead that we’re “probably” moving out soon for the past year and she insists she’s staying until that point - a thing we found out this week when confronting him about her still being here. We also found out that his plan to rent us her bigger unit is contingent on us furnishing it and leaving it for two months when his family comes to stay for a wedding in August.

We also also found out that when the baliffs said they can’t evict her until he does [basic legal step that she could contest] [... that he could have done last year] he decided it wasn’t worth it. So he’s going to illegally evict her. By waiting u til she leaves next week, unlocking her unit, loading her belongings into a van, changing the locks, and installing a gate. His plan is to have her arrested for tresspassing when she tries to come back to her house.

This is insane. It is not legal, it’s deeply unethical even if I hate her ass, and there is no way in hell that she will not just blame us for it when it happens. My husband leaves for work at 4am. She knows this. I am dead fucking certain she will attack him or us before the week is out if we remain here. I am terrified and traumatized and need your help. Please, please help.

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