#i hate allos

[earth2audiee]

“i know that character is canonically aroace but can’t i just have fun shipping them??”

what if i took your leg

#I HATE ALLOS #😁 #based on a true story #they tried arguing that it was okay #solely because of another ship with someone straight #mind you they’re ​not canonically straight just had a previous relationship with the opposite gender #like what?? #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual

[degengxrl]

”I'd argue that it's an identity for antisexual. Sure, there must also be some people with low sex drive/no need for intimacy who now feel more empowered to adopt the label.”

“demisexual isnt that just normal”

“asexuals are just incels who cant get a gf”

“Asexuals are, without exception, pxdophiles who are scared to engage with their sexual desires.”

“you're not asexual, you're on antidepressants.”

“being aroace is a mental disability"

allos™️ stop talking abt aspec identities challenge omfg

pt: allos™️ stop talking abt aspec identities challenge omfg end/pt.

stfu

#ugh #aspec #aspec wrath #i hate allos #allies are okay but allos™️ #should die #aphobia #tw aphobia #amisia #estrogendyking

[transcatgirlgarfield]

does anyone else get really upset by this? it's so unnecessary and unconducive to the eating environment

#food #restaurants #ace memes #asexual #asexual memes #aspec stuff #ace rambles #i hate allos

[sunsetcurveauto]

one thing i havent seen anyone talking about when discussing isaac is when he meets james at the bookstore and they talk abt how isaac doesnt reciprocate james' feelings. and although james has the best intentions he tells isaac that (more or less) isaac just hasnt found the right person yet. and yeah isaac doesnt have the words or terminology at that point to express how he feels being aroace but it was still such a gut punch to see an example of someone who cares for you, even someone in the queer community, still negate your orientation using a phrase that is meant to be an assurance and yet is still what so many ace and aro people have been told

#heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper s2 #isaac henderson #alice oseman #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #tina talks #this is not hate! #and if im not being clear just let me know #but its what i experienced in this like. 2min moment between an allo and an aroace character #and like I said i hadnt seen it talked abt yet #so i wanted to share my observations :)

[my-lonely-thoughts]

Aroace culture is finding out as an adult that sex and romance is not just an over exaggerated concept but a very real thing people like/do 😵‍💫

#no hate to allos! #but im ngl i always thought you just talked and sang about it #not actually DO it lol #love ya'll tho 🫶🏻 #aroace #aromantic #aromantic culture #asexual #asexuality #asexual culture #lgbtq #lgtbqia+ #lgbtqia #queer #my lonely thoughts

[redysetdare]

I see the way some of you talk about and disregard aroace ppl and I do judge you for it.

The way some of you talk about being aro and ace like it's a curse and how you're so happy that's not you. Or how you will see a post about aroaces ppl and say "ok but x identity instead" as if it's better and aroace is lesser.

The fact I see this from other aspec ppl too... You being a lesser known aspec identity does not mean that punching at aroaces is punching up. We are all just as oppressed. You're just being as asshole for no reason.

Stop acting like aroaces somehow are better off. Stop acting like our existence is hindering yours. Stop throwing us under the bus. It's not every man for himself out here, stop trying to throw us to the wolves to get ahead.

#aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #the amount of ppl i see that just shit of aroace ppl from both sides is wild #allos hate us other aspecs hate us like bro....

[the-crimson]

It kinda always makes me sad when people talk about arospec characters on the qsmp and only talk about q!Jaiden and q!mike without mentioning q!bbh :( like honestly q!bbh’s relationship with q!forever and how ambiguous it is is 100% an aromantic experience I’ve had.

People assuming my relationship with my partner is romantic when it’s not - at least not in the way they imagine - or assuming it will eventually turn romantic as if what we have isn’t good enough and I hate seeing the same thing happen to q!bbh

Idk I’m just sad and tired of q!bbh’s arospec identity being erased or forgotten or valued less than q!jaiden and q!mike because he has such a popular ship and complicated relationship with another character even tho cannon 4halo is incredibly aromantic/queer platonic in of itself :/

(Also q!forever is arospec/lithoromantic as well so in general their ship is incredibly aromantic/queer platonic from like every angle

#qsmp #badboyhalo #it’s just exhausting #like I don’t care about fanfic or headcannons or what ever #but it always hurts when bbh is left out of posts talking about arospec characters on the qsmp #when cc!bbh explicitly said he’s playing q!bbh as arospec #:( #just cuz one of his relationships looks allo from the outside #but is incredibly aro when you actually know the characters involved #I love 4halo as queer platonic boyfriends #but I hate what the fandom did to them #bring back the times when it was like ten of us screaming into the void about them #one of the reasons I prefer starhalo rn honestly

[parksrway]

I think it's funny how trans people are allowed to joke about hating cis people and gay people are allowed to joke about hating straight people but the SECOND an aspec person jokes about hating allos y'all shit your pants about it

#i hate allos but im not joking about it

[scholar-of-yemdresh]

Hot take but the aggressive hardline separation of asexual and aromantic is actually EXTREMELY harmful to a lot of ace/aro people.

Angry rant under the cut

It's one to thing to go: "okay yes sometimes they go together but it's important to remember that for some people they can be different things and you can be one and not the other"

And go: "These are TOTALLY DIFFERENT 100 always separate there is no intersection EVER and if you DARE to be both then you have to piecemeal your identity to not uwu invalidate others(we do not care that we are invalidating you though lol) Don't you DARE ever experience them together you are CONFLATING"

It's like yall just want asexual to = alloromantic only and aromantic to = allosexual only.

You don't give a shit about aroaces, aces who aren't alloromantic but don't ID as aromantic or aros who aren't allosexual but don't ID as asexual.

The aspec community despises us. We get talked down to demanded to split our identities apart for your comfort. We can't exist in certain spaces because our presence there is a personal affront to allo-aspecs. Shout out to the alloaros that bitch about those disgusting aroaces just clogging up the aromantic tag ☺. Shout out to the alloaces who can still love and aren't totally heartless monsters 🥺.

Don't talk about ace shit in the aro tags, Don't talk about aro shit in the ace tags...what's that you're both? And can't neatly separate them and it brings you comfort to be able to discuss your whole orientation? SHUT THE FVCK UP YOU CONFLATING IGNORANT SHIT HEAD.

If you want to be in the aromantic community you have to leave your ace-ness at the door same for asexual community and disregarding your aromantism.

A personal example was an Aspec discord server I was in that had two media recs channels one for sex repulsed people and the other for romance repulsed. Now the issue came is that they didn't acknowledge someone could be both i.e both sex & romance repulsed/just looking for media that had neither sexual nor romantic content, what this lead too is that the romance free media channel was filled with graphic hookup erotica or sexually explicit songs and the sex free channel was just fade to black romance books 🙃...wonderful.

Or when polls/forms will ask you to pick your orientation but only things listed are het,gay,bi/pan yes even the ones made by aspecs, and what they actually mean is use the one that correlates to your romantic/sexual attraction...so fvck aroaces and non sam aces & aros?

And don't get me started on how you treat non sam aces & aros. You at least tolerate the self IDing aroaces, because they have the "curtesy" of separating themselves from the real proper aces & aros.(let's not question how many aroaces would prefer to just ID as just asexual or just aromantic but are forced into aroace identity because that would be "conflating" and they don't want to deal with the harassment).

"UwU don't say asexual when you actually mean aromantic" Some bitches don't use to SAM fvck off with allo-splaining my own sexuality to me.

It would be so much easier and save a lot of pain if yall just went : "asexual for some means no sexual attraction and it says nothing of your romantic attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally". And "aromantic for some means no romantic attraction and it says nothing of your sexual attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally" and "for some they are separated but others not so much as there isn't always a strict separation. Just be chill about it don't accuse people of being ignorant or conflating they know their identities better than you". But no ya chose violent aphobia instead.

But ultimately nobody cares because this shit is only harming the undesirable aces/aros the ones who are harmful stereotypes the ones that make you "look bad".

I know deep in my heart there are a lot of alloaces & alloaros that who would be happy if aroaces & non sam aces/aros didn't exist, there I said it. How can I not come to that conclusion when at every turn they shit on us. They talk about how the worst thing in the world is to be mistaken for one of us. That our representation is actively harmful.

A last parting spicy take it's either "asexulity and aromantism are full identities on their own and aren't modifiers" OR "actually neither asexual nor aromantic can stand on their own they need to be paired with another orientation and they actually are just modifiers" you can't have it both ways. 🤭

#asexual #aromanticism #aro #ace #non sam aro #aphobia #acephobia in the aro community #arophobia in the ace community #vent #i love how no matter what alloaces & alloaros can take a break from being aphobic to eachother and join forces where it really matters #being aphobic and hateful towards aroaces! I LOVE that aspec solidarity #the community also despises sex & romance repulsed aspecs but that's a rant for another day #also can we talk about how this has embolden full on allos to talk shit on aroaces??? excuse me??? #when an allo bitch is talking down to you about how you're using asexual or aromantic wrong #bitch who the fvk are you? gtfo outta aspec spaces now interloper #aroace #non sam ace #I'm pissed so i might delete later lol #never forget the time on reddit i made a long post pleading with the community not to force the sam on all aces #and that non sam aces aren't ignorant or invalidating anyone and we should be shown grace and acceptance in the community #...only for an (allo?)ace to basically say it's my fault if people assume I'm alloace or accuse me of conflating if i ID as just ace #lol get bent #i just might start saying aces & alloaces/aros & alloaros #bc yall allo aspecs aren't the default ace/aro and it's time you learned that :) #you do not get to stomp over the “undesirables” and call it advocacy

[sunnibits]

some silly aro izzy for aro day <33 aroallo izzy truthers are the sexiest people on the planet btw

#I am not an allo izzy truther most of the time but I do think it is a very sexy and correct take #aromantic visibility day #izzy hands #ofmd #art #my art #doodles #very glad to properly redeem myself after my first aro izzy doodle which I kinda hated #I think this one is funny and cute tho

[just-a-queer-fanboy]

I got a little too homoerotic with the homies we got that queer platonic shit going on

#i am desperately clawing and holding onto the allo label for dear life please i do not want to lose my ability to experience attraction #please i actually liked experiencing that #if i was like this from birth id be cool with it but i wasnt and i hate it #aromantic #aroace #arospec #ace spec #acespec #asexuality #aspec #queer love #queer struggles

[feelingthedisaster]

i believe in aroallo leo valdez supremacy

#im saying this as an asexual i hate the ace leo headcanon #its so important to me that he is allosexual while being aro #pjo #hoo #toa #pjo hoo toa #leo valdez #aromantic leo valdez #aro leo valdez #aro #aromantic #aro allo #headcanon #arospec #aro characters #aro headcanon #aromantism #riordanverse #rick riordan #heroes of olympus

[telffiin]

seething aro hours.

#thinking too much about Stuff makes me like this #aromantic #aro #UGGGHHHH FUCK #I HATE AMATONORMATIVITY #I HATE STUPID SMUG ASSHOLE ALLOS #GGGRRHRAHJDDJDIDJFJFBFBBFBFDBBFND #my identity will never be acknowledged.

[toastedtitaniumalloy]

Vent about being ace~~

Being a hopeless romantic who is also on the asexual spectrum is exhausting! For some reason, people hear the term "asexual" and assume that you don't want any type of intimacy, but that is not true at all! Yes, some people on the ace spectrum may not desire it, but we are all different and unique individuals. Just talk to us!?

I want to be held, kissed, and do cute things together while also having arguments like an old married couple! I crave intimacy in ways that are difficult to explain; I do not want it to be solely seen as a pathway to sex. I enjoy being affectionate and cuddly, but I have yet to find a partner who can appreciate that without also expecting sex from me or pressuring me to be sexual. While I understand that sex is tthe bee's knees or whatever, it is not something I desire. I do not want to be sexualised!!

Sex is like sprinkles on a sundae; it may be great for those who enjoy it, but it is not essential for a delightful dessert! A sundae consists of many other components that contribute to its overall deliciousness, and sprinkles are simply an added bonus. It is perfectly acceptable to enjoy sprinkles; do not let anyone make you feel ashamed for liking them. However, they are not my preference, and it seems that many individuals believe that they are necessary for a sundae to truly be a sundae.

No matter what societal norms say, sex is not required for a relationship to be "real".

Sex does not define a relationship! ALSO, pressuring someone into engaging in sexual activities is hurtful. Even if you are not explicitly pressuring them, it is unkind to act offended or inconvenienced when someone who has clearly stated their lack of interest in sex establishes their boundaries.

And just because someone identifyies as being "on the asexual spectrum" rather than strictly "asexual" does not indicate an openness to engaging in sexual activities in the future. It simply means that we fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum!!!

Ugh!!!!!!

#asexual #hopeless romantic #rant post #rant #vent post #i hate that sex is the end all be all of relationships #it kinda makes me what to hit cis het allo people with a car 😅 #asexual spectrum #asexuality #acespec #asexual pride #i didnt even get into the part where being non-binary just makes everything even more complicated and frustrating #when i put this into goblin tools to make sure i spelled everything right #i also put it through thesaurus mode for shits and giggles #thesaurus mode said if it was one word it would be #misunderstood

[redysetdare]

I keep seeing posts where people are saying "Valentines doesn't effect asexuals!" "romantic relationships have nothing to do with asexuality!" And while i understand the point they are making is to stop conflating Aromanticism with Asexuality, it is still extremely annoying to find people don't understand the nuance that comes with asexualities connection to romance - because it DOES have a connection to it. It DOES have problems in relation to romance. To say it doesn't is ignoring a huge set is experiences that ace people face.

One of the most common experiences for asexuals is the struggle to be in romantic relationships because they are asexual. a lot of romantic relationships expect you to have sex. if you're someone who doesn't have sex then unfortunately that causes a lot of people to lose interest in you romantically as well.

There's also non-sam aces, and let me tell you it's so very strange to hear someone bring up non-sam aros but then ignore the existence of non-sam aces in order to prove some point of it somehow being ace peoples fault that aro and ace are viewed as the same. Some non-sam aces do not date either. they are still ace and they can still face similar problems to aromantic people because of that. they are still effected my amatonormativity.

Aces DO have connection to romance. Asexual DID have a reason to trend on valentines day along with Aro and Aroace. Asexuality is effected my romance and amatonormativity. Sop acting like it isn't. stop acting like aros and aces have absolutely nothing in common. We can work together and have similar experiences and still be seen as separate identities. there is overlap. stop treating this as black and white where one identity can only be effected by one kind of problem. It's naive at best and down right hateful at worse.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #i might get hate for this one but as an aroace who for a while was a non-sam ace (before i found out about aro) #romance DOES effect aces #not in the same way that it effects aros but #treating aces as if they can never know or understand amatonormativity and have never faced similar issues? idk it's ignorant to me #some of the way ppl in the aro community talk about asexuality and aroace identities is just...idk frustrating #i understand the frustration on their end but also i need you all to not fall down the rabbit hole of becoming acephobic #and blaming ace people for all the problems that allos caused #and understand there is nuance to identities and just because someone is asexual alloromantic #doesn't mean they aren't effected by amatonormativity or that they have no issues related to romance at all #asexual and Aromantic are not the same thing but also stop acting like they have no overlap at all period #we used to help each other man. stop throwing some of us under the bus to try and make a point #romantic expectations are not an aro only problem

[volcanic42]

Y'know what sucks?

Slowly realising that your best friend is YOUR favourite person but you might not always be THEIR favourite person.

#aromantic #aro #i fucking hate how allo culture priorities romantic relationships over platonic one's #aro culture is #arospec #aromantism #aro pride #can't understand how some person can just replace me in under a week when we've know eachover for YEARS #vent