#queer struggles

[atlantis-just-drowned]

Credits to mattxiv on instagram for the original post.

This kills me that they think queer Palestinians don't already exist. Just because you don't hear about them doesn't mean they aren't here. They just have to hide.

Laws won't make us disappear. They will just force us to hide more. It's a dangerous way of thinking to believe that making our identities illegal will make us disappear. Because what stops them from making us illegal in the rest of the world then? They're already trying to erase us, if they now start to think they can make us cease to exist just with a bunch of laws, you can be sure that they will try as hard as they can.

Queers existed before straight bigots gave us the authorisation to exist. We didn't pop up when you made us legal. We fought for our rights. We rioted. We said "We're here, we're queer, get used to it" long before you graced us with the right to walk by your sides. We were here before. We'll be here forever. No matter what you do, no matter the laws. We've always existed and we'll always exist.

We're here. And we're queer.

#i should probably tag this but now that my serious talk is over i have no idea what to say #the eloquence lasted for 5 minutes lmao #queer community #queer pride #queer #queer issues #queer struggles #queer history #palestine #queers for palestine #palestine genocide #free gaza #israel palestine conflict #palestinians #palestine gaza #gaza

[just-a-queer-fanboy]

I got a little too homoerotic with the homies we got that queer platonic shit going on

#i am desperately clawing and holding onto the allo label for dear life please i do not want to lose my ability to experience attraction #please i actually liked experiencing that #if i was like this from birth id be cool with it but i wasnt and i hate it #aromantic #aroace #arospec #ace spec #acespec #asexuality #aspec #queer love #queer struggles

[stickbug-made-entirely-of-spite]

What's up, peeps?

So, I was once again playing Legend of Mushroom. After about a week of building up the courage to try and make conversation in the server chat (give or take a day or two), I finally did it! My heart was beating so hard that it actually moved my whole body with every beat, but I did it :]

I really thought everything was going well, I managed to kind of hold a conversation and even earned myself a friend request in the process, but then I made the mistake of mentioning that I'm queer.

Cue the transphobic jokes, slurs, people ganging up on me whenever I try to contribute to the conversation, telling me that I'm either a man or a woman, and telling me to "stop making everything about gender" when I had in fact only mentioned it a handful of times because people were asking me questions about it.

I quickly gave up on trying to make friends.

One very strong panic attack later, and I'm stuck wondering why people are so mean

I didn't say anything bad or mean, I was just trying to contribute to the conversation :[

One kind person sent me a private message asking if I was okay, this person is also the one who sent me the friend request :]

It really made me feel a lot better, I'm extremely grateful ^-^

I'm still shaking, and I will be for a while, but I would be crying right now if it weren't for them.

Moral of the story:

1. don't ever mention anything about being queer in an online game server chat, it is never a safe space, and it will discourage you from ever typing another chat message again.

2. Reach out to people when you think they might need it. It never, ever hurts to check in on someone just in case. Worst case scenario, they'll just brush it off and continue with their day. Best case scenario, you just saved someone's life. I really can't stress this enough, don't be afraid to spread kindness in a world where it's so incredibly needed.

PSA aside, I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day 🧡 this blog is a safe space for anyone who might need a friend, or just someone willing to lend an ear. My messages are open, don't hesitate to pay them a visit for whatever reason. I care about you, and you're not alone

Yours truly, Stickbug 🪲

#online games #nonbinary #lgbtq+ #lgbt #lgbtq community #lgbtq #lgbtqia #mental health #queer struggles #queer community #queer #you're loved #Don't listen to mean people #I know it's easy to say that #But they really don't know anything #They will never learn #And it's not your responsibility to teach them if they insist on degrading you #Just know that you are loved #And cared for #If not by anyone else then by me #i care #transphobes #Are cowards #psa

[plumpengu]

me coming to terms with being non-binary through a fucking transformers metaphor has to be the dumbest thing to ever happen to me

#ive known for a while but it never quite fit with me #technically i am #for sure #but i dont think i can call myself that #ive come to realize i cant label my gender bc it’s an ever evolvijg creature #and that’s ok! #also the metaphor was about how some bots are autobots whole some are decepticons and some are neither #literally my gender btw #queer struggles #nonbinary #transformers #queer #PlumPrattles

[noperopesaredope]

Does anyone else (specifically enbies) here experience, like, “situational gender”?

Because sometimes I will identify differently based on who I’m with, or I want certain gendered titles depending on the context. Like, around my friends, I feel completely gender neutral. But I also like to say that I’m my sibling’s “older sister.” But I also want my parents to refer to me as their “son.”

And these aren’t just to conform to anything, I just feel differently in relation to certain people in my life. I wouldn’t say I identify as “female” or “male”, but I do identify as an “older sister” and an “eldest son” and a “non-binary friend” and an “agender acquaintance” and a “trans classmate.”

I do have gendered titles, but they change based on the relationship I have with the person. I like being someone’s son, and I like being someone’s older sister. I like being both these things at once.

And when it comes to me by myself, I identify as anything and everything all at once.

Is this just a me thing? Am I weird for this? Does this even make any sense?

#enby #nonbinary #non binary #non bianry #non biney #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqiia+ #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #queer #queer struggles #non binary stuff #queer experience #lgbt pride #queer problems #gender fluid #genderfluid #transgender #trans umbrella #trans #trans experience #gender feels #gender identification #gender #gender identity #agender #gender expression #gendered terms

[peach-cream-tea]

Recently i've had this experience where my friends and I will watch a romance show and I will comment on how I believe a gay romance would be fun to have in the show. And multiple times i've been told that the romance is fine as it is and i don't need to add "unnecessary gay people" into the plot. But my friends don't understand why I cling so hard to these Queer characters.

They will never understand how alienating it is to be a queer person with straight friends. They will never feel that they need to ignore a core part of themselves just so people treat them with respect. They will never have their opinions ignored because "we aren't a the same." They will never have to pretend to be someone they are not, just so they can feel included. They will never have to cling on to Queer characters because without them, you are a complete outcast. I don't hate them for their ignorance but it makes me tired. They will never understand

#queer community #queer struggles #i'm lesbian #lgbt pride #idk gay??? #it's so exhausting #they don't know #they don't care about you #you will never be respected #i hate it here #i hate being a teenager

[4rtsymugzzz]

i wish i was a boy so i could kiss a girl without having to worry about the people I love accepting me or not

#vent #vent post #idk how to tag this #bisexual #lgbt #queer struggles #wlw #lgbtq #lgbtq community #queer community #i hate this #does this even make sense

[s1utlvr]

Reblog this if you like Lana Del Rey or if you’re a queer woman and you think you’re a lesbian you’re unsure cause you still find yourself being attracted to men and seeking male validation but whenever you actually dates guys or thinks about a future with a man you get this feeling of existential dread but you also think like what if you just haven’t found the right guy but you never have to think twice when liking a girl and you can only think about having a future with a girl. Or both!

#the doctors say I have the worst case of comphet they’ve ever seen #lana del rey #queer struggles #luv aubrey <33

[what-fandom-again]

I don't know why I have this but I'm asexual with a bit of a guilty pleasure for smut fanfiction. I know it's perfectly okay but what's bothering me is the pit in my stomach I get when I read it.

Anytime I'm looking for/at anything sexual, I always get a knot in my stomach. Like its something I don't like. I don't care much for being involved with sex, but I'm willingly reading it and imagining my characters in similar filthy scenarios. But for some reason there's always a slight uncomfortable feeling in the bottom of my stomach every time I read it. It makes me feel repulsed even if I frankly don't care for it. Is anyone else like this?

#asexual #queer struggles

[fandomsoda]

When you’re cis-passing non-binary, names are fucking weird, man. Sometimes, for me at least.

Cuz like my birth name isn’t,,, upsetting or anything, it’s not horrible, but I don’t necessarily like it either. Not dysphoria-inducing, but I associate it with how the outside world perceives me and not who I necessarily am???

And my online name, “Soda” is very much a screen name and more of an alias rather than a true name for me.

And the names I know I’d get euphoria from hearing? They belong to characters who are very relevant right now and are characters I talk about frequently, so it would just get confusing ashcgvjfgnj

idfk, man-

shit sucks

#text post #soda rambles #queer posting #nonbinary #nonbinary struggles #fem aligned nonbinary #queer struggles #queer names #nonbinary names #vent? #tbh i really like the idea of going by “wally” but that’s awkward because hyperfixation

[pissy-lissy]

I found out yesterday that the two American frat bros I met ten years ago during my gap year are getting married to each other. They were only best friends back then and even then I was pretty envious because they had such a special friendship.

And now they are actually together and happy and engaged. And I am really happy for them, but also incredibly sad, because I am really lonely atm and I never figured out how to be in a relationship with another woman. I am still partly closeted and dating is hard and only being brave enough to acknowledge your queerness in your late 20s makes you miss a lot of stuff.

I hate that I can't just be happy for two queer people who found love and that it always makes me feel like I am missing something essential.

#don't even really now what i want to say #or what i feel #emotional word vomit #i should probably delete this later #queer struggles #even the broest of bros figured it out #and i just dont #wlw #wallowing in selfpity

[yourlocalgaymafia]

It sucks when your parents aren’t exactly homophobic but you still can’t come out to them because they would never accept their own child being queer.

#personal vent #queer struggles #lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt community #lgtbq #vent post

[vitis0]

I would sit down in my bed and for some fuckin' reason I would think about her, and I think that my knees are so sensitive when it comes to pretty girls and they would just give in and I would moan, which is more like a sigh but it's so fuckin' pathetic how my body reacts to someone else's pheromones so easily, and that's not really how pheromones work but my body is just so sensitive it makes me sob.

#wlw #lesbian yearning #wlw nsft #queer struggles

[stickbug-made-entirely-of-spite]

When your gender identity is fluid so you can't plan any outfits in advance, because nine times out of ten they'll end up making you feel dysphoric when the time to wear them actually arrives <<<<<

:']

#lgbtqia #lgbtq community #lgbtq #agender #genderfluid #queer struggles #outfits #i'm confused #it's a struggle #Someone free me from this fleshy prison #body dysphoria #gender dysphoria #shitpost #But not really

[nikolai-alexi]

where does one find a safe cis man to teach you how to boy somewhat correctly???? asking for a friend

#no but seriously are they just born with universal knowledge that’s impossible to unlock #the handshake thing??? #baffles me #i just want to understand how to boy #definitely asking for me lmfao #trans #gender non conforming #niks rambles #like I don’t need all of the forbidden secrets of Boy just a few ya know #nonbinary #lgbtqia #queer struggles

[frogmanfae]

Being queer and shopping online is genuinely just a constant struggle of "Do I like those pants or do I like this model?" and it's almost always the model but you don't know that until the pants come in the mail.

#queer struggles