#neurotypical responses

[fatwithoutkatsudon]

Having undiagnosed ADHD until you’re an adult is so hard because it has shaped so much of your life and personality it’s hard to tell where it ends and you begin, but it’s also the answer to every time you have screamed, crying, frustrated with yourself “WHY AM I LIKE THIS?!?!”

#having adhd is terrible #but also great #it made me develop some of my best traits #but it is also responsible for nearly all of my biggest frustrations #and I think it is as impossible for neurotypical people to grasp as it is for me to grasp neurotypical ways #yes I do love things passionately and with a contagious enthusiasm #yes I also cannot pick up the sock that’s been sitting on the floor driving me crazy for months #adhd #adhd problems #adhd things #actually adhd #adult adhd

[scatterpatter]

Feeling normal again

#tl;dr its less about the shape itself and more about the response #theres a level of coolness associated with the response #most people dont ever have an answer ready to go. most never thought of it before so theyll have to think it through. #if they think ur weird for asking and/or dismiss you entirely their vibes likely arent so good #many people will stop and think for a bit. and will likely give a reason WHY they picked theirs #if thats the case their vibes are p normal and youve now opened up a conversation starter congrats #possibly broke up some awkward tension by asking something so obscure and out of left field #then you have the people who had their answers READY TO GO. most of the time these people are cool as hell. #passing the vibe check with flying colors because you just gave them a reason to explain why trapezoids are underrated #or infodump abt a shape uve never heard of #OR you'll get the occasional 'what do you have a favorite shape' incredulous ask #and then you can quickly drop your own favorite shape (parallelograms my beloved) #which opens up the hidden SECOND VIBE CHECK #if they react positively to you having a shape ready to go their vibes are likely good #if they immediately think ur weird for having a favorite shape ready to go their vibes are probably not so good #its full-proof /hj #socializing is a science and i aint in STEM for nothing #<- totally neurotypical haha whaaaat im normal mhm totally normal #this is normal people things to think about

[ladyshinga]

i've never seen JoJo's Bizarre Adventure but even still i sometimes imagine myself and the stranger I'm on the phone with doing JoJo poses while we both use our Customer Services Voices on each other like some kind of weird social tango

#idk which of my mental illnesses and or neurotypes is responsible for this

[privatejoker]

it is weird to put things out into the world in attempt to be kind and get shit on for it

#getting called Neurotypical for it is a new one maybe you need to take some fucking responsibility for your misery instead of trying to #inflict it onto me

[chaotic-guinea-pig]

hot take about the new ep: Stan and Wendy can work out as a couple if (1) they sort out their communication issues and (2) recognise they have different love languages.

#might elaborate later #but wanted to get this out asap in response to the reactions I've seen #especially as an autistic person in a long term relo with a neurotypical #south park #south park stendy #sp stendy #stan marsh #wendy testaburger #south park deep learning #south park season 26

[deedoo-r]

Genuinely, nothing has ever been as mind-numbing as spending like 10 hours trying to complete like 8 school assignments.

there have actually been times when I just have to stop and go to bed because I have genuinely lost the ability to think

#college board #AP #ap tests #college board ap #lit #ap literature #literature #literature major #neurodivergent #504 plan #iep #neurotypical #shakespeare #william shakespeare #frq #free response questions #classical literature #adhd #adhd problems #adhd post #actually adhd #burnt retina #burnout #eye strain #mind-numbing #vegan #bbq #school #american school system #homework

[w4rcr1me5]

Me: idk I’m still not sure if I should look into an autism diagnosis

Also me: spends several hours making a powerpoint presentation about why every single fruits basket character (except Kyo and tohru) are queer and then spending another hour just scrolling through Pinterest and finding memes about fruits basket to add to the end of said powerpoint presentation

#fruitsbasket #fruba #fruits basket anime #fruits basket manga #fruits basket #kyoru #kyo sohma #yuki sohma #autism #neurodivergent #possibly autistic #this is not a neurotypical response

[soliusss]

me showing up to my stock room shifts the past three days about to be autistically weird and unsettling to my coworkers

#it’s not as bad as high school but still a little annoying #I still don’t know the proper neurotypical response to the phrase ‘what’s up’ #I’ve been trying variations but none of them seem right #I’ve just resorted to responding with ‘haiiiii :3’ #solius posting

[girlwithfish]

bpd vs cptsd is really confusing also bpd vs autism. anyway

#and like the debate that bpd is just cptsd #and is a disorder rooted in trauma #but trauma also isnt a diagnostic requirement but also idk if i believe ppl w bpd who say they have no trauma at all #well im sure there r exceptions but also think a lot of ppl downplay trauma they went thru #nd ppl say bpd/personality disorders in general r from trauma and learned trauma responses for survival #But reading up abt cptsd lately its like everything also resonates w ne #me #but i still think i am like textbook definition of bpd lol. i was in a split for literally a week #it was hell i actually dont know how i survived bc i was so close to kmsing a lotttt bc mental illness is running my life rn #and making it unbearable!! i am just tryi g to find internal safety again and trust in others and #build my own resilience and trust in myself above all. reparentify myself and learn how to make a #sustainable life for myself when ive been trying to function like a - #'normal' neurotypical stable person for all my life and had no idea my mental problems ran this deeply #like iwish i had gotten help sooner. i feel horrible my life has gotten to this point bc i did nothing abt it when i was a kid or younger #adult bc i didnt know i guess. idk #i just realized my.upbringing has a bigger effect than i even know on who i am today. i have sm repressed memories too lmfao

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

So asinine to me that neighborhood noise ordinances only apply to night time

There are endless reasons a person might need to sleep during the day, on any given day or regularly. Sleep disorders and chronic fatigue are not uncommon and are a byproduct of countless other conditions, also people work nights.

There are endless reasons other than sleep that a person might need a reasonably quiet environment. People work from home. People have different neurotypes. People have sensory and auditory issues. People have migraines and endless other noise-sensitive conditions. People have children and pets with these issues.

People deserve to not hear ridiculous volumes from inside their homes against their will, regardless of their schedule, health conditions, or anything else.

Emergency responders definitely work nights and definitely definitely should be so so well rested please if I need emergency surgery or a house fire put out at 2am in the future I would love if the people I call about that were on top of their game idk

I don’t think a man’s right to vroom-vroom his old car in his yard for hours at a time and blast bass-heavy music from his driveway and light off firecrackers all day is more important that any of that but okay

#audhd problems #adhd autistic #sensory issues #disability advocacy #auditory processing disorder #sleep disorder #cptsd #actually autistic #neurodiversity #first responders #emergency response #delayed sleep phase disorder #insomia #migraine #cluster headaches #neurotypicals be like #anxiety depression #autistic stuff #audhd things #nap time #accessibility #chronic illness #chronic fatigue #chronic fatigue syndrome #spoonie #allistics #trauma recovery #did osdd #sleep disorders

[yearning-gay]

oh bother is it already time to re-examine my sexuality and how i approach it again. is it time to evaluate whether i could even engage in a relationship in a healthy manner of if im too irresponsible for such things. sigh

#jack.txt #i had. the most domestic poly fantasy today #probably way unreachable and out of my league but it got me thinking #then i was distracted by creative shit for about 10 hours give or take but im back at it again. thimking. #how dare i even entertain the idea of a relationship involving multiple partners if im not responsible about it to an obsessive degree #let alone think i could handle a relationship without being 100% neurotypical and well-adjusted with all my shit together #yes i have brainworms yes they make it very hard to get off sometimes hee hoo

[fierceawakening]

And Like the other thing for me is these fights happen (I’m never sure how the Fuck they start, which I think is part of why I worry they must be my fault, they just all of a sudden Are Happening Yet Again somehow), and I end up snapping “tell me what you need!” in almost all of them (because it’s something like “behave decently!” that’s super super vague), and she’ll be like “I can’t, I have a left handed brain!” And THEN I GO “welp, we’re doing X.” Because I gave her the chance to give input, she didn't, and the thing is still happening.

And then that’s command and control. Fierce does it AGAIN! So bossy!

But how do I make allowances for “her weird brain” when somehow it never seems like it’s, “hey Fierce, can we talk now? I spent the last half hour thinking about what was bothering me, and it’s this. In the heat of the moment I know it’s hard for you to keep your voice low, but can we (suggestion?)”

Like it seems to me less that I preferentially choose command and control and more like these convos happen when, like, we’re all lifting a sofa, so commands like “go!” or “move!” are sensible in context.

And then it’s “did you just tell me to move?” And I’m like “yes, because my knee has ten seconds before it gives out. Go!”I think

#I think the “I have a left handed brain” thing is why I have so little patience for “lol neurotypicals” #I'm usually framed as the neurotypical #and it's usually my fault I don't understand the atypical response

[mudstoneabyss]

neurodivergent but in the opposite way from what I see a lot. "neurotypicals are always using unspoken social rules and cues instead of just stating things clearly and actually saying what they mean like neurodivergent-" brother I am playing 5 dimensional chess with multiverse time travel

#i hate that post thats like ''neurotypicals blah blah blah use your words'' because let me tell you. im neurodivergent #& i Can Not Fucking use my words. my brain is scrambled I dont know what to say I can only throw things down & hope ppl are picking them up #joyousposting #sometimes I feel like. manipulative because I'll say stuff with the specific intent of getting someone else to say this thing in response #(with a large amount of certainty they will) #but all that ever is is like. getting them to ask a specific question because my brain cant Say What I Want unless prompted by a question #example: lets say I want to talk about X. I'll bring up X then be like theres this Thing about X knowing someone will probably be like #oh what is this Thing? then I can say what I want about X #trying to get other people to say what I'm thinking but not to persuade or manipulate them into thinking like me but to point at and go #yeah that thats what I mean but couldn't communicate #if left to myself I do this where I keep talking to try and properly convey what I'm trying to say without ever feeling like I successfully #do so and in fact make things more confusing #Your neurodivergent brain go roundabout ways to link seemingly unrelated thoughts mine throws them all at once at me at several branching #paths #slash j ik im not the neurodivergent who does this #this isnt a vent btw

[marxzsoul]

There’s nothing wrong w being one of those fandom special interest autistics (I am one lol) but I’ve been seeing too much shit where low support needs autistic ppl whose only exposure to other autists is in a fandom lense are being disrespectful and outright ableist to high support needs autistic ppl and it’s v sad and frustrating.

Main example I can think of is on any TikTok where a high support needs autistic individual is just acting in a way that’s socially inappropriate (nothing severe, just being “weird”) the comments will always have some anime icon mf saying “I’m autistic and I DON’T act like this” like ok. You know autism can present in different ways right. I would have hoped that since u are also autistic u might have a better understanding of ppl w other types of autism but I guess u would rather suck up to neurotypicals and put down some of our most vulnerable siblings.

#I say vulnerable not bc they are weak or incapable #but bc they are the ones neurotypicals will abuse and take advantage of #and it is OUR responsibility as fellow autistics and just as decent human beings to just. not be assholes to them? look out for them. #we are a community why don’t we act as such…

[nyx-nyghts]

Any multi-pronouns will stress me out because everything must be EVEN. I must say all of them the same amount of times, is that fun and not at all stressful? 🙃

They/He? She/They? He/she/they? They must all be said the same amount of times and I have to keep track and continue speaking until they’ve all been used an equal amount.

#I realise this isn’t a neurotypical response to pronouns. #pronouns #nonbinary #transgender

[yay-depression]

the repressed neurodivergent experience of thinking “no one will ever love me with all of my neurodivergency the way i love them with their neurotypical-ness.”

#me my whole life: got made fun of for exhibiting ND traits among other stuff #me in middle school: well if i simply pretend i am neurotypical people will stop disliking me for being ND #spoiler alert: i was not very good at faking neurotypical-ness #me now: very very good at faking being neurotypical to the point that i am perceived as having very few distinguishable traits #my family my entire life: you are weird (aka neurodivergent) stop being weird #my family my entire life: if i simply do the thing that my child hates maybe they will grow out of hating it #another spoiler alert: no the FUCK i did not #tldr my entire life i’ve essentially suppressed most of myself to make the people i love comfortable bc that’s what they wanted from me #and in response they routinely ignore some of my most important boundaries and still try to act like they’re helping me #my therapist keeps telling me that one day i’ll get a family even if it’s found family #because sometimes found family is the best kind of family #but no one i’ve met is willing to actually put up with who i am as a person and not abandon me #every non-familial person in my life anytime i’ve shared deeply personal things with them: nope no thank you goodbye #and the deeply personal things were always just like ‘i’m actually pretty insecure in friendships and i feel deeply lonely’ #it wasn’t even traumadumping bc they always seemed fine with that!! bonding over shared trauma was like a group activity #and then anytime i was like ‘hey could i maybe get some validate that y’all don’t hate me?’ everyone would be like #no. why would you need that we never said we hated you stop being over dramatic #my dad pulled that last one all the time!! except he added the ‘how could you even think i hate you when i’ve been nothing but good to you!’ #come to think of it my friends did a lot of that too actually #anyways i have a core belief that i’m actually just unloveable and people just tolerate me and it’s been confirmed repeatedly