#stay at home mothers

[awholevibex]

#morning aesthetic #motherhood #stay at home mom aesthetic #stay at home mum #stay at home mothers

[katelyn-marie323]

Y’know motherhood is hard, but when my baby sees me, she immediately gets a huge smile on her face, kicks in excitement, and loudly baby babbles. And that makes every hardship worth it one million times over.

#feminine #homemaker #housewife #traditional femininity #tradwife #motherhood #babies #traditional family #stay at home wife #stay at home mothers

[prettyadiary]

mommies ✿

#motherhood #stay at home mothers #black moms #girlmom #luxury #black girls are beautiful #kids #family #traditional family #devine feminine #femininity #sahm

[muslimintp-1999-girl]

People who hate on someone for being a housewife/househusband/stay at home partner are the weirdest, like sorry buddy I'm afraid capitalism has messed up with you real bad coz single income households have always been a thing before capitalism pretty much erased the concept.

#dislike how these haters jump to conclusions like calling them pick me girl/boy or assuming they're leeching off of their partners somehow #as if stay at home spouses all have a sugar daddy/mommy 🙄 #not having a corporate job isn’t a bad thing if you don't want to & if there's enough money #things #capitalism #stay at home mothers #stay at home wife #stay at home husband

[lnholt]

A message from the stay-at-home parent:

Let's start by saying thank you for the opportunity to stay at home, allowing us to be there for our children, watching them grow while you provide most if not all of the income for our family.

But let's not forget what we do at home is still work without a paycheck; every day, we are the caretakers, cooks, cleaners, therapists, playmates, and principle for our children. Staying at home can feel like groundhogs day, with some days a diaper blowout thrown into the mix; we wake up most days at the same time because the children are awake.

We cook them food, and if we are lucky, they will eat what we have made, on the plate we put it on and the selected surface. If any of these do not make the child happy, we try again (most of the time). While doing this, we either think about making some coffee, or we have made it, and now it is cold, so reheat or drink it because deep down, we know it will just get cold again.

Then there is activity time and diaper or potty time, running around trying to give our child a fun day, but not every day is fun; there are the tantrums, the crying because we said to clean up, or the anger because we said no candy for lunch, the baby is needing to be fed after they just ate one minute ago to just throwing it all up on you.

Now, after some time, it's lunchtime, breakfast all over again but with maybe a different food, then realizing we haven't even gone to the bathroom yet. We have had to for the last few hours, and we try to go, but either the child who learned to open the door is now in the bathroom with us or the baby is crying, so hurry and get back out there.

Nap time sounds good about now, and maybe make some food for our us to eat; we rock the child lay them down, we know they are tired, leave the room as quietly as we can, go to the kitchen or start to make something or begin to eat what the child has left on the plate to only hear the napping child is not napping and is now crying/ screaming, so lunch break is cut short.

After some time, a nap is over activity again, sit on the sofa for a moment to get pulled into playing or breathe for a five-minute break most of the time while holding the baby. Look at the clock and realize its almost time for you to get off work, see the house isn't clean, dinner is not started, still, need to go to the bathroom, the child wants a snack, the baby is crying for more milk, an exclusively pumping mama has to sit and take the time to pump the milk ( all day long ) or latch baby, or make the bottle.

This day is only one of the many possibilities because there are sick kid days, sick parent days, school work, possible work-from-home jobs, and there is so much more being done with the children than mentioned here.

Incomes the spouse to only assume we have done nothing all day or had plenty of time to cook, clean, or take a shower. When the reality is yes, we might have had an extra fifteen minutes today, but that was used to sit and breathe or take a sip of that stale cold coffee and call another adult for some adult interaction.

Because when you come home, you are tired and don't want to talk, so that takes away from your interaction with an adult; you also want and deserve to decompress.

Still, please remember you got to drive to work alone, go to the bathroom alone, sit and maybe have lunch, drove back home alone, we woke up to our job and never left our job, go to sleep at our job and wake up to start it all over most of the time seven days a week, no holiday or sick days allowed.

Please know we appreciate and love our jobs, but just like you at your job, it doesn't always mean it's always easy or fun to be at every day.

#stay at home parent #stay at home mothers #stay at home dad #tired mom #tired dad #need a break #children #lets be honest

[mommapaytana]

Bedtime - my favorite time of day

When Pregnant Me told people I was going to quit my tech job to stay at home with the baby, the responses from those who knew me well weren't surprising.

"You'll be bored and back in no time!"

"It's not as fulfilling as you think it will be."

"You're going to really miss talking to adults. Work is an escape from your kid!"

Quite a few people told me to thank my husband which I can appreciate and agree with.

Pregnancy hormones were raging when I made this decision and I fully expected myself to miss corporate life by the time the fourth trimester was over. Seeing reddit posts and pinterest blogs about how un-glamorous and downright hard being a SAHM is just confirmed my bias.

So tell me why

I am more fulfilled now than I ever was at any job (& I have had jobs I LOVED). Caring for this baby - MY baby - sparks creativity, fuels my drive, and ushers in buckets full of joy multiple times a day.

I am shocked. I didn't expect this to be for me. If this job was a meal, pouring into this baby is the main dish that gives me purpose. Side dishes include finding ways to save money, all the chores, and having an immaculate, functional home basically 24/7. I love that I have the flexibility to support my husband in his career and his hobbies and have time to visit my grandmother in her old age.

Friends and family have checked in to see how I'm getting on and laugh when I tell them bedtime is my favorite time of day. Of course I tell them I love being home and I feel incredibly fortunate for the opportunity to do so, but how can I explain the sheer magic of my day? My baby is noticing more, playing more, and developing so rapidly that I look forward to bedtime because I know he still fits in my arms. My embrace is still his safe space where he gets the most peaceful sleep. My heart expands every time he peaks an eye open and smiles to check that I'm still holding him.

I just wanted to throw this into the internet for the person that's thinking about quitting corporate to raise children and reading what I was reading and hearing what I was hearing.

Why did no one tell me staying at home would make me magic?

#children are magic #magic #stay at home mothers #stay at home parent #stay at home moms #SAHM #sahmlife #bedtime routine #parenting

[wolfstardaughter-jj]

Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers in the world!!!

I drew some bouquets by hand. My form of gift giving is usually handmade things. These were made for my wonderful mom and amazing grandma.

#happy mother’s day 2022 #stay at home mothers #working mothers #mother's day #bouquet #Flowers #hand drawn #digital drawing #mothers #single mothers #molly weasley #narcissa black #lily potter #Pandora Lovegood #andromeda tonks #euphemia potter

[moonlight-rider25]

In honor of motherdays weekend, I would just like to properly remind every female on this planet;

You are superior to men.

Weather you choose to or not, you are the creator of life and this earth. We owe them nothing, they owe us everything.

Thank you that is all.

#stay at home mothers #mother #women #superior #mothersday #women of earth #female #warmen #superior species #beauty #grace #love #warmth #life #creator #happy mothers day #happy mother’s day 2022 #come at me

[neon-pink-witch]

The most frustrating thing about homemaking is how pointless it can feel.

I spent all morning and all afternoon cleaning yesterday and this morning the house is a mess again. It really starts feeling like wasted effort with no real lasting results to make you feel as if it's a job well done. One off day and you're playing catch up for a week

#housekeeping #homemaking #homemaker #proud homemaker #pagan homemaking #stay at home wife #pagan homemaker #stay at home parent #housewife #stay at home mothers

[wordsofthequite]

It is the custom of every good mother after her children are asleep to rummage in their minds and put things straight for next morning, repacking into their proper places the many articles that have wandered during the day. If you could keep awake (but of course you can’t) you would see your own mother doing this, and you would find it very interesting to watch her. It is quite like tidying up drawers. You would see her on her knees, I expect, lingering humorously over some of your contents, wondering where on earth you had picked this thing up, making discoveries sweet and not so sweet, pressing this to her cheek as if it were as nice as a kitten, and hurriedly stowing that out of sight. When you wake in the morning, the naughtinesses and evil passions with which you went to bed have been folded up small and placed at the bottom of your mind; and on the top, beautifully aired, are spread out prettier thoughts, ready for you to put on.

J.M. Barrie

#dark academia #english literature #quotes #poesia #books and literature #books #notebooks #playlist #children #stay at home mothers #mothersday #parents #woman #womanhood #jm barrie

[marzipanandminutiae]

thoughts on "tradwives" as a 19th-century social historian

It's great until it's not.

It's great until he develops an addiction and starts spending all the money on it.

It's great until you realize he's abusive and hid it long enough to get you totally in his power (happened to my great-great-aunt Irene).

It's great until he gets injured and can't work anymore.

It's great until he dies and your options are "learn a marketable skill fast" or "marry the first eligible man you can find."

It's great until he wants child #7 and your body just can't take another pregnancy, but you can't leave or risk desertion because he's your meal ticket.

It's great until he tries to make you run a brothel as a get-rich-quick scheme and deserts you when you refuse, leaving your sisters to desperately fundraise so your house doesn't get foreclosed on (happened to my great-great-aunt Mamie).

It's great until you want to leave but you can't. It's great until you want to do something else with your life but you can't. It's great. Until. It's. Not.

I won't lie to you and say nobody was ever happy that way. Plenty of women have been, and part of feminism is acknowledging that women have the right to choose that sort of life if they want to.

But flinging yourself into it wholeheartedly with no sort of safety net whatsoever, especially in a period where it's EXTREMELY easy for him to leave you- as it should be; no-fault divorce saves lives -is naive at best and dangerous at worst.

Have your own means of support. Keep your own bank account; we fought hard enough to be allowed them. Gods willing, you never need that safety net, but too many women have suffered because they needed it and it wasn't there.

#history #women's history #pregnancy mention #my mother (born 1953) drilled this into me from an early age: have a safety net. have a skill and keep it up to date. have your own money #NEVER join bank accounts. keep a hold on your assets. #well and good to be a stay-at-home wife and mother- I know other lesbians who want that even! #but if your partner is your sole financial support...you're courting danger IMO

[shabernasty]

Being a stay at home parent is so fucking isolating and exhausting.

Humans were not made to live like this. Capitalism has ruined parenthood and childhood and I'm so mad about it, but it's also wearing me out to have to live like this.

#stay at home mothers #anti capitalist

[bleudesigns]

#daily life #daily positivity #daily planner #weekly #weekly planner #weekly calendar #digital calendar #digital template #template #digital download #organization #daily task #home office #stay at home mothers #stay at home jobs

[survivorfixitmom23]

I am 40 years old, a mother of 2 with a communications degree and had a career in advertising in NYC. When I lived and worked in NY the work hours were long but we all made quick friends and had amazing life-changing experiences I gave that all up to have my children and move to CT. My husband and I decided I would give up my career and he would be the bread-winner. This is admirable but later I will post part time DYI career or job ideas.

#stay at home moms #stay at home mothers

[arcticdementor]

Are Stay-at-Home Mothers Really Miserable?

@JillFilipovic thinks so. But @lymanstoneky just ran the data. Here’s what he found @FamStudies:

https://ifstudies.org/blog/are-stay-at-home-mothers-really-miserable

…

“In a recent New York Times piece, @MattBruenig suggested that any child care program should also have an at-home-care allowance provided to ensure that families not using center-based care are not penalized. In response, @JillFilipovic tarred his proposal as sexist.”

“the problem with a home-care benefit, she says, is that it encourages women to stay home with their kids, and being stay-at-home mothers makes women miserable. If this claim is true, it would be an important issue to consider. Nobody wants to make moms miserable!” ~@lymanstoneky

Contra @JillFilipovic: “Survey evidence from two large, long-running survey programs shows that stay-at-home mothers are in fact just as happy as other mothers.” https://ifstudies.org/blog/are-stay-at-home-mothers-really-miserable… @lymanstoneky @FamStudies

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Who are the least happy parents? Unemployed dads. New from @lymanstoneky @FamStudies

Married mothers’ happiness, by work status, per @lymanstoneky https://ifstudies.org/blog/are-stay-at-home-mothers-really-miserable

#brad wilcox #twitter thread #twitter #stay at home mothers #lyman stone #jill filipovic

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