#you shouldn't have to choose

[snekdood]

i dont think non-transmasc allies realize that- it's actually their job to uplift our voices and make us more visible. it's actually their job to bring others awareness to us and to advocate for us. it's their job to use the platform they have to talk about us, accurately portray our struggles and/or bring trans guys into the discussion to talk about our problems. we can only do so much alone and if no one else is advocating for us, then people are less likely to listen and take us seriously.

y'know how white men hafta talk to other white men for them to actually listen about and understand the struggles of people of color? it's like that. people of your own demographic are more willing to listen to you than listen to the people you're advocating for, unfortunately, but that is the reality. you need to bring us on when you're having discussions about us or at least get your info from transmascs if you're going to talk about us w/o us there. I can shout at the top of my lungs about trans men everyday but at the end of the day it doesnt reach as much people. it's the responsibility of people with more visibility and a platform to boost our voices and message.

#transandrophobia #i dont feel like thats too much to ask. #and no- boosting the opinions of only trans guys you agree with isnt enough. diversity of perspectives is important. #also- if you keep antagonizing us- it's gonna make it harder for us to survive and sub sequentially all trans ppl to survive. #the longer trans men remain invisible- the more people will just target trans women. #antagonizing us and choosing to smother our voices aids you in 0 capacity and makes life worse for all trans people. #i shouldn't have to ask you to care enough about us to actually advocate for ALL of us.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

more people should choose their names though. grown adults are really out there walking around with names their parents chose at random. "nice baby name, did your mommy pick that out for you?" grow up

#joking but not really joking #if you like your birth name i'm happy for you! #but i've heard a ton of cis people talking wistfully about 'if i could choose any name...' #buddy i have wonderous news! #'so what parents shouldn't name their kids then???' not what i'm saying! #but i think it should be more common for people to have childhood names that they later change as teens/adults #and think about nicknames. plenty of people have nicknames that change throughout their lifetime. why not just extend that principle #i know lots of adults who went by abbreviations of their given name when they were young #and then at some point decided they had outgrown that #let people outgrow names!

[uncanny-tranny]

It actually does bother me that eating is treated like spending money - that you have an allotted allowance in the form of calories that you are supposed to budget.

"How are you spending your calories?" I'm spending them on experiences. I'm spending them on time with my community, my people, those who matter to me. I'm spending them on satiating a human need. I'm spending them on the feeling of being alive and not just living.

If there is one experience that I don't want to "pay" for, it's the basic human right of comfort, security, community, and care.

#anti diet culture #fatphobia #fatphobia tw #disordered eating tw #ed tw #(just in case) #ask to tag #if i had to choose between miserable counting and recounting and reallocating calories and... eating then i'm choosing the latter #there are absolutely health conditions which warrent the *need* to count and stay in a range #but that is entirely different than the societal pressure to be within the idea of a 'right' calorie/nutrient count #if you have a health condition which is affected by food/drink then do what you must to balance your wellness and health and happiness #there is absolutely nothing wrong with that #again that is very different than society coming in and telling you what it thinks you 'should' do about yourself #i know this sounds corny but like #does it not drive you insane to obsess over numbers if you don't have to? #does it drive you insane that you're often treated like you can't or shouldn't be permitted to just live? to ENJOY living?

[blakbonnet]

I'm so tired honestly I'm just so sick of mean people, the world is shitty and depressing and children are dying and volunteers who are trying to do some damn good in the world are getting their trucks blasted, and you live in this world and you choose to be unkind. It's beyond incomprehensible to me.

#Please do better #log off if you have nothing good to say #go and take part in a protest #stand shoulder to shoulder with people who care #your imagined slights are made up and you're hurting people and telling yourself you are an activist ™️ #art and crafts and design and people fighting for it shouldn't get you this riled up #and if it is - if you're choosing to spend your time sending death threats to people who are spending an hour each day blogging #knowing nothing about their life #hump some grass man idk what to tell you #you are sending death threats to a real person #I can't stress this enough an actual flesh and bone person is behind this blog?? #meow speaks

[welcometogrouchland]

I love Steph's origin as told in the Secret Origins 80 page giant- I just overall think it strengthens her character by giving her a lot of pathos and adding to her heroism (which isn't something writers were focused on in her actual intro in detective comics #647 since she was just meant to act as a plot device back then) BUT there is one tiny detail in it i will begrudge, and that is the portrayal of her having a minor love at first sight moment for tim

Secret origins 80 page giant, ID in alt

(or well, technically this was their second meeting in that story (the brick was the first) so...love at second sight?)

Mostly because Stephanie showed no interest in her introduction and only showed romantic feelings towards Tim AFTER this moment here:

Robin (1993) #4, ID in alt

Straight up the progression here goes:

The adventure in 'tec where they first meet -> Tim investigating the same crime scene as Steph -> she beats him up not knowing it's him at first, apologizes but says he shouldn't have scared her -> he remembers her/the moniker she goes by -> they talk about plot for a few pages -> Stephanie starts flirting

Robin (1993) #4, ID in alt

Which...is so fascinating to me and says so much about Stephanie. She highlights the fact that Tim "remembered" her. Like. Steph. Girl. This is our bar? It's sweet but kind of speaks to how much Stephanie is ignored at home/how little and sporadically she's shown interacting with her peers (and rarely ever the same kids twice). Her idea of peak romance is just...being on someone's mind even when you're not there.

Kind of also adds layers to Steph's proclivity towards jealousy later on, a manifestation of her insecurity and loneliness (though don't get it twisted, she's not written this way bc Dixon and co think it's an interesting character flaw, they wrote it bc they think it's an inherent character flaw of (particularly young) women/girls, which is very apparent in how he approaches Ariana's character as well from what I've read)

Also the fact that Steph becomes so smitten for Tim almost immediately after this is (a few issues later she aggressively flirts with him during AN ACTIVE HOSTAGE SITUATION. WHERE SHE'S THE HOSTAGE) again is kind of a mixture of kind of funny and sad. One boy is nice to her once and she's fully ready to wife him. Girl you are deranged (affectionate) (concerned)

#ramblings of a lunatic #dc comics #stephanie brown #tim drake #timsteph #meta #< ??? ig #robin 1993 #made this post and forgot to finish. saved it in drafts. saw posts that annoyed me. proceeded to finish it #the subset of fans who think they're doing a righteous feminism by giving steph more flaws than she has in canon...headaches #yes flawed female characters are important representation no i dont think you projecting chuck dixons conservative values onto her- #-is doing her character a great favour. if so you need to commit to the bit and make tim a stone cold nark /j #sorry okay im done vaguing. there's real things going on in the world that matter. the bad take is the mind killer etc etc #anyway the zero to 100 progression of early timsteph is fascinating. on the one hand i know it's mostly a product of its time #both in terms of portrayals of romance (esp teen romance) and partially of women and girls by dixon (not extremely boy obsessed- #-but there's a. dark shadow of the boy crazy trope. a gentle whiff of it in the air. just a little) #but bc this aspect isn't blatantly/egregiously author bias i choose to analyse it #i could also analyse how steph in general is portrayed as liking guys she can't/shouldn't have a little #(her crush on the much older detective in bg2009 and also tim a little bit w/ the secret identity thing) #(but that's a whole other discussion. also that aspect of the romance in bg2009 is. also a little sexistly motivated- #-and also dropped part way through to an extent so like..not exactly ripe for analysis) #ANYWHO i love you Steph <3 you're unwell and yet so adorable and compelling Steph <3

[a-local-idiots-shitpost]

I hate you game companies who sell games in stores who are nothing but a download code, I hate you game companies who won't allow me to truly own a game myself because it would be cheaper for you, I hate you game companies who only give you DLC's seperate even if you bought a GOTY edition/includes DLC version and it's not on the disc, I hate you game companies who force everybody to download game one patches just because you wanted more money, I hate you game companies who don't care that not everybody has a wi-fi connection and even less a really good one, I also and I especially hate all companies who make online only games even if they can be played Solo

I also also hate all of the above because they make game preservation so much harder for everybody involoved no matter if they do it so others can play them or just for themself in case their console/game breaks or the support for the stores get shut down

#local shouldn't be allowed to think #anyway just woke up and choose violence #I have no idea wher this came from #but it's all true so idc #I hate you triple AAA game studios who treat their employes like garbage #just because you pieces of shit want more money and fast <3

[no-truce-with-the-heroes]

i can't believe there's still people out there who genuinely think Ochako would "kill Toga on sight" at this point

like, okay, there's the anime-only people who aren't aware of manga developments or are actively avoiding spoilers, and of course there's all the people who clearly stopped giving a shit ages ago (yet somehow still feel completely secure making blanket declarations about a franchise they no longer keep up with???)

but even then, and even if you're not a shipper or just don't like the characters-- how can anyone have ever believed that makes any sense ever? like we're not even talking self-defense apparently? just "on sight"? who do you think Ochako is, the Punisher in pink?

like i don't think i'm especially media literate myself, but-- how is it possible for people to be this bad at reading where a narrative is going?

because of course that's exactly what the Togachako plotline was leading up to, clearly the ultimate endpoint of developing Toga Himiko as a sympathetic villain important to Ochako's heroic actualization was a teenager unquestioningly enacting the extrajudicial murder of another teenager

that's exactly what MHA is all about, right? that's the sort of person Ochako is, the kind of hero that she wants to be? that's definitely good storytelling and not at all inane or grotesque? ugh

#don't want to cause/deal with any drama and it'd be doubly not worth it on a post that wasn't even about togachako #i just need to vent somewhere or i'll stew on it for ages #an offhanded comment in tags is so not worth this amount of anger and yet ohhhh i am mad #honestly this is probably less about that post and more about all the similar shit i saw on That Hellsite when the 391+ spoilers dropped #bakugou stans i have so much respect for you all i would be dead within a day if i had to deal with this BS as often as you do #mha spoilers #bnha spoilers #not really any actual spoilers but ig the vague allusions are still worth tagging for the previously-mentioned anime people #rest of the post sounded like shit opinions too but i didn't really get the whole context and not interested in looking further #this shit has already lived in my head rent-free long enough #no but seriously as a togachako OTP shipper there are in fact a lot of rational reasons for why the ship shouldn't work #canon is currently laughing maniacally in the face of your rationality but at least those reasons do make sense #why would you choose this goddamn Ochako slander as your reasoning instead

[nights-at-crystarium]

Look. I may not be a dedicated haurchefucker blog but. If he wins this poll, and only then, you get to choose which one of these pinups I put some work into. I still don't have tumblr polls so we'll have to take this to twitter though.

#i'm deeply sorry that we have to choose between him and aymeric #at all and in round one especially #this shouldn't be a thing so early on #also have you seen the earlier tags on this from back when haurchie was losing? #those people sounded DEVASTATED #i'm doing this for them #bc they've collectively already gone through a loss #i won't let that happen again #ffxiv #haurchefant greystone #haurchefant de fortemps #own: next lvl

[ride-a-dromedary]

Idk if it's just a tonal thing not coming across well in text or what, but a lot of the PC's newer (potential) lines with Halsin just sound very condescending for no reason.

#the tonal shift is so weird #BG3 Musing #i understand that people are wrongfully annoyed by halsin's frustration #i am positive there are less blockheaded ways to approach this than 'ha owned' and halsin immediately folding #though i do like halsin's latter response being 'yeah sometimes you have to be dramatic or people remain apathetic lmao' #is halsin's line of thinking biased and flawed? yes. is yours as well? ALSO yes #even the drow prompt ends up coming across as very condescending #no i'm not saying some of the stuff he says shouldn't be called into question don't twist it #i'm saying that's the way you're choosing huh

[j-eryewrites]

What's Next?

Currently in the heat of finals season! hehe... Anyway, now that Arbitrary Lives and A Sinner's Redemption are about to wrap up, I have been thinking about what series-length fics I should write next. I already have some ideas, but I am also willing and would love to take suggestions.

Disclosure: Arbitrary Lives will get another few parts, so it's not quite over yet

#bbc sherlock #sherlock holmes #sherlock x reader #sherlock holmes x reader #i am sherlocked #sherlock bbc #sherlock x you #fanfic #what to write #what to write next #the sandman #doctor who #the six of crows #kaz brekker #good omens #i have many ideas #just need help choosing #reader insert #i want to write a new fic but i know that i shouldn't #my fic #fanfiction #doctor who fandom #sherlock fandom #morpheus #dream of the endless #crowley #six of crows #aziraphale #the doctor #bbc dr who

[xhanisai]

I am so, SO happy that I'm seeing more people on twitter defending Alya and talking about how SOME people have done Marinette dirty in s5 and how said snakey characters continue to get their feet kissed by the fandom and have their actions blamed on "bad writing uwu"

There is a reason why the only characters I give a shit about are Marinette, Adrien, Alya, Nino, Tom, Sabine and kwamis atm

Many people need to understand that their fave characters aren't affected by "bad writing". They're just shit people in general sometimes lol.

#delete later #i will not put this in the main tags #i havent had the chance to talk to anyone about this but I'm so glad to see that I'm not alone with the same thought process #all i will say is that if I had a secret where if exposed could put myself and all my loved ones in danger #and someone i assumed was a good friend finds out #and instead of talking to me about it #they go blabbing to someone who put me and my loved ones in immediate danger cos of their selfish misguided whims and allowed the enemy to #get the upper hand over us #WE WOULD NO LONGER BE FRIENDS #I WOULD CUT THEM OUT OF MY LIFE #FUCK THAT SHIT #HIGHEST LEVEL OF BETRAYAL #and if i were to finally get with the boy I loved for a loooong time #only for said friend to constantly bitch about how he won't do anything and and being sour about it #and choosing to believe some random bitch who lied about me and using said lies to point fingers at me to justify why I shouldn't be with #the boy #yeah man that's one SHITE friend #YOU CANNOT CHANGE MY MIND #i have actually been STEAMING about this for a little while since s5 ended #obviously if you connect the pieces then congrats well done #this isn't to attack anyone who stans these characters I really despise now #in fact i don't care if you love these characters or not #i am just so tired of seeing this hypocritical dumbass fandom constantly undermine alya and paint her as a bad person #when she's been the BESTEST friend she could have ever been DESPITE her flaws and mistakes #all whilst hyping up ALL THE CHARACTERS WHO HAVE DONE MARINETTE DIRTY ONE WAY OR ANOTHER #god i have been so stupidly mad about this it is hilarious now that I look at it #anyways alya deserves better and no one is a better bestie than her and chat noir for maribug #seethe you fucking fools

[edwardshundredyearoldspunk]

stumbled across a ballad of songbirds and snakes critique video and I couldn't even watch it because the person so did not get what the book was doing and saying and the comments were complaining about the unnecessary romance when it's super obvious it's not intended to be a romance. suzanne collins is, yet again, ahead of her time because I remember the hate mockingjay got when it came out for killing prim and having katniss vote for new hunger games when those plot points are crucial and are meant to act as a commentary

#tbosbas #thg #i am and forever will be a ballad of songbirds and snakes defender #i firmly think that is suzanne collins' most cleverly crafted hunger games book #everything about it impresses me #the narrators voice being so different from katniss' reveals something about the writing that has me in awe #one criticism the trilogy got was the writing was too simple #and it's easy to assume this is just collins' style #until you read tbosbas and realize oh shit no she's just really good at writing voice #(which if you're a writer you'll know how hard it is to make your own style dissapear when trying to write voice) #also as a writer myself #I'm so tired of the criticism of ''why did she write about snow when she could have written about [insert any fan favorite character]'' #because honestly i can understand if you're not interested in reading about snow #but to act like you're then entitled to a story of your choosing and suzanne collins shouldn't have a say in what she writes?? #god that bothers me #i feel like readers forget that writers don't always write with an audience in mind #and that while you can be displeased about an author you enjoy going in a direction you aren't interested in reading #you don't have a say in how they choose to explore their creativity

[uncanny-tranny]

If you truly want to do what's best for mentally ill people, you have to learn that you often won't be able to separate the "salvageable" parts of ourselves with our illnesses, and you can't pretend like we are sane people underneath the façade of insanity, like we can flip a switch and magically erase the differences that make us "disordered"

#mental health #mental health advocacy #i'm not sure how best to explain it but i see this attitude a lot that anything even mildly 'unsightly' must be punished or ignored... #...or fear mongered... #...or this idea that we *are* just secretly... not disordered and that we can choose every single aspect of our disorders and how... #...that will impact us and our world #it's really hard to explain if you haven't experienced it yourself. it's so hard to know that who you Fundamentally Are is seen as unhuman #that you cannot be disordered and seen as an equal in so many scenarios is precisely what i mean by 'if you want to do right [by us]' #we shouldn't HAVE to present as non-disordered or non-ill just to be treated like a person #i shouldn't have to be forced to pretend like my illnesses are an optional part of who i am that OTHERS should ignore so they can 'love me' #my illnesses are intrinsically tied to Who I Am. i will never have the opportunity to know what Being Sane is like and i shouldn't... #...have to pretend like that isn't the case #it's just fucked up to me to know that people would rather that we just... ignore often fundamental parts of who we are for *their* comfort #maybe that's how i'd word it? i find this a very complex topic but at the core... #...the idea is that we shouldn't have to fucking live a lie for the sake of the 'normal' folk #(obviously 'normal' isn't accurate on a technical level but it conveys how i see the conflict)

[backpackingspace]

of course jun wu is evil and all that but why is he such a dad??

#jun wu #heaven official's blessing #Why is he just straight up dading xie lian #Also I do feel a bit bad for him it must suck to choose to die on the hill of also turning xie lian evil #But also why does xie lian refer to himself in 3rd person when talking to the emperor #Is that a culture thing a translation thing? #“Oh xie lian I worry but I shouldn't tell you which friends to have. But you'll be careful wont you xie lian” #“Oh xie lian but you haven't talked to your old friends yet” #“Oh xie lian you haven't called your old man in 800 years. I won't be offended because your my beloved son but if it was ANYBODY ELSE”

[running-in-the-dark]

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#currently crying because I'm alone with my husband's 94 year old grandma and I'm the only one who ever lets her talk about certain topics #so she just talked about her childhood and youth for one and a half hours #which means. the war #I'm not gonna go into it but it makes me cry every time even though I've already heard it all before #how can you not cry about a child who lost two of her teenaged brothers and had to watch the third one very nearly die too #the stories about how careful they had to be because the police constantly went to every house and checked everything #how they had to hide some of the milk from their cows so they could make butter because they couldn't afford to buy it #and how dangerous that was. #idk I'm so tired of people dying over senseless and unnecessary shit forever and ever and nothing ever changes and no one ever seems #to learn from it #or at least the ones in power don't #as long as there's disposable people (men) to send to war it doesn't matter. and now that's not even necessary anymore you can just kill #people from far away and. I'm just tired #and I'll shut up now and not talk about these things again as usual. it's not because I don't care it's because it (literally) drives me #insane to think about it and I know it's weak and pathetic but I have to choose to stay just barely sane enough to stay alive #can't stop crying. 🙃 #anyway. shouldn't talk about it so. bye

[this-is-krikkit]

Would you rather…

1. Live in a version of our world, where AOT no, all anime, does not exist.

2. Live in Paradis, with all the characters and titans and drama, and no knowledge that the world beyond the walls exists.

hm. either way, i don't get access to anime (which means no YOI, no BD, not any of the few others i've watched since then) since they don't exist in Paradis, right?

so essentially, you're asking me to pick between "Hange Zoë exists in the same universe as me but i'll probably die by getting enrolled in the Scouts just for a chance to get close to them", vs "no Hange Zoë at all, nothing, not even the fictional idea of them."

hold my lollipop and engrave my empty coffin, buddy, cause the choice is all but made! 🐎⚔️🪽

#blorbhange #i'd die on my first expedition but i'd get to say hello to them from afar once! probably!! maybe! yay me!!! #i'm not obsessed i'm in love. obsessively. shut up #asks #mutuals #mutuals asks #dont f with moogles #bestie #hange zoë #terra's fucked up asks #what have we learned today? #that you shouldn't ask me to choose between reality and a made up (no matter how fucked up) world when holiday season is coming up x) #snk #shingeki no kyojin