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i literally do not understand why transphobes call being trans an ideology. i just identify as trans, my gender is different than my assigned gender at birth, and if you can't accept that then sucks to suck.

it's literally not a belief or anything like that, i just know who i am and what i want. my own existence is not an opinion for debate.

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#companion_planting #ghost 🦷 #transgenderism #transphobia #trans #transgender #cw transphobia #nonbinary #genderfluid #genderqueer #agender #bigender #xenogender

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A friend of mine recently came to me over her wife leaving her over a cheating incident. But she was saying that it was her alter using her body, which she says she gave permission to. I feel funny about it and idk how to think and idk if it's cuz I don't have did, but I wanted to hear multiple ideas about it ig.

You may have to clarify a few things because I'm a bit lost. Let me know if I'm getting this wrong here.

Your friend fell out with her wife after an alter fronted and had sex with someone outside of the relationship.

If you mean your friend gave permission for the alter to front, that's not really a thing. Sometimes switches happen voluntarily but a good chunk of the time they aren't. If you mean they gave the alter permission to front and have sex with the other person, that is definitely cheating.

If you mean your friend's wife gave permission for the alter to have sex with someone else, that seems like a whole different problem I am not sure how to answer.

But if you're asking if your friend cheated or not, they did. It doesn't matter if it's another alter or the alter has no attraction to the wife, that is a conversation to be had with the alter who did it and the rest of the system as well as the wife way before this incident.

It's normal to have alters who have different attractions (rn we have one alter who is aromantic asexual and another panromantic pansexual fronting), but if that causes conflicts that discussion needs to happen as soon as possible. Especially if the wife was aware of the system to begin with.

But I also don't know your friend personally. We personally feel like blaming your alters for it feels like an excuse and avoiding blame, but again I'm not sure how they're communication with their system is or any information about the relationship in general.

Sorry this was a very strange question to get, and sorry if you expected a better answer. I think if your friend wants to fix things, they should speak with a therapist and work on their system. I don't think they should expect their wife to forgive them (at least easily) because it very much was cheating and the wife has every reason to be hurt and upset.

I hope things work out for you and your friend, anon.

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#talking to the bees #snails 🍂 #ghost 🦷 #advice #cw cheating #tw cheating #anon ask #anon #dissociative identity disorder #actually did #actuallydid #didosdd #did #did system

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Hi I was looking for someone with did to give me some clarity on a situation if that's ok

Sure anon, go ahead

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#talking to the bees #snails 🍂 #ghost 🦷 #anon ask #anon

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"So after almost a full year of therapy with me, where multiple sessions you have acted drastically different compared to most times, explained how you forgot sessions or complete periods of time, having your partner explain how you show signs of DID repeatedly at home during sessions, and doing a full assessment where you scored scarily high on, we are proud to finally announce you with a diagnosis of..... Unspecified Personality Disorder!"

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#companion_planting #snails 🍂 #blurry 🌺 #I'm not actually that maf at the diagnosis #I'm certain we do have maybe a personality disorder or two #but that was the only diagnosis i got #my therapist is cool and amazing though fr #but this is why I'm fine with people self diagnosing #self diagnosis #self dx #actually did #actuallydid #did system #did blog #dissociative identity disorder #diagnosis

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#reblogged #cw transphobia #tw transphobes #transphobia #transphobes #trans #transgender

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some sobriety ideas

#reblogged #tw alcohol #cw alcohol #alcohol #alcohol mention #tw substance abuse #cw substance use #recovery

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Sick sick sick of possibility of being fucking recorded every waking second by tiktok obsessed quasi celebs. Video titled something like "Caught him thinking he's the main character" but it was just a kid wearing headphones, looking out the bus window. Of course it was posted without his knowledge. Stop recording strangers and everything you see, nobody gives a shit and not everyone is happy to be on tiktok or youtube because of a moron with no braincells and an account. What could be a forgettable awkward moment is now permanently there for the victim of lackabrainis infested idiot to get anxious about forever.

#reblogged #tw sanism #tw ableism #tw trauma #sanism #ableism #trauma

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You aren't foolish for missing the people who hurt you. Just remember that you deserve better

#rebloggled #thoughtful recovery #trauma healing #trauma recovery #mental health recovery #recovery

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it’s okay if you were getting better but now you aren’t. it’s okay if today wasn’t as great as yesterday. it’s okay if you didn’t do a lot today. it’s okay if your day didn’t go the way you wanted it to. recovery isn’t easy. it’s slow and there is sooo many obstacles, it doesn’t happen over night. it will feel like you will never get better but that’s your mental illness talking. it does get better, it’s just a very slow, long journey to that recovery and honestly you can do it. the biggest part of recovery is not giving up. I believe in you

#reblogged #thoughtful recovery #mental health recovery #trauma recovery #recovery #self care #self love

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Never gonna know them, but shoutout to the healthcare workers who are breaking the law to help their patients get life-saving care. I'll never see an article about you because knowing you would risk everything including jail time. Nurses who lie on medical records so their patients can get abortions. Doctors making up shit so their patients can have HRT.

Wherever you are, you are keeping your promise to help your patient.

#reblogged #cw medical talk #medical care #kindness #community

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#reblogged #mental health tag #mental health care

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I do not ask this lightly, the Missouri AG’s office has started a site to build a list of trans people. Clog the system. That’s the life of a trans kid who gets another day on this earth. Spam the fuck out of it, it’s not sophisticated. You don’t need to use a real email. Post as much as you’d like

#reblogged #trans safety #transgender #trans

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When we’re new to adulthood, it doesn’t immediately occur to all of us that you’re almost always allowed to leave a situation, because growing up we’re forced to stay in situations until someone dismisses us and/or takes us home, or if we do leave on our own accord there’s someone waiting at home to say “we don’t quit in this family!” Boring party? You can leave. You don’t like the lecture? You can walk out. New doctor not working out? You can end the appointment, you don’t need to wait for them to dismiss you. Bad date? You can just go home. Leaving a situation prematurely might have consequences, but unless you’re under arrest or serving prison time, it’s pretty much always allowed.

–commenter Allison @ askamanager

#reblogged #building confidence #self care #healing from trauma #healing from abuse #self healing

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#reblogged #cw homelessness #leaving abuse #resources #trauma healing #healing from trauma #healing from abuse #self healing #healing

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How do you stay hopeful in the face of increasingly violent transphobia.

In general any attacks on queer rights is always concerning, but as someone who grew up in a rural conservative area, I know for a fact that whatever the government does and however many ways they try to make being queer miserable, I know that the freedom and joy I feel being queer outweighs anything they could possibly do to me. I'm lucky in that I have a wonderful family and friend group that I know will stand by me no matter what, and having that support in my life is why I can stay positive and joyful even while the government tries to erase me and my friends. Part of activism in general is having the capacity to imagine a better world, and I let that imagination guide and ground me when faced with overwhelming odds.

#rebloggled #cw transphobia #intersectional activism #activism #activist #hopefulness #hope #finding joy #finding happiness #building confidence

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another thing that people are clearly having a bit of trouble wrapping their heads around is the concept of objecting to the terms in which something is criticised, and how that does not necessarily equate to defending that thing.

some people tend to like to reduce things to "pro" or "anti," and any attempt to delineate a position more nuanced than that will still be immediately assigned by them to one of those two "camps"

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#reblogged #light hearted #funny #executive dysfunction #mental disorder #mental illness #mental ill meme