Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.
NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.
I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.
The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.
Because it's so hard to exist in this world.
My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:
Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)
Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.
Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.
Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.
Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.
Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s
I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.
So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".
Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)
Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.
If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.
NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD
Stigma in the DSM
Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)
"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."
(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)
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[ID: A digital comic of Sam and Celia from The Magnus Protocol and Danny from The Magnus Archives on a gray background. Everyone is colored in a single color. Sam is red, Celia is green, and Danny is yellow. Sam is a fat Arab man with short curly dark hair, a mustache, and a small goatee, and he is wearing small black earrings, a cardigan, a turtleneck, trousers and loafers. Celia is a slim Korean woman with short dark hair and she is wearing rectangular glasses, piercings including an industrial piercing, an x-shaped earring, and snakebites, a button-down shirt with the sleeves rolled up, a vest, trousers, and black wrist cuffs. Danny is a tall, beefy Latino man with short hair, a cut in his brow, and a "cat mouth" and he is wearing small hoop earrings and a waiter uniform including an apron and name tag.
Sam and Celia sit at a table looking tired. Sam is resting his chin on his hand and Celia has her fingers steepled.
Sam: We'll NEVER get what we need without this specific thing and/or connection. WHATEVER will we DO?
Danny appears holding a notepad and pen, shrugging sheepishly and smiling with flowers around his head. Sam and Celia sit up, smiling at him excitedly with their hands in the air
Danny: UM, I might just know a guy!
Sam: Our regular waiter, Danny Stoker!
Celia: You ALWAYS have what we need!
Danny: HAHA, what can I say?
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Tumblr in the 60s – Part 2
Part 1 / Deleted Scenes
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anyone want to get fake married so i can get the pill to slut around
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Just say you have painful monthlies, I heard it works if you have a nice doctor!
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Remember you still should use the sheet whenever possible. Stay safe ♡
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i think there's something wrong with me, i'm just so sleepy all the time, it's not fair
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That's because you spend all your nights listening to radio luxembourg
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i heard nothing last night so i built an antenna out of poultry net, iron wire and bits of tin. i cut my fingers and our family chickens ran away
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A small price to pay for some music.
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the antenna fell apart before the german guy stopped talking
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me: chilling
my brain: if you were shot and weren't sure whether you'd live or die should you call the cops to make sure your murderer gets caught or call the ambulance to increase your chance of survival
me: what
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There should be a number that'd reach both of those
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That number already exists. It's been used in my city for like a two decades.
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Fuck you I'm British.
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Oh my G, this post from -62 sounds so prophetic now that they're trying to make the 911 thing catch on, where's that jagger meme
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This is literally not gift of prophecy. I told you back when this post was first made that this number has already existed in UK for years. It was obviously going to spread elsewhere, even US was bound to catch on at some point.
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you are still here?? keeping an eye on this post??
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you're so grumpy @elvisherselvis maybe you should phone the emergency number and get a wahhh-mbulance
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my date: Oh I listen to folk as well!
me: That's so cool! Who are your favourites?
my date: I'm sooo into Bob Dylan.
me:
my date: Is everything okay?
me, stuffing jelly babies into my purse: I have to go, like, right now, immediately, sorry
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Cock and balls, I'm watching this previously banned american film where an american man is trying to fuck a soviet spy (played by famously very russian Greta Garbo) by offering her champagne and he is like "have you never had champagne?" and Greta is like "never 🥺 only goat's milk and a ration of vodka in the army" and the tv screen freezed and was like "ERROR!! CHAMPAGNE HAS BEEN SERVED IN SOVIET UNION SINCE 1936" I'm 😂😂😂
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You Americans will say anything to make Soviet stuff look silly
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Where do you think I am watching soviet tv from?? Or did I miss the memo where americans have the monopoly on joking about their own damn country??
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"In future there will be telephones you can take with you anywhere" I can't even fucking listen to Radio Luxembourg without building a goddamn satellite, sending it to space, reciting spells and prayers, and sticking the radio out of the window at 2am EET. And even then it needs to be snowing for it to work because the radio wave fairies like snow or some shit
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100 more trans/genderqueer musicians
a pt.2 to my last post
Bands
Problem Patterns (riot grrl) (x)
Et On Tuera Tous Les Affreux (hardcore punk) (x)
Speedy Ortiz (indie rock) (x)
Foxtails (punk rock) (x)
Come To Ruin (deathrock) (x)
Arabella (hardcore punk) (x)
Flummox (metal) (x)
Dream Sequence (emo, post-hardcore) (x)
Escuela Grind (grindcore, metal) (x)
Buggin (hardcore punk) (x)
The Aquadolls (indie rock) (x)
Vile Creature (black metal) (x)
Caustic Soda (punk) (x)
Go! Child (indie pop) (x)
Tribe 8 (punk rock) (x)
SeeYouSpaceCowboy (hardcore punk) (x)
NARC (hardcore punk, sludge violence) (x)
BRAT (hardcore punk) (x)
[ctrl] (power violence) (x)
Strawberry Milk Cult (punk rock) (x)
.gif from god (metal) (x)
CyberGirlfriend (indie rock) (x)
Vermin Vendetta (metal) (x)
Pretty Frankenstein (glam goth) (x)
Doll Chaser (punk) (x)
RENT STRIKE (folk punk) (x)
Tears for the Dying (goth rock) (x)
Himbo (math rock) (x)
Out of Sight (hardcore punk) (x)
Morta (metal) (x)
Girlpool (indie rock) (x)
Life of Agony (metal) (x)
Mashrou' Leila (indie rock) (x)
Basketball Divorce Court (post punk) (x)
Bad Waitress (art punk) (x)
Rural Internet (hip hop, electronic) (x)
The Crystal Furs (indie pop) (x)
Blind Tiger (hardcore metal) (x)
Atomic Broad (punk) (x)
tote bag (tender punk) (x)
Pansy Prep (indie rock, emo) (x)
UT/EX (metalcore, screamo) (x)
Your Heart Breaks (indie pop) (x)
Yam (punk rock) (x)
K's Choice (rock, alt pop) (x)
Elderberry Industries (noise, synth) (x)
Qi.x (kpop) (x)
The Mermerings (folk punk) (x)
Refractory Period (synthpop) (x)
fenix (rock) (x)
Solo Artists
Tape Girl (hyperpop, ska) (x)
Titica (kuduro, pop) (x)
Lauren Bousfield (synth punk) (x)
Liniker (r&b) (x)
TRVDWIFE (grindcore, cybergrind) (x)
Stomach Book (electronic, indie rock) (x)
Coyote Grace (bluegrass) (x)
Jake Zyrus (r&b, soul) (x)
D'Nayzja (hyperpop, electronic) (x)
Adeem the Artist (country) (x)
Renee Goust (pop, cumbia) (x)
Linn Da Quebrada (club, Brazilian funk) (x)
The Reverent Marigold (folk) (x)
Çağla Akalın (arabesque) (x)
Jessie Chung (Malaysian pop) (x)
Spike Fuck (post-punk, smackwave) (x)
Shea Diamond (soul, r&b) (x)
Vivek Shraya (pop, dance) (x)
Mocchi (folk, alt rock) (x)
SuperKnova (indie pop) (x)
Creep-P (hyperpop) (x)
Aljas (rap) (x)
Sylvia Baudelaire (rap) (x)
London Jade (hip-hop, rap) (x)
Susy Shock (tango) (x)
Slugwife (hyperpop) (x)
Jupiter Fiction (singer-songwriter) (x)
Mrs. Yéyé (punk) (x)
Lady Charles (glam rock) (x)
Mily Taormina (indie) (x)
Dope Saint Jude (rap, hip-hop) (x)
Imbi the Girl (hip-hop, rap) (x)
187 (drum'n'bass) (x)
zombAe (experimental hip hop, electronic) (x)
The Official Bard of Baldwin County (folk) (x)
Skylar Rose Stravinsky (singer-songwriter) (x)
hard Tiddies (country, singer-songwriter) (x)
Bunny Danger (punk) (x)
Ataru Nakamura (pop) (x)
Anjimile (folk) (x)
Villano Antillano (rap, urbano) (x)
Lauren Auder (indie pop) (x)
Justin Vivian Bond (cabaret) (x)
Namoli Brennet (folk, indie rock) (x)
Mya Byrne (Americana, folk) (x)
Quinn Christospherson (indie rock) (x)
Jayne County (proto-punk, glam rock) (x)
Katie Dey (experimental pop) (x)
Electra Elite (electropop, dance) (x)
Quay Dash (hip-hop, rap) (x)
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