#Narcissism

[bathroomflooder]

hot take: there is no way that empathy is actually a real thing. you're telling me that when you see someone crying, your immediate reaction is to... feel the pain they're experiencing??? what kind of made up concept is this??? you don't only do 'good' things so people see you as a good person? you just. want to help??? this isn't a persona you put on?? you're just like this??? I am being 100% honest when I say that I thought empathy was a made up concept, and people just used it as a term for some made up mystical ability where you can feel others emotions and genuinely want to help, because it just sounds so fake to me

#also ik empathy is real that was a joke #actually npd #npd #actually narcissistic #npd safe #npd memes #narcissistic personality disorder #npd traits #narcissism #narc posting #low empathy #no empathy #also update- idk if the people in the replies are being condescending or if I'm just overthinking uhmm

[alostlittleriverlotus]

Oh yeah make sure neglected people get love until that neglected person is a fucking narcissist. Cause all narcissists are bad. Everything I do is intentionally manipulative or maybe they'll say I'm not actually a narcissist and are just confused or supporting them cause I've been made to feel guilty. I've been on both sides. People will believe I'm a narcissist and so therefore I'm abusive or people will not believe I'm a narcissist cause I'm too nice and just getting caught up in narcissists manipulating me to support them.

I hate the idea that my self image is not by my choice. I will always be what OTHERS perceive me as. I have always been that and it will continue to be that. People will either see someone that can't do any wrong or someone that can only do wrong. Like stfu I am a person! I can do good and bad! I have a past of being toxic and harmful esp as a teenager cause I was a fucking mentally fucked teen still in an abusive situation.

I just. I dunno. Im waiting on food so I'm very like just ranty about everything and anything. But like. Stfu. Stfu stfu stfu stfu stfu. If anyone else is needy and needs attention or reassurance then it's fine. But I have had it demonized since my fucking childhood and had my fucking meltdowns demonized as being intentionally manipulative!!! I WAS A FIVE YEAR OLD AUTISTIC CHILD STFU!!!!!

And people praising empathy as being good piss me off. Cause you know what else can also have hypoempathy? AUTISM. Low empathy is not just an "evil" personality disorder thing. Anyone can be anywhere on the scale of empathy. And it doesn't fucking matter. And anyone can be capable of good or bad. It has literally nothing to do with narcissism or any disorder.

Like wtf are anti narcissists gonna fucking do when they realize theyve done harm??? Cause you know what being someone believing in narc abuse did to me?! It made me believe that i was justified as a victim of narcissists so therefore I couldn't be wrong in my trauma responses.

Yeah. Accepting im a narcissist did way more for helping my relationships by allowing me to understand and communicate my needs than believing in narc abuse and calling my parents narcissists ever fucking did. Wtf are they gonna do when they're told about the harm they've done??? Not even related to narc abuse. I would have horrible episodes and defended myself cause I wasn't like my abusive "narcissistic" parents. And all it did was lead to more fights and more episodes and my friend couldn't help cause they were dealing with trauma responses too (people pleasing, believing it was okay what I did or that she deserved it even when I told her not to say or believe that, it's a very lengthy explanation required thing.)

Anyone and everyone is capable of good and bad and is capable of harming others. Whether it's full on abuse, even worse things, or just being insensitive and thoughtless. Focusing so much on the big bad narcissists will only continue to focus on this "us vs them" mentality that completely negates any sort of nuance and ignores the fact that harmful people, abusers, and even the worst of humanity is ALLOWED by society. It isn't a prevalence of narcissists, it is fucking bigotry. And it is everywhere. And it allows abuse to be normalized.

Big list of things I been thinking on. Fuck fuck fuck. I'm already fucking stressed and my parents won't stfu so I can think and type. Disorganized speech, semiverbal, can't thinky think.

#actually narcissistic #actually traumatized #narcissistic #narcissism #surviving narcissism #narcissistic abuse #narcissistic personality disorder #ableism #npd stigma #narc abuse isn't real #narc abuse #cluster b safe #rant #semiverbal #disorganized speech #actually autistic

[hellsite-yano]

Hey porkmeister, how are you today man? I have a question, which I ask out of respect for your dialectical and nuanced way of thinking (especially when it comes to internet discourse). Have you heard and do you have any opinions about how people on here claim that narcissistic abuse doesn’t exist? Do you think there is any truth to the claim or is it typical tumblr bullshit? I personally disagree with it, but I am also not 100% and wanted to ask you because you’re way better at analyzing stuff like this and I do honestly respect your opinion. Anyways, thanks for even looking at this and I hope you have a good day :D

This is 100% cope cooked up by narcissists to trick teenagers with DNIs into accepting their abuse. There's a youtube channel called Theramintrees that does really good breakdowns on this type of behaviour:

And while this particular video is mostly about parental and religious narcissists, I think any sensible person who's had an online presence can see the parallels with what's being described here and social media influencers/popular tumblr blogs/twitter accounts/etc etc

Bonus video about a particular kind of narcissistic abuse tactic, the 'double bind':

#appreciate the kind words btw I try <3 #resources #narcissism

[corvinarc]

This narc needs attention

#narcissistic personality disorder #npd #npd positivity #npd safe #actually cluster b #actually narcissistic #actually npd #cluster b #cluster b safe #narcissism

[deceiver-of-god]

I'm glad I'm a narcissist, because it keeps me motivated. It makes me want to constantly improve myself, be better than the rest and be better than myself. It makes me want to aim higher every time. It allows me to learn new techniques, try new hobbies, and find new ways to face challenges.

Being a narcissist makes me take care of my appearance and my health. I want to be attractive, I want to dress well, I want everyone's eyes on me. I need it, and I will get it, because I always get what I want.

Yes, I admit it, I want attention, and I want compliments, and I want recognition. I want people to talk about me, and praise my abilities. I want to be the best at everything. I want glory on its knees.

I have NPD, and it is because of it that I am who I am, and that I do well in life.

Of course there are moments in which I hate having NPD, because it's still a disorder, and it has its negative consequences, not everything is precious in this life, but, despite everything, I'm glad I'm a narcissist.

#narcissistic positivity #narc posting #npd positivity #actually npd #actually narcissistic #cluster b #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually cluster b #npd culture is #narcissistic #npd #cluster b positivity #npd posting #narcissism

[amenbpdtism]

Does any other narcissistic artist

Does any other artist with NPD get so upset that their work isn't gathering attention no matter what they do that they feel like quitting altogether or like they wish they never got into art in the first place so something else could satisfy their need for approval/admiration?

#npd #actually npd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissism #art #vent

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

#gender ideology #pronouns #pronoun culture #nonbinary #pronouns in bio #LOL #funny #it's funny because it's true #attention seeking #narcissism #religion is a mental illness

[plutonus]

I love Diet Coke and cock!!!

#narcissism #gay

[mirroringshards]

sorry for being mentally ill and actually having symptoms it will happen again xoxo

#actually borderline #actually bpd #borderline personality disorder #bpd #bpd problems #bpd fp #bpd safe #bpd shit #bpd splitting #bpd stuff #npd positivity #actually npd #npd culture is #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissism #actually narcissistic #npd things #npd #npd safe #npd vent #borderline problems #borderline blog #borderline pd #borderline thoughts

[gayvampyr]

the linguistic appropriation cycle

#meme #ish #i guess #dissociating #hyperfixation #narcissism #ptsd #ocd #intrusive thoughts #compulsive tendencies #flashbacks #stimming #2 spirit #masking #gaslighting #special interest #i could go on #top posts

[ineffectualdemon]

#cluster b #personality disorder #narcissist #narcissism #you've all latched onto the latest buzzword #but in honesty most of abusers are just assholes #this is coming from someone with cptsd from abuse #my parents are really just assholes

[bathroomflooder]

people with low/no empathy don't need to "make up" for it by having sympathy. It's completely okay to have neither :)

#npd traits #actually npd #npd #actually narcissistic #npd safe #npd positivity #actually cluster b #cluster b safe #no empathy #low empathy #sympathy #empathy #narc posting #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissism #aspd #aspd safe #aspd traits #antisocial personality disorder

[draculian-accomplishments]

Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.

#npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissism #narcissistic personality disorder #pwnpd #narc abuse #narcissistic abuse #actually bpd #bpd #borderline personality disorder #actually cluster b #cluster b disorders #actually hpd #hpd #actually aspd #aspd #aspd safe #hpd safe #npd safw #bpd safe

[flashy-mf]

Pro tip: if you know a narcissist who tends to oscillate between “I’m upset, why the hell isn’t everyone rushing to my side?” and “I don’t want to talk to you, I’m upset” a good solution to this is to talk to us, but as if we’re not upset.

Ignoring us while in a fragile state is narc language for “look how much fun I’m having while you’re busy crying. Look at me being so not concerned about you at all. You don’t even affect your surroundings, because if you did the world would stop until you felt better, but you’re basically nothing and everything is moving on without you.”

Trying to help or comfort us is narc language for “I think I understand what’s going on better than you do, and I’m making it your problem. My advice is to stop being upset immediately and do whatever I think you should. I’m now going to explain things you already know about the situation as if you’ve never known a damn thing in your life.”

So please for the love of god, just come over and talk to us like you wanna hang out. Don’t ignore us. Don’t attempt to solve or even acknowledge our emotions. Just say hi and ask if we want to hear a song or something. Make a joke or a compliment. Talk to us like everything’s going normally, and we’ll more than likely start to go along until we feel fine.

Nine times out of ten, what we actually need is just some basic company and supply.

#flashy ✨ thoughts #npd #actually npd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #actually cluster b #cluster b safe #npd safe #narcissist #narcissism

[corvinarc]

Everyone is all for celebrating neurodiversity until you're the "wrong" kind of neurodivergent.

#cluster b #npd #npd safe #npd positivity #actually cluster b #cluster b safe #actually npd #actually narcissistic #actually borderline #actually bpd #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissism

[indeosperamus]

(I’m working on it)

#actually narcissistic #cluster b #fictive #narc posting #narcassist #npd things #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd posting #actually npd #grandiose narcissist #narcissism #npd safe