#and I'm proud I'm trying

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[aunmenosheteroenespanol]

2.12 Chimney Begins - 2.09 Hen Begins - 2.16 Bobby Begins Again - 7.04 Buck, Bothered and Bewildered

Tommy's family arc

#911 #911edit #911 abc #911 show #911 spoilers #911 season 7 #tommy kinard #evan buckley #evan 'buck' buckley #kinley #bucktommy #kinkley #tevan #pick a ship name you guys and thanks for picking tevan the most correct name #anyway analysis time! #looking back with Modern Knowledge tm about why tommy acts the way he does in the past... babygirl you were so closeted I'm so proud #babygirl was back there getting into narnia #he was so resistant to letting go of the pseudo-family he'd found at the 118 in chimney begins #even tho it was a good old boys club that he knew he really didn't fit into he was making himself fit because at least it was something #but then he let chimney in and then hen came around and he saw a very queer person being openly queer and not giving a fuck what they think #and I think his behavior in that episode was trying to support hen as much as he could without outing himself #because like. how do you give up years of relative safety with people who do care about you they just won't like you anymore if you're *you #then he meets buck in s7 which is like 10-20 years later timeline is fake and he's like oh. this is what unconditional family is #and he's like oh. maybe I can come back. maybe I can be part of this again somehow. maybe we've both grown enough #or at the very least he'll be close to something he never believed would really happen for him #rant over tevan my beloved tim minear pillow cold both sides god bless #my edits

[salamispots]

haven't been to the aquarium in of the pacific in years so it was really nice

#sketchbook stuff #artists on tumblr #having a lot more fun when I tell my brain to stylize instead of trying to draw exactly what I see #also I'm very proud of that one bird that looks like it's up to no good mghjkfhg #edit: RIP I SAID aquarium in the pacific and not aquarium of teh pacific mdfgkhjdkhdjg #implying that's it directly in the ocean LMAO

[blairaptor]

Captain Baja Blast 🥤🌮

#the bad batch #captain howzer #clone captain howzer #my art #y'all i'm really proud of this. i do great work when i'm being silly #anyway i wish him the best in s3 even though things don't bode well for him #also i'm trying not to over-render my work so I left the sketch lines there in places

[egophiliac]

I want your opinion on something. Do you think it's better to try and the the cards of the character you like or skipping some to brench out? Like, say you're a fan of Leona. Should you try to get all of his bday card and stuff or stick to one and get other characters ssr?

personally, as much as I would like every single card...I gotta ration my keys, so I focus on my favorites!

which isn't to say that I only pull for certain characters no matter what! more that I take a good long look at every card that comes out and go "do I really want this one? like...really really want it?" (the answer is usually yes, but -- look, the art in this game is very pretty, okay)

honestly, from a gameplay standpoint, I think it doesn't matter too much whether you focus on pulling for specific characters or not. there are very, very few points where actually having a good mix of characters is important (Those Two Stages in episode 6, where I think you can use retry tickets for the easy mode? and also guest room battles if you care about those) and you'll probably end up with at least one halfway decent card per character just from doing 10-pulls and events. so even if you're only pulling for Leona cards, you'll still end up getting a bajillion other characters as well. follow your heart! chase that grumpy lion bliss! ✨🦁✨

#art #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #tamashina mina #lost in the book with stitch #i. THINK that's everything that's not out in eng yet? #i am proud of my sons. my beautiful grampa sons. #you do also sometimes get random ssrs even without pickup odds! most of my ssrs are from trying to pull for other characters and failing :' #i've also gotten dorm trey like four or five times and. look. trey i like you and i appreciate the limit breaks. #but you keep showing up when i'm trying to get other boys and we need to talk about this #trey: hi! i heard you were in the market for a friend! :) #me: (desperately peering over his shoulder to where dorm lilia is slowly floating away) uh-huh. yep. sure. great. #dangit trey

[mikesbasementbeets]

Sometimes I think it's just scary to open up like that. To say how you really feel. Especially to people you care about the most. Because what if... what if they don't like the truth? // Sometimes people don’t really say what they’re really thinking. But, you capture the right moment… it says more. // I didn't say it. // You didn't have to.

[remake of my very first gifset one year later]

#byler #mike wheeler #will byers #stranger things #mikesbasementgifs #hiii i rly love making gifs i'm so glad i started it's been so much fun playing and learning and i'm genuinely so surprised and also #proud of myself for how far i've come in a year. theres so much more i want to learn and seeing how much i have visibly improved is #great motivation to keep pushing myself and trying new things... like this actually i've never done a set like this before dhjsfdsdjhs #also if you’ve ever said nice things about my gifs please know that i love you it means the world to me <3333333 #anyway look at these gay boys they want to kiss each other on the mouths!!! (and they will!!!!!) #ok byeeeeeeeeeeeee

[werecreature-addicted]

for someone who wants to bang a werewolf, I sure do scream like a fire alarm when my dog brings me "gifts" (dead lizard) realistically if a man brought me his hunt as a gift I'd pass out.

#she brought me an ALIVE turtle once and I still don't know how to unpack that like emotionally #where the fuck did you get that #my little hunter #i'm so proud of her but also please stop bringing me birds and mice and lizards #she leaves them right outside my bedroom which is very sweet but also means I almost step on them every time #screaming crying throwing up trying to clean up her gifts

[willowser]

"touya, are you my dad?"

rei's house is quiet this late, only alive in the muted whir of ceiling fans and the rainbow of colors from the nightlight out in the hall. touya can just barely see the distant glow peeking under the gap of the door; soft greens and blues and purples.

all the air in the room seems to evaporate, and instead is replaced by that awful, muggy heat that builds up in touya's hairline and in the creases of his skin, everytime he hears that word: dad.

he's better at knowing how to act around kids than he expected to be. not in some parental sense, but the bits and pieces of touya the big brother are at work again, slow and old and creaking—but moving nonetheless.

touya's thankful for the quiet; whispering hides the tremor in his voice. when he turns to the little girl in the small bed lying beside him, all he sees is you, staring back in red and orange and yellow.

"what makes you ask that?"

the little girl shrugs, shuffles around to push still-wet hair out of her face as she snuggles deeper into her blankets. touya doesn't realize he's holding his breath until she finally elaborates, clutching her little stuffed puppy to her round, full cheeks. "that's what people say."

it's not that you don't want her to know, but softening the truth for a kid ain't easy; touya's not even sure he wants her to know, quite yet, because it means introducing a version of himself he's not proud of. one he's never been proud of, one that still itches under his skin and makes his hands shake, one that wants to burn the guilt away instead of face it.

touya watches the soft blink of her eyelashes, long and dark, and when she looks back up at him, he's just—not ready for her to know him yet. because—

"would it be okay if i was?"

the little girl—his, yours—thinks for only a moment before nodding. "yeah, that'd be okay."

because this touya's okay, for now.

it makes him smile, even with the uncomfortable heat that's broken sweat all out across his body, even with the shame that's waiting for him out beyond the edges of the greens and blues and purples. even knowing that, one day soon, he's gonna have to break her heart the same way he broke yours.

touya shifts a little further down in the bed until his head's resting on her pillow, so they're eye level. he's half hanging off the thing, the tiny twin bed in her room at his mom's house. still doesn't have a place of his own yet, still trying to remember how to be a functioning member of society; gears slow and old and creaking, but moving nonetheless.

the is the only way he gets to see her right now, these few days out of the week that you let her stay the night, so he can get to know the daughter he's missed out on for far too long.

touya hums and forces a big yawn, closes his eyes and hopes she'll follow the act; shouto used to, once long ago. "'s'talk about it tomorrow, okay?"

the little girl shuffles around until she's a little closer, huffing against his face through her own yawn. "okay," she agrees, and touya waits a few minutes before peeking at her. watching her even breathing, in the red and orange and yellow.

#bye i'm so soft for this man #he's done things he's not proud of #because he was scared and unsure and didn't know what he wanted #but 🥺 he's trying 🥺 figuring it out 🥺 #✿ thoughts: dabi/touya #✿ theme: dad dabi/touya #cw children

[somnimagus]

My page for @destinytriofanzine! I drew something about kids always dreaming of far off places

[id in alt!]

#kingdom hearts #kh #ahh this one was so hard to draw; i never know how to combine a bunch of scenes in one picture without it looking cheesy #just threw a bunch of waves and leaves and birds on top and called it a day haha. it might be a bit too busy though #the white line going up the center is supposed to be a trail left behind by the gummi ship! it connects to the ship in the bg at the top #it's kinda meant to evoke little kids dreaming of other places-> getting older and earnestly making the raft to try to reach the dream #->the gummi ship as a premonition of how they'd actually reach the dream in the future. i guess? idk how to explain #and i really wanted to have kairi's expressions be really similar but changing subtly from wonder to worry when she's older #the boys are just max enthusiasm the whole time #but yeah. something something Symbolism and hopefully it's at least kinda pretty if it doesn't make sense #i'm just super proud to have been part of this project! everyone's work is just amazing #the destiny kids give me this soft feeling of kinda lonely nostalgia. it's nice to have a book full of that #very wistful looking through it #fan art #my art #project stuff

[lotus-pear]

artistic rendition of the new bsd episode

#why are all their color palettes literally the same i was screaming trying to color this #sigma's homophobia era began when he joined the doa and met nikolai and fyodor #dazai has always been the homophobic homosexual #ALSO I JUST REALIZED HOW SMALL HE LOOKS I DIDNT MEANT TO MAKE HIM THAT SHORT #HES CHUUYA SIZED😭😭 #also shoutout to me for drawing smth other than skk i'm so proud of myself #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #bsd #dazai osamu #sigma bsd #bsd sigma #fyodor dostoevsky #nikolai gogol #fyolai #lotus draws

[angryducktimemachine]

I watched the Granada Holmes Hound of the Baskervilles and this is my explanation (and defense ?) of Holmes just absolutely horrible looking stew.

[ID: a digital drawing of Sherlock Holmes. He's walking across a moor with his hands behind his back, holding a letter. A thought bubble above him reads "I forgot my damn stew by the fire." /End ID]

#he just horribly overcooked that stew i know it #like my man I'm german I've eaten lots of gross looking stews in my life but this truly is #the worst anyone has ever done #Sherlock Holmes #the whole scene was soooo fucking funny tho #watson tries so hard to politely deny on trying the stew but Holmes seems so proud of it and keeps telling watson to try it #and watson just :|

[enii]

So proud of you hooman💕

#illustration #artists on tumblr #cute #artoftheday #digital illustration #wholesome #cat illustration #cat of tumblr #caturday #pretty cats #so proud of you #i'm so proud of you for still trying especially on the days you don't feel like it #so proud of you for trying #mental health awareness #it's okay if all you did is exist today #it's okay to not be okay #you will be okay #ghost #cat #cute cat #sweet cat #positive affirmations #you are not alone #procreate #procreate art #loved #you are loved #mental health support #you are doing well

[plisuu]

a revelation.

(please do not tag/comment with your OC)

#dragon age #dragon age fanart #blackwall #connor trevelyan #templar inquisitor #tranquil inquisitor #blood #my art #all my homies hate the chantry #i have brain rot over this quest #it's just sooOOO CRUNCHY #especially since connor was a templar #and a knight-captain #he has so much blood on his hands #anyways #i drew this over the span of two days in a cold sweat #i had to get it out of my braaaaaaiiiin #i'm so proud of it #but next time i try to draw a comic #remind me: #don't

[salamispots]

some break/warm up drawings

#totk #fandom feels #artists on tumblr #sketchbook stuff #lmao I'm very proud of the cooking pot of all things hAHA #I love how link's hair fluffs up?? #the top right is closer to the actual game model but still haha #it's nice hearing the little cooking jingle/sounds again :'D #also me trying and failing to find ref pics of the front of link's sandals LMAOO #without going to the game and taking pics myself

[starheirxero]

A redraw of this post I made a couple months after Bloodmoon had first died lol

Fun fact!! The flowers shown here—Lycoris Radiata, Higabana, Hurricane Lily, Spider Lily, etc etc—are associated with death, grief, painful memories, and sometimes reincarnation! They're my favorites <3

#xero creations #I RLLY RLLY WISH I HAD A SPEEDPAINT FOR THIS DRAWING TOO BUT I MADE A BLUNDER AND JUST. AUGH #i now know to just. trust the CSP timelapse feature and not like. #try to make the 'cool guy speedpaint' and record my screen for over 3 hours n fill up my storage 😭 #ALAS. ALAS!!!! it leaves a deep agony in my soul but OH WELL i'm still wildly proud of this LMAO #sun and moon show #the sun and moon show #tsams #sams bloodmoon #bloodmoon sams #tsams bloodmoon #bloodmoon tsams #fnaf bloodmoon #bloodmoon fnaf #dcamv #< its. technically tsams? but BM has kinda breached containment so i feel like its fair 2 tag it as such ahsjahdj

[eyenaku]

SUN FIZZYFAZ CUP GLAZED!! YEYEYEYAYAAYA!!

#really proud of this one :D #eyenaku #art #pottery #fizzy faz #fnaf sun #sundrop #fnaf daycare attendant #fnaf #fnaf sb #fnaf security breach #fnaf pottery #sun fnaf #daycare attendant #cup #cups #proudnaku #shoulda waited to take better photos but i'm rulebreaker rulebreaker banned from the studio #till next week :') bc sick #i mean i can still work with a mask but every time i try to the ppl there are like NO WTF. REST UR HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT and im like #hhhhh yea i AM sleepy.. ok i go home #workin on a big sculpture at home rn tho #also physically restrained myself from writing flavour #but in game cans say flavor