#dv tw

[blitzwhore]

I'm certain this has been pointed out before, but...

“Lust shouldn't be about force.”

“Oh! No! Never. NEVER that.”

When Stolas said he would never do that to Blitz, he really meant it. After all, he knows intimately well what it's like to be forced.

#helluva boss #Sa mention #Sa tw #stella helluva boss #stolas helluva boss #stolas goetia #sa cw #Abuse tw #dv tw #Domestic violence tw #Cw sa #cw sa mention #If anyone needs more tags added to this let me know :)

[pastel-starr-blog]

I think what especially bothers me about SOME people who harp on AA being abusive is that honestly it spits in the face of DV survivors. I know it’s not everyone of course, I’m just talking about those who haven’t lived it (I have to emphasize: not everyone’s lived a calm life or one free from abuse) I was in a DV relationship and was abused growing up. Who are you to tell someone what they should enjoy and ASSUME you know more about abuse from a fictional relationship in a video game. On such a high horse that they will actually talk down to those who have lived through REAL abuse as though they somehow know better because they played a fantasy game.

Also — and let me emphasize again, this isn’t a monolith for ALL who hate AA — if you think that abuse is “partner is physically violent and in complete control of their helpless, weak s/o” you have a serious piss-poor grasp of how DV can manifest. To encourage this dynamic for a part of the game you will likely never play, finding catharsis in watching people see a dynamic they enjoy be turned into a ridiculous depiction of violence/DV by the fandom… and to have people literally AFRAID to openly say they enjoy AA narratively…yeah that’s weird as hell to me. Why would you take pleasure in watching people upset? Because you personally don’t like this version of Astarion? Have you considered perhaps… growing up?

TLDR: people who like to say “you don’t understand what abuse is/I’m worried about AA fans” are smug assholes. If you want to say that I am “romanticizing abuse” then I’d kindly ask you to have lived in my shoes— you benefit nothing from being so cruel to strangers you disagree with. Unless you’ve experienced DV/Abuse/etc yourself, get bent. Please do not pretend to be ~worried~ about a group of people when you clearly empathize far more for a cluster of code in a video game

#this is obviously not to say that none of them have experienced DV or abuse #but I’ve seen many more DV survivors find either nothing wrong with this being FANTASY or actually enjoying AA because it’s cathartic #I’m rambling #ascended astarion #bg3 ascended astarion #dv mention #dv tw

[androcola]

teenage days

tougher one under the cut 👐

#abuse tw #blood tw #dv tw #my art #digital art #m&m headcanon #as we go along #the monkees #tw tw tw tw tw etc #me putting red tones over everything and calling it rendered and done

[icefireanimates]

i just saw a super reblog baity post on my dash that i don’t want to reblog bc of it,

but i would like you all to know that i know men can be and are victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. unfollow me if you do not.

#tw sa #sa tw #dv tw #tw dv #i felt bad not reblogging it but i wasn’t going to make others feel bad as well

[ultra-raging-ghost]

I dont think im gonna be liveblogging for tubbo this morning, nothing against him but the wilbur shit really shook me up and it was the first thing i saw this morning when i put on my glasses. I need a couple hours to get my mind together and figure all my shit out mentally and then ill be liveblogging for bbh later, need the morning to recuperate after that shit

Ask box is open for anyone who needs to talk/vent

#qsmp #wilbur situation #wilbur soot neg #not gonna say much else but i got r//d when i was younger and ive been SA'd repeatedly and ive been in DV relationships before #and this hit me really hard #i hope shubbles doing well is all i can hope for her #normally these things dont really fuck with me but my irl situations getting pretty physically abusive as well + i just cant handle this rn #qsmp discourse #shubble #let me know anything i should tag for ppl who dont wanna see this #dv tw

[jamietarttsnorthernattitude]

Building off today’s whumptober post, as much as I hate watching Ted walk away from Jamie and his father in the season one finale, my unpopular opinion is I don’t think it would’ve helped Jamie in the long run if Ted interfered.

Short of completely protecting Jamie from his father (beyond just in that moment), it’s just going to anger James Tartt Sr more that he was interrupted. While Jamie’s Dad is clearly a generally violent person, domestic violence has a large element of control, and by interrupting, Ted would’ve taken that away and so James would be asserting his control over Jamie when they were alone back in Manchester.

Jamie thinks Ted is playing mind games, so he’s not going to be accepting help from him if he offered it. Jamie is always going to end up in Manchester alone after that night.

This doesn’t mean I don’t think Ted could’ve done other things like reach out to someone at Man City with concerns or Jamie himself after that night. And I don’t understand Ted’s “tough Dads” talk at the Crown & Anchor, either (other than Ted being from a generation where being a tough Dad can also involve “casual” child abuse and probably grew up being spanked etc but that’s another post). I simply think Ted might’ve not helped Jamie in the long run if he chose not to walk away.

Anyway, thanks for coming to my Ted (Lasso) talk. And as always, Fuck Jamie’s Dad.

#jamie tartt #ted lasso #fuck Jamie’s dad #tw dv #cw dv #dv tw #dv cw #tw abuse #tw domestic violence #cw abuse #cw domestic violence

[unhingedfemmecontent]

domestic violence isn't funny

not only was that Matt Riffe joke insanely unfunny it is just also horrifying. i know i am super late to talking about this but i wasn't posting on tublr when it happened

Watching the eyes of the person you thought you where going to spend the rest of your life with go cold as they choke you is an experience i wish on not a single person.

As someone who has gone trough multiple forms of abuse and SA domestic violence crushes your soul in a completely different way (not comparing by how bad they are just how different it is).

20 PEOPLE PER MINUTE ARE PHYSICALLY ABUSED BY AN INTIMATE PARTNER IN THE UNITED STATES

72% OF ALL MURDER SUICIDES INVOLVE AN INTIMATE PARTNER 94% OF THOSE VICTIMS ARE WOMEN

WOMEN MAKE UP 82% OF PEOPLE MURDERED BY AN EX PARTNER

i don't care if you think i'm soft i don't care if you think i can't take a joke ( i joke about my own trauma all the time)

it is not a funny joke and it was most certainly not a funny joke coming from who it came from

#matt rife #dv #domestic violence #domestic violent relationships #dv mention #dv survivor #dv awareness #dv tw #trans inclusive feminism #misandry #intersectionality #intersectional feminism #feminism #marxist feminism #feminist #womens rights #violence against women #femicide

[mitskijamie]

I'm just gonna say this once, and only once I personally would not take Roy "I am the personification of anger issues" Kent over a nice guy like Simon.

Yeah, that's fair. Especially because Georgie is (ostensibly) a survivor of domestic violence. I definitely don't think Roy would ever hurt a partner but I also don't think Georgie would have any tolerance for a man who destroys furniture and punches walls when he's mad. It's triggering and honestly just immature

I don't think they'd actually be a very good match in the long run, I just like to think about them fucking because they're both hot ♥️

#ask #dv tw #I was the same way when I was dating men. you will not walk around my house hittng the walls absolutely not #roygeorgie

[wcshedup]

is sinday a good time to go on and on about the terrible sex barbie had while she was at the height of her addiction, the shitty partners, the complete lack of any bdsm etiquette —

#she just wanted to feel something and she was high MOST of the time. #coming to with bruised around her throat and it hurts to swallow for a week. #the pounding migraine from being slapped around way too hard and too much. #dv tw #domestic violence mention tw #domestic violence tw #drug use tw #when you say you want her to bottom her mind goes to a completely different place than you mean. #this is why she’s reluctant to bottom or even TALK about — she equates it with basically getting the fuck beat out of you. #sinday. #headcanon.

[sharry-arry-odd]

Was Daedalus really stricken with grief when Icarus fell into the sea? Or just disappointed by the design failure?

Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic, by Alison Bechdel

#page 12 #fun home #a family tragicomic #alison bechdel #comic #cartoon #graphic novel #domestic violence tw #dv tw #child abuse tw #mental illness #dyke #lesbian #queer #lgbt #quote #quotes #literature #book #booklr #reading #daedalus #icarus #disappointment #failure

[angelsaxis]

The leading cause of death for a woman in the US is homicide.

#angel posts #femicide #ipv #intimate partner violence #domestic violence #ipv tw #dv tw #violence tw

[deathlillies]

Wrennly. Some updates below. Trigger warnings: domestic violence, abuse, toxic friendship, police being called, and threatening to hurt someone else.

My friends husband got physical with me. He shoved me and called me a fucking bitch for trying to pry him off of her. He was holding her down and screaming and she was panicking because her ex used to beat her. They were in a verbal argument that turned physical.

When things calmed down, I texted my boyfriend who called the cops when he got close. The cops were talked away, the friends lied and said my boyfriend was the aggressor because he came up with a baseball bat (a child’s one). My friends husband threatened to hurt my boyfriend among many other things.

They apologized to me, but the damage is done. They apologized to my boyfriend, too, but that doesn’t matter. I had to move all of my stuff out of their apartment and my “friend” showed me her true colors. All because I asked on Snapchat if anyone had a couch I could sleep on.

This cunt made me doubt if I loved my boyfriend. If he loved me. If I should be with him. And so, so many more things.

Right now I’m staying with my nieces in her apartment. My animals are safe with my dad. My stuff is in my storage unit. I am safe.

But gods, am I angry.

#wrennly (ooc) #domestic violence tw #domestic violence cw #dv tw #abuse tw #physical violence tw #police tw #threatening behavior tw #ask to tag tw

[babyjakes]

most nights,

(tw: ipv/dv, sa)

i still find myself thinking back about what you did. usually as i’m falling asleep in the very bed where it happened. and many times i wake up disoriented and confused, thinking i’ll be right back there on the bathroom floor where i woke up after you’d done it.

how do you sleep soundly at night?

#eun talks #eun’s breakup #ipv tw #dv tw #sa tw

[13eyond13]

oh ok i see what they mean about abuse in these books now, something abusive actually happened besides creepy love bombing

#NOW i will see where it goes from here #... #ftr the guy burned his hand and then angrily pushed the girl when she laughed so she banged her head into a cupboard #and then she pushed him away and he fell and cut his hands on broken glass #and then he was like ahhh so sorry and they had uncomfy makeup sex #she immediately notices it's abuse like her dad was doing to her mom and says so to him as well #it ends with us spoilers #p #tw abuse mention #tw abuse #abuse mention #abuse #abuse tw #tw dv mention #tw dv #dv tw

[weirdstrangeandawful]

TW: DV

Whumpee's always been the fiesty one of the group. Always getting into trouble, always fighting back, never backing down (even when they really really should.

At some point they get into a relationship. It's loving at first but spirals into a cycle of abuse and shame. Still, Whumpee remains the fiesty one of the friend group, never letting on that anything's out of the ordinary.

That is, until their friends find out what's going on. Maybe they notice Whumpee withdrawing or staying out later than normal, or maybe getting a little more reckless than normal, even for them. Whatever it is, Whumper knows they've lost and finally snaps on Whumpee in front of their friends who are horrified, less at the violence than at the fact that Whumpee... is just taking it.

#whump #whump prompt #fiesty whumpee #abuse tw #dv tw #conditioned whumpee

[jamietarttsnorthernattitude]

Ted steps in when he sees Jamie with his Dad in the season one finale and James isn’t happy when they return to Manchester.

For the day 18 prompt: “I tend to deflect when I'm feeling threatened.”

Read on ao3.

*Fair warning. This a hurt no comfort fic. As much as I wanted to give Jamie all the love in the world, I also wanted to stay true to where Jamie is between seasons 1 and 2.

#jamie tartt #ted lasso #ted lasso fanfic #ao3 #jamie tartt fanfiction #fic #whumptober2023 #whumptober #whumptober 2023 #i tend to deflect when i'm feeling threatened #no.18 #fuck jamie’s dad #fic: the honesty of pain #dv cw #domestic violence cw #dv tw #tw abuse