#it's always that smile

[cata613]

Bones seeing his "son" gives me so much joy😍

#it's always that smile #THAT DAMN SMILE #star trek comics #oochie woochie coochie coo #star trek movies #star trek the original series #startrek #friday's child #dr mccoy #bones mccoy #leonard mccoy #leonard james akaar #st tos #leonard nimoy spock #s2 e11 #star trek tos season 2 #star trek tos #star trek 1960's #ncc 1701 a #uss enterprise #court martial

[hinata-boke]

why is his smile so radiant

#my art #one piece #luffy #nami #zoro #OKAY JUST ONE MORE OP ART (FOR NOW) #original is from nichijou chapter 177 #i thought it fit them well #zoros deranged smile always cracks me up when it appears

[cemeterything]

btw i think it's so awesome and fun when older people dye their white hair purple or pink or blue or whatever colour they fancy and 'overdress' in bright eye catching ostentatious outfits and have quirky interests and styles. you don't have to be young to have fun and be confident! you can still enjoy life when you're old! who cares what anyone else thinks, you've lived longer than they have and know better than to waste it being miserable just to fit in.

#🐉 #theres this one older guy who shops at work who dyes his beard green and wears a bunch of pokemon merch #and really eccentric outfits. hes one of my favourite people and we always smile at each other when we bump into each other. #weirdo solidarity <3

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[batbabydamian]

i saw your username in the corner of my eye and thought it said “fatbabydamian”.

THIS MADE ME BURST OUT LAUGHING 😭 i dedicated a csp file called fatbabydamian bc of you ty

#o my god tysm for informing me it made me smile the whole day #ask #he's trying to take his first steps lol #damian wayne #talia al ghul #batbabyart #unrelated but man whenever a character has the dangly snot i always think of this one kid from Wind Waker lol #babian

[iwuvcofi]

Because he's lovely

#poppy playtime #smiling critters #dogday #poppy playtime dogday #poppy playtime chapter 3 #my art #I start to think that i have not post much here because i always forget that I also have a Tumblr

[churomo]

pink link with a permanent “😐” face

#he’s such a sweet kid and is always shown smiling #but i think it’d be funny #link #marin #marink #a link to the past #links awakening #my art #legend of zelda

[beebeedibapbeediboop]

I dreamt of a character that would be obsessed with keys and who could open doors wherever he was as long as there was a wall... Thought I might draw him!

#artists on tumblr #illustration #character design #original #keys #actually i was playing a video game in that dream and that was the character I played #and he would jingle everytime he walked because of all the keys #he is actually always smiling #might have messed up that part lmaoo he looks like he is screaming

[gabrielapazlima]

catnap was feeling silly today-

sorry for the 2018 ass meme format

#smiling critters poppy playtime #smiling critters #poppy playtime #ppt #catnap #miss delight #bubba bubbaphant #craftycorn #kickinchicken #hoppy hopscotch #bobby bearhug #miss delight is like larry from gumball #she is always switching jobs

[cheruib]

why is it SO incredibly sweet when a stranger smiles at u like. i don’t know you but here’s a piece of happiness in this crazy world. im giving u this smile because it’s all i have to offer, and i want to offer you something. you’ll forget my face, probably, but you’ll remember this, at least for the rest of the day, or the afternoon, or your lunch break. hope you had a good day. Hope the rest of it is better.

#i swear. my days are always made by beautiful strangers smiling at me/me smiling at them and them smiling back etc idk. #i just think it’s such a sweet interaction

[tomatoart]

early internet joyous realness

#kris dreemurr #deltarune #kris deltarune #always on my kris w scruff grind. v important . 2 mwe #also haiiiiiiiii hope ur all well smiles :] #queue are lovely

[chandralia]

IF I SPEAK—actually I will, and laugh while I’m at it

what do you mean bkdk was ALSO given a rooftop shot that iz//chs SWORE was the epitome of romance? LMAOOOOOO with a pink gradient sky nonetheless, AND with Deku acknowledging that Bakugo’s sacrifice severely affected him???

#like now what shkfdhksshdkh #SORRY HAHAHAHAAHAAHAHAHAA #SILENTLY SCREAMING AT 4 IN THE MORNING I CAN’T STOP SMILING #I’m so excited STOPPPPPP #I FEEL LIKE A BKDK SLEEPER AGENT THAT NEVER WENT TO SLEEP #ALWAYS LOCKED TF IN AND ON THAT BKDK GRIND YET THIS HAS ME DOING FLIPS #bkdk #dkbk #bakudeku #dekubaku #:’) #ktdk #mha season 7 #AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[elbdot]

LITTLE COMIC based on how I made a friend at 1 am while crawling on the ground, picking up Maybugs to save them from getting squished by cars.

PRETTY SURE I must've looked like a strange little gremlin to any onlookers passing by. Also yes he held a bug like a CHAMP. He passed my test. We still hang out 😂

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#comics #comic #artists on tumblr #drawing #comic art #digital art #bugs #insects #mod #Also yes by now I'm known in my neighborhood as the BEE GIRL #I'm always taking pictures of wild bees during spring and summer hanging around the front gardens of my neighbors #Now they all know me and greet me with a smile but I STILL DON'T KNOW THEIR NAMES #It's really fun to own this reputation tho I LOVE IT #I made a lot of friends this year thanks to my hobby #Hope this trend continues LMAO #my art #elbdot art #elbdot

[buddieblossoms]

a lot of us theorizing that eddie was going to have a panic attack during the helicopter scene.

meanwhile eddie at some point during said scene:

#eddie diaz #evan buckley #911 on abc #911 abc #buddie #buddie 911 #911 buddie #his reaction was so sweet i will cry #keep that smile on his face ALWAYS

[necrolexic0n]

smoke break

#he means a lot to me and i mean it #he tells me to shut up when i say it #but i can always see the slight smile he fails to hide from me on his face #undertale #utmv #undertale au #sans undertale #dusttale #dusttale sans #dust!sans #dust sans

[chloesimaginationthings]

every time u draw in-game william its over fopr me...hes so sjkdjkl???

Fun fact: For my in-game William design I heavily tried to make him resemble Michael, down to very small features and quirks

#ask reply #anytime I need a ref for in game William seeing I haven’t drawn him much #I look to my Michael drawings to get certain facial expressions right #they have a ton of mini similarities #like their blue greyish eyes to the parts in their hair #down to similar crooked smiles and glares #it was always an interesting detail that Michael looks almost identical to his father #so definitely played with that when designing these two