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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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#christmasclapback For years some of my in-laws campaigned for lineage and questioned me about when we were going to start a family, despite our repeated joint explanations that we weren’t ready yet (for numerous, clearly defined reasons). So, if this is resonating with you now, and you’re dreading a similar inquisition imminently, here is the Christmas clap-back I wish I’d thought of all those years ago. “Thank you for your concern about my readiness to continue your family line, but that’s really a decision for me to make about my own uterus, and I’d appreciate you staying out of it and keeping your opinions to yourself.” Don’t be pressured, because these people may want you to pop out kids to suit their own agenda, but it doesn’t guarantee they’ll love and care for them once they’re born. Check out the horrors my long awaited children endured in Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) Your uterus, your choice, your readiness. The end. #christmas #clapback #youruterus #yourchoice #theend #familypressure #familyexpectations #expectations #startingafamily #havingbabies #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #authors #writer #writersofinstagram #writersmemoir https://www.instagram.com/p/CmjBSx3AOu8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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So Christmas is well and truly upon us, and if you’re surrounded by difficult people this may help: I’ve had unpleasant outlaws… I mean in-laws… to wrangle myself and wish I’d used this then, but hey, “Do the best you can and then when you know better, do better” ~ Maya Angelou. Anyhoo… In the heat of the moment(s), take a deep breath, mindfully slow your brainwaves (from Gamma/Beta to Alpha for those who know) and deliberately exercise patience and ‘practice the pause’. As close as you *think* you may be to someone, trust me, you don't know everything about them. You may have been around them for a while, but you haven't been through everything they've experienced in life. Everyone is unique with personalised perceptions and responses. So, focus on appreciating your relationships because they’re finite, and remember that words can destroy relationships. Sure, people may forgive, but they may not forget, so “PEACE” is the word! Here’s to your love, laughter and joy. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate and love to all. Karan 💕 #peaceistheword #peace #peaceofmind #peaceandlove #christmas #christmas2022 #joy #loveandlight #howtosurvivechristmas #mayaangelou #mayaangelouquotes #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #mindsetcoach #mindsetcoaching #lifecoaching #lifecoach #karanscottnlppractitioner #karanscottcourses https://www.instagram.com/p/Cmi5_sfD0LM/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 2 years

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The Narcissist’s Pattern: sad, hollow and tragic as it is… Phase 1: Idealisation and ‘Love Bombing’ Phase 2: Devaluing and controlling Phase 3: Discarding and fresh meat Rinse and repeat More: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #sleepnomore #ladymacbeth #narcissist #narcissisticpatterns #narcawareness #narcsurvivor #narcissism #narcissists #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #lovebombing #lovebombingphase #lovebombingisnotlove #devaluingphase #discardingphase #authorsofinstagram #authorlife #authorgram #writersofinstagram #writerlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CfqhoF9IGU6/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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People don’t realise how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place, mentally. So, if you’ve done that today, I’m proud of you! Well done, keep growing. Karan 💕 Author | https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #iamproudofyou #proud #strength #courage #darkplace #pullyourselfoutofadarkplace #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #beentheredonethat #empathy #ihavebeeninyourshoes #sameboat #beenthere #welldone #goodjob #proudofyou https://www.instagram.com/p/CoVSq7NgAIF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#iamproudofyou #proud #strength #courage #darkplace #pullyourselfoutofadarkplace #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #beentheredonethat #empathy #ihavebeeninyourshoes #sameboat #beenthere #welldone #goodjob #proudofyou

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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To the newly brokenhearted who need to hear this: This is your reminder to stop looking at them through the lens of who you want them to be, and to instead start looking at them for who they truly are and what they’ve actually done. This is how you can free yourself by letting them go. Don’t cling to a mistake just because you’ve spent a long time making it, your life is waiting. Trust me I know — I’ve been there, done that and clawed back more than I lost. Finding yourself with a person who self sabotages in relationships is a truly painful experience, but please keep in mind they’re re-enacting their past traumas, and it was never about you. Be kind to yourself and let your heart heal. Karan 💕 Author | Too Relieved To Grieve Available now | https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #brokenhearted #rosetintedglasses #mistakes #divorce #breakup #divorcecoaching #divorcecoach #breakupcoach #breakupcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #authorlife #memoir #whattoreadnext #selfhelpbook #heartbreak https://www.instagram.com/p/CoIIfxegOVT/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Seemingly, my body is not designed for pregnancy and structurally it would appear that I’m held together with Pritt Stick glue. My joints are hyper mobile which resulted in SPD (Symphysis Pubis Disfunction) - an incredibly painful condition ‘down there’ due to the weight and positioning of the baby. This meant from months 4-9 of my pregnancies I was in excruciating agony almost all of the time, including at night, so I barely slept. Then there was labour and the joys of natural childbirth, plus an optional extra of a migraine on top. Yay, go me! Thankfully, the only perk of SPD (for me at least) was hastened 7 hour births, and then all I wanted was to sleep. I had months of painful sleeplessness and exhaustion to recover from, but do you suppose Steve let me sleep? Did he hell… because *he* was tired too. He even held my hand during my daughter’s birth and told me earnestly and emotionally “I’m really going to look after you Karan” - which didn’t ever materialise - as he insisted we took it in shifts (one night on, one night off) to get up and look after the baby; he needed his sleep too you understand. It was cruel and unusual to be sure and felt tortuous at the time, as I was never allowed to fully recover or restore. After a couple of weeks, he went back to work and I was expected to start from where I’d left off, supporting him in his business, like nothing had happened. Whilst the world often stopped for man-flu, I couldn’t dare be ill, or have any time off after e.g.: miscarriages, treatment/surgery or following the death of my dad and more recently my mum. In fact, he left me for Helen three weeks after mum died, and two days after her funeral. So you see why I’m Too Relieved To Grieve now the trash took itself out? Because a catch he ain’t! Oh sure, he’s other c-words I can think of, but none of them are “catch”. Read how this how saga started, progressed and ended in my long awaited memoir Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook, available from Amazon and on Kindle now: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #memoir https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn9sCnQNxot/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #memoir

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Here is this morning’s Daily Motivational, what do you think? If you believe this kind of thing would help mentally energise you every morning, here’s some more information about how to subscribe… https://www.karanscott.com/dailymotivationalemails (link in bio) #dailymotivation #dailymotivational #karanscottsdailymotivational #karanscott #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #lifecoaching #rightstart #kutacoaching #kickupthearsecoaching #kutamentoring #morningmotivationalemail #morningemail #morningmotivation #morningmotivational #startright #startrightnow https://www.instagram.com/p/CnWWsyrDguO/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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‘Tis but a flesh wound. Admittedly, only some will get this, but my point is this: resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before. https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #tisbutafleshwound #montypython #montypythonandtheholygrail #blackknight #resilience #mindsetiseverything #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoaching #mindsetcoach #karanscottcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #author https://www.instagram.com/p/CnIOD7zAR4Q/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#tisbutafleshwound #montypython #montypythonandtheholygrail #blackknight #resilience #mindsetiseverything #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoaching #mindsetcoach #karanscottcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #author

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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This time ten years ago I was on the cusp of a life changing year, where everything would implode in a haze of pain, betrayal and cruelty. What I didn’t see then, but can see now with the passing of time, is how this was all a heavily disguised golden ticket to a better life… but only if I was prepared to grow through what I went through. Here are just 10 things I’ve learnt in the past 10 years, but #toorelievedtogrieve will tell you everything: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) Here’s to the new decade 🥂 #newyear #newdecade #newmindset #newlife #newbeginnings #goldenticket #betterlife #blessings #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscottauthor #memoir #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #truestory #reallifeevents #divorcerecovery #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #badbreakup #brokenhearted #acrimoniousband #cruelbastard #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #newauthor #indieauthor https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm6IAt-AIap/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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🥂 HAPPY NEW YEAR! Are you ready? Are you 35+? Have you been feeling as though something important is missing from your life? Have you been sensing a kind of restless questioning in your soul; a stirring need to know if there's more to your life than just this? If so, you're not alone, which is why I created The Midlife Awakening Course specifically with you in mind: an accomplished and inquisitive person, who is still somehow yearning for more breadth and depth to their human experience. If you're feeling weighed down by the constraints of your limiting beliefs, self-sabotaging behaviours, and a busy brain that just won't quit — leaving you battling the stresses of your outer world and the negative committee inside your head — then this is the course for you. Take positive action now to learn more and invest in yourself by grabbing this HALF PRICE BARGAIN, and let me help you change your entire mindset and outlook for decades to come, because nothing changes if nothing changes. I’ll be with you all the way and will see you in there. To new beginnings! Karan https://karanscott.thinkific.com/courses/the-midlife-awakening-course (link in bio) #happynewyear #happynewyou #happynewyear2023 #freshstart #newstart #thereismoretolife #themidlifeawakeningcourse #karanscottcourses #newyearnewcourse #onlinecoursesale #karanscott #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #newmindset #growthmindset #newyearnewgrowth https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm3veSqjkVf/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#happynewyear #happynewyou #happynewyear2023 #freshstart #newstart #thereismoretolife #themidlifeawakeningcourse #karanscottcourses #newyearnewcourse #onlinecoursesale #karanscott #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #newmindset #growthmindset #newyearnewgrowth

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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I couldn’t agree more, and shudder to imagine my world without those whom I’ve met from having written #toorelievedtogrieve. My love of books is epic and, I’m not ashamed to say, bordering on a little weird — but I’m okay with that. How about you? Do you love books a normal amount (whatever “normal” is, please advise), or are you a bit of a weirdo too? Inside my mind, come on in: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #carlsagan #carlsaganquotes #books #bookstagram #bookstagrammer #booksbooksbooks #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #knowledge #wisdom #generationalwisdom #selfhelp #selfhelpbooks #bibliophile #reading #readingaddict #readinglist #loveofreading https://www.instagram.com/p/CmROc_jtC_c/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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That is all 💕 #mindsetcoaching #mindfulness #mindfulnesscoaching #lifecoaching #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #karanscottguidedmeditations #mindsetcoach #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #growthmindset #innerpeace #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthrecovery https://www.instagram.com/p/CmI57e4jLm0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#mindsetcoaching #mindfulness #mindfulnesscoaching #lifecoaching #karanscottcoaching #karanscottauthor #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #karanscottguidedmeditations #mindsetcoach #mindsetmatters #mindsetiseverything #growthmindset #innerpeace #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthrecovery

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Sometimes people must be escorted from the VIP section of your life to the cheap seats… or beyond. #relegatethem #cheapseats #vipsection #dontbeafraid #makethechange #boundaries #boundarysetting #boundarymaintenance #selfrespect #selflove #handbookfortheheartbroken #toorelievedtogrieve #karanscott #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist https://www.instagram.com/p/CmHleDgjhEJ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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“You may not write well every day, but you can always edit a bad page. You can’t edit a blank page” — writer and star of Fleabag, Phoebe Waller-Bridge. And she’s right! I’m not just saying that because I’m a huge fan of Fleabag and Killing Eve, I agree because it’s true: nothing comes from nothing. It’s okay to be dissatisfied with something (your life, relationship, career, fitness, whatever), because it gives you the foundation to create something better. Another critically important thing to realise and accept is, there will be days when you are more productive than others, and that’s okay too. No one is capable of sustaining maximum output 24/7/365. Whatever you’re dealing with now, here are three simple universal truths to keep in mind: 1. One foot in front of the other, forwards is forwards 2. Your progress may feel painfully slow, but quitting won’t speed it up. Keep growing! 3. Do your best in every situation because it will put you in the best possible position in the next situation. #phoebewallerbridge #fleabag #killingeve #pwbquotes #pwb #wisdom #wisequotes #writingtips #writinglife #e#writersofinstagram #writersblock #writerslife #writer #writerscommunity #edit #karanscott #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #lifecoaching #lifecoach #mindsetcoaching #lifehacks #lifelessons #wiseadvice #adviceforwriters #adviceforcreatives https://www.instagram.com/p/CllIvciAMff/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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Something I’ve come to realise with age, experience and professional training is that in a toxic (in-law) family system, it’s usually the healthiest person who causes friction, because they create resistance within the familiar familial dynamic; leading other members of the dysfunctional herd to feel uncomfortable and triggered. So let’s reframe it, especially if this is resonating with you now. Pause for a moment and consider that the problem may not be there’s something wrong with you, but rather something is finally right with you. And that realisation is an eye-opening game changer. Karan 💕 Author | TooRelievedToGrieve.com KaranScott.com | Cognitive Behavioural Coaching #familydynamics #familymeals #familymatters #inlaws #inlawsfromhell #inlawsfamily #inlawsvisiting #reframe #familyfriction #triggered #familyproblems #familysolutions #karanscottnlpperformancecoach #karanscottcognitivebehaviouraltherapist #cbtcoaching #toorelievedtogrieve #thealternativeheartbreakhandbook #karanscottauthor #karanscottcoaching #karanscott #selfcare #mindsetshift https://www.instagram.com/p/CldrPzeNZIJ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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karanscottcoaching · 1 year

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What happened indeed. Well, in a nutshell, the man I believed I had adored for 24 years collapsed in some kind of slow motion midlife crisis and blew up his life, emotionally decimating our two young children in the process… repeatedly. He went from someone his beloved father had once been so immensely proud of, to someone no one even recognised any more. His mental, emotional and moral descent was steep and fast - but it was not uncommon. When our dust settled, our lives stabilised and the wounds had healed, I began to realise just how many other people have suffered at the hands of similar midlife crises, and decided to write a handbook about how I navigated my children through the most brutal times of our lives. Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook is essentially a roadmap to help you through your trials, pain and losses, and I have strived to help you reframe your challenges and draw strength from a newly empowered mindset. You will read about how my husband left me for my “best friend”, abandoned his children, attempted to (figuratively) hold my head under water mentally, emotionally and financially speaking, whilst taking everything they could away from me. But this book is also about how I clawed back more than I lost. Your empowerment awaits: https://amzn.to/2Y4sC0s (link in bio) #paperback #paperbacks #kindle #kindleunlimited #memoir #truestory #reallifeevents #heartbreak #divorce #breakup #breakupcoaching #karanscottauthor #karanscott #author #authorlife #authorsofinstagram #authorsofig #mindsetcoaching #midlifecrisis #mlc #bookstoread #whattoreadnext #newbook #booktoread https://www.instagram.com/p/Cla8DSsAuzu/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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