Support group for the kids who grew up being told they were wrong in every argument just to grow up and find out the parent who made them think that about themselves was/is actually just an extremely insecure narcissist.
if i can impart any one piece of wisdom to y’all, it’s to, whenever possible, assume good intentions
assume people are trying their best, want to be good and treat others well, and that when their behavior doesn’t align with those goals, it’s because of outside factors that are pushing them to their limit
it’s hard to do, it doesn’t always come naturally, but it’s worth it
as a person who has struggled with alcohol addiction since they were 13, and as someone who watched people close to me lose their lives because of various forms of addiction, it is important to me that people know how many lives matthew perry touched. asking for help has always always always been a difficult process, and yes it is a process. there's the shame in people knowing. there's the shame in asking for help at all. but someone who always radiated such cool as matthew perry openly asking for help, and talking about recovery? i don't think people who haven't been through that will ever know how brave he was for that. and i just want to say he's done a lot of good in this world. he's helped people who didn't feel that they could ask for help, the people who were often told off for when they do. i know i have been.
i read his book a bit ago, at least, i listened to it. i encourage you to do the same. idk. i'm just feeling a lot around this time, but a lot more conscious of my recovery process and how much more impact he had on it than maybe i previously realized.
thank you, matthew perry. i could never thank you enough for the joy and the peace and the love in my life now.
not to put too much weight in external validation but there really is something about knowing in an observable way that you are desirable to the people you desire that makes you start to see yourself more kindly
Obsessed with characters who portray themselves as worse than they are. Who are lying to everyone including themselves about it. People generally assume if someone's lying about themselves they're trying to look better but sometimes they're trying to look worse. They attribute agency to where they had none, add intend to accidents, try to convince everyone that this is something they did instead of something that happened to them.