#queerplatonic positivity

[pansyboybloom]

i feel like we never talk about how healing and loving and affirming and euphoric t4t friendships are. t4t love and sex is wonderful, but let's shout out the platonic and queerplatonic t4t relationships.

#t4t #trans 4 trans #trans #transgender #trans positivity #aromantic #aro #aro positivity #queerplatonic #queerplatonic positivity

[qpp-townie]

I think part of what people struggle with when hearing a term like Queerplatonic Relationship is that it doesn’t fit into one of the boxes they already have set up for how the world works and so rather than make room for it, they try to shove it where it doesn’t belong or argue that it actually shouldn’t exist.

It is a term trying to convey information. It is not a trick or delusion or oversight on my part.

If I introduce you to someone and say ‘we are in a relationship’ most people (in the US at least) will default to thinking that means a romantic relationship which involved dating and now being a monogamous couple with sex, seeking marriage. Maybe not with that much detail, but that one word CAN carry a lot of implications that some would like to avoid from the start.

So i’d rather say ‘we are in a queer platonic relationship’ because that immediately tells you more information. It is a queer relationship and it is based on more platonic feelings (which doesn’t mean it is entirely platonic, but that’s an important part of it). It also tells you that these people have talked about their relationship and agree on this label, which should just NEVER be up for debate. If someone asks your opinion on a label that’s different, but same way you don’t get to decide who is queer or tell others what their feelings are, we are calling ourselves this for a reason.

But here’s the thing, saying that we are a QPR does not tell you the whole story! Same way saying you are dating, together with, married to, etc. someone, does not give you the full context of a relationship! Someone can say they are married, but later specify it is an asexual romantic relationship. Someone can say they dating and that can mean they are exclusive or seeking other partners. There are similar things qprs “typically” exhibit (but don’t have to), like closeness, living together, and no expectations of having to woo or romance the other person. But it is a broad term meant to encapsulate many types of relationships that fall outside the norm of building a nuclear family and amatonormative (romantic love is the most important kind of love) societal standards (which is not a universal standard for human relations, if there is a word in a different language/culture that fits better then that is of course okay!)

And I hope this can be a lesson about interacting with queer people/ people different from you in general, but rather than saying ‘that sounds like this thing/ that sounds fake/ I don’t want to call it that cause I’m used to this other thing/ i’m used to these boxes and just going to put you in one based on what you said’ just say:

‘cool! I’m not familiar with that, can you explain more?’ or even just ‘okay!’

#Writing the last bit also reminded me of #People saying the African dish Fufu is ‘like mochi’ #like it comes from a good place #of trying to give quick information #but if you call it African mochi #you are just ignoring what people are saying about their own food #even specifying what you are comparing is better #fufu has a chewy light texture similar to mochi #sorry for the very specific comparison amxmsmmxm #qpp #qpr #platonic yearning #qpp yearning #qpp positivity #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic positivity

[proudace]

All I want is someone to kiss and cuddle and banter with, without them wanting me romantically or sexually, is that such a hard ask?

#apparently it is #I refuse to accept any responsibility for this despite having crippling social anxiety #the universe should just grant it to me #a qpp should just materialize #asexuality #aromantic #asexual aromantic #queerplatonic positivity #qpr stuff

[queerplatonicpositivity]

It's not too late to find the connections you're seeking. There is still time to meet someone and build a queerplatonic relationship with them. There is still time to cultivate your chosen family. Plant seeds now. An acorn does not become an oak tree overnight, but one day it will be big enough and strong enough to cradle you in its boughs.

#op #positivity #relationship positivity #queerplatonic positivity #chosen family positivity #chosen family #queerplatonic relationships

[the-colourr-wheell]

♥︎ UNiQUEERPLATONiC ♡

Uni- only experiencing attraction to one being and having confidence that that one being is the only being you’ll ever experience attraction to

Therefor, uniqueerplatonic is a term to describe only experiencing queerplatonic attraction to one being and having confidence that that one being is the only being you’ll ever experience attraction to!

We’re coining this based on our main host, but anyone can use this!

#new flag #flag coining #xeno coining #aspec coining #alterous attraction #alterous coining #queerplatonic #qp #qpp #queerplatonic positivity #unisexual #aspec #arospec #acespec #unialterous #uni- #lgbtqia #lgbtq #LGBTQA #lgbt #asexual #aromantic #anti endo mogai #aemogai #mogai #mogai orientation

[pwurrz]

*smokes a blunt* queerplatonic love is so great man….. we should talk about it more

#drugs / #aro positivity #queerplatonic positivity

[trashshouldnt]

gonna use the interconnected paperclip emoji [🖇️] to symbolize qprs now, it fucks imo

#me when its tumblr mutual 🖇️ me 🖇️ a second tumblr mutual /silly #queerplatonic #queerplatonic positivity

[aroenby]

Q(P)R code!

Credit:

#queerplatonic #quasiplatonic #qpr #qpr pride #queerplatonic pride #pride #puns #queerplatonic positivity #lgbt jokes #lgbt puns

[teleportzz]

hey guys do the allos know that they can have qprs too? like do they know that being alloromantic doesn't mean they can't choose to be in a qpr anyway? because qprs aren't "romance-lite" for aros, they're an entirely separate kind of relationship that anyone can have. you can do this with fictional characters too. you can put characters that aren't aroace or are even canonically dating in qprs with each other just because you think that would be a cool way to play with their dynamic. it's actually very cool and you totally should.

#i don't think they know this guys #we should tell them #milo talks sometimes #aromantic #arospec #aroace #alloromantic #qpr pride #qpr positivity #qpr stuff #qpr #queerplatonic #queer community #queer #alterous relationship #alterous attraction

[rocksandaces]

I love the word "partner"

Are we married? Are we dating? Are we running a small business together? Are we in the middle of an elaborate plan to kill an ancient godlike being?

You'll never know

#asexual #lgbtq #partnership #queerplatonic #qpr positivity

[artemx746]

can people start obsessing over queerplatontic ships the same way they obsess over romantic ships

#queerplatonic #aro #< not technically related but qpr and aros are after put together #Just thought that was an important notice since qpr can be done by anybody of any sexuality #And also should be normalised more for other sexualities #lgbtq #qpr positivity #qpr #Now here comes the part where I just start putting characters who are totally in queer platonic relationships #Thalia and luke #Masika and Jack #Xanu and gothi #Silena and Clarisse #Lilith and darius

[finns-gay-thoughts]

i just want to cuddle. i want our limbs to be so tangled you can’t tell where one of us ends and the other begins. i want our fingers to be interlocked. i want to feel your warmth. i want to stare into your pretty eyes and tell you things that make you blush. i want to be with you.

#finn rambles #gay #mlm thoughts #mlm sfw #t4t sfw #gay yearning #alterous #queerplatonic #qpr #boyfriend #achillean #t4t mlm #trans mlm #mlm positivity

[alterouslyinlove]

daydreaming isn’t enough i need it to happen to me in real life

#🌀 #my demolition lover <3 #alterous #mlm #queerplatonic #alterous yearning #queerplatonic relationship #achillean #gay #alterous relationship #mlm thoughts #mlm yearning #queerplatonic partner #queerplatonic yearning #yearning #daydreaming #mlm positivity #mlm textpost #gay mlm #soft mlm #gay yearning #hall of gay

[queerplatonicpositivity]

Hey! If you're still answering asks, would you mind sharing some common queerplatonic experiences? Like what it feels like and such? Alterous experiences would be cool to list too if you know anything about that too.

Hi, Anon!

Oooh, this is tricky and also fun. I'm not sure if I can speak to "common" ones, since I can only speak for myself, but I'm happy to share things I've experienced in case it resonates with anyone.

For me, having alterous attraction (which I've experienced) involves things like:

wanting to be the person's safe space, where they feel they can always be genuine and their full self

wanting to cuddle with the person and do things like rest my head on their shoulder, smell their hair, have them hold me

wanting to be an explicit priority in their life, and making them an explicit priority in mine -- for me, being chronically ill, this often feels like, "Okay, I only have 2 spoons left, but I promise you're getting at least 1 of them."

talking to them about vulnerable, abstract, and existential things, like how to rebuild trust after trauma, or what it means to feel unconditionally loved

letting my guard down around them

doing special/thoughtful things for them in a more elaborate or intense way than I tend to do thoughtful things for other people in my life

I hope this list can be helpful to you or to someone else, and I also hope other people will share their own queerplatonic/alterous experiences!

#asks #anon #queerplatonic #queerplatonic positivity #queerplatonic attraction #alterous attraction #alterous #queerplatonic relationships #qpr #qpp

[genderqueerpositivity]

(a moodboard with a queerplatonic pride flag in the center surrounded by eight pictures of glitter in shades of pink, gold, and silver.)

#queerplatonic #queerplatonic moodboard #queerplatonic positivity #op #genderqueerpositivity #q

[agrebel18]

i love you polyamorous relationships, open relationships, friends with benefits/friends that have sex with each other, queerplatonic relationships, friendships that have some weird queer element to it, relationship anarchy, staying single and i love anything that doesn't match what society considers "normal"

#relationship anarchy #relationships #queer #polyamory #open relationship #queerplatonic #qpr positivity #polyam pride #queer positivity #aggie posts #you'll get blocked if you spout bullshit on this btw